should i tell my wife when i win or just keep it quiet?

[bounceback]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Because from the beginning of your gambling you have been open with your partner, so if you try to keep it a secret now, it will actually cause a more serious argument because basically a wife's instinct is very strong, they can know if we hide something from them, especially if they have already realized that our habit is gambling, then there is no point in keeping it a secret from them anymore, almost all of their wives tend to be more sensitive when it comes to finances, so what your wife did, I think it is a normal thing because basically we men will often be blamed by our wives even though sometimes we do good things for them.

[Yablee0]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results?  

For me I don't think sharing my gambling activities with my partner is really necessary because that we only bring more problem and misunderstanding in the house. Women are merely moved by good moments and easy times but becomes something else in tough times, Instead of craving for pleasantries from my spouse or whoever I will better keep it low to my self and stake what I can afford losing to avoid future regrets.

[tottong]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

We have a much more interesting story, and it probably boils down to the premise of "I'll accept it if you gamble, but I won't forgive you if you cheat/having an affair." This is a common story we often hear from women.
For me, it's better to keep quiet about winning or losing a bet because there's no benefit in telling my wife. It's actually very dangerous to tell someone when they gamble excessively because they'll complain and keep saying they've wasted money on gambling.
Some people may be used to sharing stories about their gambling involvement, but not all partners may be so accepting, and sometimes it's better to just not tell anything.

[capokmerah]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

From your story, I can see that you and your wife have been open from the start, both in winning and losing.
That's actually a very sweet situation in a marriage, even though there are situations you don't want to experience when you lose! What I admire about this incident is that you are a responsible person. I don't think it needs to be covered up any longer.
But, if I may suggest, be wise when you win! That's a situation that can change the situation when you lose later.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Lol 😂😂
My wife never knew I gamble until one day while she was asking me for money after I encountered some serious loss that left me broke, I told her I had no money with me at that moment, and then told her how desperate I was to get some money and that drive me to gambling with the little cash I had with me and unfortunately, I lost it, she blew hot and start blaming me for wasting money, she said she know that isn't my first time of gambling and losing money, that I've been gambling before and that each time i complain of not having money, its because I've wasted the money on gambling..

I learnt my lesson and ever since that incident, I never told her anything about gambling again, at a point, my neighbour won some money from a local casino and shared the joy with us, that night, she came to me and asked how far with my gambling, I told her straight up that I've stopped gambling since that last time, that it was my first and last, she was like, but I can still be doing it small small, that if I don't know how to, I could meet our neighbour to teach me, I told her I wasn't interested and that is it..

As a man, not every thing must your wife know about you, most women have this habit of rejoicing and taking glory when things are going well with their man, but when things go wrong, they immediately turn to put every blame on the man.

[XOOMBOX]

Your case is common and difficult one, which shows that your wife is only supportive when you win money because she is happy, and when you lose money because she thinks that money is wasted. Although keeping your results private prevents immediate fights, it may hurt trust, and therefore sharing less and making clear rules is best choice. Calm talk should be made to agree upon separate play money fund which will not touch family money, agree that gambling is only hobby and only tell her total money that you win as nice gift, which would get her out of fear of losing money and still allow you to play your hobby.

In a relationship it is not only about winning and losing but also about each other's mental comfort because if a wife feels uncomfortable when you lose it mainly comes from the fear of uncertainty and keeping your lose secret can avoid trouble for the time being but it can create distance inside. So in my opinion it is better to have a clear understanding between you and your wife by setting some specific limits and rules and even if you don't tell her the whole story. If you have a separate gaming budget then she will understand that the family's money is not being touched and you can also enjoy your hobby without worry. If you occasionally give her the winning money as a small gift or surprise then she will take it positively and then I think both transparency and boundaries will be fine.

[TypoTonic]

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

Have you tried getting a new wife instead? I'm just kidding! If your wife says that you are gambling too much, then she's probably right.

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

She already knows that you are gambling anyway, so it doesn't make sense to hide the results from her. I think her reaction is pretty normal, people just tend to take losses worse compared to wins. She's probably just concerned that it might affect your family's budget. What you can do is try to communicate with her clearly, and set boundaries when it comes to your gambling. If you stay within a certain limit, it might give your wife some assurance and stop her from over reacting.

