Have you been threaten to stop gambling

[Hispo]

The problem of that person is that he has not been opened about his gambling habits since the beginning. What can of relationship can go on in the long term if one or both of the parts are hiding such relevant information, like money and finances.

In my case, I have never had to go through anything like that because I am a social and casual person when comes to gambling and i know that my family would intervene on me if they found out I am getting into financial struggles because I am gambling away the money I get.

One needs to find the equilibrium between being a responsible adult and keeping a money consuming hobby as gambling can be, and also other kinds of hobbies...

[bekti3]

Threats like this will not have any impact because indeed even when we are threatened but with a liking for gambling it will indeed be a little difficult.
But talking about the one who threatens is the closest person, so this is also a difficult choice and now it's up to your friend to decide and I think this can be more effective, of course, it's just that it still needs a number of conditions to really free him completely .

[carlfebz2]

Threats like this will not have any impact because indeed even when we are threatened but with a liking for gambling it will indeed be a little difficult.
But talking about the one who threatens is the closest person, so this is also a difficult choice and now it's up to your friend to decide and I think this can be more effective, of course, it's just that it still needs a number of conditions to really free him completely .

If we are talking about some friends or even just relatives then it should be fine but if we do speak someone we do love like our wives then it would really be no brainer that we would really be choosing her
than gambling unless if your addiction is really into that certain extent on which it is really that severe on which you do really exchange it for the sake of gambling. I agree on what most people been saying here that when you are engaging into something then you should really be letting knowing your wife whether he would really be having that approval or not but if she would opposes then its better
to respect it because they know the better good specially when it comes to money.

I agree on some sayings that being transparent is always best but even sometime i do make myself do hid up something from my wife specially on things i do know that she
would definitely disagree with it.

[X-ray]

I agree that's also my view if he is only honest and does not hide anything from his wife, his wife will let him gamble just moderately, wives have a budget to protect even if it's the husband's money he still has a concern because what both owns are conjugal, wives will be angry if the husband did not tell her about his huge winning it's like betraying her, but it's good that he choose his wife than gambling, relationship is important than gambling

His wife may have some bad opinions related to him. I meant his wife didn't know what happened with the cash flow. That's why being dishonest was making his wife put a lot of suspicions to his friend. He can try to talk with his wife privately and he can easily solve the problem.

He must be explaining the whole of cashflow that happened while he was on the journey dealing with gambling. The best way to fix his problem with his wife. His wife just need to make sure if he has not something bad being hidden from him like taking a loan from bank for gambling purpose. It's unacceptable for thing his wife.

[Don Pedro Dinero]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

It has not happened to me because I am quite rational in my use of gambling and I have been straightforward in explaining it. I don't hide, I say I do it, occasionally, in moderation, it doesn't put a hole in my finances and every now and then I take some extra money. I have not found myself in the situation but if my partner or previous partners had put me in the position of 'it's me or gambling', I would have left her. Not specifically because of the gambling issue but because I have very clear boundaries in my relationships.

[Cantsay]

Nah!!! Nobody in my house knows that I gamble.

And if perhaps they find out I highly doubt that they'll force me to stop because first of all the amount I do spend on gambling is very small so it's not something that will result in panic.
The only time they were supposed to have known was when I won a bet that gave me a large amount and due to that excitement, I almost broke the news to them but had to stop due to something.

I'm not married so I don't really know what my future wife believes will be toward gambling but if I have to quit gambling to save my marriage I won't be hesitant

[Strongkored]

Hahaha, your friend just needs to give a promise to his wife to tell her about every win he gets so actually his wife doesn't have a problem if he continues to gamble as long as there is a notification, then tell her every time he gambles because maybe your friend's wife will also be involved in her husband's game because it turns out Playing casino games is very fun, especially if you can win.
I often see that a marriage runs aground because the partner gambles and spends quite a lot of money without ever telling the partner but usually it will be very dangerous if the gambling is carried out to affect their family's finances because they use money for important things and also make them have debt because her husband gambled uncontrollably.
In my society, what's even sadder is that it often happens to poor families, husbands gamble because they think they can get money but the opposite happens because gambling is not a way to earn and sometimes it can be dangerous if done without responsibility.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I have never experienced this and because I can control myself enough when playing I understand how much I can spend and maybe it can go a little over the budget but it's still under control.

