Gambling by financial dependents.

[Casdinyard]

If the boy is that interested in continuing to gamble, then i'd suggest creating a spreadsheet and listing every transaction and bet he made as proof that he's a responsible gambler. I know stopping would be for the best, but i'd assume he won't stop because even if he says yes, there could still be a chance for him to gamble secretly. Having a spreadsheet and tracking his every gambling move gives him at least the awareness because you never know when he'll start to make mistakes and possibly develop an addiction.

I really like this suggestion. This will make the parents calm on worrying their children to become addicted since they can track the gambling activities of the boy. I think adding transaction link or pictures that will serves as proof on the balance history will make this spreadsheet reliable and can't be tampered by the boy when he wants to hide his addiction.

It's easy to control gambling if you track your progress and also if you knew that someone will monitor your activity. Being open to each other will make this small issue solve without the boy show a rebellious traits because he is being stopped to gamble while he can do it secretly.

Arguably a better workaround in my opinion. Not only does this help him track his expenses and all that budgety-stuff. If he presents this to his parents this could also be grounds for them to trust him more, maybe even let him to his own devices eventually although I could only assume that taking a long-ass time before happening. Still, it establishes responsibility and most importantly a trust system that enables his parents to believe him and trust him, beyond the fact that it opens his eyes to just how much he spends every time he gambles.

Or he could just quit, saves him the trouble from the nagging and all that nasty stuff.

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[klidex]

Your story reminds me of a case in my city not long ago a minor was addicted to playing slots and this child was only 14 years old until he owed his neighbor a total of $40 and after that when he ran out of money he stole goods from his neighbors to sell and the money is used for gambling.
At first all the neighbors not suspect that the boy was stealing because they did not know about his gambling activities, but one night my friend tried to lurk in someone house and saw the boy and his friend stealing things and my friend caught them and was interrogated, all of them turned out to be playing slot.

After that, best way is to return it to the parents and put it in a psychology doctor to give lessons about the dangers of gambling and carry out rehabilitation and also when the child is given less money at home, which is only enough to buy food and drinks.
Maybe this method is a little more helpful and the most appropriate way only his family can determine.

[Cling18]

As parents. it is still our responsibility to guide or remind our children about the negative effects of gambling though they have reached the right age to gamble. We still have a part not to control everything but to advise them to do it wisely and never fall for gambling addiction.

If we know that our children are still financially dependent then we can say that they still aren't ready for gambling because to be honest, their gambling journey will still affect our finances and they still aren't knowledgeable of handling finances wisely since they aren't earning it.

If our children reach 18, that doesn't necessarily mean that they could gamble if they couldn't sustain it. We must let them do it when they already have their own source of income because if we will just let them rely on us when it comes to gambling, we will only end up regretting things because if they aren't prepared for it financially and emotionally, it will cause damage in the end.

[Lida93]

If the boy is that interested in continuing to gamble, then i'd suggest creating a spreadsheet and listing every transaction and bet he made as proof that he's a responsible gambler. I know stopping would be for the best, but i'd assume he won't stop because even if he says yes, there could still be a chance for him to gamble secretly. Having a spreadsheet and tracking his every gambling move gives him at least the awareness because you never know when he'll start to make mistakes and possibly develop an addiction.

I really like this suggestion. This will make the parents calm on worrying their children to become addicted since they can track the gambling activities of the boy. I think adding transaction link or pictures that will serves as proof on the balance history will make this spreadsheet reliable and can't be tampered by the boy when he wants to hide his addiction.

It's easy to control gambling if you track your progress and also if you knew that someone will monitor your activity. Being open to each other will make this small issue solve without the boy show a rebellious traits because he is being stopped to gamble while he can do it secretly.

It is very easy for we all to see it that way that the spreadsheet recommendation will be reliable, because counting the cost, that's just another way of giving more burden to the mother having to spend quality time tracking the child's gambling habit when he could just stop and save the mum the stress.... Moreover the child is still young and there's much time for him to gamble after he's done with school and financial independent.

You can't control a gambler if he has not first of all control himself. No mechanism you use can, and when a gambler is not yet satisfied with how much he has gambled for the day he can conceal a means to gamble more secretly to the ignorance of those trying to monitor him.

