Does becoming a parent changes the gambler?

[naidray]

Only those who are parents can actually answer this. But as I have heard from others, it think the same as you but I have also seen many people who do not care about their children or anyone else. Actually, in this world there are all sort of people. Many might change themselves after getting a child but some may remain the same. However, I wish even those people who are not parents, leave this game because it is a useless activity.

Normally, there is just a stage you get in life that maturity just kicks in even though does not apply to everyone as some would not even know what they really want in life anyway which is what makes them to act the way they do sometimes.

Nevertheless, from my own personal view, I have always believed that becoming a parent would somehow change you and even if you used to gamble recklessly before, you will have to start considering your life pattern for the sake of your kids.

[bhadz]

I'll put myself in the situation. I'm not comfortable to gamble with my young one and I don't want him/her to be like me. However there are things that we need to enjoy and there's no need to hide it as our kid grows. Adults are changing, kids are developing and there are kids who are growing up on a place where they are influenced by their parents but there are also those kids that aren't affected whether they were grown up by their parents into a gambling place. Parents must give their best to their kids and we all have different meaning and ways of parenting.

[michkima]

I'll put myself in the situation. I'm not comfortable to gamble with my young one and I don't want him/her to be like me. However there are things that we need to enjoy and there's no need to hide it as our kid grows. Adults are changing, kids are developing and there are kids who are growing up on a place where they are influenced by their parents but there are also those kids that aren't affected whether they were grown up by their parents into a gambling place. Parents must give their best to their kids and we all have different meaning and ways of parenting.

As a role model though, you should show that you are someone they should look up to. Being a gambler is not bad of course, but it does not really set a good example. Even if you gamble pretty low amounts, the fact is that it could lead to you child thinking that it is alright to gamble. He may grow up to be someone who gets exposed to gambling early and result to him being addicted to it.

You are correct that there is a chance they do not turn into an addicted gambler, but still you cannot discount the fact that there is a chance he can get addicted to it. It is better to uphold an image that you do not gamble so when the child grows up, he will think to himself that his dad/mom did not gamble so why should I?

I cannot dictate any parent on what to do, because it is their sole decision what to do with their kids but it is something I morally feel to be right to tell parents.

[bhadz]

As a role model though, you should show that you are someone they should look up to. Being a gambler is not bad of course, but it does not really set a good example.

This is true, we should set an example to our kids and we must be the role model for them. There are good and bad results for exposing your kid early in gambling industry.

Even if you gamble pretty low amounts, the fact is that it could lead to you child thinking that it is alright to gamble. He may grow up to be someone who gets exposed to gambling early and result to him being addicted to it.

This is one of the bad result that I'm saying.

You are correct that there is a chance they do not turn into an addicted gambler, but still you cannot discount the fact that there is a chance he can get addicted to it. It is better to uphold an image that you do not gamble so when the child grows up, he will think to himself that his dad/mom did not gamble so why should I?

I'll set an example, my father is a drunkard but to tell you the fact, I didn't grew up as a drunkard. This is why I've said that there are kids that aren't affected even they have a gambling parents.

I cannot dictate any parent on what to do, because it is their sole decision what to do with their kids but it is something I morally feel to be right to tell parents.

Right again, they are all big and they know what's best for their kids. 

[michkima]

As a role model though, you should show that you are someone they should look up to. Being a gambler is not bad of course, but it does not really set a good example.

This is true, we should set an example to our kids and we must be the role model for them. There are good and bad results for exposing your kid early in gambling industry.

Even if you gamble pretty low amounts, the fact is that it could lead to you child thinking that it is alright to gamble. He may grow up to be someone who gets exposed to gambling early and result to him being addicted to it.

This is one of the bad result that I'm saying.

You are correct that there is a chance they do not turn into an addicted gambler, but still you cannot discount the fact that there is a chance he can get addicted to it. It is better to uphold an image that you do not gamble so when the child grows up, he will think to himself that his dad/mom did not gamble so why should I?

I'll set an example, my father is a drunkard but to tell you the fact, I didn't grew up as a drunkard. This is why I've said that there are kids that aren't affected even they have a gambling parents.

I cannot dictate any parent on what to do, because it is their sole decision what to do with their kids but it is something I morally feel to be right to tell parents.

Right again, they are all big and they know what's best for their kids. 

