Losing at gambling

[Findingnemo]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

If someone is that much irresponsible to bet the entire savings amount on gambling for whatever reason then I don't think it's acceptable at all and divorce maybe the right decision for our sake. I don't think we need to tolerate that kind of partner for entire life because it will turn into hell of a life in the earth itself. And talking about savings it is always good to save the money individually instead of pooling with your partner but when they are in financial needs for something essential then it's indeed to help.

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[iv4n]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

Well, this is a tricky situation probably. My wife doesn't gamble, that part belongs to me, but I never lost more than I can afford to lose... I had a crazy gambling experience before I got married and got kids, many times I was literally on zero, emptying wallets one by one until I lost everything I had, but even then I never borrowed money for gambling, I earn and I come back to gambling again. With marriage and kids, many things changed, now I don't take risks as I used to, so I guess I can't get so deep into gambling problems.

So I don't need to worry about my wife's gambling activities, she simply doesn't do it. And I think she doesn't need to worry about me as well, I gamble with what I can afford to lose.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

First, as a man I am, I will never be married to a woman who gambles, in the time of our courtship, if I discover she gambles, she will have to stop it if we must get married, and this is because I myself is already a gambler, some people may see it as cool, but honestly, I do not buy the idea of husband and wife both engaging in gambling, as fun as it may seem, it can turn out very messy in the future, most especially, when family expenses rises, and as well as in the life of the children, when they see their both parents gambling, they may grow up with the wrong mindset.

Now, coming back to the topic of discussion, such have never happened to me and will never happen, I have once lost a huge amount of money to gambling but my wife did not know, to me, that money was all I got, but I still hid it from my wife because, she has never known me to be a gambler, and finding out I lost such an exorbitant amount to gambling might break her, ever since that experience, I've been very careful with how much I stake in gambling, so that such a thing does not happen ever again.

[mammusu]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

Well, this is a tricky situation probably. My wife doesn't gamble, that part belongs to me, but I never lost more than I can afford to lose... I had a crazy gambling experience before I got married and got kids, many times I was literally on zero, emptying wallets one by one until I lost everything I had, but even then I never borrowed money for gambling, I earn and I come back to gambling again. With marriage and kids, many things changed, now I don't take risks as I used to, so I guess I can't get so deep into gambling problems.

So I don't need to worry about my wife's gambling activities, she simply doesn't do it. And I think she doesn't need to worry about me as well, I gamble with what I can afford to lose.

What's different is that you realize when you're still living alone and after you get married you can be better at setting limits when it comes to gambling. For me, your past experiences lead you in a better direction now, just imagine if you had never experienced all that and got to know gambling after you got married, it would destroy everything, your children, wife and family might leave you.

When we are married, our obligations increase, especially if we are a man who is the head of the family. We have to be able to manage everything, finances, time and so on. Especially when it comes to gambling, the money that should be used for our children and wives is used for gambling, for example, which will ruin everything. If we still want to gamble when we are married, then we have to really prepare everything, prioritize money for our main needs, then save and invest as much as possible and if we have any left over we can use it to gamble. Don't let it be the other way around, we prioritize gambling and hope that there will be more return that we can use for needs that should be prioritized.

[Kristiyana]

I don't know.. I don't think divorce decision would depend on such issue ! 😳

Well in my own opinion,a responsible,and educated wife will never think of  playing gamble reason is because they have come to know the implications.for a wife to be addicted to gambling is a very  big problem, probably when the husband give them money to buy food stuff they can decide to cut the money into two part and use one part to gamble as a result of being addicted.and this set of people are very lazy they don't take good care of there children even if you are a working class lady you don't depend on your husband that doesn't change any fact.

[Jaycoinz]

I don't know.. I don't think divorce decision would depend on such issue ! 😳

Well in my own opinion,a responsible,and educated wife will never think of  playing gamble reason is because they have come to know the implications.for a wife to be addicted to gambling is a very  big problem, probably when the husband give them money to buy food stuff they can decide to cut the money into two part and use one part to gamble as a result of being addicted.and this set of people are very lazy they don't take good care of there children even if you are a working class lady you don't depend on your husband that doesn't change any fact.

No I don't think so, not everyone would gamble but that doesn't mean women shouldn't gamble, a responsible gambler should gamble because he or she is responsible for anything. When you are not depending on your relationship you can gamble because you have your money. As it goes you should also risk what you can afford to lose. Many relationships today has ended because one of them are not capable of their duties, in a relationship it is not only the man that has a duty to keep, the woman also have a responsibility. Just make sure what ever amount you risk shouldn't affect your relationship/home.

[yahoo62278]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

If you're not bitching when they're winning, you shouldn't be bitching if they're losing or lost it all. Seem hypocritical to do so IMO. You either support them 100% or you get them help no matter if winning or losing. Cannot have it both ways.

