Being nice always bring disrespect.

[Futurexxx]

I know many people want to be nice to people in the society to have good behavior other people will like to have, but there are some people taking the advantage of being nice to people to disrespect nice people in the society. it has made some people not to be nice again to people in the society based on what they have experienced from those people who are nice from the society, they have been robby about their right and some have be cheated base on they are nice in anything they are doing in the society.

Be kind, but don't be nice, because if you are kind, you will always put people in their place anytime they are over stepping their boundaries, but if you are just nice, you will hardly speak up or stand up to that person if he is taking you for granted.

As for disrespect, I don't think that being nice is the actual cause of disrespect, what I think that causes disrespect on a consistent basis is you as a person not respecting yourself by doing what needs to be done at the right time, and not putting anyone in his place that try such in the first instance, because if you don't do that, he will definitely do it again, so accommodating disrespectful attitude is the main cause of disrespect or I would say being too open to someone that is not deserving of your time.

[Rockson1]

We should remember that as faces defer that is how characters defer too, because many might choose to opposing this topic and while some will contribute as normal in the sense people leaving around my society are not disrespectful of being nice, but be honest with myself with my experience right now is that, being nice too much in this current generation will result allot of things that might end your life not only disrespect that will happen, so in any activities one might find his/her they should always be cautious and apply safety too.because people are not to be trusted.

This statement you made here is in line with what I believe in, but what can we do when we as humans don't even know when we are doing too much sometimes, we have to be good no matter what, there is something that we need to know whether we are too good or slightly good or not good at all, these things can still happen to us, is just that we have to be very careful in everything we do.
You said something that got me right, which is "people are not be trusted" you are over correct but what can we do, it all go down to us putting our eyes on ground, being very observant because humans will continue to be humans and that is it.

[WhoYouCantKill]

A lot of people take kindness for weakness. Be kind anyway. When/if the time comes to show your kindness wasn’t weakness, make sure you are prepared for whatever is to come.

Sometimes, or should I say, most times we don’t do things because of how people would react or reciprocate towards those actions. Personally I like to do certain things because I know it’s good and because I know it’ll definitely come back to me. Life gives us back what we deposit into it and not what others think or reciprocate towards those us.

[Cyber_warrior]

it has made some people not to be nice again to people in the society based on what they have experienced from those people who are nice from the society, they have been robby about their right and some have be cheated base on they are nice in anything they are doing in the society.

Some people do see nice people like fool, so they will want to take advantage of their behavior. It’s really a good idea to be a nice person, you have to be nice, but you shouldn’t tolerate rubbish, when people try to disrespect you in any way, you should let them know you a nice person, but you not a fool. Being nice is good, but it shouldn’t be too much, you should allow people know that you are not suppose to be disrespected or cheated in any way. As a calm person, you should be able to speak out when you notice something is wrong, or you are about to be cheated.

[Veenie]

There's a saying "It's better to be a warrior in a garden, than a gardener in a war"
I like to apply that to being nice as well.

You can be nice and not be a pushover, I think that's most likely what you're referring to as disrespect.
When they can't stand up for themselves.

Being nice is not a bad thing, be nice, set boundaries, and be sure to follow through if the boundaries are crossed and as sure as the sun is to rise, there'd be no iota of disrespect. Quite the contrary even.

[Accardo]

There's a saying "It's better to be a warrior in a garden, than a gardener in a war"
I like to apply that to being nice as well.

You can be nice and not be a pushover, I think that's most likely what you're referring to as disrespect.
When they can't stand up for themselves.

Being nice is not a bad thing, be nice, set boundaries, and be sure to follow through if the boundaries are crossed and as sure as the sun is to rise, there'd be no iota of disrespect. Quite the contrary even.

Selfish kindness brings disrespect, think of an only son to a wealthy man who stays warward and plays against the rules of the father, caused by the notion that the dad is selfishly doing everything for the child and can't be tough on the son because he's all the rich man have got.

Had the man moved ahead to find someone else from the streets whom he can trust, and train them in school and skill centers, the kindness then gets disseminated, such that his own son, could see that the father no longer focuses every attention on him you'd noticed after some moments he'd begin to have a rethink.

