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October 22, 2023, 11:53:27 AM |
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Gambling is just something that I do for entertainment. I wouldn't risk an amount that could significantly impact my family. What I do with my own money is my business but if my gambling habits ever became a problem for anyone I would strongly consider their opinion. I'm not married but it would not be worth it to lose somebody I really cared about because of gambling. There are other ways of being entertained.
If we consider gambling as entertainment, of course we will be able to control ourselves when gambling and this will not be a problem for us and the people around us, but it will be very different if we cannot control ourselves, of course this will be very troublesome for those closest to us. Before we are married, I think we are free to easily use the money we have for whatever makes us happy, but it will be different if we have a wife, of course we have to agree with them if we don't want our relationship to end with something trivial. I agree with you that we can seek pleasure in other things if we are already in a marriage relationship. If you are in married life you have to think about your wife and do something good if you do not have control over gambling then many times the relationship is ruined. Most of the time is passed by gambling or thinking about gambling ready to make big bets day in and day out. They don't even remember the losses or losses many people gamble to cover up personal problems helplessness and even depression. Negligence comes to family or professional work so if it can be controlled there is no effect on the family.
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October 22, 2023, 12:11:52 PM |
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Gambling is just something that I do for entertainment. I wouldn't risk an amount that could significantly impact my family. What I do with my own money is my business but if my gambling habits ever became a problem for anyone I would strongly consider their opinion. I'm not married but it would not be worth it to lose somebody I really cared about because of gambling. There are other ways of being entertained.
Good, it seems you are wise gambler. But when you really like gambling even if it just for entertainment and fun are you sure you can consider the advice to stop? Maybe you will still gamble but in secret so that no one knows about it. I know very well how gambler acts and responds to such problems so that there is only small percentage who can consider it and choose to stop leaving forever from the world of gambling. But if you decide to stop for the sake of your family or for the sake of the people you love then that is wise decision. I hope that the gambling you do does not have a significant negative impact on the people around you or you love.
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October 22, 2023, 12:44:34 PM |
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Actually is totally depends on what gambling is to the person because there are people that there survival depends on gambling so however if a future wife ask the person to quit gambling, indirectly she is telling the man to suffer.
I don't think that a person's survival can depend on gambling knowing that gambling can't be a constant source of income for anyone as there is no guarantee that you will win every day from gambling. However, taking it theoretically, I don't understand why a spouse would ask their partner to stop gambling if they know that it's their only way of earning money knowing that it will be a problem for them since they won't have anything to eat after that. But however if a man has other steady source of income, is then advice able to quit gambling.
It basically depends on the effect gambling is having on one's life. If I'm gambling but it isn't having any negative effects on me and my personal life, I have an income, I have a fixed budget out of that for my gambling, and I don't even spend a lot of time on it, so I don't see why one would have a problem with my gambling activities. However, if it's the opposite of whatever I said, it's definitely understandable if I'm asked by my partner to stop gambling and I would do it, for sure.
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October 22, 2023, 03:00:16 PM |
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Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?
I mean if it's a deal breaker for them and they won't stay with you over it then yeah if ypu love her/him why wouldn't you? If gambling is worth more than the one ypu love then you need to check your addiction out and possibly get help. If it's not an issue in your life then maybe have that conversation with them first to see if there is some possible middle ground like a set dollar amount or something. For the guys who are fed up with their wives, they will really take this as sort of an opportunity. Heck, some men find gambling to be more entertaining than with their wives who don't even know how to cook omelets. For housewives who are unsure what their partner would choose they better not ask their husbands to choose whether her or gambling. It's not in his best interest to keep a wife who is not supportive. ![Grin](https://bitcointalk.org/Smileys/default/grin.gif) I mean if you are looking for an easy way to leave your significant other than I guess yeah this isn't a bad way lol. Seriously though I've seen it happen where gambling has gotten the best of people and they've lost someone to it. If not handled right gambling can be like any other addiction.
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October 22, 2023, 03:26:10 PM |
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I won't.
The deal is, I don't ask my future wife to stop going to work, using makeup, driving cars, listening to music... Why would she ask me to stop gambling. It's not like I interfere with her hobbies. If gambling ever interferes with our relationship, makes me poor, makes me sad, makes me late to meetings, lose a job, I'll gladly stop. I try to make all my requests and demands to be logical. If she can logically explain why she wants me to do it, maybe I'll agree.
