The economic dimension of marriage

[Fiasem20]

Yes, it is normal now. People need money to live, so I think it is normal to observe whether the life partner has the ability to manage it. However, some people have high demands, who like to live a luxurious life, they prefer to have that kind of life partner, while there are some people who are happy with little and do not put much financial pressure on their life partner. They are satisfied with the amount they earn. And such a life partner is really a matter of luck. Only if both can adapt to each other, life is beautiful.

Anyone who likes a life of luxury should be able to afford it themselves and not put the financial pressure on their partner. That's my own logic, and everyone should also be able to not use luck to get a partner but at least use those years and months of courtship to study their partner and see if they are truly who they want to spend the rest of their life with or someone else, because it’s not just as calm as you make it sound. Both genders – some of them are just liabilities, both the assets which the spouse is able to gather before meeting them – some can turn into something usefully while there are those who are good at wasting/squandering.

The most important thing is that both partners should be financially independent,I attended a seminar where a man raised a debate that where was it written that only the men should provide for the family?one thing most people don’t understand about marriage is that every couple has their own definition of marriage and in most cases marriage can be defined by culture just like in most cultures married women are not allowed to work,because they believe that the husband will provide everything they desire financially so they don’t stress themselves,so in this scenario culture has already defined the marriage.But if your culture doesn’t practice such then it’s encouraged both couples are financially independent.

[püsür]

Love is the fundamental thing that starts a marriage but not enough to keep it is not sustainable In the long run, the economic aspect should also be considered as well. It doesn't matter whether you are a man or woman there's a need for you to create value, have something doing that gives you money so you won't be a liability to your partner. Marriage isn't something that one person benefits from while the other person does nothing, if the efforts made isn't collective it is going to affect the family, this is why you should be selective about this before you get married.

I agree with the view that love is the foundation, but other factors are also needed for a successful marriage. Love is a very important thing and one of the things that brings people the greatest happiness; in my opinion, there can be no good marriage without it. However, life is becoming increasingly difficult these days, and it is impossible to live without taking financial considerations into account—they are even more important than they used to be. A long time ago, or in the 1950s (we could say up until the 2000s), a man could support his family on his own, whilst a woman could stay at home and look after the house and children. This is becoming increasingly difficult nowadays. Some things that used to be unimportant have become very expensive and have gained much greater significance. Things that used to be affordable are no longer so. That is why the financial aspect of marriage is becoming increasingly important, and the financial contributions of both partners are becoming more essential with each passing day. There are still those who can live comfortably on a single income, but generally speaking, the need for a dual-income household is on the rise. This, too, highlights the financial aspect of marriage.

[Cossyblack]

Love don't pay the bills, getting married or being in a relationship simply because of infatuations isn't going to take the family anywhere. The problem is that a lot of people take decisions only based on the present and not the future, if what you look at in a partner is physical features then that's a lack of foresight. The most important thing is from financial relevance from both partners, don't get me wrong you aren't getting married because of the money your partner can give you but what the both of you can build together. This is the reason why it's important to get married to someone that understands the value of hardwork, love cannot sustain a marriage.

I actually grab one or two things from your post but what i don't agree is the part I bolded. Love is the bedrock of any Union,it is what keeps a husband and wife together. sincerely, a marriage where there is no love doesn't last long as they will always be misunderstanding and lies. The money might be there but when the love isn't there,you will feel like you are a prisoner in your own house and that's why even if the spouse are rich, they will be cheating on eachother with people they love. When they are tired of pretending, they will filed for a divorce to be with the person that they love. Money may be important in marriage and i agree but love is everything because it's what Keeps a family together,strong and going.

[ejikeme24]

don't get me wrong you aren't getting married because of the money your partner can give you but what the both of you can build together. This is the reason why it's important to get married to someone that understands the value of hardwork, love cannot sustain a marriage.

This is true, but  nowadays people don't longer go with this theory. Even though some men are still using it but most women tend to disagree with that. Imagine seeing your friend getting married to someone that is very rich, having know that you will also want to get married to someone who is wealthy, so that's how life is now . Nowadays you hardly see a Lady getting married to someone that can't put food on the table or someone who is struggling to survive, instead they will want to go for those that have already build everything. Even though they are not that rich  but so long as they can provide their needs then they are cool with it.

[Bright0515]

First of all before you start thinking about the capacity of the person you want to get married you must first weigh yourself, ask yourself questions like, I'm a financially ready to settle down?  If the answer is no then there's totally nothing to panic about, you just have to start thinking of ways that you can build yourself first, marriage can wait, the most important thing is making sure you are financially secure.

[Captor3971]

I hear stories of people marrying solely because of love. People get married without considering the financial strength or capability of their partners. But these days, people are beginning to consider the financial status of their partners before marrying them. The global financial crisis has caused inflation, and the price of goods and services is getting higher every day. People are seeking means to overcome financial hardship. Except for those who are very rich, but others are seeking support from partners.

