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In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

I don't think it has been discussed before, if this happens to us this is going to be a hard question for me as my wife always has the last say when it comes to finances  :D but it's better for us to just alternate playing, even if I want my wife to quit we will quarrel about this so why not just play alternately, she will have a whole week playing, and after a week it's my turn to play.
Of course, the money should be allocated so the rule is no additional funds, both of us should be content with the allocation

Definitely yea, but I think it would be a bandage solution? I mean both of them are addicted at that point if they need someone to quit to manage their finances so sooner or later, it's going to spiral out of their control. It'd be better for them to manage themselves with control, either together or not it doesn't really matter so that any future issues can be resolved by themselves instead of relying on another person.

In the case of the one quitting though, it'd definitely have to be the person who'd manage their finances and I reckon there'd already be an argument then and there really. Even rules wouldn't work since, well, an addict can go far and beyond if they really wanted something.

It depends on the scale of the gambling going on. If we're talking about 1 partner buying a lottery ticket each week and 1 partner spending all their spare money from wages on an addiction, then there is a big mismatch in the relationship. It's the same if two people in a relationship are smokers, knowing they have to quit, but chances are one of the two has a stronger passion to quit than the other - it's rare that people will hit that rock bottom moment at the same time. In reality, each person needs to figure out their own motivation to quit and apply it, but getting them to do it at the same time is harder. It's going to be difficult for just one of the two to quit if both of them gamble on the same things.

Battle of the sexes? If you're going to ask this hypothetical question then at least provide more context like who is earning more and providing most for the family expenses. It's traditionally the Father's role but if this marriage is a 50-50 then both of them has to reconsider their gambling activities. I wouldn't say both should quit if they're able to manage it to a minimum.

to be honest, I have never seen a case like this where I live because it is one of them that is often encountered. Well because you raise a quite interesting case we think that one of the two is the most appropriate to stop of course the wife and focus on raising and educating their children. The child growth and development and level of emotional closeness are in the hands  of the mother. It is the mother who will be the director of her child while the husband has the obligation to earn a living even though in this  case gambling is actually not an ideal source of  income for getting a consistent income. It depends on whether he works at the casino or is just a gambler not involved in any specific activity with the casino.

I know a family in our area that engages in gambling together, even though it's known to be prohibited in their community. Despite the rules, they continue to gamble, and as a result, their business has been neglected, and their children are no longer being taken care of. These are just a few of the negative effects of gambling, especially when both spouses are involved. It's challenging to be in such a situation, can you imagine the impact on the family's life?
They should consider the possible issues or consequences of such a setup; there should still be boundaries. I'm not saying they should quit altogether, but they should focus on moderation and finding a balance that works for the family. There should be limits on playing; sometimes, they forget that gambling should be just a form of entertainment, not something to rely on for the family's livelihood. In my opinion, it's also not good if both spouses are simultaneously gambling, especially in front of their children.

Left with me alone, I can not marry a gambler if I get to consider the habitual barriers that is accompanied to it such as the addictions,the inability to control gambling emotions and the lack of conducts about setting up a gambling budget.
But if by such of this threads scenero, they can both set up a gambling budget and must be disciplined not to contrarily bridge their gambling plans but to stable their bankrolls.
Also that they must not discuss about their gambling life in front before the kids else they gets infected.
Always tell each other the truth at when won or lost and every incomes made from the gambling must be in am account of the family so everyone can benefit from it since the goal of gambling is to make profits of solving financial needs. And they must not be in the gambling board together else it is either they are biased to each other at that moment if at lost or they looses focus for mathematical organogram on predictions and calculations.

Oh yes it would be wise if one must quit.
And that should be the wife because women are liable to emotional breakdowns otherwisely she might be unable to control her emotions at when lost hoping to bet more and recover in other to prove her husband that she ya better gambler because Women are used to competitive lives even life living.
The wife is mostly to spend more time at home with the kids so her present at home would be essential and usually indeed of to the kids at home.
The men are more likely to be selfdefense able at an outbreak of mayhems so, the man who stay up while wife steps back because any negative occurances is liable to happen. Especially when one is publicly noted on a huge and amazing amounts of winning or beating (winning) aggressive opposition maybe in a physical skill based gambling.
Moreover, the financial responsibilities of a family is usually on the mans task so let him step up having the gambling as a means make money even though it is not reliable while the wife steps back.

I'm a product of this kind of familial relationship, and I'll tell you that it's not pretty.

My mom and dad were both gamblers who develop this habit when I was in 3rd grade. At first, they were just spending very minimal amounts in the gambling house and still manage to take us to fancy restaurants and a treat every so often. After a couple of years, both of them started hiding money from each other, up to the point that we're neglected of our needs so long as they can gamble. It was something awful, they never taught us how to gamble, but we know that they do it every night.

The children are the most affected of this setup. They don't know that this is what's happening behind the scenes, and most of the time, they don't know the reason why they cannot go to school or cannot get food that they used to have before. Thankfully, I didn't develop into a gambling addict like them, and I still know how to control my finances. If I were to marry someone, I might give up gambling just because I don't want it to take up time that I could be spending with my family, and not because I'm scared of losing control.

If it has come to that situation where the man and the wife gamble, the family is already in a big mess. It doesn't matter who influences who but this is already a disorder in the family. A father gambling in a family is manageable as the household will still be managed by the wife but both of them out of the house to gamble is not good. Both have to quit and look into what they prioritize.

They need to ask the help of the professional because being exposed in gambling that much can actually cost you a lot and your relationship with your family might be in danger if you continue to gamble together. We know addiction is not ok, and this can lead to that addiction if didn't address right away.

I believe they should both quit gambling, because they are not winning at all and they know the risk of it, if they really care for their family then I believe they should start moving on, and live a life without gambling.

  I think it seems like it was just discussed here in the gambling section, like you are talking about here. It is difficult to have both parents addicted to gambling. And it is impossible that their children do not see that. Except that it depends on the age of their child, who has a broad mind about gambling.

  Even if one of them quits, it will be difficult for him to do that 100%, and of course he still sees that his wife will gamble. Maybe it would be better if they both stopped gambling; that would be better so they wouldn't be tempted to gamble.

Both spouses should embrace the gambling habit and learn more about gambling. They'll have fun as a family. What matters is being able to prominently control the affairs of the family. It's not bad for gamblers to be married. Who then will stop gambling, it's not bad. Unless they're pruned to getting addicted, then it's of no use to continue gambling. The fun gets better when they both, visit offline casinos and lodge in hotels to gamble during vacations. I understand that in a family where kids are just growing, they'll need to focus more on disciplining their children, and also maintain a mutual understanding of not discussing gambling-related topics around the kids. Don't think it'll be right for them to stop gambling.

They both have jobs and should know how much to spend daily on gambling or set out an amount for monthly gambling. If their gambling habits begin to affect the family lifestyle, then it means they're getting something wrong. They can discuss ways of controlling money spent on gambling. Isn't it a nice experience for the gambler, who married a female gambler, or introduced his wife to gambling? Discussing with our wife about gambling and how to manage money. Gamblers need a companion to discuss, often their gambling attitude and encounters. One party can't get addicted without the next person being aware.

But, in families where the man is gambling, the wife won't be aware if their husband gets addicted. Thereby causing more harm to the success of the family, mentally, and financially.

provided that gambling is legalized in their country, then nobody is expected to quit. They'll be able to manage their bankrolls. I've read of a wife who is mainly interested in slot and the husband a poker player. They spend their vacations together in casinos and end up winning more money. Enjoy free hotel rooms, and food and get fun, as they're comp members. After their vacation, they'll go back home happy. In a family like Op described the kids seem to be young. In the long run, both spouses would appreciate being gamblers, if they maintain responsible gambling. But, OP, if they are currently undergoing any form of addiction, then open up in your thread. From what you wrote, nothing like that, you only care about their financial well-being. Which shouldn't bother you. They've figured out how to handle that aspect.

Both should quit.I remember when I used to go to offline casinos in 2007-2008 and it was an affiliate or at least it claimed it was an affiliate of Caesar Palace.I used to go there because I loved the slots there and I found there a couple used to come there,they were "rom people" no offense to any gender or race as I respect everybody in a equal way.I mentioned that to show you that they were not rich persons and as soon as they got their salary they stayed in the casino 2-3 days often times losing it all and living with help from the state then so based on this story it is a great thing if both spouse would quit gambling and to continue to run their family in a normal way,not asking for help here and there as this is what gambling brings you into.

I would rather say that both the people should quit gambling when the family is involved.
It would be a big problem if one of them has to quit and the best thing to do would be that both of them just quit.
This way both the parents would be able to give time to their family.

If at all they don't want to quit gambling, then my suggestion would be that they should take turns in months.
So that one would gamble this month and then the other would gamble the next month.
May be this way, one of them or may be both of them decide to quit gambling since they would be taking a month's break inbetween.

I don't recommend that both of them engage in gambling what will happen to their family if they both become addicted, if both can manage their gambling activities I recommend that the wife give way to his husband, the husband needs recreation after a hard days' work in the office or they can alternately play like the husband plays on weekdays and the wife plays on the weekends.

The most important thing is their finances and the time they are spending with their family will suffer, gambling is for entertainment and it should not have a bad effect on the finances and relationships with each other.

the best action here is for both of them to quit gambling and prioritize their child and their financial security. having a child is not a joke, it is expensive and exhausting. also, if only one of them quits, there is a high chance that the other spouse might start having resentment towards the other who is still gambling, this is why the only way to do this is for both of them to quit.

Have you ever heard and seen several cases where husband and wife sold drugs, both ended tragically in prison and their children were abandoned, not much different from what you said about husband and wife being involved in the world of gambling.

I remember a case that just happened five months ago in my country, both husband/wife worked in the same company, both cases were revealed in court, after they were arrested for embezzling company money that they spent, in short both of them have now been fired and sentenced to 5 years in prison and a fine of $50k each for both of them, that is the case if a husband/wife is involved in gambling.

My understanding is that if a husband/wife is involved in gambling activities, their household is not taken care of, both of them are busy with gambling and other things, it is easy for them to commit all criminal acts, in order to satisfy their gambling lust.

If it about finances, it possible that they both work and have their own income that can meet the family needs in daily life and for their children.
It could also be that the money used for gambling is leftover money from these needs, including savings.
Every family has different economic aspect because many women are still pursuing their careers and still working to be able to have their own income, so it not problem if it just about finances if they can manage it well.
And their own time depends on how clever they are at managing it because in the fullness of their daily activities there will definitely be free time that can be used to rest and they use little of their rest time for gambling.

If both of them really like gambling and only one party decides to stop for the sake of their partner then this is good decision and can be said to be someone who is responsible for their partner.
But it would be better for both of them to make an agreement in deciding to stop simultaneously, this will be more influential and look more harmonious.

I see two problems here in this situation that you addressed:

Financial: If each of the spouses has their own income, then each one should decide what is the minimum they will contribute to support the house and family and the rest of the amount they can use however they want. But if only one of them has an income, then they should discuss together how much money they are willing to bet on the games without compromising the family's income.

Time: Addiction is the main villain of those who bet on gambling and if both are addicted, the chances of their children having a terrible education are very high. Parents should decide together how much and for how long they will play, preferably at times when their children are not physically around so that their habits do not influence them at an unnecessarily young age.

The gambler who had more experience in gambling,whether wife or husband should play the game and the less experience can quit the game to make the results.Because if the both family members involved to the gambling,then they will face the financial problem.If one had do the gambling loss and other make profit, this leads neither loss and nor profit.The experience gambler made the profit and the other quit the game means,they take some money into their pocket.If both husband and wife can make money in gambling,they can do gambling on their own knowledge.Winning only the reason in the gambling,the family also need of money in gambling.

Discipline and self-control is what will help both the wife and her husband to be balanced and continue with their gambling activities without any problem. When both of them are discipline then they will only use the little amount that they have set aside to gamble that wouldn't affect the family monthly expenses. They need to gamble maybe twice a week so that they don't become an addict.

If the man gambles today, the woman can gamble tomorrow or skip a day before she gambles. As long as they are doing it for fun and not for making profit, they will be happy. The problem is when one loses control and gets addicted or both of them gets addicted, they will hardly meet up with their responsibilities.

If both of them are following the rules of gambling, they have no problem. But if both of them are not following the rules and gambling is taking much from them, both itf the should quit gambling. This might be hard to do, but no option than to either quit or they should follow the rules. If they want to follow the rules, like spending just little amount on gambling but they have been unable to, they should just quit. Gambling should be done to have fun, not what that is worth spending much on. And they should know that they can not make money from gambling.

Even if they can handle how they gamble, like all the rest I will advise both of them to stop gambling and just focus on their family, there are other recreational that will not involve money and the risk of getting addicted, they can gamble in their retirement or if they cannot help it they can both gamble on a weekend or just once or twice a month.
It's not good if both of the parents gamble what if both of them lose, it will have a big impact on the finances of the family and this is good, they hsould agree between themselves who will play and the one who chooses to continue should have good control so he will not lose a lot of money that could harm the family.

Nope it doesn't help if one of them quit since the other one will still get convince to gamble if he/she see his spouse enjoy to much on his gambling activities. Much better if both of them will quit since they can surely avoid any conflict towards this issues.

But if this activity is not damaging to much especially on financial aspect maybe both of them should continue since its somehow a stress reliever for both of them and this is also a good bonding moment for the couple since they can talk about something thrilling experience and also on how they enjoy playing casino games together.

Only an irresponsible man will want to put the finances of the house into his wife. Gambling is not a source of income, so I don't understand why you want to place the house obligation on a woman, even when she earns her money, as long they are husband and wife, the husband has duties and one of them is to provide for the house but if she has the means of source of income, she can help but it is not a most that she has to do it, not written anywhere even in the modern marriage doesn't say the husband and wife must split bills but where there is love, she can do anything for her man if there is a means.

Gambling is not a regular stream of income but if for instance, the wife made something huge from gambling, if you are lucky and loved by your woman, trust me she will spend half of her money on you but if there is nothing like love, she will squeeze that money on her hand and wouldn't give you a cent but regardless of they win or not, it is not her duty to help you as a man of the house.

it would be good for a couple to understand their responsibilities. there are children to be financed, education costs, health, household costs, investments, savings, etc., all these things must be met. if they gamble, it might be disturbing these plans which will be a problem in the future. but if they understand how to become a gambler responsible and good at managing their financial, gambling might not be a problem for them and it is not necessary for them to get out of gambling.

Quite interest you are the first person that have given an idea different from what all other members have raised I don't know for sure  if both spouse will agree to quit, however when the cue is raised about  the best and experienced should continue while the one with lesser experience and with much losses should be the one to drop, rationally that will make sense to both spouse to amicably agree.

Gambling can be so enticing and addictive so there has to be a strong defensive reasons why you have to tell a person to quit it, otherwise there might be a matter of contention for both parties involved. Also, it shouldn't be based on gender too because at this current era gambling is no gender based activity.

The best thing is for the couples to work it out within themselves on how to run the family affairs, because the idea of quiting gambling by one party isn't advisable for me, whatever finance that is coming to the family from gambling, is a welcome development, so if the finance is coming from both parties, is even better, but they shouldn't allow gambling argument or misunderstanding come in between, hence the the couples are mutually mature, they can easily walk along. Just looking at the scenario or imagining the scenario alone for me is a turn ON, because I will just predict some games, and pass it to to my wife to cross examine and edit, before I will go ahead to stake the game.

And they have children which is going to make anyone believe this woman is not responsible enough so she needs to quit and focus more on her children. Children need a mother at least one parent has to be hands-on to take care of and guide the kids. Regardless of how rich they've become through gambling, the family has to be their prime concern.

If I answer the woman, I would be criticized since I'm sounds like supporting patriarchy, but I answer the man, it doesn't make sense for me lol,

This is hard especially if the woman and man have a different opinions, it's better to seek a professional or someone who can being neutral for both sides. So whatever the decision comes from the professional/third party, hopefully both of them can understand with that.

Man, in my opinion, this is the worst scenario that I can imagine.
I don't want to see my wife gamble like me so she doesn't and it's working better for us. There must be one who can control the other one especially if he/she knows you are gambling and the person who gambles reports how much he is betting. i.e. in Sports betting.
That's how it works for us. I always tell my wife how much money I put on the line because she is also watching the games with me in our free time. And there are times that she is the one asking that question whenever I am hooked on the game. I mean, she will obviously know it because I am shouting my throat out to the team I am rooting for. ;D

Back to the topic, I think one should quit. Having someone to stop another when he/she is crossing the line is a healthy move. One should know how to control the other so that the money won't be spent on abnormal bets. (emotional ones)
That's my take for that and also someone to be strict on the gambler so that the kids won't hear about it.

A straight answer will be Yes one should quit for the other to carry on if the other so wish, so the other who has quitted will help in managing funds for the family and keeping the other partner in check so not to go beyond normal spending such that it will become detrimental to the family and cost then the ability to be able to get certain family projects done.

The wife quitting will be the most ideal as it will help the family better, the wife can help the man manage the fund more especially if it turns out he is the breadwinner, she could help him out up a gambling budget and family budget such that if his wage comes, they take of the ones needed by the family immediately from the money and leaving the rest at the husband's mercy but if it's the reverse the it will turn out chaotic. It's always better if the wife isn't gambling and it's just the husband alone but if it turns out the wife is then there will be some issues which will take so much time to resolve.

It is better if both of them quit but if they can afford and they can allocate a portion of their income and treat gambling as entertainment, then they can play together
so they can remind each other if they are playing beyond their limit, the most important thing is they know their limitation in gambling and they are responsible enough to see to it that they are going to be ok.
Gambling is a high-risk kind of entertainment so husband and wife should see to it that both of them will not fall into the trap of addiction, they should always think of the welfare of their family.

It should be understood that a family is a union, first of all, of equal people. The wife does not owe anyone anything. If the husband plays, the wife has the right to do so as well. If the husband cheats on his wife, the wife has the right to cheat on her husband. If both are players, the less successful player must stop

Neither Husband Nor wife because they are not supposed to gamble to make a life out of it and if they do then they are fu*ked up already.

If quitting is an option then both should be the right choice because it is not fair to lose something by one while partner not willing to sacrifice but honestly speaking the marriage won't work for too long so the kid has to find a good foster home. ::)

Usually, the one who will stop is his wife because his wife takes care of the household. It is rare for a husband to take care of the household and more for his wife to handle it. But if there is communication between the two about who should stop, that's good because they can both still control themselves when gambling.

In general, the husband is in charge of earning a living so that his wife stays at home and takes care of the household and also takes care of the children. But if neither of them is willing to give in for the sake of their household, there might be a fight between the husband and wife.

But I have never found a husband and wife who gamble and become gamblers. Usually, only husbands gamble, and even then their husbands gamble secretly hahaha.

If quitting gambling comes from inside, is determined, and will find a way to stop it, that's good, and it will be easy to quit. But if there is no determination or willingness, obviously, it will be difficult for any of them to quit gambling.

Then it is not good for the couple that they both have a gambling addiction. Because, for sure, that is not far from being the root cause of their separation as a couple; in short, there is also a high chance that gambling will be the way for them to break their relationship as partners.

What is the problem if both of them are gamblers? I think that is fine, since they are responsible gamblers who don't put their hobby above their duties as husband, wife and father, mother. Everyone needs some leisure time away from the burden of daily life and even from their children, so let gambling be part of their happy hour. If gambling is having a positive impact on their routines and making it even more functional than before, it really looks like they found what they needed to improve their lifestyle.

However, if they are losing control and going too high on gambling, I think the one who should quit first is the householder of the relationship. Nowadays it's hard to say who is this, since women and men are talking from equal to equal, so each couple has to be analyzed individually.

I don't wish to marry a gambler because don't want gambling to become a family affair. Both of us would be discussing gambling and the children might become knowledgeable about gambling at a very tender age. But if I finally marry a gambler, I will be pleased if my spouse is a skillful and responsible gambler. If the person gambles responsibly and is proficient in some games, I think it will be fun and profitable. But we have to ensure that we keep our gambling life secret from the kids until they become mature. We also have to ensure that our gambling activities don't affect the attention we give to the family.

However, I think the female spouse should quit if that I the best option. This is because she is more engaged in children's upbringing and other family affairs. But she can always give gambling advice to her husband if she is sound in gambling.

If both of them are gamblers than maybe they should choose a game that suits both and the winner keeps on gambling while the loser has to quit. Gamblers should gamble over it, right?:D
Consider the above only if you really have to choose one person to do it because IMO it's important to live in a healthy relationship. You don't want your wife to be sad and depressed because she lost against you and now has to quit gambling.

If we really had to do it, for instance to keep the kids out of it, we would be quitting together. Gambling shouldn't mean the world to you and you shouldn't put it above your family relations.
Either keep playing like you do and don't make it into a situation where only one of you has to quit, or quit together.

I think this kind of problem depends on how a person or married couple controls their gambling properly, both from money management and sort of as a basis for having the principle of responsible gambling that will go well without stopping their gambling activities.

But if indeed one of them has an impulsive nature and the other is not too addicted, in my opinion, the easier one to stop is the best choice, to maintain family stability, but it will be quite difficult if both of them have a gambling addiction, I hope cases like this do not happen anywhere, because the impact is very bad on the family relationship.

Gambling can be a vice and can be abused. If both people in a marriage give in and push each other, likelyhood of abuse just grows.
However, in many cultures gambling is done socially. I think the exception here can be that in social conditions the aspect of gambling that is done just for fun instead of Greece can be maintained more easily. So I would say try to keep it social and if not possible just maybe cut it off completely.

I never thought of this situation before, and this is a great question actually. With regards to husband and wife, it's both of your responsibility to take care of each other and so if gambling takes a piece of time where you are supposed to be in bed, table, or even fetch the kids from school then it should be stop. BUT let's say you are both in gambling, I'd say if it doesn't affect your lives as husband and wife, or as being parent I think it's only fine to find your entertainment with gambling. WHO SHOULD STOP? I guess this is something that both of you need to talk about, sit and talk. Bottomline, if it doesn't affect your relationship/responsibilities I think it's fine.

How about thinking of it from a perspective where both gamblers are experienced in gambling? One side doesn't have to feel bad for losing a few bucks in gambling. They both need to caution themselves on that. I'd say instead of quitting, they can play together and communicate about maintaining their habit. In your context, if the wife always has a mood swing after gambling, it's best to stop her, so that she won't get sad on the kids. They can still be playing, and maintain a rule of keeping the kids out of it. What is most important is to take the responsibility of the home most seriously. And gambling is a secondary priority. I prefer a family with both parents gamblers than one parent a gambler. In the later, the one person will hide his habit from his wife, just like most forum members testified, that they hide being a gambler from their wife. So, if the gambler loses a whooping amount, he'll lie to the wife about using it for something else. Which is not conducive to the growth of the family. On the contrary, both parents will easily flow together and watch each other gamble. Advising themselves on how much to stake each month. The kids won't find out about this unless their parents are compulsive gamblers, they can begin to suspect the chaos happening between their parents.

If there is still an option and if gambling habits are still bearable then no one has to quit but both should manage their finances in a better way. But if things got out of hand, then both should quit. Why? one would be envious and there will be no equality on this matter for that couple. They should make the choice; either to make adjustments for both of them or to totally quit.Problem is envy which could open another argument. Let's say one is more profitable but given that in gambling, nothing is consistent, then there'll be times that he/she would lose. This is where misunderstanding could arise between the couple.

This greatly depends on the following

• what is their motive for gambling?
• how well do they manage their time?

If their motivation for gambling is strictly base on entertainment and fun, making one partner quit to take care of the family's affair would not be fair enough. Gambling for fun means they have their jobs which generates income needed to run the family. This means the tendency of being addicted is low. Gambling for fun will really spice up their marriage. No one needs to quit, all they need to do is to make sure they gamble responsibly so it does not affect their jobs, kids, other family members and friends.

But if on the other hand their aim of gambling is to raise money to sustain the family, then one partner which is the wife has to quit gambling and pay attention to the family affairs.  Both partners being involved in gambling means a lot of family funds will go into gambling which is not healthy. I know a lot of people will say they can gamble responsibly but it's not easy for people who see gambling as their primary source of income to gamble responsibly. Addiction might set in and the entire family will suffer the consequences.

Both must quit their gambling activities. A husband is the backbone of the family, he is obliged to earn a living and ensure the life of his family and he cannot if he only relies on gambling to be able to provide for his family. Because gambling has a high risk and does not guarantee that every time we play, we will get a win. Meanwhile, children and wives need to eat every day and not to mention other household needs and their children's school fees. So that a husband is required to have a job or a business that can indeed make money to answer all the needs of his family.

Likewise with a wife, she must leave her gambling activities because there are children she must take care of, there are children who really need attention and love from their mother.

And if both of them cannot stop their gambling activities, or control these activities. I worry that the family will be fine. And I'm also quite worried about the child's development.

Actually, that would not be a problem if the husband and wife both control themselves when it comes to gambling. I can say this because my aunt and uncle are like this, they are both gamblers but maybe it would be better if they both quit gambling like my aunt and uncle did, they both quit gambling so they can focus on their children well because it is growing too.

This is quite hard if it's affecting a little kid with these hobbies of yours. But isn't this a positive thing knowing that both of you gambles and you understand each other when you gamble?

It's just going to play differently if both of you are starting to neglect your parental duties and as well as the household incomes being affected with gambling.

For example, that when someone is craving to gamble and there goes the budget for groceries. One intended to gamble with the grocery budget without telling it to the significant other. With that secret, that's where the other losses trust and so a trust issue will appear.

maybe there are married couples who gamble together but I am very sure that they dont have financial problems, you could say they are rich because usually woman finds it difficult to gamble and chooses to shop for daily necessities, but if there  a woman who gambles while her partner also does it surely they are rich people who are confused about how to waste their money. ::)
it not surprising that happens and I am pretty sure it very rare for something like this to happen even though I am a gambler, my wife does not want to do it for the reason that its better for her money to buy necessities or shop for beauty.

IMO, if the question was just a story, maybe the male partner would give in to quit gambling for his partner and take his wife away from gambling.

It is very simple, the couple must gamble responsibly.  Engaging in gambling activity does not instantly means that these people will be in financial ruins.  People who are able to control themselves and moderate their gambling activity often don't find any problem whine venturing in gambling.


It would greatly help because one of the couple had stop spending money to gambling but, if they full control their gambling activity, I believe there is no need for any of them to stop.  As long as they can maintain their living at the maximum capacity, then I think it makes no difference if one of them quit or not.

A household where both husband and wife are gambling addicts sounds like a good beginning to a Hollywood movie. I can only imagine the kind of issues they would have. I’m not sure what the proper way for one of them to quit would be. Seems like it would be better if they both quit and were there for each other as a support system.

(Rhetorical question): I thought gambling was for fun. Or has the couple turned gambling into a career thing where their income flow is relied upon? Gambling is nothing they do every day, every minute, and every hour, and if they are not handling it like that, then there is nothing to worry about here. If I am a dad, I can gamble with any small space I have and still have the time to take care of my home.

As a wife or a mother to some kids, even if you are a gambler, you will still have time for your kids and family affairs, unless gambling is your profession and occupation, on which you or your husband rely solely for survival.

But to answer your question in a straight-up way, I think both parties should stop gambling if gambling has become a thing of distraction in their home. If they both are addicted gamblers, what will their children then become?

But if these two couples are responsible gamblers who only gamble for fun and only gamble when they have free time, then it's fine.

Both should but it is not practical to choose a side saying he should quit or she should quit. As parents both of them have the equal responsibilities towards their children. As a matter of fact quitting gambling was never a simple thing. Without strong will power it's not possible. If a person doesn't understand what's good or bad for them then there is no telling him or advising him. It would mean a waste of time. So rather than arguing who should quit, we should try to make some sense in their mind.

Lol I asked a gambler if it's possible to quit gambling, do you know what he asked me? He asked if it was possible for a man to survive after draining out every single blood from his body, that's to tell how deep gambling has eaten deep into his life. Not just him but in the life of every gambler, when gambling becomes habitual in a man's life, quiting is almost impossible, it'd take the grace of God to quit completely. Maybe you can quit for a few days, weeks, months or even years but on the long run, you'll still see yourself gambling. I've never seen any gambler that's successfully quit gambling. If there's any, I'd be happy to know.

if they don't understand their situation, the more the adult in the room is needed for both to see where their ship is going. although it's hard to stop a habit abruptly, this will be needed at least for one of them.

this is just a situation given by OP though. but if there is a real couple with kids and still are gambling together. i would be amazed mixed with awe by how far their relationship had come.

that is very true. for sure, financial troubles is on the way if they are really hooked into gambling. even if they have a lot of money at the beginning, they will catch debts after debts if they won't stop and evaluate their situation.
i can agree if it is only occasional basis like for fun or entertainment when the family wants to have some recreational activity. but if they are regulars, this can easily go to worse scenario.

If the situation is where both partners are responsible gamblers, I don't think there will be any need for any of them to stop gambling unless it's a case where their gambling habit is affecting their family financially. Then not just one of them needs to stop, but both of them should call an end to it.
 
If, for example, you are gambling with just 0.1% of what someone is making in a month or year and it doesn't even have any effect on what they are spending on or their financial budget is not being affected, I don't think there will be a need for them to raise the alarm of one party to stop gambling.
 
But in a situation where both parties are chronic gamblers and think of gambling first before what they will eat, then it's not a matter of who to shop for, but both of them should just stop it as it might render them homeless some day if care is not taken.

taking care of children is the responsibility of both parents, it is not only the wife's responsibility and not only the husband's responsibility, but in a social society that has existed for thousands of years, women are the ones who have to put a lot of effort into the household, so that is based on your question, my answer is that the wife must stop gambling ^{(the wife is obliged to yield to her husband)} to become a truly responsible wife, my words may seem old school, but fate between men and women cannot be equal.

Both of them should quit and get another hobby or past time that is inclusive of the kids and the whole family. In the case even though we may say that gambling in itself is not bad but here it is. The kids would pick it up easily from the parents. The parents may lose control of the habit and become addicted and instead of time spent with the family and bonding it will be spent on gambling. I do not advice this at all.

If the kids are little, and they do not want to quit, they should put a pause on the it or hold and wait until the kids are all grown up and can take care of themselves. After that, they can return to gambling.

That's really serious, and it's bad. You should have at least added if the both of them are addicted to gambling, but it's just better they both stop gambling or it's going to affect them or their children. They might not be addicted to gambling, but their children might end up being addicted, which is really bad.

If the two of them are not addicted to gambling and they are gambling for fun, then it's better they just stop gambling and get something else done, because I'm sure they both won't want to give up. I can't just imagine seeing my partner gambling, and I won't be able to gamble. So it's better that we both stop gambling so that we can get something else to do just to have fun. Seriously two-spouse gambling might have a negative impact on children because the two spouses might be able to control their gambling activities, but children might not be able to do that.

