‎Is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a big red flag?

[Cryptomultiplier]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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[Bluedrem]

In fact, when it comes to kinship, it is necessary to be as informed as possible about it. Now, if either the bride or the groom is addicted to gambling and if he goes out of control, then maintaining the relationship can be much more risky because an addicted gambler has a negative impact on everything including his behavior. Well, he forgets what to do to maintain the right dignity of the relationship and finally he always behaves badly with his partner, resulting in unrest in the family.

[rachael9385]

One thing about this is compatibility and understanding, there are some people that would not mind because they are also gamblers and some would also be mature enough to know that not everyone that gambles does it irresponsibly or gets addicted to it. There is a difference between someone that's just gambling and those that do it because they are addicted to it.

[Charles-Tim]

A woman will not bother if they are about to marry a gambler if the man is rich. Woman will only complain if the person is not man enough financially.

But if the man is struggling and still just coming up, the woman might still be saying something if gambling is affecting the person. If the person is gambling responsibly, it is highly possible the woman will not complain, but most will complain.

It is good to be rich 🤑.

[Awaklara]

If you live in a place that considers gambling a bad thing, I'm sure your future wife will tell you to stop gambling. Especially if there's influence from parents, which could be bad for your relationship. 
Actually, it's important to talk about some sensitive things that could affect a relationship before getting married. But I'm not sure how open someone would be to their partner about gambling. Some people don't mind it, but of course, some take it seriously.

[uneng]

Nowadays hardly ever you are going to find someone who hasn't been in contact with gambling, as virtual betting platforms are a common thing being promoted on mainstream media. Therefore, to simply be a gambler isn't a red flag. The problem is how often this person is gambling, how much he is spending gambling and what importance and role gambling has on his life.

Those are points to pay attention to, because in case there is a disbalance there, you should stay away, indeed, for your own good.

[uchegod-21]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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This depends on personal, cultural, and religious beliefs. Some people who consider gambling forbidden will see it as a big deal. However, for me, I will not consider gambling itself a big deal. What I will see as a big deal is how my fiancée goes about gambling. If she only gambles occasionally for fun and it doesn't affect her personality, I wouldn't mind.

However, if there are signs of addiction and recklessness, such behavior might cause serious concerns in the relationship.

A relationship is all about understanding and transparency too. If my partner hides her gambling activities from me and I get to find out her little secrets on my own, it will be considered a big deal.

[Smartprofit]

It's very important to me that my future wife has good financial habits. 🙋

For example, I would absolutely not want my future wife to take out loans or credits. My concerns about this stem from the specifics of civil law in my country. Marital property acquired during marriage is considered joint property. All debts and financial obligations are also considered joint debts and financial obligations. Therefore, if my wife takes out loans or credits, I will essentially be the one paying them back!

The same applies to gambling... I don't mind my wife occasionally playing online casinos. But if she frequently loses large sums of money, it will significantly damage the family budget... I wouldn't want that. 🤷 Especially since I know that inveterate gamblers can take out large loans and credits to finance their gambling. I've heard such stories many times.

[Crypto_Timothy]

This is very personal and i do think when it comes to logical thinking, gambling overstimulates it so much that gambler take risk not because they have to but just because they can. A logical person would not want to headfirst into a risk and marriage for me, i think its a commitment and as such both parties need to commit and if someone isnt thinking logically there are bound to be flaws. So for me i wouldnt like to know that and they willingin jump into such a situation.

Mind you this is different from getting married and later finding out, by then the commitment has already been made and a commitment to accept whatever may come, at least that how i see marriages, so at that point, you just have to try and give the help needed by your partner.

[suzanne5223]

Gambling sometimes revolves around sports while also revolves around games that could help with mental development, so I consider it to be a form of sports, but if it is not done in a moderate way, it could lead to chaos.
Therefore, I don't see any red flag about knowing my fiance is into gambling since he can control his buzz while also keeping bankroll management strong. Besides, i will appreciate it for tell me the fact about the situation.

[Su-asa]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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Honestly it's not an automatic red flag when someone gamble because the person might be a gambler but not addicted to gamble, if the person gamble occasionally or gamble most times but didn't spending a lot of money in gamble then it should not automatically be a red flag. What's a red flag is when the person is an addict gambler and you have tried to help the person stop gamble but no success then you can call it a red flag. However, reason why it's not automatically a red flag is because there are married people that are living so well, they gamble and none is a gamble addict.

