gambling and divorce

[bakasabo]

This is an interesting topic and an interesting study in the start post. A divorce rate of 40% for problem gamblers and 54% for pathological gamblers? At first glance, this seems plausible, but let's think about this. It turns out that in 60% of cases, problem gamblers do not get divorced, that is, most spouses tolerate their partners' gambling problems? And in the case of pathological gamblers, in 46% of cases, there is no divorce. And these are the cases that are most interesting. I can assume that these are families without children and where financial problems are a little exaggerated. Or these are situations where the pathological gambler is the spouse who at the same time earns the most.

Divorce rate is indeed high. I was always amazed that second half, who is not a gambler, always isnt aware that partner gamble, never notice that gambling hobby turns into addiction, rarely tries to help, believe that can change already a formed personality. People strangely think that marriage will change one persons habits and behavior, that has been formed for years. I will be always surprised if person divorces because of "tired" of something. Tired of second half always gambling. I always want to ask if you have done everything to prevent gambling addiction, and stress on "really have tried everything" to stop it? When such people are asked, their "everything" is always only "asked to stop".

[nara1892]

It's clear that gamblers with addictions inevitably experience financial problems. And when they have families, meaning they have many dependents, the family's financial situation will inevitably be disrupted. I've also heard of several cases of divorce due to excessive gambling by a husband who can no longer provide for the family's needs. This even happened to one of my friends. Furthermore, they often end up in debt.

So, I think it's best to tell your partner about your gambling activities. At least that way, you can brainstorm solutions to prevent gambling from destroying your family relationship.

Yes, that's most of the time true.

Most addictions actually cost money, so people that have these addictions will eventually run out of money.

The thing is that with gambling addiction, you can much faster lose all your money compared to other addictions.

Essentially, the economy is the line of defense in a family relationship, meaning it's something very important that must always be stable. No matter how difficult it is to find work, they must still have money to meet their family's needs. Meanwhile, gambling itself requires money, as you mentioned, and there's also a greater risk of losing money than winning, given the high house edge.

Therefore, I intend to stop gambling once I have a family. I understand that it may be quite difficult, but whether I like it or not, I must do it for the sake of my family.

[OgNasty]

I think you kind of hit the nail on the head with the issue not so much being the gambling itself as hiding it from your spouse. Obviously a marriage isn’t going to work if someone is keeping secrets about their bad behavior. Especially if it is damaging as wasting money. Gambling is fine. Lying is not.