should i tell my wife when i win or just keep it quiet?

[liasbaa]

If you’re married and something involves money, especially winnings, it’s usually best to tell your wife. It avoids misunderstandings, builds trust, and turns the win into something you can enjoy together instead of something you have to hide.

I disagree with you. It is better to keep personal matters outside the family, as you said about informing wives about gambling. It would be a good idea to not share financial matters with your wife, especially if your wife is not involved in earning. The earning wife may understand the reality of earning money, but those who are busy with household chores will try to stop you from doing any activity that will cause you to lose money. Even if they know that you gamble, most of them will not consider it normal. This is another reason for family unrest.

[junder]

I disagree with you. It is better to keep personal matters outside the family, as you said about informing wives about gambling. It would be a good idea to not share financial matters with your wife, especially if your wife is not involved in earning. The earning wife may understand the reality of earning money, but those who are busy with household chores will try to stop you from doing any activity that will cause you to lose money. Even if they know that you gamble, most of them will not consider it normal. This is another reason for family unrest.

We have different views and different choices, so it is natural that some people choose to disclose their gambling habits while others choose to hide them. I myself tend to hide it, but even so, I don't say that telling your partner about your gambling habits is wrong because sometimes it is better to be open about it.

Some partners may not like it for certain reasons, such as fear that it could lead to addiction, which could impact the family's finances, but others may accept it as long as there is discipline and reasonable behavior.

[bubilas]

Women are a very unusual personality type because we men constantly try to understand everything rationally and logically. But for women, the world is structured in cycles that they constantly experience emotionally. After all, nature made them this way, and because of this, they have constant mood swings.
Therefore, it's better for a woman not to know that her husband has won a lot of money, because she can always start making emotional decisions at that moment. And then accuse her husband of being greedy or delaying spending the money. A man, however, will always be cold in his logic.

[TopTort777]

Women are a very unusual personality type because we men constantly try to understand everything rationally and logically. But for women, the world is structured in cycles that they constantly experience emotionally. After all, nature made them this way, and because of this, they have constant mood swings.
Therefore, it's better for a woman not to know that her husband has won a lot of money, because she can always start making emotional decisions at that moment. And then accuse her husband of being greedy or delaying spending the money. A man, however, will always be cold in his logic.

If husband did not tell that he has won a lot of money, that will make him greedy. One day he will make a mistake and truth will came out Then he would be in double trouble, in worse situation. I just cant imagine how to avoid or what to tell if I would be asked, why I hid the fact that we are rich now? What would you do if you were in such situation? Try to justify yourself by saying that you hid money because your wife would spend them unwise if she knew you are rich? That would disappoint her even more.

[summonerrk]

Women are a very unusual personality type because we men constantly try to understand everything rationally and logically. But for women, the world is structured in cycles that they constantly experience emotionally. After all, nature made them this way, and because of this, they have constant mood swings.
Therefore, it's better for a woman not to know that her husband has won a lot of money, because she can always start making emotional decisions at that moment. And then accuse her husband of being greedy or delaying spending the money. A man, however, will always be cold in his logic.

This is a very controversial issue, because in my life I have met many different women and I got the feeling that some were absolutely phlegmatic and they led an emotional lifestyle, not giving themselves any responsibility for their actions, subject to fleeting desires, and for such people, gambling should be banned altogether. Girls like that will never be able to manage money properly. And if they hit the jackpot, within a month they'll have spent it, quarreled with all their friends, and forced their husbands to do the same.
But at the same time, I met girls who were mostly technical by profession, and they were always balanced and not prone to emotions.

[Grace333]

Why won’t you want to tell your wife when you win?  Because for me I don’t even mind if my man gambles, because I gamble sometimes too. It’s not that deep.
The only time I would not be happy about is if he starts using money meant for important things to bet…  But as long as he is doing it safely and not risking what we need, I am totally fine with it. Keeping wins a secret just makes it look some how.

[Dogedegen]

End of the day, gambling is a personal ride.  But the day-to-day ups and downs? no need to broadcast them. Keep your bankroll and your sessions to yourself, stay disciplined, and avoid giving anyone extra reasons to judge your hobby.
 That’s how most long-timers handle it anyway.