[stomachgrowls]

A family member reported to me that her eighteen years old son has started gambling. She is not worried that he is gaming but her problem is that he is a student that solely depends on her for everything he needs. Her fear is also that her son might start stealing from her if he has no access to the money he needs to gamble. My relative has even started suspecting that some money she feels was misplaced might have been stolen by her son.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

Try to give some advise on stopping that gambling habit because rather than on spending those allowance on gambling, then it would be better if those funds would be make use on other means on which you would be

able to utilize and able to buy something which is really that worthy and not on spending on something that cant really be giving out that assurance on making money or totally depending on luck. We know that gambling could give out those kind of probabilities and this might be the main reason on why that kid really loves on gambling which winning up some huge amount which is something that could make him buy on what he want.
This is the main problem when you do have this kind of intent on your mind on which it would really be that driving force for you to play even more.

Advises might work but not likely specially if this kid had been doing this for a while now. As long he arent stealing or doing some shit things then it should be fine but on the time that he's already
that stealing up something then this is a solid indicative sign that he's already addicted to it.

[BitcoinPanther]

A family member reported to me that her eighteen years old son has started gambling. She is not worried that he is gaming but her problem is that he is a student that solely depends on her for everything he needs. Her fear is also that her son might start stealing from her if he has no access to the money he needs to gamble. My relative has even started suspecting that some money she feels was misplaced might have been stolen by her son.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

I would advice him to stop gambling.  Imagine the hardworks his parents is going through just to provide his needs, then all of a sudden instead of saving the money he spend it on gambling.  It is not a matter of whether he steals or not.  It is a matter of giving value to the money his parents is giving him as an allowance and as a dependent, he should think the sacrifices of his parents and should stop gambling because his parents wanted him to stop, as a respect he must heed his parents advice.

He can then continue his gambling activities or engagement if he is not dependent on his parents or working and getting fund for gambling himself.

[Westinhome]

Your story reminds me of a case in my city not long ago a minor was addicted to playing slots and this child was only 14 years old until he owed his neighbor a total of $40 and after that when he ran out of money he stole goods from his neighbors to sell and the money is used for gambling.
At first all the neighbors not suspect that the boy was stealing because they did not know about his gambling activities, but one night my friend tried to lurk in someone house and saw the boy and his friend stealing things and my friend caught them and was interrogated, all of them turned out to be playing slot.

After that, best way is to return it to the parents and put it in a psychology doctor to give lessons about the dangers of gambling and carry out rehabilitation and also when the child is given less money at home, which is only enough to buy food and drinks.
Maybe this method is a little more helpful and the most appropriate way only his family can determine.

Some children doesn't have enough money to play the gambling,So such children will do the steal habit and it only reflected after complete monitoring.Because the neighbor will not focus the children at the beginning,mostly they target the workers of their house.So the children will not get enough money to play the gambling in long run.The best way for the children is they need to win the big amount before being captured by the neighbor.From the winning money the children will play the gambling on the upcoming days.

[Fatunad]

Your story reminds me of a case in my city not long ago a minor was addicted to playing slots and this child was only 14 years old until he owed his neighbor a total of $40 and after that when he ran out of money he stole goods from his neighbors to sell and the money is used for gambling.
At first all the neighbors not suspect that the boy was stealing because they did not know about his gambling activities, but one night my friend tried to lurk in someone house and saw the boy and his friend stealing things and my friend caught them and was interrogated, all of them turned out to be playing slot.

After that, best way is to return it to the parents and put it in a psychology doctor to give lessons about the dangers of gambling and carry out rehabilitation and also when the child is given less money at home, which is only enough to buy food and drinks.
Maybe this method is a little more helpful and the most appropriate way only his family can determine.

Some children doesn't have enough money to play the gambling,So such children will do the steal habit and it only reflected after complete monitoring.Because the neighbor will not focus the children at the beginning,mostly they target the workers of their house.So the children will not get enough money to play the gambling in long run.The best way for the children is they need to win the big amount before being captured by the neighbor.From the winning money the children will play the gambling on the upcoming days.

Simply cut the money source on which this would be simply be cutting off with that bad habit. If the parents of that boy would really be limiting out on giving that allowance or giving the amount which its only sufficient for

his commute or food spending then he would definitely be doubts on using it on gambling.This is the only way which i could really be able to say on which is to minimize or cut off extra money for him to be able to play.
There are people or type of person who cant really be able to do bad things despite on being addicted.They are really that still in good control with their sense and awareness on whats good and bad.
On the time that they cant play just because they dont have the budget, then they would eventually be able to overcome out that kind of impulsive dealing with gambling.

As a parent then better to give them some advises about on stopping or cutting on dealing with gambling which it isnt really that good. This would really be making you as a gambler
which we know that spending up money would really be limitless on the time that you do have the funds then you would continue on doing it.