I commend you for not following you father's foot steps, you are a great example to the kids if they know that their grandfather was a drunkard but not their father. I do agree that every person, even your own flesh and blood, will have a different tendencies in getting addicted or not into whatever like gambling, drinking, or, worse, drugs. But the best thing for a parent would probably still be guidance.

I, for one, have tried drugs and I am not too proud of it and regret doing it. I was young and the peer pressure was hard, but when I did try it I did not get addicted and, believe it or not, I did not enjoy it. Probably thanks to the inner voice I hear. I hear my parents talking in my head telling me it is bad to take drugs. Well and good, I never did it again.

[upsidedown75]

I think yes. Becoming a parent will make them more responsible for their life and they will save their money for their children instead of wasting them in some casinos. Being a parent is a good experience for all of us because it does not change our mindset but also our life

Precisely.But it's really hard to be a good parent somehow.The lifestyle we used to do while we're still single will just change in a sudden.And we should nothing to do with it but change for the better.Or else all your bad habits like gambling will be absorbed by your kids thinking that it will bring them good also.Kids are very keen observers so as a parent,we should be extra careful with what we have shown to them since we are considered models for them.

I think i agree with you guys because parenting comes with responsibility and so whoever be it the man or woman after becoming a parent tries to shun off some irresponsible attitudes which hitherto would have allowed and so i think in a way it will affect the gambling life of any gambler who becomes a parent.

Shit load of responsibilities bro. By the time you start thinking of all the expenses, the bills you have to foot, the children starting school all the way through till they get to their adulthood and capable of taking care of themselves, you will really be very careful of the way you just blow money into some insensible things most of the time and even if you want to gamble at all for the fun of it, you will still find a way to limit it.

[bhadz]

I commend you for not following you father's foot steps, you are a great example to the kids if they know that their grandfather was a drunkard but not their father. I do agree that every person, even your own flesh and blood, will have a different tendencies in getting addicted or not into whatever like gambling, drinking, or, worse, drugs. But the best thing for a parent would probably still be guidance.

I, for one, have tried drugs and I am not too proud of it and regret doing it. I was young and the peer pressure was hard, but when I did try it I did not get addicted and, believe it or not, I did not enjoy it. Probably thanks to the inner voice I hear. I hear my parents talking in my head telling me it is bad to take drugs. Well and good, I never did it again.

That is why I've said that not all kids will be influenced and won't be affected even they have gambling parents. It is base on my experience and drunkard is an addiction to alcoholic drinks and that can be compared the same way with addiction to gambling. You shouldn't be proud that you have taken drugs but you must be proud that you have changed and that's a different scenario in your case that you have those voices coming in your mind and that's the voice of your parents, we're getting far from the main topic here.

[coinplus]

Not really. I have a cousin that does not have a job and even after having 4 kids, it does not still make him think that he needs to change and stop on what he's doing.

There are gamblers that can't give up their own hobby just because they became a parent. Even here in my place I've got some relatives who are not stopping in gambling even they have a bunch of kids to feed and to take care off. It all depends, they can still gamble but they have to be responsible and provide all the things that their kid/s needed.

I think if the first time that you had your kid there going to stop your hobby for a while but once you are back and probably your child is already capable of being independent it would come back. I agree with your statement that you can be still responsible as long as you are giving the kids what they really need especially in order to have their education.

You can stop for awhile so that you can focus taking care of your kid. If you're a hands on dad or mom then you have to sacrifice gambling for it. I think this isn't really an issue for those people that are starting to have kids. What matters is on how you are going to take care of that kid while it is growing. Are you going to allow him to know gambling and be like his dad/mom?

If God has blessed someone with such a gift as child, he must pay attention towards it. Parents are responsible for all the basic needs of a kid. That baby should be the top priority. But if someone still does not give up gambling, it is fine as far as he is taking care of his child. For such people, I have just one thing to say, they need to look around and see real beauties of life. Gambling cannot give as much fun or relief as a kid’s smile can.

Yeah, it is a high level of responsibility when you become a parent and it is a high level of gross irresponsibility for someone who does not care about that but still carelessly end up doing some crazy things, even if it does not have to do with gambling.

However, in this context, I believe a sensible parent who has been gambling carelessly before will have to start considering dropping or limiting some stuffs unless of course he is just a full blown addict which someone responsible will also get help, I believe.