[348Judah]

Discovering that someone will know is a gambler does not mean they are bad, everyone should have access to gambling as an entertainment, we only get more concerned when they are not trying to be responsible or hide things for each other in a relationship, gambling should not be used as an excuse for any misconduct anyone may try to show in a relationship.

[Pandorak]

This is why openness from the very beginning is so important, especially when you’re in a relationship or dating. Because this is when your partner can determine how suitable you are to be their life partner in the future.

Personally, i don’t think this is a major issue for your partner, the most important thing is that you can explain that your gambling is merely a form of entertainment. On the other hand, financially speaking, you should have a substantial amount of money so that your gambling expenses don’t have a significant impact on your finances. I’ve often seen cases where a woman leaves a man, the main reason isn’t the gambling itself, but rather the man’s low income, which is then spent on gambling, and in some cases, he even ends up in debt. So it’s no wonder the woman leaves him.

[nikola22]

the question is whether a person simply places bets or loses everything. I don't see anything wrong in betting occasionally, for example on the World Cup. but if a person loses his entire salary or goes into debt just to bet then that's definitely a red flag. I think moderation is important in everything and you can even lose a small amount but losing everything is unhealthy behavior and perhaps such person needs treatment.

[AmaGold70]

This actually depends on the level of gambling, what ever that is done with moderation cannot be seen as a red flag. If your fiance or fiancee is a gambler, it is necessary to know the level of gambling, he or she is a responsible gambler, that wouldn't be an issue, but if the gambler is a chronic gambler, I think it should be a thing of great concern. An addicted gambler can make the family very poor, as he or she looses money without control. A women can reject a man who is an addicted gambler, and refuse to get his hand in marriage, and likewise a man too.
Personally as a man, it will be very difficult for me to get married to a woman who gamble, because I won't have most of her time, instead she will give more attention to gambling, fail to carry out her responsibility as a wife.

[Fiatless]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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The answer you would receive might be based on culture and religion. In some locations, gamblers are perceived as wasteful people. They assume that they waste money on an activity they don't benefit from. To a Muslim, it would be a red flag since it is against their religious teachings.

Responsible gambling should be the litmus test and not a gambling habit. I wouldn't want my partner to be a gambler because it might be difficult to hide it from the children if both of us are into it. But it is not a red flag for me if it is done responsibly.

[Cryptomultiplier]

A woman will not bother if they are about to marry a gambler if the man is rich. Woman will only complain if the person is not man enough financially.

But if the man is struggling and still just coming up, the woman might still be saying something if gambling is affecting the person. If the person is gambling responsibly, it is highly possible the woman will not complain, but most will complain.

It is good to be rich 🤑.

It's good to be a rich or wealthy man indeed, and besides the culture or traditions or religious beliefs against gambling activities won't it still be a red flag mostly as pertaining the woman indulging in gambling more?

This is saying that, I have also seen women who gamble and I wonder if a man would find this also repulsive or a red flag , because some people think gambling is only a habit or hobby for men without acknowledging the fact that women also do same codedly if you get to know them well enough to some extent.

[libert19]

I am not fond of gamblers generally, though I personally gamble sometimes, but gambling just feels like a thing which can have a bad consequences if one is not controlled. So, I would rather prefer nobody pertaining to me (I am not being controlling, but dunno how to articulate otherwise) to gamble; I gamble currently, because I am single and free, otherwise I would stop duly.

[Odusko]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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Can't really get what exactly you are trying to say, because basically your gambling life before you get married is al on you and no one else, but after you are married to your spouse it's your responsibility to be a financial committed spouse and at that you must open up to your spouse your gambling life and how much you earned in a month.

[robelneo]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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Honesty is very important for a soon-to-be married couple, so it depends on whether he openly told you that and he is a moderate and responsible gambler, then there's nothing wrong with it, and there's a possibility that he will change and discard gambling because he will be a family man.
But if he kept it and you accidentally discovered it and it turns out he is addicted to gambling, then this is a big red flag, and you should delay the wedding and get a counselor to advise both of you.