The second point you brought up is false. After the split it will not be possible to spend your coins twice on the same chain. The chains will have effectively split creating two separate currencies, it does not make double spends possible that is just baseless fear mongering.
I never said you could spend "on the same chain" (please don't put words into my mouth - I am not doing so to you).
You would be able to spend your pre-fork coins on both chains so this is not fear mongering but simple *fact* (have you not understood how it works?).
So if such a hard-fork situation arises then no vendor would want to accept any BTC purchases (nor should they) until a clear majority has taken control.
If that control is not taken smoothly and quickly then you would expect chaos.