Losing at gambling

[Issa56]

it's not worth it to leave your partner just because he lost at gambling and spent all your savings. indeed, the mistake he made was quite fatal, namely that he gambled using savings which should not have been used for gambling. but try to look at the other side, how long was your marriage, what are the memories of the two of you, what will your children be like in the future, and there are many other things that need to be considered before deciding to divorce.

so forgiving him is much better than divorcing him because after all divorce will not solve the problem, in fact it will make the problem more complicated and worse. so it's better to solve the problem together and find a solution, there must be one.

we all know how painful it is to lose everything to gambling and the fact that your partner made a very irrational choice and that is why it is always good to have a budget and not to pass it because you might endanger yourself and your family because some of your decision will affect them one way of the other. and leaving that partner won't help them the best thing is to get help for them because if you don't get help they might do worse. and everyone is open to mistakes so the best thing the wife can do is to get help for him. before he ends up selling the house all in the name of gambling and trying to win. separating is not even an option. devolve is not even a good option because it will affect the partners and also the children so it is better to talk things out than to divorce.

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[salad daging]

It didn't happen to me or my own family...

Often have heard how many cases where husbands spend more money on gambling until they don't have any money, the reaction as a wife acts where they want to ask for a divorce because of injustice to their family, then this is more trouble until it ends up being separated without apologizing.

That gambling often destroys a harmonious couple if you as a man do not maintain the balance of money spent on gambling, for gambling itself never put a lot of money quite a bit even 2% is enough, well sometimes human nature will not be satisfied with a little gambling allocation.

[Ruttoshi]

It didn't happen to me or my own family...

Often have heard how many cases where husbands spend more money on gambling until they don't have any money, the reaction as a wife acts where they want to ask for a divorce because of injustice to their family, then this is more trouble until it ends up being separated without apologizing.

That gambling often destroys a harmonious couple if you as a man do not maintain the balance of money spent on gambling, for gambling itself never put a lot of money quite a bit even 2% is enough, well sometimes human nature will not be satisfied with a little gambling allocation.

Self management and self discipline matters a lot for a man with his family, so that he can use his cash inflow properly by assigning only little amount of his monthly income on gamble. This is why as a family man, you need to put your family first before your own personal expenses to avoid problems.

Gambling should be done with caution to avoid overdoing it, so that it does not have side effect on you and your family, which will lead to divorce because of addiction. One should only use the amount of money that he can afford to lose, so that it will not affect him emotionally, to the extend of using all the money in the house for gambling because he is busy chasing his losses.

[hyudien]

Self management and self discipline matters a lot for a man with his family, so that he can use his cash inflow properly by assigning only little amount of his monthly income on gamble. This is why as a family man, you need to put your family first before your own personal expenses to avoid problems.

Gambling should be done with caution to avoid overdoing it, so that it does not have side effect on you and your family, which will lead to divorce because of addiction. One should only use the amount of money that he can afford to lose, so that it will not affect him emotionally, to the extend of using all the money in the house for gambling because he is busy chasing his losses.

I agree with that, family is indeed an important thing in life, of course if we already have a family we must be able to prioritize family. when we have income, of course we have to be able to prioritize family and basic needs, and after that, only our own needs, such as wanting to buy what we want or gambling, many families divorce because of financial problems where the head of the family only prioritizes gambling, and that's Of course it is a problem, if we are married but always prioritize gambling then the destruction of the relationship will be at stake.
That's right, gambling should be done in moderation, not overdone. Balancing ourselves with our preferences is important, if we really like gambling then we must be able to balance our preferences with our needs, be able to differentiate between what is important and what is not so important. Don't let us gamble excessively, such as using large amounts of money just for gambling but don't think about our needs.

[Lannakosa]

Self management and self discipline matters a lot for a man with his family, so that he can use his cash inflow properly by assigning only little amount of his monthly income on gamble. This is why as a family man, you need to put your family first before your own personal expenses to avoid problems.

Gambling should be done with caution to avoid overdoing it, so that it does not have side effect on you and your family, which will lead to divorce because of addiction. One should only use the amount of money that he can afford to lose, so that it will not affect him emotionally, to the extend of using all the money in the house for gambling because he is busy chasing his losses.

Initially, you need to think not about how much you can lose, but how much you can earn, this is a psychological moment that already shows the player where he needs to strive. Although I agree that most players will lose more than they win, and for such, of course, limits need to be set so that they do not lose more, than they can afford, so that this is within reason.

