Jealous of your partner wining more than you do

[sompitonov]

I don't want to make myself a judge but when we are jealous of what other people get including our own partners I think it shows that we are not ready for gambling because if we are ready for gambling then we will never feel anything including jealousy of what other people get because all have different levels of luck.

Gamblers who are jealous of what other gamblers get is just like us who are obsessed with people's property and as much as possible we will try to get at all costs what others have even if it is our own partner and that is not a healthy way but ambition which if not controlled will create more complex problems not only about gambling but about relationships and trust.
So as much as possible we should stay focused on the initial goal in gambling.  If we only focus on the achievements of other gamblers then we must feel there is something problematic in us and this is a start to make yourself look bad.

Many players simply start wondering why the other player was lucky enough to win, while I wasn't, given how hard I work on my game. Firstly, many players don't see how much work the other player put into their gameplay, analysis, risk management, and self-control. They simply view the player as average and don't see their potential. Another point is that this player may have simply had a few lucky streaks in a row, and that's all. We might get lucky next time. So, we shouldn't dwell on this at all and focus solely on our own game, ignoring other players. Otherwise, it could only make our game worse or, worse, tilt us, and we don't need that.

[hedgeh0g]

Many players simply start wondering why the other player was lucky enough to win, while I wasn't, given how hard I work on my game. Firstly, many players don't see how much work the other player put into their gameplay, analysis, risk management, and self-control. They simply view the player as average and don't see their potential. Another point is that this player may have simply had a few lucky streaks in a row, and that's all. We might get lucky next time. So, we shouldn't dwell on this at all and focus solely on our own game, ignoring other players. Otherwise, it could only make our game worse or, worse, tilt us, and we don't need that.

Of course, focusing on other players and their successes can impact us in different ways, but overall, it can sometimes be a motivating factor for us. For example, I remember watching a poker streamer who was very successful. I started studying poker because I wanted to be like this professional. Of course, I didn't succeed, but I didn't degrade my game by simply mashing buttons and hoping for luck. I studied the game in detail, observed my opponents' play, and adapted to them to improve my chances of winning. I also watched how he controlled himself when losing and copied this in my own attitude toward my losses. So, I want to say that occasionally we can be motivated by other players, which can be beneficial.

[TheUltraElite]

Of course, focusing on other players and their successes can impact us in different ways, but overall, it can sometimes be a motivating factor for us.

When the other player in question is your spouse I doubt their success will have a small impact. Indeed the other person will feel jealous have certain problems when facing it. What I think is that if both partners are gambling the money is going to be spent at double rate compared to one person. Usually the other person attempt to keep the gambling partner under a leash.

If this is going beyond the leash then the thing that they can do is consider changing their habits. But this is easier said than done.

[ZeroVinsonN]

I'm not in support of two partners, maybe a husband and a wife, to be both involved in gambling. I thought I'd seen it all, but this time the woman not only gambles, but she also gets to win more than the man. After winning, she brags about it a lot to the ears of the Man, and unfortunately, he got upset and hit her hard on the chin.

Yeah, this is a true-life story. It happened yesterday. My neighbor got into a serious fight with his wife because she brags about her wins in gambling a lot. I want to know if this is something you can do? Like, when your partner wins more than you do, do you get jealous?

If you're in a relationship then why is the money separate? My wife and I share a bank account, if she were to win big money somewhere I'd be happy she won and share in the money. I see no reason to be jealous if a couple won money no matter who actually won it unless it's just some selfish prick or greedy girl who would take the money n leave.

It's not out of the ordinary for couples to have separate accounts but that's still not enough reason for a person to be jealous of their spouse because they are winning more and it's even more stupid for a person to be an annoying partner simply because they are earning more, it's not just even about gambling, if the wife is earning more than they husband she shouldn't automatically become a prick to the husband, it when some poorly trained fools gets married that they treat their partner like trash simply because they earn more.

