Should there be a limit to investing in your children?

[GiftedMAN]

In the issues of the government rendering assistance to every child to ensure they get good education, I think the government should provide free education and make the environment a good learning environment then the parents can take care of the rest.

If the government could provide free education that would be great but it would be very expensive and very difficult to implement in 3rd world countries.

I think they don't need to provide free education, what the government needs to do is create jobs and income for people. They should care more about the lives of their people, should find ways to improve the economy by creating more jobs. If we can only do that, there will certainly be no children lacking education because every parent is aware that knowledge is the only way for their children to have a chance to escape poverty.

The thing is that we are not even supposed to remind the government to provide free education to the people because that is their responsibility as the government of the people for the people and by the people (democracy).

I think providing free education will not stop the government to create more employment opportunities and improve the economy of the country because they need not to borrow loans to do that when they can improve the economy and attract foreign investors to the country and more job opportunities will be available for their citizens to get employment. The problem is they have decided to steal the money meant for economic development to their personal structures, they now have what it takes to take care of their fourth generation while their citizens are dying in poverty, this is a typical example of what is going on in my country Nigeria.

[Baki202]

Parents at least have the responsibility to send their children to school up to 9 years old. We know the term 9 years of compulsory education because children cannot be required to find their own way to pay for their schooling. And I don't agree that if parents only cover their children's school fees up to elementary school, they are not responsible for supporting their children's education for future needs, even though their children will replace the backbone of the family when their parents retire or get old. So educate your children until they reach higher education and parents must monitor their children's activities at school so that they are not negligent in other things that are detrimental to themselves.

The first responsibility of a parent to the parent is to send the child to school and every other thing will come when the child is already enrolled in a school. And when they get to some certain age that way they will be able to add up other things. But their education still comes first because through education they can be able determine what they want to become in the future. As far they have a child they must be ready to take responsibility of the child starting from their welfare and education till when they are capable to be responsible for their self. Reverse is always the case when the parent are old the children will take care of the parents, they can also take care of their self so parents need to seriously invest in their children to benefit later, and couple with the fact that education is very important.

[slapper]

Parents at least have the responsibility to send their children to school up to 9 years old. We know the term 9 years of compulsory education because children cannot be required to find their own way to pay for their schooling. And I don't agree that if parents only cover their children's school fees up to elementary school, they are not responsible for supporting their children's education for future needs, even though their children will replace the backbone of the family when their parents retire or get old. So educate your children until they reach higher education and parents must monitor their children's activities at school so that they are not negligent in other things that are detrimental to themselves.

The first responsibility of a parent to the parent is to send the child to school and every other thing will come when the child is already enrolled in a school. And when they get to some certain age that way they will be able to add up other things. But their education still comes first because through education they can be able determine what they want to become in the future. As far they have a child they must be ready to take responsibility of the child starting from their welfare and education till when they are capable to be responsible for their self. Reverse is always the case when the parent are old the children will take care of the parents, they can also take care of their self so parents need to seriously invest in their children to benefit later, and couple with the fact that education is very important.

Though it's vital, education isn't the ultimate goal. It goes beyond merely passing knowledge down their throats and calling today a day. Not only pop tests, but we also have to produce critical thinkers, sympathetic people who can negotiate life's curveballs. It's about the adventure, the curiosity, the passion, not only about the employment

And bringing children forward expecting they will look after you later? Not a love connection, that is a transactional one. Love ought not to be accompanied by strings. Give those children the tools to be independent, to create deep bonds based on love and respect instead of some strange insurance policy for your golden years

[sunsilk]

Once it's all about making an investment on our children, then we have to also make sure the what we are investing on them is an asset indeed and not a liability, children should be allowed to make their own personal discovery, we shouldn't get the children spoilt , instead, quality education is one of the ways through which we can invest on our children in other to make them independent in life in the future, we should not limit the quality of standards to ehaat we are giving them, both in education and personal home training in making them a potential leaders and make them sustainable.

I agree that they are free to make their own discoveries and choices. But as parents, we should provide them the basic necessities and things that they need for them to grow.

We don't have to spoil them but if it's about the basic needs, there's no contest to that.

There are parents that think that they are doing the right thing and giving even the wants of their kids because that's what parenting is to them. I'm not against it but not to the point that everything for them can be taken easily.

[Jody.Drummer]

I agree that they are free to make their own discoveries and choices. But as parents, we should provide them the basic necessities and things that they need for them to grow.

We don't have to spoil them but if it's about the basic needs, there's no contest to that.

There are parents that think that they are doing the right thing and giving even the wants of their kids because that's what parenting is to them. I'm not against it but not to the point that everything for them can be taken easily.