What's the point of this explanation, when people tend to be nice to a dedicated set of fellas they'll end up being disrespected, but kindness shared amongst unique people always yield respect and peace of mind.

[Nwada001]

There are differences between being nice, being stupid, and being foolish. You don't need to be trampled upon before you realize that someone is taking advantage of your kindness. You need to be nice to those who deserve it and stay far away from those who you consider to be disrespectful. Know your boundaries. We have a lot of people out there who are always ready to take advantage of the next person.

[Findingnemo]

A lot of people take kindness for weakness. Be kind anyway. When/if the time comes to show your kindness wasn’t weakness, make sure you are prepared for whatever is to come.

Being kind shows who we are and we shouldn't change that because of someone doesn't like that.

Everyone get to chose how they want to live their life and someone wants to deal everything with kindness then they will meet a lot of happy faces for sure in their life which itself can give some kind of satisfaction that others won't get it.

[Agathamay]

Disrespectful people will always be who they are no matter how you relate to them, nice or not, I have had my kindness thrown back at my face but it didn't stop me from being nice. Now right I relate to people the same way they relate to me, energy for energy and Aura for Aura. If you give me bad energy I will give you bad energy too and if you are nice to me I will be nice to you too in return, I am a nice person but I'm not stupid not to notice when my kindness is being taken for granted.

That's what I'm talking about, been nice will get you nowhere other than some deep unconfine space which wouldn't be comfortable I bet. What have been nice got to do with the society? I'm not going to waste my breath on some random human being who wouldn't appreciate me for my actions, don't get me wrong, I don't expect anybody to treat me nice because we're all different and that's where tolerance steps in. We ought to be tolerating some disgusting behavior because we know the kind of humans we interact with, some of their attitudes not good and definitely nothing to write home about.

As you said, if I'm treated fair and with good energy, then tell me why on Mother Green earth I wouldn't reciprocate back? Good energy for good energy and poor energy for poor energy, that's how these things goes down here. This is not the time to be humiliated because the heart of man is wicked and these humans will do anything to get back at you. The more important morale is simply tolerance and trying to stay safe in whatever way we could possibly do.

[Anthony Bill]

Being nice without impact to people life  they will not respect you. People value those that impact them or empower them to get what is helping them to feed their family or to become responsible to their family.

[jvanname]

If being nice always brings disrespect, the only solution to this problem is for humans to fucking go extinct.

Regards,

-Joseph Van Name Ph.D.

[ODG001]

Being nice doesn't always bring disrespect, disrespect comes from not knowing when to draw the line

When you keep being nice without being asked
When you never get appreciated after 'being nice'
When you start over demanding because you were once nice

Things like these can start sparks of disrespect, and I feel there are always little signs of ignorance or nonchalance before the full outburst of disrespect. So it is important every sensible person knows when to draw the line when needed.

[Baseplate]

If being nice always brings disrespect, the only solution to this problem is for humans to fucking go extinct.

Regards,

-Joseph Van Name Ph.D.

With what we're doing to this planet with the constant wars and environmental destruction we've caused, I second this. We don't deserve to live on this planet

[mvdheuvel1983]

There are differences between being nice, being stupid, and being foolish. You don't need to be trampled upon before you realize that someone is taking advantage of your kindness. You need to be nice to those who deserve it and stay far away from those who you consider to be disrespectful. Know your boundaries. We have a lot of people out there who are always ready to take advantage of the next person.

There are people who will always what to take advantage of your good will to make you feel stupid and it's very difficult to notice them because they may be people you love but they are really ready to steal from you because it's no longer help you are rendering to them because they have but they choose to keep taking from you, stay away if you identify them, helping should not be for everyone and not everybody should have access to you if you can keep your privacy and allow a few people into your life they will learn not to mess around with the privileges you have given to them.

[jvanname]

With what we're doing to this planet with the constant wars and environmental destruction we've caused, I second this. We don't deserve to live on this planet

I am glad you acknowledge that there is a problem with humanity. Of course, the next step will be for us all starting here on bitcointalk to focus on our own personal virtues. I realize that people lack virtue, so they may not even read this, but I will say it anyway. Here are some things that I think are virtuous.

