Life with a Gambler - Solution!

[coolcoinz]

There is no one solution to this. Gambling is an addiction, so the best course of action is to be supportive towards them and offer ways to re-engage with something else, or perhaps hold a discussion about possible therapy sessions?

As far as one can stay away from it is the best solution. Once you start gambling then ensure in life you play for fun and to make yourself entertain and not for just making money. Also always set the goal in a day max loss you can take and if it reaches you just leave the gambling for that day or month etc.

Are you for real? A guy with a gambling site in his sig says that it's best to stay away from gambling? Gambling is good in moderation like any other thing. Alcohol, caffeine and other things are also good in moderation, let's not go into extremes.
If someone close to you gets addicted it's best to talk to him and make him realize that he's wasting his life. If it doesn't help cut him off his gambling money and if this still doesn't change him cut any ties until he recovers.

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Usually when a gambler gets to gamble a lot and start to lose all his money to gambling and if he has a family than there the problems start. I have never seen someone gamble away their life savings and not have a family meltdown, mostly ending up in divorce. Gambling is the sport of single people. You can't have a family and gamble recklessly, there is no way. You have to be careful, even if you want to gamble, just gamble the money you are willing to lose and can afford to lose.

The problem people usually have with gambling is concentrating on it too much. Gambling is not something that should be done in a long time frame and it should always be some short term thing which is the reason why any gambler should always have a pocket and time limit when it comes to gambling. Not placing these limits in the first place is what makes a whole lot of people to mess up big time when it comes to gambling.

Limiting ourselves with gambling will solve most of the problems as well it will help to prevent problems. Gamblers getting into addiction is happening slowly that is the reason why they are not realizing what they are actually doing, also addiction will not let gamblers to realize that slow progress. Gamblers are getting themselves busy with other activities whereas gambling kills them like a slow poison.

You cannot find a perfect solution solution in very short time frame itself as getting out of gambling problems also must need lots of time because that also your slow progress.

[Aamir1]

My partner was a gambling addict for many years, and I put up with it as much as I could for many years. We had talks about it. We had fights about it. Sometimes we went for weeks without speaking to each other. Many times after promising to quit, she'd quietly go back there and lose more money. The children would stay up until late into the night waiting for their mother to come home. Where's mommy? They'd wake up tired for school the next day. One night after she came home, something inside me snapped. I had enough!! I told her to get the F out of my house and to take all her crap with her. I told her that I'm going to divorce her and take the house and the kids. I told her that I have copies of all her bank statements showing how much money she's been squandering at casinos and that no judge in his right mind would give a gambling addict custody of the children, besides she was always broke. I was seeing red and I was fully prepared for the ugliest divorce and custody fight ever. Do you know what happened after that night? She quit gambling. It's been 6 months or so since that night, and I have to say thanks be to God for answering my prayers and bringing this whole ugly problem to an end. I've never been that angry with her before, and I guess that is what she needed to see before she quit. I showed her the brick wall that she was heading for and she slammed on the brakes.

Nice story, I really enjoyed. I have also a friend who is regular gambler and I also visited with him for many times, but I just look out and never gamble because I have no experience of gambling. I have never seen him winning big money and took it to home, he always lost and not only he but all other gambler also lost money. Only the owner of the place collects money.

I have also experienced going home without any winnings in gambling and i get really upset when i lost all of my money in gambling, but i do not get addicted in gambling because i only play when my friends just ask me to play. Only my friends who are a regular that almost every night they play in the casino and always expecting to win a huge profit.

Life with a gambler is a bad experience especially in my country because gambling is prohibited and is illegal. If the police or other law department raid on the gambling place and arrest you with gambling money, they will put you in jail and if you have a gambler friend who force you to stay with him in that place, they will also arrest you even you do not gamble.

[Mastsetad]

I think that there should be a notice on the front of casinos that actually provides this kind of supports for families. I know that some countries have mandatory requirements to inform guests about the risks of gambling, but there should definitely be some measures taken. I know that it's a rare case for gambling to become a problem, but there should be some attempts to reducing this issue, as it has a negative impactive on the gambling scene as a whole.

But I am against this point. Reason is, why to involve families in this harmful game. Once you have decided to make fun of yourself and trying to ruin your own life, then why to grab shoulders of your family too? Don’t do this. Take good care of them and don’t let them down by doing this harmful gaming. Better to pledge on right way and that owl only lead you to best gate out.