[Wakate]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

If someone is that much irresponsible to bet the entire savings amount on gambling for whatever reason then I don't think it's acceptable at all and divorce maybe the right decision for our sake. I don't think we need to tolerate that kind of partner for entire life because it will turn into hell of a life in the earth itself. And talking about savings it is always good to save the money individually instead of pooling with your partner but when they are in financial needs for something essential then it's indeed to help.

Gambling could be fund if we usually make profits anytime we gamble. If we usually lose money in gambling, we need to check our pattern of gambling so we don't need to keep losing for nothing sake. It is very important to review our gambling history and try to know what could be wrong with us why we don't earn from gambling. Everything sometimes do falls to luck and we need to be aware of the kind of games we are playing so that we don't end up keep losing and complaining. If we don't have luck in some particular games, ut is good we avoid such kind of games and move to the next one without think twice.

[Quidat]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

On the time that finances are already affected on which it do comes into a point on where it is really that giving that huge problem when it comes to family budget or whatever your plans
like investing/business/family expenses then you would really be definitely be ending up on having that divorce if things becomes more worst or cant be controlled. If possible then
both you and wife should be having those serious talks about on the things been happening before making those conclusions because divorce is never been that a good thing.
This is why it would really be that important that you should really be having those communication in between husband and wife so that both could make out some solutions into the current problem.

Gambling is just that for fun but on the time that it is already that giving out that huge impact into your finances on which it is already affecting your family
then this is the best time for us to quit but if you do fail on doing so and still tolerate things to happen then it would be that a huge
problem on which it would really be resulting into divorce.

[GideonGono]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

The question here is why would you react only when it became a problem not when you could have prevent it from happening.
It was all good when your partner was earning from risking the money, you couldn't stop or say anything but when things go wrong you suddenly have the urge to do something about it?
If this was a real scenario then you only stayed because it was convenient for you, and you wanted to move out when things aren't favorable for you anymore.
You don't love the person, you only stayed cause you feel secured because your partner have the power to support you.

[Findingnemo]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

If someone is that much irresponsible to bet the entire savings amount on gambling for whatever reason then I don't think it's acceptable at all and divorce maybe the right decision for our sake. I don't think we need to tolerate that kind of partner for entire life because it will turn into hell of a life in the earth itself. And talking about savings it is always good to save the money individually instead of pooling with your partner but when they are in financial needs for something essential then it's indeed to help.

Gambling could be fund if we usually make profits anytime we gamble. If we usually lose money in gambling, we need to check our pattern of gambling so we don't need to keep losing for nothing sake. It is very important to review our gambling history and try to know what could be wrong with us why we don't earn from gambling. Everything sometimes do falls to luck and we need to be aware of the kind of games we are playing so that we don't end up keep losing and complaining. If we don't have luck in some particular games, ut is good we avoid such kind of games and move to the next one without think twice.

Luck is something beyond our imagination, we can assume that particular game or set of games we are losing other than that everything is going fine but luck doesn't work like that, it can change all of a sudden and you could win 100K lottery with $2 dollar ticket and that too happens even if you didn't expect to win at all. What we can do is to limit out betting money under our control and don't get tempted when someone is winning and you lost it all for that month.

[Raflesia]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

It became a natural thing because if I also did that, my partner would have left me because I gambled irresponsibly and thoughtlessly.

We must realize that in the end gambling can only be done if we can use the rationality of the brain that we have and the responsibility that we have to do.
We cannot be short-sighted as if gambling is everything and risking everything we have into gambling is ultimately something ridiculous.

Indeed, in this case we definitely want quick and instant profits when gambling but on the other hand we must realize that gambling is a business and we as players only expect luck from the business that has been made by the bookmakers and people who are behind the scenes of gambling so there is no need to force your luck by risking everything here because the ratio of defeat is definitely greater than victory and we know that.

[darkangel11]

It hasn't happened to me because my wife doesn't gamble, but let's imagine this exact scenario that OP is proposing.
We don't use one account, but have bitcoin (which I hold), 2 separate bank accounts and cash at home. It's impossible for her to drain it all at a casino. She's not stupid to bet her whole savings, but even if she did and lost it all, that would be a very small part of our total savings, as I have more money in the bank and cash at hand than she does, not to mention bitcoin. We'd survive.
Would I divorce her? Probably not because we know each other for a long time and I'd treat that as a lapse of reason, pretty much like if she had a car accident. Things would change though if she started doing it on regular basis, then I'd try to send her to rehab and if all fails divorce her.

