The economic dimension of marriage

[Die_empty]

I believe, after marriage, many responsibilities fall on the shoulders of a son.  But if our family always helps, then no problem will come and will not happen in future. I think, getting married doesn't need to have a career to live a luxurious life. Moreover, a girl from our family can take responsibility well. Yes, it is better to have a stable source of income before marriage, it makes it easier to fulfill family responsibilities. And maintenance of wife is very easily met. However, I am yet to enter into married life. But my family is already choosing girls. But I don't have any stable source of income.

I don't know where you are from but some idea in your comments attracted me.

In marriage, you shouldn't depend on extended or close family members for financial and other assistance. You and your partner should have a financial plan and sources of income to run your home. In my country, family members don't need to assist.

In some cultures, family members, especially parents, choose marital partners for their children. In my view this could cause problems. You might not be given the chance of considering if the person is your choice. They might end up choosing a partner who lacks financial intelligence.

[Queen uloma]

You are right, economy dimension is one of the things people need to consider before considering marriage. But it is not the only thing to consider though, love is also one of the fundamental foundation to consider before marriage. But in our society today, love  alone can’t pay bills,  solve every challenge that requires money or feed family. This does not mean that people are supposed to be rich before getting married, or end up with a rich partner, so it is good to know if your partner is financially discipline, willingness to contribute to the family, or have a  hard-working spirit. The both partners can start with the little money they have, only if the both  partners have the right mindset and the determination they can build something meaningful together.Conclusively, the most important thing is not how much money a person has today, but if the person has a good character, vision for the future, and financial responsibility. Marriage is a partnership, and when both partners support each other emotionally, financially and morally. The Relationship, will stand more stronger during difficulties. So. economy factors should be considered before making any plans for marriage.

[slapper]

You are right, economy dimension is one of the things people need to consider before considering marriage. But it is not the only thing to consider though, love is also one of the fundamental foundation to consider before marriage. But in our society today, love  alone can’t pay bills,  solve every challenge that requires money or feed family. This does not mean that people are supposed to be rich before getting married, or end up with a rich partner, so it is good to know if your partner is financially discipline, willingness to contribute to the family, or have a  hard-working spirit. The both partners can start with the little money they have, only if the both  partners have the right mindset and the determination they can build something meaningful together.Conclusively, the most important thing is not how much money a person has today, but if the person has a good character, vision for the future, and financial responsibility. Marriage is a partnership, and when both partners support each other emotionally, financially and morally. The Relationship, will stand more stronger during difficulties. So. economy factors should be considered before making any plans for marriage.

Yes, love is not enough to pay the bills. Money rarely stays confined to the bank account. At some point, it begins to alter the way that two individuals view each other.

Financial stress is a resent that neither can identify. One feels that they have to bear the burden more heavily. The other one feels judged for being not doing as well. And suddenly the "love" part starts bending under weight it was never designed to hold. We are supposed to love unconditionally, but conditions appeared.

Little by little can add up to a lot. But only if both have the same attitude towards sacrifice. Not the same income. The same attitude towards pain. It takes a lot of time and energy to create something from scratch. And if one person romanticizes the struggle while the other is drowning in it, that gap becomes everything.

Financial discipline can be seen prior to marriage. How someone handles a small crisis tells you more than their salary ever will. Do they panic? Do they hide it? Do they blame?

Character and vision, like you said. Yet also, honesty about fear. When couples talk about money, they are rarely discussing money itself. They ask, in a thousand subtle ways: When life is not easy, can I rely on you?

[Onyeeze]

I believe, after marriage, many responsibilities fall on the shoulders of a son.  But if our family always helps, then no problem will come and will not happen in future. I think, getting married doesn't need to have a career to live a luxurious life. Moreover, a girl from our family can take responsibility well. Yes, it is better to have a stable source of income before marriage, it makes it easier to fulfill family responsibilities. And maintenance of wife is very easily met. However, I am yet to enter into married life. But my family is already choosing girls. But I don't have any stable source of income.

I don't know where you are from but some idea in your comments attracted me.

In marriage, you shouldn't depend on extended or close family members for financial and other assistance. You and your partner should have a financial plan and sources of income to run your home. In my country, family members don't need to assist.

