Don't let Your Kids Deprived from anything

[Fragrance1122]

While I was a teacher in a private school back in 2021 , I noticed that among the defaulter students there were two brothers and by face and personality both of them were princess but in the eyes it felt like they are broken. Always calling the students who didn't submit there fee, they were there even after 6 months. I met there father in secret and asked him , your kids lack even the basic necessities, there uniform do not meet the requirements , there teeth Had not been brushed since years and I don't think you have a shoe polish at your home. He told me that he has seven kids and his earning was less than 100 dollars. And once his daughter waited for just a piece of pencil until evening because there wasn't even a cent in home that she could buy it.

I was very disappointed and angry at the same time. I told him that first tell me why you got married when you haven't enough even for your own survival and getting married was also fine. Your wife could have managed some how but why did you produce kids and 7 kids. What a shame. He said it is fate. I said wow and I came back. But the thing that I assume because of their financial crises were.
They didn't have enough to eat and could not fulfill even their basic necessities.
They became weak , Lean , ethically and morally. There attitude was totally different than the other boys.
They use to think too much and the deprivation in there eyes was very clear.
The mother wouldn't be happy with so many kids but I think the father compelled her to do so.

Have you ever seen such kind of situations that are heart wrenching..

[Karl_3000]

I was very disappointed and angry at the same time. I told him that first tell me why you got married when you haven't enough even for your own survival and getting married was also fine. Your wife could have managed some how but why did you produce kids and 7 kids. What a shame.

You can rudely blame them but you did not contribute anything than blaming nhe parents. What has your blaming solved? Your blaming solved the problems the children are having? Do not forget you are just a teacher and learn how to talk.

Have you ever seen such kind of situations that are heart wrenching..

There are some countries that parental care is very low.

[Fragrance1122]

I was very disappointed and angry at the same time. I told him that first tell me why you got married when you haven't enough even for your own survival and getting married was also fine. Your wife could have managed some how but why did you produce kids and 7 kids. What a shame.

You can rudely blame them but you did not contribute anything than blaming nhe parents. What has your blaming solved? Your blaming solved the problems the children are having? Do not forget you are just a teacher and learn how to talk.

Have you ever seen such kind of situations that are heart wrenching..

There are some countries that parental care is very low.

Yes Sir! Thank you for your suggestion but it was just a message and the way you post a statement and a verbal scenario does make a difference. Many people on this forum are still unmarried and are planning to get married but they should keep these things in mind. Parental education and family planning is necessary , I agree with that but some literate and well qualified People has also half a dozen children. And the blaming hasn't solved his life but I give example of this scenario everywhere , that anticipation is very necessary before getting married and producing offsprings.

[Bd officer]

These are very common in our country. One of my cousins ​​had 8 children and 6 are alive. My cousin's husband works as a daily wage labourer due to which he has to struggle to run his family, sometimes they go without food. But unfortunately, he is not able to admit any of his children to school. I feel very sad to see this and ask them why they gave birth to so many children? I sometimes help them by giving them some money. I feel very sad to see these, if I had more money I would have helped more. This year I will admit some of his children to school at my expense.

So before having children, you should think about the future and have children accordingly so that your children can grow up well.

[Nothingtodo]

I live in a densely populated area where there are countless such families. Most families have more children than they can afford to feed and support, resulting in starvation and deprivation. They have never received proper education, nor even proper food and good clothing. This is mainly due to the ignorance of the parents and the father often forces the mother to have more than one child. In this case, it has been seen that most of the children do not receive nutrition from the mother, as a result of which they suffer from malnutrition at an early age. Children who suffer from malnutrition do not grow up to have mental development and quality talent. As a result, they lag behind in education and even in all aspects of life. There are hundreds of incidents like this in my locality.

