Gambling by financial dependents.

[alastantiger]

A family member reported to me that her eighteen years old son has started gambling. She is not worried that he is gaming but her problem is that he is a student that solely depends on her for everything he needs. Her fear is also that her son might start stealing from her if he has no access to the money he needs to gamble. My relative has even started suspecting that some money she feels was misplaced might have been stolen by her son.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

My advice to the young boy is that he should not gamble. He should quit now. He can start gambling when he is the one providing his own shelter and making his own money. This is the only time he should gamble. Gambling while not having any responsibility is very dangerous, it will make him believe that money comes easy.

My advice to his mother is that she should keep talking to him about the dangers of gambling at that young age, under her roof and with her money. She should take him to gamblers' meeting for him to sit through and hear the horror stories of others who gambled away their life, career, relationships and finances.

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[CODE200]

Since he is already eighteen years old and now on his legal age, we can no longer tell him what and what not to do. But it does not mean that we will just let him alone for he still need guidance of those who are more experienced than him. I think the best way that we can do about it is to make him realize the consequences the moment when he enters the world of gambling. At the end of the day, it's still his decisions but at least we did our part as a parent. Or we can tell him that he is still young, and there are lots of things that he can do other than gambling.

[Ever-young]

What will be your advice for this young boy?

The boy should try making his own money first in other for him to stop receiving all those embarrassment from his parent, because as long as his feeding, his transportation fares and every essential needs which he needs to foot the bills including school bills is coming from the parent, they will never stop calling him names and they will never believe most of the things that he is saying including some sort of bills that might arise from school they might think they are all made up in other for him to get some money that he can gamble with.

I really understand where the mother is coming from, as it's not easy to be spending money on a child, and yet it turns out that the child is wasting the money some where else (even when they are not apparently doing that) especially in this hard economy.

If the boy can't be able to at least be raising a personal money for himself he should try as much as he can to avoid his mother noticing his gambling activities or he should just stop it entirely for the main time, as it might even get to the point that the mum might reduce the allowance that's being given to him on weekly basis, in other for him not to have some left overs that could be use for gambling.  

[yahoo62278]

A family member reported to me that her eighteen years old son has started gambling. She is not worried that he is gaming but her problem is that he is a student that solely depends on her for everything he needs. Her fear is also that her son might start stealing from her if he has no access to the money he needs to gamble. My relative has even started suspecting that some money she feels was misplaced might have been stolen by her son.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

Tell him to get a job and stop depending on his mommy for money. If he is independent, then he can do whatever he wants with his money. He also needs to be responsible if he chooses that route as he can easily lose the money for his bills and such and be out of school and homeless fast.

[coolcoinz]

My advice to the young boy is that he should not gamble. He should quit now. He can start gambling when he is the one providing his own shelter and making his own money. This is the only time he should gamble. Gambling while not having any responsibility is very dangerous, it will make him believe that money comes easy.

My advice to his mother is that she should keep talking to him about the dangers of gambling at that young age, under her roof and with her money. She should take him to gamblers' meeting for him to sit through and hear the horror stories of others who gambled away their life, career, relationships and finances.

What if he's destined to be the next professional poker player or something? Don't try to put everyone in the same basket and operate on extremes, like people who say that you got to have a family or you'll never learn to be responsible, or that all people who have fast cars end up in accidents and drive irresponsibly, or that you shouldn't own a firearm because you'll end up killing someone. These are extremes.

I'd ask the kid if he's ever going into debt over it, what is his win rate, is he making money or losing it all the time. If he's good he should pursue this and maybe get into some tournaments, or get a job in the casino. It's not a bad industry to be in. He could have chosen much worse.

[aioc]

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

You're not a responsible gambler if you are using your parent's money to gamble, his mother is right in insisting that he stop gambling, because it's not easy to make money nowadays and he is still studying and gambling is such a big distraction even if his grades are good.
I will advise him that he can have all the time to gamble and the money he can spend to gamble that is after he graduated and earns his own money but while he is still under his parents he should respect and obey his parents by stopping and just focus on his study and make his parents proud.

