Losing at gambling

[ralle14]

What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

My vote was also the same as the majority because a divorce would be too much in my view plus it only takes time before you can be financially stable again, and i've heard worse situations from other gamblers like being in debt. If this happened to me in the future, i'd probably be frustrated for a moment, and then move on to helping my partner deal with the situation. Then again i'm not surprised with a few that voted for divorce, as it can be a way to enforce that tough love, and sometimes that's what it takes for others to change.

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[oktana]

None of the options are correct for me. Why would you divorce them when you were in on it the whole time? And on the other hand,  why do you even need to forgive them when they lose? They are human, in fact when your partner loses what you should do is to go and console them. Make them understand that they may get it next time. And you should have told them from the onset to quit gambling or maybe play safe so they don’t lose everything instead of feeling offended when they finally do.

Probably the topic assumes that the gambler lose everything as in including the funds which they are both save. This is the common reason why married couple destroyed when the problem is due to gambling addiction.

Some people can’t stand already their partner once he already affected the family finances in general. No one will gonna have a problem if the gambler still earn or doesn’t loss since it’s still part of entertainment but I believe even can’t stand a husband/wife that spend too much in gambling to the point that your family savings is already at loss.

But that makes what I’m saying. It’s foolish for a partner to be all in love and happy when their other partner is winning all the gamble. But when he/she loses, the love is gone and you want a divorce. If it were me, I’d divorce her because it means that she never really loved me. When you love someone, you should be with them at their worst (especially if you were always with them at all the bright times).

[darkangel11]

There are 18 votes for forgiving her/him and only 1 vote for divorcing... who is the one not happy with his/her wife or husband?

This votes should casted in a certain context and generalising is hard, but the obvious answer in general is that, if you love your partner, you have to be with him/her no matter what happens (almost). Moreover, in the example there is no real loss because the result means getting back to the starting point; it would be more serious if he/she lost an important amount of savings that you need to pay your bills or mortgage.

To me, instead of divorcing, the moral would be: "I hope you have learned from this experience".

Now there's 3.

I feel like it depends on how people understand the question. If you had $1k in the bank and she used that, no problem, you can make it back, but imagine that you had your whole life's savings there, a million or two and she'd lose it in one night of stupidity, what would you do? There's no way you can earn that money back. You will die poor because of her dumb decision. In such case many people would choose to divorce.

[Furious 7]

I feel like it depends on how people understand the question. If you had $1k in the bank and she used that, no problem, you can make it back, but imagine that you had your whole life's savings there, a million or two and she'd lose it in one night of stupidity, what would you do? There's no way you can earn that money back. You will die poor because of her dumb decision. In such case many people would choose to divorce.

IMO it depend on the initial commitment because after all it is reckless to risk everything in gambling and it would be foolish if your partner agreed to it because after all in this case we know that gambling is a condition where luck plays an important role and it doesn't mean that you will become profitable if you risk everything you have because it could actually make you stuck in a silly choice because the possibility of losing is clearly greater than winning.

If in the end your partner initial commitment allows you to risk everything then I don't think it will be a problem because the responsibility is shared but sometimes problems arise even to the point of causing divorce because we decide unilaterally where our partner doesn't even know we are risking everything for gambling. I think it's a natural thing if our partner eventually decides to leave because he's not considered even though it's a shared wealth even though it's the man who plays a role in making money but in the end we also can't be selfish when we already have a partner because the decision to do something is based on a joint decision and not one party.

[nara1892]

Probably the topic assumes that the gambler lose everything as in including the funds which they are both save. This is the common reason why married couple destroyed when the problem is due to gambling addiction.

Some people can’t stand already their partner once he already affected the family finances in general. No one will gonna have a problem if the gambler still earn or doesn’t loss since it’s still part of entertainment but I believe even can’t stand a husband/wife that spend too much in gambling to the point that your family savings is already at loss.

