Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

[goaldigger]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

If my partner sees that I’m already addicted and gambling affects our relationship and our family, then definitely yes because he/she will not tell you this if you are still doing fine. Well, I do gamble occasionally only so there’s no harm for me to stop gambling anytime and I’m ready for it. Know that you should respect your partner and choose what’s the best for your family, don’t be selfish and don’t think about yourself only.

[Oluwa-btc]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

I can only stop gambling if it affects me negatively and not positively. These are a little that will make me stop gambling, I do not need to be lectured when I'm over doing it.

1) When it affects my retirement plans I'm off.
2) Gambling ends the day, I begin borrowing to gamble.
3) Gambling officially ends the day i begin selling luxuries around to gamble

There are more to be attached but these, I can remember very well. As much as you're self aware, you do not need to be told before you stop.

[uneng]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

I think for my partner to complain about my gambling habits that means it has gotten to a stage that it is becoming dangerous to me or affecting the family financially,  I have no choice than to stop just for peace to reign in the family. I don't think if gambling is really favouring me my wife would want me to stop , so if my wife ask me  to stop gambling I will listen to her expecially if I have really check myself if to continue playing gamble is good for me. It is only something that is affecting men negatively that their wife will always be worried of, if it is something benefiting the family she won't complain.

If you trust and sees your wife always as a reasonable, wise and sensible person, then go ahead and do as she says. However, in other cases her opinion may only reflect a personal insecurity or fear she has about the husband's gambling behavior. She might not have any reasons to argue he is addicted to gambling or harming the family through his hobby, but still want him to stop, because she fears it will grow and get more intense at some point that he won't be able to leave anymore. Then I think the husband must be the reasonable person in the conversation to calm her down and explain he doesn't need to stop gambling in order to avoid an addiction and potential further negative consequences. The couple can reach a middle term, without extreme outcomes for both sides.

[Accardo]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

You must have been a terrible husband for your wife for your wife to say that you should stop gambling. Gambling has ended some relationships and marriage because of the lack of mutual understanding. I don't there is any reason why your wife will tell you not to gamble, not nice unless there is a reason that justify her demand, I will not do it because I will not stop her from doing her hobbies either so long it doesn't affect her marital vows and same goes to mine as well.

If she give her own reasons why I should quit gambling and points are pick, I will quit because I will equally do anything to save my marriage but if she just feel like I need to quit without any concrete reason, then I'm afraid I can't because some people naturally don't like gamblers, they don't want to see anything like gambling around them, I'm not sure why they are wired like that but those people need to chill, there's nothing wrong with gambling.

He doesn't necessarily have to be a bad husband until such request emerges out of his wife's mouth. Mutual understanding plays a long role in choices and decision of people, especially married couple. The wife may come from a home where gambling is forbidden. She won't feel comfortable staying with a gambler for the rest of her life. She'll never get complete rest and harmony, until you stop and explain better. And it'll take a long time to build the mutual understanding before she'll allow you gamble or even join. But, stopping immediately she suggests it can help fasten the time it'll take before she gets comfortable with gambling. Because the attitudes we exhibit in a family can make the naysayer a yeasayer. She may have been set aside for a quarrel, before mentioning that to her husband. So, the best choice is to follow her guidance. Given time she'll wonder, why things changed with this particular gambler. Maybe the gamblers she's met in her life were toxic and would go crazy when someone tells them to stop. It depends on the beginning of the woman. Two wrongs can't make a right. Soon, the woman can see in the attitude of her husband that she, the woman, is wrong. The point is that agreeing to her terms should be the first step, towards letting her understand gambling better; mutualism. As she'll definite need her husband to know more on gambling. She'd ask questions like; why do you gamble? how did you start gambling? how much have you made in gambling? wives will definitely ask the last question. How we present the answers can build for the both parties a better discussion sections on gambling. With examples and proves. No matter how long it takes to convince her, it'll look like few days. When you look back. The fun of convincing your wife to understand the benefits and primary aim of gambling. Causes of gambling addiction. These are things that can be memorable and makes fun, the marriage. All can't be the same. Hence we must make every thing we do fun. Follow with caution.