Both of them should quit and focus on their family, kids need both of their parents attention.
And as soon as their is a child involve their life should already be changed they should already have a bigger picture for their family.
How they would manage their funds and their time to bond with their child, instead of gambling they should play or pay attention with their family.

I'm not sure there is a man who wants to marry a woman who gambles, even if the man is a gambler too because if both of them gamble and have children of course the children will be neglected by the behavior of both of them, therefore one of them has to give in to the family, whoever it is from the husband or wife's side, of course You have to be able to give in for the family, but it's a good idea if the children are still too young, it's better for both of them to stop, why not for the good of the children

I don't think there is a couple or family that has a situation like that, but even if there is, I don't know if that family or couple is bound to be broke or if their life as a couple will be miserable; they either break up soon or the family will result in a broken family. I don't think there is something good in a couple or family that gambles at the same time, because it will only affect their financial state, and even if there is one person in that couple, I don't think that the couple will last if the gambler doesn't stop. And to answer your question, should only one person quit? They should not quit gambling immediately before it's too late or before the family or relationship can still be saved, or else there will be no future for them. I think there are many situations just like that, and it didn't go well.

If there is a case in which a family, the wife and husband, are people who play in casinos, then this family may be doomed to suffering and will break up in a short time. It is unlikely that two people from the same household who play in casinos will understand each other or none of them had become addicted. Although the game is recommended to be seen as fun, it is not recommended for stressful situations, playing to forget about problems, playing under the influence of alcohol and drugs. different from other things that serve as fun and don't create problems, things like going to the beach, drinking juice while someone watches a football game, playing video games on the computer, horse riding

spending hours talking to friends, these things don't create stress in people, these things don't make people spend hours thinking about them, these things hardly consume a person's entire salary. but gambling is something that in theory allows people to win a lot of money if they are very lucky, so it makes people start playing with the aim of becoming rich, it's funny and that many people who are in the gaming world, They are fooling themselves when they tell other people that they are just playing for fun, when in fact they are playing to make a profit.

So imagine what a couple who lives in the same house and is playing at the casino will be like, what the finances will be like, the wife is not playing for fun, the husband is not playing for fun, they are both playing to make money, they are both playing with goals of becoming become rich, and this illusory goal will lead both or one of them to become addicted to gambling and destroy the entire family. I think that there shouldn't be many people from the same house playing, this will prevent other people from being able to correct the person who is playing when they deviate from the right path

Just dont mind on whatever things that they would be experiencing considering that both husband and wife do gamble then expect that their finances would really be that ruined.
You would be basically be that completely stopping if both of you do realize that you dont already have the money to spend and this is something that you would really be that
the moment you would really be making out regrets and its already too late. Both of you wont really be just destroying your family interms of finances but also in terms of
family relationship on which this is something that it is really important into a family. This is why you should really be that mindful on whatever things
that you do encounter because if you dont then expect for some messed up life.

It would not be necessary for neither of them to quit, besides one of them quiting for the sake of the whole family, while the other does not, may sound very unfair from the perspective of the one who did.
I think it would be enough for both to lower their wager and the time they have used to gamble and instead invest that money and time to build their family, to give attention to their child and do family activities together, in my opinion.

In the case a complete halt of their gambling activities is necessary for the well being of the family, then both of them should quit as a gesture of commitment to each other and their child.
These kinds of situation are better handled by a professional of couple therapy.

First of all, I think the it'll be good to know the level of gambling by both sides because as young people, they might be gambling for fun wherever they feel like having good times and enjoying their life while we are here discussing their a life they've chosen for themselves.
That been said, if the reason behind their gambling engagements is caused by their respective quests to make money through gambling, then the marriage should be dissolved so that that it doesn't affect the kids in the future because to me, I personally think that it's absolutely a disaster for spouses to be active gamblers.

They have a lot of options, if they are worried for the future of their children then they need to both quit. That's simple. Why? It's because that this is going to have a long term impact for them and that's not going to do any good for their family. Both being a gambler will have each other's back and will also tolerate their crave to gamble. But as a parent, this is a matter of being responsible, no one stops them to gamble and these are just suggestions but will they manage to become responsible while they gamble?

If they're good enough with their activities and doesn't affect the family life then there is nothing to worry about it. If the scenario is turning bad, then it is time to find the solution. When they're moving to find a solution, it is always good to take a chance to stay away from gambling and understand the good they've experienced. When quitting both have to follow it commonly, because one have quit and other continuing to gamble doesn't make sense and leads to problem.

Why not both? Is gambling that important to both of them that they aren’t able to even give their kids proper parenting? If that’s so then what the fuck, are you really going to put aside your kid’s welfare just so you can indulge in your gambling tendencies?

I keep saying this all the time, and I’ll keep saying it again. Gambling is not supposed to be a part of your life. It’s supposed to be this one-off or once in a while rendezvous that you do to let off some steam. The moment that ganbling becomes a major topic in your life, shit’s already out of proportion and you need to rethink your decisions as they go. You’re definitely not doing it properly and responsibly and in the first place you shouldn’t even be gambling.

If possible both should quit gambling because children are now involved otherwise it would ruined your family. At first place why would husband and wife engages themselves into gambling how does it sound like a joke or what? I would rather asked wife to go for something much better that can be bringing a stable income than gambling because it's a major distraction to the family, it's better you hid it from your children that you both gambles otherwise they don't seeing it as a routine for living with a gambling life styles.

No, not all unless their parents teach their child to gamble but most parents don't want to show their gambling activity to their child and a woman gambler I'm sure she still cares about her children except her husband.
Both of them should learn to control themself and only think gambling is just a waste of time because if not their family will be destroyed.

Just as we all know that regrets do always come at the end and people wont really be making any steps or actions before anything becomes severe. If you wont really be that mindful about
into your actions then you are really that putting yourself at great trouble and this is something that we dont really like to happen. Gambling isnt bad as long both of you
are really that responsible on the money spending and not really compromising in terms of financial because if you do then you would be that basically putting yourself on a huge problem.
People do only usually quit when its too late or the damage had already been done. So this is why it would be always best that you should be sensible and wary about on the
actions you are making.

This is quite a complicated situation and a family case. Maybe there isn't just one case like this, but many, maybe...
In this case, there are several considerations:

1. What kind of gamblers are they and what is their real financial situation?
If they are not addicted gamblers and they get more income from gambling, and their finances are good enough, then it would be better for the wife to quit. Why wife? because the wife will be more focused on the children. In this case, don't let children get involved in gambling too, especially if they become addicted because they are still small and cannot control themselves. Maybe their parents can manage and control themselves so that they still get the positive side, while for children, we won't know what will happen to them in the future. So, it would be better if one of them quit, in my opinion the wife. Note here that the husband is obliged to work even harder so that his income remains sufficient for the family. And the wife also remains on duty while monitoring her husband, because she is afraid that the atmosphere will change and become negative addiction.

2. If their gambling activities are bad enough and are affecting their family life and finances, then, why don't they just quit both and take a short break to really prepare themselves first who will continue to gamble but with a commitment to effort who are tough and earn income.

*Note: Actually, gambling is not a good means of earning income, because gambling is still high risk and there are concerns about bad addiction. So actually it is not recommended to get too involved or dependent on gambling continuously. The husband is still obliged to support the family, so remain focused on doing the work to provide for this well and wisely. Life is not just about hobbies, but also responsibilities, especially if you have a family.

Very interesting question @OP
In this case, of course, the one who has financial control is definitely the wife and the one who can manage the needs is also the wife. If the husband and wife are gamblers, the wife should be good at managing her expenses and prioritize daily needs and the needs of the children first before thinking about gambling and if by chance the husband and wife do it. I think gambling would be better if it was done together rather than stopping at one point which would cause injustice.
for example, if there is sports betting and if husband and wife have an interest in the world of sports betting, wouldn't it be a better step to make decisions together so they can use their analytical skills together and the profits can be enjoyed together to supplement their daily needs, but this is It can also cause misunderstandings if husband and wife have different predictions.

Incidentally, my wife is not very interested in gambling, but my wife always reminds me not to bet beyond my limits, so my wife is my self-control.

We will need more data to answer the question, as if both parents work and they are earning a salary which is way above what the average person earns and they have their gambling under their control, then I do not see the need for any of the partners to give up on gambling.

However if money was tight and they did not had any savings then I think it would be for the best for both of them to quit gambling immediately, as they cannot really afford to gamble with so many responsibilities to attend to.

If both husband and wife have much salary payment from their working its huge problem with gambling habit, they can get house assistance for helping their needed to control all thing but if less salary its not good way have habit gambling between husband and wife. Children need more qualities time with their parent despite father or mother and not make your gambling loss qualities time with your children not matter with your position as husband or wife.
Money can help more but time with family and children as once moment in our life, better controlling family time between husband or wife with their children and not make them loss qualities time with his parent. If gambling habit can leaves yet for husband or wife need to manage well your gambling time.

What a coincidence this topic has been brought here lol.
I knew a family like this in my birth place, but I didn't get a chance to have conversations with any of them not even once when I was still residing there (now I live in another province with my wife). Honestly they are still together up until to this very moment. I just literally saw them in the grocery when I visited my place a couple of weeks ago. I just had a thought after seeing them how they were able to make things work when both of them were regularly visiting a local casino before. Not sure if they still do today as they are already late in their 60's.
I guess there's no huge secretly to make this thing work, but just being responsible with finances is they key IMO.

There's no problem even if the whole family is gambling as long as they are gambling responsibly.

You'll only quit when you aren't responsible anymore, and please bear in mind always that gamble produce entertainment, so it should not be the main thing in your life, you still have to do your job or business, or anything that would earn money for the family, then you can gambler a certain amount but should not affect the good relationship within the family.

Gambling is FUN, don't QUIT!

Is there a need to WHY in this one? family of gamblers needed Why to ask who would quit?

giving to consider that they are all gamblers meaning less work or both addicted , I think the best contender to quit is the one who are less lucky , because this is the mean of living and money matters here.

but must also consider the one that has self control and not just winning to gamble more.

If both of them can be responsible when playing gambling and can manage their finances well while managing family affairs, they don't need to stop gambling. As long as they can still manage everything well, that means gambling is not an obstacle for them.
But what you have to pay attention to is the children because if the children are still in the development stage, they will need more attention from their parents. The husband or wife should pay more attention to their children than gambling.
But if they think that one of them would be better off quitting gambling, they should have a discussion to determine who should quit. It would be better if both of them stopped gambling so they could focus on raising their children.

If they do it this way, there is no problem. But it is a rare situation, statistically rare, I would say. I think that if it happens in couples who gamble it is because they do it infrequently, like going to play bingo once a month. But in casinos you very rarely see two that look like a couple.

The way the gamblers OP talks about it, I think it looks more likely to end badly than to gamble responsibly, and, in the case of quitting, it is better for both to do it. If both of them have this hobby, if only one of them quits, it will lead to resentment and bad feelings.

I remember very well the moment when I decided to quit poker. My condition could be described as complete exhaustion. It all started very well, and I believed that I would be able to earn it on a regular basis, but then something went wrong and the earnings became very small, a streak of failures began. I borrowed money from friends, but inside I always had the feeling that I was doing the wrong thing. After four months, I had to finish poker. I have made my conclusions and now I stay away from poker rooms.

That's a tough journey. So what are you doing now? are you still gambling, and what game?

Honestly, if gambling is already affecting us, we have to quti early before it will make a damage. And with regards to OP's matter being raised, it's a wife and a husband are both gambler, it's too negative although I would say there's nothing wrong with that, but most people I know where both parents are gamblers, they end up struggling financially.

Depending on the situation, if the gambling activity doesn't interfere with their relationship I think it's not a problem. But if they both gamble and the situation is that they are in trouble and often fight because of this, both of them must stop gambling and find a solution to their problems. Because there have been many incidents where families have fallen apart because either one or both partners became a gambling addict and it destroyed their finances.

There is no answer to this question.

Scenario 1: Husband will stop, considering he earns more money than the wife but decides to quit to give way to the wife's gambling activities. His daily life activity will only focus on house - work - house cycle. Which is different from his old habits including having gambling activity. In the long run, the husband will complain and have a possibility to be the root of the problem with the wife.

Scenario 2: The wife will stop, letting his husband to independently gamble using the family finances and enjoy while the wife focuses on work to earn money for the family. Again, the same with the above scenario, the wife will complain about this set-up as she continues to work and meet the needs of the family at home while the husband still has the time to gamble and at least has the time for himself to enjoy gambling.

The only thing they can do is to be a responsible gambler, bet the amount they can afford to lose or spend only the extra money they have. This case can be discussed between the husband and wife and they can set their limitation/boundaries so they can continue to manage their finances.

If both of them are involved in gambling in a family, it will be a big problem for their family. The family must take responsibility for proper management. Either the husband or wife. Moreover, if there are children in the family for gambling, they will not grow naturally. If a gambler loses in gambling, he cannot be normal in many cases. So of course one of them has to take a break from gambling or they can give time to their family shiftily. After a specified time, the family must either take responsibility for the family. However, it can usually be difficult. It may even be where the gambler cannot leave the gambling at that time. I am sure that if the family is addicted to the gamble in the family, it will be difficult for them to create a suitable environment if their family has children.

It depends to a situation, if there's a worst case scenario that will ruins the whole family, I think it's better to both of them to quit gambling. quitting may be hard especially if there's a symptoms of addiction but both of them should know that they have a child who needs guidance. If they are having difficulties in quitting because both of them are stuck in the house, I think it's better husband will look for a stable job to divert gambling  activity to working activity, same goes to the wife, she needs to divert her attention to taking care of her child and doing house chores and such other things instead of gambling.

On those conditions, it's not advised for any side of the party to continue gambling. There are always two sides to every story. While others may think that it's wrong, another family may grow happier through gambling together. However, if they're just newbie gamblers who are not experienced in gambling, then it isn't worth the argument, that they should stop gambling. I'm always on the side of experienced gamblers, who as a family enjoy the fun of gambling. And have all the required strategies needed to be responsible in gambling. The risk is always high if one side gets addicted, and the other spouse doesn't notice it. The finances of the family will be detrimental. Thereby affecting the success of the family. But, if a responsible gambler figures out that his wife also gambles, he shouldn't fidget or push his wife to jump out of her gambling addiction.

It'll only affect her and could lead her to gambling secretly, and expose her to problem gambling. Which won't be a careful move by or from the husband.

The right thing to do is to watch her play and also limit how much she should spend on gambling. The experienced gambler also has to control his wife not to get addicted. Saving the family from a financial problem. Telling one party to stop, will cause lots of trouble. Like, who would stop? gambling isn't bad. Excessive of it is. However, there's a misconception about the notion of gambling and people need to change how to perceive gambling. I'm surprised not to have seen a comment that says gambling can help in uniting the family. When two spouses are in a similar niche, they'll have a better rapport of themselves. Therefore, gluing them together, and making them love each other the more.

Its critical to acknowledge the seriousness of the situation while discussing gambling in a married setting, particularly when children are involved. Can both partners bet sensibly without endangering their cash and family time? Very unlikely. How come? Due to its intrinsic unpredictability and addictive nature, gambling frequently progresses beyond light amusement.

Think about this for a moment: in order to balance the equation, should one spouse leave? The need of family welfare should take precedence over who quits for whom. One may experience less financial burden if they cease, but what about the psychological and emotional costs? Gambling by its very nature has the potential to upset trust, responsibility, and family dynamics.

We must consider if gambling is still a hobby or if it has turned into a crutch. If the latter, expert assistance may be required. It's not enough to simply give up; you also need to identify the underlying problems and take decisive action against them. The family cannot regain a healthy equilibrium till that point.

If your answer doesn't make sense then why continue? Lol. But, if you choose man, you will also look biased because you are also a man :D. So indeed that it was hard to decide. But, why can we just choose both? It will also help the couple because the other will be jealous if one will only quit and the other stays the same. They can have different opinions or alibi's on why they deserved to continue but gambling is not the best solution for those.

It will be better if they find much better, or they will just face those problems they currently experiencing, (if ever they have). I already answered it and others too, so there is no need for a professional here.

I think this has never been discussed in this forum, if I were a husband who had a wife who gambled maybe I would stop gambling for the sake of the child because I know that my wife will definitely follow me in the end, after all why have the same habit when Gambling is actually not the only way to find entertainment, women can get lots of entertainment, for example going to the salon or shopping instead of gambling.

Personally, I probably wouldn't be looking for a wife who is a gambler because that wouldn't be good for me and my child. The point is, if my wife and I still want to gamble, make sure we don't pay attention to our children at all and never show them gambling. and bad habits towards children, but if that can't be done, it's best to start from yourself. the fact is that my wife is not a gambler but she is good at managing all my gambling budgets.  ;)

That's a tricky situation. There can be justification that both of them are responsible gamblers and parents and they are not neglecting their duties to their kids. But at the same time, if you're going to realize that they're in a bad situation if it's going to affect their parenthood and the kids will see that they're gamblers, I think that's the time that they need to adjust. But are they going to continue while the kids won't ask questions related to gambling because they can see that their parents are gambling? I don't know, I am not yet in that situation so for me only time can tell how they're going to adjust to the situation.

Being a parent with a lot of obligations needs to weigh a lot of things and people might say that they're not earning with gambling. Let's get real guys there are people who truly see gambling as a source of income and they are united on it because they both know the ins and outs of it. They won't get married not knowing that they're gambling or probably they even met because of a casino or both of them is their hobby. Proper communication should be done on this part, maybe a give and take for both of them. Today, the guy can gamble and tomorrow it's the wife. Something like that and I believe that things like this can be sort with any possible good solution.

Previously, I had never encountered a husband and wife who actively gambled. If this incident happened to my family or relatives, I would ask the wife to stop gambling. The reason is of course to have more time to take care of the house and children. Husbands must also be able to limit gambling activities by leaving time to earn a living to meet family needs. Being active in gambling places is fine, but there are other responsibilities that need to be taken into account, if husband and wife always spend time gambling, then who will take care of their children.

You sounds like gambling is bad for someone who's already married especially if they already have a child. If you worried your child might become a gambler before he reach 18 years old, you must avoid to gamble in front your kids.

What about this one: Do you completely stop having sex with your wife after your is kids born? I believe the answer is no, but you did it when your kids is sleeping/away and you avoid to discuss about sex in front your kids.

This is a tie, I mean both of them are in this mess together as a couple and whatever they are doing about it, they must do it together, else the marriage is even at risk. Peradventure one of them quits the gambling for the other, the quitting partner might start seeing the other person a wasteful, unserious and irresponsible partner considering the level of addiction they might have reached earlier. They need each other's support in sanitizing their home and remember that these kids copy everything they see their parents doing very fast. From my own point of view, they cannot support themselves properly if only one party quits and the other continues. The best way is for the couple to quit out rightly in the interest of the family while they support each other positively in the journey of their rehabilitation. it is not an easy decision, but in my opinion, its probably the best decision for the sanity of the family.

It seems that cases like this are quite rare but there must be some out there. You are the head of the family and that means you have the power for every decision you want to make especially in your family relationship, a good decision but not that easy, your wife can reject the decision of you telling her to stop right? it is possible, especially if your wife is already involved with a high level of gambling or almost touching addiction. And the other thing is that it could be that your wife turns all the decisions over to you, or I mean she also wants you to quit the gambling activity, limiting is good but I think it's better if you can agree to quit together, but on the other hand it all depends on you and your wife especially in terms of approach in solving the problem.

I don't think there is a better choice between who should quit in a case like this than both quitting at the same time. The husband acts as a breadwinner and with his gambling habit it could be that the family experiences a decline in the economy or means a lack of money to meet needs, and if the husband stops and his wife does not then another possibility is that the money given by the husband for the needs of the kitchen and his children could be diverted to gambling by his wife.

It gets easier to quit when you not really been enmeshed into gambling that deep and your addiction level is at the surface level otherwise quiting gambling or any other kind of addictive practices it doesn't just happen overnight, it takes a rigorous and conscious gradually processes to eventually leave totally.

On the other hand, when it involves a husband and wife in the gambling of a thing the situation is very technical to handle even as it's not bad that both spouse gamble, no matter how the struggle to maintain responsible gambling practices there will still be key areas of the family life their gambling life will affect the family negatively which won't happen to be so if it's just one of them that's into gamble. That's why I feel one should quit but who will it be is just the hard nut to crack here.

In such a situation, I think different and fair solutions can be applied rather than focusing on the solution of a single person quitting gambling. For example;

Both husband and wife can simultaneously stop gambling. In this way, equality will be achieved between both individuals and the budget used by both individuals for gambling will be included in the family budget and will contribute to the family budget.

As a second suggestion, I can recommend that both individuals take turns for gambling. Both the husband and the wife can continue to gamble regularly within a certain period of time with taking turns. In this way, it will be ensured that each individual gambles less and an equality will be created as in my previous suggestion.

The third and final suggestion I can make is to divide the budget that this couple can afford for gambling into two and resolve it so that both the husband and the wife gamble. For example, let's say this couple has a budget of 1,000 units available for gambling each month. This budget can be divided between 500-500 between two people, instead of being consumed by a single individual so that both individuals can gamble.

I think that by using such solution methods as I have mentioned, it can be ensured that both individuals gamble equally and fairly and that both individuals can reach a solution without giving up gambling.

If both husband and wife gamble in the same family, it means that they are very experienced in gambling and for them gambling is an alternative source of income. If those family members feel that gambling will not have any bad effect on their child then why would they give up gambling. Or if they think that gambling may have bad effects on their children during childhood, they do not need to give up gambling because they will not discuss gambling in front of children and they will be careful not to influence gambling on their children. If the parents are careful and manage their activities well then I don't think it will have any effect on the child of that family. Hopefully the gambling will not have a bad effect on the child when he learns to understand

I know a case where a married couple bets on sports on boxing and football, but they only bet on their favorite team.For them, this is just another way of relaxation or even a hobbyThey are not gambling people and they have no problems with bets. With the situation as indicated I haven’t encountered it in the starting post yet, but one thing is for sure. If games take up most of your time and finances, you need to stop, as it will only get worse.

If both of them have an understanding of the risk involved in gambling and having the understanding of how gambling can ruin their life and can manage all that risk,  then I don't think there be anything wrong and no one needs to quit form the other if their both can properly manage their gambling involvement and activities and not allow it to interfere with their marital responsibilities and demands,  it then ok for both to continue with their gambling activities.

But in as much as we encourage such,  if at any point the spouses discover the overbearing pressure of their gambling activities on them,  it then advises that both should resign from gambling at the same time and look out for some other recreational activities that can help them better. The

There's no gambler that'll proudly say that he's never had bad days in gambling whereby he ends up losing a lot of money after trying to recover his initial losses and that's why it's absolutely unwise for a couple to engage in gambling because they might end up losing all the money that was supposed to sustain the family in gambling. Again if a couple engage in gambling, it'll be very difficult for them to control their gambling activities in front of their kids and as we all know, gambling in front of kids is absolutely unwise as it'll increase the chances of making the kids gambling addicts in the future.

If two individuals of opposite gender decides to come together and become couples, there are some personal initial engagements they'll have to sacrifice to make the marriage work and if the both of them engages in gambling, then they'll have quit in other to raise a happy good home for themselves and more importantly for their kids.

This may not be entirely true, if the couple is engaged in gambling, they may have experiences but we cannot say they are very experienced in gambling in a way that they can manage themselves and is able to make gambling as source of income.  The couple might be engaging in gambling not for a source of income but rather it is their vice for entertainment.



I agree, as long as the couple does not experience any negative thing from gambling and they are able to meet their need, there is no reason for one of them to quit.  And if ever gambling gives them negative effect, why not both of them quit gambling? I think it is the better solution than only one quitting gambling.  If one quit and the other stay in gambling I think it will make no difference because sooner or later the one who quit will think that it is unfair and eventually rejoin his partner in gambling engagement.

In my personal opinion, it's yourself or the man's side. The husband is the leader of the family, and he is obliged to set an example with good decisions. Husbands have a big responsibility in managing and guiding their wife's children in a better direction, such as managing finances and other important matters. However, it would be good if they both started to reduce the intensity of their gambling.

I think this issue is quite challenging. The best approach is for the couple to sit down and talk, and both should agree to stop gambling. If one of them continues, it will be difficult for the other to accept quitting when they see the partner still engaged in gambling every day. The question is whether the gambling addiction has taken such a toll that the spouse is truly ready to give it up.

Another solution could be for both to allocate a small amount of time on weekends to gamble together as a recreational activity, satisfying both of their passions. This way, it won't affect family responsibilities or child care. I find it challenging to impose a unilateral decision for one of them to quit in this situation.

Before I even say anything, this gambling thing in the family reminds me of someone, he loves his wife but she is a gambler who is addicted to gambling, and she became a huge burden for him because she almost make them go broke for live, I think it's bad if both husband and wife are into gambling.

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Who is going to protect one from getting addicted? Anyways, I hope they are just small time gambler who have things that they are doing in life? I don't like the sound of it but what can I do? My advice is they should not rely in gambling for any reason, if they plan for a better days they shouldn't try to get it from gambling, and they should both stick to a certain amount for gambling only.

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Responsibility is the first target for every responsible family man, they should expect less from gambling and think about their children and the family they have, happiness is the biggest gift of life, don't trade it with gambling addiction, to avoid the family going separate at the end of the day, they should be very careful with gambling.

Initially, women are created to be home builders, pillars of the family and the people meant to take care of the basic domestic work & children at home, and as such, it will be very bad for someone who is meant to be a builder, pillar and carer of the family to little or no chance for the family due to gambling. This scenario is far different from if had both parties been employed whereby the wife's salary is 3 times the salary of her husband's, the you asked who should resign, then everybody would have said let the husband resigned, since the wife earns more than 3 times his salary. But in this case where both are mere gamblers, it's nice if the wife gives up. (But if she is a very good sport betting analyst, then she could be analysing games for his husband).

wow this is getting more interesting I love this perspective of yours  but before I build on it I'll like to correct the perception of men now still having that mentality of women being house keepers and care givers of the children of the home only, in today's world the man can always come in, like in modern society it's like a 50-50 responsibility of the home-care between the man and woman. 

Now on the gambling side, I'll have agreed with you to an extent that the woman should quit for the man because both aren't working for the time being but if she's the one very good at it with a creative analytical knowledge on the activity why not she just continue and the husband who's less good quit for her, rather than she now assisting him to analyze games before he plays them. Isn't it as same thing as both of them gambling still?

Propose a solution to this case, such as tossing a coin to choose a job. If they understand gambling, they should also accept that game and their life together according to their life rules.

But I haven't really encountered this situation in real life where a pair of teams can sustain this field. But there will also be many ways to share difficulties in family life, and both may also need to rebalance and pay attention to their existing lives together.

Gambling can appear in many stories that I find very interesting, but in the end, if it gets too unbalanced, it will destroy our lives.

This has nothing good to bear when both parents involved in gambling. In this situation, I think this depends on how the two deals with gambling and their financial status. For poor and less fortunate couples, I think it is reasonable to quit as the family's financial needs might be compromised.

It's important to consider the well-being of the entire family when it comes to gambling addiction. It's not fair for only one person to quit while the other continues to gamble. Both parties should leave gambling behind in order to maintain fairness and prevent any further harm to the family, especially the children. It's not an easy habit to break, and the temptation to gamble again can be high if one person continues to do so. It's best to work together to overcome the addiction and create a healthier, happier environment for everyone involved.

This is a problem that could really be just only be solved out by theirs on which if they are really that dealing with gambling and find out themselves that getting addicted already then they are really that putting their marriage on danger or simply they would really be messing up with their family relationship specially into their child. We do know that when it comes to gambling dealing then it would really be always pertaining
about money spending and with spending then we do know that it would really be ending up on making use of those funds which arent supposed to be used in gambling. You are really just that basically putting up
your own family in danger.The worst thing is that you both husband and wife do really make the same thing.

If it turns out that  you do both gamble but dont able to forget on the responsibilities that you do have in your family then it should be fine but it would be always best
that there should really be a quality time in between members because family wont really be something be called to be loving and caring if they are really that
doing something solo with their own or simply having no harmony.

You've got a very complicated scenario, to be honest as I seldom see husband and wife gambles. With this scenario, I think their children are not well taken care of as their time is focused on gambling.

If one should quit, it should be the wife so she could take care of their household, besides a woman who gambles a lot is not common and considered immoral in our country, don't know in your place but here in our place, a woman gambler is tag as irresponsible and not a wife material.

If there's one who should quit then for me it's the wife since often she is the one managing the finances. Therefore if the wife is a gambler, she might get tempted to spend their household budget into gambling (but this still depends on the level of her gambling activity). On the other side, if both gamble just to have fun, I don't think one should quit to give way for the other. Communication and understanding each other are the key so that they still prioritize their family in general. And just gamble during free time using a money meant for their leisure.

If they are rich it's okay for them to gamble as long as they are on the point that they consider gambling as an entertainment only.

However, if they are both struggling financially and yet they are still gambling, most likely the family will be affected, and guess what, their kids will likely become gamblers when they grow up as that's what they see as they are growing up. What the parents are doing is a big influence of the children as they grow up.

I believe this kind of scenario is not new, I mean in less developed countries, we can see a lot of families like that, they gamble even if they have financial problems, and it's one of the reasons why poverty has increase. Even in our country, there's this government aid for the poor which they'll receive monthly, and instead of people are being help, it makes them more lazy as they are just relying on it and even use it in gambling.

If they gamble in a proper way, I think they can both take some time to gamble by taking terms. One can gamble for X period of time and another can gamble for Y period of time. So no one is left behind and they can both enjoy gambling while also maintaining family matters or other kinds of stuff. But if they have come to a term where they think that continuing the gambling habit might hurt their relation and one of them decides to quit gambling for that sake, they should do it. But doing it forcefully will lead to many problems.

It has to be that person's own individual choice to quit gambling. Or they can both quit gambling in order to support each other.

The truth is that gambling is an activity that is not recommended, no matter if you come with the intention of seeking entertainment because something always cannot be fully predicted, I mean some people have become victims that involvement just for entertainment does not always rule out the possibility that you will also end up badly like people who are already addicted or you will end up in the same position as them. And if we have to choose between the husband or the wife who should quit first then your statement is quite reasonable, a wife has a fairly important role in terms of managing the budget for the cost of home needs that are provided by the husband from the results of the work that produces.

And obviously if a wife does not immediately stop then the possibility for things that are not wanted is very likely to happen, the fear is that she could use most of the budget provided by her husband to be allocated to gambling as you have said above and that is possible, and another thing is in terms of good communication that is really needed so that everything can run in balance, especially in the allocation of the budget between gambling and needs, do not be one-sided in the sense that they are more concerned with gambling, awareness must really be emphasized.

If that is the case, then both of them should quit.

Parents have the natural obligation of supporting their family financially. If they cannot fulfill this natural obligation to the point that it impairs their livelihood and financials, then both of them should not have married in the first place. They have now the responsibility of having all the necessary financials as security in the event of an emergency. If their gambling addiction/habits affect their relationship with their family, then this will pose a potential problem for them in the future.

