Parents need to bring back the belt!

[adamstgBit]

so, my son's uncle is 3.5 years old.
and every single time they play together, he hits my son on the head with a toy or something...
His parents give him time-outs or wtv. but it doesn't work, he literately will go hit my son again 1 min later
So he smacked my son today, and I smacked him.  
this caused a bit of a fuse.... ya sure its not my kid and i shouldn't be disciplining him.... wtv... i got mad he got smacked, big deal.
its been like a year we keep explaining to him that what he's doing is "not nice" I'm fed up.
if it was my kid always hitting a smaller kid, I'd smack him!

"Parents need to bring back the belt!"

your thoughts...  

[MooC Tals]

so, my son's uncle is 3.5 years old.
and every single time they play together, he hits my son on the head with a toy or something...
His parents give him time-outs or wtv. but it doesn't work, he literately will go hit my son again 1 min later
So he smacked my son today, and I smacked him.  
this caused a bit of a fuse.... ya sure its not my kid and i shouldn't be disciplining him.... wtv... i got mad he got smacked, big deal.
its been like a year we keep explaining to him that what he's doing is "not nice" I'm fed up.
if it was my kid always hitting a smaller kid, I'd smack him!

"Parents need to bring back the belt!"

your thoughts...  

spare the rod  spoil the child

[Third Way]

Belt the parents not the poor unlucky shits that didn't ask to have shit parents. Although I also agree, some kids need a paddlin'.

[FreeMoney]

The problem is hitting. The solution is......... wait for it.......... more hitting!

[adamstgBit]

The problem is hitting. The solution is......... wait for it.......... more hitting!

LOL!

its not a easy problem to solve...
nothing we do seems to make him understand / stop this bad behavior.
is a good smack on the bum really so bad?

[Third Way]

The problem is hitting. The solution is......... wait for it.......... more hitting!

Relevant comedian David Cross on coors light and hitting.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JU8-yANPX2I

[vampire]

so, my son's uncle is 3.5 years old.
and every single time they play together, he hits my son on the head with a toy or something...
His parents give him time-outs or wtv. but it doesn't work, he literately will go hit my son again 1 min later
So he smacked my son today, and I smacked him.  
this caused a bit of a fuse.... ya sure its not my kid and i shouldn't be disciplining him.... wtv... i got mad he got smacked, big deal.
its been like a year we keep explaining to him that what he's doing is "not nice" I'm fed up.
if it was my kid always hitting a smaller kid, I'd smack him!

"Parents need to bring back the belt!"

your thoughts...  

Don't put them together in the room at all. Simply do not invite them at all.

[drakahn]

Does hitting kids do anything but teach them its okay to hit people... as long as they are smaller than you and doing something you don't like?

[adamstgBit]

so, my son's uncle is 3.5 years old.
and every single time they play together, he hits my son on the head with a toy or something...
His parents give him time-outs or wtv. but it doesn't work, he literately will go hit my son again 1 min later
So he smacked my son today, and I smacked him.  
this caused a bit of a fuse.... ya sure its not my kid and i shouldn't be disciplining him.... wtv... i got mad he got smacked, big deal.
its been like a year we keep explaining to him that what he's doing is "not nice" I'm fed up.
if it was my kid always hitting a smaller kid, I'd smack him!

"Parents need to bring back the belt!"

your thoughts...  

Don't put them together in the room at all. Simply do not invite them at all.

Its my mother inlaw's son, kinda hard for them to never see each other...

[vampire]

Its my mother inlaw's son, kinda hard for them to never see each other...

Well if he hits your son, it's kinda easy to make the choice. You can't really smack their kid, but you can refuse to see them unless they rein their kid in.

If your wife is fine with an another child smacking her kid, she's sick. She should have been the first one to make a hell out of it.

[adamstgBit]

Does hitting kids do anything but teach them its okay to hit people... as long as they are smaller than you and doing something you don't like?

it teaches them, that I'm the boss, and you do as i say, OR ELSE!  

when talking to them, giving them time-outs, yelling, and all that fails, then time to pull out the belt?