Indeed, basically they will choose and find their own things and decisions, even though their parents provide education and fulfill their needs, it just bases them on the learning process, when they get to know the outside world they will choose their own decisions. Providing the basic needs they need is of course a must because that is one of the supports that must be provided, even if they can fulfill it themselves, parents still have to help even though it is not acceptable, but providing support such as support is of course something that must be done because they need encouragement or encouragement. in developing to become better.

Parents must provide full support to them when they are doing something that is indeed a positive thing. Pampering them is one of the things that must be done, apart from making them happy, it is also the parents' obligation to look after them well. It is also necessary to limit them because pampering them too much is not good, so everything must be balanced.

[sunsilk]

I agree that they are free to make their own discoveries and choices. But as parents, we should provide them the basic necessities and things that they need for them to grow.

We don't have to spoil them but if it's about the basic needs, there's no contest to that.

There are parents that think that they are doing the right thing and giving even the wants of their kids because that's what parenting is to them. I'm not against it but not to the point that everything for them can be taken easily.

Indeed, basically they will choose and find their own things and decisions, even though their parents provide education and fulfill their needs, it just bases them on the learning process, when they get to know the outside world they will choose their own decisions. Providing the basic needs they need is of course a must because that is one of the supports that must be provided, even if they can fulfill it themselves, parents still have to help even though it is not acceptable, but providing support such as support is of course something that must be done because they need encouragement or encouragement. in developing to become better.

Parents must provide full support to them when they are doing something that is indeed a positive thing. Pampering them is one of the things that must be done, apart from making them happy, it is also the parents' obligation to look after them well. It is also necessary to limit them because pampering them too much is not good, so everything must be balanced.

We're now in an era where parents won't force their kids to follow their parent's choice for the path of their kids. Because before, it's a norm to follow what the parents like to pursue as what they dream of what they want you to be.

I think that we've learned in the past that we should give full support to our kids for what they want to be. And we as parents, we're just here to look after them and provide what they need for the things that they're pursuing.

Whatever success they get, it's also a success to all parents that have loved and supported their kids.

[eightdots]

I agree that they are free to make their own discoveries and choices. But as parents, we should provide them the basic necessities and things that they need for them to grow.

We don't have to spoil them but if it's about the basic needs, there's no contest to that.

There are parents that think that they are doing the right thing and giving even the wants of their kids because that's what parenting is to them. I'm not against it but not to the point that everything for them can be taken easily.

Indeed, basically they will choose and find their own things and decisions, even though their parents provide education and fulfill their needs, it just bases them on the learning process, when they get to know the outside world they will choose their own decisions. Providing the basic needs they need is of course a must because that is one of the supports that must be provided, even if they can fulfill it themselves, parents still have to help even though it is not acceptable, but providing support such as support is of course something that must be done because they need encouragement or encouragement. in developing to become better.

Parents must provide full support to them when they are doing something that is indeed a positive thing. Pampering them is one of the things that must be done, apart from making them happy, it is also the parents' obligation to look after them well. It is also necessary to limit them because pampering them too much is not good, so everything must be balanced.

We're now in an era where parents won't force their kids to follow their parent's choice for the path of their kids. Because before, it's a norm to follow what the parents like to pursue as what they dream of what they want you to be.

I think that we've learned in the past that we should give full support to our kids for what they want to be. And we as parents, we're just here to look after them and provide what they need for the things that they're pursuing.

Whatever success they get, it's also a success to all parents that have loved and supported their kids.

Children need to be raised as individuals who can make their own decisions. Providing all opportunities may prevent children from striving for something, which means they may become spoiled. Of course, there should be spoiled behavior and similar behavior in children, but it should be kept at a certain level. Everything should have a limit, and these limits are beneficial for children's upbringing and personal development. The methods used in raising children enable them to gain the necessary information to become conscious individuals.

Children make their own paths with what they learn while growing up. Mothers and fathers should always support their children in their development and raise them well.

[sunsilk]

We're now in an era where parents won't force their kids to follow their parent's choice for the path of their kids. Because before, it's a norm to follow what the parents like to pursue as what they dream of what they want you to be.

I think that we've learned in the past that we should give full support to our kids for what they want to be. And we as parents, we're just here to look after them and provide what they need for the things that they're pursuing.

Whatever success they get, it's also a success to all parents that have loved and supported their kids.

Children need to be raised as individuals who can make their own decisions. Providing all opportunities may prevent children from striving for something, which means they may become spoiled. Of course, there should be spoiled behavior and similar behavior in children, but it should be kept at a certain level. Everything should have a limit, and these limits are beneficial for children's upbringing and personal development. The methods used in raising children enable them to gain the necessary information to become conscious individuals.