[Sim_card]

A family member reported to me that her eighteen years old son has started gambling. She is not worried that he is gaming but her problem is that he is a student that solely depends on her for everything he needs. Her fear is also that her son might start stealing from her if he has no access to the money he needs to gamble. My relative has even started suspecting that some money she feels was misplaced might have been stolen by her son.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

I would advice him to stop gambling.  Imagine the hardworks his parents is going through just to provide his needs, then all of a sudden instead of saving the money he spend it on gambling.  It is not a matter of whether he steals or not.  It is a matter of giving value to the money his parents is giving him as an allowance and as a dependent, he should think the sacrifices of his parents and should stop gambling because his parents wanted him to stop, as a respect he must heed his parents advice.

He can then continue his gambling activities or engagement if he is not dependent on his parents or working and getting fund for gambling himself.

Since he is not working yet,there is no need for him to gamble. I know that he must have being doing much of it that was why his mom was aware of his gambling activities. If he wants to gamble let the boy wait until he is independent of his parents,then he can use his hard earned money to do whatever he likes. Can you imagine that the parents of the boy might not be a gambler but a fraction of the house income goes on gambling due to giving their son pocket money and he set it aside for gambling. If he is not cautioned, the boy might end up stealing to gamble because he is not working.

[bitbollo]

A family member reported to me that her eighteen years old son has started gambling. She is not worried that he is gaming but her problem is that he is a student that solely depends on her for everything he needs. Her fear is also that her son might start stealing from her if he has no access to the money he needs to gamble. My relative has even started suspecting that some money she feels was misplaced might have been stolen by her son.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

Sound a bit "Extreme". There are many many steps, layers, I mean, everything literally, before some one start to steal just to play some bets.
Even with few bucks like a couple of bets during the weekend... Its like he start to drink some beers during lunch "he Is on alcohol" .... Come on .... Only one suggestion for the boy: have fun and enjoy your time without wasting money!

[Johnyz]

He’s too young to be called a responsible gamblers because its hard to tell the truth and if that guy started to experience big losses, there’s a chance for him to do something that might affect his young life.

I don’t know what’s happening in our generation now where many young people are already into gambling, its too risky for them and we know the possible risk of being exposed in gambling.

[goaldigger]

He’s too young to be called a responsible gamblers because its hard to tell the truth and if that guy started to experience big losses, there’s a chance for him to do something that might affect his young life.

I don’t know what’s happening in our generation now where many young people are already into gambling, its too risky for them and we know the possible risk of being exposed in gambling.

21 is the legal age in my country but many are still playing despite of the age limit and if you’re still dependent with your allowance then your parents should call your attention and have to talk to you. Imagine at that age you are already into gambling, I don’t want to judge but hopefully you OP can help your cousin to get out of that gambling hobby because it can into addiction later on.

[Lida93]

A family member reported to me that her eighteen years old son has started gambling. She is not worried that he is gaming but her problem is that he is a student that solely depends on her for everything he needs. Her fear is also that her son might start stealing from her if he has no access to the money he needs to gamble. My relative has even started suspecting that some money she feels was misplaced might have been stolen by her son.

I spoke to my nephew and he told me that he has never stolen from his mother to gamble. And he gambles with only his savings from his weekly stipend he receives from the family. And he won't gamble if he has no savings to do that. From my observation, he is a responsible gambler that is just enjoying the game and making a little money occasionally. The gambling age in my country is 18+, but his mother is insisting that he must stop. What will be your advice for this young boy?

I would advice him to stop gambling.  Imagine the hardworks his parents is going through just to provide his needs, then all of a sudden instead of saving the money he spend it on gambling.  It is not a matter of whether he steals or not.  It is a matter of giving value to the money his parents is giving him as an allowance and as a dependent, he should think the sacrifices of his parents and should stop gambling because his parents wanted him to stop, as a respect he must heed his parents advice.

He can then continue his gambling activities or engagement if he is not dependent on his parents or working and getting fund for gambling himself.

Since he is not working yet,there is no need for him to gamble. I know that he must have being doing much of it that was why his mom was aware of his gambling activities. If he wants to gamble let the boy wait until he is independent of his parents,then he can use his hard earned money to do whatever he likes. Can you imagine that the parents of the boy might not be a gambler but a fraction of the house income goes on gambling due to giving their son pocket money and he set it aside for gambling. If he is not cautioned, the boy might end up stealing to gamble because he is not working.

