Gambling turn into slavery.

[giammangiato]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

In reality, your friend is already in a very dangerous situation, he is in a very delicate and complicated phase to resolve, where few have a way to save him.
I can only tell you that you have little you can do, other than talk to him and try to reason with him, he is at a point of no return.
Perhaps the only way is to talk to his wife and help him recover the damage he has caused, otherwise if he doesn't want to listen to reason there aren't too many ways to go.
He is in the self-destruct phase, trying to recover what he lost, this phase is so dangerous that it is not easy to go back.

[CryptSafe]

At this point the person who can help him is himself, in my opinion he just need a some motivation. Your friend isn't a bad person he has a hijacked brain. Gambing should be fun and we as player need to control it and never ever to join to the addiction, Im personally addicted to gamble. Its keep on my mind but I need to stop at some point if I look back just this year I personally already lost 1.6K is due gambling and I had enough Its been a 2 month.

Like my other post said that He is chasing the dopamine, Do gamble for fun only and if you can do that just dont do it.

You are right that he can help himself by developing the strong will to stop gambling. Taking such steps would require him making a decision that would require him to constantly be on high consciousness of his gambling addiction and make him take caution whenever he wants to play games. At first his self will to stop gambling then comes the guide on how to reduce or stop his gambling and also his disciplinary check for himself and also time being spent on gambling be reduced.

[Somto9Light]

Never give up on him is what I would say. Such people are addicted and need our help although they don't ask for it.
They might think we are trying to burden them by repeatedly trying to make them stop gambling.
But only we know that we are doing it for their own good. So the only thing is to keep trying using different ways.
May be try out different tactics, can be good or bad ways too as long as the person quits gambling.

Its not really easy to overcome addiction and giving up on him is not the best way to help them because you might still be hurting them the more. So, what to do its to endure and help them the way you can, and also you got to encourage that they should put effort to also help themselves and not only to put the whole burden on you, when they make progress, as the work load will be easier for both you and him, as small steps can really go a long way.

[Finestream]

You know, its easy to say just tell his family to send him to a rehabilitation center because that would be the best healing avenue for him. But in real life, its hard to put this into action when the gambler itself is not highly aware that he's already into heavy gambling addiction. When he's still blind to to see what his family is going through because of this worst gambling addiction.

For now, just do not leave his side. I think he mostly needs you more than his own family as he continuously ignore them. He might probably listen to you in the long run, just continue to convince him to go on a rehabilitation center not just for his own sake but for the protection of his family as well not to go through stress and depression.

[SuperBitMan]

He is already deeply addicted to gambling and that is why his behaving that way the only way out right now is to first arrest him with police so he can stay there for some time and regain his sense because he has totally lost it, I know of someone his family did same thing to him after they arrest him he stayed in police station for some weeks and then when he came out they instructed him not to go to any gambling center or gamble in his phone or they will arrest him again and keep him inside police station and they were really watching him and that was how he was able to come out from that slavery he was and now his okay.
My idea may not be the best based on your country and how they act towards human right but he needs to be rehabilitated so he can gain back his senses.

[Woodie]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

I wouldn't be surprised if there is some infidelity involved in this relationship, and your buddy resorted to gambling trying to make both relationships work and he failed..why if you ask me, gambling doesn't work for the gambler if you are under this kind of pressure and wanted to be financially clever..

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

If you the friend aren't telling him all this but complaining about his lifestyle behind his back then surely you aren't part of the solution.. tell him the uncomfortable 🥵 truth and in the future he will appreciate your honesty!

[As-Soon-As]

Your friend is addicted to gambling, that is why he is neglecting all his responsibilities towards his children and his family. So in the current position, your friend must be removed from gambling through tactics or gradually deprived of gambling. He should be allowed to gamble with small amounts of money from time to time and he should enter gambling once or twice a day, and after that he can enter gambling once a week, thus teaching him the strategy.
And at one time, you should tell him that if you cannot quit gambling, then you should gamble for fun, gambling for earning money should not be done at all, otherwise you will reach the goal of addiction again. In this way, he should be removed from gambling by adopting tactics, and his responsibility towards his family should be increased.

[Dunamisx]

This is why it is necessary for us to ensure that the first impression we have about gambling is the right one and not a wrong approach, this will make everything come easier for us in gambling because we are not going to let things Fall apart for us even as we play to have fun, many have been choosing the wrong part in gambling because they don't know what is at stake for them upon every situation they face and the decision they apply on it.

[HelliumZ]

A person addicted to gambling thinks that maybe he has lost once in a bet, he may later make a big profit and change his situation and he will become rich overnight. Such advance thinking makes him unable to get himself out of gambling. In this way, he moves away from his family day by day and the relationship between the family members starts getting worse. In the midst of family financial problems, he creates more financial problems and gradually he distances himself from taking care of the family. After a gambler becomes highly addicted, he withdraws himself from all responsibilities from the family and finally he becomes an irresponsible street lunatic who has no thoughts and sense of responsibility.

[rachael9385]

I don't think there is anything you can do because I've actually met someone like that before and I know how they think, it is impossible to change their mental state because all they think about is how they can use gambling as a way out of poverty or it has become something that they cannot do without. No one can help such people apart from themselves, they just need to decide to change their mindser.

[Finebone]

This is pathetic and it's a very terrible state to be in, because for him to get to a level where he no longer cares for what's going on in his family shows that he is in deeper shit, which is not going to ends well if he continues like this.