[Iroh]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

If the opinions of random people and associates doesn’t really matter to you, the opinions of your significant other should be, at the very least be taken into consideration.

As a family, your shame or glory also rubs off on your partner. Sometimes, we can be oblivious or purposefully dismissive to the negative effects our habits brings and what better person to notice all these and try to call you to order than your partner.
Communication is important in a healthy relationship and putting aside your pride to listen to opinions from your partner could grow and strengthen your relationship and trust in each other.

[AmoreJaz]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

If the opinions of random people and associates doesn’t really matter to you, the opinions of your significant other should be, at the very least be taken into consideration.

As a family, your shame or glory also rubs off on your partner. Sometimes, we can be oblivious or purposefully dismissive to the negative effects our habits brings and what better person to notice all these and try to call you to order than your partner.
Communication is important in a healthy relationship and putting aside your pride to listen to opinions from your partner could grow and strengthen your relationship and trust in each other.

not only the shame or glory, but one the important factors here is the financial condition of the family. this is why it is good to discuss it with your better half because we all know that one major reasons of trouble at home is owed to financial aspect of living.
so you need to seriously consider your gambling habit if you think it is causing financial imbalance in your family.

[Johnyz]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

Definitely yes, there’s no point on not leaving gambling and making your partner feel bad for you.
Gambling is just there to entertain, and have some money which you can also get on other market or other way so  better to follow your partner and have a happy life. If you want to entertain then play some games or sports, and if you want to have some profit then make a business or you can just trade, there’s a lot of alternatives for gambling so don’t make any excuses for this.

[zuzie]

That's right! It's not that you gotta hide what you're into from who you're with.  More like, be open and take responsibility for those things youre into and  whoever you end up marrying, that's a person you'll share your whole life with.  So you gotta have real talks about your hobbies and stuff how they'll maybe affect your relationship.

Agree, it would be good if we were open to our wives about the hobbies we like, even if it's about gambling, but our wives have to know everything about us, there's nothing to hide if you talk to your wife about gambling hobbies, she can accept it or not That is a consequence that we must accept, so as not to damage relationships in a family because of the mistake you made, namely lying to your wife.

[Hispo]

If her motivations are reasonable, then yes. I could see quiting some habits and perhaps a hobby if she can convince me those are leading the relationship towards a bad end.
Though, knowing myself, I know I would feel inflexible at first and try to keep doing what I like, though, in the end the most important thing for anyone is family and a wife is part of it.

If we have children and she asked me to do so for the sake of them and not to endanger their economical well being, I would then accept but if she can also promise to show some sacrife as well and save money herself from other activies and whims she spends money on, like shopping unnecessary stuff or eating in fancy places more than she is supposed to.

I would even encourage her to put that cash in a long term saving account for our holidays or something like it. I would not marry someone who would be willing to ask me for sacrifices when she would not do the same.

[shogun47]

If her motivations are reasonable, then yes. I could see quiting some habits and perhaps a hobby if she can convince me those are leading the relationship towards a bad end.
Though, knowing myself, I know I would feel inflexible at first and try to keep doing what I like, though, in the end the most important thing for anyone is family and a wife is part of it.

If we have children and she asked me to do so for the sake of them and not to endanger their economical well being, I would then accept but if she can also promise to show some sacrife as well and save money herself from other activies and whims she spends money on, like shopping unnecessary stuff or eating in fancy places more than she is supposed to.

I would even encourage her to put that cash in a long term saving account for our holidays or something like it. I would not marry someone who would be willing to ask me for sacrifices when she would not do the same.

Great point of view and it could also express her deep desire and appreciation for the relationship if she is brave enough to raise her voice. I think many relationships are not necessarily very balanced and a wife would feel like she better not say anything. As you said, in the first moment it may feel awkward, but that's the case for both. But in hindsight I think as a man the right course of action would be carefully consider what's actually happening and why she said what she said instead of instantly feeling the need to push her back and stick to the habit.

As for sacrifices have to come from both sides, well I guess it depends on what we are talking about. Gambling can be a dangerous thing and a wife might feel anxiety that even if it seems to be under control today, it could get out of control tomorrow. It's not like she asks a partner to stop playing soccer for fun or not go swimming anymore. These hobbies don't involve the potential for addictions and tough long-term consequences.