But that makes what I’m saying. It’s foolish for a partner to be all in love and happy when their other partner is winning all the gamble. But when he/she loses, the love is gone and you want a divorce. If it were me, I’d divorce her because it means that she never really loved me. When you love someone, you should be with them at their worst (especially if you were always with them at all the bright times).

The outcome of gambling is always about winning and losing, I understand what you mean here in that we have to look more at the idea of a "habit that has the potential to create bad situations", I understand that winning is possible and maybe even by a large amount but isn't losing also a possibility? Obviously, that means losing and winning are the outcome of gambling and losing is a situation that you will definitely experience at any time and even dominantly.

Everyone is happy with the name of victory or when they get a win, but if the partner can think wisely about the gambling habits of his partner then I think it should not be for him to feel too happy with the victory that his partner managed to achieve because of course they will think that defeat will definitely occur which may even be with a greater amount than the previous victory that his partner managed to get. So the point is that people who really love are those who are able to think about the good for their partners in the long run, so I am sure that if your partner is able to think rationally then he will definitely advise you to stop gambling even though you just got a big win.

[Hatchy]

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Everyone is happy with the name of victory or when they get a win, but if the partner can think wisely about the gambling habits of his partner then I think it should not be for him to feel too happy with the victory that his partner managed to achieve because of course they will think that defeat will definitely occur which may even be with a greater amount than the previous victory that his partner managed to get. So the point is that people who really love are those who are able to think about the good for their partners in the long run, so I am sure that if your partner is able to think rationally then he will definitely advise you to stop gambling even though you just got a big win.

No one would really be happy to know that their partner had lost all his money and savings to gambling. A real and caring partner would see to it that their partner stops anything that would put their relationship in jeopardy. This practice would actually help to prevent situations like this that are likely to occur.
Gambling as it's fun, can sometimes be destructive that's when one becomes addicted and spends far more than he is supposed to spend on gambling. If gambling is taken for fun only, we won't have much of addicts that will loss their sense of reasoning just because of gamble. Let's all be wise when it comes to situations like this to avoid causing problem's for our self.

[oktana]

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Everyone is happy with the name of victory or when they get a win, but if the partner can think wisely about the gambling habits of his partner then I think it should not be for him to feel too happy with the victory that his partner managed to achieve because of course they will think that defeat will definitely occur which may even be with a greater amount than the previous victory that his partner managed to get. So the point is that people who really love are those who are able to think about the good for their partners in the long run, so I am sure that if your partner is able to think rationally then he will definitely advise you to stop gambling even though you just got a big win.

No one would really be happy to know that their partner had lost all his money and savings to gambling. A real and caring partner would see to it that their partner stops anything that would put their relationship in jeopardy. This practice would actually help to prevent situations like this that are likely to occur.
Gambling as it's fun, can sometimes be destructive that's when one becomes addicted and spends far more than he is supposed to spend on gambling. If gambling is taken for fun only, we won't have much of addicts that will loss their sense of reasoning just because of gamble. Let's all be wise when it comes to situations like this to avoid causing problem's for our self.

Well, fact is that it’s not done for fun. Most people claim that they gamble for fun but it’s all word of mouth; It’s all about money. If there was no reward when you win, people wouldn’t be gambling. If you want to have fun, I’d say you maybe play video games, watch football matches or movies. But gambling? It’s not for fun, especially for the fact that you can lose your life savings.

[Zigabel]

But that makes what I’m saying. It’s foolish for a partner to be all in love and happy when their other partner is winning all the gamble. But when he/she loses, the love is gone and you want a divorce. If it were me, I’d divorce her because it means that she never really loved me. When you love someone, you should be with them at their worst (especially if you were always with them at all the bright times).

