should i tell my wife when i win or just keep it quiet?

[hedgeh0g]

For someone like me, gambling is just my personal adventure although my partner knows that I gamble and at that I respect myself not to put it to their faces each time I am around those family members that don't gamble but at the same time always around me, much thanks for bearing me, but I try as much as possible to keep all my gambling outcomes from my partner.

Hiding the wins from your partner can easily create problems later. Even if you are not doing anything excessive, secrecy is what usually causes trust issues, not the gambling itself. It is good that you are already being considerate around family members who do not like gambling, but being open with your partner and at least about the important parts which is just as important.

It is also true that if you do not share your gambling with your partner, then later if your partner knows about your gambling, then a big problem can arise. Again, such a situation can arise that after knowing, she is constantly monitoring your gambling. If you have any financial problems, she will think that you may have lost that money due to gambling. If you tell her, it is a problem and if you do not tell her it is also a problem. I think that if you tell all these things, you will not have your freedom. You should continue gambling as long as you can without telling her. If there is a big win or financial issue, you should tell your partner about it.

I also think we need to be careful about this and think it through carefully before telling. We need to remember that if we tell, there's no turning back, because my wife might start thinking about many things, including whether we'll become gambling addicts—the worst-case scenario. After all, someone in the neighboring country might have lost TV sets or part of their salary and now they have nothing to feed their children with. Overall, I think this creates a lot of problems, and I prefer never to tell my wife about it because I simply don't want to waste time on meaningless explanations of trivial things. I'd rather spend that time improving my gaming skills, which could actually pay off, like increasing my win rate, for example.

[Powerjumboo]

Being honest with your partner about gambling depends on the level of trust and understanding you both share if your gambling is small harmless and within limits then sharing wins or losses shouldn’t be a problem it even helps create transparency and avoids suspicion because hiding anything money related can quickly turn into conflict later on.

I’m actually honest with my partner about my gambling, and I’ve tried telling her the results, win or lose. But it just doesn’t feel right when I tell her about the losses. When I lose, I’m already sad, then she starts saying things I really don’t want to hear instead of comforting me. So I decided it’s better not to tell her anymore. It just gives me a bit more peace of mind.

I talk to my wife about my gambling but when I share it with her, if I win, she doesn't get too excited about it but when I lose, my wife doesn't tolerate it like your wife and tells me a lot. I feel like I shouldn't share all this with her, but even though I always share everything, sometimes I don't tell her about my losses because she will scream at me when she hears about my losses, so I'll keep that secret from now on.

[LeyMonte]

I talk to my wife about my gambling but when I share it with her, if I win, she doesn't get too excited about it but when I lose, my wife doesn't tolerate it like your wife and tells me a lot. I feel like I shouldn't share all this with her, but even though I always share everything, sometimes I don't tell her about my losses because she will scream at me when she hears about my losses, so I'll keep that secret from now on.

Actually, wife can always accept their husband's win but if they lose in any way, they say different things. Although it can be said that it is a habit of women, my wife does not say anything about it much. I myself never share it with her because my wife does not like gambling at all. However, I play games in casinos for my own pleasure. If my wife sees me playing games, I explain to her that it is a free game, there is no loss here, usually it is for enjoyment.

[sokani]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I know she's supposed to be your partner, confidante, and gist mate, and you are supposed to share almost everything, but she clearly does not like to hear about the losses, so don't tell her anymore. Only tell her about the wins if you have to, and make her enjoy it too by doing the things you used to do whenever you win big.

[Iroh]

Is there no one here taking the position that all gambling should be done with their significant other? Then there would be no telling because they would be right there to see for themselves.

I think it mostly depends on the individual. In the case of the OP, his wife gets real happy and even supportive whenever he gets a win on his bets and it's safe to assume he won't be getting any loving whenever he lets her in on his gambling losses. I think If only she was more receptive to his losses as she was to his wins, he wouldn't find it so difficult to let her in on his gambling activities. I bet he would appreciate his significant other cheering him on, encouraging him when he losses and perhaps being the level headed one to know just when it's time to quit.
But seeing as the wife isn't as open to his losses as to his winnings, I think it's safer he keeps most of his gambling activities to himself.

[Dogedegen]

You're free to opine your thoughts base on however you comprehend, it doesn't make of me what your opinion is, it's just your opinion anyway base on how you read what I wrote there. Misogyny is a strong word, which am not one especially not for a man that grew up among lovely women who of course had their own flaws just as every other human male. Nevertheless, thank you for your judgement, it just reminded me of someone very DECENT I once knew

What I wrote is not an opinion, it is factual observations based on science. Males are as flawed as females or even more flawed, so a male calling out some woman for being flawed is a joke especially in the thread here. Most people who wrote an answer are completely immature and have bad lives and relationships.

