What is your state on mind if your son stole your money to gamble?

[Marvelman]

Well to me the mistake has been done already by the son, to my opinion i will advise the mom to let it go and never allow her son to even know the access to her account, he shouldn’t have that opportunity and never you tell your son to find a way to pay the money when you know that it will be difficult for him and he don’t have any way, telling him to replace the money without caring on how he will get it, So the only thing is to take precautions and never give him that chance again. And don’t tell him to replace because you are making him to thief.

This is only a temporary solution, family members should not have the need to hide important things from each other, as you are supposed to trust your family since most of the time they are the only ones you can rely on when things are not going your way on your life, the fact a mom has to hide her money from her son as she fears it could be stolen is a massive warning signal, and if something is not done to help her son, sooner or later her money will be stolen again.

That is right. Hiding money from son because he might steal again is like fighting in wrong direction. I would say that this is not a solution but an act of adapt to situation. That is wrong.

Imo first step would be to talk about this situation with a kid. If this was the first act of stealing, he would understand that is bad. Second step would be to find out why exactly he wanted that «extra» money for. Was a one-time passion to gamble, addiction or there was something more in that story. Third step would be to load him with work, to work for that money he stole, to earn his own, to understand how hard it is to earn.

Yeah. Hiding the money might feel more secure in the immediate future, however you raise a fair point that it's no real solution.  Communicating with him definitely needs to happen.  Maybe explain why stealing is wrong, but also make an effort to understand the root of this behavior and  was this a one-time occurrence or indicative of something more profound? Maybe he just wanted something he couldn't afford, or perhaps there's a larger matter at hand.

Making him work for the money he stole is a good idea. It will teach the value of hard work and with any luck deter him from taking shortcuts again.

[betswift]

My friends aunty called him on the call while we were conversing today, and  she was complaining about how her son has withdrawn #20,000 approximately $15 from her account through mobile transfer to play bet and he lost it all.
She complained bitterly and pitifully because she struggled to safe such amount of money.

Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

That’s a tough situation. If I were in the mom’s shoes, my initial reaction would likely be a mix of disappointment and concern, not just because of the lost money, but more so because of what the action represents. It’s not just about gambling with money that isn’t his, it’s about the breach of trust and the potential for a harmful pattern of behavior developing.

The fact that the money was saved up through hard work adds another layer of disappointment. It’s not just the amount that matters but the effort behind it.

Now, if the son had won a significant amount, it might temporarily mask the underlying issue, but it wouldn’t change the core problem: the act of stealing and gambling without consent. Winning might bring temporary joy or relief, but it doesn’t address the breach of trust or the risk-taking behavior.

In any case, my focus would be on addressing the behavior and its implications, emphasizing the value of honesty and the dangers of gambling, especially when it leads to taking risks with someone else’s resources. It would be essential to guide the child towards understanding the consequences of their actions and working together to find a solution to make amends, not just financially but also in rebuilding trust.

[shivansps]

My friends aunty called him on the call while we were conversing today, and  she was complaining about how her son has withdrawn #20,000 approximately $15 from her account through mobile transfer to play bet and he lost it all.
She complained bitterly and pitifully because she struggled to safe such amount of money.

Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

Good question. I think that the aunt is to some extent to blame for the fact that he gained access to her account. You must prevent other people from using your account. In this case it was only $15, although in some countries it can be a larger amount.
On the other hand, it’s good that through such a relatively small amount the whole family found out that he has a gambling problem. After all, he crossed a very significant line - he stole money, this is very bad.
Returning to your question, I will say that even if he won the money, the fact of theft would still have taken place. Secondly, in this case, it may be even better that now he has lost money and his bet did not work out. If he had won, he would probably have had big problems later and would have lost all his winnings.

[ethereumhunter]

Even the kids is already growing we should take the time to monitor them, same with your statement, it's still part of our responsibilities to make sure that they are engaging to the right kind of environment, especially those who accompanying them, people that sorrounds them influence the most, so not just the family but more on their friends who have interactions with them, the types of influence that they bringing to our kids is very important to monitor.

We as parents must supervise our children, especially when they are grows up because they will meets many new friends that have the same old as them. Maybe their experience are different so that can influence them that doesn't have much knowledge to avoids that. We must take care our children from the bad things that can happens so we must teach our children better than before.

