Jealous of your partner wining more than you do

[panjul07]

I'm not in support of two partners, maybe a husband and a wife, to be both involved in gambling. I thought I'd seen it all, but this time the woman not only gambles, but she also gets to win more than the man. After winning, she brags about it a lot to the ears of the Man, and unfortunately, he got upset and hit her hard on the chin.

Yeah, this is a true-life story. It happened yesterday. My neighbor got into a serious fight with his wife because she brags about her wins in gambling a lot. I want to know if this is something you can do? Like, when your partner wins more than you do, do you get jealous?

There is no reason to jealous if my partner wins more than me, wins should be celebrated together not something to argue.
If someone is jealous with his/her partner (vice versa), means than there is something wrong with the relationship, I have no idea what's wrong but it is not normal for me to jealous.
Jealous for other's win such as friends, or even someone we do not know is more normal for me.

[rachael9385]

To me this shows that they where never meant to be.

If a husband and wife are one as the Bible says, one of them win means the both of them win,
A win from one person is supposed to bring joy and not conflict. I'm this situation they should work on their relationship more than gambling better.

You are absolutely right, there should be no problem If the husband or wife is winning because whoever wins means that they are both winning. It is a toxic relationship because they are both envious of each other's success or progress, there's more damage the relationship can cause if they don't split up.

[Frankolala]

To me this shows that they where never meant to be.

If a husband and wife are one as the Bible says, one of them win means the both of them win,
A win from one person is supposed to bring joy and not conflict. I'm this situation they should work on their relationship more than gambling better.

You are absolutely right, there should be no problem If the husband or wife is winning because whoever wins means that they are both winning. It is a toxic relationship because they are both envious of each other's success or progress, there's more damage the relationship can cause if they don't split up.

I think, the problem is from the woman because women have this character in them that if they're being successful than their husband financially, they brag about it and disrespect their husband just because they're earning more than him. I believe that she has bragged many times to him and he got angry this time. The man should have overlooked her for her foolishness instead, of hitting her.

[Awaklara]

Yeah, this is a true-life story. It happened yesterday. My neighbor got into a serious fight with his wife because she brags about her wins in gambling a lot. I want to know if this is something you can do? Like, when your partner wins more than you do, do you get jealous?

I have never encountered a couple who both gamble. It might be difficult for those who have low incomes. Because usually those who gamble are men, and women never like gambling, although we know there are women who also gamble.

If both gamble, wouldn't every win be a pleasure for both? That is possible if they support each other. But if there are taunts that make one of them emotional, of course, there is something not good in their relationship. For couples, wouldn't it be better for them to place bets or gamble together, rather than do it separately?

[Suleiman the Magnificent]

It didn't seem that absurd for partners living in the same house to gamble, even if it wasn't right. However, it's quite strange that things escalated beyond earnings jealousy all the way to violence. It gives the impression of an impulsive act done in a moment of anger but I don't think this was a one time thing. Perhaps they tried to take out their frustrations about other things in this way.

[nara1892]

It didn't seem that absurd for partners living in the same house to gamble, even if it wasn't right. However, it's quite strange that things escalated beyond earnings jealousy all the way to violence. It gives the impression of an impulsive act done in a moment of anger but I don't think this was a one time thing. Perhaps they tried to take out their frustrations about other things in this way.

I can confirm that it seems that the family relationship is not good, their relationship is broken and that is why one of them could even dare to commit violence, even though logically the money will also be used for both of their lives, and I am sure that what you said is quite true that this is not the first incident, meaning that previously this husband and wife also seemed to behave harshly towards each other, meaning that it has become a habit.

[AakZaki]

A person whose mind is stressed, especially because of the defeat of gambling, makes a person easily angry. So it's not because of jealousy, because it's basically impossible to be jealous just because the wins are more, then it will be violent.

A stressed person is sensitive, so never make fun of stressed people even though the purpose is to joke.

Sincerely speaking I don't know what she said to her husband but he should have the self control not to hit his wife

Yes, I think his wife is making fun of him for his defeat, even though people who experience gambling defeats are easily angry, especially when a lot of money has been spent.
A person will have difficulty controlling emotions When the mind is in turmoil, the best step should be for the wife to leave her husband for other activities.

[LOVER BOY 422]

I'm not in support of two partners, maybe a husband and a wife, to be both involved in gambling. I thought I'd seen it all, but this time the woman not only gambles, but she also gets to win more than the man. After winning, she brags about it a lot to the ears of the Man, and unfortunately, he got upset and hit her hard on the chin.

Yeah, this is a true-life story. It happened yesterday. My neighbor got into a serious fight with his wife because she brags about her wins in gambling a lot. I want to know if this is something you can do? Like, when your partner wins more than you do, do you get jealous?

