Just another gambling addict story.

[Rengga Jati]

So, just recently a piece of bad news came out to my wife that his brother ran away to the city because he made trouble in their home in the province.
I asked why and she said, it's all about borrowed money and stolen funds from the family.

This is not just once that happened so I really know the reason behind it and it's gambling.
I did understand it before because it's from his own pocket which he made from mango picking which is their business. But that business is seasonal and there will be times when there will be no funds coming in.

What he did: Borrowed 15,000 PHP from a neighbor which is his gambling opponent. Pawned the tricycle (trike) for 12,000 PHP. Stolen 13,000 PHP from the piggy bank of his nephew. And more hidden borrowed small amounts.

Who will pay? My wife (which means my money too) and his sister working in Italy.

What did he do so that his mother would give up where the hidden piggy bank of the nephew is was the unacceptable thing to me. He threatened his mother that he would kill himself if he didn't give it up.

That's when I told my wife that this is a gambling addiction and the brother should be rehabilitated once he goes back. He will just do it over and over again and we will be the ones shouldering all the problems.

Do you guys have other solutions to this kind of problem? Because that's all I can think of. He will probably lay low for a month or two but he will be back to gambling again.

Oh may, another very sad story. There are many cases of gambling addiction that end like this, the various effects that are caused are very damaging to family relationships, detrimental to families who don't even know anything about gambling. And it can damage not only finances, but mental condition and also relationships.

Really, I can imagine how upset you are about this incident. because after all, it is money, and it's like I'm not willing to spend that much money just for the sake of gambling addiction. Be patient, the fear is that the moment he turns out to be addicted again. this will be very serious.

This is why I really hate people who don't know much but immediately jump into the world of gambling, and end up in a state of gambling addiction. This even happened to my sister's brother-in-law, in fact his condition was very bad. He plays online slots. And a few months ago, his condition was quite bad, he had difficulty eating and sleeping, and even when he was spoken to, he didn't respond. And, suddenly many debt collectors came to the house, collecting huge debts. The family was shocked and even made the father fall ill, because it turned out that his son was playing slots and accidentally hit it.

And what's worse, instead of being responsible, the person actually becomes STRESSED and CRAZY because he is unable to overcome his problem. In the end, his family also had to take care of him, until he was finally admitted to a mental hospital. Not only that, all of his parents' and his property have been sold, and he still has a debt of more than 1 billion Rupiah. This is crazy. Imagine, his wife just had a small baby, her parents are very fragile, and in the end they have to live with another family. because I don't have anything anymore. I was very surprised and this really happened, not someone else. What's worse, previously, it turned out that the perpetrator had borrowed the vehicle documents of his other relatives, not just 1 but 4 cars were pawned. In the end, his brother also had to take care of him. Meanwhile, he is currently still in a mental hospital. This is not in the big city, this is in a small town in my country. Really.

For this, they have no reason. so sad to know their condition right now.

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[Jody.Drummer]

This is an alarming situation where you and your wife's family have to bear all the burden of the many problems caused by your nephew's behavior, the conclusion we can draw here is that gambling addiction can make a person do anything or justify any means just to get money to finance his gambling activities which sometimes even his actions are far from reasonable. Borrowing money is not unusual, but it would be a bad act if it is done without any accountability to pay, and the other is stealing money.

Now he is running away from home and one thing I am worried about is that it is possible for him to do some other bad things out there such as stealing money from other people or robbing or maybe cheating to pay for his life outside and also to pay for his gambling activities which is a situation that will ultimately only endanger themselves, in my place usually thieves will be beaten up when caught, and maybe it is the same there and this is another fear that his parents will feel. On the other hand, if you have a means of communication with your nephew then persuade him to return immediately, because the most important thing is for him to return to his home first and only then can you think of various ways to deal with his addiction problem such as going to a rehabilitation center.