[Ever-young]

I don't know.. I don't think divorce decision would depend on such issue ! 😳

Well in my own opinion,a responsible,and educated wife will never think of  playing gamble reason is because they have come to know the implications.for a wife to be addicted to gambling is a very  big problem, probably when the husband give them money to buy food stuff they can decide to cut the money into two part and use one part to gamble as a result of being addicted.and this set of people are very lazy they don't take good care of there children even if you are a working class lady you don't depend on your husband that doesn't change any fact.

You're absolutely right that issue of gambling goes beyond just the gambling industry itself, there's indeed there are also implications for individuals, families and society at large. Every gambler should beware of getting into addiction because gambling addiction can lead a person to problems such as financial strain, neglect of family responsibilities as well as other consequences. the worst part of it is that it's not just about the person who's addicted, gambling addiction affects also families and friends that are related to the addicted person.

[Hatchy]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

I really won't be happy if such had happened to me. It's today an unreasonable decision that anyone would make when it comes to gambling. As I've always said, when we gamble, we shouldn't use money that were meant for important responsibility to gamble. We should be able to plan ahead and separate any funds that's meant for gambling away from our savings or other stuffs.
It's indeed a reason for couples to break up as it really and act of irresponsibility and addiction from such partner. When gambling, we should be wise enough not to make any move that might put us or people around us in danger. Spending all available funds in gambling will lead to unnecessary problems, fights and misunderstanding. Let's all be wise when it involves spending for gambling activities.

[DaNNy001]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

If someone is that much irresponsible to bet the entire savings amount on gambling for whatever reason then I don't think it's acceptable at all and divorce maybe the right decision for our sake. I don't think we need to tolerate that kind of partner for entire life because it will turn into hell of a life in the earth itself. And talking about savings it is always good to save the money individually instead of pooling with your partner but when they are in financial needs for something essential then it's indeed to help.

Divorce is definitely the right option for any of the pair that is the affected party in the relationship and I believe the male is in much situation to do this although am not saying I haven't seen crazy female gamblers but they are very rare and it's only a few percentage. Gambling like this is a really crazy gambling and with such habit the both parties will even put the welfare of their children at stake so it's best they separate.

[Issa56]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all.

I have seen my neighbour divorce his husband just because the husband is so addicted to gambling. The man was having a car, he sold the car just because of his gambling activities. From the money with which he sold the car, he bought a motorcycle and gambled with the remaining money. Later, the man sold the motorcycle and gambled with the money. The man was not responsible, he wasn’t providing for the family, it was the wife that was doing everything. I think the woman got tired of everything and the husband wasn’t ready to change, so she filed for a divorce.

You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

I haven’t gambled with everything I have before. It’s surprising to me when I see people do some crazy things. Why do you have to gamble with all your savings? It doesn’t make any sense to me. Gambling should be done with a small amount. You shouldn’t gamble with all the money you have. It doesn’t make any sense to me. Always control yourself when gambling. Always set a limit for yourself and don’t exceed it.

[serjent05]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

This thing never happened to me yet, but in case the world made a joke on me and this thing happen, I believe I won't file a divorce too soon.  I need to have a heart-to-heart talk to my partner, set things straight, and help my partner get rehabilitated if somehow my partner becomes addicted to gambling.

I feel that it is too rude to leave our partner when things go rough when our partner has nothing left.  At least let us show our responsibility and obligation being their partner and not just be ok when everything went well and leave as soon as things go too rough.  Remember, we enjoy the money when our partner is winning, so we should always be considerate and help our partner to recover from such losses and if possible support and get our partner rehabilitated.  I will only leave my partner if my partner is so stubborn and never listens or has the intention to change.

[GxSTxV]

This case is very common between couples where one side of them ruin things with a very irresponsible move ( huge bet leading to a big loss). Most likely the other partner will ask for divorce or at least a break from the shock of betrayal. Wasting important money or savings on gambling is a very irresponsible thing to do and the easiest way to lose your partner trust and relationship, gambling responsibly should be with the gambler money without touching the family's savings or any other partner's money.

Personally, if this thing happened where my partner which is my wife for instance, I would've lost her trust until a very serious and convincing reason of why she did it. It my differ from a relationship to another honestly and how much you know your partner, gambling is very dangerous for some people who would do anything chasing their loses with bad mood and irresponsible actions

[Becassine]

Too bad not everyone took the survey, as it turns out 92% of people would forgive. Some of the answers make it clear that you see things in such a way that it's the man who earns the couple's money, so he can do what he likes with it, even if he has to be reasonable with his bets. I guess it's a cultural thing. Forget this aspect, i.e. that it's the man who earns the household money, and ask yourself the question simply by envisaging that both people in the couple have a salary and pool the money (with a view to buying a house, for example). Personally, if I realize that my partner is losing too much money while I'm trying to save for a common goal, I'll give him a chance, but not two. Trust is important in a couple, but money is also the sinews of war.