[Jating]

A family member reported to me that her eighteen years old son has started gambling. She is not worried that he is gaming but her problem is that he is a student that solely depends on her for everything he needs. Her fear is also that her son might start stealing from her if he has no access to the money he needs to gamble. My relative has even started suspecting that some money she feels was misplaced might have been stolen by her son.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

I'm sorry though, but if this is just the beginning of his career in gambling, then I don't believed that he will be responsible enough not to get addicted to it. Specially that if he is winning and think that it will continue that way.

The best advise for this young boy is to really let him know the dangers of gamble. For me what he answers is just a defense mechanism. But it seems that he could really turn out to be a gambling addict in the future unless you really as a uncle will have to step up and give him the life lessons that a gambling can bring to him.

[Cantsay]

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

You really can’t really trust him to be able to control himself when it comes to gambling and since he newly just got into gambling he might be able to withstand that urge but trust me, when he starts to realize some wins he will feel the pressure to want to play more so that he can win more and that will eventually lead to him becoming addicted to gambling which in turn will make him starts to develop some unusual habits.

If he can limit himself to the bare minimum it will be better and he should also try to abstain from gambling sometimes even if he has the money to place a bet. Because has you have said, he only bets when he has money at hand and if he continues to bet each time money comes into his hand he’ll end up not being able to control himself anymore and it might even affect his saving habit.

[yudi09]

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

It is not the time for children of their parents to gamble even though they are already 18 years old because children at that age are still dependent on their parents who are still not ready to meet their own needs without the help of their parents.
I am afraid that the child may fall into addiction because gamblers who are over the age of 25 or more who are considered mature and ready to work to make ends meet can have a sad ending.

My advice to this kid is to stop and stay away from gambling before he is really ready even though from your observation he is a responsible gambler who is just having fun.
This is more to avoid before he gets addicted when tempted by winning large amounts of money.

[jrrsparkles]

A family member reported to me that her eighteen years old son has started gambling. She is not worried that he is gaming but her problem is that he is a student that solely depends on her for everything he needs. Her fear is also that her son might start stealing from her if he has no access to the money he needs to gamble. My relative has even started suspecting that some money she feels was misplaced might have been stolen by her son.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

He is 18 but still relies on family for any money then obviously I will not encourage him to gamble even if he is doing it with his savings from his pocket money. Because it is not his money so he doesn't know the responsibilities come along with money which is possible only if he starts making his own money by working his ass off.

If he still feels that gambling is giving the thrill then it is time for him to find a job and work 80 hours a week and save money from that which he can allocate for gambling and whatever entertainment he wants to pursue.

[Solosanz]

The best solution is the son and his mother should live separately to avoid this kind drama, 18 years old man already mature and living alone will make him able to do what anything he want, also learn many thing to survive.

He can't just live with his mother where he don't need to pay household, electricity cost, and foods, it will not able to help him to learn about financial management.

[pawanjain]

A family member reported to me that her eighteen years old son has started gambling. She is not worried that he is gaming but her problem is that he is a student that solely depends on her for everything he needs. Her fear is also that her son might start stealing from her if he has no access to the money he needs to gamble. My relative has even started suspecting that some money she feels was misplaced might have been stolen by her son.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

If I were at her position then I would probably teach him trading and investing. I would say him that if you want to gamble then consider it the same and try to make profits from it.
This way he would be able to have fun while learning to trade and make profits. Also, he could still play gambling games or pace bets out of the stipend by allocating 20% for gambling and 80% for trading.
You just have to find a way to know what is working for him. There are other ways to try as well. For instance, I would tell him to earn some money now that he is 18 and then he can gamble what he has earned.
This way he would start earning on his own and learn to value money. Probably he would quit gambling after this since he would know how hard it is to earn money.

[ryzaadit]

Do you know?

The gambling addiction are starting like these, as the gambler sad to see for a young people who don't know anything about gambling are doing gamble. I don't mind for gambler shill about gambling to other gambler.

But, for people who are just fresh people. Feel sad.

[Josefjix]

He is 18 but still relies on family for any money then obviously I will not encourage him to gamble even if he is doing it with his savings from his pocket money. Because it is not his money so he doesn't know the responsibilities come along with money which is possible only if he starts making his own money by working his ass off.

If he still feels that gambling is giving the thrill then it is time for him to find a job and work 80 hours a week and save money from that which he can allocate for gambling and whatever entertainment he wants to pursue.

