Don't let Your Kids Deprived from anything

[Jaweria parveen]

Parents should have plans on how to raise kid according to their capacity, because too many children with poor upbringing will result to having bad children. Most of this children start catering for themselves at early stage as a result of inability of parents to take good care of them, and this will leed them to mingle with even bad people and you know that evil communication currupt good manner.

When parents live their life after marriage, it is difficult for them from now on because they have a lot of pressure to raise and raise their children, which is the most difficult task for them. Because they know that if they do not teach their children right or wrong, then in the future their actions will be bad. Therefore, they have to see the good and the bad. Although the parents are also working in it for the first time, in addition, some children do not grow up with the same thinking. Parents destroy their children's life with a lot of hard work on their part, but the children do not understand that they follow their own thinking, which is not right according to the parents and the children take the punishment for it with their own actions.

[Aanuoluwatofunmi]

To try our best to ensure that we give the children what the necessarily needed for their growth and development and also help them achieve their dreams in life, we have to be more careful at the same time ensuring that we don't expose them to other vices that will affect them instead of contributing to their growth, children are very sensitive and code easily put things in mind without forgetting them for a long period of time. This is why we must ensure that we subject them to memories that will always be remembered for good.

[bakasabo]

Honestly, I am shocked by this situation in general, but more I am shocked with OP actions. I am not sure that OP knows whole life story of family he has mentioned in his post. I not sure that he should blame father of parents for having children. What if they were more wealthy before they had children, but then life has changed and they became poor. What do you suggest then them to do? What about first people? They were not having anything, but still gave birth. The idea if you are poor and dont have anything, you should not have children I think it wrong. Then whole humankind would not have existed. Nevertheless, what is the moral of this whole story? OP shamed other family for being poor, rather than gave any advice or help them financially. OP only confirmed what they already know.

[Fragrance1122]

Honestly, I am shocked by this situation in general, but more I am shocked with OP actions. I am not sure that OP knows whole life story of family he has mentioned in his post. I not sure that he should blame father of parents for having children. What if they were more wealthy before they had children, but then life has changed and they became poor. What do you suggest then them to do? What about first people? They were not having anything, but still gave birth. The idea if you are poor and dont have anything, you should not have children I think it wrong. Then whole humankind would not have existed. Nevertheless, what is the moral of this whole story? OP shamed other family for being poor, rather than gave any advice or help them financially. OP only confirmed what they already know.

The priest's world end at a church. I just told the extract of what I saw. And I had known him for years because he was teaching with me at the same school but different block. He wasn't consistent and many people offer him different kind of tasks but he was already in comfort zone and he didn't believe in "movement bring blessings".

The message that I want to give is that Pre-planning is very necessary before getting married. Or the consequences could be harsh. Deprived kids lose their health and there intellectual skills do not boost with time. I don't know from which angle you are looking at my post.

[Nothingtodo]

And in most cases in that same locality of yours, more children would be going through starvation, no education, no good clothes and most time I would think is this how bad the level at which poverty is now…or maybe it just a cycle that timeless repeats itself…

In densely populated areas, such incidents have been happening for generations. No matter how much awareness measures are taken in the country, there is no sign of population reduction in densely populated areas. The people of this region will basically earn, eat and give birth to children every year. It is never possible to make them aware of the bad effects of population through the light of education. Their children always spend their days half-eaten and starving, yet they continue to give birth to one child every year.

[iDEEMEE]

Looking at this sad event, alot of people are at fault here and the one i would focus on more is the government for once again neglecting the basic needs of citizens of a state, if things like free education cannot be implemented, I don't even know what they are using taxes for, am not saying giving birth to more than you can carry I'd good but things like that shows how terrible the government is, another thing that I see that's not working in your area is social services, I just wander the living conditions of that family and agencies like earlier stated should just relieve them

I think the government are not to blame in this instance. The government may give free education but will he give free food, clothes, housing and parental responsibilities to the children. The instance the author gave about how the kids look shows signs of malnourishment and sometimes we happen to see a lot of this and this can be traumatic for these children.

Mistakes may happen in having more kids than planned which is not common but deliberately having more kids than one can afford to take care of their most basic needs is pure wickedness. Why must the man keep having kids he can’t take care of?

