How did you react at people around you when you lose in gambling?

[Julien_Olynpic]

Humans are wired in such a way that it's difficult for them to perceive the fairness of financial losses. Quite the contrary, gamblers subconsciously perceive any random losses as unfair. As for emotional reactions, of course, one must behave within the bounds of decency. Especially when it comes to children. Children aren't to blame for the losses and problems of adults. But life is a great school, and we all learn to behave decently here.

[Tetu100]

Humans are wired in such a way that it's difficult for them to perceive the fairness of financial losses. Quite the contrary, gamblers subconsciously perceive any random losses as unfair. As for emotional reactions, of course, one must behave within the bounds of decency. Especially when it comes to children. Children aren't to blame for the losses and problems of adults. But life is a great school, and we all learn to behave decently here.

Blaming an innocent child that wasn't there when you were gambling is absolutely wrong, children are very sensitive in such a way that they easily read meaning to every treatment given to them so it important we are more careful on how we display our discomfort around them.

However, am sure every gambler are pretty aware that losing money in gambling is inevitable so if you eventually lose that day just let it slide because you weren't forced to play at first.

[Mayor of ogba]

I agree with you but then again, losses are a part of the game and one has to accept it . And if you are gambling responsibly you’ll know how to mitigate this so that at least it would be reduced. Slots are a game of luck, the odds are not in the player’s Favour that is one thing they must know.

Losses are more part of the game than winnings because losses are common in gambling. Yes, gambling responsibly or using the money you can afford to lose to gamble is the best way you can reduce losses in gambling. Slots aren't the only game of luck; gambling as a whole is a game of luck since we don't know what the outcome of a game will be.

[Sim_card]

Humans are wired in such a way that it's difficult for them to perceive the fairness of financial losses. Quite the contrary, gamblers subconsciously perceive any random losses as unfair. As for emotional reactions, of course, one must behave within the bounds of decency. Especially when it comes to children. Children aren't to blame for the losses and problems of adults. But life is a great school, and we all learn to behave decently here.

When you react negatively or in a harsh way to these children because of your losses, automatically you are blaming them for your loss which is wrong. Every gambler should learn to be responsible for his own losses and shouldn't throw out attitudes on innocent children who don't know about your fustration.

[Bitcoin.com97]

I feel it’s alway hard to control your emotions when you loses a lot of money in betting , but for me if I’m In such situations I always get cold towards people, I just want to be left alone , so I can go through my pains  and loses alone without been harsh to anyone , everyone has one way or the other how they deal with pains and how they also react to it, but It will be better we understand that gambling has more loss than win , and we should always gamble with what we can afford to lose in order not to be hard on ourselves if things didn’t work as planed .

[Fredomago]

It can be very annoying when someone looses in gambling , more especially significant amount of money, this can spoil your day and make you feel very uncomfortable and unhappy. However, it is very wrong to transfer the anger to your family instead try and compose yourself knowing too well that gambling is a game of chance and there is no sure bet.

Yeah, that is the reason why it is advised to gamble with what you can afford I know most gamblers sees it the other way round when they see people giving out this advice but it is due to this reason. Because when you loss an amount that you can't do away with, you would definitely feel bad and if you're not discipline enough you might keep chasing after your losses so this rules that says " gamble with what you can afford to Loss" shouldn't be take for granted.

You can end up being addicted when you gamble without control of your emotions, that's what happened to those gamblers who unable to managed thier time and finances, after losing an amount that they can't let go they become aggressive to chase recovering back the money,which leads them to add more money and the outcome just going to repeat itself most of the time, that's why that rules is very important to practice, only use the amount that you can afford to let go, so you can easily move forward after your sessions end, you can stop without any regret whether you win or you lose.

[CryptSafe]

You can end up being addicted when you gamble without control of your emotions, that's what happened to those gamblers who unable to managed thier time and finances, after losing an amount that they can't let go they become aggressive to chase recovering back the money,which leads them to add more money and the outcome just going to repeat itself most of the time, that's why that rules is very important to practice, only use the amount that you can afford to let go, so you can easily move forward after your sessions end, you can stop without any regret whether you win or you lose.

Actually, chasing of losses is one of the causes of addiction in gambling, and this arises as a result of a player's inability to control themselves or exercise discipline and self-restraint to work according to their budget and to know when to call it a day to gambling. Although some gamblers set all these, yet they are not emotionally mature enough to be able to have control over themselves, hence you see them chasing their losses with the mindset of recovering it, but that is far-fetched from their expectations, as they keep on losing more and more.