Life with a gambler is very bad experience of my life. In my country gambling is prohibited and police raid of the place of gambling. If they found you on that place although you are not playing they will arrest you because you are setting there with gamblers. They will out you in jail. Your friends, neighbors and family will think that you are also a gambler.

[jestbenen8]

I think that there should be a notice on the front of casinos that actually provides this kind of supports for families. I know that some countries have mandatory requirements to inform guests about the risks of gambling, but there should definitely be some measures taken. I know that it's a rare case for gambling to become a problem, but there should be some attempts to reducing this issue, as it has a negative impactive on the gambling scene as a whole.

But I am against this point. Reason is, why to involve families in this harmful game. Once you have decided to make fun of yourself and trying to ruin your own life, then why to grab shoulders of your family too? Don’t do this. Take good care of them and don’t let them down by doing this harmful gaming. Better to pledge on right way and that owl only lead you to best gate out.

Life with a gambler is very bad experience of my life. In my country gambling is prohibited and police raid of the place of gambling. If they found you on that place although you are not playing they will arrest you because you are setting there with gamblers. They will out you in jail. Your friends, neighbors and family will think that you are also a gambler.

I also have a very bad experience of that. Life of a gambling is no doubt very difficult restricted and always in trouble, they always face financial problems and even create financial problems for people who are living with them. I will play that God may protect people to spend life with an addicted gambler.

[Baofeng]

I think that there should be a notice on the front of casinos that actually provides this kind of supports for families. I know that some countries have mandatory requirements to inform guests about the risks of gambling, but there should definitely be some measures taken. I know that it's a rare case for gambling to become a problem, but there should be some attempts to reducing this issue, as it has a negative impactive on the gambling scene as a whole.

But I am against this point. Reason is, why to involve families in this harmful game. Once you have decided to make fun of yourself and trying to ruin your own life, then why to grab shoulders of your family too? Don’t do this. Take good care of them and don’t let them down by doing this harmful gaming. Better to pledge on right way and that owl only lead you to best gate out.

Life with a gambler is very bad experience of my life. In my country gambling is prohibited and police raid of the place of gambling. If they found you on that place although you are not playing they will arrest you because you are setting there with gamblers. They will out you in jail. Your friends, neighbors and family will think that you are also a gambler.

I also have a very bad experience of that. Life of a gambling is no doubt very difficult restricted and always in trouble, they always face financial problems and even create financial problems for people who are living with them. I will play that God may protect people to spend life with an addicted gambler.

I guess everyone, not necessarily addicted gamblers, even casuals, have sort of experience difficulty once they got into gambling. That's why others tend not to go again in a casino because they know where they going to end. But others choose otherwise, then to live the life of a gambler and suffer financial problems that most of the time didn't end well. I myself, have experienced it, but I stil gamble and became more mature and learn how to control my emotions and just bring enough money that can I afford to lose.

[Symphonized]

I think that there should be a notice on the front of casinos that actually provides this kind of supports for families. I know that some countries have mandatory requirements to inform guests about the risks of gambling, but there should definitely be some measures taken. I know that it's a rare case for gambling to become a problem, but there should be some attempts to reducing this issue, as it has a negative impactive on the gambling scene as a whole.

But I am against this point. Reason is, why to involve families in this harmful game. Once you have decided to make fun of yourself and trying to ruin your own life, then why to grab shoulders of your family too? Don’t do this. Take good care of them and don’t let them down by doing this harmful gaming. Better to pledge on right way and that owl only lead you to best gate out.

Life with a gambler is very bad experience of my life. In my country gambling is prohibited and police raid of the place of gambling. If they found you on that place although you are not playing they will arrest you because you are setting there with gamblers. They will out you in jail. Your friends, neighbors and family will think that you are also a gambler.

I also have a very bad experience of that. Life of a gambling is no doubt very difficult restricted and always in trouble, they always face financial problems and even create financial problems for people who are living with them. I will play that God may protect people to spend life with an addicted gambler.

Well i don't agree with you, Not ALL (so not everyone as you made it stated there) have financial problems.
For example Doug Polk is a very successfully Poker Player and doesn't have those sorts of situations.

[vennali]

Well honestly i don't think that gambling addiction is that hard to get over, for me i think that people get that into gambling because they have nothing else to do, nothing else to keep them busy from spending money on it, if they have friends and family who encourage them to do activities and keep them busy from doing so than i am sure they won't find the time to gamble and they will lose their desire to do it, at least that is what i did for my friend when he started falling to it.

