He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet

[Sanitough]

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

Yeah, I get it.  It's a really heart-breaking situation and I can't help but empathize with her. Weddings are a huge deal for a lot of women, and she put in a bunch of her own money too.  So finding out her fiancé blew their savings gambling has gotta be just crushing.  I feel bad for her.  But it's probably better she found out now instead of after they got married, you know? At least this way she can make an informed choice if she really wants to start a family and spend the rest of her life with this dude.  

Well, I don't think the mistake of his fiancee is enough to make her decide not to pursue the wedding anymore.  I would agree if the wedding will be postponed for now but leaving his fiancee totally because of his mistake, I think that's also quite unfair for him.  He should not be judged just because he is an addicted gambler, but he should learn to discipline himself instead so he can save the relationship with his future wife.

I can feel the pain with this young lady. But what happened has already happened and she should move on from that. What they should focus more is how to help his fiancee solve his gambling addiction so there will be no problems like this that will occur in the future.

[BitcoinPanther]

Yes, for sure. Is not that I am addicted to gambling, but I do gamble some times, most especially when I am broke. This case is in two forms in the sense that for the husband to win the game, the money will increase or even double, but as he loses, everyone will blame him.

There is one rule in gambling, if we don't want to be blame of our gambling action, don't use the money that is committed to else where.  Stating the possible opposite outcome as a way to excuse oneself is not convincing especially the money involve is not ours alone.

For me, I can say the only mistake the fiancée made was using almost all the money, hoping to win and bring back more money home. If the fiancée had budgeted what he would spend on gambling and kept on to it, the case might have been simple and amicable, but now he has messed up big time.

That is the main problem.  The use of the money that is allocated to their future wedding.  This is also the reason why we are discussing this topic here.  It is not "only" (that sounds it is negligible) but it is the major problem of the situation.  The guy should have use his own money not others money when he decides to gamble thinking he can double the amount.

[rahmad2nd]

  Hi guys and ladies, here comes a very sad and heart-breaking story (true life confession) of a young lady who was contributing money (saving money) together with her husband-to-be (fiancée) in preparation for their wedding. The story in quote ..

In fact, there are many stories out there that we don't even know about that are related to gambling for everyone. like one of the threads you posted here, to be honest I'm surprised there are stories like this out there. although in truth, I know very well that there are many strange things that some gamblers do. The woman's fate was truly unfortunate, but it was clear that the man could not be completely blamed.
The problem is, the prospective bride and groom have voluntarily contributed around 60% of all the funds they managed to collect previously. we can assume, that it looks like these two people or even this woman. not have a much smarter intellect. Just imagine, with the seduction of her future husband, this woman voluntarily gave 60% and hoped to get many times the results if she bet on gambling. at this point, I can't jump to conclusions. because, we don't know the details of how this drama happened.

I  have many questions, but the fact is that this cannot be done. So the simplest assumption or speculation is that there are two possibilities. if this man is indeed an addict, or he has no other way to fulfill the conditions for marriage. because the money collected did not reach the target. Well, regarding the contents of this woman's story, I have no right to comment. because, this woman knows her potential partner better. There are two conclusions, if what the man did was a habit. So, there's no need to hesitate to leave it. which means, canceling and breaking off the relationship. if not, then he will be tormented by habit if in the end the two couples insist on carrying out the marriage.

[Westinhome]

Well, I don't think the mistake of his fiancee is enough to make her decide not to pursue the wedding anymore.  I would agree if the wedding will be postponed for now but leaving his fiancee totally because of his mistake, I think that's also quite unfair for him.  He should not be judged just because he is an addicted gambler, but he should learn to discipline himself instead so he can save the relationship with his future wife.

I can feel the pain with this young lady. But what happened has already happened and she should move on from that. What they should focus more is how to help his fiancee solve his gambling addiction so there will be no problems like this that will occur in the future.

The young lady should understand the feeling of the future husband,her fiancee had made a mistake.So the young lady will stop the because of the small mistake will not be the correct decision.So the young lady should make her future husband to quit the gambling addiction and the she can marry her fiancee.But quit of gambling addiction is very hard one,but the gambler can do the reduction from the gambling addiction.The gambler itself understand the mistake made by him and ask apology from her lady. Asking apology to her lady is not the wrong one,he should agreed the mistake of miss use of the funds at the marriage time.If the lady not forgive her fiancee, then the gambler may commit suicide because of this loss.

[decodx]

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Well, I don't think the mistake of his fiancee is enough to make her decide not to pursue the wedding anymore.  I would agree if the wedding will be postponed for now but leaving his fiancee totally because of his mistake, I think that's also quite unfair for him.  He should not be judged just because he is an addicted gambler, but he should learn to discipline himself instead so he can save the relationship with his future wife.

