should i tell my wife when i win or just keep it quiet?

[Sanitough]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

[Oshosondy]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Just gamble responsibly is what that is very important. If you are using little amount of money to gamble, your wife will not tell you that you are wasting money on gambling while losing.

If you have been telling her about it before, no need to stop as you see her as a friend that you can always talk with. There are something I can hide from my wife but gambling is not one of them.

[Koadharber]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results?  

Just gamble responsibly is what that is very important. If you are using little amount of money to gamble, your wife will not tell you that you are wasting money on gambling while losing.

If you have been telling her about it before, no need to stop as you see her as a friend that you can always talk with. There are something I can hide from my wife but gambling is not one of them.

Being honest with your partner about gambling depends on the level of trust and understanding you both share if your gambling is small harmless and within limits then sharing wins or losses shouldn’t be a problem it even helps create transparency and avoids suspicion because hiding anything money related can quickly turn into conflict later on.

but if gambling tends to cause arguments or stress in your relationship then maybe it’s better to keep it to yourself especially when the amount is small and doesn’t affect the household finances not every detail needs to be shared as long as it doesn’t create problems for both of you. The key is moderation once gambling starts affecting your financial balance or emotional peace that’s when transparency becomes necessary your partner deserves to know if it’s turning into something serious in the end it’s not really about winning or losing it’s about trust responsibility and making sure gambling stays a form of entertainment not a reason for tension at home.

[stadus]

It’s normal for a wife, especially if she’s not a gambler. If you want to keep her happy while you gamble, just don’t tell her about the losses. Keep it to yourself, cry it out if you have to, but no need to bring that stress to her. But if you hit a big win, that’s the part she deserves to know, she’ll love hearing that, especially if you buy her something she likes as a gift.

That’s just part of having a healthy marriage, some things are better kept quiet if you know they won’t make her happy.

[Karl_3000]

but if gambling tends to cause arguments or stress in your relationship then maybe it’s better to keep it to yourself especially when the amount is small and doesn’t affect the household finances not every detail needs to be shared as long as it doesn’t create problems for both of you.

Men should not forget their responsibilities as a husband, they should take care of their family and they should make sure they are the breadwinner. This will keep the wife mouth shot as she will respect the husband. Women did not just react to gambling, there are something also going on that the women is using to have arguments with the husband.

[tsaroz]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I don't. The last time she found that I gambled and lost a large sum of money, she made me promise not to gamble again. I was not going to let her know either but missing a large amount of savings was very visible. It's better to keep my wins a secret not only cause I promised her not to gamble again but also to use that as emergency fund in case I go down the spiral path again. It's not a good idea to talk gambling with wives.
I was one of those husband who shared everything with my wife, all my accounts, salaries and what not but with years passed, I have realized that it would have been better if I kept most of my financial activities opaque, just giving the slight idea of my salary range but nothing else.

[Mpamaegbu]

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

That attitude there tells you all you should know. However, in case you didn't get the obvious; let me spell it out – don't tell her whenever you gamble. Whether you win or lose, don't let her know. No one likes to be blamed when they lose money. It destroys the psych. It's bad enough that you lose, then she comes nagging about your loss to make it worse. She's not supportive of your gambling habit. She's only interested in your wins. To avoid friction in the home you've to quit telling her. However, make sure you provide for the family and don't get addicted. That's what should matter.

[Majestic-milf]

 Lolz the thing is she is always supportive when you win but when you don't, she doesn't want to hear so why not treat everyday like you lost because the truth is I won't want a partner who's only interested in my winnings and not the loss because the fact is, there's already the pain of losing money when you lost, the last thing you need is someone reminding you of your failure and making a big deal out of it.
Situations like this often tends to push one to keep betting even after a loss so they can at least get a positive comment from the partner.

[Ronsbit]

Since she knows that you gamble, there is no point in hiding it from her; she has to know the good and the ugly as well, because she is your friend and confidant whom you share everything with, so why hide it from her?
I understand that women can be very emotional and reactive sometimes, but sharing every moment with them is worth it, as long as they are very much supportive of you and your aspirations. It would be nice if you were open and transparent to her by letting her know you had won your bet, so she could have that trust in you, because if you don't, and she finds out in the future, she would begin to doubt you, even if you are telling her the truth and she might remind you of this event and how you kept it a secrete away from her. You should tell her and forget about it. After all, she is your wife.

[Lanatsa]

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

That attitude there tells you all you should know. However, in case you didn't get the obvious; let me spell it out – don't tell her whenever you gamble. Whether you win or lose, don't let her know. No one likes to be blamed when they lose money. It destroys the psych. It's bad enough that you lose, then she comes nagging about your loss to make it worse. She's not supportive of your gambling habit. She's only interested in your wins. To avoid friction in the home you've to quit telling her. However, make sure you provide for the family and don't get addicted. That's what should matter.

It’s always hard when someone you care about doesn’t really understand the emotional side of gambling losses sometimes they only see the money part and forget that you already feel bad for losing when your partner reacts that way it just adds more pressure and guilt.

