He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet

[Zigabel]

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

Her fiance just displayed the highest level of irresponsibility and that alone for me is a  reason she may have to reconsider the relationship because if she proceeds with the marriage, in the nearest future, chances are that he may end up using funds mwnt for something really important to the family to rather gamble than to meet up with the need sof the family and that in itself will be very detrimental to the family which she knows, this is a great opportunity for her to learn and make sure to see the errors and the possible Chances of their marriage having a huge problem in the future which she may not be able to bear and will proceed to divorce which may turn out another huge stress on its own.

[boyptc]

Honestly, marrying a gambling-addicted person is really bad because his wife may hardly get any rest of mind due to the problems he maybe causing around every day.

I agree.

Instead of having someone to help you out with life and reach goals together, you're marrying the problem. That's truth that needed to be said and that's actually a good knock out to the wife or soon to be or whatever happened to them.

But it was a red flag and a sign that she shouldn't saw long time before. If she has cut off the wedding and marriage, then that's a good decision for her.

She has dodged a huge bullet.

It is hard to say whether  the guy would stay as a gambler and won't change since no one can tell the future.  And if the girl does not give the guy a chance then that is good for her since she believes that the guy has no chance to change his ways and by deciding to not marry the guy evaded her for future problem if the guy failed to change.

Well, the girl has the say on that relationship when it's come to marriage. Actually, if we're going to analyze their relationship, the girl probably has the idea that the guy has been gambling.

But then, the worst has came and the guy spent their money for wedding to gambling and that's already off the road and limits.

The girl needs to do something if she wants to make her life better in the long run or be with the guy that he'll struggle with and hope for the change but that's the biggest gamble of her life.

[Casdinyard]

  Hi guys and ladies, here comes a very sad and heart-breaking story (true life confession) of a young lady who was contributing money (saving money) together with her husband-to-be (fiancée) in preparation for their wedding. The story in quote ..

My fiancee and I have been making arrangements for wedding, we are both contributing (saving) money because i know about his financial condition, in fact, i will say that i have contributed to about 60% of the total money in our savings, just for him to use nearly all the 5 million naira (approximately $5000) we saved to play betting and when i asked him about it, he said he was trying not to put all the wedding burden on me, that he thought he would be able to double the money.

I am really speechless and confused, and i think it's best for me to call the wedding off, what will i even tell people that already know about our wedding plans? this is the most disgraceful thing that has ever happened to me.

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

I thought this was yours for a second until I checked the name and realized it was you fivestar lol. In any case, the young lady who's got a soon-to-be-husband (hopefully an ex now) is dealing with someone who is already so far gone with his gambling urges that he doesn't even realize the risks he's taking with the moves he's making anymore. First off, that money is never his, and is money that is both theirs if they are chipping in as she said. So in no way whatsoever is he allowed to just make moves on that money without consulting her first and foremost.

I am hoping she breaks up with this guy already as there's no way in God's Green Earth that I'd stay for a gambling addict. They are the worst kind of people to stick with, cause one day you think you're helping them and they've already changed, until they get that itch again and they fall for it disappointing you in an endless cycle.

[jossiel]

Her fiance just displayed the highest level of irresponsibility and that alone for me is a  reason she may have to reconsider the relationship because if she proceeds with the marriage, in the nearest future, chances are that he may end up using funds mwnt for something really important to the family to rather gamble than to meet up with the need sof the family and that in itself will be very detrimental to the family which she knows, this is a great opportunity for her to learn and make sure to see the errors and the possible Chances of their marriage having a huge problem in the future which she may not be able to bear and will proceed to divorce which may turn out another huge stress on its own.

There are many relationships nowadays that capitalizes with being financial stable. And if someone is seen to be having an emotional breakdown due to lack of finances, that will also give more emotional problems that might lead to stress and breakup.

We may not like it but this is how most of the relationships nowadays.

Women want financial security for their stability and living a good life with someone who's good at money and responsible not with someone who's irresponsible.