[Taricoins]

Looking at this sad event, alot of people are at fault here and the one i would focus on more is the government for once again neglecting the basic needs of citizens of a state, if things like free education cannot be implemented, I don't even know what they are using taxes for, am not saying giving birth to more than you can carry I'd good but things like that shows how terrible the government is, another thing that I see that's not working in your area is social services, I just wander the living conditions of that family and agencies like earlier stated should just relieve them

[Halifat]

Looking at this sad event, alot of people are at fault here and the one i would focus on more is the government for once again neglecting the basic needs of citizens of a state, if things like free education cannot be implemented, I don't even know what they are using taxes for, am not saying giving birth to more than you can carry I'd good but things like that shows how terrible the government is, another thing that I see that's not working in your area is social services, I just wander the living conditions of that family and agencies like earlier stated should just relieve them

You have definitely call out the right person that needed to be called in most of these issues, if the government is an honest and sincere person i don't think this will not be a problem because just as you said given them free education with the money that belong to citizen will solve all this problem. The most painful part is that during the time of this same government, they went to school free, meaning free education, they all benefited from government sponsorship during when they are at this age, but instead of them to make things right for the citizens they are governing, they decided to divert attention to another thing entirely.

[atookz]

I told him that first tell me why you got married when you haven't enough even for your own survival and getting married was also fine. Your wife could have managed some how but why did you produce kids and 7 kids. What a shame.

Yeah, I have seen some of those types of things and it's devastating. Children are born into circumstances of which they have little control and are saddled with consequences they never anticipated.

But I'd not be too hard on the fathers. There are some people who do not have access to family planning, and some who have no education on family planning. Having a lot of children is considered normal in some communities, even as a form of "insurance" against old age. It doesn’t make it right, but it explains why it happens.

The mother wouldn't be happy with so many kids but I think the father compelled her to do so.

We can't really know that. It's just an assumption.

The real question isn’t why he had 7 kids, because that’s already done. The question is what can be done for those kids now? If a teacher sees and cares, he makes a difference. It's the little things that make a difference, such as covering a few school supplies, assisting with a scholarship application or connecting the family with a local charity.

[Mr Reporter]

I live in a densely populated area where there are countless such families. Most families have more children than they can afford to feed and support, resulting in starvation and deprivation. They have never received proper education, nor even proper food and good clothing. This is mainly due to the ignorance of the parents and the father often forces the mother to have more than one child. In this case, it has been seen that most of the children do not receive nutrition from the mother, as a result of which they suffer from malnutrition at an early age. Children who suffer from malnutrition do not grow up to have mental development and quality talent. As a result, they lag behind in education and even in all aspects of life. There are hundreds of incidents like this in my locality.

And in most cases in that same locality of yours, more children would be going through starvation, no education, no good clothes and most time I would think is this how bad the level at which poverty is now…or maybe it just a cycle that timeless repeats itself…

And as for the parents I think they are the reason of all this issues of giving birth to so how children, how would a gateman at my estate have up to 10kids…? But you pointed out to something that many people are afraid to say it out loud and for most people it would not be lack of money just like you have put it, it might be ignorance…

Just imagine when the father forces the mother to keep having children, the mother suffers twice she doesn’t even have that time to rest no nutrition for the mother talk more the children that what we call ignorant….

[programmer3666]

Those kids didn't ask to be born poor or be heavenly appointed poor parents. They didn't choose the life of no shoes and certainly didn't choose to wait all day long for a common pencil. Their parent made choices and all they do is to wake up everyday into the choices made by the both parent. That undeniable shame that was evident in their eyes is not theirs because it is a collective shame for every single adult who saw through their struggles and chose to do nothing. A child should not have to carry such weight in life.

[Frankolala]

I think that country is a third world country because that's the only places where a man and his wife will give birth to many children and the government wouldn't show any concern. Some people think that getting married is all about giving birth to as many children as they wanted legally, but they forget that you have to train this children and give them good education. Family planning is very important, the man and the woman needs to plan on how many children to give birth to with the consideration of their current financial state and future inflation.

[Primark]

I understand that your experience was quite painful. But whether you blame them or contribute to them is also important. Although having to wait for a small pencil that his family may not have been able to provide would make anyone think. I would not present this incident as a complete irresponsibility of the father. I somewhat agree with you that one needs to consider one's financial capacity before having a child. Because not only does one have to give birth to a child, but one also has to take responsibility for the food, education, medical care and ensuring a safe environment for that child. But I wonder if the income of that family was always so low, or did a financial disaster later create such a situation?

Another thing that makes me say is that you have expressed doubts that so many children were taken against the mother's wishes. In reality, such a possibility cannot be completely ruled out. But it is difficult to be sure without hearing from the mother herself. Both the father and the mother should have independent opinions in family planning decisions.