A wife gambling is too bad , who is giving her money to gamble?
If the money she use to gamble is coming from me I will definitely stop it , she shouldn't gamble under same roof but if she is a working class  and a career woman, and she always gamble and win , I will support her , but she shouldn't use my money to gamble is highly prohibited in my side.
Secondly a man beating the wife to the extent of even to choke her is not good , it's bad for the man to beat his wife just because of gambling, this what will are saying some men get nervous so easily that they can't control their anger, it's too bad , to me no matter what I can't beat my wife in this manner, why not report the issue to their parents and not for you to be beating a woman is bad , but ladies should be responsible at home how can you and your husband be gambling what will the children learn at their age, they should stop discussing about gambling in the present of their children is not good.

[JunaidAzizi]

In all this, I will say that’s the other side of gambling, which sometimes we ignore or blame on other factors. They are both so deep into gambling that they can't even tolerate each other. For them, it doesn’t matter who wins, the real thing is that money comes into the house. Unfortunately, their behaviors have been so affected by gambling. The dragging of the wife’s win may be annoying for him, but the husband has no reason to punch her. In fact, instead of hitting her, he could do something else that would give him a bigger profit than her. But again, their behaviors have been affected.

[sompitonov]

I thought it didn't bother me too much until I encountered it, because my friend started winning more than me and I started wondering why him. It seemed like we were doing almost everything the same, but I later realized that it was just a façade, and in reality, he probably had a better strategy or was better at risk management than me. But sometimes it seems like he's not doing anything, he's just getting lucky, and that's all, and luck tends to run out at a certain point, so I want to see if his success continues.

[Gentle_Soul]

 I do not really buy the idea of both partners gambling I mean it's really risky because gambling is not guaranteed so my question now is what happens if the both partners who are supposed to be supportive to each other both lose there funds on  gambling on the same day and worst of all if they are both addicted gamblers who gambles away there funds untill they are exhausted that means they will definitely be having financial issues and off balance repeatedly as a result there gambling lifestyle.
In my opinion I don't think its advice able for the both partners to be gamblers.

[Slow death]

It's very sad to see men hitting women; our current society has begun to normalize violence. I see many videos where people are fighting and others just watch, even to the point where people create Instagram and Facebook channels and websites where they live in a house with many people and fight. They call this a reality show. I don't know how this can be accepted in society, and now you're telling me that your neighbor punched his wife. Unfortunately, most women who are victims of aggression don't have the courage to report it to the police.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

It's very sad to see men hitting women; our current society has begun to normalize violence. I see many videos where people are fighting and others just watch, even to the point where people create Instagram and Facebook channels and websites where they live in a house with many people and fight. They call this a reality show. I don't know how this can be accepted in society, and now you're telling me that your neighbor punched his wife. Unfortunately, most women who are victims of aggression don't have the courage to report it to the police.

Just as much as most women are victims to or of aggression from men, I will not fail to also say that most men are victims of aggression too, but unfortunately, we live in a society where the women are supposedly more protected than the men simply because the society and even movies made us believe that men are the stronger while women are the weaker vessel.

And let me point to a fact that violence is  everywhere and it has been like this for a very long time now.
But still, I support that on no account should a man raise his hands on a respectful woman, gambling is supposed to be something we joy and merry over and not something that should create fights especially between a gambling husband and the wife.

[Dogedegen]

I'm not in support of two partners, maybe a husband and a wife, to be both involved in gambling. I thought I'd seen it all, but this time the woman not only gambles, but she also gets to win more than the man. After winning, she brags about it a lot to the ears of the Man, and unfortunately, he got upset and hit her hard on the chin.

Yeah, this is a true-life story. It happened yesterday. My neighbor got into a serious fight with his wife because she brags about her wins in gambling a lot. I want to know if this is something you can do? Like, when your partner wins more than you do, do you get jealous?

Both sides are in error here and if we do not have the full history of their relationship we can commit an error by blaming more the man for getting violent, some people are jumpy at that and make basic error thinking that violence is always worse than everything else but it is not. Putting their history aside, the errors here are clear. The wife should not be rubbing in her victories even more when it is something like this that can get touchy and problematic like gambling, and on the other side the husband should not get jealous at anyone winning. That is always a mistake because there is a list that never ends of people who have won more than other people, so even if you win a fair amount of money there are a lot of people that have won even more money and then you would just always kind of be upset.

It's very sad to see men hitting women; our current society has begun to normalize violence. I see many videos where people are fighting and others just watch, even to the point where people create Instagram and Facebook channels and websites where they live in a house with many people and fight. They call this a reality show. I don't know how this can be accepted in society, and now you're telling me that your neighbor punched his wife. Unfortunately, most women who are victims of aggression don't have the courage to report it to the police.