[Dewi Aries]

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

Her fiance just displayed the highest level of irresponsibility and that alone for me is a  reason she may have to reconsider the relationship because if she proceeds with the marriage, in the nearest future, chances are that he may end up using funds mwnt for something really important to the family to rather gamble than to meet up with the need sof the family and that in itself will be very detrimental to the family which she knows, this is a great opportunity for her to learn and make sure to see the errors and the possible Chances of their marriage having a huge problem in the future which she may not be able to bear and will proceed to divorce which may turn out another huge stress on its own.

True, the incident indirectly tells the female partner that the man she is going to marry is someone who does not have a good responsibility in him, and of course what you say is a possibility that is really very likely to happen, in the sense that if the two of them continue their marriage then yes there is a possibility for the man to do more crazy things which can damage the harmony in their household relationship or even threaten their lives. On the other hand, a man is the head of the household in the family, meaning that they have a very big responsibility to maintain the lives of all their small families at all costs, while on the other hand gambling is an activity that requires someone to always allocate money, and if the gambler is already addicted then of course it is likely that they will not hesitate to do or take various crazy actions that can have a very negative impact on their family life. So this incident indirectly tells the female partner to reconsider her decision before regretting it.

[LDL]

It is very sad to read the story where the husband of the woman who had saved her wedding money loses it instantly by taking part in gambling. The woman's husband was greedy and wanted to double the money by winning a bet together in gambling, so he gambled with his wife's savings.
But such a story is a regular occurrence in my country which often happens. Alcohol and gambling from wife's savings is a common occurrence in my region. These gamblers have never been convinced, but when they fail to manage the gambling money, they steal the wife's money, make gambling bets and get drunk.
A common issue of violence against women arises mainly from managing this gambling money. The dowry system, abuse of women, theft, robbery, murder etc. unusual events are mainly caused by managing gambling money.

[Fortify]

  Hi guys and ladies, here comes a very sad and heart-breaking story (true life confession) of a young lady who was contributing money (saving money) together with her husband-to-be (fiancée) in preparation for their wedding. The story in quote ..

My fiancee and I have been making arrangements for wedding, we are both contributing (saving) money because i know about his financial condition, in fact, i will say that i have contributed to about 60% of the total money in our savings, just for him to use nearly all the 5 million naira (approximately $5000) we saved to play betting and when i asked him about it, he said he was trying not to put all the wedding burden on me, that he thought he would be able to double the money.

I am really speechless and confused, and i think it's best for me to call the wedding off, what will i even tell people that already know about our wedding plans? this is the most disgraceful thing that has ever happened to me.

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

While it is very sad to hear about anyone having their trust betrayed like this, it might be a blessing in disguise. It's better she found out early on and avoided being attached to this degenerate gambler for a much longer time. She found out that he would be willing to throw away their future in order to satisfy his gambling urges. That is a lot of money and presumably his mind had become so warped that he was trying to double up or take a shortcut. Unfortunately for gamblers there is never enough and they will keep going until losing everything. Hopefully there were no outstanding and unpaid debts connected to the wedding.

[GigaBit]

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

Losing money in gambling gives everyone a worst feeling. But when the money placed bet for the purpose of any particular issue and after losing that money, then the losing pain increases more. A woman who lost wedding money by betting understood the pain of losing. However, no money should be placed in gambling that one cannot afford to lose. Every bet is risky If someone places a bet with the expectation of certain win then it is a completely wrong decision. They lost the bet and suffered losses but I don't think there was any crack about their relation. If they can learn from this mistake then they will not make mistake repeatedly.

[Pandu Geddon]

They lost the bet and suffered losses but I don't think there was any crack about their relation. If they can learn from this mistake then they will not make mistake repeatedly.

If they finally form a relationship that continues seriously, I'm sure they will appreciate each other more from this bitter experience. Indeed, a very unwise action was taken, but when they were able to overcome the crisis that happened to them. If they learn and want to improve themselves, they will pay more attention and manage their finances better.

We as gamblers may often make similar mistakes. using money for other purposes in gambling, the risk is greater. don't repeat such things. If a gambler has never made such a mistake, then this is a warning and a piece of knowledge that every gambler must understand.

[sompitonov]

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

Losing money in gambling gives everyone a worst feeling. But when the money placed bet for the purpose of any particular issue and after losing that money, then the losing pain increases more. A woman who lost wedding money by betting understood the pain of losing. However, no money should be placed in gambling that one cannot afford to lose. Every bet is risky If someone places a bet with the expectation of certain win then it is a completely wrong decision. They lost the bet and suffered losses but I don't think there was any crack about their relation. If they can learn from this mistake then they will not make mistake repeatedly.