[richminded]

That differs from person to person what is better is to quit gambling after you are a parent because you have more responsibilities towards your family when you are alone even if you lose your funds you are the one who get's affected but now everyone is getting affected
He can't still gamble occasionally but on regular basis it is risky

Becoming a parent is a big responsibilities and gambling will cant help you on that, gambling can make your situation worst. People should value more on his familiy and not to focus on greed. Stop gambling before its ruin your great family, don’t try to keep things balance because in the end you will still lose.

[michkima]

I commend you for not following you father's foot steps, you are a great example to the kids if they know that their grandfather was a drunkard but not their father. I do agree that every person, even your own flesh and blood, will have a different tendencies in getting addicted or not into whatever like gambling, drinking, or, worse, drugs. But the best thing for a parent would probably still be guidance.

I, for one, have tried drugs and I am not too proud of it and regret doing it. I was young and the peer pressure was hard, but when I did try it I did not get addicted and, believe it or not, I did not enjoy it. Probably thanks to the inner voice I hear. I hear my parents talking in my head telling me it is bad to take drugs. Well and good, I never did it again.

That is why I've said that not all kids will be influenced and won't be affected even they have gambling parents. It is base on my experience and drunkard is an addiction to alcoholic drinks and that can be compared the same way with addiction to gambling. You shouldn't be proud that you have taken drugs but you must be proud that you have changed and that's a different scenario in your case that you have those voices coming in your mind and that's the voice of your parents, we're getting far from the main topic here.

I guess there are a lot of temptations out here in the real world, but the good thing is that some or many be a lot of us has good parents that has guided us through the years to be prepared when they are not around. It is not always that we are guarded by our parents, and there would be a time that they will be gone forever, which makes me really sad but that is the reality in life. As a parent, I would say that the role of one is to hone your child to a point that even when you are away or gone, you can be at peace that your child can handle himself.

As for gambling as a parent, to get back in track, I would totally avoid it. It may not lead to your addiction or your child's but keeping them away from it would be best.

[Finestream]

That differs from person to person what is better is to quit gambling after you are a parent because you have more responsibilities towards your family when you are alone even if you lose your funds you are the one who get's affected but now everyone is getting affected
He can't still gamble occasionally but on regular basis it is risky

Becoming a parent is a big responsibilities and gambling will cant help you on that, gambling can make your situation worst. People should value more on his familiy and not to focus on greed. Stop gambling before its ruin your great family, don’t try to keep things balance because in the end you will still lose.

I think you can still do gambling when there are some invites from friends but not making it as a regular habit.Parenting should be your main priority and being a good provider to your family should be your focus now.Life changes the moment you become a parent,so make the best of it and treasure them as your own valuables.

[Blondy12]

This was the discussion topic we were having last night, a bunch of gambling friends and one of them an expecting dad. There were counter arguments that his child also would turn out a gambler like he is.

The arguments were that it is his in his gene and that'll pass on to his child, since every one in his family was a gambler.

The counter argument was that the child would make a logical decision and genes won't play any part in this.

Which brought us to another important question what if turns out a gambler would they both play together. Would he be comfortable?

Amid this he walked out and texted me he didn't wish to gamble anymore, so wanted your views on this.

Genes doesn’t run in the blood when we talk about gambling because gambling it is not a disease or insanity. It will always be depend on how we raise our child and the sorrounding that we allow them to see as they grow up. Well, if we let our child/children that gambling is like a normal thing and that there is no wrong about it. Then definitely our children will do the same. Always remember that the child’s brain is more smarter than us adults. So be a responsible parents if we want to raise a child that can make us proud.

[lienfaye]

In my experience yes because I became responsible and always prioritize the welfare of my family by buying what they need instead of spending the money in gambling. As a parent and a former addicted gambler I dont want my kids to commit the same mistakes, that's why I did my best to overcome this addiction and start over again.

Genes doesn’t run in the blood when we talk about gambling because gambling it is not a disease or insanity.

Agree its not hereditary like a disease however we can pass this habit to our kids if we show/expose them in gambling at an early age because they will think its right.

[Whosdaddy]

This was the discussion topic we were having last night, a bunch of gambling friends and one of them an expecting dad. There were counter arguments that his child also would turn out a gambler like he is.

