should i tell my wife when i win or just keep it quiet?

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

In my opinion, I think if your wife already knows that you're a gambler, you don't need to tell her about your winning and losses all the time unless she ask you, not telling her about it doesn't mean that you don't love her but just to avoid the drama you just spoke about. Or, you can be telling her about your winnings but don't tell her about your loss unless she asked you. My ex never liked me gambling, so I stopped telling her about it, she knew I didn't stop but she was okay that I don't involve her in any of my gambling talks or issues.

[Stavri]

well i think you should inform your wife. if i would tell my wife about my crypto history more, and if i would listen to her i would be a rich man at the moment. especially for realizing the profits women are more systematic and logical.

[POPOLUV]

In this case two things are involved, one if you are a gambler and your knows, there is know problem of you telling your wife that you have won a game but if by any chance that your wife is not aware and supportive in your gambling skills, i think there is no need of letting your wife know that you won a bet but you can still use the money to support the family any way you can, because you ever let your wife know that win, no matter he didn't support your gambling skills she will still follow share the money or eat more than you.

[BlackBaron]

In my opinion, I think if your wife already knows that you're a gambler, you don't need to tell her about your winning and losses all the time unless she ask you, not telling her about it doesn't mean that you don't love her but just to avoid the drama you just spoke about. Or, you can be telling her about your winnings but don't tell her about your loss unless she asked you. My ex never liked me gambling, so I stopped telling her about it, she knew I didn't stop but she was okay that I don't involve her in any of my gambling talks or issues.

As long as we fulfill our obligations as husbands, whether or not we share our gambling wins or losses doesn't matter. After all, when we lose, we'll cover it up with our winnings.

However, to avoid situations like what the OP experienced, not sharing is a good choice, unless she asks, just as you said. I think there are better things to talk about than gambling. This is a household, so it's better to talk about things that can bring us closer and create more harmony. This is something we should choose wisely.

[boyptc]

If that interests your wife in gambling as a whole, keep on telling your wins to her. But if that only gives her the thought of you by just winning, there is nothing wrong with that as well.

Your wife doesn't want to hear you have some problem with losing both of your money.

Why both of your money? your money is also hers. 

[summonerrk]

Just recently, a banking app had a lottery for those who use their services and receive cashback, and I won. I won about $100. I was completely surprised. After all, I've never won so much before. And the first thing I did was, when I met my girlfriend in the kitchen, I immediately went up to her and transferred half of the money to her card because I wanted her to share my joy. I want you to understand that many people who even think they won't tell their wife or girlfriend, I think they'll ultimately do it, in the pleasant rush of emotion.

[Distinctin]

Even our wife didn't care about our gambling life, but I believe it's a good idea to inform her. It is some way of acknowledging that she is part of our lives. Besides, this won't make us lose if we tell her. Instead, this helps build stronger relationships as a couple.

Nothing to hide - that should be the mindset of every couple. This may not look too serious, but I think we should just keep our wives aware of what we do in life. In fact, we have nothing to worry about if she already knows our gambling habits. But it will be difficult if we hide it from her.

[masulum]

Even our wife didn't care about our gambling life, -snip-

Yep, talking to wife about our gambling will provide two valid reasons. First, by talking to her, perhaps we as husbands can better control our limits. Second, it can also help prevent us from gambling without control or maybe can stop gambling for some periode to cool down our emotion after lose. I've experienced this before, when I didn't tell my wife, I often gambled out of control. But talking to her helped me control my gambling money. Of course, I won't compare myself to others, as different woman can have different characteristics.

[Versatile_choice]

She is your wife, so it’s normal for her to know what you’re dealing with. But why would you tell your wife about your losses if you know she would only blame you?

 Let's assume that it was actually his first time of telling her about his loss, I believe he has learned his lessons. Sincerely speaking I can't possibly keep my loss to myself without telling my partner because whenever I try doing such. It makes me feel kinda Way, because I'm this type that like being sincere no matter how bad it's more especially to my partner. And thank goodness I have a partner that understand things, I would say that his wife is lacking one thing which is understanding" because if it's someone that have understanding, first thing first is to cheer you up because you yourself is not happy to see yourself losing.

[lizarder]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

If your wife is okay with gambling, it might not be a problem to tell her about your wins or losses, because she's never had a problem with your involvement. But if your wife forbids gambling, telling her about a loss would be quite problematic. This might be true for some wives, but it's true for others, because you yourself said your wife will be sweet when she wins.

If this is the case, perhaps losing at gambling isn't something you need to talk about because your wife will only support you when you achieve a win, as you've described here. So, it is not difficult to conclude that when you experience defeat, it is appropriate not to talk about it because it is feared that it will be quite problematic and he will continue to complain.