In this case it’s better to keep gambling conversations limited unless it directly affects both of you financially if your gambling is within your own budget and not harming household needs then there’s no reason to share every win or loss doing so might only cause unnecessary arguments. On the other hand if you ever feel your gambling is starting to interfere with your relationship or your responsibilities it might be worth stepping back a bit and re-evaluating your limits but for peace of mind it’s okay to keep your results private and just focus on staying disciplined and balanced with how much you play.

[Versatile_choice]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

The thing is that gender can be so dramatic at times you should know them by now, and truly this attitude is very common among them. wife used to be very sweet when thier partner is wining but they don't always take it likely when there partner is losing but for me I will advice you don't make a big deal out of it no matter how she reacts she's still your wife so you have to keep telling her but don't be naive when she Said that you should keep trying more luck you know woman easily get carried away by little things and I would say that maybe she have no idea how gambling works so this is more reason why you don't need to pay attention to whatever thing she said.

[Sanitough]

Being honest with your partner about gambling depends on the level of trust and understanding you both share if your gambling is small harmless and within limits then sharing wins or losses shouldn’t be a problem it even helps create transparency and avoids suspicion because hiding anything money related can quickly turn into conflict later on.

I’m actually honest with my partner about my gambling, and I’ve tried telling her the results, win or lose. But it just doesn’t feel right when I tell her about the losses. When I lose, I’m already sad, then she starts saying things I really don’t want to hear instead of comforting me. So I decided it’s better not to tell her anymore. It just gives me a bit more peace of mind.

[Davidvictorson]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

You have see her reaction when you win and you have seen her reaction when you lose. You should try seeing her reaction when you don't tell her and decide which one of the "lesser devils" you would settle for. Her reaction may be completing different or the same.
My partner knows the reality about gambling and we accept it. Although, I must confess that they have been my voice of reasoning when I am tempted to veer off-course from our initial plan.

[Byebyebtc]

If you have to keep quiet when you loose then you also have to keep it quiet when you win as well, because if you keep on telling her you will she will be expecting more from you even when you loose, but the best thing to do is to be quite let her think you have stopped, normally she has already told you to stop the time you told her you lost money, so you can just be quite about the whole situation, don't risk too much so your losses will not affect you physical appearance.

[salad daging]

Why don't you just tell your wife...

When I win you are very sweet to me and supportive.
When I lose you nag and tell me to stop.

Haha don't take your wife's word for it, she's usually like that. Lol

Because I know gambling is bad in the eyes of my wife, I always keep the win/loss in gambling a secret, whatever the result is, it is my responsibility and my wife must not know.
That's what I do to my partner.

[liasbaa]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I do not inform anyone in my family about my gambling. Not everyone can handle the shock of winning or losing, even if you are not a very experienced gambler. When you inform your family members about this, they will become a hindrance to you and you will not be able to concentrate on gambling. Personally I never inform my wife about my salary because as you increase the family's income the demand will also increase with time. That is why I think that the decision regarding the financial matters of the family should be made solely by the one who earns the income and manages the expenses.

[danherbias07]

Tell her. Make her happy.

The losing part is what you should not tell. That's what I do. It's to avoid fights, and so no one will be stressed. But whenever you tell your winnings, make it just a part of the money. Keep some for you so that she cannot tell if you lost again because you are using money that came from the winnings. 

That's what I do, and we are still peaceful at home. Actually, she is happy whenever I tell her about how much I won, and then I send it directly to her digital cash. If I badly need some money, I will just borrow from her, and she won't even mind.

[Justbillywitt]

You know how women are with money, they think that gambling is all about winning. When you win you are such a sweetheart but the moment you start losing they will blame you. This thing is common with women and it's not just you dealing with it. Just ignore her and do your thing especially on the days you lose. You can only tell her on the days you win since she makes you happy on winning days, at least she will treat you well in the other room 😁😁 that's how we do it over here.

[arwin100]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Expect that to happen especially if your wife is the one budgeting all finances in your family. Since for sure she will provably get angry especially if you tell it to her that you lose your money.

No wife would provably get happy when you lose on gambling. Also expect that they get happy when you are winning since that sign of relief that you still have money.

But what's really best is to continue to became more transparent to your wife and tell you are still gambling. Don't hide this and this will create lots of trouble in your family. Also gamble only you can afford to lose and if your earning is not enough to cover your basic expenses much better quit and just focus on your family.

[Gozie51]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I have not been in such situation before but that is what you will still expect when you lose big. Again she will not tell you that you are wasting money if your losses are very small compare to your winning rate. Women are very calculative. She might have judged how many losses and winning the few days and then do the plus and minus in it on how much you have lost or won before she will say that. Therefore, what you will do is reduce how the amount you use to gamble so that if you lose, it won't matter alot to her. You don't expect her to clap for you when you lose money especially when the home need money and you probably use money for the home keep to gamble with promise of winning. No, she won't be happy buddy.