Have you been threaten to stop gambling

[BitcoinTurk]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Gambling is not addictive for me, but I am a regular gambler. For this reason, very few people around me know that I gamble, and generally I have never had a problem hiding my winnings as I have lost. In fact, I think hiding losses rather than winnings in gambling can be a serious problem because when someone addicted to gambling constantly hides their losses when they gamble, it is not very pleasant for that person. However, whether by gambling or by some other method. At the end of the day, each person's gain or loss is of interest to themself.
To empathize, especially if I make a big win or a big loss when I gamble, I would prefer to share it with people around me who know I gamble.

To first answer OP's question, there was a point in my life where my family was actually encouraging me to at least experience gambling.

As someone who grew up with a father who loves cockfighting, during my teenager years, I was exposed to gambling as my father would bring me to arenas of cockfighters. I would also watch him play blackjack and poker every holidays and that sparked my curiosity towards trying such act. My father would discourage us to try gambling but he was open to the idea of letting us experience it so we could decide on our own whether we want to continue or not.

To cut the story short, I tried it but I never actually won anything big. In fact, my losses were bigger than my winnings which prompted me to stop gambling.

We can say that it's a different story of your gambling life starts Although gambling is a bad habit according to the level of addiction and your family has tried to keep you away from it, unfortunately, when someone from your family plays, you are more curious and involuntarily try to try it too. In fact, to give an example from myself, I always lost more than I gained. But since I have never reached the level of addiction, gambling has always been a nice option that I can have fun with it. For this reason, I have never completely distanced myself from gambling, but I have not gambled in a way that creates continuity or addiction.

[FatFork]

In my own experience, I've found that keeping my partner informed about my gambling habits has helped to build trust and understanding between us. Even if the amounts being played with are small, it's important to keep your partner informed about your gambling, as well as other financial matters. This helps to avoid any misunderstandings or surprises down the line. Having a clear system of income and expenses is also a great way to ensure that everyone is on the same page. It helps to create a sense of accountability and responsibility for both partners, which can only be a good thing.

[piebeyb]

In my own experience, I've found that keeping my partner informed about my gambling habits has helped to build trust and understanding between us. Even if the amounts being played with are small, it's important to keep your partner informed about your gambling, as well as other financial matters. This helps to avoid any misunderstandings or surprises down the line. Having a clear system of income and expenses is also a great way to ensure that everyone is on the same page. It helps to create a sense of accountability and responsibility for both partners, which can only be a good thing.

Not many couples who want their partners to become gamblers, but if it is already known after marriage there is no problem for it, still building responsibility for maintaining marriage relations, after all being able to manage expenses and income is also quite good because it can maintain household financial flow as well. The point is to understand each other.

As long as not being a heavy addict there is no harm in giving trust to our partners to gamble as long as it is still in the stage of gambling with small money and looking for entertainment at home, rather than looking for entertainment out there and having an affair will be even more painful.

[KTChampions]

In my own experience, I've found that keeping my partner informed about my gambling habits has helped to build trust and understanding between us. Even if the amounts being played with are small, it's important to keep your partner informed about your gambling, as well as other financial matters. This helps to avoid any misunderstandings or surprises down the line. Having a clear system of income and expenses is also a great way to ensure that everyone is on the same page. It helps to create a sense of accountability and responsibility for both partners, which can only be a good thing.

I agree that being informed is very important because even if you have everything under control and you have never had a problem with gambling, your partner may have a negative experience associated with it. From himself or from his relatives, etc. Therefore, if he himself discovers that you are a gambler, while not telling him, he may perceive this extremely negatively.

[BitcoinPanther]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

My parent don't threatened me for playing in a gambling casino but they nagged me about the undesired consequences that may happen in the future if I got hooked or addicted on it.  My girlfriend has no say about it because she has no right to tell me on how I will spend my earnings, she only reminds me to keep it in control.