[Achalugo BTC]

Just gamble responsibly is what that is very important. If you are using little amount of money to gamble, your wife will not tell you that you are wasting money on gambling while losing.

If you have been telling her about it before, no need to stop as you see her as a friend that you can always talk with. There are something I can hide from my wife but gambling is not one of them.

You are absolutely right, as far as you are gambling within your budget, it won't be a problem to anyone including your wife and telling your wife about your gambling habit, is such a good thing for one to do, as the wife will help the husband not to gamble beyond responsible.

Also, it's important for one to take note of the policies of gambling, in order to be at the safe side, that is following the instructions of gambling will make you find gambling as a thing of fun and a place to double your money.

[Dogedegen]

@OP you must get to use on your wife's behavior.  After all, she is the person who will be with you for a lifetime.  There is no point in hiding your gambling activity since she already knew that you are engaging in gambling.

There is only two solutions, it is either you will be honest with her or leave her blank in some situation.  If you prefer the 100% caring, sweetness, you should only report to her the winnings and not the lossing part.   Yes, you can keep quiet about your losses, to avoid the nagging part since being quiet about something does not mean you are lying to her.  Just do not deny and answer honestly if she asks about the losing part.  But I bet she won't ask for it if you are presenting her with your winnings and your financial support is not lacking.

Your proposal is that he should manipulate his wife with information so he only gets the responses that he wants? Do you really think that this is good for the health of the relationship in the long term? 

Perhaps, it would be better if you avoided talking about your gambling wins and losses with her, in my opinion. You could continue to treat her with some gifts and dinners out your home when you manage to hitman good result on your betting sessions, but it is not necessary you mention where the money comes from. When comes to losses...

It is definitely better to not talk about it at all compared to selectively manipulating information. I think how you described it is pretty well. An occasional gift can be a sign of sharing in your wins, it does not have to be verbal and she does not have to know where exactly it came from.

I would not even bother to give her information about them and just move on, or talk about those losses with someone who is a gambler as well, someone who could understand you.

I believe the benefit of talking to someone about your losses who does not care, does not know or worse dislikes that you lost things makes no sense. It is more like a whining session. If you need support or want to vent it is much more appropriate to find someone who understands or shares the activity and talk to them, it will yield much better results.

Lol 😂😂
My wife never knew I gamble until one day while she was asking me for money after I encountered some serious loss that left me broke, I told her I had no money with me at that moment, and then told her how desperate I was to get some money and that drive me to gambling with the little cash I had with me and unfortunately, I lost it, she blew hot and start blaming me for wasting money, she said she know that isn't my first time of gambling and losing money, that I've been gambling before and that each time i complain of not having money, its because I've wasted the money on gambling..

I learnt my lesson and ever since that incident, I never told her anything about gambling again, at a point, my neighbour won some money from a local casino and shared the joy with us, that night, she came to me and asked how far with my gambling, I told her straight up that I've stopped gambling since that last time, that it was my first and last, she was like, but I can still be doing it small small, that if I don't know how to, I could meet our neighbour to teach me, I told her I wasn't interested and that is it..

It seems to me that you have learnt the wrong lesson here. Instead of fixing your gambling issues you created a divide between yourself and your partner, actively omitting important information from her. The real issue in your story is that you have problems with gambling to the point where you end up broke. A responsible gambler would never stoop to this level and let his losses cause such a situation. Perhaps it is wise to think about that instead of thinking about how to hide things from your wife.

As a man, not every thing must your wife know about you, most women have this habit of rejoicing and taking glory when things are going well with their man, but when things go wrong, they immediately turn to put every blame on the man.

It is literally your fault and only your fault for losing money in gambling, it can never be someone else's fault. Talk about childish running away from responsibility.

[SOKO-DEKE]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

It will be better if you stop telling her about your gambling activities. Whether you win or lose, let everything be hidden from her. Because what is the point if it is only when you win that she reacts nicely but when you lose her reaction becomes bad toward you.

If you keep telling her about your gambling activities, it’s possible that one day it may lead to a serious fight. Wen your partner knows you are a gambler and she asks for something and you say you don’t have it, she may relate everything to your gambling activities, with insults that you won’t like to hear.It is very normal not everything we should tell our wives. There are certain things that are supposed to remain secret to yourself. But what I will still tell you is to gamble responsibly.

[silpersurfer]

I can't imagine it because I'm not married or have a wife. But of course, when I have a family, I'll try to limit my gambling even more, and maybe even consider quitting. When married, family should be my top priority, above personal pleasure, because gambling is about my personal pleasure.