[Inwestour]

It's not out of the ordinary for couples to have separate accounts but that's still not enough reason for a person to be jealous of their spouse because they are winning more and it's even more stupid for a person to be an annoying partner simply because they are earning more, it's not just even about gambling, if the wife is earning more than they husband she shouldn't automatically become a prick to the husband, it when some poorly trained fools gets married that they treat their partner like trash simply because they earn more.

To me, it has always seemed very strange that someone would be bothered if their wife earned more than they do, honestly I would only be happy about it. We have a shared budget, and I don't think it really matters who earns more, because everything goes into the same pool of money. Budget management is then based on the total amount available, and each person takes what they need from that budget regardless of who contributed more or less.

If a family has separate finances, then I think questions about who earns more should be irrelevant altogether. In that case, the spouses probably just agree on who pays for what and split the bills accordingly. Getting upset because one person won and the other lost seems rather foolish to me.

[letteredhub]

I'm not in support of two partners, maybe a husband and a wife, to be both involved in gambling. I thought I'd seen it all, but this time the woman not only gambles, but she also gets to win more than the man. After winning, she brags about it a lot to the ears of the Man, and unfortunately, he got upset and hit her hard on the chin.

Yeah, this is a true-life story. It happened yesterday. My neighbor got into a serious fight with his wife because she brags about her wins in gambling a lot. I want to know if this is something you can do? Like, when your partner wins more than you do, do you get jealous?

It's really bad having two spouse gambling and you would be wondering on who is gonna be cautioning the other against turning to an addicted gambler. In a family like this it's the children future that bothers me much.
I can't think of any good reasons to hit a woman except it gets to the level of a self defence in a life threatening situation, but definitely not about her bragging of her gambling win to my face. I suspect that the man usually makes fun about her losses and that's why the woman has to put it to his face about her win any time she gets one.

[bakasabo]

People who are jealous that their partners win more also are jealous if their partners earn more. That is not good for relationships. Relationships should not be build on money, nor money should be the reason to break them. Otherwise these are not relationship but people simply spend more money with other people. People instead should be happy if partner gets a bigger win, because these are joint money. This should mean that you have lost less or not lost at all, if your partner wins.

Imagine how people reach unto that level right? Instead of clapping for the achievements gotten by their partner. Here they are having that feeling.

For me those people feels that is not a good partner, because they are the cancer in their circle which could possibly drag them down on the lowest point.

If that happen on me I will be happy and get inspired to thrive more then possibly try earn more bigger, since this give us good advantage and we will be the best duo together in gambling.

If my second half win in gambling, win in sport or achieve something, starts earning more - I would be more than happy and be first to congratulate. Because all that will positively affect our life and family. Being jealous for your partners wins and achievements is something I can not explain. If partner is jealous, then they are not partners at all but two strangers to each others. Partners must accept their second halfs the way they are.

[Zadicar]

It's not out of the ordinary for couples to have separate accounts but that's still not enough reason for a person to be jealous of their spouse because they are winning more and it's even more stupid for a person to be an annoying partner simply because they are earning more, it's not just even about gambling, if the wife is earning more than they husband she shouldn't automatically become a prick to the husband, it when some poorly trained fools gets married that they treat their partner like trash simply because they earn more.

To me, it has always seemed very strange that someone would be bothered if their wife earned more than they do, honestly I would only be happy about it. We have a shared budget, and I don't think it really matters who earns more, because everything goes into the same pool of money. Budget management is then based on the total amount available, and each person takes what they need from that budget regardless of who contributed more or less.

If a family has separate finances, then I think questions about who earns more should be irrelevant altogether. In that case, the spouses probably just agree on who pays for what and split the bills accordingly. Getting upset because one person won and the other lost seems rather foolish to me.

Once you do have that kind of reaction on the moment that your wife is that earning more than you do when you do gamble then its a solid sign that you are already addicted into it and having that kind of thinking that you are the ones who should be earning more as you are that playing more than with your partner/gf/wife and thats something an addicted person would really be that thinking. For us who do casually play or even playing up on which it is really just that fine for you to see them winning then we should really be happy about it rather than on getting jealous because these things usually ending up on some physical touches or accidents just because of having not be able to control your temper or emotions and thats something dangerous. Just accept that they are winning then everything would be just that fine. Mind your own game and just enjoy it rather than on thinking that you should win more on which it would be that stressful.