About your story, it is the right of the wife to know his husband's financial flows because the wife has the right and has 50% shares of the husbands property, money included.  So the husband is cheating his wife of the finances that should have been spend for the family, instead the husband spend it on gambling and never informed the wife of the losses and especially the winnings.  I support the decision of the wife because if the husband got addicted, it will ruin the fortune of the family so better to cut the relation if the husband does not listen to the wife's demand.  It is like letting the husband to choose between her and his gambling vices.  If the husband continue to gamble, it means the husband is choosing gambling over her and there is no need to continue the relationship.

[Mr.right85]

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

You did point out a few facts that puts the wife at right in her actions,
She didn't just jump at her husband to quit gambling out of suspicion, she was able to do her findings and establish her facts, find the husband to be making more loses than wins before issuing her threat for a divorce if the habit is continued.

It's both of them in the marriage and they both know what there challenges are in the marriage. For the wife to have foreseen what could affect there marriage and acted tye best way she could for a swift change, that's wise of her.

[coolcoinz]

In my own experience, I've found that keeping my partner informed about my gambling habits has helped to build trust and understanding between us. Even if the amounts being played with are small, it's important to keep your partner informed about your gambling, as well as other financial matters. This helps to avoid any misunderstandings or surprises down the line. Having a clear system of income and expenses is also a great way to ensure that everyone is on the same page. It helps to create a sense of accountability and responsibility for both partners, which can only be a good thing.

I agree with you here. It's best to be open and truthful about these things and they'll either accept it or not. If not, you'll know right away and will have to choose between your girlfriend and gambling.
Worst thing that can happen is you know she hates gambling, so you hide it from her, get married, then she finds out you've been doing it for years and threatens to divorce you, but you already have children whose life you'll destroy.

[slapper]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

My parent don't threatened me for playing in a gambling casino but they nagged me about the undesired consequences that may happen in the future if I got hooked or addicted on it.  My girlfriend has no say about it because she has no right to tell me on how I will spend my earnings, she only reminds me to keep it in control.

About your story, it is the right of the wife to know his husband's financial flows because the wife has the right and has 50% shares of the husbands property, money included.  So the husband is cheating his wife of the finances that should have been spend for the family, instead the husband spend it on gambling and never informed the wife of the losses and especially the winnings.  I support the decision of the wife because if the husband got addicted, it will ruin the fortune of the family so better to cut the relation if the husband does not listen to the wife's demand.  It is like letting the husband to choose between her and his gambling vices.  If the husband continue to gamble, it means the husband is choosing gambling over her and there is no need to continue the relationship.

Can a person truly gamble responsibly? The slippery slope of gambling addiction is a real concern, but can we balance that thrill with moderation? Is it akin to tightrope walking, requiring perfect balance and precision, or is it more like a game of Russian roulette?

On to the tale of the gambler husband. There's certainly a trust issue at play here. I mean, is it acceptable to withhold information about one's financial losses and wins from a partner? If we're sharing our lives together, shouldn't we be sharing our financial status too? Or, is it perfectly fine to keep some secrets in the name of personal independence?

The wife choosing to leave the relationship - dramatic, indeed! It's a bold step that invites several debates. However, consider this: What if the husband was a day-trader instead of a gambler? Both can lead to losses or profits, but would the wife's stance remain the same? Does the stigma attached to gambling influence our judgement?

[swogerino]

This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Well this is somewhat of a story which happens a lot when people get addicted but this looks suspiciously funny because the wife didn't care much about filing for divorce before she saw that he had lost a lot of money but above all because he didn't tell her his big wins before.

Well my wife knows that I gamble and we played these days Rabbit Garden from Pragmatic Play where we won quite some money and she was even calling me "my bunny"  both in the times where I was losing and both in the end where I withdrew quite some  decent amount of money,so what I want to say with this is that it all depends on the point of view.She also tells me to stop when I am near our predefined weekly bankroll for our gambling session.

[darewaller]

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I have never experienced this and because I can control myself enough when playing I understand how much I can spend and maybe it can go a little over the budget but it's still under control.