[Ab de villiers]

Yeah, the situation you have explained is very sad. But in my country parents are very much involved in the upbringing of their kids. They used to do efforts day and night just to provide them all what they want. But the thing i feel is missing in parenting, that they usually not allow them to express their opinion on different issue. They believed that whatever they explained to them should be considered as the final word or they must have to follow it at any cost. It is also a type of deprivation, As a result many kids just always follow what their elders expected to them.

By this they lose the power to say no, just to pleased them. It highly affect on their independent thinking, for any problems of life they usually looked towards their elders instead of taking their own decision. In my opinion parents should allow them to share opinions, exchanging of ideas creating healthy environment. Don't think if they disagree with you they are rude or disobedient. Let them express whatever they feel freely. Encourage them to face the world confidently or make wisely decision.

[hafiztalha]

I have seen multiple situations like this in real life.  I think that the main problem is having kids; it comes with a sense of responsibility, not just someone having the ability to bring a lot of kids into the world. Poverty itself is not a problem; it is not something that can be shamed about. Yes having a lot of kids than your capacity of providing them good education, health care or meeting their basic necessity, is the point where problem rises. That is the responsibility of the parents to give them all the necessities. So that they can live peacefully. Children should live a good life. They should not be in this world just to suffer the weak decision of their parents, that they have made for them.

A person can change their financial circumstances at any point in their life. Sometimes those who are rich today can fall into the trap of poverty unexpectedly. So it is in the hands of the people sometimes to change their financial situation. Giving healthcare, meals, learning opportunities and emotional care these are not luxuries; these are basic responsibilities that should be given to the kids. We should stop judging someone based on their appearance or because of their financial background. Everyone deserves the same amount of respect and dignity. Despite their financial status. Likewise, these two kids also deserve the same amount of love, respect, dignity, attention and opportunities that everyone else around them has.

[Queen Julie]

I’ve actually come across a situation like this. I know a family with 4 children but they struggle to provide even the basic things for them. What makes it worse is that despite their situation they kept having more kids. When a close family member questioned the father, his response was that they should keep having children because they never know which one would eventually lift them out of poverty. And that’s a very wrong mindset.

I understand that life can be unpredictable, but children shouldn’t be brought to the world as a way out of poverty. Having children comes with responsibilities and people should consider whether they can provide their basic needs before bringing them into this world.

[KingsDen]

Op, I read keenly to see how you stepped in to salvage the situation. I anticipated because you took your time to visit the family, which means your were willing to help.

I haven't witnessed such scenarios and I haven't taught children in school. If I encounter such conditions, I doubt that 50% of my salary will follow me home, else I'll just resign.

Poor people know how to give birth to plenty children. Since the parents are somewhat jobless, the only recreational activity for them is sex without family planning.

[Somto9Light]

The problem with the society is that they judge too quickly without going in details to find out why something is the way it is. Some of these families were living very well but life happened to them maybe their father lost his job or source of income and it looks as if he is lazy and the society starts blaming him for giving birth to children he can't take care of. People are battling with many things plus the economy is not encouraging so if you feel emotional about a situation you find disturbing, if you can't help then you just mind your business. After all a lot of people who made it in life today came from poor homes where they couldn't even feed properly while they were growing you.

[Agbamoni]

Let's talk about parents who give birth to many children that they can't provide for. Tell me, is it reasonable for a poor man earning below $100 a month to give birth to seven children? $100 can barely take care of his needs, let alone a wife and seven kids. That's nine people in the family.

Have you ever seen such kind of situations that are heart wrenching..

There are some countries that parental care is very low.

Not true. All countries have that one parent who doesn't take good care of their kids.

[Homemade-IQ]

This is why poverty are everywhere in our society, and things like this are the main cause of it, because you will see a man that has not taken proper care of himself, he will be getting married with the little money that got into his hand, and not just that , he will also produces a lot of children that he cannot take proper care off, that is a high level of irresponsibility.

This is the reason I got upset when people blame government for everything, because sometimes they are the main cause of their own problem, and such act of irresponsibility is the main reason criminals are everywhere in the street because children like this are most product of failed parenting.

[Karl_3000]

Let's talk about parents who give birth to many children that they can't provide for. Tell me, is it reasonable for a poor man earning below $100 a month to give birth to seven children? $100 can barely take care of his needs, let alone a wife and seven kids. That's nine people in the family.

Have you ever seen such kind of situations that are heart wrenching..

There are some countries that parental care is very low.

Not true. All countries have that one parent who doesn't take good care of their kids.