[Smartprofit]

Yes, I think this is a very typical story. When we experience severe stress, we take out our anger and disappointment on loved ones. This is very bad! 🙅 Losing $800 is a pretty significant financial loss. No wonder your friend was so irritated and angry...

By the way, I'm absolutely sure that in a month, or even a week, your friend will forget about losing those $800. However, he will still keep in touch with his son. And he will be very ashamed to remember that he yelled at him.

That's why I advise everyone to minimize the role of gambling in their lives. In my opinion, making money later will be much easier than repairing damaged relationships with family and friends. Family and friends are the most valuable things in life...

By the way, in such a situation, it is very helpful to go to bed immediately. Sleep relieves many regrets and negative emotions. It's not for nothing that sleep is called "the little death."  When we wake up in the morning, we are completely different people than we were when we went to bed.

[xenomorfo]

When you react negatively or in a harsh way to these children because of your losses, automatically you are blaming them for your loss which is wrong. Every gambler should learn to be responsible for his own losses and shouldn't throw out attitudes on innocent children who don't know about your fustration.

I didn't want children because I didn't want to look after them, but I think what you say is right, because in my opinion taking it out on them when something wrong happens to you, like losing a bet, in my opinion is as if you're blaming them, even if you can't do it, so I agree with you.

[Hewlet]

Especially when it comes to children. Children aren't to blame for the losses and problems of adults. But life is a great school, and we all learn to behave decently here.

The ability to know that your loss is your responsibility and that it is unwise to put the blame on someone's else's head will save you from stressing yourself and reacting negatively to a third party the moment you loose. fact is that the moment you stake a certain amount in gambling, you have at that point agreed that whatever happens to the money that you will be able and willing to take it in good fate. if after a loss you come back home to transfer aggression on your wife, children or anyone that you find around you, it is a clear suggestion that maturity is very far from you.

[Fiasem20]

When you react negatively or in a harsh way to these children because of your losses, automatically you are blaming them for your loss which is wrong. Every gambler should learn to be responsible for his own losses and shouldn't throw out attitudes on innocent children who don't know about your fustration.

I didn't want children because I didn't want to look after them, but I think what you say is right, because in my opinion taking it out on them when something wrong happens to you, like losing a bet, in my opinion is as if you're blaming them, even if you can't do it, so I agree with you.

Exactly,nobody asked you to gamble in the first place,I believe every gambler started gambling as a result of their personal decision,even if it was the reward that brought them into gambling,they wouldn’t have agreed if it wasn’t in line with their personal decision.So there is no essence yelling at your kids all because it wasn’t a lucky day for you at the casino.The best any parent could do at that state is by keeping their distance from their children till they put themselves back together.One thing to note again is the fact that transferring your anger on them wouldn’t get the problem solved.

[savetheFORUM]

I do not react when people lose money to gambling, it is not my business and they can do whatever they want. As long as it is not your spouse, your parents or your kids, you do not have to deal with the people.

It can be the closest friend you have, and still wouldn't matter because you are not losing money yourself. When your spouse or parent or kid loses money then you lose money and that's where you come in and have to say something and help them stop, if it is not them then someone else losing their own money has nothing to do with you.

[Dunamisx]

I doing behave strange with people around me all because i lose a bet, there is no need to tense ourselves to gamble, we are doing it for fun and if we cant meet up with the expectation to win a bet, we move on and continue with life, transfer of aggression to other people around us could only shoes our inability to display a gamblers kind of mentality with mature minds, which we must be well disciplined not to allow our emotion override on our actions in any way with those around us,

[LogitechMouse]

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However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.

I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

Aren't you a bit judgmental on this one? I mean it can be, but you don't know the whole story BASED ON WHAT YOU SHARED HERE. Your judging your friend that gambling affected him negatively just because he shouted at his son to go inside.

Okay for the sake of the argument, let's just assume that your friend really got affected negatively by the losses that he got in gambling. If I'm in the same situation as you shared, I will be shocked as well, but after that, I will ask him why did he do that? I will not say in front of him that gambling is affecting him negatively because that's kind of insulting, but maybe observing him and his attitudes towards other people and his family is the best thing to do when it comes to this one.

I've lost money in gambling already, and since those are the money that I can afford to lose, it doesn't affect me negatively at all. I'm not being rude to the people around me, and I do hope that all here are the same.

