Why Do Marriages End in Divorce?

[Tungbulu]

That excuse of because one of them stopped communicating and to warrant the other to go and cheat is just pure nonsense. I believe the core belonging and values of marriage has been lost that people just do as they like. But it is beyond yourselves. Coming together to form a family is something huge and that is fact. But people do like it is just not worth the effort and sacrifice that they do as they like. The core values of marriages has been lost, that's why you see many divorce today.

Right, but the way some people live their lives is so annoying as some of them don’t really care about building their marriage in a way that it will benefit the both parties. They act in ways that disrespect their spouses, as some people get married because of the financial benefits that come from it and when they get what they want, they start acting in ways that go against the principles of marriage. That is why they don't make sacrifices or put in any effort to rebuild their marriage. Instead, they will support divorcing their spouse.

[jahead]

The best example of why married couples get divorced can currently be seen in Germany.
A famous German YouTube star named JP Performance beat his wife for years, and a video of it was recently leaked to the media. Statistically, domestic violence against women is a very common reason why divorces happen.
You have to imagine, this guy is a multi-millionaire with massive social media success and had everything, stilll an asshole. Violence against women is a huge problem worldwide, and everyone should do their part to prevent it, just as a side note.... 

[programmer3666]

The number of divorced marriages nowadays is alarming and it got me thinking is it that people easily fall out of love or is that they aren't patient enough to work out issues. Maybe it is because they stop communicatin one of them cheated. Why are marriages failing today and what can we do to better?

Lots of marriages fails these days because the law has made it easy to just wake up one morning and you can decide to cancel or leave a marriage, it is not long like the old good days where marriage was considerd a sacred institution and it was seen as a shameful thing to leave a marraige and there is always a forum for couples to sit down and iron out their difference in order to maintain and preserve the marriage. But now the whole thing is being treated like a mere contract that can be pulled out of without any penalty. like couples can now just walk to a court, sign some papers and claim to be happily married and few months later they have a huge diagreement and boom the walk back to the court and file for divorce.

[DYOR+BTC]

That excuse of because one of them stopped communicating and to warrant the other to go and cheat is just pure nonsense. I believe the core belonging and values of marriage has been lost that people just do as they like. But it is beyond yourselves. Coming together to form a family is something huge and that is fact. But people do like it is just not worth the effort and sacrifice that they do as they like. The core values of marriages has been lost, that's why you see many divorce today.

Right, but the way some people live their lives is so annoying as some of them don’t really care about building their marriage in a way that it will benefit the both parties. They act in ways that disrespect their spouses, as some people get married because of the financial benefits that come from it and when they get what they want, they start acting in ways that go against the principles of marriage. That is why they don't make sacrifices or put in any effort to rebuild their marriage. Instead, they will support divorcing their spouse.

Of a truth marriage building is a very important thing needed to have a good and peaceful marriage but many fails to do it maybe because of lack of knowledge or other related factors but I will say that is a very good step required to have a lasting marriage. 
Many puts there blames on so many different reasons and fails to understand that the first and best way of handling marital issues is through gently and gradual building of the union. 
Although at times one among both parties maybe willingly to build but the other may not accept the idea without knowing it is a very good strategy for a lasting marriage.

[bakasabo]

Lots of marriages fails these days because the law has made it easy to just wake up one morning and you can decide to cancel or leave a marriage, it is not long like the old good days where marriage was considerd a sacred institution and it was seen as a shameful thing to leave a marraige and there is always a forum for couples to sit down and iron out their difference in order to maintain and preserve the marriage. But now the whole thing is being treated like a mere contract that can be pulled out of without any penalty. like couples can now just walk to a court, sign some papers and claim to be happily married and few months later they have a huge diagreement and boom the walk back to the court and file for divorce.

Then "signing some papers" should become expensive and whoever was the initiator of the divorce should compensate second half all the expenses. Then people would think twice before making everything official. From those "papers" clause about sharing everything into half should be removed, then people would stop marrying for selfish and financial purposes.

