What is your state on mind if your son stole your money to gamble?

[Orpichukwu]

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

No matter what the result or the game will be, stealing is bad, and any child who engages in that should be treated in accordance with the punishment they deserve.
 
I will punish the child and earn him/her not to engage in such again, and the kind of punishment and reaction from me will tell that I'm not happy and such should not repeat itself again. If you treat the person differently based on the gambling result, there is nothing that is going to stop him from doing so next time, even if he is going to lose the game.
 
I can even treat a child who uses the money I give him or her for personal use for gambling. I will get upset and react to that, but the reaction will not be as bad and hash as it will be when they steal from me.

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[Wiwo]

For me I believe that I should blame myself first before blaming the child that stole money to gamble with, reason being that for the fact that stealing is a bad thing and against the law, i will judge me first because it shows that I have failed in my parenting role to the child so the blames first fall on me and after then transferred to my child.

Gambling is not a bad thing but stealing to gamble with is bad, and also if the child is up to the age of gambling that means he is already an addicts since he can still to gamble with at that age.

Regardless wether he won the games or not, it still will not make any big difference for me and for sure, some time they may be lucky to have win the games, but that not still withstanding the fact about the child act being evil since stealing was involved.

[Dimitri94]

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

In good times everyone cheers but in bad times no one stands by. Even the mother would have been very happy if her son had won a jackpot. However, not everyone will be like that. But when someone gets a large amount, many fail to handle the greed. Gambling should not be done by stealing. Because his mother must have earned that money by hard work. Gambling with his money without telling him is not acceptable. On the other hand, a mother trying to recover that money by forcing her son is also not a suitable method. Because he knows very well that his son has no source of income. I think he should be discouraged from doing such things by convincing him as much as possible.

[Juse14]

If this... happened in my little family... To be honest, I would feel disappointed in my child, because so far I have never taught him to steal or take things that don't belong to him and lie to his parents. Moreover, he used his money to gamble.

And starting from this problem, this is a lesson for everyone and especially for me personally about how important education is in a family. and as parents we should always be able to take the time to provide education, advice and more attention to our children. Don't just do work, which never ends, make us forget that there are more important things we have to do, namely instilling kindness in our children. because it could be that children can run away to gamble and look for fun there, this is because they don't get more attention and affection from their parents. So they choose to look for new sensations that can provide pleasure.

[Westinhome]

No matter what the result or the game will be, stealing is bad, and any child who engages in that should be treated in accordance with the punishment they deserve.
 
I will punish the child and earn him/her not to engage in such again, and the kind of punishment and reaction from me will tell that I'm not happy and such should not repeat itself again. If you treat the person differently based on the gambling result, there is nothing that is going to stop him from doing so next time, even if he is going to lose the game.
 
I can even treat a child who uses the money I give him or her for personal use for gambling. I will get upset and react to that, but the reaction will not be as bad and hash as it will be when they steal from me.

The game results will be different,but the gambling industry will give you the jackpot one day.The gamblers should wait for the big win,he should accept all the small losses in their career.The losses doesn’t affect the gamblers at the initial stage,but the big win will change the life of the gamblers in real.The gamblers who get the loss in the game in the continuous way need to wait for the longer period,because the gamblers may do the gambling in the wrong strategy.It was important for the gamblers to get away from their strategy and build the new strategy in the gambling.The gamblers who play gambling with loan should play only with strategy.

[Apocollapse]

For me I believe that I should blame myself first before blaming the child that stole money to gamble with, reason being that for the fact that stealing is a bad thing and against the law, i will judge me first because it shows that I have failed in my parenting role to the child so the blames first fall on me and after then transferred to my child.

I understand what you meant, but the mistakes isn't always in our' sides. Some peple taught their kids to not gamble by explaining the disadvantages, but some people remain silent because they think the kids might be safer to not introduce them about gambling. Their curiosity is really high, most of them will try to discover by themselves when they heard from other people including their parents.

