Have you been threaten to stop gambling

[Mauser]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

No so far nobody has threatened me to stop gambling, I don't think this a very healthy way to end the relationship immediately because of it. On one side I can understand the wife, she feels betrayed by your friend that he his keeping such a huge secret from her and that he is losing a lot of money with it.   However, threatening to end a marriage over it seems a bit extreme to me.No idea how they run their household, in case they have separate accounts and both of them are working full time, then it seems fine to have some spare money to gamble with. But if they are low on cash and have bigger plans in life than it could be a huge issue to lose larger amounts of money. There will always be issues in a marriage and ending it all because of it seems wrong. A healthy relationship is realising there are issues talking openly about them. For me trust is one of the most important things in a relationship, that is also why I don't want to keep my gambling habit a secret. My advice would be to talk open about the topics in the future and don't keep big secrets from your wife.

[BobK71]

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There are many cases, like you said, where the husband ignores the threats that come to him and only plays gambling because gambling cannot be separated from him. And after some time, the family was threatened with separation and finally, it really happened while the husband and wife often fought. Their children became a broken home. And their children, because they often see their parents fight, eventually become unstable and often make trouble outside the home. That is why a gambler must really pay attention so that he does not become addicted to gambling so that it does not cause serious problems for his family.

Because the biggest bad impact of a gambling addict is the family after that, then the social environment in which he lives.
Yes, it's a shame that there are so many broken families that really can't be repaired just because of the impact of a husband who became a gambling addict, especially as you said that a child affected by a broken home becomes out of control and often causes trouble outside home just to be able to vent what he felt on his family.
The head of the household should be able to think more clearly and defend his family, but after all, everyone's thoughts and perceptions are different so we can only take lessons and shake our heads when we hear of cases like this.

I just look at the events around me because so many families have been torn apart due to uncontrolled gambling. None of this should have happened and if the head of the household doesn't play gambling or leaves before it's too late, they might still have a chance to improve their lives.

These are all valuable lessons for us to learn and avoid so that our families are not adversely affected by gambling, especially if they become addicted. We have to think about our children's future and prepare everything for them even though they will still have to try as we do. At least we have helped them to be able to get a much better life than us.

Gambling can give pleasure at the same time uncontrolled gambling can also endanger a person. We can't blame it on gambling. This is due to our greed. There are few gamblers who have lost control of their addiction that is why they stealing family money and losing it to gambling. There are many gamblers who have sold their houses or land but still gamble. They don't think about the future. Its effect is not only on their lives but also on their children. So a gambler should learn controlled gambling.

[Johnyz]

I was a bit addicted to gambling since my childhood but under my mother's rule I often abstained from gambling. But nowadays with various online casinos and gambling sites, my parents can't stop me from gambling. But one thing is very important because I am very young now and have the ability to control myself. So I don't indulge myself in gambling but my wife makes me this bad in Many times the urge to break out of the habit. However, with my wife's encouragement, I devote very little time to online casinos and gambling. I now stay away from betting only on IPL cricket. But my wife won't let me catch more than one bet every day.

I see this as not a threat but a way for your wife to help you prevent getting more addicted in gambling.
They might express their feelings in the wrong way but I'm sure, all they want is to have a better life and we know gambling is not good at all. Though if its a serious threat and they are already doing it, then I believe you have to consult the authority for this one, imagine being threatened for spending your own money, I think its not appropriate anymore. Be responsible in gambling, as much as possible better to let no one knows about your activities to avoid situation like this.

[yahoo62278]

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My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

If you have to hide things from your spouse, you probably married the wrong woman or man IMO. If you want to go gamble now and then you shouldn't have to hide it. Losing a large amount once or twice and trying to hide it to avoid the argument is another thing though. You probably need to go talk with a professional about your gambling habit if you cannot control yourself.

[ethereumhunter]

Gambling can give pleasure at the same time uncontrolled gambling can also endanger a person. We can't blame it on gambling. This is due to our greed. There are few gamblers who have lost control of their addiction that is why they stealing family money and losing it to gambling. There are many gamblers who have sold their houses or land but still gamble. They don't think about the future. Its effect is not only on their lives but also on their children. So a gambler should learn controlled gambling.

When greed comes, it can make us forget that we are already having fun playing gambling, so we must stop. But we don't stop but keep playing and even that can make us spend the money we have. And if they do steal their family's money, there is a possibility that they already have a gambling addiction that they are not aware of because all they can think about is gambling. And if they harm themselves and their families, as you say, they have such a severe gambling addiction that it will be difficult to cure.