[Hispo]

If her motivations are reasonable, then yes. I could see quiting some habits and perhaps a hobby if she can convince me those are leading the relationship towards a bad end.
Though, knowing myself, I know I would feel inflexible at first and try to keep doing what I like, though, in the end the most important thing for anyone is family and a wife is part of it.

If we have children and she asked me to do so for the sake of them and not to endanger their economical well being, I would then accept but if she can also promise to show some sacrife as well and save money herself from other activies and whims she spends money on, like shopping unnecessary stuff or eating in fancy places more than she is supposed to.

I would even encourage her to put that cash in a long term saving account for our holidays or something like it. I would not marry someone who would be willing to ask me for sacrifices when she would not do the same.

Great point of view and it could also express her deep desire and appreciation for the relationship if she is brave enough to raise her voice. I think many relationships are not necessarily very balanced and a wife would feel like she better not say anything. As you said, in the first moment it may feel awkward, but that's the case for both. But in hindsight I think as a man the right course of action would be carefully consider what's actually happening and why she said what she said instead of instantly feeling the need to push her back and stick to the habit.

As for sacrifices have to come from both sides, well I guess it depends on what we are talking about. Gambling can be a dangerous thing and a wife might feel anxiety that even if it seems to be under control today, it could get out of control tomorrow. It's not like she asks a partner to stop playing soccer for fun or not go swimming anymore. These hobbies don't involve the potential for addictions and tough long-term consequences.

Right, playing football or swimming does not involve future risk as gambling could develop into. But you have also keep in mind that in the eyes of the husband, it is a hobby and a source of entertament, one as a gambler do not see the risk of it beyond the money one is putting at stake right at the moment.
If you asked someone to stop gambling, in the mind it may not be very different from asking someone else to stop riding bicycle on the weekends or swimming with their friends at the local pool, all of them would initially feel attacked and those petitions would be seen as an injustice.

If a spouse can understand that before aproaching their husband and put herself on his shoes, then that would be a wonderful woman, instead of one who just wishes to impose her rules on every member of her family.

[shogun47]

If her motivations are reasonable, then yes. I could see quiting some habits and perhaps a hobby if she can convince me those are leading the relationship towards a bad end.
Though, knowing myself, I know I would feel inflexible at first and try to keep doing what I like, though, in the end the most important thing for anyone is family and a wife is part of it.

If we have children and she asked me to do so for the sake of them and not to endanger their economical well being, I would then accept but if she can also promise to show some sacrife as well and save money herself from other activies and whims she spends money on, like shopping unnecessary stuff or eating in fancy places more than she is supposed to.

I would even encourage her to put that cash in a long term saving account for our holidays or something like it. I would not marry someone who would be willing to ask me for sacrifices when she would not do the same.

Great point of view and it could also express her deep desire and appreciation for the relationship if she is brave enough to raise her voice. I think many relationships are not necessarily very balanced and a wife would feel like she better not say anything. As you said, in the first moment it may feel awkward, but that's the case for both. But in hindsight I think as a man the right course of action would be carefully consider what's actually happening and why she said what she said instead of instantly feeling the need to push her back and stick to the habit.

As for sacrifices have to come from both sides, well I guess it depends on what we are talking about. Gambling can be a dangerous thing and a wife might feel anxiety that even if it seems to be under control today, it could get out of control tomorrow. It's not like she asks a partner to stop playing soccer for fun or not go swimming anymore. These hobbies don't involve the potential for addictions and tough long-term consequences.

Right, playing football or swimming does not involve future risk as gambling could develop into. But you have also keep in mind that in the eyes of the husband, it is a hobby and a source of entertament, one as a gambler do not see the risk of it beyond the money one is putting at stake right at the moment.
If you asked someone to stop gambling, in the mind it may not be very different from asking someone else to stop riding bicycle on the weekends or swimming with their friends at the local pool, all of them would initially feel attacked and those petitions would be seen as an injustice.

If a spouse can understand that before aproaching their husband and put herself on his shoes, then that would be a wonderful woman, instead of one who just wishes to impose her rules on every member of her family.