As fair as it could be he just has to stop gambling since he's not yet living on his own but entirely dependent on his parents. One thing for sure is that those pockets money giving to him by the parents were given under the notion of him using it to get few things for himself but to show how irresponsible he is based on his age he's rather redirecting the monies to gambling. Money the parents could used to solve other family needs In the house.

If I were to be his parents I would temporarily terminate giving him pocket money and put him on strict surveillance, because gambling is not something that people without any source of income should engage in not to talk of a dependant, the end there of is that he will start stealing from the parents and relatives to satisfy his gambling lifestyle and for people like that addiction is easy to get hold of them.

[Stedsm]

Well, he's of legal age if we talk about your country, so I don't think he's doing anything wrong (if and only if, he's not stealing anything and that, your family member is telling you the complete truth and there isn't any violence involved here - because when it comes to money, a person can do anything).

Now, even if he's doing it for fun and is of legal age, just try to make him understand that this isn't a source of income and so, he shouldn't take it so seriously as it might get tough for him to leave it as and when he wants if he starts seeing it as a way to earn money, which gambling isn't. I'd advice you to go with him and watch his gambling activities personally like a guardian because in such cases, parental guidance is necessary and if his mother is okay with him, you should still catch up with him and monitor him whenever he gambles.

[ChiBitCTy]

I think this one is pretty simple, the mother needs to cut him off period.  I know that this may seem hard/harsh, but it sounds like if she just keeps feeding him money, he's going to just continue to use it to gamble, so cut him off and see how he likes that.  He's of age where he can live and work and fend for himself on his own..so put him to the test. 

This is what I would do anyhow.

[anjiitem]

What will be your advice for this young boy?

If he is already familiar with the world of gambling then actually that is very unfortunate, but in my opinion sometimes in life things like that they need to know as well as long as there is someone who can control and direct him not to overdo it in gambling or other negative activities.
I think you are someone he respects because your nephew is telling the truth to you, so my suggestion is that maybe you can be a role model for your nephew and be someone who directs him that gambling is okay as long as it's not excessive and provides understanding and explanation to him that the system in gambling is mostly to the detriment of the gambler so let him judge for himself so they can proceed to appreciate the money they get more.
Then you can also teach him or give advice to your nephew so that the money he gets instead of being used for gambling should be used to invest to save his future.

[DoublerHunter]

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What will be your advice for this young boy?

^ I think the best thing that you can do for now with your nephew is to give some advice.
Encourage her family member and her son to have an open and honest conversation about his gambling habits. This could help them better understand each other's perspectives and find common ground. Suggest to your nephew the importance of setting clear limits for his gambling activities. He could decide on a specific amount of money he's comfortable using for gambling and sticks to it, ensuring he does not dip into essential funds. You can help them in different ways.

[goinmerry]

What will be your advice for this young boy?

Will our advice, comments, and suggestion will probably reach the said boy?

I think any advice that we will say here doesn't matter because, in the first place, you know that boy more than us. It's easy for us to say, "go tell that kid to stop", as if it will really stop and ends there. I know you know what to do more than us here and no need for us to specifically advice what should the boy must do.

As per your observation, the kid is a responsible gambler at young age therefore you just need to do some tweaks to just enjoy the gambling for now and don't take it seriously. Have time to give that kid a friendly talk then observe what will happen later on.

You can do it, bro. It's in your hands now where that kid should go.

[maydna]

Better to prevent than to keep letting him play gambling because we don't know whether he can really be responsible while playing gambling or get out of control during gambling. But usually, at only eighteen years old, he is prone to losing control and getting emotional, so it is better if you advise him to stop gambling. After all, there are still many interesting things that he can do at such a young age, such as doing things that can distract him so that he can gradually reduce his time playing gambling. Usually, this depends on the concern of the people around him, how the parents supervise him, and how close the child is to his parents and other family members. So if he is very close to his parents and other family members, they can start helping him by giving him attention or making him think that it is best to leave gambling before something bad happens.

[mirakal]

Mother always knows best. But at this time, even if his mother will consistently discourage him from gambling, we cannot guarantee that his son will follow her. The fact that online gambling is just one click away, that makes it even harder on part of the parents to stop their son from continuous gambling. But as you’ve said OP, the boy seems gambling responsibly, and at his current age, he’s mature enough to think what is right from wrong. In the future, if he’ll steal money from his mother just to finance his gambling, I know it will never bring him good in the long run so he’ll still learn his own lesson from doing so.