[BALIK]

The best example of why married couples get divorced can currently be seen in Germany.
A famous German YouTube star named JP Performance beat his wife for years, and a video of it was recently leaked to the media. Statistically, domestic violence against women is a very common reason why divorces happen.
You have to imagine, this guy is a multi-millionaire with massive social media success and had everything, stilll an asshole. Violence against women is a huge problem worldwide, and everyone should do their part to prevent it, just as a side note.... 

There may be many reasons which can bring divorce and it may not have to be the man or the woman who is responsible.

Most big reason include cheating, falling out of love, financial pressure and domestic violence, which is also a major one, with women making up most of the victims.

The case of domestic violence between Tina and Ike Turner was the one most well known in history and was used for the film 'what's love got to do with it'.
Tina's 16 year abuse related story has become an international symbol for women surmounting domestic violence. I guess those who keep blaming women for divorce and claiming they're the main reason probably don't even know about this movie.

https://www.amazon.com/I-Tina-My-Life-Story/dp/0061958808
https://reelgood.com/us/movie/whats-love-got-to-do-with-it-1993

[Female King]

Marriage doesn’t last these days because of so many reasons, it may be lack of patience, cheating, poor communication, lack of respect and misunderstanding. Many couples give up so quick In one another, instead of coming together in love to solve their problems.
 
 I always think that with effective communication, patience, love, and honesty,  it can reduce the rate of divorce in our society. Couples need to understand themselves and they also need to understand that marriage isn’t easy so they need to bring out their minds to work together when  there’s challenges.

I'm convinced most of the cause of divorce today will always be the fault of the women, most marriages is just working now because the man still have money to provide everything the family needs, it's money that is keeping most marriages today, it's just few women that are willing to be with a man at his worst time, they are always patience understanding that marriage is for better and for bad.
 
Cheating is also a major reason while some marriages didn't last till date, it only few men that can stay with a woman that has cheated on him before and those men are seen as weakly because a cheating woman will always be a cheating woman.

[WhoYouCantKill]

Then "signing some papers" should become expensive and whoever was the initiator of the divorce should compensate second half all the expenses. Then people would think twice before making everything official. From those "papers" clause about sharing everything into half should be removed, then people would stop marrying for selfish and financial purposes.

I believe in some part of the world that law is already revisited because it has already become some sort of a lucrative business for a lot of people, especially the young women, they consent to marry a wealthy man even when they know very well that they don’t have even the slightest intentions of living with them, but solely for them to file for a divorce after a few years and get half of their wealth. Like this just doesn’t make any sense at all, and it has made a lot of people, especially wealthy people fear marriage as they no longer the intentions of their partners.

[jahead]

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There may be many reasons which can bring divorce and it may not have to be the man or the woman who is responsible.

Ähm, yeah, of course only one person can be to blame and take full responsibility for a breakup. 
I could give you several examples from my own life. And surprisingly, in 80% of those cases, it was the man who messed up.

[...]
The case of domestic violence between Tina and Ike Turner was the one most well known in history and was used for the film 'what's love got to do with it'.
Tina's 16 year abuse related story has become an international symbol for women surmounting domestic violence. I guess those who keep blaming women for divorce and claiming they're the main reason probably don't even know about this movie.
[...]

I have to admit, I dont know the Turner story, and Im not really into her as an artist in any kind, but it still sounds interesting.
I will read up on it. Thanks mate! 

[Jasmyne]

Why are marriages failing today and what can we do to better?

There are so many reasons marriage are failing including the reasons you mentioned and it just has to do with the individuals involved, some can actually work it out, if it is something workable to avoid divorce, while some just fall out of love and refuse to come to an agreement. The major thing that holds a union together is trust and understanding and without that a union will surely fall apart.

[Swordsoffreedom]

I'm convinced most of the cause of divorce today will always be the fault of the women,

It would be biased to blame women for most divorces without any specific data or evidence to back it up.

most marriages is just working now because the man still have money to provide everything the family needs, it's money that is keeping most marriages today, it's just few women that are willing to be with a man at his worst time, they are always patience understanding that marriage is for better and for bad.
 

