The economic dimension of marriage

[noorman0]

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Instead of thinking that you need to be financially stable before getting married, why not think the other way around: get married first and then build and improve your life together?

That's why the wise saying goes, "Get married while you're young; the older you get, the wiser you'll be, and you'll have more reasons to postpone it." But, marriage is simply a life choice. Even in times of adversity, marriage isn't recommended.
In my opinion, the demand for marriage isn't wealth or financial stability, but commitment.

[dezoel]

Just because you have money before marriage, doesn't mean that everything will go great for you after marriage, things can go south. Marry someone who you would be happy with if you had nothing, or have everything, because either case matters.

You should not have a problem with each other if you have no money, but you should also not have any problems with each other if you have a lot of money neither. Plenty of people get divorced when they run out of money and face money problems, and plenty more people divorce when they get rich too.

[SquallLeonhart]

if you decide to only get married when you are ready or financially stable. You can postpone it indefinitely because even you can not know when you will be financially stable or wealthy.

Instead of thinking that you need to be financially stable before getting married, why not think the other way around: get married first and then build and improve your life together?

There are many people who have improved their financial situation and life after getting married. Because at that point, they have stronger motivation, clearer goals, and especially someone to build their life together with.

This is the true answer. Nobody is ever financially that stable because if you have 1, you want 2, and when you have 2, you want 4, and there is no "stable" that is confirmed all around globally number, you may want more and more and eventually you will own a big conglomerate and still think you should get more stable.

Reality is, you should get married if both people love each other, there is nothing else to it, if both people madly love each other, get married, you will fix everything else together. It is not you vs him/her, it's you both versus the world. If you can see that, and be in love, then no amount of financial trouble would break you up, if you are not in love enough, then you should not be married if you are poor or wealthy doesn't matter.

[DiMarxist]

Just because you have money before marriage, doesn't mean that everything will go great for you after marriage, things can go south. Marry someone who you would be happy with if you had nothing, or have everything, because either case matters.

You should not have a problem with each other if you have no money, but you should also not have any problems with each other if you have a lot of money neither. Plenty of people get divorced when they run out of money and face money problems, and plenty more people divorce when they get rich too.

This is the reason why anyone who wants to marry  should take time and study their spouse. Because marriage is one thing that is delicate and sensitive, going into it requires a high level of maturity because, the rising and falling of anyone both man and women depends on the type of marriage one enters. When you marry a man or woman that is supportive who thinks and is future minded such people will not be too concerned about whether you have money or not. In conclusion marriage has the power to uplift you and also to bring you down.

[Berry2d]

Just because you have money before marriage, doesn't mean that everything will go great for you after marriage, things can go south. Marry someone who you would be happy with if you had nothing, or have everything, because either case matters.

You should not have a problem with each other if you have no money, but you should also not have any problems with each other if you have a lot of money neither. Plenty of people get divorced when they run out of money and face money problems, and plenty more people divorce when they get rich too.

This is the reason why anyone who wants to marry  should take time and study their spouse. Because marriage is one thing that is delicate and sensitive, going into it requires a high level of maturity because, the rising and falling of anyone both man and women depends on the type of marriage one enters. When you marry a man or woman that is supportive who thinks and is future minded such people will not be too concerned about whether you have money or not. In conclusion marriage has the power to uplift you and also to bring you down.

Most successful men and women became poor not because they lack the quality required for business management but because of bad life partners, a good life partner is the one that will be willing to stand and be with you even in difficult times.
In all union everyone has its own role to play be it the man or the woman and if any among them fails there will be a vacuum through which the load bearer may loss its strength and may end up going down to nothing which is why it is very good to have a good partner by ourside at all times.
Friendship at times do not provide lasting solutions to it because must woman pretends to be good until she says i do and the real her comes out to manifestation,  all we need is just to pray for a perfect partner.

[AgriTrack]

Based on my experience and observation, I think that economic factor should be considered before choosing a life partner and getting married

Whether we admit it or not, money truly influences and shapes almost every aspect of life. From housing, raising children  to even the smallest family decisions, everything comes back to money

So no matter how intense the love is or how passionate the marriage may be. Without money and a solid financial foundation, the relationship will face pressure and that love may gradually weaken and even fall apart.