Well, I guess that will depend on how good his "apology" is. And as for his addiction, I'm not judging, but how good can such a marriage be unless he makes some changes.

I can feel the pain with this young lady. But what happened has already happened and she should move on from that. What they should focus more is how to help his fiancee solve his gambling addiction so there will be no problems like this that will occur in the future.

I agree. The issue here isn't so much about money but, above all, about the lost trust. I think both partners should be honest with each other when entering into marriage, as a thriving partnership can't be built on a foundation of lies.

[Onyeeze]

A gambler believe that every steps in gambling is an opportunity and it believe that with the little money in the pocket it can turn to millions and billions so that will be one of the reasons that pushed the young man to use their weeding money to for gambling, actually the man is looking for a way to multiple the money through gambling, which is in a wrong way if I'm not mistaken and secondly if you are addicted in gambling you will not hesitate to use all you have to gamble having the mindset you will win the gamble.

You are right,but what I see here is the mistake from the woman in question.If the woman had known that the husband is an addicted gambler,she wouldn't have allowed him be in possession of the money they will use for their wedding,she should have held the money her self,because one thing I know about gamblers is that they don't always bare in mind that they will lose,they always have a positive mindset that whatever they play will be the best,but that is always a wrong mindset.If you ask him,he will tell you he wasn't intending to use all of the money,but the moment you've used little of your money to gamble,and you lost,there is that urge that wants you to still continue gambling till you gain back your money,and this is the point where you lose all your money.

The woman is not to be blame because man is head of the family and the reason why the woman entrust the funds to Man is because she don't want the money to lost under her care, so what the woman did is the right thing to do but I don't know for other people opinion over the woman given  husband money for their weeding and the husband used the money for gambling, so it's the husband that is supposed to be blame not the wife, because the husband is selfish enough by using their money for gambling knowing the implications of gambling, before the man played this gambling with their weeding money he has being playing before.

[Davidvictorson]

People can be heartless. The most shocking story that I will be hoping to read is someone using their pops or moms money for funeral for gambling..this story will break the internet.

The guy in the story is going to live with regret for the rest of his life..He cost the girl the marriage, her mental health, her money.

[Quidat]

A gambler believe that every steps in gambling is an opportunity and it believe that with the little money in the pocket it can turn to millions and billions so that will be one of the reasons that pushed the young man to use their weeding money to for gambling, actually the man is looking for a way to multiple the money through gambling, which is in a wrong way if I'm not mistaken and secondly if you are addicted in gambling you will not hesitate to use all you have to gamble having the mindset you will win the gamble.

You are right,but what I see here is the mistake from the woman in question.If the woman had known that the husband is an addicted gambler,she wouldn't have allowed him be in possession of the money they will use for their wedding,she should have held the money her self,because one thing I know about gamblers is that they don't always bare in mind that they will lose,they always have a positive mindset that whatever they play will be the best,but that is always a wrong mindset.If you ask him,he will tell you he wasn't intending to use all of the money,but the moment you've used little of your money to gamble,and you lost,there is that urge that wants you to still continue gambling till you gain back your money,and this is the point where you lose all your money.

The woman is not to be blame because man is head of the family and the reason why the woman entrust the funds to Man is because she don't want the money to lost under her care, so what the woman did is the right thing to do but I don't know for other people opinion over the woman given  husband money for their weeding and the husband used the money for gambling, so it's the husband that is supposed to be blame not the wife, because the husband is selfish enough by using their money for gambling knowing the implications of gambling, before the man played this gambling with their weeding money he has being playing before.

They arent still legally married, therefore its not really that right to call that he's the head of family but even before or talking about pre-wedding plans or similar then it would really be just that right that men should really be the one to handle but its not really that something simple considering that you dont have the money so you dont have the rights to make those kind of lead or controlling the situation.It is true on what other people been saying that we would really be that hesitating since you dont have the money on handling anything and even lets say that you are the man but dont have the capability on closing out or funding the wedding then you dont have the choice.

The biggest mistake of that man is that he decided to gamble that money which is supposed to be used into his wedding with his loved one.Now he had considered out
on gambling it out then its does signifies that he dont care about their wedding, he's putting out the risks.

[Renampun]

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Yes, for sure. Is not that I am addicted to gambling, but I do gamble some times, most especially when I am broke. This case is in two forms in the sense that for the husband to win the game, the money will increase or even double, but as he loses, everyone will blame him. Actually, being addicted to gambling is a very bad idea because you will continue playing even though you are losing, hoping to get more gain, and some end up borrowing money just to gamble.
For me, I can say the only mistake the fiancée made was using almost all the money, hoping to win and bring back more money home. If the fiancée had budgeted what he would spend on gambling and kept on to it, the case might have been simple and amicable, but now he has messed up big time.