I barely have time for gambling, to be honest, but when I do, she’s always around, enjoying when I gamble

This one is where you are right and doing things the right way. Keeping sessions together but limited so there is no risk of developing the addiction in any of the two of you. This is very important when one includes another person in a risky activity like gambling. Sometimes the invited person is the one who slowly develops a huge addiction and it creates a nightmare.

Well, your story is different than mine, not judging or comparing, and also nobody should judge here because it’s about gambling only, that’s a normal reaction for any person when money is wasted… however, it’s better to talk that with your wife instead of making it a public topic.

There is no reason to not judge or compare, this is where you are mistaken. Stories are there to be scrutinized, discussed, debated. Why should I not judge someone who does things the wrong way? You also have topics on which you would judge someone, and if you don't you need to reconsider whether you have an identity or you are just a floating nobody in this world.

[xLays]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

I guess that’s just the nature of our spouses. My wife is the same way. Like when she knows we’re winning, she’s super happy and acts like she’s going to spoil me or treat me like King. lol
 But when we’re losing, it feels like she’s ready to kick me out of the house. That’s why it’s really best not to tell them when you lose. But when you win, it’s okay to share so everyone stays happy.

After all, you know what they say; happy wife happy life. Right?

[finaleshot2016]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

Maybe you're just losing in the wrong timing?

Of course if we feel that our money is wasted instead of buying groceries or any essential, we will get mad and yes, it's normal to be happy when you know your partner is getting money. But I think you should step up and you should realize that gambling isn't a way to earn money. Of course you should be honest to your partner, they don't want you to get ruined by gambling and the fact that you want to hide it to your partner, there's something that you should see in this situation. Gambling addiction starts a small problem, and it gets bigger once you've tried to hide it, let them know your activities, they will support you no matter what but if they feel that you have no control, it's normal to get angry in the situation.

[ejikeme24]

The truth is that women like money more than anything, so I think it's just a normal thing because there's no how your wife would feel happy when you are losing. It's not possible at all because they already know that gambling involves losses than winnings so she wouldn't feel comfortable when you tell her about losses, although it depends on the woman you married because I usually tell my wife everything and she always bear with me and give me some advice.

With your explanation I can possibly conclude that your wife is indeed an understanding wife, and surely woman Love good things (money) but even as that they are supposed to understand their man whenever he share his losing experience with them, perhaps they are even supposed to be happy to see them doing that because it shows a sign of honesty because not everyone that can possibly do that so they are meant to understand and also know that losing is inevitable in gamble because it's almost impossible for you/ or gamblers to be having just one record (win) all the time without incurring loss at some point so this is just  something they have to understand and stop blaming their partner for incurring Loss.

[Dickiy]

Basically, the decision is yours, as you'll know which option is best for you. However, rationally, I think it's best to keep it a secret.

You could tell your wife that you've stopped gambling. The reason is that most of the time, you'll lose more than you win due to the house's advantage. Wouldn't this mean your wife would scold you more often than she would praise you? This would certainly lead to arguments, so I think it's best to keep it a secret.

[GoldBitcoin112]

So here’s something I’ve noticed with my wife.. thing is..  whenever I win in gambling she suddenly becomes really sweet to me. i remember, last time I hit a big parlay in sports, I told her about it and she was super supportive and even telling me to keep doing it since “you’re good at that.”

But when I lose and I tell her, damn hurt my ears it’s the complete opposite -- she starts blaming me for gambling too much, saying I’m wasting money, all the usual complaints

So now I’m wondering… should I just keep it quiet whether I win or lose? Anyone else dealing with something like this? How do you handle telling your partner about your gambling results? 

No to me I will rather hold my peace than telling my wife about my winnings or not it's very bad communicating with your woman about your gambling habit,when. You win or lose , don't let her know your side hustle, because if she knows your secret now ,when you didn't win she will be using it against you, calling you gambler ,so hold it and never let her knows

[Ojima-ojo]

As a cure responsible gambler, is very important to be open in everything you are doing, so for some reason if and when you make some losses or winnings you can celebrate or bear the pain with your partner.

Also for you may have to study her mod of reactions to things that create anxiety such as gambling and if you see that it affects her mood, then you have to stop telling her about your gambling results.

[letteredhub]

You're free to opine your thoughts base on however you comprehend, it doesn't make of me what your opinion is, it's just your opinion anyway base on how you read what I wrote there. Misogyny is a strong word, which am not one especially not for a man that grew up among lovely women who of course had their own flaws just as every other human male. Nevertheless, thank you for your judgement, it just reminded me of someone very DECENT I once knew

What I wrote is not an opinion, it is factual observations based on science. Males are as flawed as females or even more flawed, so a male calling out some woman for being flawed is a joke especially in the thread here. Most people who wrote an answer are completely immature and have bad lives and relationships.