In conclusion, both of them should avoid gambling for the betterment of their financials. But, if they can allocate a certain budget for this habit to the point that it is the money that they can lose and they have the extra money for emergency purposes, then they can continue such habit provided that it should not be destructive to the family's expenses.

At first, this situation should be what both couples should have discussed before getting married. It is alright they both gambled responsibly and should also be ready to give it up when children starts coming.

I would prefer that the woman quits gambling because she spends much time with the kids and to cut down cost in gambling budget. The both of them can not do that at the same time even if they both depend on gambling wins to survive, it is risky because out of desperation, one of them or both of them can end up using funds meant for house up keep when it gets to that point. 

As a matter of fact, it is ideal that both couples quit when they start parenting. They both could draft out a quit plan for themselves which they could gradually hid to. Since they are two, the plan could be effective because they both would need each other as a reminder and that consciousness would be there that the are quitting gambling as a result of their family.

People that have a compulsion or have form a habit should probably take a step back. The saying "everything in moderation" should apply to all parts of your life, especially with the vices. It can become a very expensive habit very quickly and depending on your game it can be devastating. If you are playing a game which is weighted against you, like most casino games, then the longer you play the more detrimental it will be to your finances and you may end up chasing them in a downward spiral for a long time. Better to abstain from it entirely if you wish to quit, rather than trying to reduce.

I believe that there are different sets of gamblers inside the gambling world, if the both couples are not an addicted gamblers they and they gamble ones in a month or twice in a whole month that means they should continue like that.
But if the both of them are active gamblers that are well addicted to gamble that means the both of them should stop gambling if only they can not control their gambling habits or nature.
Although, the woman should not gamble as her husband is already a gambler, why I said this is because a day might come when the woman might use money for bills to gamble (and you know what will be the end of it), and still, gamblers easily get addicted to gamble mostly when he or she is also with another gambler, but a gambler might control the love of gamble that he or she have when he's with someone who is not or doesn't like gamblers

It's better for them, husband and wife because if they were parents, they would definitely be busier with their children. By stopping gambling, they will have more time to take care of their children, and that is not only a job for the wife but also a job for the husband. Even though her husband works, it is not a problem because the children are their children to whom their parents must give attention. By stopping gambling, this will give them the awareness that taking care of children is much more valuable than just gambling. It's not a matter of who should stop but rather responsibility, and that lies with the husband and wife and not just one of them.

They should run a monthly contest, whoever is less profitable must quit.
But seriously, are we talking about some gambling addiction here? If excessive gambling is disrupting their lives, both should quit obviously. It's unlikely any of them is making a profit, so it's just ruining a family for the chase of dopamine — a deplorable picture.

Case-to-case basis. The answer depends on how responsible they are even while being both gamblers.

Case A: If they are gambling for long but outside gambling, they do their responsibilities properly, I don't see any reason why should they quit.

Case B: Let's say they are worse to the point that now reaching a financial crisis because of gambling, someone or somebody should step into these families and help them. The reason why they should be helped by others is, these gamblers won't stop doing gambling as they are now fall on the gambling trap.

You are right that everything depends on the man as the husband who is also the head of the family and is clearly responsible for managing all forms of finances as well as providing education and direction to all family members consisting of wife and children.
But in this case, it is about husband and wife who both like to gamble, so the solution being fully placed on the husband alone will not be able to resolve it and will only cause disputes.
But your last sentence is indeed true and they both must be able to start reducing the intensity of their respective gambling slowly so that in the future there will be changes for the better and they can become family that is protected from all the bad effects of gambling.
Occasionally for fun it fine, but if both of them really gamble often then it could cause serious problems in the future.

Everything starts with joint action which will result in easier success in eliminating gambling activities for each of them.

When it reaches the point where the husband and wife are actively gambling, it will have a huge negative effect on the family. Households no longer have balance, family finances begin to shrink and children begin to lack attention and affection from their parents. The gambling habit of a husband/wife is the beginning of the destruction of a family, their selfishness can cause their children to become depressed and their intelligence level begins to be hampered. They have to set restrictions on gambling simultaneously in order to maintain family finances and have more time with their children.

in this scenario it makes more sense than what the OP said, the husband and wife are gambling, but looking at the OP story, it seems like the husband and wife dont have children yet, so they spend their time as they please just gambling and this will have a bad impact in the long term and is completely me supports your argument about it being better to immediately become a parent for your children, which means it is better to stop gambling and start planning to build a harmonious household with small children in the house so that fun or happiness will come from your children, not from gambling anymore.

I realize that maybe the husband and wife who gamble spend a lot of money on gambling, they only keep themselves busy looking for fun so they just need something else that can give them other happiness to stop gambling activities and the presence of children in the family will be able to change everything but all that It depends on a husband mindset whether he has a goal of living with his partner happily together without gambling and if the husband realizes this he will start to stop gambling and force his wife to stop immediately and plan future goals to build a more dynamic household and thinking about her child's future.

whatever happens if a couple gambles, it seems like it will be very difficult if the wife has to start early because the husband is the head of the household so whatever happens it is the husband who must be able to set the best example for his family.

Yes, it's true that when it comes to the western world, the duty in the family is been shared 50/50 among both parties, but yet that still doesn't disprove the fact that out out every 100 families, we can not argue the fact that women does the major domestic jobs, and probably take care of the children at home, both in the Eastern, Southern and Northern regions, which is a more reason why women should give up gambling to men in this scenario of yours, because according to the creation story in the Bible, we are meant to understand that women are meant to support and not act as the sole bread winner of the family when the man is still vibrant and active.

(i.e women does the work of a supporter).


Yes, inasmuch as a woman trying to assist is still an involvement in gambling, but yet it still can't be compared with when she comes into gambling full time, as by assisting, she is likely to have more time to take care of the children and other domestic or work related stuff.

Correct. Reducing could just end up worse. Or, maybe switching to sports gambling will be an optional course. That way a gambler won't be continually betting unlike how it is with casino games.
I've seen a friend who got addicted to slots and while it is our rest to drink beers and talk about life, he is just in the corner not talking at all, just playing his game on his smartphone. It's sad to see people ending up like that and we tried to make him pause but it doesn't work.
What more if both parents are doing this? I think it will become a family that doesn't even talk about their lives anymore because they are too inclined with their gambling habits. They may not be gambling addicts but still, it could ruin a family because there's no more focus on how a family should be. Even the kids might get affected by this kind of environment. It is not healthy.

Every parent will certainly set themselves as an example for their children, so it would be better for them to set a good example for their children about good things, if they as parents carry out bad habits it will certainly make their children imitate those things of course. We as parents will not want this, so it would be more important to eliminate these habits so that their children do not copy the bad habits of their parents.
Raising our own children will certainly make us know more about our development so it would be better to stop gambling and take care of the family we have because this is a responsibility for both husband and wife.

Both parents aren't supposed to be gamblers as that can be dangerous due to the problem of addiction that is linked with gambling and when both parents become addict, it'll put the family at a risk of divorce. Technically one is meant to quit but who'll be willing to give up their hobby for the other, the person that quit meant feel bad when the other person is enjoying him or her self and if it's the hundred that didn't quit but he isn't bring enough money to the house that'll be a problem.

If both parents can manage their gambling perfectly and it won't interfere with their family time or make them to use family funds for their personal interest, both of them can continue gambling. It's all about understanding and planning for a family to work therefore both parents has to go for therapy and a professional will examine both of them to give them a suggestion if they'll both quit, or one party to quit also if they both can keep gambling as there's no bad effect.

A strange question for a crypto forum, I would consider this topic suitable for forums about relationships or the like.

Firstly, here you can replace gambling with anything: any hobby, even any job that requires attention more than 8 hours a day, business, building a career, etc. Both spouses can do this (even at this stage, serious time management and separation of priorities are already necessary) and when children appear, they again must find a balance between all activities since there are only 24 hours in a day and you cannot help but pay attention to children, which means a waste time for certain activities should be reduced.

Secondly, these are purely personal issues and there cannot be universal advice here. In some couples, the husband may give up his hobby/career for the sake of his wife, or vice versa, in some couples one of the spouses would rather get divorced than give up his job/hobby. All options are normal if two people agreed in this way (even if it’s a divorce haha). There are many relationships that suit those who are in them, but for example they would not suit you, but what difference does it make if you look at it from the outside? There's nothing to discuss here.

Indeed, balancing life's elements, be it gambling, career, or hobbies, is a personal journey, riddled with complexities. But to say that the conversation has nothing to do with a crypto forum isnt taking into account how complicated the link between money and relationships can be. gambling, especially when it comes to cryptocurrency, isnt just a pleasure; its an exciting activity that often blurs the line between smart risk-taking and careless abandon.

Here's an idea: a crypto enthusiast who is very interested in trade is having trouble with a relationship. Whats the matter? Not only is it about allocating time, but also about values and how much danger someone is willing to take. People lose more than just time when they get involved in high-stakes gambling. They lose confidence, stability, and often peace of mind as well. In relationships, people naturally want safety, which is very different from gambling, where things can change quickly. So, while you say "theres nothing to discuss," I disagree. The area where financial risks and peaceful relationships meet is a maze that needs to be explored, especially in a place where financial risks are commonplace.

In this case, it was good for the wife to stop gambling as it was not good to see especially if they had kids already at least one of the family would take responsibility for handling the kids. Time and family bonding are very important because if both are gambling, the impact on their relationship is not good. Even if the father/husband left gambling, he should still manage to spend less time gambling as this will help to have a strong bond and family communication which is very important.

I have a friend who had a similar experience where everyone in his family was addicted to gambling, they were playing all day and didn't really care about the consequences of their actions and surely some of them got in trouble for the same reasons and now are in jails without getting any chance of parole. Because of gambling, they became greedy thieves and they are taking it a little bit too far by entering the houses of their victims and getting everything inside as much as possible just to fund their addictions, but drugs also have some contributions to their actions because they pair it with their addictions to gambling that eventually lead them to get in jail.

In a situation, when both partners gamble, and rises a question whether one of partners should quit, I think it would be better to find a compromise. Finding compromises, adopt to your partners needs and wishes is the perfect solution for healthy relationship. Gambling should not be the thing that will destroy relationships and families. Couple can gamble simultaneously, they can have gambling shifts, they can gamble different games, they can share duties. I think no one should quit, or quit only as an act of sacrifice. Because the person who quit, can later blame the person who has left for losses for example.

If both husband and wife are gamblers in a family, it takes a very bad shape.  If they are lucky then they can win a lot of money otherwise their family will be completely destroyed. Because gambling is a very bad thing here no one gets any guarantee of winning and it depends a lot on luck so in this case both husband and wife should give up gambling. Because both are addicted to gambling, if one quits gambling and the other continues to gamble, seeing that he will fall back into gambling.  So in this case just giving up one's gambling will not be a solution. The solution requires both to give up gambling

It is truly the responsibility of both the husband and wife to look after their children. This alone is a responsibility that must be accorded the children by their parents so in that case of both parents comes together to sort out things for themselves and decides to stop gambling, I think that would be nice because they would have time for their family and this would help them to save funds or using it for something good in the family or  providing for their kids because the funds that go in for gambling would be channeled or diverted for house use which would be of good advantage to the growing family. Maybe the gambling budget they already made could be able  to invest in it.

By learning to be parents, they can learn to be more responsible in taking care of their household, especially if they soon have children. With the presence of their children, they will make long-term plans to prepare their children to become good people. If they don't stop gambling immediately, there will definitely be problems between them because we know that someone who has been gambling for a long time tends to become a gambling addict. This is very dangerous for them because they may already be gambling addicts that they may not realize.

Married couples who gamble must be able to stop their gambling activities as quickly as possible before things get bad and they cannot stop. They also don't need to gamble to get pleasure because when they have children, there will be other pleasures that cannot be described. That's what they have to realize so that they can both stop their gambling activities. No matter how difficult it is, they have to keep trying, and if they don't have children, they can change their mindset to get pleasure from gambling because if they can get pleasure from their family, it will be more useful. At least family relationships will be more harmonious, and there will be emotional closeness between husband, wife, and children.

That's why both of them should decide to stop their gambling activities immediately, and it's not just the husband or wife who stops gambling but both of them. That could give them the opportunity to change things for the better. And if they are going to have children, they can focus more on educating their children.

If a husband and wife can set a good example for their children, their children will also follow and imitate them because their children will definitely remember the guidance from their parents until they grow up. This requires awareness from parents to be able to pay attention to this problem because, after all, gambling will not always provide opportunities for them. Children may become aware of their parents' gambling habits, so they may try to follow them. If their children indulge in gambling even without any restrictions, it will cause problems for their children. Raising children today is more difficult than it was a few years ago, so parents must now be willing to learn more about guiding their children.

If a husband and wife lose their responsibility in taking care of their children and household, they can also lose their responsibility in gambling, especially since gambling can also cause them to lose large amounts of money. If husband and wife can stop gambling and commit to taking care of their children and household together, it will be more useful because at least they will make plans that they will carry out together. And the allocation of money for gambling can also be reduced for the welfare of their family so that they can make their family happier without anyone gambling.

Yes, I agree with what you said; they should be role models for their children or other people. They know that it will not bring anything good to their marital relationship. They may get along because they are both gamblers, but for sure, if that is true, that couple probably always fights when they are at home together.

So, it's only right that it's better that they both change together and stop gambling little by little, or make them do it so that if they still gamble, they don't play gambling every week. They will reduce their gambling habit.

Regarding married couples who gamble and look after the children, it is obviously more important to look after the children and it is highly recommended that both stop gambling.

Granted, the proceeds from gambling are huge and they could just hire a babysitter and continue their gambling.
However, if the husband and wife are already completely addicted and forget to take care of the children or even to the point of neglecting the children, one of the things that will make them realize is the huge loss from gambling so that they can think and prioritize the children who are also a fortune besides money and money.

Oh, this is a situation of attention that parents will give to their children; it's a total different case, nah. If the father is a gambler and the money is also a gambler, aside from gambling, they might also have other works that they do to provide food for the family.
 
Both can gamble, but they will minimise the time they both spend on board. This is because the children will both need the attention of both parents, even if it's for a while, so it's not something that one person will give all attention to gambling and allow the next person to be in charge of the house.
 
Unless it's a family where they have a newborn baby, then I can say the child might need more attention from the mother than the father of the house, and for the time being, the mother will have to leave gambling completely if possible, as it might distract her from performing her motherly duties in the house on time.

Advising the both couples to stop gambling is not bad because they have a family to cater for and as such should devote their time in doing that as their family and marriage is still very young.
I believe they would have lots of expenses to incur and possibly their income level might warrant them to stop gambling so that they can be able to cater for their family and meet up with the needs of their child(ren). This measures could help the save up more funds since their gambling budget is no longer in existence as per their agreement.

We think that you should not get into gambling or betting if you are addicted impulsive personality who can place a bet with a big sum of money, without thinking it through, and then stress out a lot about loss.

The wife plays a major role in keeping a family together and saving the husband from bad addictions. But when there is a wife in a family who is addicted to gambling, it has a very serious draw, it is true and I agree with this statement. So now if they have to get out of gambling then first of all the wife has to give up gambling then the husband can gradually leave it under the control of the wife. So in this case both have to try and promise with confidence that they will give up gambling otherwise they will not be able to get out of this gambling addiction. So here the role of the wife should be more about quit gambling

Everything depends how they take gambling, if they are very discipline with the way they play gambling by not allowing gambling to control them I don't think their gambling lifestyle will be a problem to their financial life, but in the case whereby the both partners are gambling freaks and addicted I think it is very important for both of the quit.

I have just seen men who are addicted to gamble which they spend all they have with money that is supposed to be used for an important thing.  If this can affect a family just from one person,  think about when two partners are addicted to gambling, that means they can sell out their properties to satisfy their gambling urge  or to play always just to raise money from gambling.  

But I don't  see it good if both partners plays gambling. One person needs to be free from gambling to help the other partners when help is needed to stay way from gambling.

They can hire a babysitter, but the problem is that they can't pay attention to their children because their attention has been consumed by gambling.  They're not doing well anymore. Knowing people these days are hard to trust cause I’ve seen a lot on the news that babysitters abuse the children that they babysit.  I mean you’re lucky if you can find a nice and responsible babysitter to look over your children.


Anyways, back to the topic, I think that one of them should stop in order to balance their hobbies in gambling and make time for their family. I just think that the husband can continue to gamble but he should report how much he earns from playing and how much he spends in gambling since these involve some money, and since his wife is also fond of gambling then they will make a greater teamwork. You know the one that couple did, brainstorming or showing each other’s tactics on how to win the game in the next play.


On the other hand the wife can take care of their children and if they have free time, they can gamble as their bonding as a couple, but they should set a limit so that they don't get too addicted to gambling and they can spend more time with their family.

If both husband and wife are addicted to gambling in a family then that family does not seem to prosper. The happiness and peace of a family is lost due to gambling. Those once involved in gambling can never quit gambling. Gambling is very dangerous.  Due to which family happiness is lost to those who are addicted to winning. When husband and wife gamble they will go very badly.  When the two gamble together, they have no one to rule them, for which they become very reckless.

This is so unfortunate. But they just reap what they sow. Being addicted in gambling really forces a lot of people to do bad things just to sustain their habits. That's why it's important to know your boundaries in gambling otherwise, you might fall into the trap of doing anything you don't think you could just to continuously fund your gambling addiction.

Gamblers and other people who have hobbies and some sort of occasional vices can still enjoy the present without compromising and sacrificing the future that is waiting ahead of them. We are always free to choose what we want to do, but the consequences can't be picked by us. So gamble responsibly.

Well, if they are good at what they do (if they are sports bettors or poker players) maybe they will prosper... who knows? It's hard to make any conclusions without all the factors. Anyway, people have passions and hobbies, and if they are careful with money, like if they know how much they can spend on things they like, I don't think they will get into any problems. In the end, it's all about being responsible... some people are responsible, they know how much they have and how much they can spend on something. And if people are reckless they will get into huge problems sooner or later, whatever they do.

But on the other hand, we must understand that one of the causes that can finally make them both enter the addiction phase is because of excessive actions in responding to gambling, mindset and beliefs become the main problem why they can enter such a phase. This means that I think it is quite difficult to be able to achieve the word "good" in terms of gambling management although it can always be a possibility, but most of them have difficulty in doing or implementing some actions for prevention.

The difficulty of applying responsibility to gambling activities makes a person get more involved, unable to accept the final result that can make them disappointed or even cry also makes them try more with the intention of revenge or reaching a break-even point, this cycle of addiction will never be completed if it is not overcome with enough awareness. So in conclusion I think in this case the correct understanding that can make them apply good responsibility in order to manage all their gambling activities whether in terms of budget or time.

Maybe they should try the traditional way where the man of the house takes care of the finances and the woman takes care of the family affairs and household chores and stuff? There shouldn't be any problems unless they are addicted gamblers who are always gambling instead of working or doing other stuff and gambling just in their free time. A family where everyone likes doing similar things can easily manage things if they properly do things.

It's a blessing if a husband and a wife like doing the same thing because there won't be personal interest conflicts this way, however, they should take care of their responsibilities like the husband should be working and providing for the family while the wife should be taking care of the house and they should be doing what they like in their free time.

If I am to choose between the supposed spouse who needs to quit gambling, will be on the condition of who loses the most in gambling whether it is the husband or the wife. Anyone who is found guilty of losing the most financially will find him or herself quitting gambling not minding his or her status in the family while the one who loses less will continue to gamble if chooses to.

Is gambling so important that he has to hire a babysitter so that his gambling activities are not disturbed?
And if the couple has to hire a nanny, what will she pay for? because considering that the husband and wife are gambling addicts, it is certain that the money they earn will be used for gambling, while to hire a nanny, the couple must have a promising and convincing income. So that they can ensure that every month the nanny they hire gets their rights, namely work wages.
Does the couple rely on gambling to be able to pay for a babysitter? Stupid... isn't it, gambling is a detrimental activity.

And starting from that, this is a lesson for us, that when we are not ready to settle down. So it's better for us to postpone this wish for a while. Because talking about marriage is not for a while but forever, for a lifetime. And when we want to get married, we have to be really ready and able for everything. Because when we get married, we will not only be responsible for ourselves personally, but we will also have to be responsible for our partner and our future children.

True. Family always comes first in term of importance and priority. If the childrens are neglected from the early days it could take on bad effect on the childrens mind and behavior. Growing up is a once in a life experience. So a parent shouldn't ruin is because of some gambling funs. They needs the prioritize their child first. I have seen many people where both the parents are job holders. They don't give their childrens enough time but only loads of money. Because of this they lack moral values and gets involved with bad things.

It was happened in only few stories,because most of the time the gamblers will marry the non gambler partner in the real life.Because the gamblers need some dollars for the rotation apart from the domestic expenses for their family.If the both partners need of dollars for the rotation,this will affect the domestic expenses of the family and leads to less care of their parents,kids.The children of both gambling parents will become the gambler in future by their parent’s involvement in gambling.

The woman must quit the gambling,if both the couple was in gambling.It’s not my words by the male dominance,only woman can easy take care of the children and the old age people in the family.Caring was the essential part of the family to live the peaceful life.

family is indeed the most precious treasure in life, even if someone is in the hardest or worst situation but his own family will definitely accept their situation even though they are in a doomed state. also on the contrary, if parents are addicted to gambling, they should not let the impact of gambling affect their own family because it is likely that gambling addiction can damage a family relationship and can also have an impact on the future of their children later and of course this must be avoided.

Because if they are married but still like to gamble or are still addicted to gambling then this will not be good for themselves and for their families. because it is not only himself who will be affected by harmful effects, but his family can also be affected and this is not what his family wants.

Of course, if husband and wife stop gambling then it is a good decision, not who will stop first, but both are making changes for the better, spending time with family is much more valuable than time spent on gambling, besides that if the family doesn't gamble then their children will have a bright future. Sometimes if their parents gamble, the children will judge their parents badly and one day the children will imitate what their parents did, so it's better to prevent things like that if they stop gambling then the Children will not be familiar with gambling and as a parent you can certainly provide education to your children when they grow up telling them about the bad experiences of gambling so that they do not follow in their parents' footsteps.

And yes, if they don't gamble, the funds they should use for gambling can be used for other more useful things, such as supplementing the child's needs and can be used to invest in the child's future.

To me, it's weird that they even considered marrying and living together with both having this kind of habit of being a gambler. To humor the question though, I think that it's best for the both of them to quit gambling since that money could be spent on other stuff that could help the household instead of just gambling that money away but if there's an addiction going on and it can't be helped, I think that the wife should quit because if the husband is still working, the wife can do the housework when she stops gambling unlike with the husband who's probably the provider in the family, he might not be able to find the energy to do housework.

This is really ackward that gambling is causing some argument and drama in the family between the husband and wife,and nobody has the ability to control the other interms of their gambling activities.One thing I have known about gambling is that,the people who loses most in gambling are the people who play the most,and because they want to win back their money by all cost,and that is exactly what is making them lose more money,so in this case,the person that has to quit is the one who loses the most,and the person who hasn't won much because the luck is not there for him to win,be should just give it up to that person who isn't gambling much,but atleast,he is Winning.And also in the real sense,if the husband sees that gambling is affecting their family life,he has the ability to stop the wife because he is in that capacity to do so.

They definitely enjoy being a family of gamblers and can discuss many things about gambling, moreover, there will be no gambling activities carried out in secret because they are gamblers.
If you ask who should quit? should all of them if possible, if it turns out they can't, even the wife doesn't want to stop, then they can continue carrying out their activities with full responsibility and can remind each other if one of them has gambled beyond the limit so that they can return to what has been determined, so as not to disrupt their relationship and other important activities that they still have to do are tidying up the house and working to earn money and taking care of the children.

they can do it together, right? Or if it is really difficult, maybe the wife should focus more on taking care of the house and family. and allow the wife to gamble when it's time for a holiday.
but what becomes difficult is when both of them are addicted. In the life of a family that has children, it will be difficult to control family finances. It would be better to stop both gambling activities and focus on the family economy. Maybe it will be different for families who are already financially strong. the important thing is that they realize the limits of the money they can spend.

Where both husband and wife indulge in gambling, either one must give up gambling. A family can never be happy if husband and wife gamble. The wife in particular must give up gambling as a wife can play an important role in keeping the family together. Here the husband can gamble away from home. And a wife can never go away from home to gamble. Whenever a wife starts gambling at home, her children may become addicted to gambling after seeing her gambling. So I would say that here between husband and wife, the wife must take a break from gambling.

The best solution would be both to quit gambling. If that doesn't work out, a divorce is solution number 2(even though this won't solve their gambling problems). The kids should be taken away by the authorities(for a while). The friends and parents of both the man and the woman should intervene and talk with them about their problem. I know that this isn't very common and most families try to keep their gambling habits a secret, but there's no other way around.
I don't think that the question "who should quit for who?" is competent. The first one quitting and the other one continuing with his gambling addiction won't solve anything.

Why don't they involve the kids as well? You know, the more bets, the higher the chances they'll eventually win. *Sarcasm*

Although we're lacking information, such as how much time is spent gambling and with what budget, this scenario sounds really unhealthy. It can easily get out of hand; spend a fortune on gambling, and none of the partners will be able to assist each other and put a stop or a limit because they're both involved. It's best not to jump to conclusions, but I'd rather spend this time focusing on our family.

Moreover, this isn't a matter of sex, because I saw a few users pointing out that the wife should spend time with the kids, which is quite sexist. Anyone can gamble; I just find it too risky and potentially unhealthy if both partners are involved.

First of all a man always choose a wife who is not involved in bad activities like gambling but if she start these things after marriage then the situations will become complicated for them because more they will be involved in gambling more they will loss money.  If only a single partner is gambling then the life of another partner become miserable so how this can happen that both are gambling but situations and conditions of living remains normal.

There will be no case of stopping gambling if a husband, wife and all children are involved in gambling because all of them are considering gambling as a beneficial step to find a financial stability. In my opinion with gambling they can only loss their money and their financial status will remains worse forever.

One reason that makes sense is to use money wisely, especially if you have a child, of course instead of spending it on gambling, it should be used for the child's needs, for example in paying for his education and future. It wouldn't be good if both parents gambled and one of them had to stop. manage the household budget better, I am sure that it will not harm either party and feel disadvantaged if one has to stop for the child's future.

If both of them can't stop, it's best to gamble with a much more limited budget so you don't waste a lot of money because gambling can make anyone bankrupt in an instant if you don't really control it well, gambling should be used as entertainment, not a requirement that must be played all the time. just to make money, it is clearly wrong to make money in gambling.

Less numbers of women are into gambling and that's because they mostly don't like losing, its easier for women to get rid of gambling than men, it could be different at your end but this is what I have noticed in my own surroundings, they don't like taking too much risks and they also don't like losing, if it happens gradually they find it easy to just quit.

It will be definitely more ugly if a woman gets addicted to gambling, it will be way worse and that's why you need to choose your partner very carefully, and if they just develop the habit after you get together you need to make them quit or turn them into a responsible gambler, I believe I can deal with an addicted gambler as I believe my method always work on them.

I will just make sure you gamble together, you don't have to make them feel that you hate gambling, you just have to play along and expose them to some gambling reality, if done right they will end up opening their eye to the truth behind gambling.

Redirecting time and money from gambling to family is powerful. Glitz and glamour sometimes hide the risks of entertainment gambling, including financial hardship, conflict between individuals, and the subtle but substantial influence on children. Lost minutes may have been spent making memories, not simply money. Family dynamics are changing, right? Parents who prioritise family over gambling send the message: "You matter more than any fleeting joy."

Saving money from gambling can pay college, extracurriculars, or a family vacation for the kids. The investment in a solid, secure family environment is more crucial. We're precedent-setting, right? The kids learn that happiness comes from a loving home, not luck. The lesson is worth more than the jackpot!

As you've noticed, most of gamblers are men than woman because I believe that woman can give up easily if they have experience losses, you have a point that women can get rid easily the gambling addiction than man but It's not that easy as we think because if a person used to know a thing, there's a possibility they may return to that habit once they have a capability or money if their pockets.

If the husband is a gambler and the wife is a gambler, it is only a matter of time before their kids pick up on gambling. If they are not gambling professionally, like say a professional poker player who teaches other about it and still earn on the side to sustain themselves then the both of them should quit.

Remember that gambling is not as the evil bad terrible thing that they have purpoted it to be . It is individuals without discipline who give it a bad rep.

This is true, they will eventually be a gambler since they see you both into gambling and think its okay to gamble, but before it happens, you might lose you're home because of this habit, it's okay to gamble once or twice a month but if it's like daily that is a big problem how will you both be able to take care of you're family and kids future?

We should not take any side in this and what a man can do, a woman can do it. It all depends on the kind of jobs they do primarily, this goes a long way in planning their lives and that of the family they want to build. If it's the husband who is so busy, the wife should cover up in both her job and also in that which the husband should have done. The same goes for the husband, if the wife is such that is more busy, the husband should do the same for her without me repeating it. After all, that makes a family, but one shouldn't undermine the effort of the other, which is the most painful part in marriage.

But for the gambling aspect of it, I do not think that anyone has to quit anything if they are both responsible gamblers, but if they are irresponsible gamblers, I urge them both to quit, not only one. Only that they should be careful so that their children never know of that ugly part of them. Also, if they are responsible in doing it, I don't think it will take their time unnecessarily to the extent that it would be a thing of concern to them or anybody around them. And about what you said as if it's strange, this might be weird to you but it's not a big deal, and as a matter of fact, it is common in some environments because that's their way of life. It's part of them.

In my opinion gambling can be done by anyone who is able to provide for himself and his children, if he has them. If spouses find entertainment in gambling and do not spend more than 10% of the total budget on this entertainment, it is quite normal practice. In fact, what difference does it make what the money is spent on, as long as it brings pleasure. Someone likes to sit in a restaurant, someone likes to travel to different countries, and someone likes to gamble. We all have choices and we should respect our wives/husbands' choices.

But wait!!. Did I just hear you say "instead of just gambling that money away?" So what if the had won $1million each, would you still have told them to quit gambling? Because though the truth of the matter is that when people lose a bet, they blame gambling, but when they win a bet, they praises gambling,  it still doesn't stop them from staking responsibly with an amount they can always afford to lose, which is one thing we should always look out for, as it can only take birds of the same feather to floke together.


Yes, I agree with you on this, because that's the exact thing I said in my earlier post, as women been the people who plays a major role in the nurturing, caring & doing of domestic works at home.

There's nothing wrong when both husbands and wifes is a gambler. As long as they they their priorities in life, like their children and bringing food in the table, I think it will be good and gambling won't affect their relationships.

Of course, it's better if they are going to quit gambling if their kids are growing up. But they could still continue with their gambling and just minimized it. Sort of to meet in the middle grounds and so everything should be done in moderation.

That is because women are busy at the kitchen.