You are painting it black and white, but there is more detail to this and it all depends on the circumstances and whether someone is an excessive gambler. I doubt that OP was referring to some wife who wants to stay her husband from playing a weekly Sunday evening poker round for 2-3 hours. If that is the case, it would not be very reasonable from her to stop him doing that if it is not the family savings he is gambling with. But in most cases when a wife feels the need to interfere it is about at least questionable expenditure of time and money that the husband puts into gambling. Comparing this with using make up and driving cars or listening to music doesn't make sense. When OP asked for opinions I had to somehow imagine this happening, and since I'm not an addict, I used an example of a normal relationship where the man gambles from time to time and the woman demands that he stopped. That's it. If you feel it doesn't make sense, it's fine, but to me it does make a lot of sense, since OP did not give any specific background and did not explain the situation that the man is in. Id OP doesn't want us to give our own opinions based on our personal situation why would he start a topic like that? Bottom line, the answer is that I wouldn't stop because I find the request illogical.
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October 22, 2023, 04:55:46 PM |
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Most prospective wives/ wives ask their partners to stop gambling because they are afraid you are too much in gambling so that it ignores your family, many cases like that happen, even violence because gambling in the family is also many happening, but while you feel able to cover up your needs And your responsibility as the head of the family, I think they also will not forbid you to gamble, but here must be a note that you are only to look for the pleasure of gambling not to double your money, it can destroy yourself.
You are right to some extent. But even the people associated with gambling are smart now with their financial decisions. They are not like past gamblers who used to take loans for gambling. Someone who is doing gambling with crypto is already wise enough to be aware of crypto. Such a person will not be involved in activities like violence for gambling. Well, regardless what currency you use to gamble (either fiat or crypto) it's not a basis to say if the gamblers are more wise to not take a loan. It depends on the gambler's mindset when he/she is playing. So it doesn't necessarily mean they're already different compared to gamblers who are using fiat to be able to play. Anyway, to answer the question, my spouse can't dictate me on what I should do. I'm not a compulsive gambler it's just a habit thus there's nothing to worry about. One of the reason why it's important for partners to know each other well before deciding to get married. Because once you marry a person you should accept all his/her flaws. I agree that any gambling tool does not affect gambling behavior in the gambler in managing finances, such as taking loans, time and things, whether using crypto or fiat it is the same if the gambler has a bad nature in him such as impulsive and compulsive behavior in doing something , it will end in something worse. With the meaning that when we a prospective husband has wise characteristics and is good at managing finances as well as all forms of action we take on gambling is not excessive, after we explain to him, I think a wife will understand and will not force the desire of her husband to keep stopping gambled, Even though they ask us to stop gambling.
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October 22, 2023, 05:10:00 PM |
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When OP asked for opinions I had to somehow imagine this happening, and since I'm not an addict, I used an example of a normal relationship where the man gambles from time to time and the woman demands that he stopped. That's it. If you feel it doesn't make sense, it's fine, but to me it does make a lot of sense, since OP did not give any specific background and did not explain the situation that the man is in. Id OP doesn't want us to give our own opinions based on our personal situation why would he start a topic like that?
Bottom line, the answer is that I wouldn't stop because I find the request illogical.
You would not stop because you are not addicted to gambling and in such cases, the wives and other family members won't even ask to quit us, because our gambling is not hurting them. The problem arises when you gamble in excess and become addicted to it. The problem arises when you start to use up the money which was supposed to be spent in the house to meet the expenses. The problem arises when you start spending more time gambling and avoiding your family, and this is where you become addicted to gambling. So, in the former case, where you are not addicted, you are free to exercise your right to gamble but in the latter case, if you insist on gambling, that may result in some serious consequences, may result in the end of the relationships too.
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October 22, 2023, 05:41:24 PM |
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If you are in married life you have to think about your wife and do something good if you do not have control over gambling then many times the relationship is ruined. In many cases, gambling destroys a person's marriage, especially if gambling has become an addiction and can no longer be controlled. If this is the case, it's better to listen to advice from your partner because it is your partner who understands our situation. Most of the time is passed by gambling or thinking about gambling ready to make big bets day in and day out. They don't even remember the losses or losses many people gamble to cover up personal problems helplessness and even depression. Negligence comes to family or professional work so if it can be controlled there is no effect on the family.