Currently, people want to get spouses who can contribute to the family financially. I am not saying it is wrong to marry solely because of love, but people are also considering the financial capacity of a person before they fall in love. Truthfully, I don't know what I would have done without my wife. Her financial and moral support has been what has kept our family afloat. I loved her, but her financial discipline, handwork and creativity made me love her more.

As I said before, I am not saying loving unconditionally is wrong or no longer exists. But I am saying the people are also considering the economic dimension of marriage before commitment.

Should the economic dimension be considered before choosing a partner?

In addition to what you've said.Sometimes people just love because of beauty not not knowing there partner very well there own is just they have the must beautiful wive .
Actually,people's are now suddenly  changing in the sense that if you don't have supportive wife it's totally messed.

[Chilwell]

First of all before you start thinking about the capacity of the person you want to get married you must first weigh yourself, ask yourself questions like, I'm a financially ready to settle down?  If the answer is no then there's totally nothing to panic about, you just have to start thinking of ways that you can build yourself first, marriage can wait, the most important thing is making sure you are financially secure.

This is a very good idea for someone who really want to settle for a very long time, putting plants in place is always very important most especially when it comes to marriage, in marriage there is nothing like NO once you are at the head of the family, daily spending has become a normal routine for a married person, because even though you are not interested in somethings, your wife will be interested and it is your own responsibility to take good care of her.

Financial status is very important when it comes to marriage, even in Islam finance is very important because the responsibility does not have anything unless you die, and even that you must make sure your plan ahead for your family to avoid too much suffering after you have gone.

[yixichloro2xx]

First of all before you start thinking about the capacity of the person you want to get married you must first weigh yourself, ask yourself questions like, I'm a financially ready to settle down?  If the answer is no then there's totally nothing to panic about, you just have to start thinking of ways that you can build yourself first, marriage can wait, the most important thing is making sure you are financially secure.

My advice to people getting married is that they should be financial and mentally prepared. Look at the economic impact Marriage has done in Nigeria for example whereby people get married without money yet they give birth to many children, whom they can't take care off in terms of educations and feeding. Which is one of the reason why poverty rate is freaking off the charts in here. Currently, money is one the basic things that keep marriage together apart from love. I like the type of marriage where both the husband and wife are financially okay, because there might be a time where one of them are going through financial problems, so it's up to the other one to support.

At times being financially ready is not only about having a good source of income, instead its knowing how to manage. Issue can arise from both couples if one them have a bad spending habits. Before marriage couple should come to together and  be opened about their income, debts, financial goals and responsibilities. From there they make decisions of building a back up funds/ emergency funds and other savings. You mustn't have big amount money before you can marry, the important thing there is just to have some level of stability.

[trendcoin]

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[Jaycoinz]

I've seen alot of opinions on this topic, I just want to chip in, it all depends on the concept or one's understanding of love, to some loving someone entails them staying at home looking beautiful whilst the other takes care of the financial needs as long as the partner takes care of the other necessities, while to some [me personally] a string independent woman who can take care of her financial needs and also reduce the burden on me financially. It all depends.

As for this current whining on inflation, it has always been a constant occurrence, go back 60 years, the adult and everybody alike still complained about inflation and other challenges and it didn't stop them from finding love and it won't stop us that are still finding

[Sulegzy39]

What I would say to those planning to wed is to be both mentally and financially ready. Look on the financial effect. Wedding has occurred in the nation of Nigeria, for instance, where individuals marry without money but have many kids who they are unable to care for in the sense of schooling and nourishment. Which is one of the reasons why the poverty rate is so high here. Aside from love, income is now one of the most important factors in keeping marriages intact. I enjoy the type of marriage where all spouses are economically okay, since there may be times when one of us is going though financial troubles, thus it's up to the other one to back up.

Being financially prepared does not always mean having a steady source of earnings; it might also mean understanding how to handle your money. If one of the couples has poor financial behaviours, it can cause problems for both. Before marriage, the couple should discuss their earnings, debts, financial objectives, and obligations. They then decide whether to construct a backup fund, an emergency fund, or other reserves. You do not need a lot of money to marry; what matters most is that you have a certain degree of security.

[Abiky]

I've seen alot of opinions on this topic, I just want to chip in, it all depends on the concept or one's understanding of love, to some loving someone entails them staying at home looking beautiful whilst the other takes care of the financial needs as long as the partner takes care of the other necessities, while to some [me personally] a string independent woman who can take care of her financial needs and also reduce the burden on me financially. It all depends.

As for this current whining on inflation, it has always been a constant occurrence, go back 60 years, the adult and everybody alike still complained about inflation and other challenges and it didn't stop them from finding love and it won't stop us that are still finding

Love these days is conditional. If you have money, you will instantly find love. If you don't, you will end up heartbroken. That's the way it works. With the rising cost of living, one would think twice before getting married. The wedding is one of the most expensive events you can imagine. And if you have children after getting married, the costs would be even higher. It's why most people have opted to stay single. Some people stay single but live with their pets.

Of course. It doesn't have to be that bad. If both sides work (the man and woman), the cost of living would be greatly reduced. Marriage isn't for everyone, anyways. You decide depending on your situation.