When we can monitor and supervise our children and we can getting close to them, they will not trying to do something that can  makes their lives harm. They will trying to take care of them better from any bad influences that comes to them. They will remember our suggestions because we as their parents always tells them to be careful when they are in the outside or with their friends.

[Blitzboy]

Showing consistent care and attention to our children. Taking preventive measures should always lean on our heads, always imposed strict rules that will keep away our children from our accounts and most importantly, provide for their basic needs and wants because they alone will make them to be desperate to bad company. Stealing is weigh out of the picture and it shouldn't be something to consider in the system.

I think that children should not be subjected to such strict regimes that they become more disobedient. Only it should not be thought that they will not be in danger if they are under strict rule. As the saying goes, if the rope is too tight, the rope will break. So they should be brought up with proper education from childhood so that they can understand themselves well. They should understand that stealing is always a bad thing when they ask for the things they need. Stealing only gambling is a bad deed, but buying and eating something without stealing is also a bad deed.

You know those overly strict, "do as I say" methods? Total disaster waiting to happen. Kids arent robots, they've got fire in them. We need to channel that, not crush it. The best path, and believe me, its the best, is giving them the knowledge to make the right calls themselves. Sure, stealing is obviously wrong, everyone knows that. But its not about just yelling "dont steal!" We need to build that strong inner compass where they want to earn things, where they take pride in their own hard work. Its about lighting that fire for doing amazing things in the world, not just avoiding the bad stuff. Thats the kind of future I want for all kids.

[Mr. Magkaisa]

My friends aunty called him on the call while we were conversing today, and  she was complaining about how her son has withdrawn #20,000 approximately $15 from her account through mobile transfer to play bet and he lost it all.
She complained bitterly and pitifully because she struggled to safe such amount of money.

Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

          -    Stealing is wrongdoing, we know; even if we say that he won a lot of money gambling, it can't be right. There is nothing wrong if you win at gambling; what is wrong is that gambling caused the gambler to do bad things.

That's why winning at gambling can't cover up the reason why he gambled. He will not be able to gamble if the gambler did not steal money or if the child stole money from the parents.
See the logic?

[EluguHcman]

Most of this bad characters are learn by children from school, and social media, since most of them have access to mobile phone, they can easily take their phone and gamble without even parents knowing about it. Some of them will even clear their browsing history, they won’t leave any traces that will make you even think they are gambling, you won’t blame parents always.

The child is not associated with gaming at home so obviously it would either be the media just as you may suggest, or society associates that influenced him.

It is really so pathetic in as much no one knows how long this guy has been gambling, how indebt can it be assured that he has not been cutting cost from errands for the family just to save some funds stake all those while? Who knows if he has been meeting up with his academic walls when living the house supposed to be in school without having himself before the gambling centre?
Such nature of occurance is indeed worrisome to the parents or such a child's guidance.

[DiMarxist]

Why must he withdraw the money without the permission of the person and that is stealing and it is punishable offence so we don't have to discuss this here but straight to the main point the boy should be send to the correctional center (prison or cell) to correct his misbehaviour. I didn't blame the mother because of she allowed that boy to go and pay the money the she opened the way for him to do more damage in the society and this where most mother suffering from their own children. Op please forget about if the boy would have won big amount. Steal is stealing and it most be punished.
Do you think if the boy was brought to the law enforcement agencies and because he won big, he would not be punished? We have seen them many and they were punished. Yes what the mother did was good. As a grown up person he should go and look for a bricklayer job and do and come pay back his stealing money.

[bakasabo]

Why must he withdraw the money without the permission of the person and that is stealing and it is punishable offence so we don't have to discuss this here but straight to the main point the boy should be send to the correctional center (prison or cell) to correct his misbehaviour. I didn't blame the mother because of she allowed that boy to go and pay the money the she opened the way for him to do more damage in the society and this where most mother suffering from their own children. Op please forget about if the boy would have won big amount. Steal is stealing and it most be punished.
Do you think if the boy was brought to the law enforcement agencies and because he won big, he would not be punished? We have seen them many and they were punished. Yes what the mother did was good. As a grown up person he should go and look for a bricklayer job and do and come pay back his stealing money.

Imo sending him to prison because he stole money from his relative is not correct. What he will learn from that? That he will get in jail for stealing? There might be other side of such a life lesson - people in prison might teach him how not to get caught next time. So it will end with not learning a life lesson, but experiencing in stealing.