Nah, mate. It might be easy for you but Gambling addiction is a real thing which can be really hard to get over. Just like alcoholism, a lot of functional adults who have regular jobs get into it and generally lose money out of it. It just might have been easy for you and you are luck with this regard but a lot of people arent.

[Dontme]

Although it seems to you that there are no solutions, I assure you that your answer is within your reach. The answer to the question of what you should do cannot be given to you by your friends, families or even experts, but only by yourself.

What I can tell you is that you can not influence the will of your loved one to solve the problem if he/her ever thinks he has it. The behavior of the loved one can certainly indicate that he/her is a gambling-dependent person. Gambling addiction is sometimes referred to as - "hidden disease" because there are no obvious physical signs or symptoms such as drug dependence or alcohol dependence. Compulsive gamblers usually deny or alleviate the problem, and they do everything that is in their power to hide their problem.

The gambling addiction is the type of impulse control disorders and because of that, the compulsive gamblers cannot control gambling impulse, even when they know how bad and harmful they are. The gambling problem can burden relationships, hinder responsibility at home and at work, and lead to a financial disaster. Although gambling addiction can be cured, every treatment is the key readiness of a person to admit to having a problem and wanting help.

In most cases, the relationship is burdened to such an extent that it also affects the health of the non-gambler in a relationship, and ultimately determines the further course of life that does not go in the desired direction. Blackmailing the loved one to terminate the addiction will not lead to the desired effect, nor the "forced" treatment will. If a loved one is not aware of at the moment that he/her has a problem that needs to be resolved, none of the above solutions will result in improvement.

It is important that you realize what you want and how well you are willing to neglect your own needs, wishes and priorities until your loved one feels he/her has a problem.

I suggest an honest conversation with the loved one, without condemnation and blackmail, which will show you in what way is he/her looking at his/her own problem, and then comes your decision about the further course of the relationship: the willingness to fight with the uncertain end, or the decision to continue your life course in the other direction.



To all of you with the same problem, I wish a lot of luck and courage!



My questions are:

Do you have the same problem at home?

If you have this particular problem are you trying to solve it?

If you have solved it, can you share your "personal fight" flow and outcome here?

Thank you!

Very well said, being honest with your partner or your love ones is much more important because in the end they are the only people who left in your side no matter what happens. Sometimes, problems can be solve with your family or together with your family.

[Kprawn]

The moment when you put gambling before your family and friends, then you know you have a problem. I gamble for the fun

 and excitement, but I know where to draw the line. Unfortunately not everyone know where to draw the line and then

gambling become a problem. Some people will "ban" themselves from casinos to stop, but it is not possible with online

casinos. The best thing for these people is for them to acknowledge that they have a problem and to stop by themselves. 

[Finestream]

The moment when you put gambling before your family and friends, then you know you have a problem. I gamble for the fun

 and excitement, but I know where to draw the line. Unfortunately not everyone know where to draw the line and then

gambling become a problem. Some people will "ban" themselves from casinos to stop, but it is not possible with online

casinos. The best thing for these people is for them to acknowledge that they have a problem and to stop by themselves. 

Yes.Gambling problems or let's say gambling addiction can only be cured if you admit it by yourself.There are a lot of gamblers today who never acknowledge their problems and so they end up ruining their own lives even their own families.I suggest to gamble only with what you can afford to lose.Setting limitations for yourself might be a great help and of course self-discipline is the only tool to help yourself get out from that big problem you had.

[JanpriX]

The moment when you put gambling before your family and friends, then you know you have a problem. I gamble for the fun

 and excitement, but I know where to draw the line. Unfortunately not everyone know where to draw the line and then

gambling become a problem. Some people will "ban" themselves from casinos to stop, but it is not possible with online

casinos. The best thing for these people is for them to acknowledge that they have a problem and to stop by themselves. 

Yes.Gambling problems or let's say gambling addiction can only be cured if you admit it by yourself.There are a lot of gamblers today who never acknowledge their problems and so they end up ruining their own lives even their own families.I suggest to gamble only with what you can afford to lose.Setting limitations for yourself might be a great help and of course self-discipline is the only tool to help yourself get out from that big problem you had.

It is very sad to see the families that are ruined by "irresponsible" gambling habits by their family heads and the saddest part of it is that they are unaware of the problem that they have and the root cause of it. Seeking professional advice could also help people with this kind of addiction. Acknowledging it right away will be very hard for them and they will be able to do it if they will be assisted by professional practices.