What is not true? You understood me absolutely wrongly despite my simple English. There are some countries like Iceland, Denmark, Finland and Netherlands that the parental care is high while there are some countries like Nigeria and Togo that the parental care is low than in the countries that I have first mentioned. High and low parental care does not mean there are countries that there are no parents who doe not take good care of their children.

[Noorooo]

That's really heartbreaking. Unfortunately children suffer the most when their parents cannot afford to provide even their basic necessities. This problem is also common in our society, where people have many children without looking to their financial situation. I believe people should first think about how many children they can financially support and provide a good future for before deciding to have them. Otherwise, both parents and children may end up suffering,And the children's lives may end up being filled with trauma, stress, and depression.

[Barikui1]

That's really heartbreaking. Unfortunately children suffer the most when their parents cannot afford to provide even their basic necessities. This problem is also common in our society, where people have many children without looking to their financial situation. I believe people should first think about how many children they can financially support and provide a good future for before deciding to have them. Otherwise, both parents and children may end up suffering,And the children's lives may end up being filled with trauma, stress, and depression.

Situations like this are the main cause of rat race in our society. A situation whereby a family will be living from hand to mouth and be living their lives without no achievements to show. And since the children wasn't able to get the best education and they stay in a bad or poor neighborhood, they can be easily corrupted, which is the reason young girls goes into prostitution and young guys engaging in criminal activities, so that they can make a living, because if a parents can provide and give their children the best life with a proper upbringing, their are chances that they will become useful and productive in the society, unlike children that struggle all their lives from childhood, those set of children only understand how to survive, and they will do anything, even though it' illegal, so that food can be on the table.

[POPOLUV]

While I was a teacher in a private school back in 2021 , I noticed that among the defaulter students there were two brothers and by face and personality both of them were princess but in the eyes it felt like they are broken. Always calling the students who didn't submit there fee, they were there even after 6 months. I met there father in secret and asked him , your kids lack even the basic necessities, there uniform do not meet the requirements , there teeth Had not been brushed since years and I don't think you have a shoe polish at your home. He told me that he has seven kids and his earning was less than 100 dollars. And once his daughter waited for just a piece of pencil until evening because there wasn't even a cent in home that she could buy it.

I was very disappointed and angry at the same time. I told him that first tell me why you got married when you haven't enough even for your own survival and getting married was also fine. Your wife could have managed some how but why did you produce kids and 7 kids. What a shame. He said it is fate. I said wow and I came back. But the thing that I assume because of their financial crises were.
They didn't have enough to eat and could not fulfill even their basic necessities.
They became weak , Lean , ethically and morally. There attitude was totally different than the other boys.
They use to think too much and the deprivation in there eyes was very clear.
The mother wouldn't be happy with so many kids but I think the father compelled her to do so.

Have you ever seen such kind of situations that are heart wrenching..

The problems most kids are really facing around the countries, is because most parents they are happily married, fail understand that their income should be calculated in such manner that you will be able to arrive that your daily, weekly or monthly income should be the one to let you know the number of kids you are meant to give birth to, but some parents end up not planning themselves before undergoing into bearing of kids, it is very bad to deprived your kids to what could help him/her brighting his features, this is just exactly things that is happening to some kids out there, please parents that are yet to come together as a couple, should take the advantage of this thread and learn from it, to avoid depriving your kids of anything because of too much kids and your number kids should based on  how your salary can be able to take care of those kids.

[Nwadiche]

Honestly, I am shocked by this situation in general, but more I am shocked with OP actions. I am not sure that OP knows whole life story of family he has mentioned in his post. I not sure that he should blame father of parents for having children. What if they were more wealthy before they had children, but then life has changed and they became poor. What do you suggest then them to do? What about first people? They were not having anything, but still gave birth. The idea if you are poor and dont have anything, you should not have children I think it wrong. Then whole humankind would not have existed. Nevertheless, what is the moral of this whole story? OP shamed other family for being poor, rather than gave any advice or help them financially. OP only confirmed what they already know.

Not having children because we lack finance is a wrong idea and must to not be practiced by any, instead having the little we can raise should be the best advice the OP would have chosen.  The little i know about children is, they are blessings from God and no one should be blamed for having children he can raise.
On this i will say you should leave the OP for he is talking from a biased mindset and not at neutral ground the way things are meant to because if it where on neutral ground he won't considered it a mistake for a poor man from having children when we all know its of God that gives and not by our power or strength.