Going over the budget means that we lose control but good for you that you get back in track again. I hope you won't make the same mistakes because it's annoying. I never experienced to be threatened by my wife because she is a gambler too and even me, and I didn't scold her when there are times that she confess that she over-betted and lose more money than usual.

I know that he regretted it badly and she can take a couple of days of rest from gambling. I still have my parent with me but I never told them I am playing a gambling. Even if I do I think they wont get angry with me because it was my money that I use most of the times and I rarely ask money for them.

[bekti3]

But it would be really stupid if you abandoned your wife just for gambling, because regardless of what your wife said to leave her, even though it sounded quite harsh, it is proof that she still cares, and I don't think it should be wasted because regardless of what the choice to be with your wife is a really good thing but indeed if a friend of the OP doesn't care about that and only focuses on gambling it's certain he is a person who is seriously addicted luckily he still uses his common sense.

Totally stupid and doesnt make really sense if you would really be choosing gambling than with your wife but actually there are people who does have that extreme addiction would really be doing those
decisions which it isnt really something that a right minded person would really be able to do so. There are really fellas who would really be choosing up things which they do really seem that it makes them happy and make out those shit and nonsense kind of selection.On the time that you would really get caught on spending something on which your wife isnt really that able to know then of course they would really be having those common reactions.

If you cant afford on losing your wife then you would definitely quit up gambling but if you do then you would continue, but who would really be on their right minds on doing so?
You cant really just go with gambling and lose your wife, thats the stupidest thing to be done by a human being.

Luckily this friend of the OP still has some awareness because believe it or not there are a handful of people who can do that and indeed they are a bunch of idiots who choose gambling over their closest people but in this case it still really exists even though only a handful of people do do that but cases like this can still happen.
Quitting gambling is not as easy as turning your palm but this can still be done but of course this clearly takes time and support from all parties, especially the closest family.

[kawetsriyanto]

Not many couples who want their partners to become gamblers, but if it is already known after marriage there is no problem for it, still building responsibility for maintaining marriage relations, after all being able to manage expenses and income is also quite good because it can maintain household financial flow as well. The point is to understand each other.

Sure, no wife wants his husband to be a gambler, especially an addict. We can understand how the negative impacts if someone becomes an addict. So, every wife should be very careful when it is related to this matter.

I agree that a wife doesn't need to threaten his husband to leave the house, she must maintain the marriage relation. There are many ways to warn a husband seriously. In most households, it is the wife who manages the finances. So, a wife can limit the money to give to her husband or lower the amount of his money when she knows he is an active gambler. An active gambler will be impossible to stop immediately, he needs time to reduce the intensity of gambling. He won't stop it in a day, so a wife must be patient to wait for the process.

As long as not being a heavy addict there is no harm in giving trust to our partners to gamble as long as it is still in the stage of gambling with small money and looking for entertainment at home, rather than looking for entertainment out there and having an affair will be even more painful.

Yep. It won't be a serious problem if someone can gamble normally. But not each person can gamble wisely or in a smart way. That makes a wife always feels worried about his husband when she knows his husband gambles regularly.  

[molsewid]

Luckily this friend of the OP still has some awareness because believe it or not there are a handful of people who can do that and indeed they are a bunch of idiots who choose gambling over their closest people but in this case it still really exists even though only a handful of people do do that but cases like this can still happen.
Quitting gambling is not as easy as turning your palm but this can still be done but of course this clearly takes time and support from all parties, especially the closest family.

Yes it is, having that kind of circle will help you get through with it. Right circle will be there for you only if they still have the awareness and they are not addicted to gambling as well even they gamble . It is hard for a friend to understand if he did not know how to gamble or doesn't know the feeling to gamble and have fun with it.We can have always learn to be a right friend to a friend especially if we feel that they are slowly get addicted to it,we can help them as well as professional help needed.