Life is not bed of roses, friendship relationship then marriage requires money. Few decades ago people were not think about marriage like that but now due to economic conditions this is also affected, people attitude towards relationship.Mostly people prefer to economically strong before making further long term agreement about relationships. Those who are financially weak faced problems in marriage, sometimes delays or sometimes separations. You are right every aspect of life required money, love and affection are the game of few days. Life after marriage is the name of responsibilities . So  I think relationship stability depends upon the status of your wealth. More you acquire wealth more this relation will be strong. This is not materialistic approach, money is a tool that can resolve many practical problems of life.
Hardwork, luck and struggle made this path easy. While combination of trust and wealth both build healthy relationships

[Fredomago]

Just because you have money before marriage, doesn't mean that everything will go great for you after marriage, things can go south. Marry someone who you would be happy with if you had nothing, or have everything, because either case matters.

You should not have a problem with each other if you have no money, but you should also not have any problems with each other if you have a lot of money neither. Plenty of people get divorced when they run out of money and face money problems, and plenty more people divorce when they get rich too.

This is the reason why anyone who wants to marry  should take time and study their spouse. Because marriage is one thing that is delicate and sensitive, going into it requires a high level of maturity because, the rising and falling of anyone both man and women depends on the type of marriage one enters. When you marry a man or woman that is supportive who thinks and is future minded such people will not be too concerned about whether you have money or not. In conclusion marriage has the power to uplift you and also to bring you down.

Exactly, even how long your relationship before getting married, chances that real attitude will only shows after binding together, when you are also living in a same rooft that's the time where you will see what's the real attitude of your partner, either a man or a woman, if both are supportive to one another there's a chance that the future will be good but once there's a argument or different position and opinions especially with how they would like to build their future then most of the time both will fail and will hardly move on together.

[LastKiss]

I hear stories of people marrying solely because of love. People get married without considering the financial strength or capability of their partners. But these days, people are beginning to consider the financial status of their partners before marrying them. The global financial crisis has caused inflation, and the price of goods and services is getting higher every day. People are seeking means to overcome financial hardship. Except for those who are very rich, but others are seeking support from partners.
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If we have certain standards then discussing the economic situation of our partner is very important. Many people get divorced because their partner does not earn enough to meet their expectations after marriage especially lifestyle is very important nowdays. If we cannot meet our partner’s minimum economic standards, we might reconsider proposing marriage and vice versa the woman can also decide to back out of the relationship or proposal.

Money often becomes a major source of household problems after marriage so it is important to know how much our partner earns, depending on our spouse not a good thing since they also have their own life for the future. This helps in planning monthly expenses and savings since we use social media so frequently, I’m sure many people openly discuss financial expectations and transparency with their partners.

[Stormisover]

Just because you have money before marriage, doesn't mean that everything will go great for you after marriage, things can go south. Marry someone who you would be happy with if you had nothing, or have everything, because either case matters.

You should not have a problem with each other if you have no money, but you should also not have any problems with each other if you have a lot of money neither. Plenty of people get divorced when they run out of money and face money problems, and plenty more people divorce when they get rich too.

This is the reason why anyone who wants to marry  should take time and study their spouse. Because marriage is one thing that is delicate and sensitive, going into it requires a high level of maturity because, the rising and falling of anyone both man and women depends on the type of marriage one enters. When you marry a man or woman that is supportive who thinks and is future minded such people will not be too concerned about whether you have money or not. In conclusion marriage has the power to uplift you and also to bring you down.

Exactly, even how long your relationship before getting married, chances that real attitude will only shows after binding together, when you are also living in a same rooft that's the time where you will see what's the real attitude of your partner, either a man or a woman, if both are supportive to one another there's a chance that the future will be good but once there's a argument or different position and opinions especially with how they would like to build their future then most of the time both will fail and will hardly move on together.

I usually have this in mind I never knew others can see it too truth be told relationship and marriage is never the same thing there is going to be a visible changes in different kind of ways including the characters and this happens in both parties just as you have pointed out, marriage will review so many things that were hidden in the relationship but don't panic what will be will be even real couples can fight and still get back on track by choice of staying through the thick and thin, build and grow though the case is not always the same for everyone.

[BRINIRHA]

I usually have this in mind I never knew others can see it too truth be told relationship and marriage is never the same thing there is going to be a visible changes in different kind of ways including the characters and this happens in both parties just as you have pointed out, marriage will review so many things that were hidden in the relationship but don't panic what will be will be even real couples can fight and still get back on track by choice of staying through the thick and thin, build and grow though the case is not always the same for everyone.

Getting from relationship to marriage is easy but when we're already in a marriage sometimes it's not as simple as we thought.