Punishing with labor is perfect for me. Not only he repays what he has stolen with, he also learns how it is hard to earn, and will learn that working is a source money. So next time he will need money (for gambling or not), instead of stealing he would work to earn them.

[hedgeh0g]

If such a situation happened to me, then I, as a responsible parent, would prepare for the worst and imagine that my son would develop an addiction. I would not think that he would realize everything and would not play, but that he would start stealing money not only from me, but also from other people or close relatives. If this situation is left without intervention, it could land him in prison. I don’t want to think about it, but the first thing I will do is not give the slightest opportunity for him to steal my money again, and I will also tell others not to leave their money unattended. Of course, it will be difficult for me to admit this, but this must be done so that the situation does not get out of control. Of course, I’ll have a conversation with him and tell him that you can’t do this, maybe I’ll even show a documentary about these games and where they can lead. So that he understands the other side of this business, and not just a pretty picture.

[South Park]

My friends aunty called him on the call while we were conversing today, and  she was complaining about how her son has withdrawn #20,000 approximately $15 from her account through mobile transfer to play bet and he lost it all.
She complained bitterly and pitifully because she struggled to safe such amount of money.

Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

Good question. I think that the aunt is to some extent to blame for the fact that he gained access to her account. You must prevent other people from using your account. In this case it was only $15, although in some countries it can be a larger amount.
On the other hand, it’s good that through such a relatively small amount the whole family found out that he has a gambling problem. After all, he crossed a very significant line - he stole money, this is very bad.
Returning to your question, I will say that even if he won the money, the fact of theft would still have taken place. Secondly, in this case, it may be even better that now he has lost money and his bet did not work out. If he had won, he would probably have had big problems later and would have lost all his winnings.

If we were talking about a stranger stealing that money from her I would agree with you, because we must do what we can to protect our money, however it was her own son who did this, meaning that a person she trusted, broke that trust by stealing from her own mother, and while the amount was small, what can be more low than stealing from your own mother? So I would not blame her at all for this situation as it is clear that it is the son that is at fault here.

[JMBitcointernational]

My friends aunty called him on the call while we were conversing today, and  she was complaining about how her son has withdrawn #20,000 approximately $15 from her account through mobile transfer to play bet and he lost it all.
She complained bitterly and pitifully because she struggled to safe such amount of money.

Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

Ordinarily I will feel very disappointed And betrayed especially when I don’t gamble in their presence .first of all stealing money To gamble shows that he has become an addict And he or she is gradual turning To a serious addict.Any child that steals money To gamble has been influenced negatively By his age brackets And it is quite certain that he is keeping bad company of addictive Gamblers .
In addition seeing any of my child steal from me To gamble ,it shows that I have failed as a father  not To raise the child well or that I have actually failed To plan his future well for him . I might not feel very bad that he stole My own money To gamble But a day will come when he will search for My money And he will not see it To steal And he might be tempted to steal from different Person And this might gradual turn him To a criminal If not propeely taken Care of .however no reasonablle father will be happy seeing his child steal money from him To gamble .

[AnonBitCoiner]

If we were talking about a stranger stealing that money from her I would agree with you, because we must do what we can to protect our money, however it was her own son who did this, meaning that a person she trusted, broke that trust by stealing from her own mother, and while the amount was small, what can be more low than stealing from your own mother? So I would not blame her at all for this situation as it is clear that it is the son that is at fault here.

There are many ways to stop strangers from stealing your money and treat him harshly for his act but no one  can do this with his own son. A person will just tolerate if his own son start to steal his money but will not do anything harsh with his son.

It is important to be noted that a gambler always force his mother to help him in getting money but he never ask about it from his father because a father can understand that his harsh words can change his son so he will not talk him sweetly but mother on the other hand will wish that his son never see difficulties in life so she will surely help him in bad activities too. But there are only few mothers who change her behaviour for making her son a better person in a society.

[bakasabo]

If we were talking about a stranger stealing that money from her I would agree with you, because we must do what we can to protect our money, however it was her own son who did this, meaning that a person she trusted, broke that trust by stealing from her own mother, and while the amount was small, what can be more low than stealing from your own mother? So I would not blame her at all for this situation as it is clear that it is the son that is at fault here.