In some cultures, family members, especially parents, choose marital partners for their children. In my view this could cause problems. You might not be given the chance of considering if the person is your choice. They might end up choosing a partner who lacks financial intelligence.

marriage is a personal commitment a personal contract between you and the apartment and both of you are the one that we plan for your welfare, so there is no one who married and depend on the family to provide for him and the family for you to involve yourself in marriage it means that you are due to be independent that is why it is called marriage, in so many countries that I know today they don't depend on their family when there are married they're only look for source that will sustain them in life so that is why these many families does not like to assist anyone who is married

[Davidvictorson]

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

I don't think there has ever been any person whether male or female that has married for solely the purpose of love.
Even marriage is not designed solely for love.
One must have something doing because love will not sustain the family, Love is not going to pay the rent, put food on the table, and raise kids. There is always an economic dimension to it.
I firmly believe that both parties should be gainfully employed, be running a business or have a grand vision that they are pursuing that will be one of the pillars that would make their union work.

[Leahized]

In marriage, you shouldn't depend on extended or close family members for financial and other assistance. You and your partner should have a financial plan and sources of income to run your home. In my country, family members don't need to assist.

In some cultures, family members, especially parents, choose marital partners for their children. In my view this could cause problems. You might not be given the chance of considering if the person is your choice. They might end up choosing a partner who lacks financial intelligence.

Yes you say great, I agree with you, no financial help should be taken from family in married life. But my family is arranging a good job for me, from which financial crisis can be removed very easily. Haven't joined there yet though. But the decision that is taken from the family, that is left entirely up to me. Moreover, the girl who has been chosen is really good because I know her from before. But in my state try to make the child financially independent before marriage.

[Razmirraz]

Considering financial strength before marriage is not a matter of selfishness, but rather a realistic step amidst increasingly volatile economic challenges. It must be admitted that love is the foundation of a relationship, but financial wealth also plays a role as a pillar that maintains household balance, especially in the face of inflation and the ever-increasing cost of living. Choosing a partner who is financially strong does not mean that someone is materialistic, but rather as part of a very strong protection or safety belt when facing economic turmoil or unexpected crises. Although love provides a reason for two individuals to live together, the role of finance is no less important because it provides the means to build a more secure life and prosperity in the household.

So it is not surprising that in marriages there are often affairs or they end in divorce even though at first the two loved each other, the trigger for the rift in a relationship is often due to weak finances.

[DrBeer]

In our culture, it's mostly the man who takes care of the financial stuff in a household, which means that women are not obliged to work or provide for the family or even contribute in anything as it's considered to be the obligation of a man to do that. If a woman is working and wants to contribute willingly, that's well and good, but they are not supposed to do that in general. Now, I would want to say that based on this and considering the economic and financial crisis all around the world, it's truly foolish for a man to get married without being financially established, and it is also foolish for a woman to marry a man who doesn't earn enough to take care of everything.

Love is good, and I also don't deny that people can fall in love with each other, but as wise people used to say, you can't fill your tummy with love alone, and you can't manage everything only through love, because money is equally important, and a person understands this once they enter the practical life, before that, you are just living in an imaginary world that you've created in your mind on your own where you believe that two people love each other, and they endure everything when they are together even if it's about living in a hut, but that's not the case, because love fades away when problems start to pile up, and most of those problems are caused because of a lack of finances.

I don’t want to offend anyone, including myself
The cultures and traditions of different peoples have been shaped over thousands of years. Thousands of years, up until around the 20th century... And these age-old customs and traditions were based on very outdated paradigms. For example, the classic one: the man is the provider and protector of the family, while the woman’s role is to bear children and maintain the home. Hundreds of years have passed since that was relevant! The situation has changed. Nowadays, we don’t have to hunt mammoths with stone axes, give birth by the campfire, eat raw meat, or starve to death because the herd has moved to another region. I believe that family values must change as well. All people are equal and possess their own set of “unique characteristics” depending on gender, physiology, and other factors.
I am a proponent of the idea that a family is a union-a union of two independent, free people, united by feelings, shared goals and interests, and therefore also by financial interests, obligations, and agreements.