Of course, this is most likely the most unpleasant situation in this girl’s life, but if you look from the other side, it would be worse if she married such a gaming addict. She would have had to divorce him, but the situation cleared up and everything became clear. I think next time she will meet someone who will never in her life sacrifice their relationship for the sake of a game or other entertainment that is not worth it. Of course, girls cannot figure out whether their future groom is a gambling addict, because they hide it very carefully, because they understand that if they find out about their secret addiction, they will most likely leave him and find a more serious man without addiction.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

Losing money in gambling gives everyone a worst feeling. But when the money placed bet for the purpose of any particular issue and after losing that money, then the losing pain increases more. A woman who lost wedding money by betting understood the pain of losing. However, no money should be placed in gambling that one cannot afford to lose. Every bet is risky If someone places a bet with the expectation of certain win then it is a completely wrong decision. They lost the bet and suffered losses but I don't think there was any crack about their relation. If they can learn from this mistake then they will not make mistake repeatedly.

Well, sorry but I will have to disagree with some of the points you made.
First being that losing money in/to gambling gives worst feeling, this is not exactly true, loses are normal in gambling, and who ever can not move on from their gambling loss shouldn't be gambling in the first place, losing money in gambling is a normal thing, it can only result to worst feeling like in this case, the money lost was one that was meant for some really important stuff, or money the gambler wasn't ready to lose at all.

And Secondly, it's important you understand that expections are normal thing in gambling, and this is not only in gambling but other things as well, like trading, everyone who is placing a bet is expecting to win, nobody places a bet and expect to lose the body, expectations is a natural thing in life generally.

[bering]

In fact, the lady who thinks the decision is good will actually be good for her. Although I think people should be checked with second chances, I would also say that it is better not to marry an addicted gambler, because they only put the family in a bad situation and never try to get out of that bad situation.

When I was reading this story I could not stop laughing because can you imagine. The moment kept for wedding used to gamble is just a lot insane because am wondering if he does not know the risk behind gambling but looks like he wants to get more money for their wedding but that is actually place to do that, and the lady needs to have a rethink of wether she will continue with the wedding or not, marrying someone that is addicted so gambling is like wise putting your finances at risk. Anything addiction will end up create more problems like gambling on debt and so many inappropriate things just because they want to gamble and even with all this they still will be having difficulties to win. Addicted people don't win except they want to be faking the whole winning. It is better to try and aviod anything that will be a difficult problem to solve than want to manage it because people like managing instead of them to end everything to protect them self.

Talking about the risk in gambling i am sure the man is not a fool and he knows the risks of gambling because the outcomes from gambling is really unpredictable then with decide to putting all of his wedding saving then he realize there are only two possibilities which he will got that if won then he can doubled his money then if lost then most likely his marriage will fail because the money has run out to bet on gambling and from this case we can see that the man had already become addicted to gambling and i am sure this is only the beginning because if he does not try to recover from addiction then he will used other money to satisfied his hobby however addiction can be cured with the help of loved ones and now the decision is up to the woman herself that will she continue to marry a man who is addicted to gambling and help him to recover or she will decide to cancel the wedding and leave the man

[Egii Nna]

It is very sad to read the story where the husband of the woman who had saved her wedding money loses it instantly by taking part in gambling. The woman's husband was greedy and wanted to double the money by winning a bet together in gambling, so he gambled with his wife's savings.
But such a story is a regular occurrence in my country which often happens. Alcohol and gambling from wife's savings is a common occurrence in my region. These gamblers have never been convinced, but when they fail to manage the gambling money, they steal the wife's money, make gambling bets and get drunk.
A common issue of violence against women arises mainly from managing this gambling money. The dowry system, abuse of women, theft, robbery, murder etc. unusual events are mainly caused by managing gambling money.

