What is your state on mind if your son stole your money to gamble?

[Obari]

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

I’m not the mom and I’m not also a woman to assume this but the truth be told that stealing is stealing irrespective of the purpose it was stolen for.
But mothers should at every point, learn how to treat their children with love and not push them out to the harsh realities outside and I do understand the pains of the mother as this must be a case scenario of an Africa mother and since this case is very recent considering the high rate of poverty and hunger and the current rate of global inflation now, I wouldn’t blame the mom for any action she takes but she shouldn’t be too angered and forget to correct the child in love.
Gambling is never a poverty alleviation scheme, atleast not for people who can’t afford to bear the losses.

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[Kakmakr]

Any good parent would have been angry, but they would also be concerned. The parent should worry about the childs state of mind, when he had to steal from his parents and questions should be answered... on why he did that.

They should determine if the child are addicted to gambling and if he is, then their main concern must be to get help for their son, not on how they will get the money back. 

[ethereumhunter]

But we know that not all would really be having that happy ending because even if you are a good and responsible parent but it doesnt assure that your kids wont really be that exposed
into those things on which this is something that could affect out their overall growth and might lead up into lose path even if you have done it well. Its something that cant be avoided specially now that
exposure into those things would really be that easy. We cant be able to see or check them on whole day specially if we are also a busy person, then there's instances about missing those things.
This is why if ever those kids have done something which is bad then as a parent then we do normally scold them and make those kind of explanations on why it is bad. We arent that perfect
and this is why as much as possible then you would really be doing those basic stuffs at least as part of parenting.

Yeah, that is for sure. But we, as parents need to prepare everything for our kids and not let them do anything that can harm their life, including something that can lead them to trouble. With our guidance to them and always suggest them to stay away from bad things, they will understand that in out there, many things that can give them bad affect, so they must be careful when they want to do something. Maybe yes, we can't be able to see or check them whole day but we can get in touch with them in our free time and we can use that time to talk to them about many things so we can have close to them. We can follow behind them with our suggestions and we will always be with them so they can ask anything to us if they want to know something.

[Hanadawa]

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

I thought you were Nigerian and I assume here we are talking about winning a few million naira. The point is not to win a bet worth millions. The important thing to note here is that the boy stole his mother's money. You cannot try to justify the crime that the child has committed by assuming that he managed to win millions of naira by stealing, and then the money was used to prosper his family including buying his mother some gifts. Stealing is not permitted in any religion and in any country. That is a crime and a very bad form of behavior. If I were his parents I would not condone the theft he has committed even though he won millions of naira. I will return the money or give it to someone else. And I will teach my children that gambling is not a way to get money and wealth. It's just a game and can lose money if we lose. I think he should understand the risks of gambling before reaching legal age.

[sompitonov]

It seems to me that only those children for whom their parents do not have enough time are capable of such an act. Spending time in close contact with your children allows you to establish a strong and trusting bond that will prevent you from committing such base acts. If parents constantly yell or punish their children, the children do not do well in school, then we should not be surprised that one day we will discover that money is missing from our wallet, which it will spend on gambling. He probably did this because of problems in all areas that haunt him.

I would find time not to lose this contact, because if our children follow this bad path, it could ultimately have a bad impact on their entire lives. That's why it's important to spend more time with them and find them no matter what.

[angrybirdy]

Any good parent would have been angry, but they would also be concerned. The parent should worry about the childs state of mind, when he had to steal from his parents and questions should be answered... on why he did that.

They should determine if the child are addicted to gambling and if he is, then their main concern must be to get help for their son, not on how they will get the money back. 

Some parents are able to communicate with their children with gentle and care, but some parents are not vocal or expressive so they can't have time to talk to their children. This is one of the problems that a family has that causes their children to do something inappropriate because of lack of care and guidance from their parents. If you have this parent-child relationship with your kids, you will know what your child is doing in their life, They are also the ones who are willing to tell stories or update on what is happening in their lives. .

[fullhdpixel]

I don’t think the mother is mad about her son gambling, just the way he got the money. Stealing is a crime and if unchecked he could develop a habit for it and steal from someone who is not as sentimental and would very well call the cops. I think the mother is trying to prevent such an occurrence from happening in the future, the OP doesn’t say the age of the boy, I can only assume he’s a teenager. The family should have a sit down with the boy and let him know the consequences of his actions.

A child or a teenager stealing money from his father or mother or anyone around him/her is a question mark on the upbringing of the parents in the first place. So the first thing they should do is question themselves about how they have raised their child. Once they do that, then they should think of a way they can handle the situation and they should make sure that whatever they do should make the child understand, it shouldn't make him too much frightened but he should learn his lesson so that he doesn't repeat the same thing again or do anything that is considered bad.

A sitting with the child should be okay but it shouldn't be full of affection and encouragement to make the child think that he can do whatever he wants because the elders won't mind or do anything at all.

[summonerrk]

Children are the most important investment in our lives. And every contribution to their development and abilities is more important than any investment in stocks or cryptocurrencies. Children need to impress with their results, and it is important that they always receive maximum attention and care from their parents.