Complaining wouldn't change anything on his addictive harbit because he is no longer in his right senses as he should, so it would be more better that those that are closed to him should take it upon themselves to force the harbit out of him, by forcing him into isolation where he wouldn't have any access to gambling, because the more he stay away from it, the chances of the harbit leaving him.
So crying over it wouldn't changes anything, unless hard stance is taken on him to curb that harbit that is killing him slowly.

[terrific]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

He'll just realize it when it's too late. Too late to control the situation and mitigate it.
That's why let him be if he doesn't ask for help. Just help the loved ones he's not giving care with.
Soon, the time will come that karma will hit him badly and that's the kind of realization that he has to see for himself.
Because if you'll try to give him some help while he's in the sensation of addiction, he'll only get mad to you and you'll get ignored.

[Agbe]

Maybe he is thinking he can continue to gamble, that one day he might make it from gambling, but that is delusional despite that it can happen, the probability that it will happen is one in a million.

Just keep correcting him is what you can do, but make sure you correct him with bad news about gambling addicts and how gambling addicts will always argue until they are significantly affected badly.

After reading the Op story, what you said was the first thing that came to my mind. Once someone is like that, hw is hoping that one day he will hit the jackpot and pay off all the school fees and debts mean while he is now transferring all the home expenses to his wife while the small allowance he is getting from somewhere is to feed his gambling pot.

[cxtreenal]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Addiction is a serious problem for gamblers. Your friend is addicted, the important thing to do in this situation is to try to make him understand that his family members are in danger because of him. If he does not understand the matter, to correct him, his source of income should be stopped from the funds through which he gambles. He is not responsible to his family, which means that he spends the entire amount of money he has on gambling and borrows it to gamble.

I think your friend does not have a stable source of income. It would be right to take legal recourse to correct him. You should try to make him give up the habit of gambling through counselling in which case a skilled counsellor will be needed. Maybe he is addicted to gambling and taking drugs if so it will be difficult but not impossible to correct him.

[riscohen4]

Your friend is very much addicted to gambling already. But for him to actually change, it would have to be a personal decision. All you can do is to advise him. He's a man and should own up to the consequences of still gambling at that level. Or would you rather lock your friend out of his financial account and let his wife control it?

You can tell extended family to come and talk to him. His parents. Most especially the person he looks up to. There has to be someone like that in his life.

If everyone is indeed his family, he can be helped. Even after all this you do and he still chooses to gamble, wash your hands from his case. He's an adult. There's an adage that says, You can only walk an animal to the river bank, but you can't force it to drink water.

[CryptoHeadlineNews]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

But to be honest, are you actually sure gambling is actually the main reason why this your friend is acting the way he is currently acting? Because from all indications, it shows he is either totally depressed as a result maybe he has lost his job or his major source of  livelihood. Because in a normal scenario, it is okay for an individual to be upset if he placed a bet and lost it when the outcome doesn't go as planned. But not to the extent of becoming so nonchalant to the point where you no longer care about the welfare of your kids and wife who ones meant the whole world to you. So to me, if I was to be in your shoe as a good friend, what I would have done is have a one and one discussion with him to know what exactly should his problem be, rather than assuming. Moreover, irresponsible gambling can make a person feel depressed, but not stupid to the point of not having any emotions to the family.

[Russlenat]

If everyone is indeed his family, he can be helped. Even after all this you do and he still chooses to gamble, wash your hands from his case. He's an adult. There's an adage that says, You can only walk an animal to the river bank, but you can't force it to drink water.

It is hard to teach someone who is already an adult because they usually think they know what they are doing.

Actually, some gamblers who are already addicted do not even know they are addicted because they think what they are doing is just normal, and some even justify it as their passion. But we who are close to them or around them can observe the changes. Still, it depends on the person if he is willing to listen. If not, then there is only so much we can do because once he gambles, he is already expected to be mature and responsible.

If he messes up, then he has to face the consequences, and hopefully that will be the time he finally learns.

[HustleZ]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

At this point he needs proper rehabilitation programs because it isnt a problem just a friend can solve by saying something harsh or making him realise because that clearly wont work. He is at a stage that he can even do crimes just to gamble and to get a chance at winning something and get that dopamine. Well this has gone far past from just dopamine and he totally relies on gambling as a way of escaping from real life by getting a fake hope of being able to win and change the situation but it will keep getting worse . This is how casinos win and their business is based on so we need to learn from him and not ho near gambling because it has a bitter reality. It’s hell disguised as heaven.

[YOSHIE]

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Dealing with someone who has a serious addiction, like your friend, is indeed difficult and requires direct help to deal with the problem. Your friend needs to fix the root of the gambling problem.

There are several steps you can take for your friend, one of which is.
If your friend is a follower of a certain religion, you can ask the religious leader to guide him, There are several steps you can take for your friend, one of which is.
If your friend is a follower of a certain religion, you can ask the religious leader to guide him.

[SPIDERMAN008]

Such incidents are seen in thousands of families, where the main responsible person or the main earner of their family is addicted to gambling and is leading their family to ruin. Many cannot live in their own homes, they are separated from their families for years. Because creditors come to their homes and ask for money. They even come and mentally torture other family members.

Once you get into a lot of debt, it becomes very difficult to get out of it. There are many who sell their property and pay off the debt. But for those who do not have much wealth, the situation becomes even more dangerous. Sometimes those who take loans from banks for betting , legal action is taken against them and they may even have to go to prison.

Therefore, we should stand by such people from the beginning. Make them aware in advance to avoid becoming addicted to gambling and betting irresponsibly.