Based on my own experience, I agree that money plays an important role in marriage. But don't overstate the importance of money or the man's role.

How is a husband supposed to focus on making money without a woman taking care of the kids, cooking, and handling things at home so he can focus on work? So saying money is the main thing keeping a marriage together, or that only a few women are willing to stay with a man when things get tough is pretty wrong.

Cheating is also a major reason while some marriages didn't last till date, it only few men that can stay with a woman that has cheated on him before and those men are seen as weakly because a cheating woman will always be a cheating woman.

Do you want to know the cheating rates among men and women?
https://www.southdenvertherapy.com/blog/infidelity-statistics-2026

[Bitcoin-Forever]

When both partners could not afford to disagree and agree, the finally resulted in separation and this is why diverse is on an increasing Verge over the relationships you see today, many are not talking about how compatible the partners are and what each one of them is doing to ensure that they are in support of how the Union could work, it takes sacrifice, hard works and perseverance to ensure that both are all in the same reasonings, with sense of responsibility to live together.

[hafiztalha]

During the days of our fathers and grand fathers marriages lasted because women were ready to build with their husband, ready to obey and submit to the man who is their husband, this days what we see is the Internet marriage, some women now feels like they have to be in charge of the marriage for it to work they no longer see the men as the head of the family because of the things they watch on the Internet which is misleading them.

Infidelity in the marriage is also a major concern cause both men and women are involved in this and the moment one of them finds out that the partner is cheating things will no longer work.

The only solution I will suggest is for people not to marry just because of love. If you love the person but you are not cool with his or her character don't marry and If you must marry be ready to tolerate your partner cause different issues will come out and if you want to enjoy a good marriage just accept the fact that you are the weak person that's when it cdn work.

I disagree with the reason for not getting divorce in the past, that you have mentioned that women were submissive and obedient. I think most of the couples stay in marriages just because, at that time divorce was socially not acceptable, and women were not left with any other option they had very few options to leave. Internet has changed expectations of the people, but wanting to have a voice in marriage and getting respect from the partner does not mean that a woman just want to control the family.

It is true that infidelity is one of the biggest problems, but the solution should not be about accepting who is the weak person. For a marriage to be successful it require both the partners to be honest with each other,  compromise, communicate and also respect each other. Love is important part of relationship, but it is not enough,  good character,  trust, compatibility and mutual understanding also matters a lot.

[Tmoonz]

When both partners could not afford to disagree and agree, the finally resulted in separation and this is why diverse is on an increasing Verge over the relationships you see today, many are not talking about how compatible the partners are and what each one of them is doing to ensure that they are in support of how the Union could work, it takes sacrifice, hard works and perseverance to ensure that both are all in the same reasonings, with sense of responsibility to live together.

The truth is that I doubt if there are couples that doesn't have misunderstanding at some point in their marriage, I believe that even real couples do quarrels and have arguments, but when they decide that all of that are not going to break them apart trust me they will always have a way of coming together as one over and over again. Most people have so much expectations and the reason why they are getting married, forgetting the primary purpose of marriage which is for companionship, and when those expectations are not meant they are quick to end the marriage without a second thought.

[Charcol]

Naturally, there is no single reason behind divorce, rather several factors may be involved. Each person may have different reasons.

We often see that the reason for divorce is said to be extramarital affairs or cheating. This is not just an incident but it destroys long-standing trust. In some cases, divorce occurs due to financial situation. However, today's girls are quite smart and clever, so they can support themselves from their earnings. Therefore, divorce has become cheaper for them now.

[BTC FutureKing]

During the days of our fathers and grand fathers marriages lasted because women were ready to build with their husband, ready to obey and submit to the man who is their husband, this days what we see is the Internet marriage, some women now feels like they have to be in charge of the marriage for it to work they no longer see the men as the head of the family because of the things they watch on the Internet which is misleading them.

Infidelity in the marriage is also a major concern cause both men and women are involved in this and the moment one of them finds out that the partner is cheating things will no longer work.

The only solution I will suggest is for people not to marry just because of love. If you love the person but you are not cool with his or her character don't marry and If you must marry be ready to tolerate your partner cause different issues will come out and if you want to enjoy a good marriage just accept the fact that you are the weak person that's when it cdn work.