It is not surprising that if a child sees that they do not like him and do not give him time, then he chooses a crooked path in life that will not lead to anything good.

[Gheka]

It seems to me that only those children for whom their parents do not have enough time are capable of such an act. Spending time in close contact with your children allows you to establish a strong and trusting bond that will prevent you from committing such base acts. If parents constantly yell or punish their children, the children do not do well in school, then we should not be surprised that one day we will discover that money is missing from our wallet, which it will spend on gambling. He probably did this because of problems in all areas that haunt him.

I would find time not to lose this contact, because if our children follow this bad path, it could ultimately have a bad impact on their entire lives. That's why it's important to spend more time with them and find them no matter what.

The circumstances of each region and land are quite different, there are environments that require people to work harder every day and not have a little time to be close to their children, sometimes many people also want to have an evening to confide in themselves, but in reality, they are too tired from work and almost exhausted, continuing to deal with other tasks such as household chores is more stressful for them. Children are too free and thus interact with social elements and are exposed to online entertainment, here perhaps better modes are needed to increase a family's interaction, a little understanding of psychology changes a person's direction

[borovichok]

Any good parent would have been angry, but they would also be concerned. The parent should worry about the childs state of mind, when he had to steal from his parents and questions should be answered... on why he did that.

They should determine if the child are addicted to gambling and if he is, then their main concern must be to get help for their son, not on how they will get the money back. 

How will a child display a behaviour that is frowned upon in society and then you expect his parents to check his state of mind first? In my thinking, that will do no good and will even give the child reasons to misbehave next time on the ground that his parents will not scold him but rather will be considerate and even show unmerited care and attention. This will destroy the child`s morals. What I advocate in this kind of situation is to discipline the child then knowing why he did that should follow next.

I will applaud African mothers on this, an African mom will tell the child to feed himself with that money for some days and then you will see the child crying and making promises that he will not do it again. Please, I respect everyone's belief here but for us who believe in Christianity, the Holy Bible made it clear that “whoever spares the rod hates the child…” which in my opinion talks about the importance of punishing the child when he is wrong because that is the only way he learns. When a child steals and faces consequences, they learn that there are limits to their behaviour and actions.

[reagansimms]

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It is not surprising that if a child sees that they do not like him and do not give him time, then he chooses a crooked path in life that will not lead to anything good.

Supervision and education at home really help improve a child's discipline and honesty, but parents also need to supervise their children when they are outside the home. Teenagers are still very unstable in their thinking, they don't have much experience in considering their actions, all they think about is momentary pleasure without caring about the consequences afterwards.

The level of parental activity in educating children is not only at home, parents must also know who they are friends with when they are outside the home. Promiscuity can also make him choose a crooked path due to pressure or because of prestige with his friends.

[noormcs5]

I’m not the mom and I’m not also a woman to assume this but the truth be told that stealing is stealing irrespective of the purpose it was stolen for.
But mothers should at every point, learn how to treat their children with love and not push them out to the harsh realities outside and I do understand the pains of the mother as this must be a case scenario of an Africa mother and since this case is very recent considering the high rate of poverty and hunger and the current rate of global inflation now, I wouldn’t blame the mom for any action she takes but she shouldn’t be too angered and forget to correct the child in love.
Gambling is never a poverty alleviation scheme, atleast not for people who can’t afford to bear the losses.

If only the parents can clearly define the line between the good and the bad things and practices and enforce them, will make the kids a good citizen when they grow up. Usually, the moms are soft hearted and they tend to ignore the mistakes of the children. If the child realises his mistake, he will never repeat it as he knows that doing the same will be punished.

Also stealing money or anything should not be treated softly. Even the criminals are made because they were not stopped by their parents at the early age when they used to steal small things, which later turned into a habit and a crime. This is a worth reading article telling the cons of stealing at an early and non-mature age.

Stealing is not about you and your parenting—it’s about your child and the inappropriate ways they’re choosing to solve their problems at the moment.

Kids Who Steal: What You Need To Know

Now come to the outcome of the bet or game from stolen money. Let's suppose the kid earns a lot of money from that stolen money, This should not make us treat the children with softly, and not to forgive them only because they are the cause of the win and gain of money.  A wrong thing is wrong and it should not be encouraged even though there is some short term monetary benefits involved in it.

[Blowon]

If I were the child's mother, of course I would be very angry because he dared to act unexpectedly and was very reckless in stealing and gambling, even if he won a lot of money, I would still discipline the child.

[Obari]

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Stealing is not about you and your parenting—it’s about your child and the inappropriate ways they’re choosing to solve their problems at the moment.

Kids Who Steal: What You Need To Know

Now come to the outcome of the bet or game from stolen money. Let's suppose the kid earns a lot of money from that stolen money, This should not make us treat the children with softly, and not to forgive them only because they are the cause of the win and gain of money.  A wrong thing is wrong and it should not be encouraged even though there is some short term monetary benefits involved in it.

