Why Do Marriages End in Divorce?

[Abdulzuruku01]

Naturally, there is no single reason behind divorce, rather several factors may be involved. Each person may have different reasons.

We often see that the reason for divorce is said to be extramarital affairs or cheating. This is not just an incident but it destroys long-standing trust. In some cases, divorce occurs due to financial situation. However, today's girls are quite smart and clever, so they can support themselves from their earnings. Therefore, divorce has become cheaper for them now.

in my own perspective one of high rates of divorce nowadays is that many relationships are built before marriage in lies and dishonesty. especially men they do more than what they can chew, instead of them to staying real during courtship. while women are thinking maybe what they are been shown will continue even after marriag. Some men rent clothes to wear just to please their women, they will buy them expensive things even if it will cost them their last money, some borrow money from friends just to take them to expensive restaurants, and promise them things that will be difficult for them to fulfill. And they change from all those attitudes after marriage, it's from their problem use to start and bring misunderstanding and quarrel into marriage leads to divorce.

[Captor3971]

The number of divorced marriages nowadays is alarming and it got me thinking is it that people easily fall out of love or is that they aren't patient enough to work out issues. Maybe it is because they stop communicatin one of them cheated. Why are marriages failing today and what can we do to better?

In respect to the question you asked, i come to think of it that the young ladies now do relay on there men, they will like everything should be done for them without any stress and majority of them are not loving for the sake of God. On how they sees that there man is not that financial stable like that of there friends they will like to start following another man despite there still with the first person, and if you should fine out your woman is follwing another man it will lead to divorce,that's why many peopls are divorcing there wives.

[My Isturi]

The number of divorced marriages nowadays is alarming and it got me thinking is it that people easily fall out of love or is that they aren't patient enough to work out issues. Maybe it is because they stop communicatin one of them cheated. Why are marriages failing today and what can we do to better?

Communication is they key,, you talk it over and over... And try to find solutions... sometimes some marriages comes to an end...some stayed....

but remember not all divorced is negative, sometimes couple stayed friends...

Sometime couple stayed connected after divorced and bind by friendship...

Mostly divorce is caused by third party also... LDR due to work... That's why as our mentor always say's: Be faithful to your partner, if temptations is coming run away from it... pray!!!

If misunderstandings arises... Dont argue with your partner, get out from the house... Cool your heads down then go back to hear there sides... If you cant calm your mind... Pray....

That's my thought and share...

[bakasabo]

Sex is the popular reason for marriages to end and I am not speaking only about having sex with someone else besides your second half. Many years ago it was considered wrong to have sex before you get married. I think some marriages were even made only to have sex with someone. Now people have sex before getting married, that is normal today and kills established in past reason to get married. That has lead to losing idea of being married. Because of that we have divorces and relationship without official status.

[Iranus]

This is common in all the area both African and western countries, in western world the more reasons why many marriages crash is all because the president of united kingdom gives women the legal rights to own their husbands properties, with this the wife becomes more relevant in the society more than the men , their by giving the women the power over the men , while it's very common in Africa because the women are not satisfied with the treatment of the husband in one way or the other, in my opinion this is the more reasons why marriage crashes all over the world but it can actually be balanced in due time.

I dunno about the situation in Africa, but as far as I know, the UK doesn't have any law like the one you're talking about.

Women in the UK or the West don't get ownership of their husband's property, nor is there any rule that makes their role more important than the man's in a marriage. What I do know is that women have the right to keep their own property instead of having their husbands control everything.

That has been the case since the 1880s, not something that was introduced recently. So it doesn't really make sense to say this is the reason behind today's divorce rates.

[Queen uloma]

Sex is the popular reason for marriages to end and I am not speaking only about having sex with someone else besides your second half. Many years ago it was considered wrong to have sex before you get married. I think some marriages were even made only to have sex with someone. Now people have sex before getting married, that is normal today and kills established in past reason to get married. That has lead to losing idea of being married. Because of that we have divorces and relationship without official status.

I agree that sex is the major thing that affects marriage but I don’t really believe that’s why marriage is leading to divorce. Before most people see marriage as the perfect way to build intimacy and family, so then sex before marriage was very frowned upon, But in our society today things ain’t the way it use to be, many now see sex before marriage as a normal thing, so marriage isn’t the only way to intimacy.  For me i think the problem isn’t just sex itself, it’s when people start seeing marriage as a form of enjoyment or what they only had in mind was only sex that’s where the problem start from. Marriage comprises of trust, love, commitment and patience etc. if all these  things that i mentioned ain’t there, that marriage won’t last.