[Rabata]

In your statement you said that his income is less than $100. In this case, I think it is not reasonable for him to have seven children. Because, before giving birth to a child, he should also think about whether the parents will be able to support the children. Just giving birth to a child does not free from all responsibilities. Whether he is raising the child properly and whether he is able to properly fulfill his responsibilities of clothing, food, medical treatment, education and maintenance are important issues.

Blaming the parents alone does not solve all the problems. Because poverty, lack of education and lack of social awareness are also responsible for this. Therefore, it is important to increase awareness about the family and ensure free education and everything necessary for children from poor families. Regardless of the financial status of the parents, every child has the right to grow up well.

[Hewlet]

They use to think too much and the deprivation in there eyes was very clear.
The mother wouldn't be happy with so many kids but I think the father compelled her to do so.

Have you ever seen such kind of situations that are heart wrenching..

I can’t tell if it’s the same thing in the western world but in a typical African rural environment, this is the story of most young folks and you will literally here everyone talking about not being born with a silver spoon as though it’s a bad thing to be born into a wealthy home.

Most of us grew up in that kind of setting and only decided that we might be born from a broke home though we won’t allow a broke home come out of us. Some of these children that grew in a very bad home with little to no privileges ends up becoming the richest and most influential people later in life. If you have the means, don’t allow your kids pass through some of these hurdles but even if you’re not strong financially, still ensure that they learn morals that can’t be bought with money.

[Judith87403]

This is common in Africa, poor parents giving birth to many children, some men even have multiple wives and most of them just farm to earn a living. The best way to handle the problems of bearing many children that their parents cannot take care of is for the governors to prohibit struggling parents from giving birth to many children (birth control). There are many children wandering in the streets just because they have no good upbringing and some of them grows up, feels hated by the society and become nuisance. Gone are the days when children are seen as asset to the family, we are in modern day so enough of reproducing plenty kids that won't be well taking care of. Government needs to intervene because most of these poor parents are senseless. If a couple has 1, 2, or 3 children it can lessen their burden during difficult times but imagine having seven children who they can barely feed.

[Joy- maker]

I was very disappointed and angry at the same time. I told him that first tell me why you got married when you haven't enough even for your own survival and getting married was also fine. Your wife could have managed some how but why did you produce kids and 7 kids. What a shame.

You can rudely blame them but you did not contribute anything than blaming nhe parents. What has your blaming solved? Your blaming solved the problems the children are having? Do not forget you are just a teacher and learn how to talk.

Karl_3000,  you don't have to be this rude to the poster, this is someone who is simply expressing himself. You could even say worse things than what Fragrance1122 said if you were in his position. It's okay to get marry if you have something to offer and a source of income, no matter how little it is, as long as you are willing to take responsibility and work towards improving your situation.

As someone whose source of income is bearly enough to support a family, you are supposed to have a common sense. I understand that the holy book instructs us to go into the world and multiply, but what is the point of bringing children into the world when you know you won't be able to take good care of them?

The man was supposed to have a family planning strategy, and not to bring the number of children he knows he won't able to take good care of them, because of his financial situation at the moment. At least two children should have been enough for him, why have seven children? Sometimes, we put ourselves in situations that we know fully well that we won't be able to get out of them easily, which is quite ridiculous.

[FirmWars]

Well, he has already had those kids and the best advice you should have given to him is to avoid having more kids because if him and his wife are still young, there's a chance that they could still conceive and bear another child. Some family doesn't have the knowledge to adopt family planning that will help them have not more than the number of kids that they want to have. I have seen different family like that here, they are struggling and the wife could be into some small trade which will not still be enough to provide the family needs because the husband salary is also small. The young generation should learn from mistakes like this, 2 or 3 kids is enough in my opinion.

[Zlantann]

Have you ever seen such kind of situations that are heart wrenching..

Poverty exists in almost every country. It is proper to have a good plan before you start having children. But sometimes the unexpected happens.  There are people who had many children when they had good jobs, and the economy of the country was good. Things turned bad, and they are now struggling to take care of their families. I see so many homeless, malnourished, and unkempt children on the streets. Some are hawking to survive since their parents don't have sufficient funds. The main reason for Poverty in most countries is bad leadership.

Almost every country has resources to take care of its citizens. But corrupt leaders mismanage the funds, thereby subjecting people to Poverty. I really feel sorry for children who suffer because of the financial situation in their families. I try to support some as much as I can.