[Hispo]

It didn't happen to me or my own family...

Often have heard how many cases where husbands spend more money on gambling until they don't have any money, the reaction as a wife acts where they want to ask for a divorce because of injustice to their family, then this is more trouble until it ends up being separated without apologizing.

That gambling often destroys a harmonious couple if you as a man do not maintain the balance of money spent on gambling, for gambling itself never put a lot of money quite a bit even 2% is enough, well sometimes human nature will not be satisfied with a little gambling allocation.

There are several things which could perturbate the harmony of a couple, there are several things besides gambling. It could be alcohol, abuse (physical or psychological), lack of honesty or even an affair.
Though, one should never underestimate the impact uncontrolled gambling can have on the integrity of a couple. There have been cases about couples separating over money management, that is true, and it would be up to them to face the actions of one of them gambling away money or to separate from each other indefinitely.

It is easy to assume smthose kinds of reckless actions can be forgiven, but it is not that easy, one needs to put oneself in the shoes of a woman who just discovered all their money being flushed away down the toilet. I would not blame anyone for separating because of it. It is very though.

[Ruttoshi]

Self management and self discipline matters a lot for a man with his family, so that he can use his cash inflow properly by assigning only little amount of his monthly income on gamble. This is why as a family man, you need to put your family first before your own personal expenses to avoid problems.

Gambling should be done with caution to avoid overdoing it, so that it does not have side effect on you and your family, which will lead to divorce because of addiction. One should only use the amount of money that he can afford to lose, so that it will not affect him emotionally, to the extend of using all the money in the house for gambling because he is busy chasing his losses.

Initially, you need to think not about how much you can lose, but how much you can earn, this is a psychological moment that already shows the player where he needs to strive. Although I agree that most players will lose more than they win, and for such, of course, limits need to be set so that they do not lose more, than they can afford, so that this is within reason.

Exactly, limits should be set. What I do is that I have some days that I gamble in the week, and d I also have time limits for my gambling activities. This enable me to manage my gamble losses, so that it will not affect my family. But if I gamble often, the odds of becoming an addict or using funds for the family to gamble will be high.

There is no need to gamble when you don't have extra funds to do that, because it will look as if you are not matured enough to start using funds for an important purpose to gamble, and start acting funny, without thinking about the next person.

[o48o]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

Your question and your post give different vibes about what's happening here. If she lost winnings she made before and didn't use them or cash out yet, i would be technically ok with that. As i don't even count money that hasn't been cash out as nothing more then casino chips.

But problem is that we should have a seperate budget that would be good enough reason for me to say "it's not really even my business".

With joint budget she would knowingly leave out telling me that she won in the first place, so i probably wouldn't be mad for something i didn't know about. But if i found out, i don't think there would be enough trust between us that would hold the marriage together. Because why would she withold that kind of information? And what has happened in our lives when we have "nothing" left. What that even means? We don't have a roof over our head? Food, money or what?

[HelliumZ]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

This is how it has been going on for ages, especially when a man gambles and loses everything in gambling, it affects his wife and inhuman abuse descends on her. When a gambler becomes bankrupt, his wife is kept mentally disturbed by inhuman torture and pressure of dowry. All these recent incidents are a common and insignificant incident in our Bangladesh. Every now and then, hundreds of bad cases like divorce happen here only because of not being able to manage the dowry money. When a gambler puts pressure on his wife for dowry, there is family turmoil as well as emotional turmoil.

[Egii Nna]

Initially, you need to think not about how much you can lose, but how much you can earn, this is a psychological moment that already shows the player where he needs to strive. Although I agree that most players will lose more than they win, and for such, of course, limits need to be set so that they do not lose more, than they can afford, so that this is within reason.

The main priority that needs to be considered is both sides. When I said both sides, I meant either you want to earn or you lose, because when you emphasise what you will earn, you will end up losing. Although we all know that you most likely believe that you will definitely lose. As a gambler, you have to be someone who always sees the future, which might be good or bad. That is just what will sustain you and not end up exceeding your budget. Because when you focus on the profit you earn, you will end up taking a risk that might result in your life, so mostly you should emphasise both factors, which is either you lose or gain. Just not to a someone that will end up regretting his actions after the game is over or whenyour money has finished.