[Joy- maker]

The number of divorced marriages nowadays is alarming and it got me thinking is it that people easily fall out of love or is that they aren't patient enough to work out issues. Maybe it is because they stop communicatin one of them cheated. Why are marriages failing today and what can we do to better?

The rate of divorce is much higher than it used to be, nowadays people divorce over mere issues that could have been settled in a minute with simple I'm sorry, but because of this things called pride and ego partners who once loved each, who once promised each heaven on earth, who once vowed never to separate unless death did them part have now gone their separate ways.

And most of the divorces are being initiated by women, those genders want to turn this world into something else all because they lack this thing called patient, also this thing called married can't keep two adults together if there is no understanding and communication.

[Btcdeybodi]

OP, marriage is made up of two strangers who agree to become a husband and a wife therefore challenges is expected among couples who loves each other unconditionally but the problem with most marriages now is that many people are just getting married not because they want a long-term partnership. They just want to marry, have some kids and falls back to the street to live single life. A lot of people are seeing marriage as an institution where they will be caged forever with someone without having the opportunity to explore their lives. The modern women don't want to be under the leadership of a man anymore, they want to live their lives and make their own decisions without it being influenced by a man called their husbands. The modern women only wants to marry and bear children, they don't want to be wives anymore. In the future, marriage might lose it's value because a lot of people won't be interested in it anymore.

I agree that sex is the major thing that affects marriage but I don’t really believe that’s why marriage is leading to divorce.

What kind of statement is this? If sex affects a marriage and it's leads to cheating, would it not lead to a divorce? Sexual compatibility is very important that is why i prefer sex before marriage so that both partners can have sexual fantasies and know how compatible they are. What has led to many broken marriages is cheating, and what causes cheating? Isn't it lack of Sexual satisfaction from your partner?

[Mr Reporter]

Sex is the popular reason for marriages to end and I am not speaking only about having sex with someone else besides your second half. Many years ago it was considered wrong to have sex before you get married. I think some marriages were even made only to have sex with someone. Now people have sex before getting married, that is normal today and kills established in past reason to get married. That has lead to losing idea of being married. Because of that we have divorces and relationship without official status.

Now It more like the society values such things and in fact some marriages are suffering for this act of madness to me big time….back then in the past for must people and cultures or even communities support it, and that literally the main reason to marry early. Which is stated fully that No sex before marriage was the rule, so marriage at that time was know to be a gateway….now backing it with some reality checks Sex before marriage is now becoming a normal practice in some places just like you have said it now People even go as fall to live together, test compatibility, build career first and have so many rounds of sex to check mate if there are activeded…which this has cause so many problems to young coming youth….

[Rabata]

Naturally, there is no single reason behind divorce, rather several factors may be involved. Each person may have different reasons.

We often see that the reason for divorce is said to be extramarital affairs or cheating. This is not just an incident but it destroys long-standing trust. In some cases, divorce occurs due to financial situation. However, today's girls are quite smart and clever, so they can support themselves from their earnings. Therefore, divorce has become cheaper for them now.

in my own perspective one of high rates of divorce nowadays is that many relationships are built before marriage in lies and dishonesty. especially men they do more than what they can chew, instead of them to staying real during courtship. while women are thinking maybe what they are been shown will continue even after marriag. Some men rent clothes to wear just to please their women, they will buy them expensive things even if it will cost them their last money, some borrow money from friends just to take them to expensive restaurants, and promise them things that will be difficult for them to fulfill. And they change from all those attitudes after marriage, it's from their problem use to start and bring misunderstanding and quarrel into marriage leads to divorce.

In reality, people resorting to lies has increased so much that there is no room for trust. If trust is not built in a relationship, then that relationship can never survive. Nowadays, so many marriages are getting divorced in society for this reason. As both men and women are building a relationship in advance, they do not take refuge in the truth, but rather marry with lies. As a result, when their lies are revealed, the relationship between the husband and wife starts to deteriorate, which at some point turns into a divorce. If such a situation is not controlled now, then it will assume a big shape in the future, which will never bring anything good to the society. The space for emotions and feelings among people will be destroyed. There will be unrest in the society. Lies will be everywhere. If boys and girls try to be honest by speaking the truth, then trust will be built between both and a strong relationship will be created.

[Vod]

Marriage is made on promises.  One person (usually the non-provider) understands they don't have the opportunities they believed they would, or they are corrupted by outside information/people.    So they feel the marriage vow was broken (usually by the provider), and look for better.  The modern way is to check the meat markets online while your spouse is sleeping beside you. 