Negligence and unprofessionalism will be a disaster, this is not only for married people. Even if you're not married, if you gamble without proper analysis and don't manage your finances then this will be a problem in the future with our finances. Regarding the OP's question. I gambled in secret from my wife, only I knew.
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October 22, 2023, 05:51:26 PM |
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Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?
In the first place, why did they ask it to do so? Might they see us showing irresponsible, crappy attitudes or unusual behavior? In that case, they are just right to ask that and we have no right to even complain since they are just concerned and it will be for our own benefit. Actually, no need for them to ask that but just stop on our own. It's all about respect and if only we are not showing a bad attitude, I don't think they will ask that question in the first place.
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October 22, 2023, 06:43:42 PM |
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Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?
In my case I am not that kind of people who were addicted with gambling. I do gambling in some times for the entertainment purpose. So in my case it would be that my wife is more important to me than gambling. I will ask her why she is asking to stop this gambling. Then if her words seem logical to me, then I will not increase my words and if it does not seem logical, I will make some arguments. And even If she still say to stop playing it, then I'll stop it, I mean try to stop it. ![Grin](https://bitcointalk.org/Smileys/default/grin.gif) Like many, I will also say that why would he or she tell you to stop gambling? It will mostly be the case of those who are more addicted to gambling and it is causing their financial crisis and family problems. Even then if there is no such reason if he or she say to stop you this, then I think it's better to let it go because gambling is not bigger than family.
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October 22, 2023, 06:52:18 PM |
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Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?
In my case I am not that kind of people who were addicted with gambling. I do gambling in some times for the entertainment purpose. So in my case it would be that my wife is more important to me than gambling. I will ask her why she is asking to stop this gambling. Then if her words seem logical to me, then I will not increase my words and if it does not seem logical, I will make some arguments. And even If she still say to stop playing it, then I'll stop it, I mean try to stop it. ![Grin](https://bitcointalk.org/Smileys/default/grin.gif) Like many, I will also say that why would he or she tell you to stop gambling? It will mostly be the case of those who are more addicted to gambling and it is causing their financial crisis and family problems. Even then if there is no such reason if he or she say to stop you this, then I think it's better to let it go because gambling is not bigger than family. Wont really be that a problem if you arent that into gambling on which you would really be just that easily be able to deal with if ever your wife soon to be will really be making out such request or saying that you should quit but they wont really be saying things unless you have done it on which it is really just totally that have sense. lol. If we do put up on some assumptions that we are really that indeed doing gambling and they would really be asking about quitting or stopping then it would boil down in your own choice whether you would really be that quitting for your good or really love that still continue and would put up the risks on the relationship that you are into. Some could really just do and some cant really just take up the risks. Some people might not really that much that letting other people do really involved on what are the things that they are doing but there are ones who would really be doing everything for love and would really be sacrificing anything or losing everything for it. It does really actually depend.
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bittraffic
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October 22, 2023, 07:08:56 PM |
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Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?
I mean if it's a deal breaker for them and they won't stay with you over it then yeah if ypu love her/him why wouldn't you? If gambling is worth more than the one ypu love then you need to check your addiction out and possibly get help. If it's not an issue in your life then maybe have that conversation with them first to see if there is some possible middle ground like a set dollar amount or something. For the guys who are fed up with their wives, they will really take this as sort of an opportunity. Heck, some men find gambling to be more entertaining than with their wives who don't even know how to cook omelets. For housewives who are unsure what their partner would choose they better not ask their husbands to choose whether her or gambling. It's not in his best interest to keep a wife who is not supportive. ![Grin](https://bitcointalk.org/Smileys/default/grin.gif) I mean if you are looking for an easy way to leave your significant other than I guess yeah this isn't a bad way lol. Seriously though I've seen it happen where gambling has gotten the best of people and they've lost someone to it. If not handled right gambling can be like any other addiction. Sure an easy way out especially for the men who are experiencing the midlife crisis with no kid to take care of. When there is no reason for the husband to stick around, it's an easy option. But women only ask this kind of question if they are also sure they can stand on their own and have money to support themselves. A career woman who has lots of savings does not need men who are toxic in a relationship. And if the gambler's money comes from this career woman, the gambler can already expect to be kicked out.
