Being nice always bring disrespect.

[Iamgoat]

Heard today at work "When you extend your hand to give help, don't forget to dodge the kick of gratitude". I think I can say that our society is corrupt. Not to trust, look for a catch in everything, kindness and politeness are considered weaknesses are so common for today. Many time when I was nice to someone, it ended bad for me. From not thanking to disrespect and try to use me. To treat people how you want them to treat you does not work at all.

People who claim to be nice often make the mistake of being carried away by their niceness. If you want to be nice, you should know when to say no and be able to speak up when things are not going the way they should.

Some people, when they are regarded as nice, try to emphasize how nice they are, and this is where others will take advantage of you for being nice. If you must be nice, know yourself very well and never allow people to use you just because you want to be known as the nice guy.

Being a nice person is different from being kind because when you are nice without setting boundaries is not kindness and when you are nice and you have set a boundary for yourself it is what you call kindness but it is neglect as real niceness includes the ability to say no to speak up and to protect your own space when things start going wrong. The moment you begin to advertise your niceness to people, it is obviously not a good form of niceness and just something the person is doing for the sake of accolades and it is usually not sustainable for the long run. The real nice people are usually the most humble people in your community. You will look at them as people who dont Have issues and cannot work up to the reality of things.

[Emeraldo]

I agree being nice brings disrespect as consequence on most situations in this modern world. The dark side inside human beings is flourishing and becoming dominant these days, while the bright side is being suppressed.

But if you stop being a nice person, you are going to do exactly what the dark side wants you to do, so you will become one of those fools: just another asshole in this modern wicked world to cause pain to your fellow human beings.

People misunderstand politeness with weakness, and that is why they try abusing a polite individual. Just be proud of being a nice individual. Give others the benefit of the doubt. But as soon as you identify they are taking advantage of your politeness, impose limits, get away and maintain only essential necessary contact.

Relationships must be reciprocal, healthy and uplifting. If you see they are being abusive, toxic and harmful, stand for yourself and don't go further. Respect yourself in first place.

Being nice sometimes is good but most times it's disastrous and bring disrespect,some people due to good upbringing are nice because it was instill in them from child.while most people that disrespect people is due to hatred,anger and unstable state of mind.also being nice to people doesn't mean they will not disrespect you.just do what does not trouble your conscience .
 

There is no need to keep toxic people around you because they could be the source of disappointment to you and make you feel very sad about your personal joy. We all need to have a personal joy that will keep us cool whenever we find ourselves in problem.
Most people that disrespect others are really having mental issues which could have been due to the problem they might have had in the past that had led to their prolong issues with other problems.

[Antona]

I know many people want to be nice to people in the society to have good behavior other people will like to have, but there are some people taking the advantage of being nice to people to disrespect nice people in the society. it has made some people not to be nice again to people in the society based on what they have experienced from those people who are nice from the society, they have been robby about their right and some have be cheated base on they are nice in anything they are doing in the society.

Being nice has made people to lose their lifes in the society, because they refused to allow law to involve in the issues. Can you share your experience being nice to people and what happen at the end.

Being nice is a good thing but being nice without boundaries can be dangerous for the most of us.
some people take kindness for weakness and exploit it. true kindness includes self respect clear limits and knowing when to involve the law. You can be kind and still protect yourself.

[GiftedMAN]

There is no need to keep toxic people around you because they could be the source of disappointment to you and make you feel very sad about your personal joy. We all need to have a personal joy that will keep us cool whenever we find ourselves in problem.
Most people that disrespect others are really having mental issues which could have been due to the problem they might have had in the past that had led to their prolong issues with other problems.

Your happiness comes first before any other thing in life if you have a toxic person around you, you have no business keeping the person because they will destroy your mental health with their toxic life. Anyone who does not give you peace whenever they are around you there's no reason you should move get closer to them cause they act like saddest who rejoice then they see you in pains, if they have past issues that has affected them they should go take care of it and don't cause others pains.

[Emeraldo]

I know many people want to be nice to people in the society to have good behavior other people will like to have, but there are some people taking the advantage of being nice to people to disrespect nice people in the society. it has made some people not to be nice again to people in the society based on what they have experienced from those people who are nice from the society, they have been robby about their right and some have be cheated base on they are nice in anything they are doing in the society.

Being nice has made people to lose their lifes in the society, because they refused to allow law to involve in the issues. Can you share your experience being nice to people and what happen at the end.

Being overly nice can bring disrespect but I don't believe that being nice always will always bring disrespect . The outcome of your attitude towards people is dependent on who the person is not every one will pay back your niceness with disrespect, there will always be people who will reciprocate your kindness with kindness too but some will return your kindness with disrespect and cruelty as if you had problems with them even before you met them. People's attitude and response towards your kindness should not affect your attitude towards people.

[ramencoin]

From my personal experience, people do not care much about "nice" people and here's why I think that is.

- Either they believe the person being nice is being disingenuous
- They are bitter and do not want to be reminded they are so

Either way, you shouldn't allow that to change who you are. If you're genuinely being nice to people, then you shouldn't expect anything in return. That doesn't mean you have to tolerate disrespect either.

[DYOR+BTC]

For the fact that you tried and it failed is never enough reasons to quit trying as what we wish to get from others we should also do same to others because we can't get what we don't give. The simple principle of life is, what you want from others we should also do it to the people we meet as that is the only key to a better life. Never believe because we did not what we wish for in the first place we should stop helping as nature pays when one never expected it will be. I still cannot forget what happened during when things where moving perfectly well for me, there was a guy living I the same house with me that had nothing, each time I come back I make sure I give him something to eat without knowing tomorrow has something better for him. After my job stopped I never expected to see the same person in the company I went to look for job not even as an ordinary staff but decision makers of the company and at last things where very easy for me on meeting him.

[Solodoski]

Your happiness comes first before any other thing in life if you have a toxic person around you, you have no business keeping the person because they will destroy your mental health with their toxic life. Anyone who does not give you peace whenever they are around you there's no reason you should move get closer to them cause they act like saddest who rejoice then they see you in pains, if they have past issues that has affected them they should go take care of it and don't cause others pains.

We only Ive once, we should not live the life to please others rather to please ourselves. Do what makes you happy, prioritize security, and what makes you feel comfortable. Don't also, inconvenience yourself for anyone because no one will come to your rescue when there is challenges. Always have a back up plan for any plan you make. Life is not fair, what we plan to do will can be destroyed if we share it to people who don't want to see our success. And these people are ready to stop you from becoming who you plan to be. Look around you, they are everywhere.