I married my wife without any capital, business, or significant financial reserves. We had feelings and a desire to build a happy family! We made it happen, having gone through both difficult times and periods of great prosperity. And I don’t blame fate for the fact that we didn’t have vast wealth at the start of our life together; we achieved everything on our own.

[Hyphen(-)]

Considering financial strength before marriage is not a matter of selfishness, but rather a realistic step amidst increasingly volatile economic challenges. It must be admitted that love is the foundation of a relationship, but financial wealth also plays a role as a pillar that maintains household balance, especially in the face of inflation and the ever-increasing cost of living. Choosing a partner who is financially strong does not mean that someone is materialistic, but rather it is part of a very strong protection or safety belt when facing economic turmoil or unexpected crises. Although love provides a reason for two individuals to live together, the role of finance is no less important because it provides the means to build a more secure life and prosperity in the household.

So it is not surprising that in marriages there are often affairs or they end in divorce. Even though at first the two loved each other, the trigger for the rift in a relationship is often due to weak finances.

In some communities and cultures, they consider the financial stability of both parties before marriage; the couples only marry for love, and most of them do regret their actions with time, especially when the husband or the wife keeps taking every responsibility without the other party having anything to contribute to the marriage. Due to inflation and the way life has changed too, the marriages do end up having serious problems, some of which lead to divorce, which is what everyone is avoiding.

With this current economic situation, we need to consider the financial status of both parties before marriage so that we can both support the family to grow as one. If we fail in the marriage, it will affect the children, and if we can't take responsibility, it is better to stay off marriage than go into marriage with someone that will become a liability to you completely. Love is important, but we need consider the reality.

[JoyMarsha]

At this time the economy of many countries are not good, one should be considered that before going into marriage because many at times in a family, love is not enough when children and bills of the family are on the rise. Both parties should have something doing that fetch them money no matter how little their earners are. Because bills that should be paid, you won't pay that with love if not money.

In other to save yourself from the shame of not catering for your family, stay out of marrying till the time you are financially ready.

[Callido]

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

People can get married in a bad economy and decide not to have children, what happens with marriage is that children are the reasons for more expenses, two grown adults are capable of fending for themselves, so I think yes economic dimension should be considered before choosing a partner, what matters is how they agree to build a future, children can wait first, until both partners are capable of withstanding economic pressure to sustain a home.

[Juicyhome]

At this time the economy of many countries are not good, one should be considered that before going into marriage because many at times in a family, love is not enough when children and bills of the family are on the rise. Both parties should have something doing that fetch them money no matter how little their earners are. Because bills that should be paid, you won't pay that with love if not money.

In other to save yourself from the shame of not catering for your family, stay out of marrying till the time you are financially ready.

I disagree with you, building family within your capacity is okay no matter the economy just ensure you're doing something that is bring money to you , no matter the amount you it to build a family, people don't live long again the earlier the better for you, at old age you will need a family to stand by you, don't follow people that tell you to build family when you're rich, you might never be rich for life , if you have a girl that's ready to build with you there's no problem, there is nothing like shame in trying.

[Versatile_choice]

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 Sometimes, we can't blame women because marriage indirectly makes a man morally and financially responsible for his family and this is what we've always been taught as responsible men.

Yes, it's the responsibility of a man to take care of the family.  in other to do that they have to work very hard to get money, There are some places where a man allows his wife to be the bread winner because they are the one taking full responsibility of the family, meanwhile the husband is at home doing nothing. This made me think that maybe the man is using some mystical power to control the wife because you barely see a woman who would cope with that kind of man even though they are going to endure maybe for sometime but they can't stay long, so as a man you need to work hard in another not to sell your right or loss the respect you have.

[passwordnow]

People can get married in a bad economy and decide not to have children, what happens with marriage is that children are the reasons for more expenses, two grown adults are capable of fending for themselves, so I think yes economic dimension should be considered before choosing a partner, what matters is how they agree to build a future, children can wait first, until both partners are capable of withstanding economic pressure to sustain a home.