[macson]

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How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

in the case of your friend, the wife is not wrong, a husband and wife must prioritize communication and your friend is not honest with his gambling habits, so his wife is angry with him.

before marriage, i told my wife frankly about my gambling habit, at first she was surprised but I explained that it would not interfere with the family's finances, even though at first she was doubtful but I have shown proof, my gambling has never made us fight, even when i win big or lose big, i am open with my wife.

marriage is not easy, if you are not open with your partner then be prepared to always fight or worse > divorce.

[gabbie2010]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I don't usually hide anything from my wife so in case of gambling, firstly I am addicted to it I do gamble occasionally because of my knowledge in soccer and she is aware of it so I can't be threatened by wife because I haven't cross my boundary, secondly I only gamble with the amount of money I can afford to lose, checking through my record will reveal that my bet was played with small fund which wouldn't raise any eyebrows having know the implications of playing bet with huge amount of money and the risk of losing such a huge amount of money and it consequences even for my health and possibly and mistakenly revealing those losses to my wife.

[Outhue]

That'd a good woman, it's not about winning some money in the past and not telling her, if that's the case she won't mind but only warn him to always tell her when the husband win any money, but she just can't stand that she married a gambler, the risk is huge and if you think something is not right with what she did, pray that your younger sister married a gambler, you will see why it's bad then.

It's either you take your responsibility very seriously and control yourself when gambling or keep gambling as you feel like and stay away from married life.

[Pierre 2]

I was little threatened by my mum when I was around 18 because I was doing sports betting regularly. I told her that I do it casually and not wasting a lot of money but she was very angry and worried. Nowadays she doesn't care a lot. I heard from friends and relatives that most wives are very very worried about their husband's gambling habits. I think bad examples affect people so they are very worried they will experience similar issues.

[danherbias07]

First of all, your friend is such an idiot for not sharing his winnings with his wife. I mean, for me that's the best story I could tell her.

My wife knows I am gambling and she would know that I won a bet because I scream so hard at home cheering for the team that I bet for.  And I don't really mind telling her everything even my losing side because I don't really like keeping secrets between us too. IMO, that's not a healthy relationship and might end up like your example with your friend.
Trust is not easy to gain again once you lost it. And women are hard to please whenever you make a mistake. So it's just better to be honest with them until the time they won't even listen to what you tell them which gives you freedom to gamble. A little trick for gambling husbands here.

[Crypt0Gore]

That's women for you, if the man won a life changing money now you will see a different reaction, bit I can't blame her, getting wrecked because of gambling is very bad and for someone who has a family it's going to be bad, for the woman and the kids.

If you can beat the desperate taste for gambling then you have no problem, if you can gamble responsibly like others have said on this forum then it won't go bad, you will lose some money for sure but not a life ruining situation like some gamblers get themselves into.

The reason why I can't get addicted or have passion for gambling is because the losing part is inevitable, I don't want to know how smart you are, you will lose money when gambling, that's why using small amount of money is the best.

Always ask yourself, if I lose this money do I still have a life to go back to? Some people go extra miles, using some funds that's meant for securing a good life for your families and use such money for gambling, when losing is the game of gambling.

[piebeyb]

I was little threatened by my mum when I was around 18 because I was doing sports betting regularly. I told her that I do it casually and not wasting a lot of money but she was very angry and worried. Nowadays she doesn't care a lot. I heard from friends and relatives that most wives are very very worried about their husband's gambling habits. I think bad examples affect people so they are very worried they will experience similar issues.

I think your mother gave good advice for you to stop. Usually someone threatens us to stop gambling. He has had past experiences, whether he saw his friends or relatives who became gambling addicts and their lives were tormented, so that with past experiences, people will usually pressure them to stop. so that it doesn't get worse.