The woman's fiancé really doesn't have any sense, he shouldn't have used their marriage savings to gamble, after all, using their joint savings to gamble is the stupidest thing I've ever heard, the woman's dream of being able to get married smoothly, seems to be over completely extinct. My partner and I have emergency savings but I never use the money to gamble, I only use a little capital that I get from my small business to gamble, emergency money and savings should not be used for anything related to gambling.

[Rockstarguy]

This is very bad and I feel so sorry for the lady, I think the man did very bad how would he be so sure that if he bet with such huge amount he will be to get it back.  Gambling is very risky and no game is certain that it can end up with a win, since the money does not belong to him it should have be a good reason for him not to play gambling . From what the man has done I think if the marriage should continue the lady should expect more of this because such person can use all the savings for which is meant for his family to play gambling. Their is no sense in such act.

[Bananington]

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

Good to learn how severe the gambling problem that a partner has before you commit to them in marriage, because marriage is more serious. She has dodged a missile and should be grateful for that. A man who cannot control his gambling and does not have restrictions on the money to use in gambling is not yet fit for marriage and should remain single for as long as possible until they are able to put that irresponsible habit under control. If she already cannot deal with the gambling habit of her partner before marriage, she cannot get used to it in marriage.

[bayu7adi]

This is a grave mistake, a truly significant one that no one should commit. While we are all entitled to gamble or bet on anything, it should never involve money that doesn't belong to us, not even 100%. In this scenario, it's clear that all the risks should rest on the shoulders of the individual who used that money for gambling. The responsibility to reimburse the losses incurred through gambling should lie with that individual. The woman should receive her rightful share, which is 60% of the funds they've accumulated.

Pointing fingers won't resolve the issue because it's evident that the fault lies with the man. Like any responsible man, I hope he takes it upon himself to promptly mend the wounds of the woman. His reckless actions need to be addressed with fairness.

As for the woman, I advise against marrying someone like that man. It would only introduce long-term risks, and he might take even more irrational steps than the ones he's already taken.

[lionheart78]

People can be heartless. The most shocking story that I will be hoping to read is someone using their pops or moms money for funeral for gambling..this story will break the internet.

The guy in the story is going to live with regret for the rest of his life..He cost the girl the marriage, her mental health, her money.

There is more worse than that, selling/gambling wife and kids to meet the father's gambling activity is the worst, IMO. Here are some of the article that were published in the internet:

Man loses wife as stake in IPL gambling

This was published in 2016 where a husband bet his wife on an IPL and lost her.  The wife does not know the she was used as a stake when the guy who won started to harrass her.

Gambler sold his wife, minor daughter; family rescued by officials

In Short
Man sold his wife, three daughters and son to settle gambling debt
He sold his minor daughter to relative for Rs 1.5 lakh
Police have rescued the children

[Hispo]

People can be heartless. The most shocking story that I will be hoping to read is someone using their pops or moms money for funeral for gambling..this story will break the internet.

The guy in the story is going to live with regret for the rest of his life..He cost the girl the marriage, her mental health, her money.

There is more worse than that, selling/gambling wife and kids to meet the father's gambling activity is the worst, IMO. Here are some of the article that were published in the internet:

Man loses wife as stake in IPL gambling

This was published in 2016 where a husband bet his wife on an IPL and lost her.  The wife does not know the she was used as a stake when the guy who won started to harrass her.

Gambler sold his wife, minor daughter; family rescued by officials

In Short
Man sold his wife, three daughters and son to settle gambling debt
He sold his minor daughter to relative for Rs 1.5 lakh
Police have rescued the children

That is the kind of stuff I meant some posts ago when I said there are worse ways and outcomes when comes to letting gambling and betting addiction to take over oneself. I knew there were stories of people literally using others as collateral (I assumed it was something in developing countries of Asia, for example), but this may be the first reference I have read in Bitcointalk.
At least, the final outcome of those victims was not as bad as one would have expected, since they got rescued by authorities, however, let us reflex on other cases which did not get resolved by police and people had to live in conditions of slavery because someone who was supposed to take care of them used them as poker chips instead.

True deranged and disgusting. How knows, perhaps the woman who lost that wedding money actually dodged a bullet in the long term, she could have ended up being used as a chip someday...

[Chikito]

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

That's why it's important money management for young people who plan the wedding. Also, I don't know why the girlfriend didn't stop him for gambling if knew the risk she faced later. So if he wants to invest, and double the money, gambling is not the only way to face the risk. He can trade it in an exchange or save it on gold if they plan a wedding on over the years. This accident happened also in my city where his boy friend tried to double his wedding money by play the slot. but unfortunately it failed, all the money is at stake and gone.