Well, I wouldn't say it's completely untrue that women tend to do more housework, even today.  But that statement is still an old-fashioned stereotype and pretty sexist too.  Nowadays in most Western relationships the partners divvy up the chores evenly - it's not just one person's domain anymore. So yeah, that whole women do housework idea belongs back in the 1950s as far as I'm concerned.

Yes, everything will be fine when they can prioritize their life over their gambling. But the problem is that not many can do it and not many can control themselves while gambling. Many people become deeper into gambling so it is difficult to quit gambling or reduce their gambling activities. And if this happens in a family where the husband and wife gamble, it can worsen the situation in the family.

If they can stop gambling and prioritize their family, they can use their time to pay attention to and educate their children. Even though they are busy with their families, they can still gamble but with limits so they don't gamble excessively. But whoever has to stop gambling, they should discuss it first and it would be even better if both husband and wife stop gambling so they can focus on taking care of their household and children.

You are right mate. Parents are the first role model to their children. So in that case, whatever the children see their parents doing is what they imitate and since their parents do that, they feel it is the right thing and they keep up with it till it becomes a habit to them.

This made me remember a family friend who gambles. He started gambling at his youthful age and is still gambling till this moment.  It is so bad that he could not control it and it affected his family including his children. I believe he never thought of it while getting married, his wife wasn't able to stop him till this moment. He has sold lots  of his properties and currently doing more. It is obvious that this is more than we could imagine.

If the both couples should have a thought over it and take a decision to stop gambling that would be in the interest of their kids as well because the gambling lifestyle would not affect their family and their kids would not have any thing to do with gambling as they know their parents do not gamble because before they were born in their parents already stopped gambling which both couples agreed before they started welcoming their kids.

The best option is both of them stopping their gambling hobby. They could use the funds they use to finance the expenses of their family needs and wants.
If not, surely, 1 of them quitting will be beneficial to their finance management as there will be someone who will sort it properly.
Another case is for the both of them, just lessen the gambling activity, have attention to what they need to do, be responsible, and be disciplined.

This is a good option as stopping will be the best decision so both can focus their attention on looking for a new job to supposed the family. If they were depending on gambling to take care of the family expenses which is already wrong as gambling isn't a source of income due to it not been a constant source of income. They can now look for other things to do, I'll recommend getting a paying job so they have money to take care of their family.

Gambling can destroy a family, families depending on gambling amd still stay happy are very few as the emotions of the parent gambling will always be determined by how good he or she does for the day, when he or she is betting which won't be always good as a gambler, loses more than you win due to the house always having the advantage. When one parents quits the other would be jealous and this can also spoil their relationship therefore both quitting is good option.

You are right, they should quit their addiction, also the funds that are usually used for gambling can be used to help their basic needs of life and that is more useful. quitting gambling can make them better financially, when the money that is usually used for gambling I think they can save it to see the results within a year, the results will be seen from every time he wants to gamble but he saves it, it is not a bad thing, but they must be able to fight the urge to gamble.

I think it is difficult to fight or resist  the urge to gamble but if with full confidence I think they can do it, because this is also for their own good. so there is no harm and no loss for them to stop gambling addiction. by doing many things that can close the urge to gamble in order to reduce gambling activities and take full responsibility for what has been chosen, then it must be completed as well as possible.

If a couple can agree on something then there's no way that it won't work in their family, all they need do is discuss about it and reach an agreement that'll be favorable to both of them. The most important thing in this situation is to have a weekly or monthly budget for gambling, and as you suggested, they can alternate the gambling, one gambles for one week and the other gambles the next week. Even better if they can have the chance and gamble together, but they must be disciplined not to exceed their gambling budget.

The most important aspect for a gambling couple must be that they're gambling for fun only, never as a source of income, because it'll certainly not end well if they experience loses for a whole week or month, who'll take care of their responsibilities.

Undoubtedly, redirecting time and money from gambling to family is a powerful and positive decision. Beyond the glitz and glamour, entertainment gambling can indeed pose risks, including financial challenges and potential conflicts within relationships. The behavior of parents has big influence on children, even if subtle, is significant that can shape their understanding of priorities and values.

People send a clear and meaningful message by choosing to prioritize family over gambling, because It communicates that the existance and happiness of loved ones matter more than the joys or potential gains from gambling. The moments spent with family are irreplaceable. Building memories with the loved ones is much much beter than memories in gambling. This conscious decision to put family first becomes even more impactful in a changing landscape of family dynamics.

I highly agree, if the couple talk about quitting gamble, they should quit altogether to have a noticeable changes on their financial flow.  If one only quit, then the fund used in the other half's gambling can sure be use for the gambling activity of the other half.  Quitting all together can significantly remove the pressure of their financial status especially when the reason for quitting is due to insufficient fund for their family's daily needs.

why would anyone wanna stick to gambling especially when they've got kids that'll definably copy them as role models...? Personally,I think there are supposed to be restrictions to whatever a parent would do in Thier kid's presence.. if not, you shouldn't blame them for adopting any attitude in the nearest future.. secondly, a woman wouldn't gamble excessively like a man would do..
To me, I'd say it's not necessary for anyone to quit... It all depends on the net income that's made through the family's resourcefulness..

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Parents indeed an example for their children. Of course, as parents, they have to do more positive activities so that their children also do the same and don't behave badly. Children definitely always want to know what their parents are doing, such as playing on cellphones, playing games, of course their children do too. imitate it and also want to do it. It is true that children cannot access gambling, but at least one day they will be able to understand that their parents gamble so that they assume that gambling is an activity that is supported by their family so that one day they will gamble the same way their parents do.

Now, from this story, we can learn that if gambling at a young age will result in gambling addiction because those who have no gambling experience will easily fall into gambling. With your friend's story it will certainly make you think that gambling will result in significant financial losses, especially if you are already have responsibilities as parents where life's needs must be met. If you use it for gambling, this can cause your household to become a mess and it is not uncommon for many divorces to occur because of economic problems and these problems are the result of one of them being a husband and wife gambling.

I see a big problem in this post in the aspect that they may be gambling beyond their limit if it actually get to the point where one of them need to quit due to financial constraint. In a situation like this, both of them need to quit and work on their finances first to ensure the family have stable income.

Secondly, gambling does not require so much time that it has to impact on their obligations in the family unless they are battling with addiction which will make them spend all day in gambling. This too is an error that have to be address.

addiction is always a nightmare for gamblers who fail to control themselves, but in this scenario it seems like your opinion also makes sense, immediately learn to be a good parent or plan to have children soon so that all these activities are immediately stopped because in the long term if this often happens, it will have a bad impact, not only addiction, but divorce can occur because an addict's emotional state is very high and one of the best ways is to immediately start planning to have a child, but all of this requires awareness. before having children, you must have thoughts that are far from gambling.

plan to stop immediately, maybe both of them should do it, but if neither of them starts early, there will certainly be no effort to stop gambling and I say it is better for the husband as the head of the household to have awareness early so that what he says makes his wife obey. what her husband wants is to avoid gambling and then plan a pregnancy program to have offspring and focus on educating his child in the future.

this problem is indeed a bit complicated and maybe it would be very easy for us to say something like this, but if it actually happened to us, we would definitely have difficulty in avoiding gambling because both of them both like gambling and I think when they are comfortable with gambling, feelings of selfishness will appear more high and it is difficult to stop unless something very serious happens and forces these two people to stop immediately.
and definitely dont let this happen when the husband gambles and the wife also gambles and this will ruin the future of the household.

Well, if we are being totally honest, we should all quit, every single human in the world should quit, there should be no more gambling at all. Obviously we won't, and obviously we would always find a way, even if it means wagering amongst friends only, we would always keep on betting and it would never end, but we should definitely consider that if we can, that would be the good thing. We need to realize that life is not all that simple and we need to arrange something that will get a lot better over time.

I believe that we are going to end up with something that should be considered a little bit troublesome, and yes that is true that we are not going to end up with anything that would take some time, but we need to handle all the situation we can with this, and we need to arrange a situation that will benefit us the most in the end. I get that people may not end up with a situation that would take too long, but we need to let people do what they want to.

Yes, we're all dancing with gambling. Like a party, nobody wants to go although knowing they should. Humans love the thrill, unpredictability, and companionship of friendly wagers. Our stories and cultures incorporate it. Folkloric gambles are about the trip, thrill, and challenge, not just winning or losing.

Gambling is a double-edged sword; it does have risks. But lets not forget the enjoyable element that lights up our minds like Christmas trees. If we can channel our passion of gambling into more controlled, friendly, and responsible encounters, we may find the sweet spot. One with thrills but less hazards. Life's a gamble, right? Lets make it enjoyable.

Absolutely rightly said if one of the couple leaves the other for gambling then it will be the right decision to stop gambling. If uncontrolled gambling can affect mental health beyond the family. When gambling becomes a problem self-esteem can cause stress anxiety and depression. Gambling can become an addiction just like drugs or alcohol if you use it compulsively or feel out of control it's hard to discipline yourself. That is why it is better to think about the family and try to keep yourself under control. Have to find other ways of working other than gambling.

Actually it looks awkward seeing husband and wife gambling at the same time because you can imagine what there children may grow up to become because one of the things about children is that they can easily get use to something they heard either from parents or an outsider and before they realize they will start practicing it, but although there are some places that gambling in both genders are very comon so if it was that kind of places the only thing I will say is that it may not be a good idea asking either the wife or the husband to quit for the wife to gamble but perhaps the main question should be that how often does the husband and wife make a win in the gambling, so perhaps if they are always lucky in times of there wining I see no reason why one person should quit for another when they are actually benefiting a lot from gambling but if perhaps they are not consistent in wining that there over all losing is higher than there wining I would suggest they both quit the gambling and look a better job that will help there family instead of gambling with the little they have.

This is a much more complicated situation where both of them are involved in gambling so that no one is able to control the finances, but I also want to know whether the two couples are active gamblers or they only carry out gambling activities with a budget that has been prepared so as not to disrupt cash flow to meet his living needs. It's rare to find two couples active at the same time in gambling and perhaps of the many people out in the world, only a small percentage carry out gambling activities simultaneously.

It's not a matter of talking about who should stop gambling, but rather that both of them need to think about their lives so they don't get trapped in increasingly serious financial problems. If both of them gamble irresponsibly then I am sure their finances will be in trouble and their daily living needs will be quite disturbed by gambling activities carried out irresponsibly.

Whenever an activity threatens the goodness of the family it is something that should be considered leaving anything, that is why every time we have to make some sacrifices, those sacrifices always lead to something very good when done together, I have seen some things where the people or rather the couple, there is one in particular who is in a casino and grabs it like an addiction and when the crowd finds out, I can ask you to please stay away from that because of course, it affects the couple and the children. (if there are any) and that is a very delicate case, well for me the first thing is and always has been the family, well in the women who leave that aside and give themselves over to the game, which seems quite irresponsible to me, because at the moment you may be very comfortable in the game, but later? If he falls into an illness, who will see him? the casino? No, there are things that have always been for the better in couples because the other party that has the problem understands the problem, and corrects it.

Now, if the couple is both the ones who have the Addiction problem , then it is Difficult there , they should both go to a psychologist to be able to be well, to be able to have a better focus on things, I consider that when a person or a couple is like this and They cannot get ahead with a problem like this, help has to be their way out, there is no other option, it is the right Thing to do and it is what should be done, for me in anything that is addictive it must be attacked quickly, not quit. move forward because when we let it move forward things get worse, for that reason we must do everything possible to get out of the problem faster, it is easier to attack the addiction at the beginning than when it is already at an advanced level, that is why we always have to consider that the casino has its home advantage, and that it is practically impossible for one player or both to beat a casino, there are only moments of Luck.

For this thread, I have to be wise as I also have a family. in essence, I'm not on the side of either one of them stopping. Femomena like this is not foreign to me personally, and I have seen many cases in the area where I live. Before I assume, I want to ask what your personal perspective is. No need to answer it, you can keep it to yourself. OK, now I'm speaking my version. So far, I like gambling. However, everything has been arranged, even my wife is involved and takes responsibility for my gambling. I mean, my wife always monitors what I do and I am happy to be open for her to monitor. what's the use, it's definitely useful. My wife will carry out her duties as a wife, which when I am involved is deeply affected by emotions of defeat and difficulty controlling myself. In other words, my wife will do her job as a system to regulate when I have to stop and she will let me, when I'm in the fun phase, provided there are no problems.

Let's imagine, what if both of them like gambling. are they rich people, who have a lot of wealth and don't feel lost when they always lose in their gambling sessions? If what we describe is the opposite, I do not guarantee that life in their family will be healthy. in other words, there will usually be a lot of conflict occurring. okay if they don't have children, especially if they both work. but the fact is the opposite, and only minimal financial income. what is the fate of this family, especially their children. to be honest. I don't dare or interfere in other families' personal problems. but if I am allowed to have an opinion, both should stop for the common good. because clearly it isn't, if what you say in this thread refers to a troubled family.  For me this is not healthy, it's not just the wife who has to stop. however, so does being the head of the household. the story is different, if this husband and wife are rich people. even then, the condition is that children must not know or even be involved.

If both partners are gambling irresponsibly then it will not be long until they find themselves under a tremendous financial pressure, as even a single gambler doing this will put the couple into financial strain, so both of them doing this will only accelerate this process.

However this is not very common, since this will require that both of them lose control roughly at the same time, and if this does not happen then the one that has yet to do so can see what is happening and begin to take measures to not traverse that path.

That true and basically the definition of gambling is fun place, place that can give us satisfaction and entertainment from every game.
As many people say, play with excitement and don't expect profits, as gambler must be able to instill the right approach to gambling.
They must really look for pleasure, not about profit or making money, winning and losing has become natural thing and we must be able to accept everything without any excessive effort that could bring difficulties.

In gambling there are risks and consequences that can be very detrimental or difficult for someone, even worse it can cause really complicated problems.
But it all depends on the gamblers themselves whether they choose the right path or the wrong path, there will be no coercion or direction from other people so gamblers must be smart in considering every step they take.
Don't let us make the wrong decisions or goals because that can make us feel regret later.

This case just like a case I heard from somewhere when husband and wife were working in the bank and, we know that bankers use to close late in the bank and once they get home, it will be difficult for the woman to perform her duty based on the nature of her work and the matter was trying to destroy the home until the woman have to quite the job to save her home. If the husband is well okay with his wife gambling, I don't think anything will happen to their finance and, I think they have amount of money they use to gamble in a day not to make them addicted to gambling.

Once the husband and wife start bearing children from the family, I will not encourage the woman to continue gambling with her husband because their children will like to follow the same step of their parents and it can lead the children to bad attitude that will affect the family wrongly in the future.

As a wife, you should stop gambling and focus more on your children and husband as well as housework. After all, what is their purpose in gambling, is it just for entertainment or risking money to hope for big profits. If the husband just plays normally and as entertainment, it won't bother anything, as long as he doesn't spend money to use it for living expenses. The husband must be wise to manage everything, regulate gambling only as entertainment, and only use a small amount and manage other needs.

If both husband and wife are addicted to gambling then they will not be able to nurture their child properly. I would highly recommend one of them to quit gambling. Otherwise his child will not develop properly. But if they are not into professional gambling then both of them can gamble but of course family needs to be given first priority. A situation where both husband and wife are gamblers in a family is not common. In this perspective husband or wife in the family must leave gambling for the child if they want to handle it properly.

I think don't quit gamble. Because they have experience and they are doing gamble from long time if they are aware with their children they want to spend time with family then one of them can leave gamble. Gambling isn't a full time job but you can earn a with gambling. Because of they both want to give time with their family so they can do but not quit gambling they can do gambling in their free time.

I think is they are addicted gambler they both should quite gambling immediately. And if they can't do it themselves, then they should consult a psychologist. Because if they are addicted gamblers then surely it will have adverse effect on their family and children which is never desirable. If they are not addicted gamblers and are gambling within their limits then I don't think anyone should quit gambling.

You havent answered, who should quit then, husband or wife?

If we think logically and look around, then wife should quit, as we see that women usually does more parenting than men. Imo this is people are use to men work, women do all the house thing. However, that does not mean that father is free to gamble whenever he wants. Child needs both parents attention.

Imo I would make wife quit gambling, but give her some days off, when she can do whatever she wants. That would be fair.

My wife gambles with me only  meaning we are playing together , choosing which to bet together and we are doing this with fun and acceptance to what will happen if ever we lose nor win.

So there is no way that we needed to quit because of how we treated gambling since day one.

but accepting that there are others that gamble with all their assets , and even their living and family are affected , so helping them decide? maybe it is the one that mostly lose , means the money maker will remain gambling and the other one will focus in real life .

It depends on the degree of addiction, if one quits it might be unfair for the other one. The best solution is for both of them to give up gambling and be a good role model for the family, that is if they don't want their kids to end up like them. As an adult, I never encourage anyone in my family to engage in gambling as I myself know how it can ruin you not just financially, but it can ruin your whole life. It's not bad to learn gambling games and play them with your family as long as you teach the kids the possible consequences of gambling and let teach them the importance of handling finance.

Well said, If they both have the worst addiction in gambling, Both of them must give up gambling so they can focus in their own family, It might be difficult at first but come to think of it, if both of them are not doing well in life, how can they give their children a good life? possibile it may cause a bad experience while growing up for them and seeing their parents being addicted in gambling and gradual breakdown of the family may affect their mental and emotional health

It's true, gambling is for everyone, including men and women. However, if you are involved in gambling together, this is not a good thing, especially if in my country eastern culture is still very strong, and it is against the culture of one family to gamble. In cases like yours, even if you have to stop, it is better for your wife to stop because the wife's job is to educate children so that they become useful people in the future. After all, children are also an investment in your future.

Yes if both husband and wife become addicted to gambling then it is better for your wife to stop gambling. Female people are rarely addicted to gambling and taking care of their family members is more important than gambling. It will be difficult to protect the family if the girl becomes addicted. If a guy spends time gambling a girl can bring him back to normal if he wants. The better the experience about gambling the easier the game.

Yes, of course the wife should first give up gambling and then her husband should be made aware of the evils of gambling.  Because girls have less courage to take risks than boys but boys never hesitate to take big risks. Because of this, it is very difficult for girls to give up gambling to boys.  Because of this, it is more important to give up the wife's gambling. Because after giving up gambling, the wife can convince the son-in-law about its bad side and if necessary, she can put pressure on the husband and give up gambling.

OP did not mention in her post that she is gambling after taking care of the household chores and children, rather she shared that her husband and she gambled in her family. If her husband did not like his wife's gambling, he would not gamble. They may be enjoying gambling as a couple so it may not be right to ask them to give up gambling. If they both experience gambling problems, the two of them can decide who should spend more time gambling and who should spend more time on other activities. If the family depends on the husband's money, if the husband thinks that one of them should gamble, then the husband may gamble by preventing the wife from gambling. I think it's totally their personal decision and they can discuss it together and take a better decision.

Well, we know that gambling is for everyone, it just depends on how responsible you are when you are gambling. From your case OP, you have mentioned that both parties are gambling and also they have a child, from the fact that you have a child and both of you are risking your money, just imagine what would happen in case of emergency, how can you provide all the needs of your child. In this case, it would depend on the situation, cause one might have a gambling addiction and won't stop even if another one has already stopped, which can cause conflict. As a partner, they should know to stop for the sake of the family, children must rely upon them so they must sacrifice their habits and enjoyment for the betterment financially.

A gambling addict husband can be stopped by his wife from gambling. Because every husband listens to his wife, so I think if a wife can explain the bad aspects of gambling to her husband well then it seems that a gambling addict can quit gambling very soon.  I have seen some family's husband and wife could not be happy in their family life due to gambling, they are always fighting and quarreling. We all know that gambling is not a good thing but still we become addicted to gambling without accepting it.

Why do you say that? Are you sure that nothing bad will happen if a couple still likes to gamble?
I myself prefer to quit gambling especially if I already have a child, because no matter how well we maintain our gambling habits, there will certainly be an impact later on young children. because gambling can also change a person's behavior to be bad and maybe other people can also be affected and this is certainly not desired by myself. therefore gambling also destroys harmonious relationships, where a family can be destroyed just because of someone who is addicted to gambling, if all members are addicted to gambling, maybe there will be no peaceful life.

If a family is destroyed because of gambling it is not good, family relationships can be destroyed because of one person who is addicted to gambling, where this person may experience a change in attitude and it could also be that he will become a stubborn person, like to argue and not think about the big risks that will occur. try to think again why you suggest not to stop gambling. because in my opinion there is no connection between someone who has been gambling for a long time must stop gambling. someone who stops gambling because he wants a change for the better, no matter how long he has been gambling, that is not a good reason.

A married life with kids already is different from being single or a couple without kids. In this situation, if not both will stop, at least the wife will let go of her gambling habits and focus on her obligation as a wife and a mother. She should spend ample time on the family rather than pleasing herself in gambling because honestly, it doesn't look good to their kids. As a parent, we should look at the welfare of our family, not just ourselves, and most of all, we have to become responsible as these kids will become a mirror of what we are doing.

Who should quit, and why? in the case of where both spouses are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, and my answer is they both should quit but first of all, is that possible that they can still manage their household finance if they both do gamble especially if they already have kids?

and the reason why is simply they should prepare for their kids and money for retirement, but if the money for retire and money for their kids is available i think should be fine do gamble with a budget

The gender-based strategy to risk-taking and gambling you propose makes no sense. First, the claim that women are less risk-taking than men is untrue and creates negative stereotypes. Future societies acknowledge that risk behavior is individual, not gender-specific.

Second, believing a wife's gambling abstinence will affect her husband or son-in-law is wrong. Healthy gambling requires personal responsibility and understanding one's actions, not just following others. Problem gambling should be treated by professionals and supportive communities regardless of gender.

Pressuring someone to change their gambling habits is unproductive. It overlooks addiction's complexity and the necessity for supportive, knowledgeable treatment. Instead of pressure or gender-based decisions, awareness, support, and professional intervention lead to healthy change.

Why do you think they should live their lives in a "delayed life" mode? Life is given only once and each of us has the right to choose how we spend our leisure time. It is necessary to live here and now, and not to think about tomorrow, because for someone tomorrow may not come.

If the spouses do not have problems financially and gambling does not create problems for them, they can both continue to gamble.

I think the answer is clear that the better and the right thing is that if possible then both of them should stop, that's the better thing that should be chosen by both of them if someone asks a question like this. However and no matter how good the financial management they have, if they are still involved in gambling, it is clear that there will be an allocation of money that should not be done, or simply they will find it easier to manage and meet the needs of the family including their children if they have never been involved in gambling, because obviously in terms of money it will definitely be more efficient.

Yes, instead of putting the money into gambling which certainly has a big risk and is always unpredictable, it is clearly better for them to save the money for other purposes in the future such as for the needs of their children or retirement and also including for urgent situations and conditions that require them to have money in sudden conditions. Yes if they already have money saved for future needs then there is nothing wrong if they don't stop but I think however if they can it is better to just stop, gambling uses money and it could be that one day they take the money saved for gambling.

i can agree with you here. because before they know it, their kids are already into gambling and it will be too late to alter their lifestyle. they can still gamble from time to time, like for recreational purposes. if they do want to bet on their favourite teams or athletes, or play some casinos classics in some relaxing days just to have some family fun.

but if they will venture into the gambling world on a serious path. both parties, the mother and the father should understand the possible repercussions not only for themselves but as a family. they need to consider all angles in this lifestyle. and they should be ready for whatever consequences they may encounter.

otherwise, if they can't bear those consequences, better think fast and change their path. before each of them blame about the fate of their family or before they see it in their own eyes how their family is slowly falling apart.

Without a doubt, yes they can live their lives how they want especially if they are rich.
IMO, I still want the other one to be clean. It's not because I am stopping her or myself but it's because if something goes wrong at least there will be one to pull his/her better half into that doom that he/she is about to be buried. Gambling addiction.
I understand that if a husband and wife can afford it then who are we to stop them? I just believe that there must be a good thing that the kids will look up to. In terms of behavior, a lot of bad emotions do come out when we are gambling and if I am the one who will stop while my wife continues, I will be the one who will tell her to keep the anger to herself and don't let the kids hear all the bad words that will come out of her mouth.
That's what happens in my case, there are moments when I cannot control my emotions and my wife will come in to tell me that I should keep my voice down so the kids won't hear me.
I guess the question of OP is on a case-to-case basis but being responsible parents, I think one gambler should suffice or they can switch places and create a schedule.

Sure, you've got your beliefs, and I respect that. But people engage in all sorts of activities that carry risks - heck, driving a car comes with its share of dangers. Does that mean we stop driving? No! We learn to drive safely. The same applies to gambling. It's a form of entertainment, an adrenaline rush, a way to unwind. If someone’s responsible, knows their limits, why the heck should they stop?

Now, about the impact on family - let's not paint everyone with the same brush. I’ve seen folks who gamble and still maintain a happy, healthy family life. It's all about moderation. You're worried about a gambler turning stubborn, argumentative? Well, guess what? That can happen with any hobby taken to the extreme, not just gambling. The key is knowing when to stop. And who are we to dictate how others find their joy? If gambling is their escape, their slice of excitement in a mundane routine, who's to say that's wrong? Life's short; let people have their fun!

I have meet few gamblers that are very good at controlling themselves around gambling and they are doing so well in life, if the both partners are good at controlling their gambling desires then there is no problem, you should only start to worry if your partner is risking too much on gambling, I would love my partner to keep a watch on me, I can even have them beside me when I want to gamble, its for the best.

I actually don't have any gambling problem but if you are already married and you feel the need to be under watch, ask your partner to do it for you, thinking that you can become a millionaire in gambling is very normal in the lives of gamblers, and thats why many of them are riped off.

You can't beat the house, atleast not always, so you should not rely on something that isnt requiring your skills to beat the game, its you and how lucky you will be, invest your money more and gamble very less, I have my reason for saying this, its sadly the way that gambling is programmed.

I don't think so that the husband can easily obey what his wife would tell him to stop into gambling. I've seen a lot like the situation you mentioned where husbands and wives keep fighting because of gambling and of course, the money that the husband spent to feed his gambling addiction. I’ve also witnessed a lot of scenarios where they sell all their assets just to bet and to feed their habit of gambling. The time will happen that they were amid deprivation and they were close of being broke. So, while it's still early you should be aware of the limitations and what may happen when you enter this gambling activity.

But if the husband is responsible for balancing his gambling time and his family time then there is no problem. Just like I said in my previous post in this forum, maybe they can make better teamwork and they still have time to make playing as their bonding as a couple.

My advice to all gamblers whether male or female you should avoid chasing losses and never gamble with money that you should spend for your living expenses.

Doesnt matter on which one would really be quitting up because on the time that both husband and wife are already that addicted with gambling then expect that it would really be a long time type of discussion or even quarrel or whatever kind of talking on whose the one to quit or wont really be talking at all about quitting since both are really that interested nor really that like on doing gambling.
This is why on this kind of particular situation or condition then letting them be on what are the things that they've been doing, they are the ones who do create their own fate towards finances
because time comes that everything would be messing up not just like on financial state but also with family relationship too as we do know that it would really be that compromises out such
thing on such condition.

Since gambling is an uncertain way of earning money, it must be dangerous if both husband and wife are addicted to gambling. Because if two people always lose then there will be problem in managing their family life. On the other hand after losing from gambling then behavior changes so there may be internal fights. Even the married life of two people can be different so it is natural for either one to gamble. But if they own a lot of money they can gamble freely but in my opinion you should not let the influence of gambling fall on your family.

Here bro our friend also had the same thought as me hahaha. I mean its totally fine do gamble even with tight budget but I think it much wiser to choose something else like slot on play store that not involves money. and what gonna happen if their kids now what their parent doing?

Yes, you are right, should both stop gambling in order to be good parents for your children, but if a husband and wife don't have children yet and they still have enough money for their daily needs, I think it doesn't matter if husband and wife do it as long as they have more and the same budget both can remind each other and can control themselves and the most important thing is that they don't become addicted to gambling because if both husband and wife are addicted then this will not be good, especially for the future of their household.

However, if you already have children, it is better for both husband and wife to stop together and the money that is usually used for gambling can be used to make life insurance for the future of their children and themselves or use it for the needs of their family or children so that by having children their parents' instincts will definitely run smoothly. as a parent, you definitely want to do the best for your child and not selfish and only think about your own pleasure.

It was not just uncertain way but it was not considered as a source of income unless you are the owner of the casino. But since we are just a gambler, we can't expect that we can win over the house that is why gambling is for entertainment, nothing else. So why is good for one of them to quit it is because as they continue gambling there is a big chance of falling into addiction and we know the impact on our finances and family relationships and much more if we have kids already. While it never happens yet, someone must do it or both of them will stop.

pay attention to the word I marked that this is about being selfish or not.
I mean, even though a husband and wife already have children, they will not stop gambling if they have been gambling for too long and it is not easy to avoid gambling directly, of course it requires strong encouragement from one of the husband or wife. so for me, stopping both is very difficult unless one of them has the idea to stop gambling and in my opinion it is more effective if the husband starts to stop gambling then after the husband has successfully stopped gambling he can provide education to the wife to stop gambling and focus on taking care of her child.

sometimes this selfishness is what prevents both parties from having difficulty leaving gambling because usually there are thoughts like I will stop if my wife stops and conversely the wife thinks that she will stop if her husband stops gambling. this kind of selfishness can destroy the future of the family and their children and this requires help from other parties such as siblings or parents who can help solve this problem.
It's not very good if you are married but your husband and wife are still gambling which can destroy their family or maybe the worst thing is divorce because they lose a lot of money and blame each other.

That's a big problem if both of them become addicted and they have kids to attend to their needs. So, what if both of them become out of control and instead of providing what's needed by the family, they're attending first to their gambling needs? Well, that's a situation that can be dealt with in reality but most of these can be managed depending on how they attest to this situation.

Not just getting into fights but with miscommunication because it all comes to having an issue with the same hobby but, the result might be different because there's money involved. When you're in a married life, of course money is important and if you're not helping each other with the expenses or it is mostly affected because both of you gambles a lot. That's where the problem will be bigger.

Anyway, most gamblers are family oriented and for sure will get into a solution on how to handle such problem. You don't want your kids to have problems with provisions and the same goes for husband and wife. It all comes with thinking of the setup and solution to be applied.