The danger of being an addict is when we lose our minds so we don't care about our family or the assets we have, sometimes addicts like that are dangerous because it's hard to stop someone from becoming an addict unless it comes from himself. I also have the same wife but this is where honesty is needed so that my wife can control me as well as limit spending my money on gambling.

[Wakate]

Earlier I used to gamble often and my girl know it well. At some point when financial issues arise, she started to indicate it as one of the reason. If I haven't gambled we could've been better in our finance. What she said is true, and taking that in mind I've reduced my gambling activities. However at some time period I used to gamble and this is completely a secret as most of the gamblers does.

This is a often scenerio and most time women always look for something to blame us for our misfortune. When they see that they are not getting what they expected from us, they do look for some excuses to blame us since we are not able to provide them with what they wanted. Sometimes we can even blame ourselves if the pressure is too much to bear.

I believe that she would be very happy if you tell her that you were able to make some huge profits from gambling which she would not mind you to continue gambling since you are getting profits from it. When the time for you to pay back, most time they might blame us for not been too conscious of the outcome before you.

[Mr. Magkaisa]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

   -  If that happens to me, it's simple as a person with a normal mind, of course I would choose my wife like that because she is important to me, although I made a big mistake. But we all deserve a second chance.

It seems like the woman's threat like that is a warning to me, maybe if I value gambling more that means I really don't want to gamble and that's not good either of course. So, it's really good that we still have control over our online casino gaming or stop it now.

[avp2306]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

   -  If that happens to me, it's simple as a person with a normal mind, of course I would choose my wife like that because she is important to me, although I made a big mistake. But we all deserve a second chance.

It seems like the woman's threat like that is a warning to me, maybe if I value gambling more that means I really don't want to gamble and that's not good either of course. So, it's really good that we still have control over our online casino gaming or stop it now.

Good decision to choose you wife over gambling since this is just supposed to be a past time and maybe he take those things seriously maybe she just made those threat to stop his husband on what he do since she already see that it damage them financially especially  when his husband is already hiding something to her. I never came unto this point as I always transparent on my finances to my girlfriend since I don't want this thing to cause trouble on our relationship.

[Doan9269]

so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

For someone to have advised a complete withdrawal for you in gambling means that you have not been performing well in some certain areas of life which is affecting them with the relationship they have built with you, I've not been in such position neither was i advises by someone before, but I've seen many cases that turned serious misunderstanding between two or more people on the issue of withdrawal from gambling, everything a the end will be accounted for their irresponsibility to the family, friends, work or any other areas we found ourselves attached to people.

[ethereumhunter]

I would prefer a wife even before I was threatened to choose to continue gambling or threatened by my wife because a wife is someone who will accompany my life until later. There's no need to threaten me to stop gambling because I know when to stop so it's pointless.

It's better to be honest even though it hurts because at least they know the situation and if we have problems, they can help overcome them. It's best if your friend tells the truth to his wife and tries to tell if he has a gambling addiction (if he has one).

[Doan9269]

I would prefer a wife even before I was threatened to choose to continue gambling or threatened by my wife because a wife is someone who will accompany my life until later. There's no need to threaten me to stop gambling because I know when to stop so it's pointless.

Only the immature gamblers will be given such an opinion which they must abide in other for them to maintain their relationship because they are either addicted or have no relevance in their recent life because of gambling, making them to loose focus and not plan for themselves or the family, if i were such, i will do more to the man than just advising withdrawal, i will definitely threat him with things so precious daring to him in ither to triger the force stop.

It's better to be honest even though it hurts because at least they know the situation and if we have problems, they can help overcome them. It's best if your friend tells the truth to his wife and tries to tell if he has a gambling addiction (if he has one).

There are things we cannot hide for long to someone close to us like our spouse, they will definitely know one day or someone got to tell them, which will be a disappointment on them that you're not reliable to have been hiding things from them all these while, it can even cause a separation, so if you gambles, let th know you do and gamble responsibly, no one will suggest you to withdraw when you're serious with your life and family.