[Sandra_hakeem]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

I haven't been a victim of such circumstances (even as a woman)... You gotta brace up and adjust your spendings to be able to cope with the current adversity...
Gambling and spending illicitly have been a major reason for several divorce cases... It's best for a man to control his habits as that would not only be problematic to him, but his family and reputation as well..."I've heard several stories way-back from the neighborhood" Their wives would openly complain of shouldering the family's responsibility because of the man's carelessness.

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[MainIbem]

I am trying as much as possible not to find myself in such condition or situation neither do I wish to see my wife in such condition where she will become a gambling addicts and bet away everything we have sort for in just a day or for gambling, though no hope is lost and if find ourselves in such condition I will have to jail her at least for like 6 months in prison then she will come to her normal senses since I believe addiction is involved and when she is at quiet place restricted from gambling I believe next she would not take such decision or even trying to dip her head into gambling again because she knew that we really work hard to have everything out there.

[fullhdpixel]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

Never happened to me, but the example does not seems as something that is very likely to happen, as if you were to open a joint bank account with your partner, you could specify that in order to make any withdrawal both spouses need to give their approval for this to happen.

So even if a spouse was to experiment a moment in which they lost control of themselves, they could only spend the money they have on hand and not touch the money on the joint bank account.

What if there is no bank account involved? Some people save money in cash and keep it either at home or somewhere in a safe where they feel they would be secure, and maybe the partner can access those funds without any approval from the other person and spend it all in a physical casino while thinking they might double the amount or at least win something on top of that. That can be disastrous and I'm sure there are stories such as this one out there.

However, as you said, it is foolish to follow this method of saving money and two partners should always have a joint account where they can both save a percentage of their earnings for their future and that account should only allow withdrawals if both parties agree on a withdrawal.

[slapper]

Initially, you need to think not about how much you can lose, but how much you can earn, this is a psychological moment that already shows the player where he needs to strive. Although I agree that most players will lose more than they win, and for such, of course, limits need to be set so that they do not lose more, than they can afford, so that this is within reason.

The main priority that needs to be considered is both sides. When I said both sides, I meant either you want to earn or you lose, because when you emphasise what you will earn, you will end up losing. Although we all know that you most likely believe that you will definitely lose. As a gambler, you have to be someone who always sees the future, which might be good or bad. That is just what will sustain you and not end up exceeding your budget. Because when you focus on the profit you earn, you will end up taking a risk that might result in your life, so mostly you should emphasise both factors, which is either you lose or gain. Just not to a someone that will end up regretting his actions after the game is over or whenyour money has finished.

Too concentrated on winning, you miss the plummet beside you. Gambling is not dice and prayer. Knowing the game, what you're betting, and yourself is smart. Most gamblers get lost in the weeds, focusing on the immediate win rather than long-term preparation

This seeing the future? No one can. Calculated risks and quick adaptations. And the hope of winning against danger of losing dynamic? That's the basic. It's about viewing the glass as it is, not half empty. Those who assume they'll lose have already lost

Let's not overdo risking your life. Important distinction: money at stake. The true risk? Forgetting why you gamble. The rush, the puzzle, or just having fun? No matter how much money you have, the gamble ends when it's no fun. It's intended to be fun, so stay calm and move smartly

[madnessteat]

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Very often it happens that gambling ends at the same time with money. If the gambler did not expect to lose the money he deposited, it is unlikely that he will experience some fun. On the contrary, rather he will sink into depression and will be angry.

The one who assumes that with a greater probability of losing is just more pessimistic about life and assesses their chances not relying on dreams, but relying on game theory and statistics.

[LUCKMCFLY]

Initially, you need to think not about how much you can lose, but how much you can earn, this is a psychological moment that already shows the player where he needs to strive. Although I agree that most players will lose more than they win, and for such, of course, limits need to be set so that they do not lose more, than they can afford, so that this is within reason.

The main priority that needs to be considered is both sides. When I said both sides, I meant either you want to earn or you lose, because when you emphasise what you will earn, you will end up losing. Although we all know that you most likely believe that you will definitely lose. As a gambler, you have to be someone who always sees the future, which might be good or bad. That is just what will sustain you and not end up exceeding your budget. Because when you focus on the profit you earn, you will end up taking a risk that might result in your life, so mostly you should emphasise both factors, which is either you lose or gain. Just not to a someone that will end up regretting his actions after the game is over or whenyour money has finished.