We have to try to force understanding between us and our partner and I agree with the notion that marriage is an opening to see the whole of our strengths and weaknesses. But when we have committed to a relationship towards marriage then we must be prepared for it.
Many people are afraid of marriage just because they are not ready from some things and it cannot be forced but if they are ready then actually marriage is not as bad as imagined.

We can still talk about any problems including the economy as long as we and our partners understand each other and talk with a cool head because when making each other's ego bigger then it can make marriage scary. Understanding each other without prioritizing ego can be an alternative so that we can still make things not difficult.

[reagansimms]

Love is a strong emotional foundation in building a relationship, but sufficient financial ability is the fuel that keeps the relationship running stably in all situations. Considering the economic dimension before choosing a life partner is a very rational and important part, especially amidst the current economic challenges and inflation.
Financial stability and capability are important pillars for building a harmonious household. Another reason why the economic dimension needs to be considered is because financial problems are one of the main factors of stress in marriage, so it is necessary to commit to the same point of view from the start of a relationship to prevent future arguments.

[Die_empty]

Just because you have money before marriage, doesn't mean that everything will go great for you after marriage, things can go south. Marry someone who you would be happy with if you had nothing, or have everything, because either case matters.

You should not have a problem with each other if you have no money, but you should also not have any problems with each other if you have a lot of money neither. Plenty of people get divorced when they run out of money and face money problems, and plenty more people divorce when they get rich too.

Having money or assets is not the only proof of financial intelligence. I like my wife because she is smart and hardworking. I observed that she was a good salesperson. These are skills that could bring financial gains. So let us go beyond money or jobs to skills, character, and other qualities. You are correct that the financial aspect of marriage shouldn't be the only consideration, but from the response in this thread, it is important to consider it.

[Powerjumboo]

I hear stories of people marrying solely because of love. People get married without considering the financial strength or capability of their partners. But these days, people are beginning to consider the financial status of their partners before marrying them. The global financial crisis has caused inflation, and the price of goods and services is getting higher every day. People are seeking means to overcome financial hardship. Except for those who are very rich, but others are seeking support from partners.

Currently, people want to get spouses who can contribute to the family financially. I am not saying it is wrong to marry solely because of love, but people are also considering the financial capacity of a person before they fall in love. Truthfully, I don't know what I would have done without my wife. Her financial and moral support has been what has kept our family afloat. I loved her, but her financial discipline, handwork and creativity made me love her more.

As I said before, I am not saying loving unconditionally is wrong or no longer exists. But I am saying the people are also considering the economic dimension of marriage before commitment.

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

Not all people have the same mentality, some have married a girl from a financially poor family out of love and have become happy, while some have married a financially wealthy girl out of love and have become unhappy. However, in life and in order to live a beautiful and orderly life, money is of immense importance, but it must be remembered that happiness cannot be achieved only by having money everywhere, if there is no love, then married life can never be happy. When I got married, I never considered the financial aspects of my wife's family. I fell in love with my wife and married her. But now I can say that I am definitely leading a very beautiful married life with my wife.

[Fredomago]

I usually have this in mind I never knew others can see it too truth be told relationship and marriage is never the same thing there is going to be a visible changes in different kind of ways including the characters and this happens in both parties just as you have pointed out, marriage will review so many things that were hidden in the relationship but don't panic what will be will be even real couples can fight and still get back on track by choice of staying through the thick and thin, build and grow though the case is not always the same for everyone.

Getting from relationship to marriage is easy but when we're already in a marriage sometimes it's not as simple as we thought.

We have to try to force understanding between us and our partner and I agree with the notion that marriage is an opening to see the whole of our strengths and weaknesses. But when we have committed to a relationship towards marriage then we must be prepared for it.
Many people are afraid of marriage just because they are not ready from some things and it cannot be forced but if they are ready then actually marriage is not as bad as imagined.

We can still talk about any problems including the economy as long as we and our partners understand each other and talk with a cool head because when making each other's ego bigger then it can make marriage scary. Understanding each other without prioritizing ego can be an alternative so that we can still make things not difficult.

There's always a way if we do love our partners before we enter this next level, like you said it's no a problem discussing things like how both will desire to live their lifestyle as long as there's a common understanding then it can be done thru process, there's should be no ego or the communication between the two should be intact the way they've got it when they are still in a relation, as most of the time reality comes out when you and your partner is now living in a same roof, there are emotions and attitude that will start to comes out which is not been seen when you are living in a separate places, the adjustments is for real but as long as the marriage was produce by love, then there's nothing that can't be solve together if love and respect are the center of it.