[Fatanut]

The moment when you put gambling before your family and friends, then you know you have a problem. I gamble for the fun

 and excitement, but I know where to draw the line. Unfortunately not everyone know where to draw the line and then

gambling become a problem. Some people will "ban" themselves from casinos to stop, but it is not possible with online

casinos. The best thing for these people is for them to acknowledge that they have a problem and to stop by themselves. 

Yes.Gambling problems or let's say gambling addiction can only be cured if you admit it by yourself.There are a lot of gamblers today who never acknowledge their problems and so they end up ruining their own lives even their own families.I suggest to gamble only with what you can afford to lose.Setting limitations for yourself might be a great help and of course self-discipline is the only tool to help yourself get out from that big problem you had.

It is very sad to see the families that are ruined by "irresponsible" gambling habits by their family heads and the saddest part of it is that they are unaware of the problem that they have and the root cause of it. Seeking professional advice could also help people with this kind of addiction. Acknowledging it right away will be very hard for them and they will be able to do it if they will be assisted by professional practices.

Addiction should always be addressed right away. It's like a little plant at first, not really taking up that much space. Every time you gamble, you're watering that plant. Until one day, that plan has become a tree. And the roots are a lot more deeper. And the trunk and branches of the tree are thicker than ever. Mental health is an issue that's been around for a long time. People think that gambling addiction is a phase and everyone has had it. Everyone did gambling in their lives, but not everyone got addicted to it. Up to now, addiction is still an issue that a lot of people are talking about, but not really fixing. Mental health is just as important as physical health, probably even more important. Funny because it was only recently when a law in my country was established about getting help with mental health.

As a gambler, you should realize that your life isn't just a life for yourself. Your life is also for your family and your friends. You might think that they aren't affected by your actions but they really really are deeply affected by it.

[rickadone]

Like all forms of addiction/affliction, pain or suffering, it's actually really difficult to empathise if you've never experienced it before. As I grow older, I am more open to trying to understand things, no matter how insensible they seem to me. I can't ever see myself losing control in gambling, but perhaps I've never really made myself vulnerable to such situations. I do find shades of irresponsibility within my limits - countless times losing a bit more than I intended to, a few times depositing more when I promised not to, just to chase back losses. But perhaps on worse days, less desirable personal situations, I could have gone a few steps farther, and then it's hard to say what could have happened next.

Living alone is always going to be difficult, no matter the rigours of self-discipline. It's good to see the recognition that having friends and family help keep an eye on you, having first being open about the problem, is critical to keeping that addiction at bay.

As audacious suggests above, perhaps keep control of finances. Bitcoin makes this a bit easier. Keeping the private keys on savings and income, and funneling whatever you're comfortable with to her, until she can trust herself again.

Well, it is a good thing that you cannot see yourself losing control in gambling and probably that is because you already know anyway that there is really nothing you should be expecting so much from it as long as you know the possibility of losing is high anyway.

With respect to empathizing, I sure do know how it feels since I have someone who was close to me and ended up an addict because deep down, there is just no way you will not feel for them. It is like someone who is inside a deep well and trying to get out but just stuck. It is hard to describe but it takes a lot to be able to get out from it just the same way as drug addiction.

[BabyBoss]

The moment when you put gambling before your family and friends, then you know you have a problem. I gamble for the fun

 and excitement, but I know where to draw the line. Unfortunately not everyone know where to draw the line and then

gambling become a problem. Some people will "ban" themselves from casinos to stop, but it is not possible with online

casinos. The best thing for these people is for them to acknowledge that they have a problem and to stop by themselves. 

Yes.Gambling problems or let's say gambling addiction can only be cured if you admit it by yourself.There are a lot of gamblers today who never acknowledge their problems and so they end up ruining their own lives even their own families.I suggest to gamble only with what you can afford to lose.Setting limitations for yourself might be a great help and of course self-discipline is the only tool to help yourself get out from that big problem you had.

It is very sad to see the families that are ruined by "irresponsible" gambling habits by their family heads and the saddest part of it is that they are unaware of the problem that they have and the root cause of it. Seeking professional advice could also help people with this kind of addiction. Acknowledging it right away will be very hard for them and they will be able to do it if they will be assisted by professional practices.