But now I have a girlfriend, and when I win big, she's very sweet and affectionate to me. But when I lose, it's a different story. Her ranting has gotten so intense it can even slightly deafen my eardrums. But I enjoy the ranting, and I don't blame her for it, because it's purely my fault for gambling too often, which ultimately leads to more losses.

[Rashlyowl]

That will be good because communication can help him solve the problem. He can tell his wife that he is not spending too much money and separate the money from the other needs. He will discipline himself not to use the other money to gamble but to stick to the allocated gambling fund.

Perhaps it is difficult to convince his wife but he should try so his wife can understand that he is not trying to make money from gambling only for fun. If he loses, that is not a problem but if he wins, he can give the money to his wife.

Honesty and communication can prevent fights between him and his wife. He can playing gambling without thinking about what if he loses. He can ask his wife to watch him while gambling and remind him if he is almost breaking his rules.

I completely agree with your opinion, as honesty & good communication with our loved ones, especially our wives, are key to peace of mind when gambling. When honesty & good communication are maintained with our wives, it seems like no matter how much we bet, there will never be a problem. Before gambling, we can discuss with our wives first to agree on how much money we will use for gambling. This creates a mutual agreement that eliminates fear or loss because we have communicated honestly with our wives beforehand. Most importantly, when our wives know how much money they can afford to gamble, it is even better because it gives them control over the finances they have set aside & doesn't interfere with their primary income.

[Cookdata]

In this case two things are involved, one if you are a gambler and your knows, there is know problem of you telling your wife that you have won a game but if by any chance that your wife is not aware and supportive in your gambling skills, i think there is no need of letting your wife know that you won a bet but you can still use the money to support the family any way you can, because you ever let your wife know that win, no matter he didn't support your gambling skills she will still follow share the money or eat more than you.

Most women don't like men with gambling attributes but it's selfish of the wife if she doesn't like gambling but celebrate the husband the day he wins money from gambling. Whether it's involved gambling or not, I think when you make money there should be limitation of exposure of financial information to your spouse, however this in anyway should stop you from doing nice things for her, I mean like the way OP makes money from gambling, he can do what she likes but doesn't have to inform her that the money comes from gambling.

[ejikeme24]

In this case two things are involved, one if you are a gambler and your knows, there is know problem of you telling your wife that you have won a game but if by any chance that your wife is not aware and supportive in your gambling skills, i think there is no need of letting your wife know that you won a bet but you can still use the money to support the family any way you can, because you ever let your wife know that win, no matter he didn't support your gambling skills she will still follow share the money or eat more than you.

You're right but she would definitely find out some day, to be frank I don't buy this idea of keeping your gambling habit as a top secret. aside from her complaining about the lost I want to tell you that there are some certain things she will prevent that's if you told her about your gambling habit, because sometimes you might be in a long losing streak at that time you may not know what to do due to frustration but having her beside you would make it easier as she will give you the Best suggestion so forget about the drama I think telling your wife about your gambling habit is very important.

[Dr.Osh]

It's certainly frustrating when you lose and your wife gets angry, but openness is essential, especially when it comes to gambling. Your wife will be happy when you win, and she'll also be angry. However, you'll unknowingly avoid addiction because your wife will continue to restrain you from wasting money on gambling.

[HONDACD125]

In my opinion, I think if your wife already knows that you're a gambler, you don't need to tell her about your winning and losses all the time unless she ask you, not telling her about it doesn't mean that you don't love her but just to avoid the drama you just spoke about. Or, you can be telling her about your winnings but don't tell her about your loss unless she asked you. My ex never liked me gambling, so I stopped telling her about it, she knew I didn't stop but she was okay that I don't involve her in any of my gambling talks or issues.

As they say, with time, you gain experience and then learn things that you didn't know already. In my case, this thing has helped me a lot, because initially, I used to share everything with her, whether it's about finances or anything else in general, and then there used to be quarrels, arguments, etc. Over time, I realized that it's better that I don't discuss everything with her, and only share the things that I know won't cause any problems or become a reason for us to have an argument, and now I have a more peaceful life than before.

This is why, if something is not so important for your life-partner to know, don't mention it or talk about it, just keep it to yourself and that's it. There are a lot of things in life that if we don't share with our life-partners, we will avoid a lot of trouble and arguments, etc. So it's better that we learn a thing or two about what we should and what we shouldn't share with them.

[Sonia_123]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

If she is in support of your gambling activities no problem but if she is not in support, there is no need, because it will cause a huge problem amongst you after that period of Winning because she now knows that you are gambling and she might understand how gambling works, knowing fully that gambling wins are not often, except you prove not to be an irresponsible gambler to her, then the pressure might be less also if you meet up your daily responsibilities I don't think she will be boarder whether you win or not to the aspect of complaining, instead she will support and guide you not to fall into addiction.