The arguments were that it is his in his gene and that'll pass on to his child, since every one in his family was a gambler.

The counter argument was that the child would make a logical decision and genes won't play any part in this.

Which brought us to another important question what if turns out a gambler would they both play together. Would he be comfortable?

Amid this he walked out and texted me he didn't wish to gamble anymore, so wanted your views on this.

Genes doesn’t run in the blood when we talk about gambling because gambling it is not a disease or insanity. It will always be depend on how we raise our child and the sorrounding that we allow them to see as they grow up. Well, if we let our child/children that gambling is like a normal thing and that there is no wrong about it. Then definitely our children will do the same. Always remember that the child’s brain is more smarter than us adults. So be a responsible parents if we want to raise a child that can make us proud.

That is exactly fine. Definitely this isn’t a disease that can be transferred from one person to another. While yes, if the father is gambling and his son knows that my father is just gambling and losing money every day. But someday if he is there in gambling, and father gets a win by chance. That was an addition to little money and now they got handsome money luckily, this child would be confident to gambling.

[beej]

I think that's a personal and an internal decision to make. Gambling is a vice, it
doesn't really matter if your a parent or not. To some being a parent signifies a
more mature approach on things, I've known gambler who gave up such activities
to support and focus on family life, gambling in some other ways are entertaining
and a lucrative activity. But the addictive part of it can produce unwanted and
sometimes unpredictable financial and relationship problems. However there are
other that are really good with time management and they can incorporate gambling
with their schedule. I think personally it is matter of personal choice and a bit of
moderation and control somewhere in there.

[bhadz]

I commend you for not following you father's foot steps, you are a great example to the kids if they know that their grandfather was a drunkard but not their father. I do agree that every person, even your own flesh and blood, will have a different tendencies in getting addicted or not into whatever like gambling, drinking, or, worse, drugs. But the best thing for a parent would probably still be guidance.

I, for one, have tried drugs and I am not too proud of it and regret doing it. I was young and the peer pressure was hard, but when I did try it I did not get addicted and, believe it or not, I did not enjoy it. Probably thanks to the inner voice I hear. I hear my parents talking in my head telling me it is bad to take drugs. Well and good, I never did it again.

That is why I've said that not all kids will be influenced and won't be affected even they have gambling parents. It is base on my experience and drunkard is an addiction to alcoholic drinks and that can be compared the same way with addiction to gambling. You shouldn't be proud that you have taken drugs but you must be proud that you have changed and that's a different scenario in your case that you have those voices coming in your mind and that's the voice of your parents, we're getting far from the main topic here.

I guess there are a lot of temptations out here in the real world, but the good thing is that some or many be a lot of us has good parents that has guided us through the years to be prepared when they are not around. It is not always that we are guarded by our parents, and there would be a time that they will be gone forever, which makes me really sad but that is the reality in life. As a parent, I would say that the role of one is to hone your child to a point that even when you are away or gone, you can be at peace that your child can handle himself.

As for gambling as a parent, to get back in track, I would totally avoid it. It may not lead to your addiction or your child's but keeping them away from it would be best.

Temptations are everywhere and there are different aspects that are attracting us. Mate, I don't want to talk about the part that I bold. Let's talk about things that are not going to bring anyone of us into sadness. Back to the topic, I'm not yet a parent but when I become I'll live without regrets. There's nothing wrong if you will continue to gamble but don't let your kid see you that are you severe with it. And when the time comes if I'm about to those family or gambling, obviously I will leave gambling.

[serjent05]

That differs from person to person what is better is to quit gambling after you are a parent because you have more responsibilities towards your family when you are alone even if you lose your funds you are the one who get's affected but now everyone is getting affected
He can't still gamble occasionally but on regular basis it is risky

Becoming a parent is a big responsibilities and gambling will cant help you on that, gambling can make your situation worst. People should value more on his familiy and not to focus on greed. Stop gambling before its ruin your great family, don’t try to keep things balance because in the end you will still lose.

This are the reason why some gambler leave the gambling scene once they got married.  But most of these gambler simply does not care about their family.  They can only think of winning even thought hey will not win.  I had witnesed this kind of scenario in my community where the  husband does not really care if his family will have something to eat or not.