He's barely up to 20 and started gambling, ofcourse he's supposed to take good care of himself while growing up, and his mother should support him in all areas and give him more advices about how to go with the whole thing. The teenager is growing, and there is every reason for suspicion that he will become addicted, which means he will desire to generate more money from the system. It's better that he's stopped since gambling consumes the mind and, before we know it, he's gradually becoming an addicted gambler. He is youthful and capable of accomplishing anything. He should be convinced to refrain from gambling as soon as possible because the repercussions are catastrophic.

[Rruchi man]

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble.

If he has not yet stolen from his mother to gamble, maybe he will in the future or if not from his mother, maybe he will steal from someone else who is not family. If he does not steal or the type that can steal, he is not excluded from being involved in other illegal activity that will fund the new habit he is learning. Gambling is not something that someone young should becoming addicted to, it can be the gateway to other addictions and lead to life long problems.

This young boy need to understand how dangerous his actions are and how dangerous they can become if he continues gambling. He has to have an idea that addiction is possible so he either stops or be prepared to make sure that his gambling does not get out of control.

[bitzizzix]

My advice is especially for children's mothers, if mothers know their children like gambling. The step he took was how to prevent his son from gambling.
Forget what he lost and the accusations his son took and focus on helping his son not get too far or addicted, because I don't think he deserves it yet because he's still in school. And another reason is that he does not have a job or income that he is free to use as he pleases.
And I think that's very important because a mother's role is very influential on her child, and if she always blames or accuses her child of stealing because there is no real evidence, it will only make her child feel depressed. Because gambling involves uncontrollable emotions and self-control and it will make things worse.

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I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

Even if he gambles using the money he has set aside from what he gets from his family, it is still his family's money, he should use it for something more useful, for example to buy milk, vitamins, studies, or other things. It is inappropriate for a student to gamble because what they are doing should be studying, not gambling like what adults do.
His parents' worries are also fundamental, because after all gambling is something addictive, moreover he is still young which is still unstable and could have done all kinds of ways so he can gamble, and that includes stealing or robbing on another day.

[$crypto$]

A man who is 18+ should be able to take responsibility for earning his own living but if all the expenses are still borne by his parents including his unfinished schooling then he will not be able to work unless he continues to rely on the money flowing from his parents.

Gambling with the age of 18 is still said to be bad especially if he is a student who is still educated, even if you say the nephew is responsible about gambling but we never know behind what he did, maybe the lost money was his doing because of his gambling addiction, we never expect it if it happens.

My advice is to advise the person not to gamble once he is still unable to earn, this is not a good way unless he has a job and there is a great sense of responsibility in him.

As a parent myself, I will reprimand the child.

[Oasisman]

What will be your advice for this young boy?

My advise for him is to put a stop on what he's doing, not because I don't want to see him gambling but because it is not the perfect time yet for him to engage in this kind of activity. Anyone who are not capable of generating his own income is not advisable to do gambling. Why? because once they get hooked up with it, they might start stealing just like what you said or find fraudulent and illegal things to make easy money and go back to gambling. I've seen people who's like this.
The kid needs to finish his study first so he can land a good paying job that would sustain his gambling needs in the future. That is how you explain it to him. Gambling activities might cause him to lost focus on studies and worse he'd drop out.

[Huppercase]

A family member reported to me that her eighteen years old son has started gambling. She is not worried that he is gaming but her problem is that he is a student that solely depends on her for everything he needs. Her fear is also that her son might start stealing from her if he has no access to the money he needs to gamble. My relative has even started suspecting that some money she feels was misplaced might have been stolen by her son.

She is in better position to know the kind of son she gave birth to, gambling doesn't makes one steal unless there is an addiction in place, if he is playing for the fun of it, it's great and let him be, with time he will find out if it's worth gambling or not because the boy is already an adult and by that, an adult has the right to do whatever he chose so long the stuff he is doing is not illegally and in moderate condition. I think she can do an extra parenting by guiding him instead of been afraid.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

If he has never stolen before, it means the boy had a good discipline and the parent should continue to monitor him in that path, it's possible that gambling addiction can make him do the wrong things but if he is watch, he will gamble normally. I am also in support of the parent not allow him use his school pocket money to gamble, they should also watch his transaction history to check if he has been depositing money into gambling platforms. It's better the parent do the work of parenting than try to force him to stop, he could stop and may do more of gambling in there absent.