Why Do Marriages End in Divorce?

[Cossyblack]

Now It more like the society values such things and in fact some marriages are suffering for this act of madness to me big time….back then in the past for must people and cultures or even communities support it, and that literally the main reason to marry early. Which is stated fully that No sex before marriage was the rule, so marriage at that time was know to be a gateway….now backing it with some reality checks Sex before marriage is now becoming a normal practice in some places just like you have said it now People even go as fall to live together, test compatibility, build career first and have so many rounds of sex to check mate if there are activeded…which this has cause so many problems to young coming youth….

These days people don't regard sex as anything,the rate at which youths are engaging in marathon sex can make you to ask yourself how did we get here? you can hardly find an 18 years old child who a virgin,it may surprises you that people of that age  have more than one sexual partners because a single partner can't be able to satisfy their sexual urge. And when they are married, it will be difficult for their spouse to satisfy them on bed, before you know it, when there spouse is not around, they'll invite their exs into their matrimonial home and have sex with him/her on their matrimonial beds. If your spouse can't satisfy you on bed,maybe your body count is higher than his, open to him about it and if things don't work out,then you can divorce him, that way is better than cheating and risking a divorce later.

[Sulegzy39]

In my opinion Among the primary reasons for marriage is a lack of confidence in one another. Relationships abandon each other simply because they lack religious discipline. Spiritual control helps a community maintain discipline and fosters mutual respect in partnerships. When a man or woman understands religious restraint and how to adhere to it, they will refrain from engaging in any dishonest acts.

The ease of contact provided by social media has led to an increase in the frequency of divorces. Social media is a source of harmful impact; therefore, it is best to avoid it as much as possible. To maintain social order, a strong societal and state position should be taken against adulterous partnerships.

[BALIK]

Now It more like the society values such things and in fact some marriages are suffering for this act of madness to me big time….back then in the past for must people and cultures or even communities support it, and that literally the main reason to marry early. Which is stated fully that No sex before marriage was the rule, so marriage at that time was know to be a gateway….now backing it with some reality checks Sex before marriage is now becoming a normal practice in some places just like you have said it now People even go as fall to live together, test compatibility, build career first and have so many rounds of sex to check mate if there are activeded…which this has cause so many problems to young coming youth….

These days people don't regard sex as anything,the rate at which youths are engaging in marathon sex can make you to ask yourself how did we get here? you can hardly find an 18 years old child who a virgin,it may surprises you that people of that age  have more than one sexual partners because a single partner can't be able to satisfy their sexual urge. And when they are married, it will be difficult for their spouse to satisfy them on bed, before you know it, when there spouse is not around, they'll invite their exs into their matrimonial home and have sex with him/her on their matrimonial beds. If your spouse can't satisfy you on bed,maybe your body count is higher than his, open to him about it and if things don't work out,then you can divorce him, that way is better than cheating and risking a divorce later.

There's no denying that people these days are more open about sex and not as strict or conservative about it as they used to be.
However, everyone's sexual needs are different. Not everyone is addicted to sex.

Just because someone has an active sex life before marriage doesnt mean they're gonna cheat after getting married. Do not generalize based on a few cases you have seen. Whether someone has had sex before marriage or not does not by itself determine whether they will be a good spouse.

By the way, would you want to have sex with your girlfriend? It would be hypocritical to expect your girlfriend to satisfy your sexual need while wanting to marry a virgin.

[Rockson1]

The problem with today's marriages is pride, disrespect, and a lack of genuine love. People choose their partners based on money and societal status, beauty, and physical appearance. There is no tolerance, and both individuals claim to be the boss, with neither submitting. One claims to have equal rights while the other claims to be superior and wants to do things their way.

There is no understanding; people think marriage is about marrying the perfect person, but it is a union of two imperfect people who can understand their mistakes and choose to live in peace. People feel that if they are loyal in marriage, they are being used. Marriage today is not the same as in the days of our forefathers.

There is phrase that "two captains can not be in the same ship" one has to be submissive for peace to reign, the one claim to be boss has to learn how to listen to his partners, in marriage everything does not have to end in the mouth of one person, partners share ideas if they  want the marriage to last until death do them apart as it is been said, you made metion of the problem associated with marriage this days, when you ask your girls of these day the kind of man they will like to marry, the first thing that will come out from the mouth of majority of them will surprise you, it is always a rich man, meaning, it is love, not anything but money, I'm not against the money but what do they have to offer, since the man has to be rich.

As long as people keep thinking in this direction, marriages will continue to collapse, cause many of those that claim to be ready for marriage, do not know the meaning of commitment, sacrifice and tolerance.