[Synchronice]

I hear stories of people marrying solely because of love. People get married without considering the financial strength or capability of their partners. But these days, people are beginning to consider the financial status of their partners before marrying them. The global financial crisis has caused inflation, and the price of goods and services is getting higher every day. People are seeking means to overcome financial hardship. Except for those who are very rich, but others are seeking support from partners.

Currently, people want to get spouses who can contribute to the family financially. I am not saying it is wrong to marry solely because of love, but people are also considering the financial capacity of a person before they fall in love. Truthfully, I don't know what I would have done without my wife. Her financial and moral support has been what has kept our family afloat. I loved her, but her financial discipline, handwork and creativity made me love her more.

As I said before, I am not saying loving unconditionally is wrong or no longer exists. But I am saying the people are also considering the economic dimension of marriage before commitment.

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

The economic dimension should definitely be considered before choosing a partner because today we live in capitalism where money rules everything and matters the most. So, it's normal because money allows you less stressful life, more fun, more adventures, more excitement and so on. But I think that it shouldn't be the main thing and the most important part is how person is willing to make money and pursue a better life. Conor McGregor is a great example. His wife was taking care of him while he had no money and was on welfare. She supported him for years and then this man, with his willingness and hard work, completely changed the financial situation of his family and became a millionaire. So, this should be kept in mind in the first place.

[Fiasem20]

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

Ofcourse yes,the economic dimension should be considered before choosing a partner,reasons are numerous but I only be mentioning a few ones.It is usually said that love doesn’t cost a dime,this statement hasn’t been reversed longtime ago by the economic crisis and downturn.A partner shouldn’t be a financial burden regardless of the gender,both partners are meant to build each other financially.A songwriter wrote a lyrics concerning love,the lyrics says “love is sweet but when money gets involved it becomes sweeter”that phrase is 100% correct,nobody would want to marry a partner that would be a financial burden to them except they’re deeply blinded in love,but I guess that this current economy has taken away that blindness.Couples are meant to enjoy their marriage and not otherwise.

[Obari]

Op I don't know why you are making it seem like marrying for love isn't responsible and I also get your points but the major reason is peace and I typically married because I found peace in my wife and that has kept me going so far and mind you, my wife is also a seamstress and sews professionally but there are absolutely a lot of things marriage has taught me and I've come to realize that, there's absolutely no manual to marriage and life itself  but regardless, marriage shouldn't be all about love because there are cases where love wouldn't actually be enough but regardless we shouldn't make finance the subject of marriage

[uneng]

Having money or assets is not the only proof of financial intelligence. I like my wife because she is smart and hardworking. I observed that she was a good salesperson. These are skills that could bring financial gains. So let us go beyond money or jobs to skills, character, and other qualities. You are correct that the financial aspect of marriage shouldn't be the only consideration, but from the response in this thread, it is important to consider it.

Then you have some kind of connectivity to your wife. You feel attracted by the way she is. Her natural traits and characteristics are compatible with your expectations regards a woman. So, it makes your relationship works well and thrive.

I guess it's much more precious than the economical aspect, because when you have that kind of chemistry, you can make financial progress as consequence of your relationship, where each partner moves the other ahead.

On the other hand, there are people paying attention only to the economical status of potential partners, without taking into consideration their way of life and world views can be completely clashing on daily life. Although there is a comfortable financial condition involved, there won't be peace, prosperity or happiness.

[Marykeller]

Many times I have find out that, love is not enough to build a family. You know why, love can't put food on the table, simple. Our parents didn't feed and cater for us with just love, without both parents working their hands off to make sure they feed and cater for us, from birth till the time we grow older to work for what we will eat.

Watching all these, what our parents went through to train us, are we to do the mistake of not marrying someone who doesn't have something doing, considering already how bad the economy is to feed on ourselves as we are single, not to talk of, when we are two or more(having children) in the family.

[puloweh555]

We must first understand that in a marriage there are two people who complement each other. We must also understand that in living a household, money always influences almost everything from housing and food to health and even peace of mind. Furthermore, economic factors are a factor in divorce.

Therefore, considering economic issues is something that must be considered before choosing a partner. Marriage is a long term commitment that involves many aspects of life, not just feelings. Ignoring economic issues can actually harm love itself. However, that doesn't mean love is no longer there love remains the main foundation of marriage. My point is, love and economic issues must also be considered before marriage. This way, we will have a successful marriage because we have the same attitude towards money, savings, spending and long term goals.