[|MINER|]

Yesterday I was having some time with one of my very good child hood friends so we both had fun together at one joint close to his area after much conversation he was able to disclose some of his betting slips that he lost so much money up to like $800, though he wasn't that happy but as my guy I was just trying to cool him off and to make he see reasons why he should let it slide and shouldn't be disturbed by it.
However, after we are both done I decided to walk him to his house reaching there one of his son ran to was him to welcome him as usual but I was shock the way he reacted to his son, he just shouted at him and order him to go inside. That was very rude of him so to speak but am pretty sure his actions was as a result of his lost.
I can understand how significant lost in gambling can making one to start reacting rude to people around them, what about you how did you react to people around you when you lost money in gamble?

From your story we can understand that the friend of your is an adddicted gambler he gamble that amount what he can't afford to lose and that is why he was mentally disturbed and later behaved badly towards his son even these kinds of poeple when they lose they can control their self even then most of them I saw when they lose much what the can't afford to lose they also drink much more. And most of the time when they face with their familty their behaviour was also rude.
But in my cases I try to maintain the amount I can afford to  lose , I mean the amount if I lost that which will not be able to make any impact on my financial situation and from this, even after my loss my react at people stay normal.

[Furious 7]

I do not react when people lose money to gambling, it is not my business and they can do whatever they want. As long as it is not your spouse, your parents or your kids, you do not have to deal with the people.

It can be the closest friend you have, and still wouldn't matter because you are not losing money yourself. When your spouse or parent or kid loses money then you lose money and that's where you come in and have to say something and help them stop, if it is not them then someone else losing their own money has nothing to do with you.

What is meant is our own reaction to others when we lose money gambling beyond our means. Do you react negatively or not to those around you, because I think you also gamble. So you may have experienced a bad reaction towards others when you lose at gambling. We may have experienced bad reactions such as anger when losing at gambling, but yes, that is normal.

On the other hand, if we have relatives who are heavily addicted to gambling, we have certainly faced their negative reactions because they have lost or even lost a lot of money in gambling. Negative reactions will arise when gambling is done excessively, and that is bound to happen, so we should not gamble excessively.

[Odogwu-Blockchain]

I doing behave strange with people around me all because i lose a bet, there is no need to tense ourselves to gamble, we are doing it for fun and if we cant meet up with the expectation to win a bet, we move on and continue with life, transfer of aggression to other people around us could only shoes our inability to display a gamblers kind of mentality with mature minds, which we must be well disciplined not to allow our emotion override on our actions in any way with those around us,

Some people carries different mood swings and immature attitude whenever their expectations failed in gambling, some people do not, but just overlook and sees it as mere fun and entertainment. It's all just about emotional maturity and who knows how to play this emotional game wins over every thing in life, I could say.

Everyone can't be the same, know that and know peace.

[cande86]

Blaming an innocent child that wasn't there when you were gambling is absolutely wrong, children are very sensitive in such a way that they easily read meaning to every treatment given to them so it important we are more careful on how we display our discomfort around them.

However, am sure every gambler are pretty aware that losing money in gambling is inevitable so if you eventually lose that day just let it slide because you weren't forced to play at first.

Children should simply stay out of these things that are definitely older than them, gambling is made for adults and Nuessino must allow a kid to play, even if there are countries where this thing is seen as a passable thing but it is not so, in fact it is very serious.

[Obulis]

Big losses goes without joy ordinarily but some anger becomes something very serious and requires control just like that of your friend @ op, because as his children grows up, they'll be able to detect that whenever their father losses big amount in gambling that he becomes unbearable and it might get to the extent of avoiding him.

As a beginner gambler, the reaction is almost usually the same or very much similar. Big losses will cause anger and will likely be uncontrollable depending on circumstances and the person.

As an old gambler, the reaction might only be similar but not the same, an addicted gambler would react differently from someone who is not addicted. An addicted gambler who uses any resources available to gamble will experience more pain than someone who took calculated risk although big loss but calculated. At the end the anger is commonly ignored if it a calculated loss but it becomes part of the painful reality of an addicted gambler.
However, consideration must also be made to people differences as per anger management/control. Some people get angry too easily compared to others, even when it's a calculated risk they're just so angry, but now imagine if such person is an addicted gambler?

[Bright0515]

If he can not control his temper he can not also control his stake. First of all if he can control his emotions he will know that shouting to his son can not bring back the money that he had lost. I'm sure that the money he lost is really a huge amount of money that is why he couldn't control it anymore. Such gamblers should not try any day to take excessive alcohol and get drunk because any little thing will get hem angry easy. People that can not control their emotions should not gamble with what they can not afford to risk for the sake of their mental health.