[Prince patrick]

Firstly, I won't push all the blames on one gender, I think both parties are sometimes at fault. Sometimes the biggest issues are disagreement, for a example, a man would say he wants to eat rice for breakfast, and the woman would say no, let's eat beans instead, and then they start arguing, meanwhile the man should have simply said okay, let's eat rice now and eat beans in the afternoon or let's cook both together and pair it up. But no, each of them will be trying to show who makes the last decision, instead of reasoning together as husband and wife and try to come up with a common solution. Sometimes marriage is not as difficult as it seems. You just need to be able to marry someone that is willing to always listen to you. One has to talk and the other has to listen, this is how it should be. Marriage is not a place to show strength or muscle. Marriage is about planning, understanding and bonding. As a man, sometimes you should also listen to your wife, she might not pass the message properly, but try and take your think to listen and understand where she is coming from. Sometimes is good to see things from the other side. It mustn't have to be you who passes the law all the time. She is your partner and not your slave. Woman have oppressed and bullied in marriages and you don't expect my sister to be in such marriage that lacks little respect, peace and unity. Is better to divorce than be with someone that sees you as an object that he can bounce on..

[Berry2d]

At time relationship that are built on lies and deceit can easily run out of love and may end in divorce not because both are not knowledgeable enough but because the trust meant to safeguard the marriage have been lost in the process and can never be ammended so easily.
I will say the fault do come  from both parties but the major problem do come from that of the women. Women of nowadays have decided to accept that there is equality between both parties, therefore chooses not to be submissive to the partner when its is clearly understood that women most be submissive to their husbands and the husbands must love them, though at times some men uses this submissiveness to be slavery which is fear from the truth but that doesn't change the fact that over 70 percent divorce is caused by the women.

[Nwadiche]

There're many reasons that lead to divorce, but From my own opinion we have two major reasons affecting some many  marriages today mostly in our own time because divorce this days is much than our patients time. First is low income, we all knew that women where made from finished materials so if the man is not financially stable there'll quarrel and can even result to fighting. Secondly cheating is another major problem today affecting many marriages too, and i believe cheating can breaks emotional and distroyed someone's physical trust in marriages even in a serious relationship. To me i saw this cheating as the most hardest thing in this life to be repaired.

[Popkon6]

There're many reasons that lead to divorce, but From my own opinion we have two major reasons affecting some many  marriages today mostly in our own time because divorce this days is much than our patients time. First is low income, we all knew that women where made from finished materials so if the man is not financially stable there'll quarrel and can even result to fighting. Secondly cheating is another major problem today affecting many marriages too, and i believe cheating can breaks emotional and distroyed someone's physical trust in marriages even in a serious relationship. To me i saw this cheating as the most hardest thing in this life to be repaired.

I cannot agree with you on these two reasons, no family has broken up and no marriage has been divorced due to poverty till date. However, it must be accepted that marriages have broken up due to extramarital affairs, the chances of that family surviving for a long time when both the man and the woman commit extramarital affairs are very low.
All those families are destroyed, they cannot live together for a long time, in the current society, divorces occur the most due to the increase in extramarital affairs.

[BALIK]

There're many reasons that lead to divorce, but From my own opinion we have two major reasons affecting some many  marriages today mostly in our own time because divorce this days is much than our patients time. First is low income, we all knew that women where made from finished materials so if the man is not financially stable there'll quarrel and can even result to fighting. Secondly cheating is another major problem today affecting many marriages too, and i believe cheating can breaks emotional and distroyed someone's physical trust in marriages even in a serious relationship. To me i saw this cheating as the most hardest thing in this life to be repaired.

I cannot agree with you on these two reasons, no family has broken up and no marriage has been divorced due to poverty till date. However, it must be accepted that marriages have broken up due to extramarital affairs, the chances of that family surviving for a long time when both the man and the woman commit extramarital affairs are very low.
All those families are destroyed, they cannot live together for a long time, in the current society, divorces occur the most due to the increase in extramarital affairs.

Nah. Maybe you have just never seen it, but in reality, many families have fallen apart because of poverty.

And its not just women either. Men who are struggling badly and are tired of living in poverty can also leave their partner and kid to look for a life they think will be better. And its not that uncommon.

Cheating is also a big reason why marriages fall apart, but there are many reason why someone cheat. Its not always just about sex like a lot of people say. And it's not that uncommon for both the husband and wife to cheat.

[Bitcoin Maxi]

There are very many reasons for the increase in divorce rate nowadays. The most major reason for me why married couple divorce is marrying for the wrong reasons. They are people that just run into marriage without understanding what marriage  entails. Nowadays you see ladies / women run into marriages because they are pregnant, some because of money, beauty and some because of family pressure,  some because of getting old and others because of what people might say and because they believe marriage can change their partner.They forget that this reasons that make you run into the marriage can cause issues along the line.
If you marry because of money, what if the money is gone? What if your partner never change? Once the main reasons for getting married is no longer there, the relationship because toxic, chaotic and also very hard to build and sustain. Before you know it they've gone their separate ways.
It's better we don't jump into marriage because we want to be married. It should be carefully considered and partner you're willing to build life with carefully chosen to avoid increase in divorce rate.

