Why Do Marriages End in Divorce?

[Tonimez]

There're many reasons that lead to divorce, but From my own opinion we have two major reasons affecting some many  marriages today mostly in our own time because divorce this days is much than our patients time. First is low income, we all knew that women where made from finished materials so if the man is not financially stable there'll quarrel and can even result to fighting. Secondly cheating is another major problem today affecting many marriages too, and i believe cheating can breaks emotional and distroyed someone's physical trust in marriages even in a serious relationship. To me i saw this cheating as the most hardest thing in this life to be repaired.

This idea that women were made from finished materials are just some religious ideologies. Women and men were created or evolved from the same source, nobody should tell me otherwise. Apart from some physical attributes, there’s nothing different between men and women physique that will point that they are not from same source/materials. Men have two legs, eyes, hands etc, women have the same too. So there is nothing that can prove that women were made from different material outside the one that form men.

On the divorce aspect, people divorce due to irreconcilable differences. The irreconcilable differences can come from any angle. Cheating could be one valid reason for divorce, but often times we have seen couples staying together even after one or both parties cheated on each other. But to me you don’t lose a good partner because he or she cheated once. Sometimes it could be a mistake, that made them cheat.

I was enjoying your write up until I met the last line. There's nothing as traumatizing as living with a cheating partner. It kills the other party emotionally and in some traditions, living with a cheating partner is forbidden that if a man insists on living with a cheating woman, he can loose his life mysteriously.

Cheating causes the height of marriage crisis globally and no matter how nonchalant you claim to be, the pain will always hit you at your uninvited hours. I am not in support of divorce in any way but a divorce that occurs due to cheating or domestic violence is somewhat irreparable. Men usually justify their silliness with an unfounded illusion of men are polygamous in nature, as how? If a person can not have  self control, he doesn't deserve to be in a marriage. He can go for a contract marriage or better still, marry as many as he wants officially instead of claiming to love a monogamous marriage and acting  polygamous in nature.

[Supreme Donvic]

You're spot on. Probably one of the best replies in this thread. A marriage isnt just decided by why 2 people got together, but also by how they treat each other and deal with the problem that come up along the way.

A lasting marriage needs more than love. You need maturity, responsibility, respect, and both people willing to get through hard times together. Not running away from responsibility, blaming each other or talking sh!t about your partner.

Choosing the right person is important, but maintaining and working on the relationship after marriage is even more important. That's why plenty of couples who got together through matchmaking or family arrangements can still have a happy and lasting marriage.

I might say, couple who are made for family arrangements some really come out perfect well and people will be thinking other wise, but I will not say it all that workout fine some are been forced into the marriage and when the love and respect is not their that when it lead to divorce.

Arranged marriage by parents usually last, i have not really seen any arrange marriage that has failed, a lot of the failed marriages I'm seeing are those ones that were not even arranged, some arrange marriage might be failing but I am saying that I have not seen anyone that has failed in my town.

In marriage when a particular person is feeling too beautiful or too handsome or is claiming to be very smart they will surely end in divorce, you need to be blindly in love to sustain marriage for long in today's world.

[BALIK]

I might say, couple who are made for family arrangements some really come out perfect well and people will be thinking other wise, but I will not say it all that workout fine some are been forced into the marriage and when the love and respect is not their that when it lead to divorce.

Arranged marriage by parents usually last, i have not really seen any arrange marriage that has failed, a lot of the failed marriages I'm seeing are those ones that were not even arranged, some arrange marriage might be failing but I am saying that I have not seen anyone that has failed in my town.

In marriage when a particular person is feeling too beautiful or too handsome or is claiming to be very smart they will surely end in divorce, you need to be blindly in love to sustain marriage for long in today's world.

Like me and Charcol already said. Whether it's an arranged marriage or two people choosing each other, and whatever the reason they got married, none of that is enough to decide if the marriage gonna last. What matters more is how they treat each other, deal with each other and handle problems in the marriage.