To some persons it sounds cool that they are there when the gambling is favouring them and leaving when there's nothing again to offer is cool aswell, most persons who are in a parasitic relationship get to suffer this because their partners are actually depending solely on their wins and are not in anyway trying to stay when the winning are no longer there, most definitely it clear thst these persons are not good partners buy were there just for the benefits they got aal along. Sometimes it's not good to explain or make known your gambling profit to anyone and this could include your partner too, if they are not looking promising to you.

Keeping some of our habits a secret is essential and important sometimes because it helps prevent certain things from happening as people can only spoil thst which they know, they can't spoil anything they don't know or take advantage of something they have little to no information about.

[goldkingcoiner]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

Just because everything is going fine does not make gambling a realistic income source. Any spouse that does not understand this, and does not rather seek a different income source, is putting the entire family in risk of financial ruin. Especially if this is not the first time that that spouse has lost his/her bets.

I view gambling from a mathematical perspective, which says that making a steady income with gambling is not possible.

Sure you can get lucky. Maybe even have a long, lucky streak. But does that justify going against logic?

[entertheabyss]

Well, fact is that it’s not done for fun. Most people claim that they gamble for fun but it’s all word of mouth; It’s all about money. If there was no reward when you win, people wouldn’t be gambling. If you want to have fun, I’d say you maybe play video games, watch football matches or movies. But gambling? It’s not for fun, especially for the fact that you can lose your life savings.

Football is a game of passion but most people have indulged in the critical sectors and losing money all in the name of seeking for more. I've been dormant in one position but that doesn't mean I'm not growing, infact everyday, I'm getting closer of succeeding in life. It doesn't take too much but consistency matters in everything one is doing. However gambling can be for fun and also making ends meet. You don't expect some adults to be playing video games because they actually see it as childish or lack of utilization of time. Most people have watch how the space operates and are actively in to print more money.

[arimamib]

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No one would really be happy to know that their partner had lost all his money and savings to gambling. A real and caring partner would see to it that their partner stops anything that would put their relationship in jeopardy. This practice would actually help to prevent situations like this that are likely to occur.
Gambling as it's fun, can sometimes be destructive that's when one becomes addicted and spends far more than he is supposed to spend on gambling. If gambling is taken for fun only, we won't have much of addicts that will loss their sense of reasoning just because of gamble. Let's all be wise when it comes to situations like this to avoid causing problem's for our self.

A caring and responsible partner should indeed take measures to prevent anything that could potentially jeopardize their relationship, including addictive behaviors like gambling. Gambling can be entertaining and enjoyable when it's done in moderation, but it can also become highly destructive, particularly when individuals develop an addiction. Addiction to gambling is a serious danger to relationship, because it can lead to financial ruin and overall negative consequences for both the individual and their loved ones.

Partner can help prevent situations where gambling spirals out of control by promoting responsible gambling practices and intervening when necessary. Encouraging open communication and setting limits on gambling activities are all important steps in safeguarding against the harmful effects of gambling addiction. Prevention and awareness are key in fostering a safer and more enjoyable gambling environment for everyone involved.

[Webetcoins]

The first choice in the poll is crazy. Really? Divorcing him that quick? Lol. It wasn't even his money but it's from the casino and it's like he is only returning what he borrowed. This is a common scenario that happens to us gamblers. We don't know on why the cash out option seems to be so passive but this could be the psychology behind gambling.

They will only let you experience a win or excitement, and they are not afraid of losing at first because later on, they know that they can still recover it and earn much more than it. In a married life, especially for a normal or poor one, we hardly have savings but if we have it and then our partners uses it for gambling, well that is another story anymore. This would be an addiction already and if he/she does this a lot of times, I guess it's now safe to leave him/her.

[blckhawk]

Thankfully it didn't happen to me but if this ever happens, I don't think I'll be able to love that person again, that kind of blunder in a relationship is definitely a big way to break the heart of your partner and either you're going to stay on that relationship and slowly let that sinking feeling that you've got eat you away while they don't care about you even if they're saying that they do or you can achieve peace of mind divorcing them, this is the most painful of the two choices but the other one is a slow death so if I'm ever in that situation I'm definitely going to be choosing that divorce part, it's not till death do us part when you're partner or couple isn't trying to keep you both alive.