[Charcol]

There are very many reasons for the increase in divorce rate nowadays. The most major reason for me why married couple divorce is marrying for the wrong reasons. They are people that just run into marriage without understanding what marriage  entails. Nowadays you see ladies / women run into marriages because they are pregnant, some because of money, beauty and some because of family pressure,  some because of getting old and others because of what people might say and because they believe marriage can change their partner.They forget that this reasons that make you run into the marriage can cause issues along the line.
If you marry because of money, what if the money is gone? What if your partner never change? Once the main reasons for getting married is no longer there, the relationship because toxic, chaotic and also very hard to build and sustain. Before you know it they've gone their separate ways.
It's better we don't jump into marriage because we want to be married. It should be carefully considered and partner you're willing to build life with carefully chosen to avoid increase in divorce rate.

Divorce is very rare because of wrong intentions at the beginning. I have seen many couples who started out with love and good intentions. But later on, due to financial problems, distrust, lack of communication and different goals, their relationship eventually weakens. That is why I would say that not only should you choose the right person before marriage, but also after marriage, you should respect the relationship, be patient and maintain the relationship by fulfilling your responsibilities.

A successful marriage does not depend on the answer to the question of why you got married, but rather on how maturely you try to maintain the relationship and this is the important thing.

[Iamgoat]

These days people don't regard sex as anything,the rate at which youths are engaging in marathon sex can make you to ask yourself how did we get here? you can hardly find an 18 years old child who a virgin,it may surprises you that people of that age  have more than one sexual partners because a single partner can't be able to satisfy their sexual urge. And when they are married, it will be difficult for their spouse to satisfy them on bed, before you know it, when there spouse is not around, they'll invite their exs into their matrimonial home and have sex with him/her on their matrimonial beds. If your spouse can't satisfy you on bed,maybe your body count is higher than his, open to him about it and if things don't work out,then you can divorce him, that way is better than cheating and risking a divorce later.

Your opinion here sound more like a cure than even a preventive measure to me. When it comes to matter of marriage and divorce, it all starts from the courtship itself. We have so many questions we do ignore and see it as shameful to ask until we get married and begin to see the reality.  Questions such as asking your lady or your man how many body counts they got as well as whether they are virgin or not. Many of us see it as a shameful act for asking such honest questions but it is better to do so than to allow it enter into your marriage then when you discover it looks like a betrayal to you and you begin to seek for divorce. Same thing applies to other characters and habits you don’t know about the person and may likely want to know. Although sometimes asking all these questions does not mean you will get an honest answer but trust me the person’s conscience will not stop judging them when they know tightly enough you had engaged them early enough and they said otherwise.

[BALIK]

There are very many reasons for the increase in divorce rate nowadays. The most major reason for me why married couple divorce is marrying for the wrong reasons. They are people that just run into marriage without understanding what marriage  entails. Nowadays you see ladies / women run into marriages because they are pregnant, some because of money, beauty and some because of family pressure,  some because of getting old and others because of what people might say and because they believe marriage can change their partner.They forget that this reasons that make you run into the marriage can cause issues along the line.
If you marry because of money, what if the money is gone? What if your partner never change? Once the main reasons for getting married is no longer there, the relationship because toxic, chaotic and also very hard to build and sustain. Before you know it they've gone their separate ways.
It's better we don't jump into marriage because we want to be married. It should be carefully considered and partner you're willing to build life with carefully chosen to avoid increase in divorce rate.

Divorce is very rare because of wrong intentions at the beginning. I have seen many couples who started out with love and good intentions. But later on, due to financial problems, distrust, lack of communication and different goals, their relationship eventually weakens. That is why I would say that not only should you choose the right person before marriage, but also after marriage, you should respect the relationship, be patient and maintain the relationship by fulfilling your responsibilities.

A successful marriage does not depend on the answer to the question of why you got married, but rather on how maturely you try to maintain the relationship and this is the important thing.

You're spot on. Probably one of the best replies in this thread. A marriage isnt just decided by why 2 people got together, but also by how they treat each other and deal with the problem that come up along the way.

A lasting marriage needs more than love. You need maturity, responsibility, respect, and both people willing to get through hard times together. Not running away from responsibility, blaming each other or talking sh!t about your partner.

Choosing the right person is important, but maintaining and working on the relationship after marriage is even more important. That's why plenty of couples who got together through matchmaking or family arrangements can still have a happy and lasting marriage.