Just cause you ain't seen it happen in your own town don't mean its not happening elsewhere with other couples. Plenty arranged marriages failed cause there's no compatibility, no love...

As someone who is already married and has seen a lot of things around me, I can tell you maintaining a marriage is never easy. There are so many reasons why people get divorced. It's not just cheating, money...it's way more complicated than that.

[virasisog]

The number of divorced marriages nowadays is alarming and it got me thinking is it that people easily fall out of love or is that they aren't patient enough to work out issues. Maybe it is because they stop communicatin one of them cheated. Why are marriages failing today and what can we do to better?

I was once told that in relationships falling out of love is normal specially in those long term relationship, those fun and exciting moments you feel when you started dating wouldn't always be there, it would fade, but looking or finding a person who would still stay besides you when those feeling are gone are so hard to find.
Those feelings come and go, and that is how they manage to stay together.

[JoyceBTC]

There're many reasons that lead to divorce, but From my own opinion we have two major reasons affecting some many  marriages today mostly in our own time because divorce this days is much than our patients time. First is low income, we all knew that women where made from finished materials so if the man is not financially stable there'll quarrel and can even result to fighting. Secondly cheating is another major problem today affecting many marriages too, and i believe cheating can breaks emotional and distroyed someone's physical trust in marriages even in a serious relationship. To me i saw this cheating as the most hardest thing in this life to be repaired.

This idea that women were made from finished materials are just some religious ideologies. Women and men were created or evolved from the same source, nobody should tell me otherwise. Apart from some physical attributes, there’s nothing different between men and women physique that will point that they are not from same source/materials. Men have two legs, eyes, hands etc, women have the same too. So there is nothing that can prove that women were made from different material outside the one that form men.

On the divorce aspect, people divorce due to irreconcilable differences. The irreconcilable differences can come from any angle. Cheating could be one valid reason for divorce, but often times we have seen couples staying together even after one or both parties cheated on each other. But to me you don’t lose a good partner because he or she cheated once. Sometimes it could be a mistake, that made them cheat.

The way you take it or understand it, might not be the same way another person understands it because, first of all as a married person why would you cheat on your wife/husband.
You might be saying this because you’re a man and I know so many people normalize men cheating including married men and they can also count it as a mistake but how many men will forgive their wives even when they cheat just once just because they can’t lose a good partner because she cheated once. Nobody should justify cheating in marriage as a mistake be it a man or woman.

[Silikiem]

There're many reasons that lead to divorce, but From my own opinion we have two major reasons affecting some many  marriages today mostly in our own time because divorce this days is much than our patients time. First is low income, we all knew that women where made from finished materials so if the man is not financially stable there'll quarrel and can even result to fighting. Secondly cheating is another major problem today affecting many marriages too, and i believe cheating can breaks emotional and distroyed someone's physical trust in marriages even in a serious relationship. To me i saw this cheating as the most hardest thing in this life to be repaired.

This idea that women were made from finished materials are just some religious ideologies. Women and men were created or evolved from the same source, nobody should tell me otherwise. Apart from some physical attributes, there’s nothing different between men and women physique that will point that they are not from same source/materials. Men have two legs, eyes, hands etc, women have the same too. So there is nothing that can prove that women were made from different material outside the one that form men.

On the divorce aspect, people divorce due to irreconcilable differences. The irreconcilable differences can come from any angle. Cheating could be one valid reason for divorce, but often times we have seen couples staying together even after one or both parties cheated on each other. But to me you don’t lose a good partner because he or she cheated once. Sometimes it could be a mistake, that made them cheat.

I was enjoying your write up until I met the last line. There's nothing as traumatizing as living with a cheating partner. It kills the other party emotionally and in some traditions, living with a cheating partner is forbidden that if a man insists on living with a cheating woman, he can loose his life mysteriously.