This is not true. When you get married or even more when you get children there is nothing that remains personal. Everything affects those people involved especially activities as gambling. You may not want to accept this loss of autonomy but that doesn't change that it is the truth. Many people like to deny the negative effects of their behavior on others for this reason.

I disagree with you. It is better to keep personal matters outside the family, as you said about informing wives about gambling. It would be a good idea to not share financial matters with your wife, especially if your wife is not involved in earning. The earning wife may understand the reality of earning money, but those who are busy with household chores will try to stop you from doing any activity that will cause you to lose money. Even if they know that you gamble, most of them will not consider it normal. This is another reason for family unrest.

In this case you don't have a wife or a family, you have a roommate. Don't confuse blood relations for family, those things are not the same. You can be legally married to someone but in reality your relationship is that of roommates. The difference between a real partnership and roommates is huge. It is clear that very few people here understand that.

This is a very controversial issue, because in my life I have met many different women and I got the feeling that some were absolutely phlegmatic and they led an emotional lifestyle, not giving themselves any responsibility for their actions, subject to fleeting desires, and for such people, gambling should be banned altogether. Girls like that will never be able to manage money properly. And if they hit the jackpot, within a month they'll have spent it, quarreled with all their friends, and forced their husbands to do the same.

Most men are exactly the same way. Just because different emotions are expressed and in different ways, that does not make them different or better.

[Samlucky O]

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results?  

Well that's really funny but that's women nature, expecialy when it comes to Gambling. My Mom will will always blame my dad of gambling and losing money that would have been useful to the family, but this only happens when there is loses, but when there is winning she will blame my dad of not playing that game for her to also win. That is what my dad faces at home always. The best way to to be free is not telling her how about your wins and losses because you must surely be blamed in time of loses and praised in terms of wins.

[LastKiss]

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results?  

Well that's really funny but that's women nature, expecialy when it comes to Gambling. My Mom will will always blame my dad of gambling and losing money that would have been useful to the family, but this only happens when there is loses, but when there is winning she will blame my dad of not playing that game for her to also win. That is what my dad faces at home always. The best way to to be free is not telling her how about your wins and losses because you must surely be blamed in time of loses and praised in terms of wins.

It works the other way around too if a wife loves to gamble and ends up losing money, her partner will probably blame her as well. That’s normal, because for people who don’t like gambling, it often seems like a bad habit no matter who does it. Personally, I just keep quiet about my gambling hobby because I know my wife is strongly against it. When I win, I enjoy it and when I lose, I don’t chase my losses. It’s definitely easier to communicate when you have a partner who supports your hobby, but unfortunately, not everyone is that lucky.

[Agbe]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Your story made me laugh. Such is life. And what I will advise you, you have to tell her whenever you win so you will have sweet Soup to eat and pizza and enjoy the other room kisses. And also tell her your loses, though they will bring issue and it looks as if you are not giving are money and you used it for gambling and lost them, yet tell her the truth, one day things will change for good. Though that day you won't eat in the house because you didn't win money.  And if she asks you, if you have not gamble that day, tell her that, you have but you haven't checked the games. And if you loss tell the the truth, the matter what, she won't kill you.

[Issa56]

Why won’t you want to tell your wife when you win?  Because for me I don’t even mind if my man gambles, because I gamble sometimes too.

Everything is just understand, if you know the kind of partner which you are having, that’s what’s going to determine something’s which you going to be telling your partner. I know we are not suppose to hide things from our partners, but if you know your partner isn’t cool with some kind of things, it’s better you don’t even tell them.

From the OP post, his partner is always happy whenever he wins, but whenever loss sets in, she is always complaining, then he should stop telling his wife about his gambling activities, because there is no way you will be a gambler and you won’t be losing, loss will definitely set in, and the loss is already causing problem for him.

