Life with a Gambler - Solution!

[Finestream]

Solutions to this problem vary per person. It may or may not have the same effect as to the other but it never hurts to try. I think one of the most effective solutions is to invest on a new hobby (that does not relate or is a far different category to gambling). Once you’ve invested in that, you’ll be able to spend more time to that hobby and to yourself. Little you’d know, you no longer find yourself gambling.

It could be a helping tool too.Divert your time into something new like engaging into sports,arts or business that will surely make yourself engrossed with that.I know you will learn to love it as time goes by.But of course you also have to help yourself to get away from gambling if you really want to change and make a new and healthy lifestyle.

[BeGoods]

Solutions to this problem vary per person. It may or may not have the same effect as to the other but it never hurts to try. I think one of the most effective solutions is to invest on a new hobby (that does not relate or is a far different category to gambling). Once you’ve invested in that, you’ll be able to spend more time to that hobby and to yourself. Little you’d know, you no longer find yourself gambling.

I think the psychic of every addict is almost the same, they want to continue playing because they are already familiar with that activity and they think that they can get big profit from gambling, actually we can use the same method for all addicts but not everyone can come out because of the desire and intention to healing in each person is different, that's the difference. I agree with you maybe you can focus more on your hobby or what you like and spend time in it, until you forget about gambling

[Hiluxury Bitcoin]

Usually when a gambler gets to gamble a lot and start to lose all his money to gambling and if he has a family than there the problems start. I have never seen someone gamble away their life savings and not have a family meltdown, mostly ending up in divorce. Gambling is the sport of single people. You can't have a family and gamble recklessly, there is no way. You have to be careful, even if you want to gamble, just gamble the money you are willing to lose and can afford to lose.

As many gambler I have seen in my life have been disrespected even by their families. They cannot fulfill their needs because they lose all their money in gambling and have nothing left for their families. I hate gamblers therefore I have no gambler friend. If you continue friendship with gamblers you will also start gambling one day. Better to leave their society.

I don't know why gambling is portrayed negatively everywhere. There are people who made big fortunes from casinos. It's all about patience, control and mainly the ability to control our greed. Someone who gamble his/her life savings is an idiot anyway. Always play with what we can afford to lose. We are paying to watch movies, play games and for other entertainment purposes. So, see it as an entertainment platform. Have the mindset to accept your losses.

Right.Gambling may only become  positive and even profitable if a person involved knows how to handle enough his winnings and losses.Cause if not,better to get away from gambling now or else it will only cause damages in your own personal life in the latter part.

These things are like bookish ones. Nobody can control his mind when he is seeing people earning from gambling just for few bucks. They are investing in so short among and in return their luck companions them and results are outstanding. But later on, they don’t even know what has happened with that person who was earning? They are living a miserable life.

[KenChanYu]

Solutions to this problem vary per person. It may or may not have the same effect as to the other but it never hurts to try. I think one of the most effective solutions is to invest on a new hobby (that does not relate or is a far different category to gambling). Once you’ve invested in that, you’ll be able to spend more time to that hobby and to yourself. Little you’d know, you no longer find yourself gambling.

I think the psychic of every addict is almost the same, they want to continue playing because they are already familiar with that activity and they think that they can get big profit from gambling, actually we can use the same method for all addicts but not everyone can come out because of the desire and intention to healing in each person is different, that's the difference. I agree with you maybe you can focus more on your hobby or what you like and spend time in it, until you forget about gambling

The solutions can be so intense, but for furthermore developments to happen as a gambler we should learn how to move on in times of failures. One way of that is to overcome our bad habits and control the situations which leads us to addictions. Self control must be learned so that we will be able to withstand the current struggles, and if you wanted to get away with gambling always think about your family and future financial security.

[btcjocan]

Solutions to this problem vary per person. It may or may not have the same effect as to the other but it never hurts to try. I think one of the most effective solutions is to invest on a new hobby (that does not relate or is a far different category to gambling). Once you’ve invested in that, you’ll be able to spend more time to that hobby and to yourself. Little you’d know, you no longer find yourself gambling.

I think the psychic of every addict is almost the same, they want to continue playing because they are already familiar with that activity and they think that they can get big profit from gambling, actually we can use the same method for all addicts but not everyone can come out because of the desire and intention to healing in each person is different, that's the difference. I agree with you maybe you can focus more on your hobby or what you like and spend time in it, until you forget about gambling

The solutions can be so intense, but for furthermore developments to happen as a gambler we should learn how to move on in times of failures. One way of that is to overcome our bad habits and control the situations which leads us to addictions. Self control must be learned so that we will be able to withstand the current struggles, and if you wanted to get away with gambling always think about your family and future financial security.