And this made me think of those DINKWADs(double income, no kids with a dog). They understand their personal economy but they still got married because that's once in a life time experience for the most of us. And as they decide, they don't want to have kids because they know their capacity not for being parents but with the financial status that they have. It's a good decision for them but that doesn't mean that they'll remain dinkwads forever. At some point if their mind changes, they're still going to get a children if it comes.

[fuguebtc]

At this time the economy of many countries are not good, one should be considered that before going into marriage because many at times in a family, love is not enough when children and bills of the family are on the rise. Both parties should have something doing that fetch them money no matter how little their earners are. Because bills that should be paid, you won't pay that with love if not money.

In other to save yourself from the shame of not catering for your family, stay out of marrying till the time you are financially ready.

I disagree with you, building family within your capacity is okay no matter the economy just ensure you're doing something that is bring money to you , no matter the amount you it to build a family, people don't live long again the earlier the better for you, at old age you will need a family to stand by you, don't follow people that tell you to build family when you're rich, you might never be rich for life , if you have a girl that's ready to build with you there's no problem, there is nothing like shame in trying.

In my experience, those who advise people to only get married or have children when they are wealthy are usually people who have never been married or in a serious relationship. They are giving advice based on a one sided way of thinking rather than real experience

In my opinion, you can get married and have children when you are ready and genuinely want to have a family. Do not wait until you are actually rich because that can easily become a standard you will never be able to achieve.

[Marvelockg]

As I said before, I am not saying loving unconditionally is wrong or no longer exists. But I am saying the people are also considering the economic dimension of marriage before commitment.

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

You certainly don't want to get married to a liability that has nothing to offer you other than the fact that she is your partner. when you are marrying, you are marrying a whole person and to an extent, it even gets to the kind of family she comes from because wether you believe it or not, by getting married to her means that you have made her a part of you which means that her finances as well as her level of education is also as important as the love you have for her.

compatibility demands that you both love yourselves and that you are also compatible in other area like finances and education including your religious believe. love that isolates these things will likely not stand the test of time because after marriage, you will run the home with money and other real things that love alone doesn't bring.

[BALIK]

In other to save yourself from the shame of not catering for your family, stay out of marrying till the time you are financially ready.

Trust me, if you decide to only get married when you are ready or financially stable. You can postpone it indefinitely because even you can not know when you will be financially stable or wealthy.

Instead of thinking that you need to be financially stable before getting married, why not think the other way around: get married first and then build and improve your life together?

There are many people who have improved their financial situation and life after getting married. Because at that point, they have stronger motivation, clearer goals, and especially someone to build their life together with.

[Jasmyne]

To me, love alone is not enough for marriage. One must be financially fit enough before thinking of starting a family, because a family consist of not you alone anymore but you and one or more persons, so it isn’t a thing to rush into.
In marriage, a man no longer takes care of only himself but him, his wife and later on his children when his wife starts bearing children, making it more responsibilities for him and I think a man who is not financially fit enough can’t be able to do this.

Women this days, don’t only look out to marry just for love, they want to be able to start a family with a man who can provide and take care of them and their future children but a man who doesn’t have something tangible financially to build a family and eventually starts one, will be giving himself responsibilities he can’t handle, which turns out a problem.

[Peanutswar]

I guess they are just getting practical nowadays.  Not all the time can love make you survive with this economic state of society. There are couples who ended up their relationship because they cant find another party to become helpful to them; sometimes others become a burden and become the reason to cut ties. Other couple seeking another party that helps them to improve their life sometimes its not all about love anymore its about survival. Now, if you see your partner does not have a good path better to leave; you deserve better people in your life.

Well there are still couple become stay strong because they trusted their partner can be success in life. So its up to you now if you wanted to have a quick better life or suffer for a mean time to test your love.

[Dunamisx]

A true definition of marriage should come with essence of re responsibility, because you are about to go into an institution that you will venture into and you will not even find a time to come out of it, that is why mostly it is being advisable that marriage is a life contract, it has to be with a sense of being responsible for yourself and those that will fall under your care, this is not a game for boys, and we are also expected to be prepared for the challenges ahead because it could be more interesting and at the same time have some endurance you may pass through.