My vision is different. The only one to blame here are those who raised and educated that kid. If he was taught properly about what crime is and how to get money at his age, I think he would not acted like that. Not saying that kid is completely innocent, but there were reasons why he did this. It is not like he learned how to steal himself. Someone showed, told, explained, or lack of explanation what is good or bad had lead to such outcome as stealing from family.

[GigaBit]

My friends aunty called him on the call while we were conversing today, and  she was complaining about how her son has withdrawn #20,000 approximately $15 from her account through mobile transfer to play bet and he lost it all.
She complained bitterly and pitifully because she struggled to safe such amount of money.

Now, the mum is calling on everyone she could to intervene, discipline the child and force him to provide the money in any means he can without the concern of how he could refund the money.

Question: would she be so disheartened and mad as this if the son had won the bet on a multi million price?
Dear fellows, let's assume you are the mom, what would be your state of mind on this context?

Good question. I think that the aunt is to some extent to blame for the fact that he gained access to her account. You must prevent other people from using your account. In this case it was only $15, although in some countries it can be a larger amount.
On the other hand, it’s good that through such a relatively small amount the whole family found out that he has a gambling problem. After all, he crossed a very significant line - he stole money, this is very bad.
Returning to your question, I will say that even if he won the money, the fact of theft would still have taken place. Secondly, in this case, it may be even better that now he has lost money and his bet did not work out. If he had won, he would probably have had big problems later and would have lost all his winnings.

It can be called a pre-warning for that woman. Because she found out that her son had done such a thing, now she must first try how to keep her wealth more secure. she will change his account PIN and password as soon as possible. Although she is worried about his son's gambling incident, she will be more cautious about how to deal with such situation by bringing it under control. Therefore, as a family manager, mother and father must take care of their children with enough responsibility. There is no alternative to being aware of where her child is doing and with whom she is missing. Many of the gamblers who are addicted steal money from their parents and manage their gambling if a parent does not find out about this at the right time then they will suffer a lot.

[madnessteat]

If we were talking about a stranger stealing that money from her I would agree with you, because we must do what we can to protect our money, however it was her own son who did this, meaning that a person she trusted, broke that trust by stealing from her own mother, and while the amount was small, what can be more low than stealing from your own mother? So I would not blame her at all for this situation as it is clear that it is the son that is at fault here.

My vision is different. The only one to blame here are those who raised and educated that kid. If he was taught properly about what crime is and how to get money at his age, I think he would not acted like that. Not saying that kid is completely innocent, but there were reasons why he did this. It is not like he learned how to steal himself. Someone showed, told, explained, or lack of explanation what is good or bad had lead to such outcome as stealing from family.

Many children steal money from their parents, and here it is not the parents' upbringing, but their social circle. I believe that most likely someone pushed him to this deed, and he by virtue of his naivety only followed the advice. The child in any case is guilty of taking someone else's money without asking and if you do not punish him immediately it may turn into more serious consequences in the future. If the parents are to blame, they are only to blame for not controlling the child's social circle, which in principle is quite difficult to do before the emergence of such situations, as well as for not noticing the theft in time and not stopping the child before he spent the money.

[Blitzboy]

If such a situation happened to me, then I, as a responsible parent, would prepare for the worst and imagine that my son would develop an addiction. I would not think that he would realize everything and would not play, but that he would start stealing money not only from me, but also from other people or close relatives. If this situation is left without intervention, it could land him in prison. I don’t want to think about it, but the first thing I will do is not give the slightest opportunity for him to steal my money again, and I will also tell others not to leave their money unattended. Of course, it will be difficult for me to admit this, but this must be done so that the situation does not get out of control. Of course, I’ll have a conversation with him and tell him that you can’t do this, maybe I’ll even show a documentary about these games and where they can lead. So that he understands the other side of this business, and not just a pretty picture.

When we see our kids headed down a dangerous path like addiction, we've gotta act, and act decisively. No time for wishy-washy stuff. Addiction is a serious problem, and it needs serious solutions. First thing, protect yourself and your family. That means securing money, talking openly with everyone who's involved. This isnt overreacting, its smart parenting, the best kind.

Next, we need to understand whats driving this behavior. Knowledge is our biggest weapon here. Sit down with your son, have a real heart-to-heart. Show him the hard consequences - documentaries, facts, real-life stuff. This isnt about punishment, its about showing him the path he's on, giving him the choice to build a better future. He needs to understand there's accountability in life, and those choices, they matter more than anything. Tough conversations, but sometimes, the toughest love is the best love.