[sunsilk]

Wife knows best. 

I was a bit addicted to gambling since my childhood but under my mother's rule I often abstained from gambling. But nowadays with various online casinos and gambling sites, my parents can't stop me from gambling. But one thing is very important because I am very young now and have the ability to control myself. So I don't indulge myself in gambling but my wife makes me this bad in Many times the urge to break out of the habit. However, with my wife's encouragement, I devote very little time to online casinos and gambling. I now stay away from betting only on IPL cricket. But my wife won't let me catch more than one bet every day.

At least you've got your wife on your back and she's there to monitor you if you're doing good or not. She just want to moderate you from gambling and that's typical with wives that's concern to their husbands.

Just like to the friend of OP, it's needed to give that ultimatum or else that guy won't stop and will continue to hide things from her.

[Zilon]

Gambling becomes a concern to loved ones when we spend so much time and resource gambling and maybe because no one knows i am a gambler, it hasn't brought any form of threat to me. Wives are jealous creatures and the don't want any thing or person that will share their spouse time and resource with them, i feel that is exactly what most addicts face when the abuse the fun, they get threatened by any available means so they can stop or become responsible with their passion.

[len01]

I was a bit addicted to gambling since my childhood but under my mother's rule I often abstained from gambling. But nowadays with various online casinos and gambling sites, my parents can't stop me from gambling. But one thing is very important because I am very young now and have the ability to control myself. So I don't indulge myself in gambling but my wife makes me this bad in Many times the urge to break out of the habit. However, with my wife's encouragement, I devote very little time to online casinos and gambling. I now stay away from betting only on IPL cricket. But my wife won't let me catch more than one bet every day.

you should at least thank your wife because she tried to get you out of the gambling addiction that could eventually destroy your family. and it seems you are also lucky to have a wife who still gives you the freedom to be able to gamble even if it's only one bet but in my opinion it's okay.
but I think the hope your wife has is for you to stop gambling once and for all.

[Gozie51]

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Things like gambling are not what should be kept away from spouse because you can't hide it forever just like smoking, one day you will be caught. It is better talked about before it gets exposed just like a thief will be exposed, caught or killed one day if they don't stop the act like your friend that foolishly saved his password in a browser. Having something to threaten you means you are not doing the right thing, no matter how a woman may dislike the attitude of the husband, a gambling habit should be opened because it involves huge losses and wins that can disorganize the home. Your friend is obviously an addict and not smart. He needs help from professional counsellors.

[pawanjain]

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My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Isn't that good ?

If someone is able to quit gambling whether willing or by getting threatened, in both case it's better for the individual himself.
It's not the women's fault and anybody would do the same. Why should one hide things from their partner especially when money is involved.
If you think from the women's perspective then she could have saved that money for their family or bought things in need.
It is obvious for her to get mad and threaten the husband.

[AicecreaME]

Gambling can give pleasure at the same time uncontrolled gambling can also endanger a person. We can't blame it on gambling. This is due to our greed. There are few gamblers who have lost control of their addiction that is why they stealing family money and losing it to gambling. There are many gamblers who have sold their houses or land but still gamble. They don't think about the future. Its effect is not only on their lives but also on their children. So a gambler should learn controlled gambling.

Gambling can bring you fortune and misfortune depending on how you will utilize it to your advantage. If you are disciplined and you will only gamble when you can afford it and stop when you no longer can't will have a great impact on your routine and the habits that you build overtime. If you want to just chill and relax without experiencing the negative side of gambling, then you must also do your very best to avoid endangering yourself from excessive gambling. Refrain from overspending money and your time in gambling. Indeed, it is important to be controlled and it should not just be disregarded to get the most out of it.

[madnessteat]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

If you have to hide things from your spouse, you probably married the wrong woman or man IMO. If you want to go gamble now and then you shouldn't have to hide it. Losing a large amount once or twice and trying to hide it to avoid the argument is another thing though. You probably need to go talk with a professional about your gambling habit if you cannot control yourself.

I absolutely agree with you. I sincerely don't understand such people. We all want to be in the comfort zone and have complete trust when starting our own family, but for some reason many people prefer to be in a constant state of tension because they need to hide things from their wives. Not only does my wife know that I gamble, she knows the passwords on my laptop and smartphone and even the sid-phrase from my Ledger. She's someone I trust completely and I want her to have everything I have if anything happens to me. If at some point we lose our trust then we have to break up, because without trust people become strangers.