We as players are always going to give priority to things as they are, if we are betting we know that money is at risk, we cannot always Expect to win, it is clear that we will always seek to win under any circumstance, but losing is also a very powerful power high, in fact the casinos have their own house advantage that guarantees that the casinos win, but not for the clients, one as a player has to learn to lose, if you bet a lot of money and you lost, well you lost, you have to accept that, If you win, what you should do is take advantage and withdraw the money , Enjoy that money and do everything possible to enjoy it.

When we lose in a casino we must have the maturity that it is something that normally happens and that we cannot worry about it, it is something common, but it depends on us if we want to put more money when we should not play, because we will be losing often and that must be done avoid it.

[topbitcoin]

This has never happened in my small family. However, this is a warning in itself about how we can be more careful in carrying out gambling activities, and can manage these activities better and wiser than before. because if not, then the gambling activities that we often do will only have a negative impact on our financial situation, life balance and the relationships we are building. where quite a few people have had their finances destroyed and fallen into poverty, their balance in life has been disturbed and they are no longer productive either at work or in carrying out their daily activities, and quite a few people have also had their relationships run aground in the middle of the road and their families are in disarray just because of their bad behavior in gambling.

Therefore, it is quite important for these tips to be able to limit ourselves from gambling activities, so that the gambling we do does not cause significant losses and serious problems that can affect our financial situation, life balance and relationships. intertwine. Be a responsible gambler, not only to yourself but also to the people around you, especially your family.

[sokani]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

My gambling habit is quite in check and I don't think I'd ever find myself in a position where I'm going to throw away everything I've so much worked hard for on gambling including my relationship/marriage. Honestly, I wouldn't want to do life with a woman that gambles because she's supposed to be the one warning me of spendings and not the other way round. So I don't know what I would do if my spouse lost everything we've got on gambling. I guess I wouldn't let it get to that point, the moment I find out she's addicted, I'd assist her in seeking for help.

[nara1892]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

My gambling habit is quite in check and I don't think I'd ever find myself in a position where I'm going to throw away everything I've so much worked hard for on gambling including my relationship/marriage. Honestly, I wouldn't want to do life with a woman that gambles because she's supposed to be the one warning me of spendings and not the other way round. So I don't know what I would do if my spouse lost everything we've got on gambling. I guess I wouldn't let it get to that point, the moment I find out she's addicted, I'd assist her in seeking for help.

If, for example, you can still control and manage your gambling activities well and in accordance with what common sense recommends, then yes, that is good and you have also said that you are not willing to spend everything you already have, such as money or sacrifice the harmony of family relationships. just for gambling, in fact, everyone definitely doesn't want to experience the bad effects of gambling, but they always put their seriousness and hope in something that has absolutely no certainty whatsoever in terms of results.

Yes, I think everyone will say the same thing as you said, namely that they definitely don't want to have a partner who is involved in gambling, especially if you are married because it is clear that the possibility of bad impacts will always lurk regardless of whether your partner is a responsible gambler or not. no, and clearly there is no other action. The best thing you have to do is find a way for your partner to get out of gambling before they end up regretting it.

[borovichok]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

My gambling habit is quite in check and I don't think I'd ever find myself in a position where I'm going to throw away everything I've so much worked hard for on gambling including my relationship/marriage. Honestly, I wouldn't want to do life with a woman that gambles because she's supposed to be the one warning me of spendings and not the other way round. So I don't know what I would do if my spouse lost everything we've got on gambling. I guess I wouldn't let it get to that point, the moment I find out she's addicted, I'd assist her in seeking for help.

I will applaud you for such discipline and hope that other gamblers emulate you. One of the reasons why most gamblers are involved in problem gambling is because of indiscipline. They find it so difficult to control how they gamble and so they gamble unnecessarily thus creating complications in their lives. It’s essential to recognize the potential risks associated with gambling and to have a proactive approach to managing it responsibly. By being aware of the signs of problematic gambling behaviour and setting boundaries, a gambler can continue without it negatively impacting his life or marriage as you noted.

It should be re-emphasized here that responsible gambling involves setting limits, being mindful of how much time and money is spent on gambling activities, and seeking help if you feel like it’s becoming a problem. Keeping open communication with loved ones about your gambling habits can also help maintain accountability and support in case you ever need assistance.