[viljy]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

It is strange to ask such questions to other people. We don't know what your relationship is or the level of trust between you. In general, of course, not everything needs to be told. In your situation, it might make sense to talk only about the wins, and keep silent about the losses. If she ever figures out that it's weird not to lose and asks about it, then you'll answer, "No. Because I'm good at it. You said it yourself." What else can I recommend here? If your wife reacts so violently, of course, no one wants to be plunged into pessimism after a loss and still listen to accusations.

[maydna]

Your case is common and difficult one, which shows that your wife is only supportive when you win money because she is happy, and when you lose money because she thinks that money is wasted. Although keeping your results private prevents immediate fights, it may hurt trust, and therefore sharing less and making clear rules is best choice. Calm talk should be made to agree upon separate play money fund which will not touch family money, agree that gambling is only hobby and only tell her total money that you win as nice gift, which would get her out of fear of losing money and still allow you to play your hobby.

That will be good because communication can help him solve the problem. He can tell his wife that he is not spending too much money and separate the money from the other needs. He will discipline himself not to use the other money to gamble but to stick to the allocated gambling fund.

Perhaps it is difficult to convince his wife but he should try so his wife can understand that he is not trying to make money from gambling only for fun. If he loses, that is not a problem but if he wins, he can give the money to his wife.

Honesty and communication can prevent fights between him and his wife. He can playing gambling without thinking about what if he loses. He can ask his wife to watch him while gambling and remind him if he is almost breaking his rules.

[martinex]

That will be good because communication can help him solve the problem. He can tell his wife that he is not spending too much money and separate the money from the other needs. He will discipline himself not to use the other money to gamble but to stick to the allocated gambling fund.

Perhaps it is difficult to convince his wife but he should try so his wife can understand that he is not trying to make money from gambling only for fun. If he loses, that is not a problem but if he wins, he can give the money to his wife.

Honesty and communication can prevent fights between him and his wife. He can playing gambling without thinking about what if he loses. He can ask his wife to watch him while gambling and remind him if he is almost breaking his rules.

Wise advice, and his wife at home also appreciates it when we're honest about our monthly expenses and where they're going. But I personally see it this way: before this, my monthly salary for household expenses would be fully utilized, but I'll find other safe and hassle-free ways to have fun.

Honestly, everyone here, more or less, benefits from winning. The money will come. Even when we tell our spouses, though sometimes they're indifferent, most of the time, they're happy to receive the extra cash, something they don't want to know or hear about when we lose. That's just what we often keep secret.

[Anayochukwu]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Since you have already noticed that she love to hear about your winnings that is very simple for you because you have already know her weak point. So you don't need to worry yourself too much after losses, just keep it to yourself and wait for the day that you would get another win that is how to deal with such people, or better still you keep quiet and do your things coldedly, after all she can not stop you from gambling.

[Ishicryptic]

The type of wife you marry depends on whether it is wise to tell her about your gambling wins and losses, if she's a nagging type there is no need to light gas in a fire. I know that women like success story so it's fine if you tell her about your winnings so far she's aware that you gamble but if when you lose and she doesn't take it well there is no need to worry her about the loses. Succeeding in marriage means applying wisdom, if you understand your spouse and know that she doesn't take loses and sad news well the best thing is to avoid telling her. If you must tell her you should be ready for the backlash.

[Jody.Drummer]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Nobody likes losing, especially in gambling. Your wife nagging you for losing proves she's unhappy when you lose, and conversely, she's happy when you hear about your success with a parlay bet. Perhaps you could only tell her when you win, and keep quiet when you lose. So, don't even tell your wife about your bet before placing a bet, so even if you lose, no one will know. Also, try not to gamble too much, as it could be devastating. Doing it regularly is highly recommended.

[Africolo]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Being honest and telling your wife when you win or loose is not a bad thing, it shows some level of trust and understand both of you share as couples but most importantly, you have to bet responsibly at all times. Women will always appreciate a Man that have money that's why whenever you win, you see so much Joy and happiness in her unlike when you loose and she blames you for gambling too much.