[ethereumhunter]

That differs from person to person what is better is to quit gambling after you are a parent because you have more responsibilities towards your family when you are alone even if you lose your funds you are the one who get's affected but now everyone is getting affected
He can't still gamble occasionally but on regular basis it is risky

Becoming a parent is a big responsibilities and gambling will cant help you on that, gambling can make your situation worst. People should value more on his familiy and not to focus on greed. Stop gambling before its ruin your great family, don’t try to keep things balance because in the end you will still lose.

This are the reason why some gambler leave the gambling scene once they got married.  But most of these gambler simply does not care about their family.  They can only think of winning even thought hey will not win.  I had witnesed this kind of scenario in my community where the  husband does not really care if his family will have something to eat or not.

then that guy is really needed help from other people. I think once we become parents, we need to take responsibility for our family especially for our child's and we need to think seriously about their future. at least, this is what I got from my parents and I have a friend which is a gambler in his past. after his marriage, he's been asked by his wife if he really needs to quit from gambling and drink alcohol and with trying hard, slow by slow and day by day, he's trying to move from his past and now he can make a new beginning with his family. once he told me that is not easy to leave something that we do for many years and we really need someone who will stand behind us and give a big support.

[okissabam]

That differs from person to person what is better is to quit gambling after you are a parent because you have more responsibilities towards your family when you are alone even if you lose your funds you are the one who get's affected but now everyone is getting affected
He can't still gamble occasionally but on regular basis it is risky

Becoming a parent is a big responsibilities and gambling will cant help you on that, gambling can make your situation worst. People should value more on his familiy and not to focus on greed. Stop gambling before its ruin your great family, don’t try to keep things balance because in the end you will still lose.

This are the reason why some gambler leave the gambling scene once they got married.  But most of these gambler simply does not care about their family.  They can only think of winning even thought hey will not win.  I had witnesed this kind of scenario in my community where the  husband does not really care if his family will have something to eat or not.

then that guy is really needed help from other people. I think once we become parents, we need to take responsibility for our family especially for our child's and we need to think seriously about their future. at least, this is what I got from my parents and I have a friend which is a gambler in his past. after his marriage, he's been asked by his wife if he really needs to quit from gambling and drink alcohol and with trying hard, slow by slow and day by day, he's trying to move from his past and now he can make a new beginning with his family. once he told me that is not easy to leave something that we do for many years and we really need someone who will stand behind us and give a big support.

I agree and I do think being a gambler is a choice, you are able to choose between being addicted to it or know when to stop especially if you have a responsibility. And most especially if you have a family, that's one big responsibility you need to take being a parent. And I'm sure you know what are the consequences as a parent if you add being a gambler to your own household.

[crwth]

That differs from person to person what is better is to quit gambling after you are a parent because you have more responsibilities towards your family when you are alone even if you lose your funds you are the one who get's affected but now everyone is getting affected
He can't still gamble occasionally but on regular basis it is risky

Becoming a parent is a big responsibilities and gambling will cant help you on that, gambling can make your situation worst. People should value more on his familiy and not to focus on greed. Stop gambling before its ruin your great family, don’t try to keep things balance because in the end you will still lose.

This are the reason why some gambler leave the gambling scene once they got married.  But most of these gambler simply does not care about their family.  They can only think of winning even thought hey will not win.  I had witnesed this kind of scenario in my community where the  husband does not really care if his family will have something to eat or not.

then that guy is really needed help from other people. I think once we become parents, we need to take responsibility for our family especially for our child's and we need to think seriously about their future. at least, this is what I got from my parents and I have a friend which is a gambler in his past. after his marriage, he's been asked by his wife if he really needs to quit from gambling and drink alcohol and with trying hard, slow by slow and day by day, he's trying to move from his past and now he can make a new beginning with his family. once he told me that is not easy to leave something that we do for many years and we really need someone who will stand behind us and give a big support.

I agree and I do think being a gambler is a choice, you are able to choose between being addicted to it or know when to stop especially if you have a responsibility. And most especially if you have a family, that's one big responsibility you need to take being a parent. And I'm sure you know what are the consequences as a parent if you add being a gambler to your own household.

I think everything is a choice when you are faced with a decision especially if you have the power to do something about it. I think what's important is having the priority that you have of course for me, family is the first priority.