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Westinhome
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October 22, 2023, 10:09:33 PM |
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In my case I am not that kind of people who were addicted with gambling. I do gambling in some times for the entertainment purpose. So in my case it would be that my wife is more important to me than gambling. I will ask her why she is asking to stop this gambling. Then if her words seem logical to me, then I will not increase my words and if it does not seem logical, I will make some arguments. And even If she still say to stop playing it, then I'll stop it, I mean try to stop it. ![Grin](https://bitcointalk.org/Smileys/default/grin.gif) Like many, I will also say that why would he or she tell you to stop gambling? It will mostly be the case of those who are more addicted to gambling and it is causing their financial crisis and family problems. Even then if there is no such reason if he or she say to stop you this, then I think it's better to let it go because gambling is not bigger than family. If you are not addicted to the gambling,this question is not for you.Because the OP had clearly mentioned for the gambling addicted person and their partner relationship impact due the gambling addiction.Since you are not addicted to the gambling,why your wife asked to quit the gambling.Because gambling is not the easy part to quit in the short period,once you start to play the gambling.The wife will ask about the gambling only because of the money involvement in the gambling.My wife had asked me to stop the gambling play,but I had stopped to play in front of my wife.It’s easy way to manage the gambling in your family.
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shogun47
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October 22, 2023, 11:42:55 PM |
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You are painting it black and white, but there is more detail to this and it all depends on the circumstances and whether someone is an excessive gambler. I doubt that OP was referring to some wife who wants to stay her husband from playing a weekly Sunday evening poker round for 2-3 hours. If that is the case, it would not be very reasonable from her to stop him doing that if it is not the family savings he is gambling with. But in most cases when a wife feels the need to interfere it is about at least questionable expenditure of time and money that the husband puts into gambling. Comparing this with using make up and driving cars or listening to music doesn't make sense.
When OP asked for opinions I had to somehow imagine this happening, and since I'm not an addict, I used an example of a normal relationship where the man gambles from time to time and the woman demands that he stopped. That's it. If you feel it doesn't make sense, it's fine, but to me it does make a lot of sense, since OP did not give any specific background and did not explain the situation that the man is in. Id OP doesn't want us to give our own opinions based on our personal situation why would he start a topic like that? Bottom line, the answer is that I wouldn't stop because I find the request illogical. Fair enough and you are right, you got a point here. But you know that this actually shows how worthless some of these topics are because they lack substance and detail and are phrased as open, limitless questions such that really everyone can post stuff without giving the content even a first thought? That's why people start comparing gambling with driving a car. "If my wife told me to stop driving the car, I would not stop driving the car. The same way I would not stop gambling." It almost hurts my brain when there is not the tiniest bit of context, but you are right, really! I expected too much from OP. I thought he must have meant something but in reality I was wrong, he didn't care. He could as well have written "what would you if your wife tells you to stop drinking water" and people here would spam the thread with answers. I got it, my fault.
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October 23, 2023, 07:02:52 AM |
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Of course because there is no other way but to stop doing it or slowly reduce the activity, not to mention it is also for their own good and also for their family. Although they may argue that they will gamble with all control or self-restriction, it will not always be like that, the flow of gambling runs under the human consciousness so it is very possible that they will unconsciously enter into addiction and will always say "This time I will definitely win", they always hope - and even though there is absolutely no certainty and even the chances are very small. And obviously if they have entered the zone like that then maybe they will not think about their family including the basic needs for their family. Indeed there may be some of the gamblers who can withstand all the temptations that are there with strong self-control, but I say the chances are very small to be able to do that, as we know how the temptation in gambling until - until you can forget everything in your life gambling has distracted you. So the bottom line for those who are still gambling or even addicted is better from now on to reduce it and for those who never gamble at all I hope you can stay in that position by not being tempted by gambling at all, that's better.