How can we control ourselves when we're addicted with gambling for long period of time mate, I guess that's a worst case to handle as gambler.

With regards to the solutions, I think we need to be more accurate and don't ever be negative about the possibility that as gamblers it can be a long process to stay away from it. It took a lot of adjustments and self rehabilitation in order for an addicted person to avoid massive gambling activities.

[avikz]

Although it seems to you that there are no solutions, I assure you that your answer is within your reach. The answer to the question of what you should do cannot be given to you by your friends, families or even experts, but only by yourself.

What I can tell you is that you can not influence the will of your loved one to solve the problem if he/her ever thinks he has it. The behavior of the loved one can certainly indicate that he/her is a gambling-dependent person. Gambling addiction is sometimes referred to as - "hidden disease" because there are no obvious physical signs or symptoms such as drug dependence or alcohol dependence. Compulsive gamblers usually deny or alleviate the problem, and they do everything that is in their power to hide their problem.

The gambling addiction is the type of impulse control disorders and because of that, the compulsive gamblers cannot control gambling impulse, even when they know how bad and harmful they are. The gambling problem can burden relationships, hinder responsibility at home and at work, and lead to a financial disaster. Although gambling addiction can be cured, every treatment is the key readiness of a person to admit to having a problem and wanting help.

In most cases, the relationship is burdened to such an extent that it also affects the health of the non-gambler in a relationship, and ultimately determines the further course of life that does not go in the desired direction. Blackmailing the loved one to terminate the addiction will not lead to the desired effect, nor the "forced" treatment will. If a loved one is not aware of at the moment that he/her has a problem that needs to be resolved, none of the above solutions will result in improvement.

It is important that you realize what you want and how well you are willing to neglect your own needs, wishes and priorities until your loved one feels he/her has a problem.

I suggest an honest conversation with the loved one, without condemnation and blackmail, which will show you in what way is he/her looking at his/her own problem, and then comes your decision about the further course of the relationship: the willingness to fight with the uncertain end, or the decision to continue your life course in the other direction.



To all of you with the same problem, I wish a lot of luck and courage!



My questions are:

Do you have the same problem at home?

If you have this particular problem are you trying to solve it?

If you have solved it, can you share your "personal fight" flow and outcome here?

Thank you!

You have got good writing skill so keep using it. I just want to add my 2 satoshis here,

Please change the thread subject as "Life with a loosing Gambler - Solution!"

Because an winning Gambler's family/loved ones usually lives a way better life than anyone here combined!

The problem starts with loosing and excessive addiction and it is curable. Look at the below link to know more about possible cures,

https://www.gamblingtherapy.org/en

Hope this helps!

[Symphonized]

Solutions to this problem vary per person. It may or may not have the same effect as to the other but it never hurts to try. I think one of the most effective solutions is to invest on a new hobby (that does not relate or is a far different category to gambling). Once you’ve invested in that, you’ll be able to spend more time to that hobby and to yourself. Little you’d know, you no longer find yourself gambling.

I think the psychic of every addict is almost the same, they want to continue playing because they are already familiar with that activity and they think that they can get big profit from gambling, actually we can use the same method for all addicts but not everyone can come out because of the desire and intention to healing in each person is different, that's the difference. I agree with you maybe you can focus more on your hobby or what you like and spend time in it, until you forget about gambling

The solutions can be so intense, but for furthermore developments to happen as a gambler we should learn how to move on in times of failures. One way of that is to overcome our bad habits and control the situations which leads us to addictions. Self control must be learned so that we will be able to withstand the current struggles, and if you wanted to get away with gambling always think about your family and future financial security.

I've kinda feeling that you said what that was need to say.
Just pure self control will in fact provide such solution that you can determine / decide your future gambling style if quiting or not.

[AirFlame]

The moment when you put gambling before your family and friends, then you know you have a problem. I gamble for the fun

 and excitement, but I know where to draw the line. Unfortunately not everyone know where to draw the line and then

gambling become a problem. Some people will "ban" themselves from casinos to stop, but it is not possible with online

casinos. The best thing for these people is for them to acknowledge that they have a problem and to stop by themselves. 

Yes.Gambling problems or let's say gambling addiction can only be cured if you admit it by yourself.There are a lot of gamblers today who never acknowledge their problems and so they end up ruining their own lives even their own families.I suggest to gamble only with what you can afford to lose.Setting limitations for yourself might be a great help and of course self-discipline is the only tool to help yourself get out from that big problem you had.