[pawanjain]

I would be really pissed off because the one thing I don't like is stealing. So if my son has stolen money then he is gonna get some nice lesson from me.
Then comes the gambling part, it depends on his age and how often he is gambling. If he can control his gambling habits then it's okay I believe.
But if he is stealing money for gambling then there's something very wrong. He must be taught a lesson, may be in a decent way but it's necessary.

[panjul07]

If I was in the mother's position, of course the first thing that may come to my mind is all about anger but of course it wont resolve the main issue.
As a parent, we should evaluate why such a thing can happen, evaluate ourselves as parent if there is something wrong in the way we teach and monitor our children.
Next we should have a great communication with our son, we do not need to blame him to much but we need a deep talk from heart to heart.
Let the money go but we should not let our children down into deeper problem.

[johnsaributua]

Asking for permission is a discipline that must be applied because it will be used to do everything at all ages and all needs. A person's financial condition can be weak, including teenagers who live with money that is limited by their parents every day, I don't blame their activities and needs because over time people have different needs for money, if you are used to it, of course people will get used to sharing stories and asking for loans well in very bad and urgent conditions though.

If you are not accustomed to it since childhood, of course, just to fulfill secondary needs, you can be reckless like that.

Speaking of gambling, especially by stealing it is not a solution. Of course, it will be pursued to return with a quick mind because with capital that is full of burdens. Even if it wins a lot of profit, I don't justify it and I can direct it to return and define it as bad behavior, even though it has to give a very sad illustration with defeat and long effects if it doesn't match expectations. It is better to play with your own money and refrain even if you have to deposit again, maybe in the future when you have free money.

[Wiwo]

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I understand what you meant, but the mistakes isn't always in our' sides. Some peple taught their kids to not gamble by explaining the disadvantages, but some people remain silent because they think the kids might be safer to not introduce them about gambling. Their curiosity is really high, most of them will try to discover by themselves when they heard from other people including their parents.

I agreed with that fact that kids are open to alot of external influences and if not well grounded they could easily get influenced by negative habits such as the stealing we saw in this case, so for us to be able to truly define the concept and characteristics that leads the son taking money parents to gamble with, so I may not blame the parents entirely for this.

But also we have to accept the fact that, hard it been the perants have taken the time to teach the son the danger of gambling and it addictions and how it effects our general well being, this is what would have protected the child outside since the lesson will form his mindset when he is introduced to such things outside.

[Queentoshi]

Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

I'll be broken on thinking that I have failed in my duty as a mother to raise my son with good habits. Maybe due to nonchalance, I have exposed them to environment that introduced them to this gambling habit or not followed up well with them to have known the time my son started to pick interest in gambling. A mother should always know what is happening in a child's life so they can know how to guide and correct them not to make mistakes and choices that they would regret later in life.

[Gheka]

If this... happened in my little family... To be honest, I would feel disappointed in my child, because so far I have never taught him to steal or take things that don't belong to him and lie to his parents. Moreover, he used his money to gamble.

And starting from this problem, this is a lesson for everyone and especially for me personally about how important education is in a family. and as parents we should always be able to take the time to provide education, advice and more attention to our children. Don't just do work, which never ends, make us forget that there are more important things we have to do, namely instilling kindness in our children. because it could be that children can run away to gamble and look for fun there, this is because they don't get more attention and affection from their parents. So they choose to look for new sensations that can provide pleasure.

Of course, it is always a disappointment when the member we always love responds to us with such condemnable behavior, many parents can get mad and send their children physical and mental pain so that this pain is imprinted on the children but like what you said, instead of creating such trauma, we should reconsider our love and communication, at least let the child explain and ask appropriate questions. Coldness and psychological trauma only make children more stubborn, learning to look at our children's world, we will do well our responsibilities as a father, be strict and not tolerate evil but don't show violence

[taufik123]

But the question is who introduced gambling so that the child is desperate to steal money and gamble.
When already committing theft, there is a possibility that the child has been frequent enough and becomes addicted to continue gambling.