Cheating causes the height of marriage crisis globally and no matter how nonchalant you claim to be, the pain will always hit you at your uninvited hours. I am not in support of divorce in any way but a divorce that occurs due to cheating or domestic violence is somewhat irreparable. Men usually justify their silliness with an unfounded illusion of men are polygamous in nature, as how? If a person can not have  self control, he doesn't deserve to be in a marriage. He can go for a contract marriage or better still, marry as many as he wants officially instead of claiming to love a monogamous marriage and acting  polygamous in nature.

I’ve come to find out that a lot of people both male and female can tolerate different behaviors from their partners just to be with them but when it comes to cheating they can never tolerate it and that’s to show the level at which cheating can go towards ending some marriages. Cheating is the height of it all and shouldn’t be tolerated in a union because it reduces a man’s life especially after learning your partner is a cheat and you’re still living in the same house with your spouse and eating together. In most traditions across west Africa it kill men faster than they think.

[Bigjoe33]

There're many reasons that lead to divorce, but From my own opinion we have two major reasons affecting some many  marriages today mostly in our own time because divorce this days is much than our patients time. First is low income, we all knew that women where made from finished materials so if the man is not financially stable there'll quarrel and can even result to fighting. Secondly cheating is another major problem today affecting many marriages too, and i believe cheating can breaks emotional and distroyed someone's physical trust in marriages even in a serious relationship. To me i saw this cheating as the most hardest thing in this life to be repaired.

This idea that women were made from finished materials are just some religious ideologies. Women and men were created or evolved from the same source, nobody should tell me otherwise. Apart from some physical attributes, there’s nothing different between men and women physique that will point that they are not from same source/materials. Men have two legs, eyes, hands etc, women have the same too. So there is nothing that can prove that women were made from different material outside the one that form men.

On the divorce aspect, people divorce due to irreconcilable differences. The irreconcilable differences can come from any angle. Cheating could be one valid reason for divorce, but often times we have seen couples staying together even after one or both parties cheated on each other. But to me you don’t lose a good partner because he or she cheated once. Sometimes it could be a mistake, that made them cheat.

I was enjoying your write up until I met the last line. There's nothing as traumatizing as living with a cheating partner. It kills the other party emotionally and in some traditions, living with a cheating partner is forbidden that if a man insists on living with a cheating woman, he can loose his life mysteriously.

Cheating causes the height of marriage crisis globally and no matter how nonchalant you claim to be, the pain will always hit you at your uninvited hours. I am not in support of divorce in any way but a divorce that occurs due to cheating or domestic violence is somewhat irreparable. Men usually justify their silliness with an unfounded illusion of men are polygamous in nature, as how? If a person can not have  self control, he doesn't deserve to be in a marriage. He can go for a contract marriage or better still, marry as many as he wants officially instead of claiming to love a monogamous marriage and acting  polygamous in nature.

What then is the difference, marrying more wives legally and sleeping out? I think for the man to marry other wives and it ends happily, it must be from the permission of his first wife. A man would not just wake up and goes to marry. If the first wife refuses, then there will be problem in that family, either the second wife will see hell or she makes life unbearable for the man or both, even there children.

Now, which woman will happily recommend a second wife for the husband when they have kids and nothing is lacking? Nobody wants to share her husband at all. So the issue of men that can not control themselves should marry as many wives as they want is a NO for me. Every man should stick with the wife. In as much as the wife is not permitted to marry other man, or sleep with another man, the man should also respect himself and honour the wife. When there is trouble, let them settle amicably.

Lastly, cheating in marriages us very heartbroken, but there are still people that can forgive, and it's not an abomination. For those traditionalists, they can do there cleansing and still live as husband wife. For those religion people, its just a mare forgiveness, and time will heal the wounds gradually. One can actually cheat by mistake. It could be a set up, and maybe, you couldn't overcome it, and you fell. It really lies on how well you know your partner and the circumstances sorrounding the whole matter.