[Mr Reporter]

You're spot on. Probably one of the best replies in this thread. A marriage isnt just decided by why 2 people got together, but also by how they treat each other and deal with the problem that come up along the way.

A lasting marriage needs more than love. You need maturity, responsibility, respect, and both people willing to get through hard times together. Not running away from responsibility, blaming each other or talking sh!t about your partner.

Choosing the right person is important, but maintaining and working on the relationship after marriage is even more important. That's why plenty of couples who got together through matchmaking or family arrangements can still have a happy and lasting marriage.

I might say, couple who are made for family arrangements some really come out perfect well and people will be thinking other wise, but I will not say it all that workout fine some are been forced into the marriage and when the love and respect is not their that when it lead to divorce.

Many people now are even taking this divorce of a thing like so serious and they not know their children are even noticing it and some children will want to copy from their parents that why some of them will swear I will not getting married because of are some spouse treat each other in front of their children and they decide to stay single or baby mamas and baby father. So that the reason the rate of sexual performance is so much you hardly hear this gender is a virgin is very common is this our time expect few.

[Dunamisx]

It's a pity when you discover that newly married couples today are now getting divorced at an early stage of their Union when they couldn't afford to comply with staying together.

This is where we must understand the need to know where we are getting married and also have a sense of responsibility; it is not something that only one person should see as a responsibility, but for both of them in the relationship. The presence of a third party in a union is one of the major reasons you are saying diverse taken place, because they are being instigated against each other.

[Halifat]

There're many reasons that lead to divorce, but From my own opinion we have two major reasons affecting some many  marriages today mostly in our own time because divorce this days is much than our patients time. First is low income, we all knew that women where made from finished materials so if the man is not financially stable there'll quarrel and can even result to fighting. Secondly cheating is another major problem today affecting many marriages too, and i believe cheating can breaks emotional and distroyed someone's physical trust in marriages even in a serious relationship. To me i saw this cheating as the most hardest thing in this life to be repaired.

Marriage is a journey that no one know when it will end, but each individual hope that it end when they are leaving the world, some of the marriages collapse due to our mindset and that is why divorce is happening always, a lot of people go into marriages but forget to ask questions on how it looks like with the people that are already on the journey, some of us believe that what we are doing outside will be equivalent to what we will be doing after marriage.

Marriage is the most easiest thing and also the most simplest thing for some people, but that depends on how some of them lay their foundations, a lot of people build their relationship on telling lies and that is why they could not be able to spend a month after marriage than spend years before marriage, it is better we continue to learn about marriage because it's very wide.

[AakZaki]

Marriage fails not because of one thing, but a combination of several factors. Like the most basic thing of bad communication, when there are small problems that are not talked about then emotions are suppressed and eventually become chaos.

Unrealistic expectations, some people think that in marriage you must always be happy and your partner must be perfect. Even though the reality is that in marriage, relationships can go up and down, it needs cooperation and not just feelings.

The factor of infidelity and trust is by far the most severe, when a partner loses trust it is difficult to fix and it is this factor that is often the end point of a relationship.

[Beke_26]

One of the reasons why there are so many divorce in our society today is because many people go into marriages with lots of expectations and so when these expectations are not meet, it becomes a problem before you know it devoice becomes the only option.

More so, when a woman is financially stable than the man, there comes "equality" she automatically forgets that the man is the head of the family money or not. She takes decisions on her own without consulting the husband.

This same thing is applicable to the husband but I can tell you for a fact that the woman will swallow it all and decide to stay back.

[New Judgement]

There're many reasons that lead to divorce, but From my own opinion we have two major reasons affecting some many  marriages today mostly in our own time because divorce this days is much than our patients time. First is low income, we all knew that women where made from finished materials so if the man is not financially stable there'll quarrel and can even result to fighting. Secondly cheating is another major problem today affecting many marriages too, and i believe cheating can breaks emotional and distroyed someone's physical trust in marriages even in a serious relationship. To me i saw this cheating as the most hardest thing in this life to be repaired.

This idea that women were made from finished materials are just some religious ideologies. Women and men were created or evolved from the same source, nobody should tell me otherwise. Apart from some physical attributes, there’s nothing different between men and women physique that will point that they are not from same source/materials. Men have two legs, eyes, hands etc, women have the same too. So there is nothing that can prove that women were made from different material outside the one that form men.

On the divorce aspect, people divorce due to irreconcilable differences. The irreconcilable differences can come from any angle. Cheating could be one valid reason for divorce, but often times we have seen couples staying together even after one or both parties cheated on each other. But to me you don’t lose a good partner because he or she cheated once. Sometimes it could be a mistake, that made them cheat.

[BADecker]

Why Do Marriages End in Divorce?


Because nobody has figured out how to start them with divorce.