The need for parental supervision of children so that this does not happen,
because those who are underage have an unstable mentality, and any decision-making does not think about anything else.

Providing early education about the impact of gambling that is not well controlled must be done,
so that they understand and understand that gambling can not always produce.
Because the losses caused will also have an effect on their mentality.

[Natsuu]

If i were the mom, I'd feel a mix of emotions. On one hand, I'd be relieved and grateful if my son had won, but on the other hand, I'd still be upset about him taking the money without asking. It's a tricky situation of being grateful of the son but also needing to address the issue of trust and responsibility. The character and choices matter beyond just the financial outcome. at the end of the day hes still my son. i wouldnt want him hurt

[Iroh]

Stealing is never right. How it’s taken and what you need the money for that led to you stealing is totally irrelevant. Of course any responsible mother would frown at her ward stealing and would try to kill that habit in her child.
Your question on if the mother would have remained angry if the kid had won a huge amount with the money he stole. A responsible parent should not fail to reprimand their kid even if that child had won a life changing amount with money that was stolen.
There is no justifying the act of stealing and if I were the parent, my kid would be well aware of my displeasure and is sure to learn a lesson that stealing someone else’s property is never acceptable.

[Yogee]

[...]Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

A stern warning for first stealing offense. I would beat the shit out of him for repeat offense. My mom used to do that every time I raised my voice against her or do something stupid. I understand that this method may not be applicable to some places like the West but it keeps you disciplined. Kids know how to manipulate your softness and use that to their advantage.

[jossiel]

Forget about the what if if the kid won a million with that amount. The value is important here that when they're still young, we should teach them valuable lesson that money or anything that doesn't belongs to them shouldn't be spent by them.

That's the important matter at this point so that kids won't be tolerated. And if you've got a way to punish your kids that they're going to learn the lesson, do it.

Because that's what you're going to make them remember that what they did is wrong.

[Samlucky O]

Am not against my son gambling if he's up to the age of been called an adult and he must have started living on his own before he can be gambling, not staying under my roof and be competing in gambling with me whereas he's not working. That's what am against and concerned with.

You said he should play gamble when his out of your house not while you are in the same roof with home. What if he is with you and still play gamble secretly? Because a child that have started gambling does not play in your present by out of your presence. Then In such situation what will you do?

[mamesso]

As a mother, I would be very angry with my son's actions, not because of his gambling, but his behavior in transferring about $15 from the account without my knowledge. Obviously, I cannot tolerate this action, because he has dared to take money without my knowledge and I consider that as stealing. I would rather he be honest and open with me than have to take the money without my knowledge.

I will not question the outcome, but I am very disappointed with his attitude of daring to steal money and it cannot be forgiven until he gets to replace all the money that has been spent. Parents have their own way of educating their children, asking them to return the money not because they don't love and care for them, but as a lesson that they have done the wrong thing.

[Dewi Aries]

Am not against my son gambling if he's up to the age of been called an adult and he must have started living on his own before he can be gambling, not staying under my roof and be competing in gambling with me whereas he's not working. That's what am against and concerned with.

You said he should play gamble when his out of your house not while you are in the same roof with home. What if he is with you and still play gamble secretly? Because a child that have started gambling does not play in your present by out of your presence. Then In such situation what will you do?

I understand that everyone has the freedom to choose whatever they want, and that includes parents who allow their children to gamble with some conditions such as the one you discussed about parents only allowing their children to gamble when they are outside the home and outside their parents' neighborhood. Honestly, I don't know why parents make rules like this, but my conclusion is that parents want to be respected by their children by implementing a rule that their children cannot gamble if they are in the neighborhood of their parents.

But on the other hand I think this rule seems to be very easy to be violated by the child, because as we know that someone who has entered into gambling activities usually finds it quite difficult to pass the time without getting involved in gambling, especially for someone who has entered the addiction phase, because over time when the child is in his parents' house it is very likely that they will experience such whispers in him that indirectly tempt to gamble, so it cannot be denied that in situations like this children may gamble while in the environment of their parents but without their knowledge.