[WhoYouCantKill]

Sex is the popular reason for marriages to end and I am not speaking only about having sex with someone else besides your second half. Many years ago it was considered wrong to have sex before you get married. I think some marriages were even made only to have sex with someone. Now people have sex before getting married, that is normal today and kills established in past reason to get married. That has lead to losing idea of being married. Because of that we have divorces and relationship without official status.

Sex before marriage is literally the reason why partners can say they’re not sexually compatible or the other isn’t meeting or matching their sexual appetite. Because if a person has been previously indulging in premarital sex, what they are doing is sexually bonding with each other, and this isn’t just about the duration but understanding each other’s sexual needs and knowing how to satisfy them. This is something that takes much longer and if after a long time they happen to finally bond, and maybe something happened and they couldn’t get married, and went their separate ways and maybe somehow got married to someone else, you’ll figure out that the issue of sexual dissatisfaction and incompatibility will from time to time resurface and this has destroyed lots of marriages too.

[bakasabo]

Sex is the popular reason for marriages to end and I am not speaking only about having sex with someone else besides your second half. Many years ago it was considered wrong to have sex before you get married. I think some marriages were even made only to have sex with someone. Now people have sex before getting married, that is normal today and kills established in past reason to get married. That has lead to losing idea of being married. Because of that we have divorces and relationship without official status.

Now It more like the society values such things and in fact some marriages are suffering for this act of madness to me big time….back then in the past for must people and cultures or even communities support it, and that literally the main reason to marry early. Which is stated fully that No sex before marriage was the rule, so marriage at that time was know to be a gateway….now backing it with some reality checks Sex before marriage is now becoming a normal practice in some places just like you have said it now People even go as fall to live together, test compatibility, build career first and have so many rounds of sex to check mate if there are activeded…which this has cause so many problems to young coming youth….

I remember when I was a child I heard that people were saying that if two had sex, then they must get married. I was sort of a custom or people used to live with such philosophy. It was a huge shame for whole family if daughter or son had sex and did not marry partner later. First relationship, unexperienced in life youngster had to marry and that imo was also the reason why people got married so early. That might be the influence why people got divorces, because they got married under influence of custom or were pushed to do that by parents. Later they grow up and realize they are with a wrong person.

[Juicyhome]

The number of divorced marriages nowadays is alarming and it got me thinking is it that people easily fall out of love or is that they aren't patient enough to work out issues. Maybe it is because they stop communicatin one of them cheated. Why are marriages failing today and what can we do to better?

I agree divorce is on the high rate in our world today, and many young people are scared to marry, things are falling apart, not just marriage,  the Genz lacks patience in all aspects of life,  including marriage,  they can't endure their husband's misbehavior,  the way our mums endured,  these Genz see marriage as a temporary union, they rush Into marriage and withing short period they're out of love with their husbands,  that is the only excuse you will hear for them.

Inpatient and indisciplined are the root cause of high divorce today, a married man and women are still cheating like single people,  they don't fear been caught they do it openly workout shame, both parties in  many cases are not mentally and emotionally ready to stay with one man,  they are still meeting and sleeping around, marriage is scary
 

[Yeesha]

The number of divorced marriages nowadays is alarming and it got me thinking is it that people easily fall out of love or is that they aren't patient enough to work out issues. Maybe it is because they stop communicatin one of them cheated. Why are marriages failing today and what can we do to better?

They are several things that could lead to divorce such as lack of understanding or poor communication, lack of financial support, lack of trust, infidelity, and family crisis or conflict. Some couples have a tendency to escalate issues, turning small arguments or misunderstanding into big deal. Marriage requires understanding, support, and trust in order to live a happy marriage life. Some couples find it very difficult to apologise to each other which is very wrong. Saying "sorry" is not a big deal. Apologies can fix many things, and failure to apologise can ruin many things, including lives, because if you failed to apologise in a case where you have children and get divorced, it may ruin the lives of your children if care is not taken, because you don't know the kind of person that your partner will marry in the future. I know that apology cannot fix everything, but it can help to prevent some cases from becoming more serious.

[bakasabo]

While we speak about divorces, I think not many can name benefits of getting married. I think the only benefit many would name will be splitting everything to halves when couple divorce. I think here lies the truth why people divorce. They dont understand why they need to be married. They dont see any real benefits from except material benefit of divorce. Ask men what is purpose of marriage and they would pause for long before answering. Ask women and they will star talking about protection and safety (meaning they consider marriage as prove of serious intentions of second half).

[Odusko]

While we speak about divorces, I think not many can name benefits of getting married. I think the only benefit many would name will be splitting everything to halves when couple divorce. I think here lies the truth why people divorce. They dont understand why they need to be married. They dont see any real benefits from except material benefit of divorce. Ask men what is purpose of marriage and they would pause for long before answering. Ask women and they will star talking about protection and safety (meaning they consider marriage as prove of serious intentions of second half).

