How did you react at people around you when you lose in gambling?

[nara1892]

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

Considering that I rarely go beyond using half of the amount that I can afford to lose, the outcome of the bets I place has little to no impact on how I treat people around me ^{[if your friend can't properly control his emotions, perhaps he shouldn't gamble in the first place (bad things happen when that anger turns into rage)]}.

One thing I will say is that I hope you can maintain that minimal approach my friend, I am also now struggling to consistently bet with small amounts (although sometimes I lose control:D), but it is true that the only way for us to avoid emotions and anger is just to bet with a little money like you did, regarding the person described by the OP I think it is very appropriate to say that gambling is not for him, gambling is not for people who are afraid of losing money.

[suhadi88]

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

Usually dizzy and stressed especially if you lose a lot

[Lida93]

Such reactions could be involuntary. You would know when you would react offensively because of the pain of losing big. A neighbour in my residence is a victim of this behaviour. When he losses everyone will be aware because he would keep quarrelling with his wife. We will also know when he wins because he would turn to a loving husband.

It's definitely an involuntary reaction by the father to the son, a thing of which the man would later regret on for having reacted in that rash manner to his innocent child who but only coming to greet his father as any loving child would. As parents we should learn to control our temper in the heat of a loss when we're home with family. Whether in win or losing mode our expression should be that of gentle loving parent.

[sompitonov]

Am not the type that like transferring aggression, because this does not solve the problem, it can even implicate for more, because we tend to have issues with those around us, when we feel bad and sobber about having a loss, then the next thing to do is in ranting and being uncheerful to those around us, when they are contributing nothing to the incidence that happened to us.

Moreover, this aggression can be transferred to those we vent it on, and it turns out that everyone is passing it on, resulting in a less than happy society as a whole. If we decide to redirect our aggression, it's best to do so through athletic achievements, such as running or other, preferably athletic, activities. If we don't, it will simply cause internal damage, in the form of stress we've absorbed and kept inside. Ultimately, this will affect our health, if not tomorrow, then in a few years, and we simply don't need that, so it's better to take care of yourself now and not yell at anyone at all.

[Promocodeudo]

I know that no one like losing but i don't think reacting bad to people around me is nice because they never made me lose or contributed the reason why I lost the game, irrespective of how I feel at that moment that i lost some.money to gambling,  I'd hold my self because it isn't anyones fault and I think thats what make me a good gambler, am not supposed to tranfers aggression when i lose, no one should share in my lose, gambling is a personal thing that any gamber decide to do, it won't be good if we don't take responsibility of whatever come from it whether good or bad, as we gamble we expect the good and bad, so losing shouldn't shouldn't push us into reacting bad to people around us.

[o48o]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

Well that was a bad advice.

Instead of letting him be unhappy, and perhaps let out some steam to his friend (you), which is reasonable reaction from anyone when they lose lot of money. You asked him to ignore it, and basically bury his feelings.

When your feelings are buried and ignored, you don't need a huge trigger to make you blow up and start shouting. And if losing money doesn't seem like "reasonable" enough reason to feel rage, you find some other things that piss you off, so you can justify that rage.

I am not saying it's your fault that he shouted to his son, as his feelings are totally his responsibility. I am just saying that maybe no-one shouldn't belittle other's feelings and tell them if they are worth feeling.

[Pandu Geddon]

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

It is better not to bring a bad mood after losing into our family environment. Going out to forget the loss is possible, and once we are calm, we can go home. Feeling disappointed and angry after losing is normal for gamblers. But we must be able to place ourselves in the situation we are in. What if our mood affects us at work? Would we also speak harshly to a boss who questions our work?

[macson]

I think it's wrong to be rude to others just because we lost at gambling. It's true that losing at gambling is frustrating, but that's no reason to be rude to others.

For me, if I lose at gambling, I try my best to take some time alone and watch funny videos to lift my mood. I try my best to suppress my frustration so that other people who have nothing to do with my loss don't become the target of my emotions. I just don't want my loss to control my emotions and hurt other people.