Children make their own paths with what they learn while growing up. Mothers and fathers should always support their children in their development and raise them well.

You're right, we're on that part that we should support them but at the same time not tolerate and spoil them. And as for that limit, they're still kids and they need to be loved and see that you as a parent needs to be seen that you care for them while they're young.

There are certain brackets of ages of when we can let them work on their own progress and work towards adulthood. I guess that most of us have the same thoughts on this and a kid remains as a kid until they start to mature.

And from that moment that they've seen that they can take their own decisions and after well guided, they can act on their own. But you know, as a parent, it's a forever job to their kids.

[Huppercase]

From my experience, I’ve seen parents go all out for their kids’ education, even selling properties or taking out huge loans. I get the idea of wanting the best for your children, but sometimes it doesn’t work out as planned. I’ve known families who made big sacrifices for top schools, only to end up with adult kids still living at home or struggling to find jobs.

I think there should be limits on how much parents invest in their kids' education. It’s important to balance supporting your children with also making sure you’re not putting your own future at risk. I’ve had to remind myself that while a good education is crucial, it’s not a guarantee of success or financial security.

Some parents has seen a lot and don't want their children to end up in another bad side of history and that's why they do everything to send their children to school so they can become something better in the future. If there is desire to study in a better western school, it's not bad if you go extra mile to do anything for them for better school since they seems to be better opportunities there but I will rather invest in my children in other aspect than schooling. Education is now too expensive that you may finish and get nothing, no job.

Instead of going extra mile, why not put them in a school you can afford. Beside, some kids are smart and in born genius that are far better than children that went to expensive school. It's better to use that money selling property to do something better for them but don't tell them so they don't relax about life, it will help them build up as a young person hungry for success while your support will be as a starter pack or like a guide.

[MissNonFall9]

It is true that every parent nurtures their children as best as they can to see the children in a bigger and better condition in the future because the parents feel proud when the children do well. Besides, it is also a big reason for the child to take good care of his parents. Everything is fine but one should not go beyond one's means to nurture them or take a big degree. But if moral education can be given to the children then that education will become a resource for the future or old age of the parents.

Parental upbringing of children greatly influences the child's future, whether it is good or bad, it depends on the child's parents, because from childhood to adulthood the role of parents is very important for the child, both from education to the love of parents towards their child.

Likewise with investments that are passed on to children by their parents which can later be used as well as possible by the child when they grow up, from childhood they have been taught useful knowledge, good morals and manners, as well as responsibility for what is late. obligations to him and his family when he grows up.

It is very natural for parents to nurture their children but exaggerated behavior in child rearing poses a threat to the children as well as to the parents later in life. So I believe that parents can get good feedback from their children only if they are balanced in raising their children or investing in them.

[Chilwell]

It is very natural for parents to nurture their children but exaggerated behavior in child rearing poses a threat to the children as well as to the parents later in life. So I believe that parents can get good feedback from their children only if they are balanced in raising their children or investing in them.

Parenting is very composery, not a favour to your children, a good and honest parent will not sit and said he is waiting for his children to bring profit of what they have invested on them, most of the time some parents are the courses of children failure because they put that him mind that the children must be rich forcing them to do what they can't do, they normally stop children from pursuing the own dream which they think they can perform well and bring out a better result but since parents believes in a particular way that if their Children focuses on this area he/she can do better, must of the time it's work out while some failed.

The important of parenting is that non parents wishes their children to live they had, they prefer better life for them that why each parents have to hold their own responsibility

[milewilda]

There is a current trend in my country where parents are doing everything financially possible to give their children the best education. Some parents have gone to the extent of selling properties or taking loans to send their children to some of the best schools in and outside the country. I have spoken with some of them, and the reason they give is that this child will get good jobs and take care of them in the future.

I had to bring up this issue because most of them are becoming disappointed and depressed. In my location, children are seen as an investment because they have the responsibility to take care of their parents when they are retired, old, or unemployed. So parents will want to invest high in education because they think it will bring high returns. Many of these students who attended prestigious schools end up becoming unemployed and are still depending on their parents to survive. I also assume that many of them regret going the extra mile to give their children the best. They have lost money and are also in debt but their children are still dependants.

Do you think parents should have a limit on the amount they can invest in their children?

As a paprent then giving the best for our kids or children is something that we do really want to do. Why? because we dont really like for them to experience that hardship and thats why as much as we could then we would really be doing our best on providing on whats best for them,even if it means on giving it all and its something that you cant really be able to stop for parents to give it all on which it will really be just that a normal
on what are the things we would do as a parent. Although, the point above is really that indeed valid because on the time that you would be giving it all without moderation and control, or into the moment that you have forgotten on securing out some health insurances, life plans or something like this then you both husband and wife would be having a hard time or simply would be messing up on the moment that you do get old.