I think some people gonna have a heartburn after reading, but what about popular quotation "happy wife, happy life" ? And enshrined in society "man manages financing, while women manage the house" ?
On one hand husband must quit to get peace in family. On the other he must be the only one that could be allowed to gamble with real money. But in general, there is no need to create some kind of cult out of gambling. It shouldn't affect the family in any way.

now look at the large number of gamblers, the percentage of gambling responsibly is very small and very few people can do this, gambling has dangerous impacts that are not trivial, also because of that the possibility of a percentage of addiction that is difficult to hide  many of them become addicted by gambling Even if they just want to try it out,  they can become addicted to gambling, why is that? because gambling itself can make people forget themselves, where someone who plays it can become emotional and tend to be greedy. define gambling as entertainment,  okay we agree on this.
but you might also see from the number of  people here that gambling can bring bad things, right? Many of them said they had to stop because there would be repercussions that would occur if they still liked to gamble wouldn't it  be possible if they had to gamble until they were old?  Even though there are parents who still like to gamble, is  this worth using as motivation?  Are you sure that gambling where someone is only based as a player can get a  steady and profitable income? I don't think so and indirectly this all represents  someone who likes to gamble and hopes they can stop  gambling especially when they are married  or even have children why is that, because someone who likes gambling might experience changes in their attitude and behavior why?  because gambling will not continue smoothly, bro. Do you yourself think it will always be smooth? I not sure about that.

with those who like to gamble is it likely that they will continue to benefit? i don't think so. i'm not sure those who like to gamble have a greater percentage of wins and profits. i think everyone knows the percentage of losses is greater than the wins, and if they always lose will they be okay? maybe yes, but for a short time, in the long run they will probably experience upset because of the losses they always get, also maybe they will be stressed if they always gamble but there is no result. with limits and responsibility? it can be done indeed, but in my opinion they should think about the fate of their families who must maintain their relationships, because if they are still fond of gambling I think they will experience more or less conflict or quarrels. with limits and being responsible? it can be done indeed, but in my opinion they should think about the fate of his family that must be maintained relationship, because if they are still fond of gambling I think they will experience a lot of disagreements or small quarrels. not to mention the character that a person has, of course men tend to have a stubborn character, arrogant with their choices, tend not to want to give in, this also encourages those who could be worse in the future.


people's pleasure is different, it is also because everyone's thinking is different, they have their own choices. their gambling habits seem to be able to make them destroyed in the future. people who gamble at the beginning with a target or good self-control, may change when in the game, because as you said this gambling triggers adrenaline, this means that it can also make someone become emotional when gambling, right? now here's the thing, gambling has a dangerous impact, and if they have been gambling for a long time as an escape, is there nothing else that can be used as an escape? that means gambling itself has an effect that can make them change quickly. The thing that should be noted, even those who gamble responsibly can change, it is unlikely that they will continue to stay like that. because changes can occur especially with gambling that is fully tied to finances, and finances are important things in life. even those who get big wins can change especially those who get continuous losses too. it's good to stop early, because prevention is better than cure, right? the good and bad impacts that will occur with themselves, okay let people have fun, but if they don't have enough money or income, in my opinion with his habit of making gambling as an escape it's not for fun, but will torture themselves.

Situations like this often arise from the man's mistakes. As a man, gambling should never be anything that can steal away your attention and responsibility of your home but some men have problems with this part. When you know that you are a gambler and know that you are married to your wife, don't forget to take care of your home, treat them like you don't gamble at all but they always do the opposite which makes their wife disrespect them.

If a married gambler provides for the wife, does the basic needs for the wife, they will never complain or fight their husband for doing what they like especially when money and attention is involved. The wife will even feel concerned if the husband is the passionate one and feels sober anytime he is lost, they will pet him just to clear the mood because they know he is a responsible gambler but I know they will not do that to a irresponsible man.


More importantly, know when to quit and know when to say goodbye for that time. You must not win all the time because if there is anything like that, the casino will not function again and they will be out of business for life. Also, don't gamble more than you can afford to lose, it hurts in the end if you lose a dear amount to gambling because you will hardly get it right the next time you try to recover it again.

Well, if they both gamble AND are able to retain a good standard of living and a good mental state then I would be very surprised. Usually that does not work out, and I have yet to meet the person who can gamble without endangering his/her financial status. Although there may exist such people, who knows? In such a (rare) case I think there would be no issue. Why look for problems where there are none? If their gambling starts showing symptoms of problems (financial troubles, child neglect, health issues etc...) then that is a different situation...

Those are rare or something not really that usual because majority of gamblers are those people who are really that impulsive. Im not saying that all of them but majority would really be included into that bracket. Somewhat there are really people who do play gambling for fun and entertainment without making themselves getting addicted. This is something that we should really be that
mindful. Quitting would really be just that relevant if you do see that gambling is already that affecting you financially and emotionally on which it would really be just that right that you
shouldnt really be that tolerating that kind of addiction which mold up into your personal self. Quit if its needed but if you do see that you can handle then it would really be just that fine.

In as much as one would definitely reach adult age before considering marriage, it's still important to know and note that even on engagements that are exclusive to adults, there are ones you'll have to avoid or quit in other to have and enjoy a happy home after marriage. Gambling is not a bad engagement if anyone who's involved in it can be responsible in his gambling activities.

However, when talking about married couples, I don't think it's a good idea to gamble after getting married even when both parties were gambling before marriage. Gambling is one engagement that anyone who engages in it regularly will surely have bad days of massive loss. So imagine where the two persons had a regrettable day, it'll surely affect the financing of the family at the end of the day. So when two adults who were good in gambling finally becomes couples it's advised that they shun every form of gambling in other to raise a good home and not the one that'll be full of regret.

So, are you saying that they shouldn't stop gambling and just keep doing what they are doing even though their family is at stake? They can consult or ask for help to psychological therapy if they are too focused on gambling and close to being addicted.  Who will manage the family that they created? What if they have kids? and if they run out of budget, what do they have to spare for their day-to-day expenses?
If they keep fighting, what moral will the children get from their parents?. Parents are the reflection of their children's behavior, and they can be turned into what their parents are when they grow up.

That is if they even have in-laws or any concerned relative they have, better to advise them while it is still early if the situation is not that bad. so, one of the parents or both of them should quit gambling in order to save their finances and both can make a better parent. It will also save their marriage as well.

They both need each other's cooperation to perform well in gambling. A couple who work together in adventuring the fun of gambling would succeed in gambling and any other life businesses they run. Situations differ in individuals and we may be wrong in generalizing a specific outcome for all gambling couples. Could it be about the risk of gambling and the repercussions of irresponsible gambling that will make individuals make mistakes in the future? In a family where both plan monthly and yearly activities, they'll understand the importance of paying the fees of their wards and keeping to the plans of not meddling with money meant for the growth of the family. However, we are mainly hearing about the disadvantages of gambling and would think that such a family would face problem gambling like any random gambler in the street. When people understand the importance of gambling and how it could help their family grow and feel it's also a true tool for that growth they seek.

Devising accurate techniques for balancing the funds thrown into gambling wouldn't take them lots of time. And if they succeed, the only requirement would be sticking to the plan. In my view, gamblers should have cohorts with whom they can discuss closely the strategies to implement in gambling. Players who face trouble in gambling, don't share ideas with other gamblers or don't have a close friend whom they could trust in gambling matters. Telling one person to quit gambling in such a condition, wouldn't be helpful, as one other person may get addicted along the line, or maybe the party told to quit can decide to hide their gambling activities. This would then cause the trouble as none of them can collaborate anymore in knowing how money is been spent on gambling. But, in a good relationship, both of them agreeing to an idea that circulates on making a better family and being responsible gamblers, I don't see anything wrong in both spouses being active participants in gambling.

I don't know why this surprised you, it's not a big deal, if you go to some environment, this kind of a thing is a norm there, and they do not get to misbehave in most cases because it is their way of life. Just like it's in regular life, some spouses might be irresponsible even if they are not gamblers, so this is possible in gambling too, yet gambling mustn't be the sole means to judge people, they may not be gambling anyhow. I must say that we should differentiate the kind of gamblers we are talking about first to be sure. This takes me to the responsible gamblers and irresponsible gamblers aspect. If any man or woman is irresponsible with their gambling, I advise the other party to flee even in the courtship, it shouldn't just lead to marriage at all. But if both of them are gambling and are responsible in their gambling habit, to me, there is no big deal in this, they should only be more careful so that it does not corrupt their children.

As a matter of fact, I have seen a whole lot of women who are gambling these days, these are women who are even respected in society, so if they end up with a man like them, there can't be an issue because the gambling itself has never been the major of thing in their lives but an extra. It's secondary to the extent that it is not the main source of their income and from what I noticed with them, they are not such that would ever shift their position to think that gambling will make them rich but to face their career for good. For this, gambling is just a way of life, couples can gamble and nothing bad will happen, but when the two of them are becoming irresponsible in it, they better quit it as soon as possible for the sake of themselves, the marriage and the children.

 
I haven’t heard of a situation like this before, even outside the forum, and I have not seen any topic related to your discussion on this forum before.If both husband and wife are gamblers and a person needs to stop, I will say the wife should be the one to stop because she spends more time with the kids than the husband; she is taking care of the kids personal health and other things; she will still do house chores, cooking, and other things. If the wife is gambling, I believe there will be a big problem in that household because she won’t get enough time to do all these things I just listed, and that is why the wife should be the one stop. Gambling is very dangerous for  her.But for the husband, definitely, he will have a job that he does to make money, so even if he gambles, as long as he is not addicted to it and he does it for fun, I don’t think it is a big deal.


I don’t think it is a good idea for both couples to gamble. Remember that we are not the same, and one person may view it as something to do for fun. What if another person does not view it the same as the first person? From there, there will be misunderstandings between both of them, and problems will now start coming to them. Therefore, the other person who did not view gambling for fun will be thinking of making money from gambling, which will lead him or her to addiction, which may turn that family into financial difficulties.


Nah man. You are not a gambler, and that is why you think this way: gamblers didn’t think the way you think what gamblers do after winning some amount of money is to get another odd and stake the amount that is higher than what they staked and won previous going to get more than what have been achieved, so they don’t think of getting another thing else soing with that money but to gambler more to generate another money, which is what they are planning, which is not correct.

Imagine a couple both husband and wife are smoking cigarettes. When one of them quits, the other will look impulsive and disgusting to the side that quit smoking. The situation you talked about describes a similar scenario. If one of them quits gambling then that marriage won't last for long. It is because one of them will be making money and the other will be losing it. Someone will go mad in the end and tell the other one gfy. It is better if both of them quit at the same time. If they like to play however, then play. As long as they don't lose their life savings to their habits, there is no harm there. If one of them goes stupid, then something must be done about it.

The problem is not that they both gamble, but that their gambling habits don't let them manage their obligations, right? then they both have a problem of addiction, and I honestly think that both should stop gambling, because if only one quits it will be too hard for her/him to overcome such a hard situation and still be able to help his husband or wife.

The good thing is that it will be easy to understand each other when the craving to play is too strong for any of them, but apart from that I think that it is a really difficult situation to overcome. Like a couple of drug addicts, if they both don't solve each one's problem, it will be really hard for them to keep being together.

As much as I believe in equal rights, gambling does not suit a woman to be honest, and like I always have said here and will continue to say, I will not marry a woman who gambles, even if I myself gambles, and even if we are already married before I discovered that she gambles, she will have to stop it immediately or I just assume she not ready for marriage.

Like I said before, I believe in equal rights, but the fact remains that there are things that are better suited for men to do and there are other things that see better suited for women to do, and when it comes to gambling, gambling is a man's thing and not for women when they are married, a married woman should not gamble even if she gambled when she was single, she should understand that life when single is different from life when married.

Am with you on this bro, if am a gambler, I would never marry a gambler because it's so unwise if both husband and wife are gambling, and if they are addicted, then it's over for both of them, because their life will definitely crumbles. They will find it very difficult to hold unto money.
It will surely be a disaster if they had kids.

This a dumb argument to discuss with. Gambling was supposed to be use for entertainment purposes only while both of them already have children that they can spend time together instead of gambling. They should think about responsibility first before they start having a children because both of them is immature especially the wife that was supposed to take care the children at home.

This is not a major issue to discuss since they should knew already the answer to their problem and start to become responsible parents and gambler at the same time.

Not a big fan of equal rights myself, but that's all true. Luckily, women tend to be much more risk-averse than men (men gamble around twice as much as women), so they are far less likely to fall victim to a gambling addiction.
There are also differences in the preferred types of gambling between the genders. Men favor more skilled games (poker, sports betting and alike) while women lean towards pure luck games (like bingo, slots, or lotteries).

I don't see what the point of one quitting would do.  In most cases both people combine theor finances so in this case if one of them quit the likelihood of the other one just betting more probably increases.  I actually think if they split theor funds it's better to hedge theor bet that way so they aren't all in on one particular bet. 

wrong , we are in the world of equal living now and what Men can do so what woman can , if the Men losses more and has no friend with luck do you think it is fair that still remain the gaming?
wrong mate , the Men should stop and the women must continue or else they must both leave gambling and have job outside risk, but the questions stands if whom will leave and for me this is the luckier that will remain gambling.

This sounds like an old stereotype that married woman place is in the kitchen. If we all agreed that one of gambling aims is about about having fun, then why men can have fun and women dont? I agree to facts, that there are some activities that men do better, and some women do better, some jobs are more suited for men, some for women, but gambling does not require any special skill or body condition. Maybe this has something about your religion, I dont know, but that does not look fair that married women should not gamble.

Yep, that's true and I agree with what you said. it's better if they stop at the same time because it's also for their own good, the habit or addiction of gambling can leave behind other things that are more important, especially if they are both addicted then it's very likely that there won't be anything more important than the gambling that they make. gambling as a priority in his life, this is certainly not good because just one person who is addicted to gambling can destroy a humorous relationship, especially if both of them are addicted to gambling, I can't imagine what that family would be like. There will also be high egotism from each of them, and this ego might cause a fight between them.

Stopping gambling is not easy, but if someone is married, I think they have to stop because it won't be good if they still like to gamble because it is possible that people who are addicted to gambling will become stubborn individuals who always want to win with their choices. Of course, this must be avoided so that they do not suffer losses in many ways.

I understand that stopping completely is too difficult or almost impossible if they have entered the addiction zone, but there is always nothing impossible if they are willing to do it with strong determination. I think  in this case it is better for both husband and wife to agree to reduce everything, both in terms of the budget amount and including in terms of hopes and expectations of winning. And if they have succeeded in reducing their interest in gambling then I think everything will be more under control, especially in terms of family financial balance, maybe they will only come when they really want to gamble with the aim of more entertainment and not placing too high hopes on the results. end.

Of course, if they remain serious in their point of view on gambling then it is clear that the impact will definitely be on everyone in the family, meaning that all of their families there will feel the impact, and one of them may be  in terms of the economy declining due to a loss of balance in terms of finance. Yes, if they are unable to bear all the risks resulting from the gambling they do, then perhaps they will blame fate or the fate of their less fortunate family, even though everything can still be overcome if they are willing to make changes, at least reduce it.

Quite a contradiction there if you are indeed in for equal rights. Though, I understand it must be frustrating to be married to a woman who is also a gambler. Though, you also need to keep in mind that when we are married, the relation is supposed to function as a team work. The woman does her part and so does the man, however, When we talk about women being restricted from gambling what comes to my mind is the fact they usually have more domestics work than the man, and which the man and the children depends on.
If the woman gest addicted to gambling or dedicates much time to it, then she may not have enough time to take care of her family and children, even if the man provides. It is quite a very tough situation to be in, specially when comes from someone who believes in the equality of men and women.
I would be willing to sacrifice most of my gambling time if she does the same and we decided to do other things with our spare time, for the sake of the household finances mostly.

By the way, if you don't mind me to ask. Is this a common way of thinking in your country (the fact women are not supposed to gamble while married) or is rather a personal believe you have adopted by yourself through the years, does it have some roots within your local religious practices?

I have heard about such couples and even watched an interview with a woman from exactly such a relationship. You could say she became a ludomaniac because her husband taught her to gamble. The situation there was like this: the guy was betting in the batting, and the girl started playing slots. As a result, he realized that such a situation would not lead them to anything good. And the girl couldn't quit, I'll say more - she didn't want to and eventually began to lose money very much. They broke up. And the strangest thing is that she still remains an ardent ludomaniac and believes that this is a great way to live.

It depends on how the couple can handle the gambling they do but I'm not sure they will be able to survive for long in conditions like this. If this whole story is true then I'm sure the couple will have problems maintaining their cash flow and it could be that they will have much bigger problems.

It crossed my mind how this couple handled gambling and got around the process of needing to use money to support their daily lives. I think both of them are not active gamblers but gamble only when they have more money and if my assumption is wrong then in the future we will see the couple experiencing great pressure.

The most common thing find is that husbands often gamble and their wives are quite angry when they find out. Rarely do we find incidents like this, where both partners are simultaneously involved in gambling. This is a rare pairing and we can imagine how much fun their lives would have been if they had bet on different outcomes.

I agree with you, we shouldn't make gambling only fun for men then women have to be hide to gamble. This isn't the 1800's that women where been stereotype of not gambling in public. Women aren't kitchen tools, they are human beings and they deserve to enjoy life as the men are doing. The woman shouldn't quit only as she's a woman, the man can give up the gambling habit and go out to look for a real job so he can provide for his family.

Gambling is for entertainment therefore the woman should have the turn as she's unlikely to waste all the family money having fun like the husband might do under the impression that he's looking for income to give the family a better life. Gambling is for all gender and I think both of them have to quit if they can't find a solution to make one person to quit without using any stereotype to make the person to quit.

Absolutely agree with you guys. I don't understand people who demean women before men. Yes, I understand that some of these people follow their religion, but it seems to me that following such religions in the 21st century is absurd. In my understanding women should have all the same privileges as men, not only in entertainment, but also in other spheres of life, because they are an integral part of the process thanks to which mankind has not yet died out.

It's not entirely because of religious rules, but culture also needs to be considered. All countries have their own cultural rules, this could also be a cause. However, in terms of privileges, I think almost all countries apply the same privileges. Except for those related to culture and religion. We can see now, everyone, both men and woman, can gamble, work or whatever they want. There is nothing wrong with this rule. Rules not made by the government often take precedence over. for example, in certain areas men and women still differentiate in terms of privileges, including not being allowed to gamble, then I think that does not mean they do not fulfill the right to be free, but just following the culture rules.

Why does it feel like it's the wrong choice to choose both of them to quit, it's not even the options. It's weird that the best course of action in this scenario is not mentioned at all, feels like OP is trying to create a discussion that already has an obvious answer but at the same time OP isn't satisfied with the answer and ends up trying to create an artificial division. This in my opinion is one of the questions that aren't worthy of long discussions because it's not a good question and there's an easy answer.

Has it gotten to this stage where gambling is now a debate for couples, who should take care of the home and who should do the house chores and take of the children. I will drop my opinion as a western man and like an African person.

In the west, responsibilities of the children is all on the hand of both parent, the kids need their dad and also their mom, it is not about who is doing the money everyday but priority comes more to who is earning less because that is the person that is will be having free time and look after the kids but the mom must always be available for the basic needs of the kids, is not the work of man to be doing domestic chores and cooking all the time particularly if he is a bad cook, but I'm not sure if gambling is even a career to debate this because I don't know if gambling is going to take the whole days of the parent.

An African man doesn't need to say this twice, it is the responsibility of the man to provide and it is that of the woman to look after the home but if he is doing something extra, fine but she has to look after the kids but still, she need to look after the children and not the man because more of the responsibilities is on his shoulder.

I don't know how many people here who've seen or rather listened to the new Eminem Juice World song, but it reminds me of gambling and gambling responsibly.  Juice World famously and sadly died of drug OD a few years ago now, and Em famously had a drug issue for years.  So it's a song of responsibility (rare in the Hip Hop genre).  It sort of reminds me of this...if you can do it responsibly then great, if not..you shouldnt be gambling at all.

If they are both able to earn their own money, I think they can both continue to gamble. They can also share household expenses. I think there is a possibility that both of them might get out of control, but it is not a sure thing, and both of them can manage to act responsibly. I don't think it's right to have prejudiced thoughts against this imaginary couple. :D

Obviously the wife has to quit gambling. The husband has the responsibility to provide money for the family so it is understandable that he goes into gambling to meet up with the family needs. On the hand the wife's responsibility is to grow and care for the family. Am still wondering how women who are into gambling tend to mix family responsibilities with gambling. After looking out for the kids, prepare meal for the family, do the dishes and make preparations for the next day. They still have time to gamble. Such a woman is strong and i do not have any issue with women in gambling. Am just saying that the both of them should not be gambling at least there should be one who will help manage the other from being addicted.

Well, I find this very difficult to resolve. We cannot force a person to quit gambling. While we are gambling. If economic conditions are good and both people know how to control themselves in gambling and have a lot of free time. Both could use some time to gamble. If either of the people has an addiction and a difficult economic situation, I think both should quit gambling. We cannot gamble in front of people who are addicted to gambling, and they will not be able to go through rehab.

Yes but the problem is that they act in gambling and not other activities that really give certainty to earn, even though for example they already have a pretty good plan on financial management and gambling but on the other hand honestly I don't really agree if there are people who say that "it's okay to continue gambling" after all this is gambling which is nothing more than luck that can make them get results to divide the expenses of family needs.

Honestly, I am one of the former active gamblers and I have my reasons why I prefer the couple to quit, we have to know that we are human beings and gambling involves things in the human mind such as hopes, expectations, emotions, I am not sure they will really be able to apply self-control and family bankroll management very firmly when both of them are overcome by emotions due to losing, isn't it possible for the couple to act out of control? Obviously, the most difficult thing for human beings to do is when they have to restrain their emotions not to vent, not only in gambling but also in other problems in real life is also the same, the difficulty of managing emotions that eventually act out of control.

So if both hold tight to gambling while nobody quitting, then what view do you think the society will see such family where both husband and wife are gamblers? Because one true fact that remain is that no matter how both tries to gamble responsibly, inasmuch as both keeps gambling and happens to have children, there is a higher tendency they having one child who is an addictive and chronic gambler, which is the least thing any parent will ever want from his/her child. Hence, one quitting will go a long way curing such menace.


But unless if we are talking about a moderate gambler who do not gamblers all ways, but if we mean full-time gamblers, then both parties are not suitable to be husband and wife.

There's nothing compare to watching your favorite player netting a winning scores to secure down the possibilities of these elite clubs. Quitting indirectly means giving up on your dreams and passion to enjoy and cheered up this season. Long discussions, good winnings happen today, they’re pointed out as evidence for gamblers to keep bringing in amazing offers and packages handled fulltime by the upper hands. Good question deserves good and simple answers in the system. OP brought the topic because he needs our public opinions concerning the whole scenario that happen.

Both husband and wife gambles? They need to be careful about their kid because children learn from both parents. So whatever you do or say, your children will listen and copy these behavior. With that said, the last thing you ever want to do is have your young son or daughter start talking about gambling or whatsoever at such an age. Considering that, both parents may need to stop gambling and focus on bringing up their children in a better way and environment.

100% agree


You lost me here. Big time. If a man resorts to gambling to provide for a family, he's neither a husband nor father material. With the exception of maybe professional poker players etc, but I consider that to be a skill game, not gambling.


Most women not only don't gamble at all, but they have oftentimes an unreasonable aversion to gambling. But those who do would likely pick up some quick, online slot games, which you could play anytime on your phone, so doesn't require any massive time commitment.

I agree that husbands must be the main money makers in the family, but what if gambling is not about providing money? If gambling is a job, then it is still discussible, but if it having fun, simply spending time, then why women should stand aside? That's how it was in society century ago, men gamble, women stand behind and support. What you agree to is some kind of a stereotype. If we see women smoking, we already gave her a negative tag. Tattoos women body looks amoral. It was all in past. Modern world if different. Like I've posted, if it is not about religion, then there is an equality in gambling.

Don't take it too far, I don't think that anyone will be demeaning women for them to do the right thing. The responsibility of the woman when it comes to taking care of the house and family is way more than that of men and men are mostly known mainly for the money provision and support they give to the family. Especially with the children, the mother connects and spends more time with them than most men, this is why women in most cases sacrifice something even if no one is forcing them to do so. But in some cases, if the couples are irresponsible, I don't even expect anyone to sacrifice for another but for them both to entirely quit gambling one way or the other for the sake of the family. But if they are not such irresponsible gamblers, I would say that it is a good thing that they keep their gambling habits because it is not a big deal to me as long as it doesn't affect their responsible way of life and it is not taking their time uncontrollably. But if the two still insist that one must quit, I believe that the one with the highest responsibility at home and to the children should sacrifice it for the other.

Let them determine their own path in life, meaning whether they are good or bad at gambling, they are the ones who judge and if a husband and wife enter the world of gambling and they enjoy it and it doesn't even become a burden on their family then what's wrong with them gambling?? And it must always be remembered that husband and wife as gamblers must cover up this behavior as much as possible in front of their children so that their children do not follow in their parents' footsteps.
However, gambling is a bad behavior in life and not everyone can control themselves well when gambling.

If a husband and wife are already gambling, enjoy it together and maintain good control and always be careful in every gambling game they play.

If we are referring to the sense of care between people then yes maybe I would also say the same thing as you in the sense of allowing them to continue gambling and without giving any best advice, but don't we have a humane sense, if we realize that in fact the whole activity is not recommended then why don't we give them a little advice and understanding that is straight and true? Honestly, I can't help but care about everyone whether it's my friends, relatives or even strangers, especially if they are married, which means they have full responsibility for the finances in their family, especially in terms of balancing so that everything can remain fine.

Sometimes people who have a goal to have fun are very likely to enter the addiction phase unconsciously and experience problems with their finances, well even if the couple considers gambling as entertainment but still the risks are always unavoidable and one of them is like what I said that it is possible that over time they end up with addiction, you have also said that not everyone can control themselves and emotions in gambling, isn't that also very likely to be experienced by this couple and then they experience problems with family finances? It's basically everyone's right, but certainly hopefully they can change their point of view to be more realistic so that they can consider anything correctly.

I think it's awkward. 2 Husband and wife are both people who like to gamble, and they see gambling as an entertaining game. The best solution is for them to teach children from a young age to know about gambling knowledge. Guide children towards healthy gambling in the future. Because even if you ban children, they will learn about gambling later because gambling is now widely advertised online. Teaching them about healthy gambling is probably a safer way.

There is nothing strange in the fact that this is what happens, although morally we rarely see this condition occur in one couple who are involved in gambling simultaneously. If the view of gambling that they carry out is only as entertainment and involved responsibly then in my opinion it is not a problem because I am sure if that is the scenario they will definitely be able to overcome financial problems and not get involved excessively.

There are rarely parents who intend to teach their children about gambling and in almost many places I visit there are no parents who are willing to teach their children about gambling because this is not the right choice for them.

There’s no point in even thinking about the fact that sooner or later their joint activities will get out of control. And I hope you understand perfectly well that the consequences for both will be incredibly sad. Not only will they lose all their money, but they will also go into debt that they will not be able to pay off due to their gambling addiction. I went through this myself and I never want to go back to it. I had a very hard time getting out of debt.

This is not a simple situation. But who will feel better if the spouse leaves? Second spouse, children? No, this is not a solution to the issue; it is simply an evasion of responsibility. It will be better for the family if none of the spouses leaves, but both quit playing if they cannot control it and problems have already arisen. If one of them just stops playing, this will not solve the issue, because the second one will sooner or later bring him back. This is an addiction, but God will help you cope with any addiction, including gambling.

A religion that belittles women, in my opinion, is either wrong. Or people do not correctly understand the laws related to this religion. Women are no worse or better than men. Everyone has their own role. I agree with you, maybe this happened a long time ago, but now it’s hard to imagine

Gambling on it's own is risky and at to have both spouses are gambling uncontrollably it becomes a big problem and just as you said,  having one of them quitting and leaving the other one person behind is of grave danger but if both decide to take the rough path to quite it works better.

Better still they could consult a doctor if there be any possible medical help that can be rendered to them since it is obvious that,  quitting gambling on your own may be hard are almost impossible at some point and if both of them decide to do it on they own,  it should be that there must be a change of environment and also changes in a lot of things the couples do to be able to quit and not slide back to their addictions again easily.

As you said in your last paragraph,  seeking spiritual help from God is ultimate,  but then if that is done with the mindset that a miracle will happen and they just overcome the addictions overnight,  it may also become hard,  but if the spouse prays and works hard,  they will eventually defeat the addictions that are worrying them.

I agree with you bud, like I said in my previous comment, there is no way I am going to be under the same roof with a woman who gambles, and this may not be to the fact that we may both get out of control, but for the fact that, we both gambling will surely affect our children.
Imagine where the father and mother In the house are both gambling, what do you think the children will become when they grow up or even before they grow up, they probably will become gambling addicts even while still in their mother's womb  ;D.

Now, jokes aside, it's a real fact, I will rather quit gambling and possibly continue doing it in secret if I really can't do without it, and have my wife quit too, it's better we both quit than continue gambling and have it affect our children.

But what would be the problem if your children saw their father and mother gambling sometimes? If you play responsively without compromising your children's education, personal emotional and material needs, they will see gambling in a very natural way, just like you do, as a couple. When they grow up it will be up to them to decide anyway, if they will want to become gamblers as well or not. There isn't a certain recipe for the development of an addiction or hobby. Sometimes children follow their parents' steps, but in other cases they just go the complete opposite way rejecting everything meaningful for their parents.

If you and your wife enjoy gambling, that is something you can do together for the entertainment of both of you. It's so hard to find partners inside a couple who enjoy doing the same things. People are so distant from each other nowadays, that I think when we match in our preferences of hobbies we should enjoy and be thankful for that.

This is what actually happened to my neighborhood as her husband is a gambler an she want to stop her husband for playing cause she has the mindset that it's a waste of money but her husband dint follow her still gamble everyday.and the time that they talk as a wife and husband, they decided that  her husband can still gamble but in limit cause he gamble for fun now not aiming for more profits unlike before. So the situation is it's up to the wife and husband if they gonna talk about it or not.

Yes, we must balance care with realism. Embracing our natural tendency to care, especially for loved ones, is vital. Understand their wants and motivations, not just let them continue. Empathy needs to be combined with realistic guidance. As amusement, gambling may soon become addiction, affecting the individual and their family's finances.

Considering the couple's situation, we should remember that while they can choose, they have duties. As you noted, not everyone can gamble responsibly. This is where friends and family matter. We assist them, not just watch. Its about gently helping people identify risks and reconsider their decisions.

Awareness, not command, is the goal. We should encourage them to critically evaluate their habits and their family's well-being. Empowering them to make informed decisions that consider the bigger picture is key. This strategy guides them toward sustainability via caring and responsibility.

Well, I perfectly understand the angle you are coming from and I completely agree with you, but to be honest with you, there is no gambler out there who would say that he or she had never felt really bad about a loss in gambling, no matter how responsible the gambler is or tried to be, the truth remains that, there will always be times you may lose a game you had high hopes on, and there is a very high chances that you may transfer or use that anger to attack your children necessarily, now, think of what such scene will be like if both parents are involved.

Now, I know my argument or opinion above doesn't really mean much, but personally, I just don't find it fun gambling alongside my partner(wife), if we do something together and have fun doing it, we could watch a movie together, or play video games together, or may be visit places and so on, I just don't find gambling a fun thing to do with a partner, probably because it involves losing money.

The question is: is gambling the only source of income for the couple so that their family can survive? But if they have other sources of profit, for me, it's better for one of them to give.