It is very sad to see the families that are ruined by "irresponsible" gambling habits by their family heads and the saddest part of it is that they are unaware of the problem that they have and the root cause of it. Seeking professional advice could also help people with this kind of addiction. Acknowledging it right away will be very hard for them and they will be able to do it if they will be assisted by professional practices.

Addiction should always be addressed right away. It's like a little plant at first, not really taking up that much space. Every time you gamble, you're watering that plant. Until one day, that plan has become a tree. And the roots are a lot more deeper. And the trunk and branches of the tree are thicker than ever. Mental health is an issue that's been around for a long time. People think that gambling addiction is a phase and everyone has had it. Everyone did gambling in their lives, but not everyone got addicted to it. Up to now, addiction is still an issue that a lot of people are talking about, but not really fixing. Mental health is just as important as physical health, probably even more important. Funny because it was only recently when a law in my country was established about getting help with mental health.

As a gambler, you should realize that your life isn't just a life for yourself. Your life is also for your family and your friends. You might think that they aren't affected by your actions but they really really are deeply affected by it.

Addicted and immature gambler never think about it. They only know how to collect money for playing gambling, even in worst condition they will play gambling with their children’s school fees.  The never think about their family even do not think about his own life.

[Sukut]

The moment when you put gambling before your family and friends, then you know you have a problem. I gamble for the fun

 and excitement, but I know where to draw the line. Unfortunately not everyone know where to draw the line and then

gambling become a problem. Some people will "ban" themselves from casinos to stop, but it is not possible with online

casinos. The best thing for these people is for them to acknowledge that they have a problem and to stop by themselves. 

Yes.Gambling problems or let's say gambling addiction can only be cured if you admit it by yourself.There are a lot of gamblers today who never acknowledge their problems and so they end up ruining their own lives even their own families.I suggest to gamble only with what you can afford to lose.Setting limitations for yourself might be a great help and of course self-discipline is the only tool to help yourself get out from that big problem you had.

It is very sad to see the families that are ruined by "irresponsible" gambling habits by their family heads and the saddest part of it is that they are unaware of the problem that they have and the root cause of it. Seeking professional advice could also help people with this kind of addiction. Acknowledging it right away will be very hard for them and they will be able to do it if they will be assisted by professional practices.

Addiction should always be addressed right away. It's like a little plant at first, not really taking up that much space. Every time you gamble, you're watering that plant. Until one day, that plan has become a tree. And the roots are a lot more deeper. And the trunk and branches of the tree are thicker than ever. Mental health is an issue that's been around for a long time. People think that gambling addiction is a phase and everyone has had it. Everyone did gambling in their lives, but not everyone got addicted to it. Up to now, addiction is still an issue that a lot of people are talking about, but not really fixing. Mental health is just as important as physical health, probably even more important. Funny because it was only recently when a law in my country was established about getting help with mental health.

As a gambler, you should realize that your life isn't just a life for yourself. Your life is also for your family and your friends. You might think that they aren't affected by your actions but they really really are deeply affected by it.

Addicted and immature gambler never think about it. They only know how to collect money for playing gambling, even in worst condition they will play gambling with their children’s school fees.  The never think about their family even do not think about his own life.

It is really sad. Especially people who have children - family should control themselves more than others, because they are responsible for their family too.

[maydna]

It is really sad. Especially people who have children - family should control themselves more than others, because they are responsible for their family too.

people who often playing gambling should not risk all of their money because they need to take responsibility for their family and their life too. they don't have to always play gambling every day and they need to take care of their family and make sure that their family is safe. but the reality, many gamblers don't do this and they forget that they have family waiting for them to back home with safe.

[onrise]

The moment when you put gambling before your family and friends, then you know you have a problem. I gamble for the fun

 and excitement, but I know where to draw the line. Unfortunately not everyone know where to draw the line and then

gambling become a problem. Some people will "ban" themselves from casinos to stop, but it is not possible with online

casinos. The best thing for these people is for them to acknowledge that they have a problem and to stop by themselves. 

Yes.Gambling problems or let's say gambling addiction can only be cured if you admit it by yourself.There are a lot of gamblers today who never acknowledge their problems and so they end up ruining their own lives even their own families.I suggest to gamble only with what you can afford to lose.Setting limitations for yourself might be a great help and of course self-discipline is the only tool to help yourself get out from that big problem you had.

It is very sad to see the families that are ruined by "irresponsible" gambling habits by their family heads and the saddest part of it is that they are unaware of the problem that they have and the root cause of it. Seeking professional advice could also help people with this kind of addiction. Acknowledging it right away will be very hard for them and they will be able to do it if they will be assisted by professional practices.