When the money runs out, he doesn't immediately leave the casino. Still, he will think about depositing another amount of money into his gambling account to be able to continue gambling. This often happens to many gamblers because they still want to win and recover previous losses. When they do not realize that their family is more important than gambling, they only spend their family's money on gambling without considering meeting their daily needs. That's because they can't abandon their gambling and think they can win so that they will fulfill their family's daily needs with their winnings. But what happened was different from what he wanted. If indeed they are still in their addiction and have not been able to stop or just reduce then yes, they will definitely do as you said, when the money runs out or the gambling at that time ends in defeat then they will get emotional and after the impact of emotions then they will look for ways to be able to deposit again even though for example they have run out of money but as we know those who are addicted have many ways and will even justify all means just to be able to gamble. Borrowing from the closest people? yes it is very possible and also sell their valuables. The point is for those who are already addicted, almost all of their mindsets have been dominated by lust and selfish feelings, even though on the other hand other people are the same, I mean anyone can never escape defeat and that is gambling where the system has been set up so that defeat always dominates them. So the only way for you not to get emotional is to become a responsible gambler by accepting all the risks, and you have to apply that mindset from the start. Well the push of necessity is also very likely to be the reason for them to keep gambling, when they have a family then the needs will increase and they will think of looking for victory in gambling in order to fulfill everything, it's not wrong because the intention is good but I say they are misplaced. That's right, when they are married or married then what they have to prepare at the beginning is good management in terms of finances, because of course their expenses will be greater than usual when they are still supporting life for themselves, and now there are two lives they have to feed, you and your wife and also maybe some of your children later. As much as possible, we should minimize our spending and not buy anything that we don't need. So if in such conditions for example you are still gambling then instead of saving the budget but you are busy by continuing to allocate money to gambling. Believe me there will be many problems that come especially in terms of finance, if indeed you have more money then it is better to save for other needs in the future.
Financial management is something that must be done by both married and unmarried people so that they can fulfill their daily needs. If he only uses his money for gambling without any allocation for other things, he will have difficulty meeting his daily needs and this will make him borrow other people's money to buy his living necessities. Having a budget for gambling and other things will help us to survive and meet our living needs so that we will not borrow money from other people because other people also need money to survive. And if the husband/wife says to leave gambling for the sake of their family later, it is better for them to really leave gambling because otherwise, their family life might be disturbed. They will not be able to meet their daily needs because all their money is used for gambling. Therefore, maybe you also know that every parent always instills good habits from childhood, such as telling us to start saving and saving, none other than money is also to realize our wishes someday, and it is a very good way of financial management. And it will be very useful when we are adults, whether it's for our own financial management or when we are married. Especially when we are married then as much as possible we should be able to manage our financial allocation by not buying something that is not really needed as I said at the beginning. What is quite concerning is when our finances are below average but there are many responsibilities that we must fulfill, such as those who are married and also on the other hand they are still gambling, honestly I can't imagine how your economy will be there. Difficulties will continue to attack you in that position and even I think you will also be confused to think about what to eat tomorrow, there is probably they will just leave a lot of debt there. So there really is no other way, you better stop doing this harmful activity, it's useless and it will only cause a lot of problems for your own family, I'm sure you can change and get out of gambling.
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October 23, 2023, 07:48:32 AM |
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In my case I am not that kind of people who were addicted with gambling. I do gambling in some times for the entertainment purpose. So in my case it would be that my wife is more important to me than gambling. I will ask her why she is asking to stop this gambling. Then if her words seem logical to me, then I will not increase my words and if it does not seem logical, I will make some arguments. And even If she still say to stop playing it, then I'll stop it, I mean try to stop it. ![Grin](https://bitcointalk.org/Smileys/default/grin.gif) Like many, I will also say that why would he or she tell you to stop gambling? It will mostly be the case of those who are more addicted to gambling and it is causing their financial crisis and family problems. Even then if there is no such reason if he or she say to stop you this, then I think it's better to let it go because gambling is not bigger than family. If you are not addicted to the gambling,this question is not for you.Because the OP had clearly mentioned for the gambling addicted person and their partner relationship impact due the gambling addiction.Since you are not addicted to the gambling,why your wife asked to quit the gambling.Because gambling is not the easy part to quit in the short period,once you start to play the gambling.The wife will ask about the gambling only because of the money involvement in the gambling.My wife had asked me to stop the gambling play,but I had stopped to play in front of my wife.It’s easy way to manage the gambling in your family. Yes because its easy to answer that if you are not addicted since you can easily quiet without any hesitation, unlike if you are really in worst situation where you can beat all the odds just to gamble for sure quitting is really a big problem since you would provably not listen to any advice given to you since what you always think is to gamble. We are surely get affected in all aspect with that condition including the relationship to our love ones since denial stage might come up and we always think about we are fine and they should not worry about on what we are doing. At this stage I think we need professional help since for sure a addicted person cannot cut off easily his activity even if her wife ask him to leave gambling and by the help of professionals he can be totally get aided then understand that what he is doing is totally excessive and destructive to any person near him.