[Oilacris]

Thankfully it didn't happen to me but if this ever happens, I don't think I'll be able to love that person again, that kind of blunder in a relationship is definitely a big way to break the heart of your partner and either you're going to stay on that relationship and slowly let that sinking feeling that you've got eat you away while they don't care about you even if they're saying that they do or you can achieve peace of mind divorcing them, this is the most painful of the two choices but the other one is a slow death so if I'm ever in that situation I'm definitely going to be choosing that divorce part, it's not till death do us part when you're partner or couple isn't trying to keep you both alive.

You wont really be able to say that specially if its his/her first time on committing out such mistake on which you would definitely be still considering it up on forgiving him/her on which we do know that it wont really be that so easy on having some divorce on someone on whom you do love for long years. It isnt really just that enough reason that you would really be considering out such step just because of having that kind of problem.Yes, each person is really that different but it would really be just that too much if you do have those kind of conclusive approach on things as if you are perfect.
We are just humans on which we are really that prone to error and mistakes and if things turns out to be already that severe and uncontrollable, then this is the moment that you would really
be making out such decisions but as much as possible  then it would really be best that you shouldnt really be coming up with this kind of solution in mind specially if this one is that firstly been done
on his/her entire life. Making those serious talks would really be a great help on this regard.

[khiholangkang]

Thankfully it didn't happen to me but if this ever happens, I don't think I'll be able to love that person again, that kind of blunder in a relationship is definitely a big way to break the heart of your partner and either you're going to stay on that relationship and slowly let that sinking feeling that you've got eat you away while they don't care about you even if they're saying that they do or you can achieve peace of mind divorcing them, this is the most painful of the two choices but the other one is a slow death so if I'm ever in that situation I'm definitely going to be choosing that divorce part, it's not till death do us part when you're partner or couple isn't trying to keep you both alive.

You wont really be able to say that specially if its his/her first time on committing out such mistake on which you would definitely be still considering it up on forgiving him/her on which we do know that it wont really be that so easy on having some divorce on someone on whom you do love for long years. It isnt really just that enough reason that you would really be considering out such step just because of having that kind of problem.Yes, each person is really that different but it would really be just that too much if you do have those kind of conclusive approach on things as if you are perfect.
We are just humans on which we are really that prone to error and mistakes and if things turns out to be already that severe and uncontrollable, then this is the moment that you would really
be making out such decisions but as much as possible  then it would really be best that you shouldnt really be coming up with this kind of solution in mind specially if this one is that firstly been done
on his/her entire life. Making those serious talks would really be a great help on this regard.

I agree with you if it's the first time a mistake is made, and it should indeed give a chance to change himself to be better again and be able to build the economy back to be better or return to the previous position where your partner did not make a mistake in gambling that spent all the money he had, but that thought I also agree if our partner makes the same mistake continuously, even though he wants to say to change but still gambles impulsively and does not change at all then divorce is the last resort to avoid our minds from the stress of dealing with impulsive gamblers. I think it is not only men but also women, because today there are many women gamblers.

[Ojima-ojo]

When everything's going well, it's cool. But sometimes (often?) money problems lead to divorce. Suppose your spouse/husband gambles a lot, his or her loss/profit ratio is acceptable (so it's fine), but then one day he or she has bet it all and lost it all. You've got nothing left (and no savings either). What's your reaction? Has this ever happened to you?

The thing is that no one should gamble with the mindset that you will make some profits, and should be done with risk in mind, and for such we tend not to lose more than we can afford,  first as a couple you shouldn't take gambling as means to earn money for the running of your family and shouldn't stake any amount that can affect your family.