IDK, all i know is this kid is not listening and his bad behavior isn't simply going to go away.

[adamstgBit]

Its my mother inlaw's son, kinda hard for them to never see each other...

Well if he hits your son, it's kinda easy to make the choice. You can't really smack their kid, but you can refuse to see them unless they rein their kid in.

If your wife is fine with an another child smacking her kid, she's sick. She should have been the first one to make a hell out of it.

well at first its "oh boys will be boys", "hes just jealous" , and his mother does tell him off, put him in a time out, then make my say sorry.
but this form of discipline has yet to have any affect...

No one is fine with the situation, its starting to worry everyone,  and no one is quite sure how to handle it...

[dunand]

I found this http://parents.berkeley.edu/advice/worries/hitting.html

[John (John K.)]

Maybe try distracting him away from hitting your son? Get him to punch a junior punching bag/involve him in 1 on 1 sports like badminton etc with your son if he really wants to 'beat' your son.

Come on, he's 3 years old.  Do you remember what on earth you did on 3?

(PS: I think I burnt a ton of ants with a stray book of matches on 3-4. Thank god I didn't burn anything down. )

[adamstgBit]

Maybe try distracting him away from hitting your son? Get him to punch a junior punching bag/involve him in 1 on 1 sports like badminton etc with your son if he really wants to 'beat' your son.

Come on, he's 3 years old.  Do you remember what on earth you did on 3?

(PS: I think I burnt a ton of ants with a stray book of matches on 3-4. Thank god I didn't burn anything down. )

we do, but kids run around... they seem to be playing good, we turn our backs and SMACK.... ( sometimes often he'll smack him with everyone watching him. )
all his other cousins do not do this... ever!

[adamstgBit]

I guess the only solution is to always be watching, and be close to them when they play.

make damn sure this kid can't hit mine...

shitty....

[Third Way]

Also, teach your kid to hit back?

[Energizer]

Try to spend more time with them together. Get them into a game where both will be involved, in a couple of days the hitting behavior would disappear. There is a reason behind such behavior, you have to find it and solve it. The belt wouldn't work! And if it does it would be temporary.

[TECSHARE]

I assure you none of the people here harping on him for disciplining the child ACTUALLY HAVE CHILDREN. Its so easy to be politically correct from the sideline rather than watching your child grow up to be a cunt because no one ever drew a line for them because Dr. Spock says hitting isn't nice. Some kids just aren't nice to begin with. Believe it or not serial killers, wife beaters, rapists, and muggers were once children too. I would argue they received less discipline than more, and clinical trials tend to support that given children without fathers (traditional administer of discipline) are more likely to end up in prison. Its not like he is BEATING the child or even spanking him for his own enjoyment, he has tried being "nice" and it is not working. IMO not disciplining the child is a form of neglect he and many others will pay for in the future so that everyone involved doesn't have to make hard choices.

Additionally the atmosphere in schools today is very hostile, they are charging small children with crimes now as simple as hugging (sexual assault) and hitting (violent assault). Which is more traumatizing to the child, getting spanked when he hurts other people or being dragged off to the police station one day in handcuffs by a strange adult they don't know? (yes they handcuff children).

[K1773R]

so, my son's uncle is 3.5 years old.
and every single time they play together, he hits my son on the head with a toy or something...
His parents give him time-outs or wtv. but it doesn't work, he literately will go hit my son again 1 min later
So he smacked my son today, and I smacked him.  
this caused a bit of a fuse.... ya sure its not my kid and i shouldn't be disciplining him.... wtv... i got mad he got smacked, big deal.
its been like a year we keep explaining to him that what he's doing is "not nice" I'm fed up.
if it was my kid always hitting a smaller kid, I'd smack him!

"Parents need to bring back the belt!"

your thoughts...  

it dosnt have to be the belt, it has to be resposibility!