[LUCKMCFLY]

If we were talking about a stranger stealing that money from her I would agree with you, because we must do what we can to protect our money, however it was her own son who did this, meaning that a person she trusted, broke that trust by stealing from her own mother, and while the amount was small, what can be more low than stealing from your own mother? So I would not blame her at all for this situation as it is clear that it is the son that is at fault here.

This is very simple, if a child goes off the Rails like that you have to give him some discipline, there is no other way, a person cannot do that to his own Mother , there he has to take things and tie his pants and educate him, because at that moment he won't. did it to his own mother, and later more children will have the audacity to do it to another person and that Becomes a problem that is almost very difficult to solve, because sometimes they are Raised with that way of thinking and doing things so much that You can put him in a reformatory for minors, that is something that can happen, of course it is something that is not desired but if it is not corrected in time these things can happen like that, and that is a Shame.

[Oasisman]

If we were talking about a stranger stealing that money from her I would agree with you, because we must do what we can to protect our money, however it was her own son who did this, meaning that a person she trusted, broke that trust by stealing from her own mother, and while the amount was small, what can be more low than stealing from your own mother? So I would not blame her at all for this situation as it is clear that it is the son that is at fault here.

My vision is different. The only one to blame here are those who raised and educated that kid. If he was taught properly about what crime is and how to get money at his age, I think he would not acted like that. Not saying that kid is completely innocent, but there were reasons why he did this. It is not like he learned how to steal himself. Someone showed, told, explained, or lack of explanation what is good or bad had lead to such outcome as stealing from family.

Why is there a need to blame? We don't actually put a blame on someone if the child grow up the way they are right now. I mean the parents and the educators have done their part for sure. Now, as the child grew up, he would learn a lot of different things, bad and good from his friends, acquaintances and classmates. It is inevitable not to expose children to what kind of world we are living for, and we are not always there to guide and support them in every step they make, because we also have responsibilities from our businesses and jobs to keep our family financially healthy.
Now, if your kid gambled and non of from your family is a fan of gambling, then he has learned it outside. Now, again we will not going to assume that the parents have not done anything for their child to get rid of gambling totally. The kid's decision and mindset is out of our control. Sometimes, children are too stubborn or to secretive for you to learn that they are actually pursuing bad things in their early lives, because again, we are not there to guide them every step of the way.   

[Swordsoffreedom]

If we were talking about a stranger stealing that money from her I would agree with you, because we must do what we can to protect our money, however it was her own son who did this, meaning that a person she trusted, broke that trust by stealing from her own mother, and while the amount was small, what can be more low than stealing from your own mother? So I would not blame her at all for this situation as it is clear that it is the son that is at fault here.

My vision is different. The only one to blame here are those who raised and educated that kid. If he was taught properly about what crime is and how to get money at his age, I think he would not acted like that. Not saying that kid is completely innocent, but there were reasons why he did this. It is not like he learned how to steal himself. Someone showed, told, explained, or lack of explanation what is good or bad had lead to such outcome as stealing from family.

Many children steal money from their parents, and here it is not the parents' upbringing, but their social circle. I believe that most likely someone pushed him to this deed, and he by virtue of his naivety only followed the advice. The child in any case is guilty of taking someone else's money without asking and if you do not punish him immediately it may turn into more serious consequences in the future. If the parents are to blame, they are only to blame for not controlling the child's social circle, which in principle is quite difficult to do before the emergence of such situations, as well as for not noticing the theft in time and not stopping the child before he spent the money.

I agree with you that many children steal money to gamble. I have also seen many youths involved in various misdemeanors to raise money for gambling. They steal and rob to raise gambling and drug money. Also due to gambling they have become addicted to various drugs. This is why gambling should always be played carefully. No gambling for children and young people. Because they cannot control themselves. They get addicted to it very easily. Parents should hide these things from children. Children who steal gambling money are more likely to have been introduced to gambling by family or relatives.

If a survivor or youth becomes addicted to gambling, it is their family members who should first educate them about the harmful aspects of gambling. And gambling is never for the under-aged. Hopefully with proper education and support from the family, the child or youth can keep themselves away from gambling.