[batang_bitcoin]

If you get jealous of people in your life instead of feeling proud of and happy for them then you really need to take a long look at your own life and figure out how it is that you are disappointing yourself. Life isn’t a zero sum game. There is plenty of happiness to go around for us all. There is no need to try and take it from others.

I agree, don't be the kill joy of others. We've got a lot of reasons to be happy for ourselves and for the achievement of others. A partner that does well in anything and excels in it should need more supportive other half than to be jealous of it. It can root to many cause why the reaction is different from the typical of being happy and supportive. But we're no longer kids to get jealous of someone's happiness whether they're our partners or someone we just know.

[Sticky Bomb]

Yeah, this is a true-life story. It happened yesterday. My neighbor got into a serious fight with his wife because she brags about her wins in gambling a lot. I want to know if this is something you can do? Like, when your partner wins more than you do, do you get jealous?

Your neighbor is a coward, real men don't hit women. It is in their nature to be loud and very expressive of any emotion they're feeling at the moment, It shouldn't be a source of threat to the man if he had a good sense of self-worth.

Personally, I wouldn't hit my wife for any reason, instead I would ignore her if her celebration is a deliberate dig at me and is attacking my self-confidence, I might as well leave the environment and take a walk to breath some fresh air. I don't like the idea that a husband and wife are gambling so much at the same time, I don't know how they do it but are they still giving the children the adequate attention they should get?

[Yablee0]

The man is damn funny. He should be clapping for his wife instead of getting mad at her, moreover what he couldn't do is what she didn't without stress. However, I see no tangible reason someone should be angry at his spouse to the extend of hitting her all because she balled it well than he did, or perhaps she was trying to make a mockery out of it, but even as that all is still part of the whole fun and the entertainment we're talking about. If I was to be his wife I will not let him eat a damn from my winnings and I mean it.

[Royal Cap]

I'm not in support of two partners, maybe a husband and a wife, to be both involved in gambling. I thought I'd seen it all, but this time the woman not only gambles, but she also gets to win more than the man. After winning, she brags about it a lot to the ears of the Man, and unfortunately, he got upset and hit her hard on the chin.

Yeah, this is a true-life story. It happened yesterday. My neighbor got into a serious fight with his wife because she brags about her wins in gambling a lot. I want to know if this is something you can do? Like, when your partner wins more than you do, do you get jealous?

I would say that the main problem of this whole incident is not just the winnings and losses or jealousy of gambling, but the mental stress created by gambling. Gambling is something that completely destroys people's natural emotions and tolerance, as a result of which even a very simple joke or boast can make people angry.  Here the man's anger may not have been only for his wife's winnings but rather this violence was born from his own lost money and the suppressed frustration at the gambling table. As we can see around us when a person is in extreme financial or mental crisis, he loses control at the slightest provocation. Therefore, it is more important than eliminating jealousy towards your partner to keep yourself away from this addiction like gambling, because such an environment poisons any healthy relationship.

[serjent05]

I'm not in support of two partners, maybe a husband and a wife, to be both involved in gambling. I thought I'd seen it all, but this time the woman not only gambles, but she also gets to win more than the man. After winning, she brags about it a lot to the ears of the Man, and unfortunately, he got upset and hit her hard on the chin.

Yeah, this is a true-life story. It happened yesterday. My neighbor got into a serious fight with his wife because she brags about her wins in gambling a lot. I want to know if this is something you can do? Like, when your partner wins more than you do, do you get jealous?

Why would I get jealous of others winning? I should be happy because my partner is lucky.  I think the guy really has a black heart.  He is not a good guy because his heart is full of envy. And not all people are like him, so I don't disagree with couples who are into gambling, nor do I support them. I am just neutral.  It is their own right to do whatever they want.  And I do not think I have the right to stop them or tell them they are wrong to be gambling together.