[rahmad2nd]

In my own experience, I've found that keeping my partner informed about my gambling habits has helped to build trust and understanding between us. Even if the amounts being played with are small, it's important to keep your partner informed about your gambling, as well as other financial matters. This helps to avoid any misunderstandings or surprises down the line. Having a clear system of income and expenses is also a great way to ensure that everyone is on the same page. It helps to create a sense of accountability and responsibility for both partners, which can only be a good thing.

Not many couples who want their partners to become gamblers, but if it is already known after marriage there is no problem for it, still building responsibility for maintaining marriage relations, after all being able to manage expenses and income is also quite good because it can maintain household financial flow as well. The point is to understand each other.

As long as not being a heavy addict there is no harm in giving trust to our partners to gamble as long as it is still in the stage of gambling with small money and looking for entertainment at home, rather than looking for entertainment out there and having an affair will be even more painful.

Depending on the culture and how the level of understanding of our own partner. in China, gambling has become a culture and culture in their lives. both women and men, both like this one hobby. back to the discussion, I agree that not many couples want their partners to be gamblers. not infrequently, polemics come from this one hobby. In fact, this matter is neither easy nor difficult. In essence, mutual openness is needed between husband and wife. even then, must be built and supported by mutual trust.

Well, so the problem lies with us as husbands. at least, based on my experience. to build trust and a sense of responsibility is not as simple as we say. in essence, everything must be proven first. After that, trust was built from both sides. the point is, as the backbone of our family we must fulfill obligations that must be prioritized before involving hobbies. after everything is fulfilled, I can have fun with this one hobby. even then still accompanied by responsibility, because if not. problems will come, after we become gambling addicts.

[DoublerHunter]

Luckily this friend of the OP still has some awareness because believe it or not there are a handful of people who can do that and indeed they are a bunch of idiots who choose gambling over their closest people but in this case it still really exists even though only a handful of people do do that but cases like this can still happen.
Quitting gambling is not as easy as turning your palm but this can still be done but of course this clearly takes time and support from all parties, especially the closest family.

Yes it is, having that kind of circle will help you get through with it. Right circle will be there for you only if they still have the awareness and they are not addicted to gambling as well even they gamble . It is hard for a friend to understand if he did not know how to gamble or doesn't know the feeling to gamble and have fun with it.We can have always learn to be a right friend to a friend especially if we feel that they are slowly get addicted to it,we can help them as well as professional help needed.

^ Yeah, it really helped.
Friends who have a good understanding of gambling and its possible risks can offer valuable support and guidance. It is indeed challenging for someone who has not experienced gambling or does not comprehend the allure and excitement it can bring to fully understand how dangerous the situation is. Because for me, recognizing the signs of addiction and being proactive in helping a friend who may be developing a gambling problem is very risky. As friends, we can educate ourselves about responsible gambling practices and the potential risks associated with it. By doing so, we can prepare the situation with empathy and provide the right support to our friends.

[livingfree]

A real man will choose to go with his desires and that's to gamble...... Kidding aside. He did the right decision and chosen not to get eaten with his vice for being a gambler that don't even know when to share when he's got big winnings.

That's the mistake brother when you just soloed the money that you've got. If he just given his wife some bucks then he might even get a cup of tea or coffee every time he tells his wife that he'll go to gamble.

It's a sign of respect to your partner when you're allowing her/him to know what's up with you as of the moment.

[Mahanton]

Luckily this friend of the OP still has some awareness because believe it or not there are a handful of people who can do that and indeed they are a bunch of idiots who choose gambling over their closest people but in this case it still really exists even though only a handful of people do do that but cases like this can still happen.
Quitting gambling is not as easy as turning your palm but this can still be done but of course this clearly takes time and support from all parties, especially the closest family.

Yes it is, having that kind of circle will help you get through with it. Right circle will be there for you only if they still have the awareness and they are not addicted to gambling as well even they gamble . It is hard for a friend to understand if he did not know how to gamble or doesn't know the feeling to gamble and have fun with it.We can have always learn to be a right friend to a friend especially if we feel that they are slowly get addicted to it,we can help them as well as professional help needed.