Exactly and every mother with the right  attitude and drill should at every point care to ask for the source of their children’s wealth especially if the wealth is so sudden  and most of the ill attitudes were failed to be corrected from childhood and since the mother has the highest bound from birth, to breastfeeding and te rest of that, she should be in a more better position to correct a lot of ill things when she saw them coming.
If the child made a lot of win from the bet, the parents has every right to caution the child since they’re responsible for their ward and children and also caution them with love rather than scolding or beating the child

[sompitonov]

It seems to me that only those children for whom their parents do not have enough time are capable of such an act. Spending time in close contact with your children allows you to establish a strong and trusting bond that will prevent you from committing such base acts. If parents constantly yell or punish their children, the children do not do well in school, then we should not be surprised that one day we will discover that money is missing from our wallet, which it will spend on gambling. He probably did this because of problems in all areas that haunt him.

I would find time not to lose this contact, because if our children follow this bad path, it could ultimately have a bad impact on their entire lives. That's why it's important to spend more time with them and find them no matter what.

The circumstances of each region and land are quite different, there are environments that require people to work harder every day and not have a little time to be close to their children, sometimes many people also want to have an evening to confide in themselves, but in reality, they are too tired from work and almost exhausted, continuing to deal with other tasks such as household chores is more stressful for them. Children are too free and thus interact with social elements and are exposed to online entertainment, here perhaps better modes are needed to increase a family's interaction, a little understanding of psychology changes a person's direction

Yes, I also understand that a lot of people live to earn money for food, and the rest of the time they perform household duties and children are left to their own devices a lot of time. I even remember my childhood, they also spent little time on me, but I never stole money from my parents, although my peers did this. I understood that this was very bad and something that should not be done under any circumstances and no matter how much I wanted it. It turns out that the state is indirectly to blame for not providing high wages to parents who are forced to work all the time. After all, those who earn more can devote more time to children, because they do not have to perform many responsibilities around the house.

[summonerrk]

If I were the child's mother, of course I would be very angry because he dared to act unexpectedly and was very reckless in stealing and gambling, even if he won a lot of money, I would still discipline the child.

It is necessary to figure out why the child stole the money, and this is very important, because there may be two reasons:
1) the child does not have enough money to be on the same level as his peers, and he just does not want to be an outsider.
2) the child is a bully and he is attracted to such actions. In this case, you need to understand more specifically and correct the moral principles of the child.

I believe that theft often occurs for the first reason.

[bakasabo]

If I were the child's mother, of course I would be very angry because he dared to act unexpectedly and was very reckless in stealing and gambling, even if he won a lot of money, I would still discipline the child.

It is necessary to figure out why the child stole the money, and this is very important, because there may be two reasons:
1) the child does not have enough money to be on the same level as his peers, and he just does not want to be an outsider.
2) the child is a bully and he is attracted to such actions. In this case, you need to understand more specifically and correct the moral principles of the child.

I believe that theft often occurs for the first reason.

That is correct. Before punishing someone, it is necessary to find out what lead to such action. The reasons why that kid stole money can be very various. From having a desire to gamble, to being forced to steal. It was mentioned that he has stolen money via mobile transfer. Before making any accusation, first it needs to be proved that the kid was the one who tapped on the screen and made that transaction. What if he was framed?

[yazher]

Any good parent would have been angry, but they would also be concerned. The parent should worry about the childs state of mind, when he had to steal from his parents and questions should be answered... on why he did that.

They should determine if the child are addicted to gambling and if he is, then their main concern must be to get help for their son, not on how they will get the money back. 

Usually, when parents detect such behaviors in their early stage, they can easily cure and prevent such kind of addiction from happening where they end up stealing their parent's money just to fund their bad habits. Prevention is better than cure and when they always monitor their children's activities, it would not end up this way because they can prevent it. But when they loosely let them do whatever they want, then the problem will occur in the future which will be hard for them to stop especially when their kids are already teens.

[YOSHIE]

What is your state on mind if your son stole your money to gamble?

Parents have full control and role for their respective children, that is the essence of the problem.
If that happened to me personally, of course I would integrate it personally first, of course by asking carefully, where do you know about gambling, from whom and how could he carry out this theft, even though he only took my money, what is clear is that I will not immediately judge. I will communicate carefully first.

Whatever our children do, it is our full responsibility, especially if they are involved in gambling, my principle is that they steal, of course there is a reason, we have to be serious in dealing with a cool head and hope we can bring him to the right path, no more stealing and gambling.

[Kavelj22]

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

It is clear that the mother was surprised by what her son did without taking into account whether he lost the money or made gambling profits from it. This is the same as any parent would feel after discovering two surprises: The first is that the son practices gambling, and the second is that he has the audacity to steal in order to play. This may be one of the most dangerous symptoms for a child who still needs the care of his parents.
Personally, I will rush to provide psychological support to my son, including monitoring his activity on the Internet and following up on support from psychological specialists. This is the least that can be done as a first step, regardless of any amount spent by the child.

Regarding the example in your story, the mother could be considered extremely reckless if she insisted on tracking down the lost money without taking into account the behavioral stage her son has reached.