[Nwada001]

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There are a lot of reasons that you have outlined, but another question we need to ask is what are this generation doing differently that was not the same with the time of our fathers and great-grandparents? Because the rate of divorce in this generation is higher, and it’s increasing on a daily basis.

The world and the young are too focused on things that can easily fail away while making choices on what’s supposed to be a lifetime commitment, which is that while there are any little misunderstandings, they can easily break each other's vows, especially when that which convinces them to marry is already fading away.

[acener]

I don't believe that people fall out of love, most of the time when this line is being use there would always be a third party in the relationship.
They didn't fall out of love, they didn't get cold on you for no reason, they just find the love they wanted and warmth they are looking for on another person.
Most marriages ends up in divorce because of cheating.

[DanWalker]

I don't believe that people fall out of love, most of the time when this line is being use there would always be a third party in the relationship.
They didn't fall out of love, they didn't get cold on you for no reason, they just find the love they wanted and warmth they are looking for on another person.
Most marriages ends up in divorce because of cheating.

You're free to believe that if you have never seen it happen yourself. But life is more complicated than you think, and there are many reason why people stop loving their partner.
Love can change over time too, just like any relationship, if couples stop putting effort into it and don't try to keep it alive.

There're plenty of couples who get divorced but still stay friends, take care of their kids together, and there is no third person involved at all.

Cheating is one reason, but it ain't the only reason. A lot of surveys show lack of commitment and growing apart are actually some of the main reasons.


https://www.psychologytoday.com/za/blog/better-divorce/202105/the-3-most-common-preventable-reasons-people-divorce

[qurbanshah02]

There are many reasons for this because every divorce has a different story but in majority some things are more common due to which every marriage has ended in divorce. Some divorces are due to home environment, household expenses, fights in the house, bad behavior of husband and wife, lack of love between husband and wife, these many reasons lead to divorce between both the people. Although I am not in favor of divorce being the solution to every problem because the root of every evil is not to be eradicated. Therefore husband and wife should be able to improve their relationship with each other with love and life will become good for them and the bad thing of divorce will also end from their midst. I have seen new people that they make this decision very emotionally and ruin their own home and that is why there are many people sitting in the world for marriage. Therefore marriage should be maintained and efforts should be made to improve their relationship and income.

[Ayers]

There are many reasons for this because every divorce has a different story but in majority some things are more common due to which every marriage has ended in divorce. Some divorces are due to home environment, household expenses, fights in the house, bad behavior of husband and wife, lack of love between husband and wife, these many reasons lead to divorce between both the people. Although I am not in favor of divorce being the solution to every problem because the root of every evil is not to be eradicated. Therefore husband and wife should be able to improve their relationship with each other with love and life will become good for them and the bad thing of divorce will also end from their midst. I have seen new people that they make this decision very emotionally and ruin their own home and that is why there are many people sitting in the world for marriage. Therefore marriage should be maintained and efforts should be made to improve their relationship and income.

Every marriage has its own story. there are many reasons why marriage can fall apart.
but i kinda agree with the guy above that lack of commitment, cheating, conflicts and arguments are some of the most common reason. cheating is also one of the reason i keep seeing in many different surveys. though im not saying it's the biggest reason.

the consequences of divorce is huge, especially for families with kid. imo, preventing the problem is still better than letting things go too far and only trying to fix it later.

https://ifstudies.org/blog/reasons-people-give-for-divorce

[JoyceBTC]

I don't believe that people fall out of love, most of the time when this line is being use there would always be a third party in the relationship.
They didn't fall out of love, they didn't get cold on you for no reason, they just find the love they wanted and warmth they are looking for on another person.
Most marriages ends up in divorce because of cheating.

I actually do believe people fall out of love, not necessarily because they have other person in their lives but there are some attitudes or things the other partner might be doing which isn’t helping the relationship and can make one to start losing feelings gradually. The way we develop feelings that’s same way we loose it, a bad behavior can cause it, poor communication maybe due to too much busy schedules from one person, unresolved conflicts and many more.