Yes, its true that our kids would really be leaving us on the moment that they would be making their own familyand it would be just that normal that they would be going out into that called HOME
and wouldnt really be even sure if those kids will really be looking back into their parents. This is why its important that you should really know on how to set up your savings
or insurances at least.

[bakasabo]

Isnt parenting a huge challenge, when parents balance (or find compromise) between spending on necessary things and buying things only to make their child happy? Because sometimes I don't mind the money to spend on a plush toy, but on the other hand, I know that next day it will be left in a pile of other plush toys.

Regards OP question, I saw examples, when parents spend a lot of money to get their kid to study in medical university, but the kid later drop it because it was «boring». Also I saw examples when thanks to parents money spend on education, children grew up successful, instead of average citizens.

[Lanatsa]

There is a current trend in my country where parents are doing everything financially possible to give their children the best education. Some parents have gone to the extent of selling properties or taking loans to send their children to some of the best schools in and outside the country. I have spoken with some of them, and the reason they give is that this child will get good jobs and take care of them in the future.

I had to bring up this issue because most of them are becoming disappointed and depressed. In my location, children are seen as an investment because they have the responsibility to take care of their parents when they are retired, old, or unemployed. So parents will want to invest high in education because they think it will bring high returns. Many of these students who attended prestigious schools end up becoming unemployed and are still depending on their parents to survive. I also assume that many of them regret going the extra mile to give their children the best. They have lost money and are also in debt but their children are still dependants.

Do you think parents should have a limit on the amount they can invest in their children?

As a paprent then giving the best for our kids or children is something that we do really want to do. Why? because we dont really like for them to experience that hardship and thats why as much as we could then we would really be doing our best on providing on whats best for them,even if it means on giving it all and its something that you cant really be able to stop for parents to give it all on which it will really be just that a normal
on what are the things we would do as a parent. Although, the point above is really that indeed valid because on the time that you would be giving it all without moderation and control, or into the moment that you have forgotten on securing out some health insurances, life plans or something like this then you both husband and wife would be having a hard time or simply would be messing up on the moment that you do get old.

Yes, its true that our kids would really be leaving us on the moment that they would be making their own familyand it would be just that normal that they would be going out into that called HOME
and wouldnt really be even sure if those kids will really be looking back into their parents. This is why its important that you should really know on how to set up your savings
or insurances at least.

I agree on what you had said, whose parents or guardian would like to see their kids suffering or wont really be having to complete their needs? As much as possible then we would be doing our best on providing them which is really that true but not all parents will really be able to do so because of financial condition on which we know that not all families does have that good financial status or condition on which it will really be understandable that there will really be those lacking in providing their needs. This is why it would be situational on this regard but i do agree on most sentiments on here that there should really be a limit because if you do give it all and there's nothing left for you then you will really be struggling in surviving on the time where both of you are already on that age. Its relevant that making up some savings will really be helpful and could save you up but, you cant really be able to blame those parents that will really be giving their very best for their children to provide the best life that they could possibly have.
No parents would really be that wanting for their kids to have that bad life or condition, this is why it would really be that understandable that there would really be those sacrifices.

[FinneysTrueVision]

It is a huge risk for someone living in poverty to treat their children like an investment. Investments can go bad and if you don’t have financial security, it will only make your situation worse. We can’t really control how people want to spend their money. I assume there is enough people having success that it is going to be worth the risk. The best that can be done is raise awareness. People need to understand that it is fine to settle for what is good enough, instead of wanting to solve everything by throwing as much money as possible at their problem. Your child can still make it very far by spending within your means.

[EarnOnVictor]

Once it's all about making an investment on our children, then we have to also make sure the what we are investing on them is an asset indeed and not a liability, children should be allowed to make their own personal discovery, we shouldn't get the children spoilt , instead, quality education is one of the ways through which we can invest on our children in other to make them independent in life in the future, we should not limit the quality of standards to ehaat we are giving them, both in education and personal home training in making them a potential leaders and make them sustainable.

I agree that they are free to make their own discoveries and choices. But as parents, we should provide them the basic necessities and things that they need for them to grow.

We don't have to spoil them but if it's about the basic needs, there's no contest to that.

There are parents that think that they are doing the right thing and giving even the wants of their kids because that's what parenting is to them. I'm not against it but not to the point that everything for them can be taken easily.