[FanEagle]

I disagree with trying to give another chance, marriage is something for life in my mind and marrying with someone with divorce at the back of your head is not a good idea. You shouldn't marry with someone who you can easily divorce, if that is the case then that is not what marrying someone means, back in the day you stood together thick and thin, and yes you can definitely divorce someone if you think you shouldn't stay with them, but you do not marry someone thinking "if this doesn't work out then I would simply divorce them", that's not a good way to start a marriage.

I think it would be smarter to just not marry this person and forget about the money and think to yourself this was a close call and you got off cheaper than you would otherwise. It's worse to spend time on them and realize it was a mistake.

[jaberwock]

I really feel sorry for the lady with no single sympathy for the man. The only area I don't understand was if she already knew her man was a gambler and the extent to which he can gamble. If such information was revealed to her and she still felt she could cope, then she should deal with it and move on because she should not be surprised. On the other hand, if the man concealed such information from the fiance, then he still have terrible secrets and marrying such a man is not the best for the lady.

Gambling is supposed to be done with spared funds and not money one cannot afford to loose. The guy should first go and treat his greed level before raising a family because it is obvious he hasn't understand the important of priority.

This will also help us learn from his mistakes because many people have poor mindset about gambling. Since it is something of probability, we should always follow it in that manner because it is not certain the outcome you choose will work that way.

Whether he knew it or not, there is nothing much he can do about it. All she can do for now is to moved on. Some time's people are good at hiding things. So I won't blame someone else if they can marry a wrong person. If we already know that our partner is a gambler but is responsible at first, we can allow them but as they say, people change. So, maybe that is also the case that happens to them.

I think it's better to just not be confident and secure our valuables if we think we are the ones who is much responsible and don't have a habit such as playing a gambling. Yes, these types of posts are helpful to give us awareness or can act as a reminder, so thanks to the sharer of it.

[Suzume]

The matter is too much sad for the lady. But trying luck in gambling is a big stupidity. If you try to test your luck in gamble you are the most stupid person in the world. Because luck doesn't fever every time favour on you. In gambling it's rare to favor luck on you. Game is fully depend on your mentality and your experience.

The man try to see he is luck but he had done too much stupid in his life. He spend 60% of his wedding savings. who we are Gambler here. We always gamble that amount of money which we can recover after loss. If we faces loss in gambling then we invest that amount of money that we can maintain and that will not create problem in our life. Gambling is a game there is a win or loss experience increase the win rate of game.

I feel so sad for the lady but the man made a big stupid for trying his  luck in gamble.

[Rockstarguy]

I think it would be smarter to just not marry this person and forget about the money and think to yourself this was a close call and you got off cheaper than you would otherwise. It's worse to spend time on them and realize it was a mistake.

I think this is will be a good decision for the lady, going into marriage with a man so addictive to gambling can also be a serious problem to her which will also affect her. Situation like this will keep on happening,  this particular one of gambling with money that was supposed to for the marriage ceremony didn't just happen by mistake, what gets me so surprised about this story is the audacity. I think this man sees gambling as the most important thing in his life , other things can came second.  People who play gambling like this can be a problem to other people,  which they can use the money of people to settle their gambling urge first.

[stomachgrowls]

The matter is too much sad for the lady. But trying luck in gambling is a big stupidity. If you try to test your luck in gamble you are the most stupid person in the world. Because luck doesn't fever every time favour on you. In gambling it's rare to favor luck on you. Game is fully depend on your mentality and your experience.

The man try to see he is luck but he had done too much stupid in his life. He spend 60% of his wedding savings. who we are Gambler here. We always gamble that amount of money which we can recover after loss. If we faces loss in gambling then we invest that amount of money that we can maintain and that will not create problem in our life. Gambling is a game there is a win or loss experience increase the win rate of game.

I feel so sad for the lady but the man made a big stupid for trying his  luck in gamble.

Totally hard for the girl or woman for this situation or something that do talks about being heartbreaking on which it would really be that normal considering that wedding funds had been used up for the sake of gambling
which your man didnt really that been thinking about the things that should really be that to be prioritize first. I dont know if the girl would really be still that liking to hear off on whatever reasons that would really be telling which we do consider out that its never been that a wise decision or showing up some respect into your wife to be on such act even if you do say that you did such thing for trying out to double the money.
You dont really have the full rights on spending it all since you dont have that contribution or even lets say you do have the bigger percentage but it is really just that right that you should really be
asking first on whatever decisions you would really be taking because you would really be making things mess up if you do take actions without letting the other side knows.

For me as a woman then i would definitely be leaving out this man although it is painful but its better not to take any decisions on marrying him considering that he had made out some
gambling addicted kind of act and also he didnt respect nor choose that marriage but instead he do risks out those funds without hesitaiton.