Addiction should always be addressed right away. It's like a little plant at first, not really taking up that much space. Every time you gamble, you're watering that plant. Until one day, that plan has become a tree. And the roots are a lot more deeper. And the trunk and branches of the tree are thicker than ever. Mental health is an issue that's been around for a long time. People think that gambling addiction is a phase and everyone has had it. Everyone did gambling in their lives, but not everyone got addicted to it. Up to now, addiction is still an issue that a lot of people are talking about, but not really fixing. Mental health is just as important as physical health, probably even more important. Funny because it was only recently when a law in my country was established about getting help with mental health.

As a gambler, you should realize that your life isn't just a life for yourself. Your life is also for your family and your friends. You might think that they aren't affected by your actions but they really really are deeply affected by it.

Addicted and immature gambler never think about it. They only know how to collect money for playing gambling, even in worst condition they will play gambling with their children’s school fees.  The never think about their family even do not think about his own life.

It is really sad. Especially people who have children - family should control themselves more than others, because they are responsible for their family too.

This is the reason feel sad for this people who do not know their responsibility and in order just to win from gambling they waste their so much money and time in betting rather than same money could be used to upbring their children and spend quality time with their family.

[Wete]

In gambling we should only use our money, if we run out, we must go home. Don't use children's rationing, our wives to gamble because it must be very painful for them. If you want to gamble, use our personal money.

[Digital_Lord]

I don't think gambling should be called a addiction it's not something bad or horrible as it's always is portrayed. Not all our alike, not even our fingers are the same size, each one finds a different passion which keeps him sane so I would call it a passion, i believe each person is sane enough to decide for himself, and so I feel each one can make his own choice without being subject to humiliation.

Only people who do not have a future will consider gambling as an interesting thing. The fact that gambling is a bad thing and has no benefits. As people who want a much better future, we must try to leave the gambling game in the fastest possible time.

Indeed, for me, gambling is a worse way to earn a profit and to have fun as well because how will you suppose to be entertained if you are frustrated from losing isn't? And how you can say that is one of the ways to have income if you are always loosing? There's a low chance for you to win in this way, and if you won then I can say that you were lucky enough. But don't get used to it because every time you play the more you come to your worst scenario.

Gambling is really not a good way to earn money because no matter how many times you would win you will end up losing. It depends to the person if he/she enjoys gambling because there are still people who don't get frustrated in losing in gambling because they are already rich.

No matter the situation, you should never consider gambling as a good way to earn. Probably people tried gambling because they never know where to start. I'm talking about people who have not yet understand how to earn bitcoin etc. Probably the rich are the ones who really enjoy it but sadly, they are the ones who easily get addicted. Don't you think so too?

This is a delimit that we don’t want to leave this gambling thing. Most of the times when people think they must earn money and need some good earning source, instead of joining bitcoin world, they mostly prefer gambling. Why this is so? Because they are greedy. Their greed took over all their mind capabilities and assign it to go for such easy earning money source.

I have same point of view. Those people who choose gambling for making money are either too greedy in the way that they want to have big amounts in a blink of an eye or do not really want to work. Some gamblers realize the reality of this world after few bets but other spend whole lives in their illusion regarding gambling. Gambling can never be an income source due to its randomness.
Most people here share that they started gambling for no reason or for fun but still continuing it among many losing and frustrating moments. Life of gambler is turning due to improper decision making. If we fix that then we all gamblers may have prosperous life like most other people.

[Dread Pirate Roberts]

Problem gambling addiction its about hobby and behavior. dont let experience big loss coming first to stop gambling. learning from some mistake or thinking wise about managing financial will certainly be very helpful. and also gambling is indeed a challenge for people to want instant money. but the risk must also exist. more often think about factor loss compared to profit will definitely help to reduce this habit.

[Nanot]

Although it seems to you that there are no solutions, I assure you that your answer is within your reach. The answer to the question of what you should do cannot be given to you by your friends, families or even experts, but only by yourself.

What I can tell you is that you can not influence the will of your loved one to solve the problem if he/her ever thinks he has it. The behavior of the loved one can certainly indicate that he/her is a gambling-dependent person. Gambling addiction is sometimes referred to as - "hidden disease" because there are no obvious physical signs or symptoms such as drug dependence or alcohol dependence. Compulsive gamblers usually deny or alleviate the problem, and they do everything that is in their power to hide their problem.

The gambling addiction is the type of impulse control disorders and because of that, the compulsive gamblers cannot control gambling impulse, even when they know how bad and harmful they are. The gambling problem can burden relationships, hinder responsibility at home and at work, and lead to a financial disaster. Although gambling addiction can be cured, every treatment is the key readiness of a person to admit to having a problem and wanting help.