You have a good point, and even the main OP never condemned the moderate support and training for the children, and anything done in excess might be missed. Many parents actually cause the bad behaviours of their children because, out of too much love, they will pamper them too much and spoil them with too many finances. If some children need $150, some insensitive parents may give them $1,500, tell me, for what reason?

Parenting is beyond how you feel about the children but a huge responsibility to train them in all ways possible, which includes the finances and management. Above all, no money spent on our children on a "just course and measure" is a waste, they deserve it, after all, we brought them to this world and they are our future. This shouldn't still make us feel that we are investing in them, it is a natural duty of parents to their children. And I believe in the future when we are old, they will reciprocate the gesture, when we are back to babies.

[bakasabo]

It is a huge risk for someone living in poverty to treat their children like an investment. Investments can go bad and if you don’t have financial security, it will only make your situation worse. We can’t really control how people want to spend their money. I assume there is enough people having success that it is going to be worth the risk. The best that can be done is raise awareness. People need to understand that it is fine to settle for what is good enough, instead of wanting to solve everything by throwing as much money as possible at their problem. Your child can still make it very far by spending within your means.

My words might sound rude and hurt someone, but I think that some families that are poor, sometimes see their children as investment. They try to create as many as possible kids, with hope that maybe one of them becomes successful and rich. Otherwise I cant explain why poor families, that barely make ends meet, have 3-6 kids, when they can hardly feed several. I doubt that contraceptives is an unfamiliar word to them.

Nevertheless, from my point of view, parents should only limit themselves on spending on the kids, when kids are like parrots saying «I want!, «I want!», «I want!».

[Roseline492]

We're now in an era where parents won't force their kids to follow their parent's choice for the path of their kids. Because before, it's a norm to follow what the parents like to pursue as what they dream of what they want you to be.

Yeah you are right because right now we are in the Era that people are allowed to make there choices and decision but though in most places those things are still common for parents to make decisions for there children, for me there is nothing wrong with it provided that it will have a limit, let's say parents are allowed to make the decisions for there children as they are still at a very tender age then when they get to 18 to 20 years they should be allowed to decide on what they want to do because at that age they can be able to distinguish between right and wrong, so the only thing the parents can do is to guide and advice them.

[SmartCharpa]

Indeed, a parent's love for their child knows no limits. But there are parents of this friend of mine who believe that if their children finish primary school, all of life's struggles remain in their hands, and they must continue to work hard for themselves to become great people, their parents have not attempted to send them to school or invest in them, or maybe they will change their situation, but no one cares. Now that some of us have graduated from high school, they are regretting that their parents did not send them to school after they finished primary school. I don't think that is love for a child because they do not care about their children's future.

This is the worst decision that any parents should ever take because they will later regret it in the future. Being poor is not an excuse for parents to not give their children the basic things that can transform their life. Parents who thinks giving their kids the basic things in life is too much or waste of money don't know what they are doing because it is a shameful by the time their children grows up and still struggling to make a better life. It is the responsibility of parents to give children the best , their is no  excuse to give. Even if one lacks money atleast quality education should be the first thing every child must have access to.

I wasn't surprised when they made such decisions because it wasn't the first time I would seen such things happen. I am from a country where some parents don't care about their children future, some parents believe that spending money on their children education is a waste of money, while some parents will claim that they prefer to use the money to start a business than spend it on their children education. However, a lot of parents keep on saying that since they have seen many other people's children graduate from school and fail to find work, they believe that the best thing for their kids is to stop spending their money.

Many parents have made this mistake because they do not understand that our gift is not the same, just because other people's children graduated from school without a job does not mean that their own would do the same. Going to school is about more than simply finding a job, it is also about studying and developing abilities that will allow you to work after school. Every child deserves a better future.

[Rockstarguy]

I wasn't surprised when they made such decisions because it wasn't the first time I would seen such things happen. I am from a country where some parents don't care about their children future, some parents believe that spending money on their children education is a waste of money, while some parents will claim that they prefer to use the money to start a business than spend it on their children education. However, a lot of parents keep on saying that since they have seen many other people's children graduate from school and fail to find work, they believe that the best thing for their kids is to stop spending their money.

For those who think they can't spend much to invest in their children future it means they shouldn't bother of thinking of raising children because it is of no point having children with no plans of giving them the best. The reason why most people turn to become problem to the society is when parents are unable to give children the best for the future and young people would want to involve themselves into anything. When parents don't spend their time, money and care for their kids it always comes out with a negative outcome in the future which can also be a serious disaster to parents which it will be too late to amend by this time .

Taking good care of children and investing money on them to give a better life is a necessity and good peace of mind for every parents expecially when the old age clock.