But you are really describing someone I wouldn't even call a gambler like someone who spends significant amounts of time and money on the activity. If someone likes to play chess for money with friends on the weekends, it is a form of gambling, but one I wouldn't consider dangerous or potentially dangerous most of the time. If it truly is just a form of entertainment for a person like going into the cinema where there is no financial risk involved, then yes, you are right about that. But I think it's rather a rare case and a wife wouldn't really feel the need to say something. But even if the husband isn't spending a lot of money on gambling, what is a wife supposed to think when instead of sharing time with his wife he is instead sitting 8 hours per day on the weekend in front of his screen rolling the dice? 

[alegotardo]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

Surely, why should anyone do otherwise!?

If someone prefers to leave their wife/husband or even their friends because of gambling, then they are certainly already sick and need to review their gambling habits.

Gambling needs to be seen as a form of entertainment and should never interfere with the relationships we have with other people.
I believe, however, that there should be a "middle ground" making it possible to reconcile gambling with family relationships or friendships.
However, if this is not possible, we should certainly prioritize friends and family, always!

[bayu7adi]

I'm confident that people won't quit easily or merely with words. One's passion cannot be subdued by words alone; it requires proactive steps to truly break free from gambling with genuine intent. Those who quit gambling through ordinary appeals without strong reasons may find themselves relapsing because of their longing for the thrill of the game.

However, if one's spouse holds significant sway in their life, the words "Stop gambling" would be heeded as a gesture of respect. Perhaps, in return, there will be mutual pleasures to be shared with one's spouse. When someone we love is happy, we, too, experience that happiness.

This can happen when someone hasn't fallen deep into severe addiction. It's uncertain what might occur if someone has already reached the stage of addiction, as it could strain their family relationships and breed resentment.

[BitcoinTurk]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

Of course yes because I'm not a gambling addict and I gamble only for fun. Since I only gamble for fun, gambling doesn't cause any harm, addiction or negative effects for me but if the person I'm in a relationship with requests that I never gamble, it will not be difficult for me to give up this habit. As I mentioned, gambling doesn't have any negative impact on my life so I think the person I will be with will not make any requests about my gambling habit. Of course, even if it doesn't harm me in any way if I have a girlfriend who requests that I will not gamble in any way I can quit gambling because I don't have an addiction. Of course, since I would like to celebrate my jubilee before completely moving away from this fun, I can offer to gamble one last time and then not to gamble again. However, if the woman I love is disturbed by my gambling and wants me to stop gambling of course I can stop gambling because of my respect for her and not being addicted to gambling.

[ethereumhunter]

I'm confident that people won't quit easily or merely with words. One's passion cannot be subdued by words alone; it requires proactive steps to truly break free from gambling with genuine intent. Those who quit gambling through ordinary appeals without strong reasons may find themselves relapsing because of their longing for the thrill of the game.

However, if one's spouse holds significant sway in their life, the words "Stop gambling" would be heeded as a gesture of respect. Perhaps, in return, there will be mutual pleasures to be shared with one's spouse. When someone we love is happy, we, too, experience that happiness.

This can happen when someone hasn't fallen deep into severe addiction. It's uncertain what might occur if someone has already reached the stage of addiction, as it could strain their family relationships and breed resentment.

But it seems like there are people who will comply with their partner's request to stop gambling, especially after they discuss the dangers of gambling and what impact it will have on their family later. He who often gambles but has discussed it with his partner will think that his partner is saying the right thing about gambling and he can stop if he really pays attention to his partner's wishes. He will also ask his partner to help him stop gambling because he finds it difficult.

Getting married and starting a family requires commitment and seriousness. If they have discussed what they want to do for their family in the future, they will lower their egos and take the best suggestions from each other to get good results too. Marriage is uniting two different people and it is not easy to lower each other's egos but by trying to do it, they will be able to. And people who gamble will want to try for the sake of the partner they love and care about.