It is true that infidelity is one of the biggest problems, but the solution should not be about accepting who is the weak person. For a marriage to be successful it require both the partners to be honest with each other,  compromise, communicate and also respect each other. Love is important part of relationship, but it is not enough,  good character,  trust, compatibility and mutual understanding also matters a lot.

It is not possible for two people to live together with love alone. Many things have to be maintained make a marriage peaceful and happy. To make a marriage successful, efforts are required from both the boy and the girl. Some things have to be ignored, which can have a bad effect on your relationship, and some things require each other's attention. During this, financial stability is also very important, which keeps married life away from financial difficulties. The rest of the things you mentioned are also worth considering. They also have a deep impact on the lives of both of them. Trust in each other is also very important so that your relationship does not suffer any damage due to the accusations or misunderstandings of the other.

[BTC princess]

This is common in all the area both African and western countries, in western world the more reasons why many marriages crash is all because the president of united kingdom gives women the legal rights to own their husbands properties, with this the wife becomes more relevant in the society more than the men , their by giving the women the power over the men , while it's very common in Africa because the women are not satisfied with the treatment of the husband in one way or the other, in my opinion this is the more reasons why marriage crashes all over the world but it can actually be balanced in due time.

[Odusko]

This is common in all the area both African and western countries, in western world the more reasons why many marriages crash is all because the president of united kingdom gives women the legal rights to own their husbands properties, with this the wife becomes more relevant in the society more than the men , their by giving the women the power over the men , while it's very common in Africa because the women are not satisfied with the treatment of the husband in one way or the other, in my opinion this is the more reasons why marriage crashes all over the world but it can actually be balanced in due time.

Legalities of property ownership in marriage depend on the legal ground that comes with the marriage, because it not only the husband that owns the properties, some of which are core own and properties bought during the marriage, this is not extended to the personal accusations of the man before marriage and even those that documented in his name. Woman may be seen to be favored by the society but not entirely too supported above the man everyone have their own rights.

[Johnlomape]

This is common in all the area both African and western countries, in western world the more reasons why many marriages crash is all because the president of united kingdom gives women the legal rights to own their husbands properties, with this the wife becomes more relevant in the society more than the men , their by giving the women the power over the men , while it's very common in Africa because the women are not satisfied with the treatment of the husband in one way or the other, in my opinion this is the more reasons why marriage crashes all over the world but it can actually be balanced in due time.

Many countries are giving women the leverage to own their husbands properties and this has been one of the ways why so many women are entering marriages as business and not to give birth and build their family.
We have been seeing failed marriages these days due to marriages that are involving themselves in court marriages instead of paying their wives dairy and doing the traditional marriage while forgetting about white or court marriages. So many women would want to do court marriage because they want to secure their husband properties if anything happens in the marriage.

[Zaka1221]

Marriage is redefined these days. Before, marriage used to be an institution where both parties grew together, but these days, marriage is a combination of an already made man getting married to a woman who is looking for a financial breakthrough from the man. Women marry for wealth, not for love anymore. If you see a woman who marries for love, it is very rare. Women force themselves to look beautiful enough to bag a rich man. An ugly woman can barely bag a rich man because of her beauty. The beautiful ladies feel they are the goddesses of the earth.

That is how a man who is wealthy wont take any woman serious in his life because he has the money to chase after the women he want in this life. This is how men and women think in this generation, how will marriage be safe in their hands?

I think it is not okay to present the behaviour that physical attraction can influence relationships. Divorces cannot simply be explained by saying that women mostly get married for money or that they go for the man who have a lot of money. People of both genders can get married for the wrong reasons including physical attraction,  social pressure to get married, status, financial security. The basic need for getting married and values are trust, communication, respect and also the mutual respect and willingness of both partners to grow together and stick by each other through thick and thin. Money cannot create emotional compatibility or loyalty, it can just make life easier. Having beautiful face can attract someone at the start of a relationship, but it can never guarantee a long lasting relationship.