Seeing a woman that supports you in gambling is rare, they are hard to see so you having a wife that supports you in that aspect is a blessing. For you to avoid such reactions from your wife when you loose don't show her your looses. You have to apply a high level of wisdom while dealing with women because they are too emotional in nature and little things get to them easily so since you have observed and seen that she doesn't want to hear about looses avoid showing her and only show her your winnings.

[Peanutswar]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

With that kind of situation that the mood relies with your wins, and if you want to keep playing if I were that I keep manage my gambling acitivity or else shut my mouth telling whats happening. Well if you are kind of person who dont want to play thats the time you make secrets now, but if you are transparent to your wife and she knew your activity possible she will get suspicious at the same time reason why make it more responsibly because its the both of you with that money on the other mindset you can use that money to buy necessity with your daily needs.

[Accardo]

But let’s not dive too deep into that, that’s a different topic. We’re talking about winnings here, and in the end it’s our call how we handle it. Every wife has a different personality, and we’re the ones who know them best. So we act in a way that respects them as our better half.

Other people can't be controlled completely, the spouse decides what to feel over the conversation of the husband, she feels happy when he wins and sad over any loss of money. That's normal, who wishes to be happy over losing money excepts the fun gamblers. The wife isn't one either. What's best in regards to respect is to swallow the losses and claim like everything is right. This may work, yet, it's also expected to affect the gambling husband, if he loves sharing gaming activities with the wife, win or lose.

The gamer is better off with doing what they can control, and not bother so much about the reactions of the wife over a loss. It's absolutely normal. They should normalize celebrating when they win, and argue over Losing.

[Cryptmuster]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

If in a family the husband earns the money and is the main source of income, it is expected that the wife will encourage everything that brings money, and react negatively to anything that takes money away. I think in your case you should not talk about every win or loss. If you really want to share your gambling results with your wife, you can talk about your monthly results, if of course there is something to show. And if most of the months are losing ones, then stop sharing this with your wife if you can't handle criticism.)

[Juicyhome]

If in a family the husband earns the money and is the main source of income, it is expected that the wife will encourage everything that brings money, and react negatively to anything that takes money away. I think in your case you should not talk about every win or loss. If you really want to share your gambling results with your wife, you can talk about your monthly results, if of course there is something to show. And if most of the months are losing ones, then stop sharing this with your wife if you can't handle criticism.)

That's why it's necessary to know your partner, dating is a must before marriage,so you two can share everything to each other,to know if you can tolerate each other.  There is nothing to hide from your wife she should know if you're a gambler, and if she has no issues about gambling,then it's cool to share your win or lose to her, but if she's doesn't like gambling it's better you keep her out of your gambling business, never gamble in her presence, hide it entirely from her.

Women are emotional being and sharing your lost with her will traumatized her, you better keep her out of your gambling gist, so that tomorrow if things goes bad she won't tell people it's because of gambling.  This gender can use anything to give excuses when they don't want you anymore. Keep your family out of gambling that's my stake on this matter.

[bisdak40]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I can really relate to this scenario—it’s just so funny how they only seem to understand us when we win. But when we lose, suddenly it’s all our fault, and they’ll say so many things that can make us furious, haha.

As for the question of whether we should tell our wives if we win or lose, I believe we should always be transparent. No surprises—because surprises often lead to trust issues. If we’re not consistent, they might doubt us when we share something important that needs their opinion. In fact, this honesty could even be our motivation to win, not just for ourselves, but to impress our wives too.

[Zigabel]

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

It is always sweet and pleasing until there is a breaking point, then the patience of some or even many will be tested. women usually do have this kind of reactions to issues that concerns money, they even may be expecting a constant flow of the money without expecting a break at anytime. For someone like her who isn't a gambler, it will be difficult for her to understand that loosing can sometimes be part of the game and that is when she encouraged you to continue at a time because she felt you are good at it so she expects no loss seeing that you are good at it, maybe you should educate her some more about gambling so she will not have to blame you and make you feel like the cause of your losses.

Personally i will have a conversation with here where i will enlist all that can come with gambling, but what can go wrong and when it is right how it can feel and if i see its some thing she is okay with then i will always mention it to her as that will also help stay in check with my gambling habit but if otherwise, i will rather keep it to me so as to allow peace reign.