[Fortify]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

You can be sympathetic but it's hollow really. Anyone who gambles is taking a risk, some people go for low risk bets and others go for such long shots that they might as well burn the money they have such a tiny chance of getting it back. However nobody should really be complaining when they lose a bet, because they usually place it out of greed - gambling is connected with "easy money" and thinking that you are more clever than the casino offering the bet, but it turns out most people do neither. If somebody is a sore loser then they should really be told to get over it and not bet again in future, that is the only advice for people that cannot handle losing their bets, if you want to be honest about it.

[Dunamisx]

I've seen a gambler reaction over loss towards the people around him leading to serious fight, because of loss provocation, we should not gamble and be frustrated or depressed, all because we can't afford winning, transferring aggression cannot help the situation, instead it may only show more bad side of us to others, which we should try to avoid if we know our kind of temperament in situations like this.

[fredericktaylor]

I've seen a gambler reaction over loss towards the people around him leading to serious fight, because of loss provocation, we should not gamble and be frustrated or depressed, all because we can't afford winning, transferring aggression cannot help the situation, instead it may only show more bad side of us to others, which we should try to avoid if we know our kind of temperament in situations like this.

This happens sometimes, but if we gamble with the money we have the ability to lose, we can keep our mind fixed on the outcome. When we lose, our mind is relatively bad, and if someone says something, we start reacting immediately, which is absolutely not right. When our mind is stable, there are no extra anxiety in our head, there is no extra financial pressure on ourselves, then we will not get angry very quickly and will not react quickly to whatever outsiders say. Gambling is basically for entertainment, if our mentality or intention is right, then what people say is not a big deal, the main thing is to reach our destination correctly.

[POPOLUV]

Being honest to myself any time i losses in gambling i don't transfer aggression to people leaving around me because gambling is basically made of winning and losing, which every gamblers has it in mind that once placed or stake a game is either you are lucky to win it or your luck is not enough then you don't have to panic over your loss but always try to hard to see yourself in the winning list than channeling the energy that you could use to strategize again to see if can be able win next time seeing gambling is just for fun, so for me i don't see reasons to panic to people around me when i lose, i know that as our faces is defer that is how our reaction to things when it happens to us will defer, so everyone with their own point of view.

[Derekfunds]

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

Considering that I rarely go beyond using half of the amount that I can afford to lose, the outcome of the bets I place has little to no impact on how I treat people around me ^{[if your friend can't properly control his emotions, perhaps he shouldn't gamble in the first place (bad things happen when that anger turns into rage)]}.

One thing I will say is that I hope you can maintain that minimal approach my friend, I am also now struggling to consistently bet with small amounts (although sometimes I lose control:D), but it is true that the only way for us to avoid emotions and anger is just to bet with a little money like you did, regarding the person described by the OP I think it is very appropriate to say that gambling is not for him, gambling is not for people who are afraid of losing money.

We should only gamble with our discretionary and even with the discretionary we should also ensure to gamble with some cent of it and not all because if someone should lose all their discretionary in gambling, even though it is what they can afford to lose they will still feel it and it will surely make them to be hostile after losing. One thing I have observed is that no matter the amount we lose In gambling we will still be mad somehow but using a little amount will minimize our reaction.

[Davidvictorson]

Playing slots a lot isn't a yardstick to become comfortable with losses in gambling because there's a certain amount of money you lose in slots, you will start chasing losses in order to recover the money. In my opinion, I think the comfortable way to accept losses in gambling is to see gambling as a way of having and also using what you can afford to lose to gamble so that when you lose, the thought of chasing losses won't trigger in your brain.

I agree with you but then again, losses are a part of the game and one has to accept it . And if you are gambling responsibly you’ll know how to mitigate this so that at least it would be reduced. Slots are a game of luck, the odds are not in the player’s Favour that is one thing they must know.

[finaleshot2016]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

Nah, I don't waste energy and besides It's me the reason who lose the gamble, not other people. Only losers will rage to the surrounding people after losing because it only means you can't control the game, you can't control the emotions you have. If you can control your emotion and you know that it's not worth it to be rude or show bad attitude towards people who's just watching and chilling. And to be fair, you can actually do the same, watch someone play gamble and react to it, kindness is free, losing the game is normal, there's a redemption to it but the attitude you've shown, it's hard to redeem it.