Then they should think of other resources that can produce profit, and when they can establish earnings in the business they thought of, they will decide to quit little by little so that at least their stopping will not be sudden and not difficult. on their part. Because the sudden stop is difficult, there will still be temptation in the end. It seems that it is still a matter of fighting themselves, of course.

Very unrealistic a couple (even a successful couple) could have gambling as their sole source of income, the reasons are obvious and it has pretty much discussed several times here in the forum. In the end, the house always wins.
What you describe is rather a ideal plan for a couple to replace their unstable and reckless "source of income" with something more conventional and reliable, but the fact is that sadly, if a couple is made of two individuals who have gotten accustomed to gambling to the point neither of them is willing to quit, it would be just matter of time before disagreements and fights start to ensue between them.
Both would need to be willing to sacrifice their source of entertainment and the sake of each other, and I think going cold turkey on the problem won't help in the case some of them could not resist the temptation and continue to gamble their money.

If the situation became desperate enough, I would personally get a third party involved who could help with the management of the finances, someone trusted by both people of the couple and bith serve also as a mediator.

Before I'm going to answer, is gambling now enough to feed the house, the last time I check, gambling is not an office work that require 100% of your time unless you want tonl sleep in the casino as for physical gambling and website as for the online gambling. So you want to tell me that the husband of the wife will forever be playing all day. Gambling is not a steady source of income that is going to stop the man or the wife to play their roles as a husband and wife.

I'm not sure about others but too much of gambling as a responsible parents will affect how they do at home. Imagine using gambling as source of income and then lost for the day, you will be sad and what are you going to feed your family if you depend on it for feeding your family. That's a wrong thing to do, they can both play and what they like but it should never stop both of them.ffom carrying out their duty.

Though I've not heard of such situation where both spouses are gamblers, but if they could manage their finance properly in a way that there's always money to cater for the family needs and children's educational expenses, then I see no reason for any of them to quit. They can still be gambling, having fun while raising their kids but in the case where one of them is not being prudent with his or her gambling habit or spending, then help should be sought after or should quit gambling.

Staying in control of their finance, emotions, and family decisions, once checked, no problem. Gambling is a form of relaxation and problem gambling could be destructive to the growth of a growing family. While the risks of having two gamblers as spouses are high, it can still be redirected to create fun and happiness in the family. Multiple life-fearing conditions can destroy a family; heartbreak and divorce. If spouses have a common activity that glues them in union to love one another, they won't have any problem whatsoever in running a successful family. Provided that they love one another, they won't stop at anything other than keeping the emotions of the kids safe and caring for them financially. Both parties will know the bad effects of discussing gambling moves or strategies around kids, hence they won't do that when the kids are around. They should gamble together in a physical casino rather than an online casino. Online casinos may be boring to them and they can easily wager more money. But, a physical casino presents them with the opportunity of team work.

On the contrary, I support both quoted responses, that say if both spouses don't have the control of staying responsible, they can quit gambling. One person shouldn't stop, it'll only cause trouble in the future. Keeping to their words and forgetting gambling will be difficult, but with determination, they can stop it. As one person can't see the other gambling and wouldn't dare to gamble. When a person has once been addicted to something, he won't be able to control himself whenever he sees somebody engaging in that same act. Moreover, they may have known about their gambling habit before getting married, during courtship. So, trying to stop them when they've gotten married, isn't encouraged, everybody has this control of building a successful home. In a nutshell, before getting married, if they're good gamblers both spouse may have thought about it and concluded on a specific rule to tackle irresponsible gambling to save the home or marriage.

In fact, if gambling weren't so addictive and dangerous for people with poor self-control, it would be a great development. For example, on Friday evening, you and your wife decided to buy beer together and sit and play slots. I think this will cause a lot of emotions, and they will be stronger than when watching a TV series or a computer game, but the price for this is too high. That's why I don't drag my girlfriend into this. I don't want her to have her self-control tested.
Women are weak and such entertainment affects them much more strongly than us men.

Putting it this way, it seems like the father, as the breadwinner of the family, has every right over whatever decision he takes, and the wife is not subjected to the same right.
 
And then again, saying that the man needs to go there in order to raise money for the family, do you mean he is putting the family budget based on gambling winnings, which he is not sure about? If that's the case, then the family might end up going to bed some days without even eating a square meal after gambling, which might have given him the biggest disappointment of his life.
 
But in the aspect of the wife being supposed to be with the children more than the husband in respect of that one going to work to chase their daily bread, it's understandable, but in gambling, I don't think using it as a means of making money is an eligible excuse to permit one spouse to gamble and the other not to.

Yes both of them should quit gambling. They can set an example by doing this. At least they can try to quit gambling for the sake of their children. The thing you said about affecting each other is also correct. If I see my spouse gamble in front of me, it's only natural that I too would want to gamble. Trying to be busy in life with work or resisting the urge to gamble all of these efforts will be in vain if others gambled in front of that person.

As far as I know, today in some Muslim communities women are still considered inferior to men. Whether it is good or bad, everyone decides for himself, but in my opinion it looks like humiliation of mothers, sisters and wives. Such women are not only unable to gamble, they cannot have their own opinion and voice. It's a shame that this happens.

I don’t know how the both of them will be able to cope. I don’t think two spouses gambling won’t end up affecting their family in one way or another. I won’t be surprised if one of them or even both of them might be addicted to gambling, and if addicted to gambling, then it’s really bad for them because it’s going to affect their financial management, and also because it’s really bad for their children because they might be learning from what their parents are doing, and the children might even end up being addicted to gambling, which might even be worse. If anyone will be gambling, then it should be one person, and parents shouldn’t disclose to their children that they do gamble.

Yes, maybe that will be experienced as time goes by. Maybe over time they will become addicted because they cannot control themselves in gambling because they may enjoy the games they play too much and forget about proper boundaries and self-control and this will also cause new problems in the family. It is true that this is their personal right or the personal right of every gambler.

That's how it should be, changing your perspective or thinking about gambling is actually not a place to make real money and gambling is a place to spend money quickly. That's the truth.

And it would really be always be depending on how each of you would really be able to understand the situation and yes, anything could really be talked well both husband and wife since you are the ones who had been building up the family on which it would really be just that fine that you should really be that mindful on what are the things that  are needed up to be changed
because there's no family that would really be that perfect on which there are moments or times that we do make out some lapses and this is why it would really be needing up to have
those adjustments for the sake of your family. As a husband then it would really be just that right that you should lead on how to handle this situation, it is impossible that you cant be able to determine on which wrong and which is bad.

As a matter of fact, it's a bit strange to even see this kind of situation. It's something I cannot even imagine happening, but if that kind of case exists, then the couples should actually check their gambling habits and work on themselves because it might also affect their kids. Gambling is for fun and not a proper means of earning. If those couples are actually gambling for money, it's because that's what gives them the fun they want, but they should just know how to control it. Perhaps these are the adults we are talking about here. Unless they have become very compulsive gamblers,  it will be difficult to stop in a short time, but if they are still in their right senses, they have to be disciplined and control their gambling habit.

Gambling is kind of thing we do base on our knowledge and not basically that someone pushed us into it, I know that gambling have to do with something I know very well that most people who plays gambling doesn't quite in gambling because of someone's advice, the major reasons why so many of them leave gambling might be aa result much losing, so if you don't want to be participating in gambling due to you are not benefiting in gambling again, you can as well understand that you have to leave gambling base on your detriment and your betterment, gambling is something we do without anyone teaching us the way forward.

in short, you are here because of your own volition. and when it is time for you to quit, it is also on you.
so don't blame anyone else if you are in this habit, because it is your own choice. now, to what extent you want to go in in this habit, is still your option. as you are responsible for yourself, make sure you won't regret your life's choices.
husband and wife, they both need to sit down and contemplate on their situation. because after all, it is their family who will suffer from their actions.
they need to consider of the following aspects of their lives -
 > financial situation
 > source of income/jobs
 > assets
 > kids (education)
 > savings/emergency funds
 > career
 

I have seen many couples engage in responsible gambling. They have a solid financial base and are always disciplined in gambling.

I believe that in the near future, gambling will be legalized in most countries, and there will be widespread information on the internet and the streets. Your children's lack of understanding of gambling knowledge is the foundation for gambling addiction. Thus, the more it is banned, the more curious it is for children to learn. It is important to show them clearly the negative effects of gambling on life and the economy so that children can control their decisions. It is facing the sweet temptation of betting games. Let's raise gambling awareness among our children.

I agree they must quit gambling and never do it again, my wife also addicted in this gambling apps in her phone last year and when I discovered she lost like $1k in month I forced her to quite gambling immediately or else I will never gave any money to her since she managed all our finances, surprisingly she listened to me and never gamble again. Gambling is fun but if you lost huge amount of money and affect your families finances then its a disaster to all of you. You will never get rich in gambling believe me.

In gambling, perhaps regret and disappointment will always be there, but if all of this makes the gambler blame other people, it is also not good attitude because all gambling activities are his own decisions.
Every gambler must be responsible and able to accept all the impacts of gambling without blaming other people, there is no point in blaming other people for the impacts of gambling that we feel.

Agree that they both have to be able to find solution and fix everything because what they do will also have an impact or influence on their own family.
There must be better solution with calm thinking, slowly they have to think about the long term of the activities they have carried out if they continue to happen.
And of course all aspects must be considered carefully and management and boundaries must be able to be set.
I know that for someone who likes to gamble, it will definitely be very difficult to stop, but at least they must be able to control it, manage it and also limit the intensity of the gambling they do.
Building family has been their goal together from the start so don't let gambling cause everything they have built in the family to experience problems or even be destroyed.

It's funny about children in the womb. )) Well, yes, a bad example not only for children, but also for the younger generation. I can’t even imagine the situation when I personally became an example of a gambling person. All this, of course, is funny to talk about this way, but in life I have seen many similar examples. People's lives are turning into a complete nightmare and there is practically no way out of it.

You wouldn't wish such "happiness" on anyone. I don’t know how it is in your country, but this process has been recognized as a serious disease - gambling addiction. It is quite difficult to recover. It's a bit like drug addiction.

Yes, that's what happens in many cases of young people or even old people who are addicted to gambling. What can be reduced is the intensity of gambling, to reduce gambling activity gradually. it is very difficult to ask a gambling addict to stop. What is done is a process of understanding to be able to better control the gambling that is carried out. and the process will of course not happen simply or even in a short time.

but in some cases, it depends on the gambler himself. because of course, there must be a willingness to reduce their activities. whether it's due to worsening finances or coercion from people around you.

Gamblers who take responsibility for their action wouldn't have trouble or blame others if they failed. Taking responsibility helps the brain to rethink and do the right thing, for a losing gambler, he would figure out a means of restructuring his gambling schedule and change a few bad habits like wagering all their money in a single game. For the spouses, I think they wouldn't have to regret anything about gambling because they can complain to one another if a new unwanted gambling habit erupts in their lives. Management is important, and the woman should control the finances while the man can keep up with techniques and management strategies. The list provided by AmoreJaz is very important and it's what is at stake for any family both gambling or non gambling homes. As I said in my previous response, some families where both spouses don't gamble still face difficulties with meeting those requirements.

It's not just about being a gambler or not. Although one may think that a gambler has a higher chance of failing in building his home, that could be wrong for responsible gamblers. If they spend 1% of their monthly income on gambling, they are still on the right track and the family won't suffer any loss in home-keeping. Both spouses can further ahead to becoming professional gamblers, if any of them wins a jackpot someday wouldn't the family celebrate the enhancement of their monthly income? The disadvantages of gambling have made us not see the advantages of gambling in our everyday lives. Advising them to stop wouldn't be helpful by any means and they can have a tough time agreeing to that term. Adults have to remain responsible for any decision they wish to follow and these two are grown-ups and can differentiate between what's good or bad in gambling. But, if they can't keep up with responsible gambling, I think they'll need help.

I had always played this local whot card game with my woman whenever she's around for the weekends because she's not always around due to her kind regards of job and the location far from home, so when she's around we play that game together for fun and entertain ourselves you know that lovebirds kind of thing. And I haven't seen her play any other game cause the purpose she plays that with me is not for money making but fun between two lovers.

It is when he two couples/lovers introduce money into the game making it seem as a  challenge between the two that's when you have got to be worried if she can be capable of holding herself together going forward from falling into addiction , because what I discovered is that people that gamble for entertainment rarely fall into gambling addiction compared to those that gamble for money making.

Recognizing the complex relationship between gambling and family is necessary. Responsible gambling is a good cause, however it depends on 'if' you can play properly. This 'if' is dangerous. This sounds reasonable: gamblers should spend 1% of their income on gambling. Does this one-size-fits-all strategy meet variations in family finances? Not necessarily. Even minor gambling can be dangerous. The key is the proportion and the discipline and self-control required.

Your idea that women handle finances and men focus on skills sounds oversimplified and stereotyped. Each family's dynamics are different, therefore an egalitarian approach may promote mutual respect and understanding.

Your outlook on gambling's perks, like winning a jackpot, is hopeful. Gambling should never be considered a stable revenue source. The odds are often against the player. Making professional gambling a family aim may not be wise. Making educated gambling decisions requires a balanced understanding of the risks and rewards.

After all, there is nothing wrong with helping others, since childhood I have always been taught by my parents to always pay attention to people who need help or deserve help, in any way even if it is just advice and motivation. It's sad if we let people just get lost in the wrong mindset and point of view when on the other hand we know that what they are doing is quite dangerous and needs a push for a realization as soon as possible.

That's what we're always worried about, even if the couple's goal is just to find entertainment by enjoying a few rounds of gambling but the fact is that there will always be situations where as you said they can't fully control themselves along with breaking the planning and management that they have made from the beginning, and of course that means it's no longer about entertainment and fun but leads to some mental and psychological stress that ends up with unexpected financial problems.

Our arrival may be very useful and have quite an important role when the situation of the husband and wife is not good in their gambling involvement, encouraging a little evaluation, justifying the point of view and returning the realization that however gambling always has indications for something much worse to happen, these are all possibilities that will never be foreseen in the end.

Since both parents love to gamble, they can make a competition between each other. That will be fair I think. They can start with identical budget, and by the end of a period, calculate, who was more successful in gambling. That persons can continue gambling freely, but the other person only after all the duties are done. And after a period of time repeat competition. Wont that be a solution that dont harm anyone?

Gamblers who spend 1% of their income on gambling may not be able to meet the requirements to make money from gambling because it is
difficult to get winnings from gambling. What you say is true is that the key is proportion and the discipline and self-control required so that the husband or wife can both understand that they must prioritize their family first rather than gambling. There is no need to put ego first. The husband or wife has to stop gambling, especially since they have the same goal, namely wanting to build a good household with their children. If they can understand this, maybe both of them will immediately decide to stop gambling because they know that gambling can cause a loss of self-control.

Indeed, we should not assume that gambling is a stable source of income, and that will be difficult to do. Moreover, we often play gambling to see how often we can win. It would be better for the husband and wife to start reducing their gambling activities so that they do not lose self-control when gambling. Even though they have reduced their gambling activities, they can still gamble after their children are asleep so that no one disturbs them from gambling. But they really have to be more disciplined in playing gambling because they can lose self-control and then they can use their family's money. A husband or wife who really cares about their family will choose to give in and decide to stop gambling because they don't want to lose self-control in gambling, which could cause them to lose money for their family.

I think there is no problem if both of them compete, it's just that if they don't have children, maybe they're free, but it would be a problem if they have children, no one is taking care of them and their time is spent gambling, so one of them has to give in or take turns taking care of other household needs so there's no chaos. in taking care of the household, the problem discussed by the OP is one of having to give in to taking care of the family.

Although perhaps no one needs to give in, they can even play at the same time at certain times, but the important thing is not to neglect time with children and family, so there is no jealousy from both of them if they can do it, but if they can't, it's better if one of them has to stop playing. think about the interests of children and families.

that's true, because gambling can also make them focus only on the gambling they are doing, they probably won't be disturbed when they are gambling because it's not fun to gamble but there are distractions, so I think if they both like gambling they should can divide their time well so that gambling makes them forget more important things. also like you said about children,  when they have children I think they have to reduce their gambling activities because maybe if they still like to gamble it could have an impact on their children.

You are right, one of them must stop gambling because the family is of course the most valuable asset that must be protected, don't let gambling destroy the family and the future of their children. because I think families must be provided with the best possible care, with gambling having a dangerous impact that could damage them and their families. so I think it's better that they both can stop gambling.

Gambling is not a way to earn money and provide for the family with that money, so a man doesn't need to continue gambling while saying that he has a responsibility and has to provide for the family. Those who take responsibility don't gamble their money away because no matter what, you are not going to keep winning all the time from gambling and there will be a day when you will lose everything you have that you use to earn money and then you will just sit and regret everything.

So, we can't say that if a couple gambles, the man should continue gambling while the woman should stop doing it because the man has a responsibility. I would say, the woman should continue gambling for fun while the man should find a job or do a business so that he can have a proper source of income and be able to provide more for the family.

How much budget you run out every time you play the card on the weekend because if you only decrease a small amount then I am sure this will not affect anything. Gambling will be more addicted if done routinely and I do not believe people say it is not addicted if gambling activities are carried out routinely. In my environment rarely people are involved in gambling with their partners because gambling is not a good deed according to the judgment of most people.

The problem is addicted not to be based on challenges to play but because this activity is carried out irresponsible. Similarly, the couple and if the two are unable to maintain the proportion of gambling that spend a lot of money then it is worried that they will be addicted to who are unable to control themselves. In the end they will get a much greater problem because various problems will arise when finance is not better.

It's great that you have this way of spending time together. Money in this card game would really ruin such a touching relationship.

I think that the greatest gambling addictions occur among those who do not have a partner. Such people want to prove to themselves and others their importance. Plus, they understand that with a lot of money they will definitely not be left to live alone, but in reality they get such huge debts that such financial responsibilities will scare off any girl. The game cannot solve all life's problems, and this is obvious to any person who considers himself a highly accomplished person.

Actually doing gambling both you and your wife wont really be an issue as long you are really just not forgetting other things or priorities or simply do really make this some sort of fun or leisure time together.
If you are really that still intact with your finances and having that kind of control on the things that you've been dealing with then its not really an issue. Things do really just that become messy on the time that you would really be not minding about those things which are important and you are already that putting importance on gambling rather than on to those things and this is where issues do really kicks in.
This is why it would really be always important that you should really know your limitation and you should really know on what you are doing.

On the time that you and your wife had already do commit out things like having those financial struggles or problems just because of too much gambling then this is already that considered to be bad.
Quitting? Its to you as a husband and father on what are the things that you would really be doing. You wont really be that so dumb on not to realize on whats the things
that are happening.

Someone who have been gambling so a while shouldn't quit gambling all because of the considerations they had with losses while gambling, they may only pause for a while when they are financially incapable of affording gambling or when they are having a complicated health challenges, most people cannot because of loosing bets take decision on quiting for gambling when they are already finding pleasure with it.

The fear is not about them, they can be doing fine by themselves, its about the legacy they create for their children, unless its about couples who don't Care about having kids. These tiny legs are super observant and a silly mistake from their caregivers can get their lives ruined and get them off on the wrong path.

Children under the age of 16 should not be exposed to gambling, reason being that they're not psychologically sound and matured enough to make good decisions for themselves and gambling decisions is one of the toughest decisions to make because of its addiction possibility. Its More like congesting their childhood. Please things children are exposed to should be greatly regulated. That's why you see 18+ in most platforms. They're not stupid, they know the dangers of involving children in those things at a tender age. It doesn't go well with them in the long run.

As a parent whether husband or wife then it would really be just normal that both of you would really be that responsible when it comes on raising up your kids on which it is really just that right that you should really be that mindful about on the things that you are dealing with on which it cant really be seen by your kids because if they do then high chances or probability that they would really be doing the same thing and this is something that we dont really like to happen. Gambling isnt bad if you are really just that responsible on what you are doing or simply being that kept secret or something that cant be seen by your kids
because everything that they would be able to see into their parents are actually that good or right things which not all the time to be that way.

You would really be just that mindful on quitting up things when everything is already that been messed up. This is why it would be better that you should quit up before it too late.
Doesnt matter on whose the one, the important thing is that one of you would really be able to quit and would help out the other one on doing the same.
Yes, its hard but its not really that impossible.

That's true. One of the main reasons why gamblers cannot terminate their habit is because of revenge. In their mind there still remains the desire to take back whatever they had lost and it's a cycle that never ends.
A few days ago I said to myself that I was going to lessen playing casino games, especially the originals because I had been losing in a bad streak. But, I tested again yesterday and I found myself winning and I dropped the ball of Plinko at x1000. After that, I kept on winning although not as big as the first time and then I withdrew the funds. How can a gambler stop if he is given a chance again to win? Right now, I am thinking about gambling the same way again and try if I can win one more time. I am just waiting for my funds and then I will try again.
That's just one of the reasons why a gambler cannot quit. There are other reasons from different gamblers on why they keep on doing it but I know that it's always about revenge and that luck coming to them one day to take advantage of the profit they can make.

When they are at a point in their life being unable to afford some gambling, maybe it would be better for them to quit gambling entirely and focus on building a financially free life based on hard work. If gambling can blow a hole into their bank accounts such that it has profound subsequent consequences, choosing to gamble is a bad choice in my opinion and instead they should make more general and basic plans to change their lives instead of waiting from paycheck to paycheck to be able to gamble again.

Gambling addiction can still be handled gradually if they are able to stop themselves from frequently engaging in gambling activities, they must have a strong determination to stop, especially for husbands and wives who are addicted to gambling. They must be able to stop for a better survival it is not easy but If husband and wife are able to support each other to stop together then the process will not last long because usually family factors are very important for the gambler himself.

For other people, addiction may be something that is difficult to cure, but this depends on the gambler himself, if they don't have the intention and determination then it will be something that is very difficult to cure as long as they have a supportive family gambling addiction will get faster to handle.

If they are financially capable and can handle the risk in it I don't see any issues there. One thing about gambling is that is not easy to stop it as it is easy to start it. So the thing that no gambler can boldly say he or she haven't loss in a game  before because that just one thing about it. But in time you can also experience winning but doesn't losses can be neglected that why you got to find your way of winning are to manage your greed. And how to many the percentage you using.

I agree that no one should give in, or they must find a compromise that is suitable for both, husband and wife, but my solution I think is a nice alternative of quitting. As no one quits, they just reduce amount of time one of them gamble. Regards children, they require attention and parenting from both parents equally. We have to be honest, but there are father can never replace mother and opposite. If they have children, then all priority must be given to them, and gambling should be put aside for both of them.

In as much both couple gamble responsibly with moderation to avoid addiction nothing is wrong with both of them gambling, I had come across couples who take excessive alcohol which I believe is completely wrong, however in the case of couples involved in gambling I am sure none of them would quit it for another because it seem both of them are engrossed in gambling, thus way out is both of them should be transparent with their gambling activities by gambling with the amount of money they can afford to lose therefore it mustn't affect family expenses especially money for feeding, payment of bills and other relevant expenses atleast whatever income earned from gambling would also help their home

People who are financially capable can continue gambling and do not need to decide who should stop gambling. But we know that gambling can cause a person to lose self-control, and if that happens, a person can lose all their money.
It needs to be realized that if they can both decide to reduce their gambling activities and stop gambling, it will be better for their family. They can supervise their children better because they have no desire to gamble.
There is no need to choose who should stop, not the husband or the wife, but by both stopping gambling, they can save money for their children.
They don't need to pin their hopes on gambling to make money, especially if they both work and can earn a salary. Of course, it will help his family financially.

No issues if they can but the question is will they be able to handle it? Risk changes and it varies from their situation that sometimes will definitely not in their favor.

Whether they have ways to win or they'll just eventually going to lose. What matters to them is that they should not neglect their duties as parents. But that can't be guaranteed because of how they're doing things together with parenting. That's not sufficient to give all of their full efforts to their duties as parents because there is gambling and it's not just their time that shall be used there but also their money.

I think whether it's alcoholism or gambling addiction both are basically negative and if you can it's better to avoid it, it's okay because the fear of something going wrong is very possible. If indeed in this case both spouses are already involved in gambling then yes maybe I would also agree with your idea which is quite confusing to choose who should stop, I can't choose one of the two because after all they both have an important role in a family.

The wife has the job of managing the household as well as allocating the money given to her by her husband to fulfill all the needs, and the husband acts as the head of the family where he has a greater responsibility to earn a living, so both roles are involved in money, and of course if one of them is gambling aggressively then it is very likely that the money earned from the main job is allocated to gambling and forgetting some of the more important needs. That's right, there's nothing wrong with quitting if it's going to be very difficult for both of them, so I think they need to be committed to keeping their gambling activities in check in terms of always being strict on limits and not going overboard, all for the sake of the balance between money for gambling and money for family needs.

Family-based gambling addiction treatment is unique. Mutual determination between husband and wife can change lives. Addiction is sometimes an indication of deeper difficulties. Sustainable recovery requires addressing these issues. Therapy can reveal and treat these difficulties, facilitating rehabilitation. Society needs to evolve its view of gambling addiction. Not merely a "bad habit", its mental illness. Awareness and stigma reduction can increase help-seeking. Gambling industry regulations like responsible gambling can also prevent.

Family support is crucial, but its only part of the rehabilitation ecology. Personal drive, professional assistance, and social support are needed. Together, these factors can make addiction recovery attainable

Aside from all that you have said, I did like to state and make it categorically clear that, the idea of a husband and his wife both being addicted to gambling is nothing but a pure assumption, or should I call it speculation or a wishful thinking.

In a real sense, it's pretty difficult, more like impossible for a man and the woman of the house to both fall into gambling addiction, this is nothing but pure speculation, for those who are not married, family life is full of expenses, most especially when children are already a part of the family, I personally believe that, it's practically impossible for a man and a woman to become addicted to gambling while being married to themselves, this ever happening will be the height of stupidity if you ask me.

The truth of the matter is that, bills that comes with being a family Persons, won't even allow the husband and the wife to gamble enough to the extent of getting addicted to it.

The addiction of gambling was not easily recovered,if the both husband and wife get addicted to the gambling site.It’s very hard to treat such cases,because we know the recovery of one addiction take 3-4 months.This two addiction even take 8-10 months.Because until the family was suffering financially because of the gambling loss,both husband and wife will not get to know about their addiction.The first addiction felt by the wife of the family because he will buy the essential things for the cooking and he do cooking for the day.So the family will be suffered with the food at the beginning of financial difficulties caused by the gambling addiction.

The truth is that a type of mutual Addiction is due to having very bad luck , the truth is I don't know how it would be done in a case like this , I think that in one of the two of the couple has to take the reins and think well to do things with more intensity To give the Example, generally it should be the man who is more willing to get out of that problem so that the woman is only willing to follow her partner's example, of course all that in good judgment, sometimes it is good to get out of this quickly because they both risk losing each other, and although there is some mutual support, both of them have to get out of it by showing that they have a good understanding even in that, is what occurs to me, is what comes to mind, Therefore, I would say that when it comes to having more ways to attack these problems, it is by going to the same psychologist where they see both of them and between the two of them, finding the way to continue trying there Until they achieve it.

In this order of ideas, we are people who are always looking for the best, so that is when we think we can make a difference, it is better to have the Determination and Enough Willpower to get out of it, with respect to solving it quickly. If the person really wants it, follow all the instructions they are given, if not, then they can simply see what is better, whether to go to a psychologist or do it in the most rudimentary way, which It is not Going to the casino or not playing and doing other activities to minimize the Anxiety that this gives, that is Something that can be done Quickly and with 1000% willpower , this is what Many do when they do not have economic solutions where they can perceive everything What they need, they have to address a type of Demand like this to be Able to get out of the problem , because otherwise it can Become the biggest Problem of their lives , and if they don't control everything , but Absolutely everything gets out of Control.

Firstly, that family is not charting the right course, how then do you tell the children to stay rigid without gambling when it's the way of the parents. If the both of them have gambling as their source of income, it's going to be difficult to tell one of them to stop gambling.

If they have been into gambling before they got espoused, that's even a more critical challenge as they almost can't tell themselves to back off as they've agreed to it before they came together.

But, if anyone has to call it quit then it should be the wife. She has to hold the family and manage resources, it's not good to have her gambling with that.

I get your point and if you ask for my opinion I will also say same thing but I think most western culture or way of life are ignorant of some of these things as the world with them have become so free that the children are constantly exposed to such habits even without the consideration of the effects(negative) that can get to these little observers. Although I know that human are of different types as some are ignorant and careless and do fall under this category.

Yeah this is actually true and real situation or happenings into this life on which there are really cultures or certain races on how they do really raise up their children on which it is really that too loose on which on the sense that it is really that making those young minds would really be that too exposed on things which arent supposed to be that exposed but well there's nothing we can do about it on which there would really be
those kind of things happening around and better not to boggle up yourself when it comes to this situation but rather it would be better that you should mind on about yourself or your own family.
Basing up on this situation on which both husband and wife is really that engage on gambling on which quitting would really be that so hard since both of you are really that engaged into it
on which there's no one would really be able to stop you on the middle on the time that addiction would really kick in. There's no one would really be able to pull you out.
This is why it would be always best that one of you would really be quitting up and then trying out to explain and tell the other side that doing the same will really be that recommended
specially if family relationship is already that compromised.

You've made a great point, and I'd want to stress more on the term Egalitarianism. In this condition, it doesn't mean anybody is more important than the other. Handling money doesn't increase the respect of anybody in the family. Provided that the man and woman earn money, one party should be in control of how is been spent and then report to the other person about their weekly expenses. In economics, it would be termed, the division of labor. Each task should be allocated to the person who can perfectly execute it with fewer problems. In my response, it sounded like a generalized instruction for a woman to be in control of the money, if both spouses are gamblers. This time to make it clear, if the woman isn't capable of doing it, then the man can handle the task. But, from my observations, women have the skill of home-keeping and know when to buy certain important utilities in the house.

As gamblers she can always set aside the monthly money meant for gambling and endeavors that nobody breaks the rule of spending more than the agreed amount of money made for gambling. So, hoping to find a family where both parties would do the same thing just to promote mutual respect or understanding can be rare, as we are created differently. In such a case I can say that, they'll have to joggle the idea. Maybe the wife controls money this month and the man another month, while the wife takes care of strategies. This will only reduce their productivity as the consistency will disappear. Moreover, if the husband doesn't master a strategy that can be applied to their gambling life to stay winning more than losing, how would they be able to stay relevant in gambling or happy, if they continuously lose money in gambling? Since the odds are against them, they need to fight to win at all costs, not just money, but maintaining a good home and being responsible parents.

Not really that something easy and this is why you should really be that mindful about on the things that you are dealing with specially that you do both is really that doing gambling. I cant imagine
on how much money that came from your own salary would really be spending into gambling? For sure you would really be that compromising into those amounts which are really that intended
for other means or simply on your family savings. It is really just that a waste that both of you are really that spending those amounts on which it would really be just that worth if you do spend
it into your children rather than into your leisure means. I dont really see that this wont really be a huge potential problem when the time comes. So must avoid it while its still early.