Addiction should always be addressed right away. It's like a little plant at first, not really taking up that much space. Every time you gamble, you're watering that plant. Until one day, that plan has become a tree. And the roots are a lot more deeper. And the trunk and branches of the tree are thicker than ever. Mental health is an issue that's been around for a long time. People think that gambling addiction is a phase and everyone has had it. Everyone did gambling in their lives, but not everyone got addicted to it. Up to now, addiction is still an issue that a lot of people are talking about, but not really fixing. Mental health is just as important as physical health, probably even more important. Funny because it was only recently when a law in my country was established about getting help with mental health.

As a gambler, you should realize that your life isn't just a life for yourself. Your life is also for your family and your friends. You might think that they aren't affected by your actions but they really really are deeply affected by it.

The true happiness is comes in an honest words. In order for you to solve the problem you need to become honest with what you feel and be honest to your self. There is no other that can solve it but its your own.

[swogerino]

Once you become an addicted gambler it is almost a guaranteed thing that you will lose your job or lose your family soon afterwards. The key consist to never become addicted by following simple gambling guidelines you can find many of these guidelines in many different websites accessible to all by just doing a google search.

Being a strong person mentally is a necessary step in order to not become addicted nor to gambling nor to anything else, like drugs, alcohol etc.

[Caladonian]

Once you become an addicted gambler it is almost a guaranteed thing that you will lose your job or lose your family soon afterwards. The key consist to never become addicted by following simple gambling guidelines you can find many of these guidelines in many different websites accessible to all by just doing a google search.

Being a strong person mentally is a necessary step in order to not become addicted nor to gambling nor to anything else, like drugs, alcohol etc.

The consequence that first and foremost which is needed to be think deeper before dealing with such activity, being too much engaged to gambling even you will keep denying to yourself that you are already suffering from being addicted into it will reveal you from the results that it will brought to your life, being stress and put away important things in life just to satisfied your lust of playing resulting to nothing but being burned and empty.

[maydna]

My questions are:

Do you have the same problem at home?

If you have this particular problem are you trying to solve it?

If you have solved it, can you share your "personal fight" flow and outcome here?

Thank you!

I don't think that I have a problem at home because so far, I can manage my time between work, playing gambling, and with my family and I can do this with good. I don't play gambling too often like other people and I can hold myself from playing the games in every day because I know that it's not good for me and I can lose my money. I think it's because we have another thing that we need to do in the daily life so our mind is not thinking about gambling. and if we can do this, you can prevent your mind to think about gambling and you can prevent from being an addicting person in gambling. and yes, I know it might be difficult for every gambler to do this, but as long as they have a will and they really want to change their life, I am sure that they can do like what I did. so this is about you and about how to control yourself.

[el kaka22]

My questions are:

Do you have the same problem at home?

If you have this particular problem are you trying to solve it?

If you have solved it, can you share your "personal fight" flow and outcome here?

Thank you!

I don't have any problem at home and I don't think that gambling is a "hidden disease" because as long as we can control ourselves in the gambling, we are not potential to be an addicting person. but if I have this problem, maybe I will find somebody in my family and I will tell that person that I have a problem with gambling and I really need his/her help to solve this. I am sure that if we really want to get out from gambling, he/she will give some help and always give a suggestion to us so we can solve our problem with gambling.

Playing gambling in times will make you become dependent on it but also the people who tried gambling for two to three times in their lives only, they also would become addicted to it because gambling is more addiction than the addiction itself. When the person starts following gambling, no other substitute can be found of it for the people.

The dependency is actually attributed to the mindset you bring into it in the first place which most of the time those who actually think it is something they can depend on in terms of making money, earning income, getting rich always end up getting beaten and by the time they started realizing they have been living in fools dream, they are already so addicted from trying to recover their losses without being able to find a means to even get out. Life of gambler can be smooth like a heaven if they limit everything but emotions make everything collapsed which leads to disaster even in life threatening level too.

[onrise]

Once you become an addicted gambler it is almost a guaranteed thing that you will lose your job or lose your family soon afterwards. The key consist to never become addicted by following simple gambling guidelines you can find many of these guidelines in many different websites accessible to all by just doing a google search.

Being a strong person mentally is a necessary step in order to not become addicted nor to gambling nor to anything else, like drugs, alcohol etc.

If somebody can control their emotion then chances are that they can break this circle and come out of it. For that one needs to have a discipline in life which can sort out many things and they would not be losing much money and family as well.