There is a lot of mental violence and torture that you do not see, because men tend to do things physically and women do things emotionally and manipulative. Just because the man hit the woman in this case, that does not mean that he is the worse of the two partners. You should keep this in mind, and actually women are often the worse partners because the data on this is clear. Lesbian couples are the worst when it comes to domestic abuse.

[Ever-young]

It's very sad to see men hitting women; our current society has begun to normalize violence. I see many videos where people are fighting and others just watch, even to the point where people create Instagram and Facebook channels and websites where they live in a house with many people and fight. They call this a reality show. I don't know how this can be accepted in society, and now you're telling me that your neighbor punched his wife. Unfortunately, most women who are victims of aggression don't have the courage to report it to the police.

You know it’s really very disturbing seeing how violence to some people has become part of entertainment. It really doesn’t matter how society might attempt to normalize violence, the truth still remains that abuse is totally unacceptable, especially when it involves women and children. And the worst part of this is that, a lot of people who are victims just choose to remain silent and swallow everything due to fear, shame or dependence, and this way, they never really gets the help they deserve. The truth is that no one should really undergo such a trauma.

[Versatile_choice]

The truth is that jealousy is not limited to some certain things, rather it can be applied in other things both relevant and irrelevant things. Of a truth jealousy is not supposed to exist in gamble because we are all fighting the house with our own personal money no one is funding each other. it's supposed to go this way; when you bet and loss, then you move on and also allow others to try their luck, if they tried and succeed, then you allow them enjoy their wining or better still you join them and celebrate, I'm sure that by so doing he might even show you love instead of being envious of him.

[Orpichukwu]

You are absolutely right, there should be no problem If the husband or wife is winning because whoever wins means that they are both winning. It is a toxic relationship because they are both envious of each other's success or progress, there's more damage the relationship can cause if they don't split up.

I believe there are some pieces of information missing in this story because a happy family can't just be fighting with each other because of money when they are supposed to be rejoicing that winning happened, but here one is provoked by the way the other is announcing and making him feel because of winning instead of both of them rejoicing.

[Ryu_Ar1]

Yeah, this is a true-life story. It happened yesterday. My neighbor got into a serious fight with his wife because she brags about her wins in gambling a lot. I want to know if this is something you can do? Like, when your partner wins more than you do, do you get jealous?

I never thought about this before because from the beginning my partner never did gambling so I didn't feel that something like this would happen but usually when there are some things that happen (not in gambling) and are done together but my partner has a bigger advantage I don't feel that I should feel angry like in the work done because my partner and I are in the same scope of work but I don't feel a problem when my partner gets much bigger because it is in accordance with what he does and it is also his right to get bigger.  The analogy could be the same because in gambling all have their own luck so when our partner is the one gambling and they get the advantage while we lose then our partner is the lucky one.  It would be ridiculous to debate a victory that comes from luck just because the results are not the same even though in gambling we know that the luck of each gambler is different.

[programmer3666]

I'm not in support of two partners, maybe a husband and a wife, to be both involved in gambling. I thought I'd seen it all, but this time the woman not only gambles, but she also gets to win more than the man. After winning, she brags about it a lot to the ears of the Man, and unfortunately, he got upset and hit her hard on the chin.

Yeah, this is a true-life story. It happened yesterday. My neighbor got into a serious fight with his wife because she brags about her wins in gambling a lot. I want to know if this is something you can do? Like, when your partner wins more than you do, do you get jealous?

I don't feel a partner winning more than you should be a reason for jealousy. In a healthy relationship, one person's success should be something both people can celebrate, whether it's from work, business, or even a lucky gambling win. The real problem here seems to be the constant bragging. Nobody likes being mocked or reminded repeatedly that they are losing while someone else is winning. Still, getting angry to the point of violence is never acceptable. Like when one spouse gets a promotion at work. The other partner shouldn't feel threatened by it. Instead, they should be happy that the family is doing better. Respect and maturity are important, especially when money is involved.

[fullfitlarry]

I don't feel a partner winning more than you should be a reason for jealousy. In a healthy relationship, one person's success should be something both people can celebrate, whether it's from work, business, or even a lucky gambling win. The real problem here seems to be the constant bragging. Nobody likes being mocked or reminded repeatedly that they are losing while someone else is winning. Still, getting angry to the point of violence is never acceptable. Like when one spouse gets a promotion at work. The other partner shouldn't feel threatened by it. Instead, they should be happy that the family is doing better. Respect and maturity are important, especially when money is involved.

Or the relationship is not healthy anymore? that's why one side keeps on rubbing it in on his partner. And then the other party doesn't take it as sort of joke but constant bragging or even nagging that he can't take it anymore?

So respect have been lost obviously and maybe it's just a matter of time that this two are going to separate because they can't take it anymore specially that money is involved in the middle. Because they don't want to go the point that they might hurt each other.