When you are not beneficiary of gambling I don't think you have to delay after you have realized your mistakes in gambling and also done the annual statistics analysis of gambling, so I believe that you gambling realizing the kind of funds you lose in gambling it will make you know that gambling is not your calling or you don't have luck in gambling, many people today gamble continously and become addicted in gambling all because they benefit in gambling but a process whereby what you spent in two years in gambling and you have not gotten half of it, so that is to tell you that you are not destined to benefit from gambling and you don't need extra trial, what you need is to quit from gambling

Lol I can definitely attest to that. Wife always gets the last word on anything. But as the partner I think we also have the responsibility to help her be swayed in the right direction in order for things to be better. in Lida's scenario it seems as though there's a disconnect between taking care of the family and the gambling spree that you guys both have, and it would be a little problematic if one manages to quit while the other is able to keep into their gambling indulgences. I think in this case, both wife and husband should quit gambling religiously for them to have more time to take care of the kids, and of each other. I don't say not to gamble at all, but set a compromise with each other wherein you're not gonna gamble as much anymore for the sake of the family.

Gambling is not gonna be worth anything you're contemplating of dropping for it. It's nothing but a pastime you can partake in if you want to unwind and relax. Keep it that way and you'd not only have a fruitful relationship with your partner, you're sure to have a good life too.

Restricting what your children could watch was easier decades ago, because back then kids had very little access to technology and at most only their friends could expose them to gambling early on.

However thanks to the internet not only kids are exposed to all kind of things at an inappropriate age, now parents are not even aware this is happening as it is impossible for them to monitor everything that their kids are doing online, since it is often the case that parents are way behind in the use of new technologies compared to their own kids.

I admit that limiting viewing for children is very difficult because nowadays, children are used to watching shows they can easily access. With more advanced technology today, they can choose what they want to watch and even do it without the help of their parents. This is where parents supervise their children to be able to tighten their rules towards their children so that they will not be influenced by anything they see. Husbands or wives need to know this so they can think about whether they should reduce their gambling activities for the sake of their children and maybe stopping gambling is best for them.

This is not a matter of who should stop, but it depends on each individual's awareness, husband or wife because this is their responsibility. If they could realize it, they would think that they both need to stop gambling.

That would be really concerning. If a husband and wife are both involved in the same gambling activities, it could lead to more problems for the family. Both might end up getting addicted to gambling and forget their responsibilities. While I haven't seen such situations often, it's usually the husband who gambles. I'm not saying women don't gamble, but it's more common among men. Some men can control their gambling and keep it outside the home to avoid a negative influence on their children. However, I've also seen families where both parents and children are gamblers, causing financial difficulties at home because everyone prefers gambling over improving their standard of living. It would make even more sense if they both quit gambling and focus more on fixing their family.

I don't buy the idea that gamblers should give up so easily, they need to try more even if they fail but it is when it is getting too persistent in losses and they are getting uncontrollable about it that they should flee for their money. Gambling has never been easy, but when it is followed rightly, I don't think the gambler can go astray or waste so much money that will now lead to regret or addiction. We should preserve our senses/minds here and anyone can quit gambling at any time. But they do not have that in their minds even before they start gambling, which explains why gambling teaches them a whole lot of lessons always. The best part of gambling should be for fun, but those who are facing issues with it never embrace that aspect but always believe that they can make huge money from it. However, when this huge money making is not forthcoming, instead for them to slow down or quit, they would have lost much money and would want to recover the losses back or still have the mindset that they can enrich themselves through this activity. That is how they get more entrapped into it and will continue to lose more in their folly.

In a family where the husband gambles alongside the wife, there is no doubt that people may think of their children as future gamblers. Such perspectives aren't wrong, neither is it a threat to the future life of the children. The most crucial duty is the act of management; kids, family, money, food, bills, etc. These few utilities shouldn't compound to become a problem in any family. Both gamblers must be able to instruct their children on what to do at a specific time and monitor their internet access. Recommending a keylogger installed on the devices or gadgets of the kids would be important. So that the parent would be able to observe any single search the child is inputting on his system. Children are very skillful and fast at adapting to new technologies, hence parents must act as adults too, by staying extra hours in researching for means to stay ahead of their children. The kids we own are our responsibility, they should be grown in a way that pleases us, and if one is found misbehaving, the parents must caution the child to stop. Or be punished. What kind of punishment is effective in changing a change?

In previous years, our parents were used to seizing our gadgets or maybe restricting us from going to participating in games we love like football, basketball, etc. Those moves weren't effective, in my response, because at some point they weren't able to keep up with the pace and got tired, hence the child continued with his bad habit. Punishing a child could be done in different ways. When I want to change a child, I don't buy them what  I bought for others as a punishment. That child would have a rethink or sometimes cry over it. Such things leave a mark on the child that lets him remember that whenever s/he misbehaves his parents won't buy him gifts when they buy for his siblings. Then that child would begin to shape his ways, to be eligible for the next gift. I've used this method to get most children close to me, interested in mathematics and they hardly fail on doing their maths assignments. Parents can as well use this to caution a child that feels the urge to gamble as a minor.

Remember that partnership is a dance, not a dictatorship. We lead and follow equally. Gambling requires balance, not just quitting. We must appreciate its emotions; it's escapism from the commonplace. This hobby becomes a problem when it overshadows obligations. It disrupts family life. Leisure shouldn't become a liability in our relationships, thus we must maintain balance.

Instead of quitting gambling, Lida practices moderation. As partners, we must create an environment where both can indulge without sacrificing family. Gambling in moderation can be relaxing. Set boundaries and declare enough. We keep the joy and family holiness this way. We safeguard and nurture relationships by promoting responsible gambling.

Parents must admit that their children can use their devices better than their parents, so parents must be wise about their use. Parents need to give their children an understanding of what they can and cannot do with their devices so that their children will not try to do something that could put them at risk. There are many ways that every parent can do this, but this requires learning from parents to know what needs to be done. Children are the responsibility of parents. It cannot be denied, so no matter how busy parents are, they must still be able to find time to accompany their children and not leave them alone to use their devices. Nowadays, many children have fallen into things that are not right, so parents need hard work so that their children can get back on the right track. For this reason, if parents have provided guidance and supervision since their children were at an early age, parents will have no difficulty in providing an understanding of something so that their children will understand more quickly.

Confiscating children's devices because they don't want to comply with their parents' wishes is not a solution. These children want to be understood by their parents, so they ask for attention from their parents so they can use their devices when they are free. Maybe parents can make a schedule for when their children are allowed to use their devices, and after that, their children have to put down their devices and do other activities so that they don't get addicted to using them. Nowadays, children are more busy with their devices than interacting socially with other people, especially their parents and siblings. And if they will need clarification if they don't get an internet connection, they will do many things to get an internet connection. Parents need to worry about this because if left unchecked, their children can fall into negative habits that can cause problems for them and their parents.

To be honest, I haven't seen or heard of any case like this one. I never thought a family could be like this. Anyway, you are asking for a solution on the internet but a person needs to know every detailed thing before they can think of a possible solution. At first, are they addicted to gambling? Both of them are addicted or not. What kind of gambling it is? some people love to play poker and other card games online. some people do horse races and sports. Some others play in-house games and slots!

If both spouses are gamblers, both of them must make money as well. If not, then the one who does not make money should stop first and force the other one to stop gambling. If they are addicted, it will be a hard job for them to quit gambling. but, they have to think about their kids and the family. Nothing can bring them this precious time. Most of the time, gambling is waste of money.

There are things parents should stop once children starts coming in the picture, I know how devastating gambling can be to humans but I think with discipline one can curtail his or her habit, there are some things you will be doing in your children's presence you will live to see the consequences because when they start imitating you, they will continue to make the habit a life style until it becomes part of their life, there is no way two spouse will be a gamble and you still expect such house to be responsible is no-no, but if both party can let go of their habit and work together they can achieved a happy home together.

And there is a lot of research on other fields that supports what you are saying, since it is known that if a kid grows in a home in which both parents drink, use drugs or are overweight then the chances the kid does the same thing as an adults increases a lot.

So if a kid were to watch their parents to gamble it is likely they will do it too, now gambling responsibly is not an issue, but it is likely that a person that is exposed to gambling at such an early age will be unable to control their gambling as well as a person that was not exposed to it so early on.

Those who stop are those who realize how bad gambling is. they will definitely stop if it harms them. This is very simple but very meaningful if they cannot control their gambling desires they will continue to spend their assets until there is nothing left. I think stopping gambling is not suitable for people who are willing to run out of free money. except for an addict who even disrupts his family life. this just said they should stop as soon as possible.

It can scatterer a family if the husband and wife continue gambling habit because it will make them to experience some hardship that will cause some issues that will make children to hate their parents but the wife need to quit gambling to allow her husband to be gamble. I will not advise the family to be gamble because, it will not encourage the children in the future because they will start gambling at their small age to know how gambling look like and what someone can gain from it.

If the spouse are not yet addicted to gambling, it will be easy for them to quit to save the family for destruction and it can attract divorce for the husband and wife to be separated.

You are right that it is very inappropriate to blame other people for failure in gambling, after all, blaming other people will still make someone disappointed about the failure because certain amount of money was lost.
Every gambler must be able to accept loss, must be prepared for risk and must be able to understand the consequences of gambling because whatever happens, only he himself will feel it, not anyone else.

For those married couples who win and have passion for gambling, they can understand and complement each other if something bad happens and of course regret will remain because they are family, they need more money for their family.
I know that if you can still manage time well then gambling activities will never bring ruin to family, but if that happens then they both have to be able to find good solution and reduce the intensity of their gambling as much as possible.
It all depends on how they have boundaries, have management and manage their finances and time as well as possible, if this is done then the problems that occur may not be so complicated.

Well, that what is called managing finances and time.
Indeed, those who do not like gambling do not mean they will be free from problems and difficulties, but for those whose families like gambling and cannot manage their money or time well, problems will arise more often and of course it will be much more difficult.

it has not been tackled mate .
this is the biggest problem a gambler must have when you and your partner is both in gambling.

mostly a Woman because he is good for taking care of family , and also maybe who is more lucky that needs to stay if whom of them.

I believe on of the reasons gambling was set to be played by those in the age of 18 and above, is because of responsibility. So it is believe that at that age range, you are responsible for your own actions, so blaming other people for your losses in gambling look childish. We are all responsible for our actions as adults.

I think in a family settings like that, the both couple should create our time and discipline so that, gambling would affect their home. Mostly we find the males more in  gambling so, the wife could just back down for the husband to continue, that is if he still wants to. We have seen the worse a man can do in gambling but we haven't seen how irresponsible a female can become in gambling so it better to take the notion which says, the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know.

It is difficult for a gambler to stop gambling. He can stop gambling if he no longer has assets and money for gambling.
As long as there is money, he will definitely gamble.
Gamblers cannot be advised to only stop gambling on their own accord or do not have money to gamble.

If want to stop between the two choices, the one who stops is of course the woman, aka his wife. because the husband earns money and the wife manages the money.

Don't forget, there's a way to borrow and play and for someone addicted to gambling, they'll find any means to indulge, no matter the situation. Quitting gambling isn't necessarily hard, the real question is how gambling has affected the person. If a gambler can reflect on their life now compared to before gambling, and it's positive, great. But if it's negatively impacting their life, a sensible person would strive to steer clear of gambling.
It takes courage and wisdom to quit gambling. The best approach is to replace that gambling spot with something else. If a couple continues to gamble, it could harm their family, as no one would be fully responsible or play their role as a parent.

The main issue here is the children. The children will definitely see gambling as a responsible thing. It won't be easy to correct such act from the children since it something they have started at the early stage of their life. The parent may be able to control there gambling act and make a responsible gambling because they no the consequences of being a gambling addict. But the children will never consider this. It better the parent quit gambling or do it in a secret way which won't be exposed to the children.

When someone is aware of the bad effects of gambling, of course they will look for ways to reduce the gambling they do or stop gambling. If we cannot control ourselves in gambling, we will of course do it until the money we have is gone, of course there is nothing left. it will be very detrimental to us, but it is not an easy thing to stop gambling if we are addicted and what is worse is when people who are addicted have an impact on those closest to them.

I think that a family in which a husband and wife gamble, especially ones in which they place bets against a professional bookmaker, is doomed to collapse. Such a family will not last long. They apparently don't know that the casino and bookmaker have an advantage over you. And this advantage manifests itself over the long haul. Most likely, funds will run out quite quickly. And this will lead to conflicts in the family. Conflicts will arise due to lack of funds. And if they do not switch to a normal source of income, their quality of life will plummet. At least one person in the family must have a source of income that is not related to gambling.

although in my opinion it is difficult to be aware of the bad effects of gambling, because someone who is addicted to gambling will likely only think about winning and things about gambling, therefore it will be difficult for them to realize that what they are doing is wrong, but even though it is difficult I think they can realize it if they themselves are aware of it, because in my opinion, even if they are advised and given input, even if it is by their family, if they themselves are not aware of their behavior, it is already detrimental to themselves, it is possible that they will not easily realize it and will not there are thoughts of stopping gambling.
but no matter how difficult it is, they have to be aware when they have their own family, because if they are still not aware, it is possible that their addiction will have an impact on their own family which could result in them getting divorced due to irregular financial factors. I think that if you really want to gamble, you should look at the situation of your family and yourself first, because there are people who insist on continuing to gamble even though they have their own family and even have children who obviously have to be supported every day.

A family where husband and wife gamble will definitely have a bad impact one day, if no one gives in and continues to gamble, over time this will cause conflict because they feel their finances are increasingly unstable. A family must lower the ego of one of them or stop all of them if they want to get a life that is sufficient, harmonious and away from gambling which is a major financial problem, because if you continue to gamble it will become a big problem one day and it is not impossible that it will lead to divorce because no one will give in to stop one.

If a husband and wife are addicted to gambling, of course this will cause even more serious problems because no one can control themselves to stop gambling. But if a husband and wife gamble just for fun and can manage their finances in such a way and use gambling together without any differences then this It's not a problem and you can remind each other if you have exceeded your limits and still prioritize household needs over gambling.

There is no need to determine who should stop gambling, especially if they are husband and wife. They should prioritize the interests of their family rather than entertainment because gambling is included in activities that provide entertainment. If the two of them could immediately stop their gambling activities because they prioritize the interests of their family, that would be very good because they are willing to give up their current pleasures to be able to do what is best for their family. They will know that gambling can cause problems for their family, whatever the reason. Instead of them having problems later in their family, it would be better for both of them just to stop it and prefer to put their family first rather than just gambling. After all, the fun of gambling requires using money, where that money cannot always give them a win.

It is the best option they can do in this kind of situation. However, the bigger question is how they are going to do that. Husband and wife engage in gambling activities, assuming they are playing even before they become married, it is already part of their life. They can't easily give up their gambling activities unless they experience something that will make them realize the bad effects of gambling.

Well, I only say this because I know someone with the same scenario. My friend and his wife decided to quit gambling. While one of them has stayed true to their word, the other continues to gamble in secret without their spouse's knowledge or consent.
The same thing might happen with this scenario unless they both realize what they should do and put their family first rather than their gambling activities.

The new generation of computer human wares are so connected to the computer more than the hardware are connected to the computer ;D Kids are growing up faster and operates gadgets better than the grown ups or adults. Sometimes I wonder how they do it or learn how to operate phones and laptops, without a mentor. It's been a thing of surprise for the older generation, but we all need to regulate and moderate how the children are to use their gadgets not to fall into the hands of bad actor or get addicted to screen. Which affects the brain similarly like the gambling addiction, and if a child is not moderated while growing up, if they ever get to learn about gambling, it'll be easier to be addicted in the process, because they are, already, addicted to screen. Many parents off the general wifi for the homes at a specific time to make sure the children don't access the internet.

But, due too offline games, the child would spend more time on the phone, playing games or move ahead to use the TV, these things were regulated during our days, when to watch the Television. Therefore, it's good to take the phone from them for a while and give them access someother times, so that they have enough time to read their books. Without any distraction. However, some kids would want to research using their Ipad, but I don't see it as a better alternative for young people to use those devices for assignment, because they may not resist a single notification from their browser or the game app they enjoy playing. The parents supervision on issues like that are required to help a better communication between parents and their children. As these days the phone are now taking over the roles of the parents in the society. Kids no longer bother asking their parents some questions bothering them. Most times I don't blame the kids, as few parents would yell back to the child, " Google It"

I think the wife should quit because gambling is not the nature of women. People always sees a woman that gambles as someone who is not a good woman or a wayward woman. Though it might be wrong and also wright at some point. Women are sopos to be an adviser of the male counterparts in any thing be it drinking, smoking, womanizing, drug and many addiction including gambling addiction. So if the woman fails to encourage the man when he is going astray, the woman has lost her value as mother. The meaning of woman is the helper of man and if the woman chose not to play a good role then is left for her.

I have seen many family where almost every body is a gambler. and I can tell you that non today have nothing good to write home about. Sometimes I see that the cause of such thing is the father/man of the house. I think if the man did not introduce gambling in the first place to his family I don't think all will become gamblers.

at the end of the day, it is better if both of them quit gambling, they have a kid that they need to focus on, and gambling is not as important as children, so why risk one of them getting addicted and potentially ruining their financial stability? 

Well, it’s awkward but in a way, it seems that’s how the both of them do connect, through gambling. At least, they’ve got something in common, something to talk about, something that bonds them together so, why would you want to take that away from them. You might end up breaking their relationship.

Instead of either of them having to stop, I think they are better off, discussing there gambling options, what bets to take and not take, what stakes to make, what limits to set on there gambling habits and they might just find some means to manage their homes even with the gambling. There might not really be a need to quit the way, just some effective management of the situation.

Well, I disagree with you, is either you are not married yet, but if you are, and you think it's OK for married couples to both be gambling, then you are not completely married yet  ;D.

There are so many other things through which a husband and his wife can bond together, things are more normal and less awkward, things that are more likely to bring long term fun and not cause financial sorrow of any kind.

A husband and wife can bond together by constantly cooking together, washing together, going out on a date, watching movies together, and so many other things that won't give them the chances of winning money, which also means they could lose money as well, which when a lose happens, it could affect them both.

Family live is full of expenses, most especially when children are already involved, the dumbest thing a husband and a wife would do is to spend money that should have been used for their children school fees, or other important things in the house, on gambling.

That is the impact of this rapid technological development, which children and adults also feel. They can find many interesting things on the internet that can provide them with more knowledge to get more information than searching or asking people around them. However, what needs to be done is to regulate and moderate how children use their devices because when they use the internet, they will explore a world without boundaries. They can fall into misinformation that they may believe more than other, more accurate information. And using the internet will also trigger them to become addicted to using their devices. If they are also familiar with gambling, they will also gamble more often than doing other activities. Children now use their devices more often than physical activities, so many lack socialization with the people around them.

But if parents can moderate their children's devices and regulate when their children can use their devices, their children will not become dependent on their devices and only use them occasionally when they need it. They will do physical activities more often and use their devices so that they will not encounter difficulties when socializing with the people around them or with new people they meet. Supervision from their parents is necessary so that their children do not exceed their limits in using their devices and so that they know what they can do when they are using their devices. We cannot completely blame children for using their devices to find the information they need, but we are also required to be able to guide them well so that they don't go down the wrong path and can use their devices well. When children gain the trust of their parents in using their devices, they will not abuse that trust, so they can also have good responsibility in using their devices.

That is it, many gamblers know that they are already out of the right bound but they continue unchanged regardless because they do not have that strong mind to say no. Do you know their faults? They did not learn about gambling from the beginning, nor did they know the implications of it if one didn't exercise caution from the beginning. If this has already eaten them deep, it will be difficult to let go. You may ask the gambling addicts you know if they would be sincere with you, they will continue to tell you that they wish to let go but they can't and there is no advice you can give to them that will yield unless they have the willpower in them to say no and that would end it all. This is sad for them.

Gambling can be noble and responsible only if gamblers gamble with care and plans, they should not focus on the money they want to gain. If the money comes, it is good as an added advantage, but the main focus is to see it as a means for fun, that is the only way they can gamble and not hurt themselves and their finances. I also noticed that those who are cautious enough to maintain a few bucks for wagering are better than those who are just committing big money to it. That may not stop them from wagering consistently but they will maintain the little amount so that it will not affect their finances. This style alone can even help them to stop easily when they want if they can maintain it. It is possible simply because the style denotes that they do not give in entirely to gambling, so the negative effect can't be total on them too.

@Fivestar4everMVP in a very broad way you have made a lot of sense with what you said, if there's anything in this life that should bring peaceful bond between spouses gambling is not what of them as it involves a high propensity of losing money to making money from it. And money related matters are a one key problem in relationships that have caused many spouse to opt for divorce as a way to settle their scores and path ways.

The coordination that @Smartvirus might be expecting to exist between two gambling spouse is just not possible, they can easily coordinate in running any other business but any attempt to do that with gambling it can affect other areas of family live and the children well being. For instance, when both spouse coordinate to bet a game with the family money and lost that money, the loss can affect their countenance therefore diverting aggression on the children for any little wrong they may have done. Etc.

What makes more sense and what is better to do is to choose to agree with your partner to quit simultaneously because that is more fair than choosing one of them, after all, why choose one to quit if quitting simultaneously can still be done and made an option? I don't think there is any reason to argue with this idea and suggestion.

None other than because the balance of family finances is a more important thing to pay attention to and maintain, moreover there are many responsibilities that must be prioritized as you said, a child really must be prioritized and paid attention to, not only that because there are still quite a lot of other needs that must be fulfilled such as electricity bills, water, monthly shopping, children's needs and school fees, and by both quitting gambling then obviously the financial balance will be better maintained. I understand it's not easy but there will always be a way if we want to try and have sincerity in our intentions.

If for that couple gambling is indeed a harmless hobby then you will be right, given that they have enough money to sustain two people to gamble with their salaries.

However while there is nothing wrong with gambling, there are so many other options for a couple to bond together that I do not see why they could not replace it with some other activity if they felt like it, and once kids enter the picture, it may be a good idea to do it simply because of the added costs a children represents.

Couples who both bet a lot need to talk about it and set clear limits so that they can balance their spending on family and gambling. Playing games shouldn't cost the family too much money. People who talk about how much time and money they spend on games will get along better and fight less. Both of you can gamble together, or you can choose your own time. This way, everyone can do what they want without skipping jobs around the house. Then everyone in the family can stay calm and figure out a way to make everything better. When kids are involved, this is very important.

A show of solidarity, right? Teaming up on financial tasks is usually preferable than going solo. Kids, bills, everything its a shared journey. Quitting gambling may seem like an easy way to balance family finances.

Please add some practicality. Are we talking about fun gambling? Responsible gaming can be a healthy break from the grind. Finding the balance between fun and duty is key. Set tough boundaries instead of quitting? Designate a small, affordable 'fun budget' for gaming.

Discipline and open communication between spouses are needed. What matters is how you include gambling into your lifestyle. It tests trust and understanding, preventing leisure from overshadowing obligations. So maybe the real win is learning balance, not quitting. You think?

Playing games wont really be that bad even if you both husband and wife do really been doing this as long it wont really be able to compromise your family budget then this is which is really that important. This is why it would really be that best that you should really be having those kind of self awareness neither both you and your wife about the things you've been doing.
Just like been said that on each family, there would really be those responsibilities on which we do really need up to handle it well specially on financial aspect because if we do miss
up on doing such thing then it would really be putting up such great effect and this is something that we do like to happen in our family.
If one of you do make out those realizations then it would be best that you should be telling your partner.

I don't see any problem there. Its true that we shouldn't gambling in front of children as it may effect them badly. But when its comes to mature people like you and your wife, there's nothing wrong until both of you guys can control yourselves, follow the discipline as well as able to manage economical status and become so responsible as gambler. Nobody need to quit, just mainly focus on primary income source and do gambling less or stay within limit. Don't spoil family moments , only gambling when get free time or children aren't around you.if you guys can't handle and worry about Ensure the healthy environment for children, then both can quit gambling together, otherwise there'll be a quarrel between you about this matter. So that is my suggestion

Control would really be crucial and its true that as long there are no compromises when it comes to budget and overall financial aspect then i dont see for it to be a problem.
Just make it sure that you and your wife wont really be able to reach into a point that you would really be spending up that much money because you are really that involving
too much about gambling. If you do have both those kind of control then it wont be an issue but if it turns out that things to become that gradually making those impulsive
actions then it would really be something that could bring out that huge problem later on on which it would really be entirely affecting you and your entire family
on which this is something that we dont really like.

One of the parents just needs to limit the gambling habit because there is no way both parents can be gambling and be careful enough that the children won't come across them one day, which will draw their attention, and they might want to try it out someday when there is no one around them.
 
Another thing again here is that if a husband and wife are gambling, who is going to advise who on how or her gambling habit is? When I know you are also doing the same thing that I'm doing.

Another thing again is that when two people who are into the same thing are in the same house, you can easily start a conversation regarding that, which might last a long time, and gambling most times can lead to little disagreement when both parties are trying to prove that they have a better opinion or their fan club is the best, which the children can also notice such behaviour in them.

Everything won't be a problem as long as they can control and manage their gambling activities well and don't overreact, but maybe you also know that most people can't do this even though they are adults and not children anymore, the chance of winning is always is one of the main things that gamblers pursue and this point of view makes them vulnerable to bad impacts. I think that even though at first they husband and wife were quite responsible gamblers, that doesn't mean it's impossible for them to eventually fall into the wrong gambling approach, this can happen over time and unconsciously and this is what is feared, it cannot be avoided. deny that one day one of them, whether it be the wife or the husband, ends up becoming an impulsive gambler which will affect the family's finances, and clearly there is no other suggestion and there is no need to choose between the two of them who should stop, the best option is for them to agree to stop together because only in this way can all worries regarding the negative impacts of gambling be completely prevented.

I do not think that there is any couple who would succeed in hiding their favorite hobby of gambling, especially if they practice it inside the home. I can't imagine any hypothesis that would actually work.
Perhaps theoretically, it is possible with zero probability that coincidences will not occur and the children will not notice anything. I find this to be a very difficult hypothesis to actually be true.

I also do not believe that it is a healthy environment for raising children to have anyone gamble, whether it is one or both parents. At least only one of them should love gambling so that the other party can find a balance, because there is generally no problem with one or both of them practicing their hobby only during the period when the children are away from home and at long intervals, that is, not every day.

Some persons still do not know that gambling can be hereditary and we can inherit gambling interest from parent. If one of the parents are gambling addicted, that is quite understandable but when the both parents are gamblers, it could have serious effects on the children and there is no way the children will not be exposed to it. Children are always taking there parent lifestyle especially when they are small. They would want to mimic there parent especially if what there parent interest them. There are some certain things we don't have to allow to happen in any relationship we are so that the worse will not happen to us.

If a minor ever gets addicted to gambling then his family can be completely responsible for it. Gambling should never be done in front of young children. A family should always try to keep their children away from bad activities.  Children raised by education will grow up that way. But I think if a child's family can keep away from gambling, I don't think that child can ever become addicted to gambling.

Well, I am a father and I have two children, an 8-year-old and a 2-year-old girl, and as a father, it is not a lie that you have to be on top of them, in every thing they do, how they do it and why, because every time you see that they enter into something that has to do with the internet one must be very attentive to them, so in this other order of days both we as fathers and mothers must do things very well, not be very knowledgeable in these things that can and They must do it, when I see my son using the phone to play, I'm always aware, but that was because of his mother. What happened is that I had that son of mine with a woman who is not my wife, so He has a different type of training and well, when I see those things that the mother teaches him, some of them don't fit me, because they take him on a very different path than how they believed me or how I see things, where priority is be the best in the class, be the best in the sport, and have good Discipline, where sport keeps you away from bad things.

So the mother is not like that, or she has that Training and that is partly the way things are now, because the mother is the one who is Always defended in every way, both by the laws and by anyone, because a person who says that the mother is the He always has to be with his son for everything, which I don't agree with, but who am I to go against the tide ? I get worn out, so it's difficult because if it were up to me, never in my life until he was 16 would I have given him a phone , now the child is almost an influencer on YouTube, which doesn't seem like it to me , he's a child, but As I said before, his mother is more Responsible for these things than me , I rarely see him and the little I see him is to teach him and he talks things so that he can Defend himself well in life , in fact he Loves Football, but as I am in a Country where it is not Europe that supports these children who have talent, because it is difficult.

They should stop both for the sake of fairness and also for their family because gambling will never bring them better but problem.

Why not focus in life?bringing their children in best understanding than learning gambling with them in the future.

They will never be a good example and good influence for the kids so either they both stop gambling or they will gamble forever.

And also why on earth that they are the same gamblers? This is a rare situation.

The numerous factors in the society which can lead a minor to gambling addiction cannot get traced by the parents. Not every gambling parent groom a child to gambling. Non gambling parents also end up having addicted gamblers. It's not mainly about the gamblers not being careful about their kids, while gambling. But the trouble is on the society, where the child goes, and the type of friends he keeps. Such things change the behavior of a child faster than the internet or the mobile devices. When playing gambling at home as a father, a child may not be able to detect immediately, and they can be asking questions on what their father is doing on screen but won't just conclude it's gambling. A father can't begin telling his kids about gambling, for no reason. Unless the child is now participating in gambling activities, then it's crucial that the both parents of the child overinvest in grooming the child in the right manner. 

The question of who to quit from gambling between a couple I think can only be an issue in a particular family if the couples never had a good relationship before getting married. I said so because such issues are supposed to be talked about by the two intending couples even before their union is finally joined forever.
But in a place where they failed to have such discussion before marriage, I think the best thing for the both parties to do is to quit gambling entirely in other for their offsprings not to get exposed to gambling at their enfants stages.

An irresponsible gambler should quit and why is because he's being irresponsible for himself and the people around him, some people can be gambling and through the way they did it and how they do so could make us feel very encouraged to also join in gambling because you like seing them from how they were and how they are gambling, unlike when you see some other people and you try to avoid doing anything that has to do with gambling only because of the mentality they have set on your head through how they gamble irresponsible.

It would be good if your friend and his wife could stop gambling, and that would be the best decision for both of them. Unfortunately, one of them continues to gamble in secret so that this is known to his partner; they can get into serious discussions, especially if the partner who gambles experiences many losses, which disrupts their finances. That could trigger even bigger problems for your friend and his wife and they decide something bad for their marriage where divorce is the last resort for both of them so that they both will start going their separate ways without any more marriage ties. They cannot be brought back together because there is an assumption that one partner no longer wants to commit to what they have discussed.

Maybe a better question is who is safe to gamble, because there are too many scenarios where people should not be playing and should quit it altogether. Having a fair amount of disposable income is a good start, far too many people who are barely scraping by money-wise still think it is a good idea to spend what little they have on extremely speculative and zero sum games like this. Which is highly dependent on a second criteria - you need to understand the basic math involved with betting, and that you are more likely to be killed by a shark, than you are to make it big in a place like a casino - all the games you're pouring money in have been statistically rigged against, but occasionally you'll get little cookies back that trick your brain into believing you're a winner. Do your research and understand how the numbers really work before giving up your hard earned cash.