[lombok]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.

However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

Nah, I don't waste energy and besides It's me the reason who lose the gamble, not other people. Only losers will rage to the surrounding people after losing because it only means you can't control the game, you can't control the emotions you have. If you can control your emotion and you know that it's not worth it to be rude or show bad attitude towards people who's just watching and chilling. And to be fair, you can actually do the same, watch someone play gamble and react to it, kindness is free, losing the game is normal, there's a redemption to it but the attitude you've shown, it's hard to redeem it.

Having a character trait of admitting defeat rather than running the surrounding people down shows a resilient character aspect, and thus we should not ruin the social bonds because of materialistic problems. You are correct by stating that, inability to manage our emotions, would serve only to aggravate the problem and leave a trail of misbehaviour that is hard to remove. Composure even on the occasion of negative results is a way of making sure that people hold us in high esteem.

[serjent05]

what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

I understand your friend's temper due to gambling losses.  I somehow feel the same, frustrated, irritated and can easily get triggered when I lost a huge amount of money in my gambling session.  Luckily, I have self-control and a bit of patient that I am able to mask the feeling and express a bit calm feeling when I am around other people.

For a gambler to be able to not get aggressive or show aggressive reactions when losing big in gambling, one must have patience and try hard to separate emotions coming from the gambling losses and how we interact with people.  This way we can avoid hurting or offending people that is around us during our gambling losing streak.

[r_victory]

Although it irritates me a lot, I don't take my frustration out on anyone. Losing is part of the game, and I've developed a certain resilience to such events. I usually bet alone at night when everyone is asleep, and I have a habit of listening to relaxing music like classical and/or jazz while I bet online. So I can say that it doesn't bother me "too much".

Your friend's reaction, while rude, is actually quite normal. It would only cease to be so if he became violent and assaulted other people because of it. Which, I consider an extreme reaction!

[Jody.Drummer]

I've seen a gambler reaction over loss towards the people around him leading to serious fight, because of loss provocation, we should not gamble and be frustrated or depressed, all because we can't afford winning, transferring aggression cannot help the situation, instead it may only show more bad side of us to others, which we should try to avoid if we know our kind of temperament in situations like this.

Yes, we must be able to accept defeat in gambling, realizing that we cannot force ourselves to win. Forcing ourselves to win will only make things more complicated and may lead to negative reactions such as blaming others or taking out our frustration and emotions on others for our defeat. That is a bad thing. You're right that venting aggression won't help improve the situation. Besides accepting it, there's nothing else we can do to fix the situation. Accepting defeat doesn't actually help improve the situation, but it's something we have to do.

[Princess Leah]

I've seen a gambler reaction over loss towards the people around him leading to serious fight, because of loss provocation, we should not gamble and be frustrated or depressed, all because we can't afford winning, transferring aggression cannot help the situation, instead it may only show more bad side of us to others, which we should try to avoid if we know our kind of temperament in situations like this.

Yes, we must be able to accept defeat in gambling, realizing that we cannot force ourselves to win. Forcing ourselves to win will only make things more complicated and may lead to negative reactions such as blaming others or taking out our frustration and emotions on others for our defeat. That is a bad thing. You're right that venting aggression won't help improve the situation. Besides accepting it, there's nothing else we can do to fix the situation. Accepting defeat doesn't actually help improve the situation, but it's something we have to do.

You're making lots of sense dear, winning is not guaranteed and lots of gamble need to realise that fact therefore they should learn to gamble with their discretionary so they don't get very emotional when they lose and start overreacting, not everyone can control their emotions but those who can't shouldn't do things that would add to their frustrations.

 Funny how some gamblers refuse to eat cause they lost, and if your try to figure out why the person is reacting in such way you'll understand that it's the failure of gambling with the discretionary funds that caused it. For instance you can't use your tuition fees to gamble then lose it all and expect to react in a normal way afterwards.