[alastantiger]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Like you expect this experience is more common that usual. Alot of partners would reeact based on the outcome of the gamble rather than just your habit. When you win money its good thing to them becasue the monney multipled but  the moment lose, just like you said they start complaining. In your case your wife is responding emotionally because she's unsure how gambling affects the household long-term. If you explain to her your gambling budget that doesn't affect your relationship or responsibilities. That way, whether you win or lose, its already agreed that it wont hurt anything. once she know your gambling is controlled, the pressure around it is reduces alot.

[Johnlomape]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results?  

There is nobody that will hear there husband lose bet that will be happy about it. You don't have to blame her for the way she react to your loses and that is what most people will do. I think she is very concerned about your winnings that's is why she feel upset about your loss.

People are mostly attracted to positive things that negative ones and that is why you need to understand her and not feel angry because you lose bets. If gambling is unpredictable, you  dknt have to expect her to smill when you lose bets. You will have to continue trying your best so that you can be making profits from your bets so that can make her really happy and not feel too emotional about you losing money to a casino.

[iBaba]

If you’re married and something involves money, especially winnings, it’s usually best to tell your wife. It avoids misunderstandings, builds trust, and turns the win into something you can enjoy together instead of something you have to hide.

I disagree with you. It is better to keep personal matters outside the family, as you said about informing wives about gambling. It would be a good idea to not share financial matters with your wife, especially if your wife is not involved in earning. The earning wife may understand the reality of earning money, but those who are busy with household chores will try to stop you from doing any activity that will cause you to lose money. Even if they know that you gamble, most of them will not consider it normal. This is another reason for family unrest.

My point is, if you are married and again this is just for the married men, if you should win money from the. Gambling you did then you should be able to tell your wife because when you hide it even when you think you are doing that for peace, one day she is going to find out and feel betrayed.  For most women, that betrayal they feel in their minds hurts more than the money itself.

I feel like if you should share it with her, even not necessarily the exact money, if you know that by her nature you would draw out unnecessary bills as a result. Because there are peculiarities which is based on the personality of your spouse that you should also put into consideration. But if you still go ahead to tell her about the wins, it helps you guys to build your relationship and makes her feel part of your life. Hiding money from your spouse being it man or woman creates secrets that slowly destroy many marriages today.

On the other side, if your wife does not work and only takes care of the house and children at home, then there are chances that she might worry about money alot because she sees how hard it is to manage expenses on a daily basis and she may not like you to engage yourself in gambling because she is afraid that you will lose even the little money you have to take care of the house but even at that you should still try to find a way to inform her so she will feel involved or in the positive way, help you to leave gambling when it is not your calling.

It is at that point you should also tell her that the money you are touching is from your personal pocket and not from what has been allocated to the family for their own needs that you will never touch it. When see sees you are responsible and open to her, she will slowly accept it or at least trust you more because hiding it will make her angry and more afraid to believe in you whenever she found out.

[LUCKMCFLY]

As a man and husband, if he wants to share those things with his wife, that's fine. If he doesn't share them, I don't think it's a sin, but I believe it's something one shouldn't be selfish about Sharing it isn't wrong, as long as a man's money is for the family , for the children, for them too, so there shouldn't be a problem with it.

[HONDACD125]

Why won’t you want to tell your wife when you win?  Because for me I don’t even mind if my man gambles, because I gamble sometimes too. It’s not that deep.
The only time I would not be happy about is if he starts using money meant for important things to bet…  But as long as he is doing it safely and not risking what we need, I am totally fine with it. Keeping wins a secret just makes it look some how.

Well, sorry to break it to you, Grace, but not all women are as understanding enough like you, and it's a fact. There are so many housewives who wouldn't even like their husbands doing something that they like doing, why? Because the wife doesn't like it, and even if she doesn't dislike it, she would still ask you not to do that because she believes it takes up a lot of the husband's time that he could spend with her. It's so frustrating sometimes, because such women will make you feel like you have no life anymore, and you can't do anything that you used to do because you like doing it.

So, gambling could be one of those things, especially when we know that gambling involves finances, which means one can either win or lose money in it. So a wife would never want their husband to lose any of the money he earns on gambling, she would instead want it spent on her, and this could always become a reason for a fight. So for me, I think it is fair even if you hide the fact that you gamble to your life, winnings are a far thing.