It is a sad story, though, but on the other hand, if he won that gambling, no one would have heard the story unless they found it hard to share the money equally. I have encountered something similar to this some years ago, but I was not able to handle the situation. Because they came to me for a solution, the story is that for a boyfriend and his girlfriend, she has a local bank that she saves money at home, which normally people who have that usually keep it in a private place. So when the boyfriend is looking for something, he finds the bank, and he is always having financial issues due to his gambling habit, so he breaks the bank and takes all the money worth around $100, so he uses the money to gamble, and he wins approximately $10,000. 
 
So the main issue to hear is that the girl friend said that all the money he won belongs to her unless she wishes to give him a bit of the money, so this is the same as what happened in this weeding stuff: no one will talk of woman abuse or violence against women. 

[Pressurizedem]

This is a very expensive risk to take,and I must confess that I cannot try this kind of thing.I have gambled for some years now,and I haven't seen anything that can make me forget my event,and want to double my money in that kind of risky way.What if you  lose all the money? These are things that can make someone very depressed,and can make you turn into a drunkard in less than no time.
Since I started gambling,I haven't made this kind of risk,and I'm not thinking of risking like this anytime soon.

[bitzizzix]

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

Losing money in gambling gives everyone a worst feeling. But when the money placed bet for the purpose of any particular issue and after losing that money, then the losing pain increases more. A woman who lost wedding money by betting understood the pain of losing. However, no money should be placed in gambling that one cannot afford to lose. Every bet is risky If someone places a bet with the expectation of certain win then it is a completely wrong decision. They lost the bet and suffered losses but I don't think there was any crack about their relation. If they can learn from this mistake then they will not make mistake repeatedly.

Well, sorry but I will have to disagree with some of the points you made.
First being that losing money in/to gambling gives worst feeling, this is not exactly true, loses are normal in gambling, and who ever can not move on from their gambling loss shouldn't be gambling in the first place, losing money in gambling is a normal thing, it can only result to worst feeling like in this case, the money lost was one that was meant for some really important stuff, or money the gambler wasn't ready to lose at all.

And Secondly, it's important you understand that expections are normal thing in gambling, and this is not only in gambling but other things as well, like trading, everyone who is placing a bet is expecting to win, nobody places a bet and expect to lose the body, expectations is a natural thing in life generally.

That's right, we have to be prepared to lose money if we want to gamble, trade and so on related to the money at stake.
But only stupid men who use important money, such as using savings for a wedding that has been planned for a long time, and other important necessities for gambling risk losing it.
And if he knows the risk of gambling is the potential to lose money, why still use it and indeed sometimes these expectations can be tempting. However, these expectations must be supported by knowledge and experience to have a chance of winning, although there are no guarantees. And whatever the reason, it is not advisable to use important money to gamble unless you are ready to face the consequences.

[GxSTxV]

This one of the worst things gambling addiction and bad responsibility can do and hurt even their close people, that lady must be brave to not mention breaking up with that man. Unfortunately, such mistakes are unforgivable to me, no matter how bad your addiction is, you should never use important funds to gamble and risk your future, this is even worse when using other people’s money that meant to be spent on a wedding.

That man really failed in every possible way, failed to be responsible, failed to communicate with his partner in life, and more importantly he destroyed his life in just few seconds putting all that money on one single bet without even telling the real owner of that money. Gambling is not a joke if you are not aware of the risks.

[DaNNy001]

In fact, the lady who thinks the decision is good will actually be good for her. Although I think people should be checked with second chances, I would also say that it is better not to marry an addicted gambler, because they only put the family in a bad situation and never try to get out of that bad situation.

When I was reading this story I could not stop laughing because can you imagine. The moment kept for wedding used to gamble is just a lot insane because am wondering if he does not know the risk behind gambling but looks like he wants to get more money for their wedding but that is actually place to do that, and the lady needs to have a rethink of wether she will continue with the wedding or not, marrying someone that is addicted so gambling is like wise putting your finances at risk. Anything addiction will end up create more problems like gambling on debt and so many inappropriate things just because they want to gamble and even with all this they still will be having difficulties to win. Addicted people don't win except they want to be faking the whole winning. It is better to try and aviod anything that will be a difficult problem to solve than want to manage it because people like managing instead of them to end everything to protect them self.