[Mrbluntzy]

The City where he ran to is obviously not the solution to his problem because once a thief is always a thief. He will end up to make friends in the city and still continue to dupe his friends and or even cause a serious problem for himself that can put his life at risk or send him to jail. I also heard the story of a guy who was working in a local bet shop, he was tempted to use his boss money to stake on a gambling which he believed he will win the game. He stake more than $500 of his boss money whereas his salary was not even up to $100. He lost the game and before his boss even found out about the incident, the guy has ran away to a different city. He is still in hide out till today. If anyone is caught in this kind of acts, let them be captured and taken to a rehabilitation center.

[Akbarkoe]

So, just recently a piece of bad news came out to my wife that his brother ran away to the city because he made trouble in their home in the province.
I asked why and she said, it's all about borrowed money and stolen funds from the family.

This is not just once that happened so I really know the reason behind it and it's gambling.
I did understand it before because it's from his own pocket which he made from mango picking which is their business. But that business is seasonal and there will be times when there will be no funds coming in.

What he did: Borrowed 15,000 PHP from a neighbor which is his gambling opponent. Pawned the tricycle (trike) for 12,000 PHP. Stolen 13,000 PHP from the piggy bank of his nephew. And more hidden borrowed small amounts.

Who will pay? My wife (which means my money too) and his sister working in Italy.

What did he do so that his mother would give up where the hidden piggy bank of the nephew is was the unacceptable thing to me. He threatened his mother that he would kill himself if he didn't give it up.

That's when I told my wife that this is a gambling addiction and the brother should be rehabilitated once he goes back. He will just do it over and over again and we will be the ones shouldering all the problems.

Do you guys have other solutions to this kind of problem? Because that's all I can think of. He will probably lay low for a month or two but he will be back to gambling again.

It's a clichéd story where the gambler loses his mind and does something stupid, addiction makes him not use his mind to think ahead, take all the risks and lose it all, the cycle of humans who can't manage themselves.

Yes, he should be rehabilitated quickly, but if he ran away from home, let him go, no need to look for him, he needs time to think what he has done is a wrong mistake. If he returns later, it must be absolutely certain that he has truly repented and is no longer experiencing the disease of gambling addiction.

[LUCKMCFLY]

Do you guys have other solutions to this kind of problem? Because that's all I can think of. He will probably lay low for a month or two but he will be back to gambling again.

He said if his mother do not pay the money that he is going to kill himself. I think this is more than an addiction but the child is very wicked. His parent should try send him to rehabilitation center but I do not think this kind of children may want to listen. If he listens, that is the best thing to help him with. His parent should explain everything he did shared they got to the rehab center.

Sometimes such cases is not about gambling addictions alone,  the boy may be under the influence of some other things outside gambling and I the parent could look closer then they will see and discover what other substance that the boy could be exposed to and he is abusing them such as drugs  because drug mixed with gambling could be a heck in the ass.

Just so we know that the combination of drugs and gambling is really a bad one and could trigger even worst realities in the future if not checked because at this stage the child is already losing his mind since he threatened suicide already.

Or find out the reasons why he is becoming addicted to gambling. Because in most cases, to treat someone else's gambling addiction, you need to understand them and learn the root cause of why they are into this activity. If you are just thinking of how to punish him because of what he did, you won't resolve the situation. He may really go back again and again to this addictive activity.

In my opinion, try these following activities that you think may alter his lifestyle -
> find his other passion - where do you think he is into? is he educated enough to understand what's going on with his life?
> look for sports that you believe he has an inclination of, and bring him to that sports
> learn who his friends are, knowing who he mingles with will give you insight why he is into this activity? try to introduce better companions

I also think the same, when a person is addicted then there is nothing to do, you have to help them get out of that situation, give them moral support with whatever you can to support them, it is not easy, it is hard, it is a detox. that sometimes it is not easy, that is why when we are seeing things from another point of view it is always easier to give our opinion, but when the player is immersed in addiction what he has to do is look for the quick solution to these things, There is no other way, you have to see where you can get the best out of what you have, punishment is not efficient, punishment is given while the person was entering into that addiction, but not when they are already there, as I said before. , find the quickest solution to get out of that and whatever, what needs to be spent and if there are the resources there should be no doubt.