Marriage is not all about splitting of property when divorce happens, because not every marriage end in divorce, what I believe make divorce become a choice for couples is when they get into the marriage with partners that they are not compatible with, lack of understanding of purpose and the rush to get married by some people is the root of future potential divorce,.
Only those that sees marriage as either contract or business will treat divorce as something they need to prepare for, but for those who marry for companionship and child bearing, divorce will be the last thing they will prepare or think about.

[Popkon6]

While we speak about divorces, I think not many can name benefits of getting married. I think the only benefit many would name will be splitting everything to halves when couple divorce. I think here lies the truth why people divorce. They dont understand why they need to be married. They dont see any real benefits from except material benefit of divorce. Ask men what is purpose of marriage and they would pause for long before answering. Ask women and they will star talking about protection and safety (meaning they consider marriage as prove of serious intentions of second half).

If women are mentioned about divorce, then they undoubtedly become desperate for divorce if a small interest is hurt. Because women do not understand the meaning of relationship, a man can do any kind of hard work to properly organize his family. But in that case, a woman is different because the purpose of a woman was for the safety of her life partner, she has taken shelter, but a kind-hearted man works even in storms and natural disasters to earn money so that his wife can live happily. But a wife does not give her husband the respect she deserves, as a result, conflict arises between each other.
As a result, at some point it starts moving towards divorce, and extramarital affairs are becoming a big responsibility in the current situation. Divorce has been seen in different places due to this extramarital affairs, to achieve the interests of women, they can cheat any man and take shelter under the shadow of others.

[Swordsoffreedom]

While we speak about divorces, I think not many can name benefits of getting married. I think the only benefit many would name will be splitting everything to halves when couple divorce. I think here lies the truth why people divorce. They dont understand why they need to be married. They dont see any real benefits from except material benefit of divorce. Ask men what is purpose of marriage and they would pause for long before answering. Ask women and they will star talking about protection and safety (meaning they consider marriage as prove of serious intentions of second half).

Marriage is not all about splitting of property when divorce happens, because not every marriage end in divorce, what I believe make divorce become a choice for couples is when they get into the marriage with partners that they are not compatible with, lack of understanding of purpose and the rush to get married by some people is the root of future potential divorce,.
Only those that sees marriage as either contract or business will treat divorce as something they need to prepare for, but for those who marry for companionship and child bearing, divorce will be the last thing they will prepare or think about.

Actually, not all families are affluent ones or with abundant asset to divide after a divorce.

There are plenty of couples who are still renting, have almost nothing in their bank accounts, or are even buried in debt. So is it really fair to say that most divorces happen because of splitting assets, or that women are just greedy for money?

There are allegedly dozens of reasons for marriages to break-up, affairs, loss of love, lifestyle differences, domestic violence and pressure of money going through the roof.  Looking at the division of assets and then claiming that's main reason people get divorced is pretty one sided.

[bakasabo]

While we speak about divorces, I think not many can name benefits of getting married. I think the only benefit many would name will be splitting everything to halves when couple divorce. I think here lies the truth why people divorce. They dont understand why they need to be married. They dont see any real benefits from except material benefit of divorce. Ask men what is purpose of marriage and they would pause for long before answering. Ask women and they will star talking about protection and safety (meaning they consider marriage as prove of serious intentions of second half).

Marriage is not all about splitting of property when divorce happens, because not every marriage end in divorce, what I believe make divorce become a choice for couples is when they get into the marriage with partners that they are not compatible with, lack of understanding of purpose and the rush to get married by some people is the root of future potential divorce,.
Only those that sees marriage as either contract or business will treat divorce as something they need to prepare for, but for those who marry for companionship and child bearing, divorce will be the last thing they will prepare or think about.

Actually, not all families are affluent ones or with abundant asset to divide after a divorce.

There are plenty of couples who are still renting, have almost nothing in their bank accounts, or are even buried in debt. So is it really fair to say that most divorces happen because of splitting assets, or that women are just greedy for money?

There are allegedly dozens of reasons for marriages to break-up, affairs, loss of love, lifestyle differences, domestic violence and pressure of money going through the roof.  Looking at the division of assets and then claiming that's main reason people get divorced is pretty one sided.

Then to make things clear and find an answer why marriages end in divorce, those who are married should answer why they got married. I think we will find pretty much same and all the same shocking answers. Most common answer why people get married will be love, but why people think that love will become stronger after marriage? Or why marriage is a proof of love? I very common phrase: "if you love me, then you will marry me" or "Why dont you want to get married, you dont love me?". As marriage = love, no marriage = no love.