In most cases, the relationship is burdened to such an extent that it also affects the health of the non-gambler in a relationship, and ultimately determines the further course of life that does not go in the desired direction. Blackmailing the loved one to terminate the addiction will not lead to the desired effect, nor the "forced" treatment will. If a loved one is not aware of at the moment that he/her has a problem that needs to be resolved, none of the above solutions will result in improvement.

It is important that you realize what you want and how well you are willing to neglect your own needs, wishes and priorities until your loved one feels he/her has a problem.

I suggest an honest conversation with the loved one, without condemnation and blackmail, which will show you in what way is he/her looking at his/her own problem, and then comes your decision about the further course of the relationship: the willingness to fight with the uncertain end, or the decision to continue your life course in the other direction.



To all of you with the same problem, I wish a lot of luck and courage!



My questions are:

Do you have the same problem at home?

If you have this particular problem are you trying to solve it?

If you have solved it, can you share your "personal fight" flow and outcome here?

Thank you!

As for me i cant solved problems by means of me but by motivation that i can get and ideas to the others to solved my own problem.i believed that no man is an island but i still believed without everything you are nothing . Yu can solve it by you but you need to udertake  every thought and make it one so that you can solve it. Thingking others do to make it also for you even you dont asked them to helo you were thing of them.

[checkmatesir]

I don't think gambling should be called a addiction it's not something bad or horrible as it's always is portrayed. Not all our alike, not even our fingers are the same size, each one finds a different passion which keeps him sane so I would call it a passion, i believe each person is sane enough to decide for himself, and so I feel each one can make his own choice without being subject to humiliation.

Only people who do not have a future will consider gambling as an interesting thing. The fact that gambling is a bad thing and has no benefits. As people who want a much better future, we must try to leave the gambling game in the fastest possible time.

Indeed, for me, gambling is a worse way to earn a profit and to have fun as well because how will you suppose to be entertained if you are frustrated from losing isn't? And how you can say that is one of the ways to have income if you are always loosing? There's a low chance for you to win in this way, and if you won then I can say that you were lucky enough. But don't get used to it because every time you play the more you come to your worst scenario.

Gambling is really not a good way to earn money because no matter how many times you would win you will end up losing. It depends to the person if he/she enjoys gambling because there are still people who don't get frustrated in losing in gambling because they are already rich.

But to me I think that if rich people will continue playing gambling. He will also lose everything in gambling. I think that if a person is addicted to gambling then it is not so easy to sped some good time with them, it is always hard to spend some time with addicted people.

[onrise]

In gambling we should only use our money, if we run out, we must go home. Don't use children's rationing, our wives to gamble because it must be very painful for them. If you want to gamble, use our personal money.

If some one has reach to this level means their are some possibilities that already person is addicted to the gambling, have lost huge amount of money, playing to recover the money, does not enjoy gambling for fun but only play for winning and with thus stuff easily all the saving etc will be wiped out if does not take any immediate action of stopping it.

[deppil]

Solutions to this problem vary per person. It may or may not have the same effect as to the other but it never hurts to try. I think one of the most effective solutions is to invest on a new hobby (that does not relate or is a far different category to gambling). Once you’ve invested in that, you’ll be able to spend more time to that hobby and to yourself. Little you’d know, you no longer find yourself gambling.

Yeah the solution for some people is different because they have their own reasons for surviving on gambling and psychological differences also affect. but in many cases your solution is quite helpful. look for other profitable activities that do not have a high risk like gambling just spending your time on there. it made a lot of player got out of addiction in gambling

[FlightyPouch]

In gambling we should only use our money, if we run out, we must go home. Don't use children's rationing, our wives to gamble because it must be very painful for them. If you want to gamble, use our personal money.

That is a good suggestion but I will stick to what other people say to me, instead of gambling, why don't you invest your money on your children and family? It is something that made me realize that I am risking my money into gambling while my family has a great future ahead of them than my gambling. I'd rather risk my money into my family rather than use it on gambling.

[Caladonian]

In gambling we should only use our money, if we run out, we must go home. Don't use children's rationing, our wives to gamble because it must be very painful for them. If you want to gamble, use our personal money.

That is a good suggestion but I will stick to what other people say to me, instead of gambling, why don't you invest your money on your children and family? It is something that made me realize that I am risking my money into gambling while my family has a great future ahead of them than my gambling. I'd rather risk my money into my family rather than use it on gambling.

Good, thinking of your love ones happiness is far better than thinking of satisfying your lust for gambling, instead of wasting time and your money better to look forward, investing with anything that will allow your family to benefits at the end will be more enjoyable than continuing to play gambling., always look for more positive side of future outcome.