[GigaBit]

When a person is spending Borrowed money that will be difficult to pay back at that time they are making a decision to leave the place if they lose. Particularly people who have lost a lot of money in gambling or gambling usually debt money take this type of policy. Moreover, those who are addicted gamblers today or tomorrow when they conduct gambling beyond their limits, they may decide to run away rather than pay off the debt.

Such behavior is not new to gambling addicts. I have seen many gamblers who conduct gambling with borrowed money. If there was such a survey there would be names of gamblers who operate gambling with borrowed money. If a gambler gambles with his own money and loses, there is no problem, but whenever he loses after gambling with borrowed money, he may be in an escape situation. Not only that, if the loan amount cannot be paid, the burden of this debt can be pressed on his relatives or someone close to him.

[bluebit25]

I can relate to the way you feel. It’s hard seeing someone you love go through a tough time, especially when it comes to hearing stories about online gambling addiction that are so common. There are forums and such for these types of discussions, but at times people just need somewhere to vent or share experiences within a community they feel a connection to. It seems like your Bitcoin forum friends may see this space as one where they can safely express their worries.
Whether the story is yours or not, it’s quite obvious this situation has brought you much pain. Nobody expects anyone to come up with a solution like a stranger; however, there are times when simple words like ‘sorry to hear that’ or ‘thinking of you’ can go far as well.

[Iroh]

I read a thread on here about family members helping out one of their own who’s an addict. I commented on there about issues that comes along with addicts that would make even family members give up hope on the individual.
OP, in this case, you’re right on the addicted Individual coming back only to have a repeat of what he did and perhaps, even more. He needs to get help and fast too. Without funds coming in from family, he may resort to illegal activities to get money to satisfy his desires but then again, You can’t really help someone that doesn’t want to be helped.

[TopT3ns]

When a person is spending Borrowed money that will be difficult to pay back at that time they are making a decision to leave the place if they lose. Particularly people who have lost a lot of money in gambling or gambling usually debt money take this type of policy. Moreover, those who are addicted gamblers today or tomorrow when they conduct gambling beyond their limits, they may decide to run away rather than pay off the debt.

Such behavior is not new to gambling addicts. I have seen many gamblers who conduct gambling with borrowed money. If there was such a survey there would be names of gamblers who operate gambling with borrowed money. If a gambler gambles with his own money and loses, there is no problem, but whenever he loses after gambling with borrowed money, he may be in an escape situation. Not only that, if the loan amount cannot be paid, the burden of this debt can be pressed on his relatives or someone close to him.

When you are addicted to a gambling place, it is very difficult to leave the gambling site, even in difficult economic conditions. As long as you can find someone who can change like that when you have lost a lot of money, then you are very lucky because you can see that person's recovery process, but until now I have not seen anyone who has managed to recover from a gambling place. They will continue to try to get money at any cost to gamble again until finally many decide to end their lives because they are trapped in a lot of debt because they use it for gambling.

[entertheabyss]

I read a thread on here about family members helping out one of their own who’s an addict. I commented on there about issues that comes along with addicts that would make even family members give up hope on the individual.
OP, in this case, you’re right on the addicted Individual coming back only to have a repeat of what he did and perhaps, even more. He needs to get help and fast too. Without funds coming in from family, he may resort to illegal activities to get money to satisfy his desires but then again, You can’t really help someone that doesn’t want to be helped.

Family is everything and we should try our possible best to always do the pleasant things, atleast to ourselves to gaining the crucial basic information for the purpose to make good long runs. We should be careful while gambling because if we fall in the darkest spot, it will definitely be challenging for everyone of us. Gambling addicts are different from main people, they're always calculativd and not bearing the activities of the real world, always ready to take risks that involves the space and not relenting.

[danherbias07]

I have an idea of what to do. Thank you for your answers guys. It helped a lot because I came up with a solution that would maybe not hurt both his family and others. It all came from you guys because my mind was clouded by hate and I could not think straight so my decision-making was not good.

I really appreciate all the efforts to share and come up with a better solution.

Again, Thank you.

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