^ Yeah, it really helped.
Friends who have a good understanding of gambling and its possible risks can offer valuable support and guidance. It is indeed challenging for someone who has not experienced gambling or does not comprehend the allure and excitement it can bring to fully understand how dangerous the situation is. Because for me, recognizing the signs of addiction and being proactive in helping a friend who may be developing a gambling problem is very risky. As friends, we can educate ourselves about responsible gambling practices and the potential risks associated with it. By doing so, we can prepare the situation with empathy and provide the right support to our friends.

But we know that there are people of this world doesnt have any friends or someone who are really just not getting used to have other relationship or connection with other people but rather focusing into their own
family and relatives and a few known ones but not totally that close on which they would really be helped out on the time that it would be needed. This is why it would really be that important that you should really be
wary in regarding on what are the actions that you should make and if you are engaged with gambling then always be thinking off about moderation and everything should be in control.

Once you do come into a point on which your family is already that been affected and your wife comes into a point which you would be needing to have some choices then for sure you would really be on a tough
situation on which you would really be finding yourself on needing to choose one. No one can afford on losing their wives just because you've been exchanging them by gambling.
You are out of your mind if you would tend to do so. 

[NicNacCoin]

I was a bit addicted to gambling since my childhood but under my mother's rule I often abstained from gambling. But nowadays with various online casinos and gambling sites, my parents can't stop me from gambling. But one thing is very important because I am very young now and have the ability to control myself. So I don't indulge myself in gambling but my wife makes me this bad in Many times the urge to break out of the habit. However, with my wife's encouragement, I devote very little time to online casinos and gambling. I now stay away from betting only on IPL cricket. But my wife won't let me catch more than one bet every day.

[Strongkored]

I was a bit addicted to gambling since my childhood but under my mother's rule I often abstained from gambling. But nowadays with various online casinos and gambling sites, my parents can't stop me from gambling. But one thing is very important because I am very young now and have the ability to control myself. So I don't indulge myself in gambling but my wife makes me this bad in Many times the urge to break out of the habit. However, with my wife's encouragement, I devote very little time to online casinos and gambling. I now stay away from betting only on IPL cricket. But my wife won't let me catch more than one bet every day.

Surely your wife has a reason for that and the most likely one is financial reasons, women always have more in-depth considerations about money than men because women feel the need to see their families happy and financially well, while gambling can often be financially damaging if done without control because they only gamble using existing money without thinking that the money is for important things.
But at least your partner still allows you to keep gambling even with very small limits and sometimes it might not be fun when there are several matches being carried out at the same time and you see that there is an opportunity to be able to get profit on several bets, not just one, but respect what your partner you are still much better because gambling should not be the main thing but fun and if you can profit you will be even happier.

[ethereumhunter]

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There are many cases, like you said, where the husband ignores the threats that come to him and only plays gambling because gambling cannot be separated from him. And after some time, the family was threatened with separation and finally, it really happened while the husband and wife often fought. Their children became a broken home. And their children, because they often see their parents fight, eventually become unstable and often make trouble outside the home. That is why a gambler must really pay attention so that he does not become addicted to gambling so that it does not cause serious problems for his family.

Because the biggest bad impact of a gambling addict is the family after that, then the social environment in which he lives.
Yes, it's a shame that there are so many broken families that really can't be repaired just because of the impact of a husband who became a gambling addict, especially as you said that a child affected by a broken home becomes out of control and often causes trouble outside home just to be able to vent what he felt on his family.
The head of the household should be able to think more clearly and defend his family, but after all, everyone's thoughts and perceptions are different so we can only take lessons and shake our heads when we hear of cases like this.

I just look at the events around me because so many families have been torn apart due to uncontrolled gambling. None of this should have happened and if the head of the household doesn't play gambling or leaves before it's too late, they might still have a chance to improve their lives.

These are all valuable lessons for us to learn and avoid so that our families are not adversely affected by gambling, especially if they become addicted. We have to think about our children's future and prepare everything for them even though they will still have to try as we do. At least we have helped them to be able to get a much better life than us.