[Jody.Drummer]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

Of course yes because I'm not a gambling addict and I gamble only for fun. Since I only gamble for fun, gambling doesn't cause any harm, addiction or negative effects for me but if the person I'm in a relationship with requests that I never gamble, it will not be difficult for me to give up this habit. As I mentioned, gambling doesn't have any negative impact on my life so I think the person I will be with will not make any requests about my gambling habit. Of course, even if it doesn't harm me in any way if I have a girlfriend who requests that I will not gamble in any way I can quit gambling because I don't have an addiction. Of course, since I would like to celebrate my jubilee before completely moving away from this fun, I can offer to gamble one last time and then not to gamble again. However, if the woman I love is disturbed by my gambling and wants me to stop gambling of course I can stop gambling because of my respect for her and not being addicted to gambling.

That's what should be done, hopefully all excessive gamblers can change their mindset like you who gamble with the intention of just having fun and not expecting something extra there like winning. Yes actually gambling is not too dangerous if you come with the right mindset, as I said above, one of them always comes with the intention just to enjoy the gambling that is there, whatever the result it will not make you emotional and greedy, it's better and I'm sure if you or they stay firm on this mindset then they will be far from addiction. It is true that everything depends on your own self-awareness, and indeed gambling is intended only for fun with a little chance there, nothing but that opportunity is only to lure those who are too serious in gambling and I am sure for those who are too obsessed and bring the wrong mindset they will be hooked by the word "opportunity" that is there, they are wrong in interpreting it so that they think that gambling can be used as a place to make a living.

But even so, we still have to be careful friends because however it does not mean that unwanted things will not happen, everything will be possible without you realizing it and also if there is encouragement from your loved ones to stop then do it.

[arwin100]

I'm confident that people won't quit easily or merely with words. One's passion cannot be subdued by words alone; it requires proactive steps to truly break free from gambling with genuine intent. Those who quit gambling through ordinary appeals without strong reasons may find themselves relapsing because of their longing for the thrill of the game.

However, if one's spouse holds significant sway in their life, the words "Stop gambling" would be heeded as a gesture of respect. Perhaps, in return, there will be mutual pleasures to be shared with one's spouse. When someone we love is happy, we, too, experience that happiness.

This can happen when someone hasn't fallen deep into severe addiction. It's uncertain what might occur if someone has already reached the stage of addiction, as it could strain their family relationships and breed resentment.

But it seems like there are people who will comply with their partner's request to stop gambling, especially after they discuss the dangers of gambling and what impact it will have on their family later. He who often gambles but has discussed it with his partner will think that his partner is saying the right thing about gambling and he can stop if he really pays attention to his partner's wishes. He will also ask his partner to help him stop gambling because he finds it difficult.

Getting married and starting a family requires commitment and seriousness. If they have discussed what they want to do for their family in the future, they will lower their egos and take the best suggestions from each other to get good results too. Marriage is uniting two different people and it is not easy to lower each other's egos but by trying to do it, they will be able to. And people who gamble will want to try for the sake of the partner they love and care about.

Some maybe struggle to stop when they already use to gamble like this activity is already part of their life but if deep talks between wife and husband will happen for sure everything will be settle then this gambling activity will be stop since this is just a past time and his wife or family is more important than them especially that they have more bigger obligation to face. That's why we cannot really say that its hard to stop this since gambling is just a short time fun and anything destructive behavior will be created by this will be corrected if proper cooperation will be done.

Getting married is one big factor why people stop their activity that eats their time so for sure this might be the main reason why a gambler would decide to quit as I myself would really do that since I also want to settle up and don't want to give my family a huge head ache due to this past time games.

[swogerino]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

Absolutely not.The reason being the simple one as I do not believe anyone can quit gambling for good because as they say vice comes out only when our soul comes out meaning when we die.My wife knows and she does not say anything as long as I am a responsible gambler that maximum I spend 100 dollars a month for gambling which is nothing compared to our both salaries and as such she does not care,she sometimes tells me to stop for my own good when I keep buying the bonus in slot machines like crazy and spend several hours playing but she would never order me to quit.

[AprilioMP]

Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?

Stop gambling not because of other people, but because of your own desires. Stopping gambling because of other people's causes, for me is still good because a ban can have a positive impact. What's unfortunate is that you can never stop despite strong encouragement from other people.
So, there is no specific answer in answering your question because it all depends on each individual.
If the question were reversed, what would you answer?