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zuzie
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October 23, 2023, 09:51:13 AM |
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Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?
In the first place, why did they ask it to do so? Might they see us showing irresponsible, crappy attitudes or unusual behavior? In that case, they are just right to ask that and we have no right to even complain since they are just concerned and it will be for our own benefit. Actually, no need for them to ask that but just stop on our own. It's all about respect and if only we are not showing a bad attitude, I don't think they will ask that question in the first place. Maybe in their minds gambling is an activity that is not good to do, so they ask you about it. And what they actually think is that gambling will bring a life full of misery, especially if they are addicted, it is very difficult for them to just accept it. And this must be discussed carefully with your partner, if you then continue to gamble, but with the condition that you must be under control when gambling and I don't think that will be a problem in the future.
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October 23, 2023, 11:17:49 AM Last edit: October 23, 2023, 12:09:00 PM by angrybirdy |
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Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?
In the first place, why did they ask it to do so? Might they see us showing irresponsible, crappy attitudes or unusual behavior? In that case, they are just right to ask that and we have no right to even complain since they are just concerned and it will be for our own benefit. Actually, no need for them to ask that but just stop on our own. It's all about respect and if only we are not showing a bad attitude, I don't think they will ask that question in the first place. Once your partner is asking you to stop and leave the gambling, it shows that there's something wrong in your behavior and attitude or it depends on your partner's perspective when it comes to gambling. If you're not addicted to gambling, I think you can easily quit without any hesitation and you don't have to ask this because you can stop it even if your partner is not asking and complaining. the effect of gambling on a marriage can be devastating, it can destroy your partner's trust and can also ruin your finances, and put your family in harm's way.
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Viscore
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October 23, 2023, 11:53:34 AM |
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Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ?
Since i am a man, i refer to the opposite sex as female. what I have to first of all point out here is that, future wife is not a wife yet, there is every possibility that someone considered to be a future wife might end up not becoming the wife in the future, so, in this regard, I do not see any reason why I as a man should obey everything she says or ask me to do even when we are not yet married. Gambling is part of me, and no future wife can stop me from gambling, maybe when we are finally and fully married and have become husband and wife, I may consider quitting gambling if she asks me to quit, and I indeed know I should quit based on circumstances surrounding our financial life which my gambling is only making worst. Outside of this, if my wife is very comfortable and we both financially doing well and very happy, I do not see why she should have any problem with me gambling since it's my own way of having fun and making myself happy. And as for future wife, she has no place to decide for me what to do and what not to do as long as I know that what I am doing is not wrong. Tell it to your wife when you cross the bridge already. To be honest, your decision at the moment might probably change in the future especially if your relationship is at stake. Your future wife might not be against with gambling if she sees nothing to worry about but if she can sense that your gambling habit might be heading into addiction, for sure she will really stop you as much as she can. Do not underestimate the instincts of women as they can really see things ahead more than us men. However, the final decision is still yours. Do not leave gambling if you think there is nothing wrong with what you are doing. But I suggest, if you value your wife more than your gambling habit, then you should try to talk with her about it. Make her understand your case. In the end, both of you should come up with a mutual decision, and it's not like your decision will always dominate over hers. Because if that will be your mindset, your wife will never stay by your side in the end.
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October 23, 2023, 12:16:11 PM |
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Good, it seems you are wise gambler. But when you really like gambling even if it just for entertainment and fun are you sure you can consider the advice to stop? Maybe you will still gamble but in secret so that no one knows about it. I know very well how gambler acts and responds to such problems so that there is only small percentage who can consider it and choose to stop leaving forever from the world of gambling.
But if you decide to stop for the sake of your family or for the sake of the people you love then that is wise decision. I hope that the gambling you do does not have a significant negative impact on the people around you or you love.
It is true. When gambling already becomes a part of our life, it is difficult to stop it forever. That's why only few people who want to consider quitting gambling. For the gamblers who can get entertainment or fun from gambling, it seems like it has become a necessity. So, they can't be separated easily, they need a strong effort and intention to leave it. I assume, many people do gambling is like they smoke cigarettes. Well, for the gamblers who stop gambling because of their family, it is a big challenge. I appreciate the people who can succeed in that way. We can't blame them, gambling isn't something a must. When you can't gamble in a proper way, quitting is surely the wright decision. But when we can gamble in the proper way, I assume it won't be a problem to keep gambling.
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