[QueenVera]

We Have to understand  that gambling is a choice and people no matter the relationships should learn how to respect the choices of others and not making some threats because of the choice of what I love.
The best well to help assist someone especially  when we notice that they're going out of hand in gambling is simply calling them to order and not really doing so with some threats and I'm on this opinion  because I've been threatened  on several occasions with regards to gambling especially  by siblings and it make me feel very uncomfortable  discussing  anything related to gambling with them.
People have to understand  that gambling is a choice and people ought to respect people's  choices regardless what how ugly the choices might look.

[madnessteat]

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I believe that threats do not lead to anything good, and threats from the closest people are likely to lead to further conflicts, as bad situations remain in a person's memory for a long time. Certainly we should help people who have got addicted to games of chance but it is better to do it through experts as it is necessary to understand psychology or it is possible not to help the person but to make only worse.

[Sanitough]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Too bad he was never honest to his wife in the first place. If only he’s transparent about his gambling activities, I guess threatening will never happen. That’s the reason why I want to avoid being secretive from my wife because no matter how we hide from them, there will really come a time that we will still be caught and might even ruin the relationship. Luckily, my wife was also considerate with how I often spend money on gambling. At least, he knows that I am a gambler in the first place.

[Fatunad]

balance. Have to understand  that gambling is a choice and people no matter tge relationships should learn how to respect the choices of others and not making some threats because of the choice of what I love.
The best well to help assist someone especially  when we notice that they're going out of hand in gambling is simply calling them to order and not really doing so with some threats and I'm on this opinion  because I've been threatened  on several occasions with regards to gambling especially  by siblings and it make me feel very uncomfortable  discussing  anything related to gambling with them.

Everything should really be in balance on which it is really that something which is really that's important on whatever you are dealing with.We know that each person does have it own taking when it comes to gambling.There are one's who could really make out decisions on which you would really be able to tell which one is viable and which one is really that sensible to be done.
If you do come into a point on which your wife is already threatening that you would really be having that divorce if you can't able to quit up gambling then it would really be you choice on which ones you would be choosing.

If you can afford on losing your wife then go with this option and if not  then you should stop gambling for good
We are really would really be ending up with this condition of we aren't that sensible in our actions on which it would really be just normal that you would really be having this kind of approach.

[STT]

If its your money I cant see why'd it be a problem, situation there is the marriage is shared finances.   I dont know about the threat but its quite possible the wife is reasonable in mentioning its too much money, the heavy handed ultimatum is really unfortunate way to discuss anything with anyone.   I'd certainly half  or more the amounts gambled if its threatening security of a relationship, or just stopping for some months if you cant stop obviously that'd be more of a concern.  I do think its unreasonable to never allow someone to play, also the snooping is pretty awful also.

[Weawant]

So I don't indulge myself in gambling but my wife makes me this bad in Many times the urge to break out of the habit. However, with my wife's encouragement, I devote very little time to online casinos and gambling. I now stay away from betting only on IPL cricket. But my wife won't let me catch more than one bet every day.

Your wife is doing a good job because gamblers don't make good husband and fathers unless they're winning always and majority of gamblers aren't winning always for them to have enough money to spoil their wife and children instead they're taking from them.

Some gamblers are so addicted that only a threat can save them from been destroyed due to gambling addiction. For example, if the wife threaten to divorce him if he doesn't stop gambling since it's destroying the family, the man might reconsider his decisions.

I have heard of stories when families go broke because of the husband gambling addictions. If been gentle doesn't work then the wife or relations can try threatening the man so he rethinks his bad habit. Others shouldn't suffer for our poor decisions.

[rhomelmabini]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Yes but with a different issue and not gambling. Well, this is a bit complicated especially if you're too attached but if threatened I think the best thing in this situation is to assess first then decide after. After all it's just a talk between you two and wok things out, yeah you could not tell about your winnings or loss but if you can still provide to the family, what's the problem with that?

[Huppercase]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I don't think your friend is an idiot because the wife found out his logging details and enter his betting profile, but in marriage; that is how it work for some people, they don't hide things much from each other. I also think the wife was right to be manipulative to caution him with betting because how will you gambling with losses and don't think that you have family that are looking up to you, it is not a do or die affair but the wife went too far about ending the marriage but somehow, I like how the wife has help him fight that loss he has been acummulating, a day will come that you will want to cry when you check your bet history, always put precaution and caution rule on gambling addiction.