1. Refrain from using substances such as tobacco, illegal drugs. Limit your use of alcohol and even caffeine. Be wary of prescription medications too. For example, antibiotics wreck your microbiome, and the antibiotic ciprofloxacin causes tendon rupture, and you may not even need antibiotics since your body may clear the infection on its own or you may even have a viral infection. Antibiotics select for antibiotic resistance which is very bad. Beware of psychoactive medications where the psychiatrists does not even tell you that if you stop the medication, you will be all f@#$ed up from withdrawals. There are ways to improve your situation without resorting to psychoactive medications. Remember that the medical establishment may want you to take prescription medications not because they will help you but because that is how they get their money.

2. Eat healthy whole foods.

3. Get enough sleep yourself.

4. Do not deprive others of sleep. For example, high schools that start way too early go against the natural biology of high schoolers who naturally stay up late. The school administrators, teachers, and parents deprive high schoolers of sleep in the morning because they lack virtue.

5. Exercise as much as you can.

6. You can conserve energy in many ways. For example, running or riding a bike consumes a lot less energy than a car does.

7. If you need to be on social media, consume more wholesome content. Do not become subservient to the recommendation algorithm.

8. Be careful about politics. People often become interested in politics, but since they lack virtue, they end up just saying that the other side is even, when in reality, they themselves are the evil ones.

9. Do not shy away from the truth. The truth may be hard to hear, but you need to hear it. Do not discourage other people from speaking the truth. That just makes you evil.

10. Clean your room. Make your bed. Brush your teeth. Wash the dishes. Get a job. Quit your job because it is probably bullshit.

11. Seek a higher purpose.

12. Try to make friends and talk to people.

13. Go outside.

14. Do not annoy people by talking about even these virtues in an annoying or irritating way. That is very bad.

15. Seek to preserve humanity so that it does not go extinct but only if there are enough virtuous people for humanity to be worth preserving.

Regards,

-Joseph Van Name Ph.D.

[Sobz]

That is true though. But you can still be nice and still get respect from people,  itis just about understanding,  knowing your lane on how t relate with people that wouldn't bring disrespect.  Don't be nice and forget yourself on how you relate with people, by being so free with everybody. People will disrespect you only if you don't keep to your own standards.

[Mpamaegbu]

We owe one another niceness to wash off the cruelty of this world. It's sad a lot of people don't understand this part. Back to this thread, on my part what I've observed is that it's more rewarding being nice than being mean. Nobody will willingly disrespect you for being nice. What they will disrespect you for is you not taking cognizance of their ingratitude towards your benevolence to them. Once somebody doesn't match your goodwill to them with a corresponding gratitude, move away from them. Keep a distance. They're toxic. It plainly depicts a picture that they don't value whatever you've done or are doing for them. If you don't keep a distance and continue being nice to them, then they will throw disrespect in your face.

[Proty]

 one thing I believe is certain, being nice to people doesn't mean they are going to treat us nicely at the end . Being nice is an expression of who we are, so whatever the outcome maybe shouldn't be our business. The fact that someone treat us bad after being nice to then shouldn't stop us from being good to others or to then. We should always love people unconditionally, to me it looks more like bargain, when we help people and then be expecting them to help us also. Therefore it doesn't matter how we may have been treated by doing good should keep up with it. We shouldn't allow other people actions to hinder us from expressing our true self.

[Mpamaegbu]

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...it is funny how we think we are being noble by putting up with garbage behavior when we are actually just devaluing ourselves...

Yes, that's how it starts. It's a gradual degradation and before you know it he throws at you comments that aren't friendly to check how you absorb or react to it.

I guess the trick is to be nice to everyone but only stay close to the ones who actually deserve it...

That's the way to go with those who behave that way. If you continue to stick to them, they will eventually betray you. Loyalty isn't a thing for them. When that happens they will challenge you to list whatever you think that you've done for them. It's going to hurt like a knife cut.

[Dunamisx]

Being nice doe not bring disrespect, if we are careful and maintain how we relate with people, they wouldn't want to disrespect on us just like that, we should know our limit to doing things, because respect is not demanded, instead it is earned, if we truly respected ourself, others will do, being nice is not a price paid for us to earn disrespect, instead it should attract honor and integrity to us the more.