But in this case, the wife has been enjoying the previous winnings and at that, she is aware that the husband gambled so she should have warned him beforehand and also advised him to invest the money when he made the first winning.

[nara1892]

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Everyone is happy with the name of victory or when they get a win, but if the partner can think wisely about the gambling habits of his partner then I think it should not be for him to feel too happy with the victory that his partner managed to achieve because of course they will think that defeat will definitely occur which may even be with a greater amount than the previous victory that his partner managed to get. So the point is that people who really love are those who are able to think about the good for their partners in the long run, so I am sure that if your partner is able to think rationally then he will definitely advise you to stop gambling even though you just got a big win.

No one would really be happy to know that their partner had lost all his money and savings to gambling. A real and caring partner would see to it that their partner stops anything that would put their relationship in jeopardy. This practice would actually help to prevent situations like this that are likely to occur.
Gambling as it's fun, can sometimes be destructive that's when one becomes addicted and spends far more than he is supposed to spend on gambling. If gambling is taken for fun only, we won't have much of addicts that will loss their sense of reasoning just because of gamble. Let's all be wise when it comes to situations like this to avoid causing problem's for our self.

Yes, the point is that if they really love their wife/husband then obviously they will tell their partner to stop gambling, no matter how much they win and no matter how much they win, because it is nothing more than a lucky situation that will not always be repeated in the future, and it means that it is very likely that in the next few sessions they lose and lose some money.

However, overall gambling is an activity that jeopardizes life in many aspects, not only will it destroy the financial situation but it can also cause a lot of problems in friendships, or family relationships. I think gambling will only be truly enjoyable when you are able to treat gambling activities properly according to what most people suggest or according to a rational point of view about gambling itself, because obviously there is absolutely no pleasure when a gambler has entered the addiction phase where all situations will be dominated by tension and pressure. So it's really a choice, and I think the wise and best choice is to stop or not gamble at all, this is what you should do if you really don't want to experience any bad possibilities in the future.

[SeriouslyGiveaway]

I've actually never experienced this situation, and I hope it won't happen to me. If I were in that situation, I would be really shocked, as the future lies ahead for the couple with no money left to live on. In addition, the psychology after losing a large amount of money in gambling is always accompanied by great psychological instability in the following days. Surely my wife and I will not be in the mood to continue doing anything during this time period. One important thing I think is whether we can get through this period or not depends on the other person. If one spouse is still there to encourage the other to continue overcoming it, I think things won't be too bad afterward. Otherwise, this will seriously affect the relationship between husband and wife.
I know that it is not easy for our wife or husband to accept forgiveness after we have used up all our savings to gamble, and if we have children, things will be even more miserable, obviously. You are irresponsible and especially do not think about your children. This is a story that I think is not rare, it still happens every day, so controlling your account when participating in gambling is a top priority, especially for those who have families.

[boty]

The thing is that no one should gamble with the mindset that you will make some profits, and should be done with risk in mind, and for such we tend not to lose more than we can afford,  first as a couple you shouldn't take gambling as means to earn money for the running of your family and shouldn't stake any amount that can affect your family.


But in this case, the wife has been enjoying the previous winnings and at that, she is aware that the husband gambled so she should have warned him beforehand and also advised him to invest the money when he made the first winning.

Yes, of course everyone should not gamble with the hope that they will win with the money they hold, because we have to think that if we lose at gambling then we can still meet the needs we need and if we bet to win Of course, this will make us and our partners have even more difficult problems if we lose on the bets we play.

If their partner has got their first win and one of them returns to betting in the hope of winning more, it would be better to withdraw a little of the winnings that have been obtained first so that if they lose the bet they can still have funds left that can be used for other purposes.

[SeaCoinCollector.]

If my partner gambles a lot and loses everything, it would be a big problem since we both rely on that money. I would feel stressed, frustrated and angry. It could be really tough, but I would communicate openly with my partner to set clear limits, set boundaries, seek support and resources to manage debt and financial strain,