Factual observations based on science! Unlike other laboratory scientific studies, am sure you're aware that most studies on human behaviours carries some bias as a result of abrupt changes in human behaviours which could put the accuracy of some of these observations in doubt.

I would still repeat it that both male and female are with their flaws whether you think a man is with much flaws than the woman is what I wouldn't go into further debate with, which doesn't make me accept your opinion still. And going back to the story that led to this supposed debate, it's about a man complaining about how his wife suddenly become happy when he wins his bet but through tantrums at him when he loses. What does that make of her, less flawless I guess?

[shasan]

If your wife is friendly, then any permit gambling then you may share when you win as she is the part of your life. But if your wife is not friendly and are not comfortable about gambling then you should not share anything whether you make profit or loss. But if you think your winning might be able to make money then you may share the winning.

[Dogedegen]

Factual observations based on science! Unlike other laboratory scientific studies, am sure you're aware that most studies on human behaviours carries some bias as a result of abrupt changes in human behaviours which could put the accuracy of some of these observations in doubt.

That bias is known, factored into the studies and not worth mentioning because of that.

I would still repeat it that both male and female are with their flaws whether you think a man is with much flaws than the woman is what I wouldn't go into further debate with, which doesn't make me accept your opinion still. And going back to the story that led to this supposed debate, it's about a man complaining about how his wife suddenly become happy when he wins his bet but through tantrums at him when he loses. What does that make of her, less flawless I guess?

The man here and most other men who responded are more flawed and they are often completely immature. You can see most responses are childish. Most of these people don't even know what it means to have a real partner and spouse, they really just have a roommate with whom they are intimate sometimes. But hey, as long as you deny the reality of your relationship then it isn't true right?  

If your wife is friendly, then any permit gambling then you may share when you win as she is the part of your life. But if your wife is not friendly and are not comfortable about gambling then you should not share anything whether you make profit or loss. But if you think your winning might be able to make money then you may share the winning.

Great, then she can hide every single thing that you don't like from you and let's see where that takes you. Don't complain too much when you find her with another romantic partner.   Most of you have no idea what it means to be married and most of you are married, it is pretty sad what you are doing.

[Altryist]

If your wife is friendly, then any permit gambling then you may share when you win as she is the part of your life. But if your wife is not friendly and are not comfortable about gambling then you should not share anything whether you make profit or loss. But if you think your winning might be able to make money then you may share the winning.

I don't think sharing every win or loss makes sense. If you're a good player and manage to withdraw your winnings, then share them when you do she'll definitely appreciate it. But everything else can be kept under wraps, because every loss will only add to the negative attitude toward gambling. And every win won't mean much if you alternate them with losses you won't talk about. So gambling is your game, and you can keep it your own business, and I think that's the best solution.

[VashaUdacha777]

Hi )

I think you’re right. It’s best not to tell your wife anything at all. It’ll keep her calm, and it’ll be better for you too — your ears won’t hurt anymore. Women should stick to the things they enjoy, their own “women’s stuff.” And football, poker, sports betting — that’s men’s business. It’s better to talk about that with your buddies at a bar or at work.

[NewCryptocasinos]

If you’re married and something involves money, especially winnings, it’s usually best to tell your wife. It avoids misunderstandings, builds trust, and turns the win into something you can enjoy together instead of something you have to hide.

[Alex077]

If your wife is friendly, then any permit gambling then you may share when you win as she is the part of your life. But if your wife is not friendly and are not comfortable about gambling then you should not share anything whether you make profit or loss...

I don't think sharing every win or loss makes sense. If you're a good player and manage to withdraw your winnings, then share them when you do she'll definitely appreciate it. But everything else can be kept under wraps, because every loss will only add to the negative attitude toward gambling. And every win won't mean much if you alternate them with losses you won't talk about. So gambling is your game, and you can keep it your own business, and I think that's the best solution.

Most people outside the gambling circle don’t really get the swings, so all they see is “you’re losing again” or “oh, you got lucky once.” Neither changes their attitude.
End of the day, gambling is a personal ride.  But the day-to-day ups and downs? no need to broadcast them. Keep your bankroll and your sessions to yourself, stay disciplined, and avoid giving anyone extra reasons to judge your hobby.
 That’s how most long-timers handle it anyway.

[suhadi88]

Hi )

I think you’re right. It’s best not to tell your wife anything at all. It’ll keep her calm, and it’ll be better for you too — your ears won’t hurt anymore. Women should stick to the things they enjoy, their own “women’s stuff.” And football, poker, sports betting — that’s men’s business. It’s better to talk about that with your buddies at a bar or at work.

Yes, Everyone has their own class. Women's affairs are still different in many ways, unless they have the same hobby as him, then they can be in the same class.

if not, just be prepared our ears will always be close and use headsets.