Talking about the risk in gambling i am sure the man is not a fool and he knows the risks of gambling because the outcomes from gambling is really unpredictable then with decide to putting all of his wedding saving then he realize there are only two possibilities which he will got that if won then he can doubled his money then if lost then most likely his marriage will fail because the money has run out to bet on gambling and from this case we can see that the man had already become addicted to gambling and i am sure this is only the beginning because if he does not try to recover from addiction then he will used other money to satisfied his hobby however addiction can be cured with the help of loved ones and now the decision is up to the woman herself that will she continue to marry a man who is addicted to gambling and help him to recover or she will decide to cancel the wedding and leave the man

I can bet you that after this the children's school is actually a sure banker to be used because that's what addiction can cause to a person life and believe losing the money is just the first phase as I believe he will go further by even trying to win back that wedding money he used which will further subject him to more chaos.

[Frankolala]

There are some attitudes that most people will hide from their partner for almost a lifetime until they are fully married, and there is no way that they can continue hiding them again, so in most cases, that's how some people get involved in getting married to an addicted gambler without even knowing it.

Indeed. True colors will come out once you're already living in the same roof. In this case, it's a good thing the woman already discovered the behavior of his finance before they get married. It might be really painful losing someone plus the money you worked hard for meant for this special event but everything happens for a reason. Because a man giving you importance won't dare to use your both savings for his believe to easily grow it through gambling. Because it's never been an answer to give anyone a guaranteed money once you place a bet.

You are right, the lady should be happy that this played out before the wedding and it has revealed that the guy is not the right person for her o get married to because she was planning of entering into a big problem that she might live regretting all these days of her life.

Imagine that they are already wedded and she worked so hard and entrusted a lot of money to this addict, or built a house. He might wake up one morinig and sell the house due to addiction or use the money bigger than what he used for the wedding savings to gamble. Marrying the wrong person is something one need to prevent in order to be happy in life.

[Strongkored]

It is very sad to read the story where the husband of the woman who had saved her wedding money loses it instantly by taking part in gambling. The woman's husband was greedy and wanted to double the money by winning a bet together in gambling, so he gambled with his wife's savings.
But such a story is a regular occurrence in my country which often happens. Alcohol and gambling from wife's savings is a common occurrence in my region. These gamblers have never been convinced, but when they fail to manage the gambling money, they steal the wife's money, make gambling bets and get drunk.
A common issue of violence against women arises mainly from managing this gambling money. The dowry system, abuse of women, theft, robbery, murder etc. unusual events are mainly caused by managing gambling money.

Luckily it wasn't her husband that's what I read from Op's screenshot, meaning she didn't need to spend a lot of time on a man who had made a fatal mistake and that was a stupid act, because the money he had saved was actually used up in gambling activities even though the reasons when he gambled were sound It was good enough to be able to double the money because it turned out that the woman gave more for her wedding expenses later.
From this story the conclusion is that when you think about doubling your money in gambling it is stupid because even though the chances are 50/50 you will never be sure to make money in gambling in fact in my opinion losing is much more certain, even if it is on sports betting and you have tried to do the analysis as carefully as possible but there is still a chance that you will experience defeat and lose your money rather than doubling your money.

[DubemIfedigbo001]

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The wife was also careless with the way the funds were handled, maybe it was saved in an account he has control over. In recent times like this, joint savings are not left at the mercy of just one person. Both parties being present before any strong decision should be made or the money tampered is a condition that should have been put in place before the savings even kicked off...

You`re wrong here, she acted any good woman will act to are husband, don`t forget this is her husband to be if she did not trust him for such money for their marriage arrangement how will she trust him in their feature plans together. Also base on the story it seems like her husband to be was not really someone obsessed with gambling to say this was a red flag.

Listen buddy, its not always about trust, but about caution,  being her husband doesn't make him an AI robot or some kind of programmed device that is without mistakes or above temptation. Some cautious habits helps keep is in check, especially when finds are involved.

Let me sight a simple possibility for you. Both of them jointly consenting to the movement of funds from the account would've helped keep the man's excesses in check, and make him sought other alternatives  to make more money instead of using the savings for gambling since he cannot access it alone and his fiance cannot give in to such lame possibility. It helps create an atmosphere of diplomacy and not autonomy as dispensed by the man in question.

It  will also gives the fiance a sense of inclusion in the whole activity.