When both husband and wife does generate out that huge income or source of money that they do have and spending up some dime amounts in gambling then doesnt matter if both of them is really that involved on gambling on which we know that it wont really be that much of an issue if they would really be just that tending to have that kind of control on which this isnt something that simple.
There would really be needing on quitting in between two if you do both are really that responsible when it comes to those priorities. Gambling is really just that for fun but on the time
that you are overexerting already when it comes to spending and the time that had been spent then this is where it would be considered to be bad already.

If the allocation of gambling has been arranged properly, even if the husband and wife gamble is certainly not a very bad thing, I have not experienced anything like this, maybe my answer is not right, but if it were in my position, we would both decide to gamble in turns and manage finances. very maturely, so as not to disrupt household and financial relationships

That kind of setup is really hard because both of them are gamblers. What if both of them lost on the same day? Then the mood in the house will not be good, and it will be really hard for both of them to take care of or mend each other because both of them are down and sad. Also, they have children. I think at that point in life, you need to stop gambling already because you are raising a child. It would be okay if they didn't have kids, but they do. So I think at least one of them should stop gambling so they can minimize the risk that they have when gambling. But it would be better if both of them would stop; it will cause harm to the family if they continue gambling and continue to lose every time.

I think what should stop is those who gamble excessively or even addicted, because of course it is detrimental to themselves and with the fact that those who are addicted must have family and friends, therefore if they continue to gamble that cannot be abandoned, maybe they will get a bad impact that could have spread to their family and of course this should not happen because I think the family does not know about what someone who is addicted to gambling is doing, so if they experience the bad effects of gambling maybe they will blame someone who is addicted to gambling.

Although quitting addiction is difficult, but it should be able to stop gambling, because there is no way that during their lives they will continue to be in a cycle of gambling addiction, which if they are in a cycle of gambling addiction I think they will not experience good things, most likely everyday they will be haunted by resentment and disappointment because the gambling they do is unlikely to produce wins consistently.

Even to say they can control their gambling habits but I don't think it was good to see both of them gambling. One of them must stop and I say that it was the wife. Besides, we are not talking about finances but we are talking about time spent with the family and bonding which is needed when you have a family or if you are building a family. Good relationships and communication between parents and kids are very important which they don't have to ignore for this will have negative results in the future. They should value their time with their kids as this will guide them on how to handle their family soon, or I'm worried they will get involved in gambling at a young age.

You must realize that stopping isnt only about willpower. Addiction is complicated by brain chemistry, emotional discomfort, and social influences.

Acknowledgement from the struggling person and their support network is typically the first step to freedom. Beyond stopping gaming, you must understand the void it fills. Is there escape? A thrill? Finding these triggers is crucial.

Seeking expert aid empowers, not weakens. There are methods and support networks to break the cycle. Instead of gambling, adopt better habits and coping techniques. Relapses are part of recovery, not the end.

Yeah, never a good idea for both parents to engage in gambling, as no doubt, this could have a very bad negative impact on the children going while they are growing up to become teenagers, and teenagers into adults, the children could pick that up from their parents and that could turn the entire family into a den of chaos and confusion.

In a family, it's always better it be the man of the house who engages in gambling, knowing fully well that he is the bread winner of the family, and that the responsibility of his family rests on his shoulders, so, he will always know how to go about his gambling in a manner it does affect his family's well being, both in finance and other aspects..
A woman gambling in a family is not good, as it makes the woman appear irresponsible, and even in the society we live today, married women gambling always appears immoral.

Sometimes the mere fact of betting in front of Children is something that can be done, as long as things are explained to them in absolute detail , in that order of ideas, since some prefer not to bet in front of them because it is something that can dissuade them. their training and can lead them to a moment of curiosity that when they are Prohibited ,  they will look for the game to play alone, children are like that, that's why if they play in front of them, then they should know how to explain what their game is for adults, that it is a game that involves money and that implies a lot of responsibility, that for children there are other games, that must be Explained to them in that way , and only in this way is it possible that it can be done, but based on the fact that each person has their own way of raising or how to handle things is quite complicated, but based on things as they are, when they are with Children that is something very Delicate,  in fact things with them must be done with great measure.

For those who are addicts and have their children , I don't Know , I think they should make a tremendous effort to not let themselves Collapse because Obviously things can be taken to do wrong, in the first instance they would be Directly failing their Children , After that they would be define that things are very difficult because Children's rights are very high and this at a global level , I consider that things between play + Children should not be Mixed , then these types of things are what we always have to take care of, Maybe there are People who are very given to being somewhat liberal, or do not give importance to children in certain Aspects , but for me that is totally irresponsible.

The Culture in many countries is Always towards defending children from Acts like these , where they have parents who are like this, since it is preferable to take them to foster care or Homes Where they will Receive Better Treatment.

The gambler who play the gambling in the couple means,who will take care of the children and old people.Both of them will need to pay attention and take care by the woman.The old people should take care of the medicine,because to some old people medicine will be the life saving source.The better option will be the male or femal can do gambling one at a time based on their own understanding.


It’s true most of the family leads by the male who engage in the gambling.The reason is the male who earning in the family will have the money to play the gambling.If the woman also work in the family means,it’s the matured family.The two income will help the gamblers family and the money which is essential to be used as the recovering of loss money in the gambling site.In some family the woman will be the source of the money and she will play the gambling and the male care for their children health.

Whether both parents gamble shouldn`t be a problem rather the question that should preoccupy our minds is if they are addictive gamblers or reckless gamblers. The response to this question will form the basis of our judgment. I gamble and also my wife enjoys playing Bingo but that hasn`t affected our relationship nor have we been unable to pay our bills. We need to understand that gambling is not bad but it is the gambler which makes it a problem or not.

There are stories of a parent gambling and yet still causing problems in the family. What is bad is reckless gambling and when one of the spouses is addicted it is a problem. So, it is possible to have only one partner gambling and yet make the family uncomfortable and yet you can have both partners gambling and yet the family is at peace.

You and your boo are building your dream life together, budgeting for diapers and date nights. Then, boom! A bad gambling day leaves you scrambling for groceries. Not exactly the happily ever after you envisioned, right?

Even if you're both "responsible" gamblers, the trust factor can take a hit. Hidden bets, unexplained late nights, and the constant worry about losing the rent money? It's a recipe for suspicion and arguments, not exactly the romantic vibe you're going for.

Look, marriage is about building something together, not chasing individual highs. Gambling can be fun, but it takes time away from your partner and family. Balancing that act is like juggling flaming chainsaws - not for the faint of heart!

Instead of a complete ban, talk it out! Share your concerns, fears, and financial goals openly and honestly. Find activities you both enjoy that don't involve risking the family budget. If needed, get some professional help to navigate this tricky terrain together.

I have seen a situation where both parents were full time gamblers and its not like its a new thing happening these days. Men and women and now involved in gambling do such and if as a child you find out that your parents are gamblers what you should do firstly is to find out which of them might be an addicted hambler or who is gambling responsible. In that case you would know if you could be okay with them gambling or not. Since you have experience in gambling you should also advice them on some crazy things to npt try as a gambler.

Yes. It is imperative that we abstain from gambling in front of our children, particularly if they are old enough. Whilst both spouses are allowed to gamble, this is only an agreement between the two of them as not everyone is aware of this type of circumstance. To be clear, even if my wife does decide to gambling, it will be with my money, thus I won't let her do it in the first place. Considering that my spouse and I are gamblers, what use will it be? In the end, I don't think it will have any beneficial effects.

Thoughts that are already filled with gambling or can be said to be dirty are difficult to eliminate, but even so, in my opinion, if they have the will to stop gambling then they can fight and eliminate thoughts that can be called dirty. Because now imagine if not themselves making changes then who else? Even though there are family and friends in the surrounding environment who support it will not affect them if they themselves do not have the will to stop it will be difficult. Therefore, before others, it must start with oneself first.

I think they can fill the void with other things that are more useful, such as sports. Because in my opinion, everyone has a hobby that they like, and of course it must be supported to move forward to leave their gambling addiction, even if their hobby is gambling, it must be addressed, changing the hobby to something else that is more useful because it is not ethical to also make gambling a hobby, because it can make you lose self-control which can be detrimental.

This is a fascinating scenario that raises many concerns concerning how gambling affects family dynamics. The "gambler's fallacy," which holds that one huge victory will solve all of their problems, is obviously rooted in both couples. However, in actuality, they're probably just incurring more debt.

The best course of action would be for both partners to stop gambling and get assistance. Still, it's not always possible for both partners to leave at the same time, and it's easier said than done. Then, it could make sense for the partner who is more deeply to quit, then help the other one to quite as well.

I have witnessed first hand a couple like that both spouses were not gamblers,the woman was lured into gambling as the man had promised her to buy some expensive necklace if he won big.I heard them discussing at loud voice in some point as things were not going well in that specific session.In such case the best would be to stop gambling as gambling to this couple was bringing problems to them.
In my opinion when a report is based on lies like this couple had built it usually won't last long and any couple where both partners gamble is destined to fail extremely fast.

I am in favor of both partners stopping gambling and getting help. But maybe it won't be easy for either of them. Moreover, both of them or their husband or wife still return to gambling. They really have to see how much they want to gamble. If they both still have the urge to gamble, they should be careful because it could be a sign that they are starting to get addicted to gambling.

They should try to suppress the feeling of wanting to gamble. They must be able to reduce their gambling activities before it makes them gamble more often. Moreover, we know and many people already know that gambling can really make them addicted to gambling. I think people should be able to find ways to avoid or reduce their gambling activities.

If one of them is already gambling, they should start to realize that it can cause them problems that they will not realize. And if his partner finds out, he can start to make them aware and show them the impact gambling can have on their lives. But they should be able to realize that gambling can cause problems for them.

If gambling has generated problems for the couple then it is high time they stop as you have noted because if this goes on and on it will result in more problems and even affect their relationship and family at large where their children will start to feel neglected and uncared for because of their gambling habit. There are ways the man can raise funds and buy an expensive necklace for his wife instead of waiting to win big from gambling first. This dependence on gambling will prolong the fulfilment of the promise because no one can boast of knowing when he will win in gambling.

I have been in a similar situation and I know the disappointment that comes from hoping on gambling to fulfil a promise. I remember promising my girlfriend that I would send her money but deep down I was depending on gambling to fulfil the promise so I didn’t win. When she asked for the money I gave her another date with a silly excuse and she waited for the new date yet I didn’t fulfil the promise because I still didn`t. Our relationship soared because she felt I was greedy and didn`t want to help her but deep down my inability to help was because I was hoping to win first and it wasn’t forthcoming. I ended up regretted because the stakes were enough to fulfil the promise and it was so unreasonable to depend on gambling to fulfil the promise.

If the two parents are gamblers, then you should expect nothing from the child than being a chronic and addicted gambler, the son of a lion will surely roar like a lion, he will take much of gambling from his parents, but i wonder how they could both manage the home in bringing the children and having resource for their daily needs when they both gambles, can they even afford to make earnings? i doubt, we should leave a good example for our children to take and not care less about what our actions might put in them to become what they may never thought or imagine in life.

True, anything that your children or kids do see into their parents would really be always right on which it would be most likely that they would really be following in out since their parents
had been doing it and as he/she gets older then it would really be that be a part of his/her life. So its not really shocking that one day you would really be able to see your children
to be gamblers too and there's no other things that would be blamed on but your self as a parent.

Now asking about on who should quit? Its up to you. You both with your wife or husband are definitely at old or mature age to know
on whats wrong and whats bad. You are the ones who would really be making out such fate with your entire family. Just make it sure
that your finances is really that still fine or not been that affected.

Quitting gambling is not an easy tasks for most of these gamblers, because it have turn to become their path of life. They don't become desperate and eager to place wagers in the system, moreover we wouldn't know, most of these gamblers entirely depend on the system to either gain extra change or substantial amounts. Both parents gambling? It's really a terrible idea because their children learned from either of them and these children grow up to become very addictive to the system. They become even worse than their parents that pave way for them.

Cooperation is key in this type of family, where both spouses are gamblers. Not all will end up becoming compulsive, if they work alongside each other and caution one another, they can be responsible gamblers. I know that it's quite a tough one, if one of them gets addicted. And it'll be almost impossible for the kids not to find out about their parent's engagement into gambling. Especially when they discuss about their wins and losses. To be honest, the family can be run without having some financial challenges, if the parents set aside some funds for gambling, alone. However, isn't it better for both to be gamblers than one person, that hides it from the family and runs dry the finances of the home. No one is the right person to quit, instead both should end it and focus on training their kids. Because someday the kids will become gamblers, one way or another. Even if the parents are responsible players, the kids may not.

First of all it is even very wrong for the Woman To make it Known To his husband that she Gambles , i Dont know for western culture If this is actually obtainable And welcome as part of them But in My own African culture i think it is very wrong for a Woman To Exposé herself to her husband that she gsmbles.if both spouse are Gamblers as you said it will be morally wrong for the man To quit for the Woman But for morality sake it will be respectful for the Woman To quit for the man because he is the Head of the Family And should bear the risk of providing for his Family notwithstanding the measures he might adopt To source for funds.

Naturally , man is the Head of the Family And should Find a means To provide for his Family , And If gambling will make him To Care for his Family the Woman should quit And also Respect the man as the Head . Imagine the shame when you enter casino house And see husband and Wife dragging To bet, ordinarily it is an insult To the man for not caring for his Family And allowing his Wife To gamble . It is also a disgrace To the man therefore the Woman should quit gambling .

Totally depends on how both of you would really be working out which husband and wife specially if you are both gamblers then its impossible that you wont really be able to notice out something wrong with your activities. This is why it would be best that you both would be assessing out the condition whether it would really be viable to quit or would be retaining on what you are doing. Its not really that bad to gamble
as long you wouldnt really be compromising when it comes to the finances that you do have or simply doesnt affect out your family's savings and other important matters when it comes to finances
because on the time that it would really be compromising it out then its already indicative sign that both of you are already that addicted to gambling and this is something that you should quit or stop as soon as possible. This is why it would better that dont make things becomes get worst before you would be making out that action on quitting up gambling. Be responsible and be wary on the things that it is happening.

Sometimes what he says may or may not be applicable, as a man yes, it is the natural stupidity of responding to all things, I have always said something if we seek the best for our family, there are things that we must stop doing and start doing Other times, we as men and heads of family, if we see that an activity will tempt towards the well-being of our family, we have to suspend it, leave it there, nothing can be done, it is something that has to be done, of course. The rest will be worse if not It does, I can say it from my point of view because that's who I am, but people who don't have that decision-making power, well, everything starts to get complicated, regardless. whether he has a wife who is also in the game and not. If you want to leave, you must leave.

Compulsivity problems are something that we cannot control in our own lives, unless they have a type of treatment, I have a friend who suffers from that and it is difficult, he has to take a medication to calm them down and that is something delicate , they cannot receive strong coins, so in a casino I do not recommend that someone who is like this can play in a casino, the problem can involve the entire family, because it is something that can affect those who are the head of the family and that is But, I believe that games of chance in that case do not apply nor should people play, yes, that is what I have always said, however, because everyone is the owner of their actions, but with casinos, money, you must have careful.

It is normal that both husband and wife of a family can be gamblers together but if there are children in that family, it becomes unusual for parents to participate in gambling as guardians. So an ideal guardian should exempt either parent from gambling. Especially the mother is more close to the child so an ideal mother will sometimes ruin the child's future, the mother should first refrain from gambling, then the father will control himself from gambling after understanding the situation. But if that family is dependent on gambling and runs the family from the money earned from gambling then parents should not participate in gambling in front of the child for the time being.

A responsible person will always have their priorities sorted, and since we know how important the family is to us, we need to make sure we are keeping them on the first position when we are making a decision, so our decision should have no direct negative effects for our family which means that if we are about to do something, we should make sure that doing that thing wouldn't harm our family or as you said, their well-being, and if it does, we shouldn't do it.

If a gambler knows that they are getting out of control and losing a lot of money and time in gambling, and that in return is hurting their family and his relationship with them, that is the moment they should decide who is more important because they are going to have to lose one of them and you can't lose your family for anything, gambling is nothing more than an activity.

It's very bad for both husband's and wife's to gamble even when they don't have children, gamble might be a thing of fun to them but don't I think we should all get it right that gamble is a thing one should enjoy, so if a whole family especially husband and wife, they might have problems with their gambling habits. If they gamble and their children is also aware that they gamble it will be very bad for the children because the children will try gambe some day and the children will be worst than their parents, some people are into gamble today because their friends or someone from their family made them to.

Mmmm  for me I think the wife should stop gambling because she has a lot task to handle as being focused in moulding the kids, mostly the Man don't have much time to stay at home doing such except when he wants to help out but finding both of them doing same thing isn't going to help the kids grow at balance cause they might grow up doing same thing they have watched their parents do.

The wife should stop,I don't see it as bad for a woman to gamble but in a responsible manner but mind you two wrongs can't make a right,one must advice the other,so it's better either of them stops tho.
But again why will both parents be gambling at the same time,are they going through financial crisis that they feel Gambling will sort it out or what.

But if both of them are involved in gambling then it will be much more difficult because man who can be said to be the head of the family must really set good example for his family.
For example, if man wants his wife to leave gambling, the husband must also be able to leave gambling as form of commitment that together they will build much better family in the future.
If it is only done by putting pressure on one party, as in the term, the husband really pressures his wife to stop but he as the husband doesn't stop, then everything will be the same and this will be waste of time.
So the conclusion is that if think about it logically and really prioritize justice then they should both be able to start and stop at the same time, this is much better and will be very effective.

Right, anyway it's best that both of them don't get involved or stop being involved in gambling, we don't need to look at who should stop between the wife or the husband and it doesn't matter even if you don't have children yet the best option is to stop gambling completely, on the other hand I understand that maybe it's a difficult decision to follow but anyway it's the best. I think it's a fact that there's going to be some money spent on gambling and obviously if they both quit gambling then they can save more money and use it for other more important needs. And on the other hand you also mentioned about the possibility that when they have a child there is a possibility that the child will be infected with the gambling habits of the parents, and that could threaten the future and personality of the child, and honestly I can't imagine what the situation would be if the whole family was involved in gambling, losing the financial balance in the family is a certainty.

That is true, if a person does not decide what his top priority is, then it is a matter of that eprosna, because many of us without hesitation choose the benefit of the family, it is or is something that we are clear about, but there are people who are not Thus, there are people who sometimes prefer other things over their family, I will always choose my family, but sometimes there are people who do not give them the corresponding importance and that is very sad, the truth is that they are people I do not know, That's just what they want, that's why I'm very clear about it, for me that's the first thing, and then other enjoyments come, as long as things can happen that way.

Sometimes it happens that the wife and the husband do Gamble
But if the both of them knows that they are gamble, they can control their lives very well and also organized and winning unless they won’t have much problem in gambling. They always do the right thing and gamble when it’s needed because they will put her together and try to bring us something out of a small amount of money because the nose test. They have abuse to pee but sometimes when it doesn’t goes this way it’s causes My problem to them because they will be posts of the self. Nobody will advise each other.

The compulsive gambler should be gotten to halt their gambling habit as it could begin to affect the family. Players who are both spouses and are unable to control their activities are a threat to the successful growth of a meaning society. Such things have its duties and functions which maintains or retains those expenses of a player. Not controlling it or allowing the gambler do everything all to themselves, would cause future troubles for the gambler's family. As the kids would be forcefully interested in the game and trying to win not just a designated amount, but such that could take good care of their family for a longer time.

The compulsive tendencies of watching our spouses gamble alongside us makes the eligibility of this habit thin, as only few gamblers get fine or accept the notion of having a compulsive spouse as gambler. Holding them back to their senses helps the people in the same environment with the people. It also depends completely on the location the gambler has found himself with his family. Some areas are not supportive of unworthy gambling behavior. Although, it's the right thing, doing, to help secure the peace and harmony of the environment.

And what age do you consider to be old enough, if I may ask? And if you said they were old enough for them to understand gambling, then what's the point of parents not gambling in front of their kids?
 
If the child is old enough for him or her to gamble, then there is no point for their parents to hide their gambling habits from them because, without them gambling in front of them, they will still go ahead and gamble whenever they want.
 
If the child is old enough, sometimes I think it's best if the parent can discuss gambling with them in order for them to share gambling tips and experiences with them. This helps put them on the right track.

Self-control in the gambling that we do is of course very important because if we cannot do this of course there will be things that we don't want to experience, of course this will be very detrimental to us, especially if we gamble with our partner, so this will make it difficult for us to meet the necessary needs, in a husband and wife relationship of course we must be able to remind each other to gamble well and always be able to control our emotions so that there is no greed when gambling and this will cause us to experience losses for ourselves.

Curious you share that opinion about couples who gamble together, because I am yet to see in person a couple who both enjoy sharing such hobby with each other. It is not a secret most gamblers are men, and women rarely get involved in it (even if they wanted) for the sake of the household economy and because someone is supposed to take care of children. I have got the personal impression it is more likely for a couple to have problems and arguments over money and management of finances if both of them are involved in gambling.
It can be already difficult if the husbsnd ends up losing control over his budget and his habit starts to negatively affect the family economy and their way of life, now imagine how economically crippling it would be for all of them if both adults if the house were trapped in such situation.

I think if I ever get engaged, rather than introduce gambling to my fiance or share my experience with her, I would step down by wager and focus on saving money for the future.

It's true that when you have a family like yours, it's best to be able to control how much money is specifically used for gambling. Don't spend too much of everything in one day and we really have to divide the finances we have well, so that all the money we have can be used for what we use it for, when all the money spent is recorded neatly, then we will see how much a lot of money has been used for gambling and maybe it will be considered again when the value of the loss is large enough.

Smiles, seems like a job lol. If quitting is an option both short quit as gambling isn’t a means of income or survival. The family solely depends on both and if both gambles without limitation wether one or the other the family will still get wreck. The Husband might use the money meant for household needs to gamble likewise the wife using money for cooking or purchasing items, shopping for children to gamble too.

This could only happen when the person in question lacks self control, as well as the ability to get hold of their emotions, because if a gambler is in control of their emotions, it'll be very difficult to use money meant to sort another expense to gamble and hope to winning and replacing it.

Such a person would know that gambling isn't sure and anything can happening the missile of the game,  winning isn't certain and the potential of losses are very much there.

we really need to be able to handle our own emotions because once you fall on what you feel, the barrier that you have created may be broken so that your own decision, financial securities and sound thinking are not affected because we know that one wrong move can lose everything. When we gamble, we always set aside other issues because we are only focused on our goal and it cannot be accompanied by other issues because it will be a reason for us to lose focus on gambling and lose.

Why do you say gambling is a job to fulfill family needs? What about the risk of losing? Shouldn't gambling be for games only, not for a full-time job?

If he used gambling as a job, he would not be able to provide for the family. He must remember that he will not always be able to make a profit in gambling. He could experience many losses and lose all his money at the gambling table.

The risk of losing will also be greater if he cannot control himself. When gambling, a person can lose control of himself which causes him to lose a lot of money. He should use gambling as entertainment only and not make gambling a job.

He can look for a real job to earn money for his family. It would be safer because he wouldn't have to lose money at the gambling table. He can also avoid possible gambling addiction.

Self control plays it own role,same time we are talking about family finance in which both gambles we have to be considerate as possibility of addiction can't be exempted and i gave possible scenario of how such family will run. In essence both partners gambling need to be very discipline and have self control as you have said,if this isn't the case such family is wrecked.

To me it is just a matter of understanding. If the post Ph understand themselves and know when to gamble and know when not to gamble do the writing at the right time it will really help them on managing their home because gambling is something that can cause a lot of problems and a lot of debts if you are gambling addict so it is always possible if they understand itself, and in the other hand, if they lack understand it, they will be much problem between them because it will be a very big risk to their home management

Both spouses can easily combine work, household, child rearing, gambling and other entertainment, if they have a desire to have a strong family and they are responsible people. If they are not, they will find problems without gambling, because we know many stories when spouses who have never been into gambling, divorce, have problems with outstanding debts, etc. Everything depends on the spouses themselves and their goals, not on gambling.

It all depends on the objectives they have as a family.If they want their bank account to grow for example they should come down to the same point that is,quit gambling and every money they want to allocate for gambling to deposit them in their recurring bank account and this way they will have more money than usual because they would have quit the gambling money.Now to do this is extremely difficult and that is why as a start they can begin by playing like 100 to 50 dollars a month,getting this sum down every time they gamble until it remains small like 5-10 dollars for fun and then quit completely.That is a good way of getting rid of gambling issues and looking after your family in a better way.

Yes this is true but if both doesnt have any plans or having those kind of point of views or those goals then they wont really be minding off with those things but instead they would really be continuing on the things that they are doing instead. We do know that when it comes to potential loses with gambling then it could really be that something that will really be wrecking up someones life without having no doubt with those probabilities.
This is why it should really be taken up responsibly or else you would really be messing up your life with and with your family. If both husband and wife are involved on gambling and doesn't really stop on what they are doing then just let them be, as long they arent that compromising their financial savings or conditions then it would be just fine. Issues would really be needing up to be addressed on the time that it is really that compromising something. Thing here is that both should really be that aware on what they are doing and completely stop if they've seen that they are really that spending tons on which it comes into a point
that its not already that ideal anymore.

I don't really think gambling will take one away from family responsibility, not like you are going to office work where you will spend the rest of your day in the office doing all the work without having any time for even yourself. Gambling can be done in the comfort of your home, even if a woman is a gambler, it shouldn't be an objective for not taking care of family unless she's an addicted gambler that prefer to spend time with gambling than his family.

My only issue with women gambling is financial stability, most homes women are subjective to their husband and they are been taken care by their husband, so when they decide to go route of gambling, where will they be having the money to gamble, who will fund the gambling lifestyle. If she doesn't and use the family money to gamble, they will run into problems later unless she is a type that is naturally good at winning.

If I start spending too much time on gambling, I won't be able to find enough for my family, and I can't imagine having enough time for everything. Ultimately, of course, I would rather put off gambling indefinitely in order to spend all my time with my family. Although to say that this would not be true all the time, because every person should have rest and relaxation. Of course, relaxation can be replaced by other types of recreation not related to gambling, but there are those who cannot imagine their life without excitement and anticipation of victory, but they need to be careful with their desires.

Looks like you have not come across an addict that doesn't care about anything else but how to make wins from a bet. and addition to what your saying going to the office does not stop some individuals from gambling they can even gamble even when they are at work. and that is one of the reason we must learn to control our thirst when we gamble because from when you have you first win you would have enjoyed your self, from then you will want to gamble to see if you can win and that you start becoming an addict gradually.

for women it might be different because both men and women have different responsibility and that of a woman is always demanding. and you hardly see women that gamble since most financial responsibility is on the man they don't bother much compare to men and even if they don gamble it wont affect them taking care of there family. and with the way women deal with there funds they wont even risk to much to gambling. 

So, do you mean, or are you telling us now that household work, child rearing; are all part of entertainment? Haha, I do not believe this, but may if you mind explain further why you think this things are part of entertainment, then maybe I might change my mind.
Secondly, how can a couple find problems without gambling ?, or do you mean to say that if they don't gamble together, they will have problems? - like the man gambling on his own while the woman is also gambling on her own, if this is what you mean, then you are definitely correct.

It's a very bad practice for couples to be gambling separately, in fact, I personally don't even see reasons why couples should be gambling in the first place, since it definitely will affect the children, I prefer that the man be gambling if he likes it, while the woman takes care of the home, afterall, it Is not a woman's responsibility to fend for his family, so, what thing or means he wants to engage in to achieve this, that's up to him.

I agree, It's not a good practice that both couple are participating in gambling activities because they will be neglected a lot in their marriage, just like neglecting their children and not handling finances properly, if they both gamble, there is a big chance that their relationship will be messed up because once they both experience a big failure, there will be everyone is involved, it's like a domino effect and in the end, their children will be affected even more by their negligence. There is nothing wrong if they both know how to gamble, but since they have responsibilities in life, they should manage their time and actions well because one wrong move, everything they have worked hard to build can end up in vain.

By avoiding or stopping their gambling activities, the couple will see that they can have more money to save. They can manage their finances by saving money to prepare for their future. Realizing that gambling doesn't guarantee they can win is what can give them more money to save.

If they just want to have fun, they don't need to gamble. They can do other things that don't require them to use money to get that pleasure. They can also learn more about their responsibilities.

When they can start to reduce their gambling activities slowly, they will find that they have more positive activities they can do. This will make them realize that they don't need to gamble. They will also not experience financial difficulties because they can learn to save money.

Well to me, if the boot of them is understanding themselves and they are making money out of it the most important thing is understanding the most learn how to understand themselves and keep some rules to gamble when it’s not necessary, but sometimes it does not work this way if it’s a situation where we are to choose the person to stop gambling. I think it should be the wife because women are emotional. They can take anything they have to put in because of getting back what they have lost. Yes, anybody can be emotional, but the woman should quit.

Exactly the point that have in mind, i have being imagining how the family will look like, or the nature of the family when husband and wife are gamblers or probably if they are pure addicts. Even when the man alone is gambling, and he is an addict the family is not always stable because he spends most of his money that are meant for domestic use to gamble not to talk of when the wife is a gambler too. i have not seen such family though but i know for sure that there will be no peace in that family, and it is very possible that the children will follow them to gamble too. We understand the fact that life is very hard, and most people gamble to make money, but it is very absurd for both husband and wife to gamble just for the sake of money and considering who to quit as you asked @op, i will sincerely suggest that the woman should quit because women have that tendencies and that natural charisma to influence their children than the men. so, i suggest that the woman should step down for the man for peace to exist that family.

On an emotional sense I think the wife should quit for the sake of the kids. As for the husband he is meant to hold a reputable gambling attitude one that shouldn't affect the financial state of the home. Most especially the harmony and love in the family can be removed by addiction. It's risky for both spouses to participate in gambling. The aim of gambling is to be focused on fun not money. Family is first and not gambling. If both are responsible gamblers they'll be no much problem with any of them quiting.

As you added, they need to be watchful of one another and learn ways to avoid ruining their home with a gambling sense. They could be each other's financial adviser regarding gambling. Being observant of how much goes into gambling will help them stay in check of their habit. On the long run it would be safe for both parties in terms of avoiding addiction. As each one of them would carefully gamble not to piss off their spouse. In a case where one gets compulsive it's proper to help the family by stopping the compulsive spouse from further gambling activities.

I can understand what you are saying in this post, especially regarding the content of this thread which says about a family who likes gambling. The point is as you said, it all depends on their goals, especially those related to gambling. Overall, I understand and agree with what you said. Talking about the contents of this thread, especially if a husband and wife both enjoy gambling, it feels quite risky to cause problems. unless a family is one that has abundant financial resources, and perhaps their activities related to gambling will not have an impact on their basic needs. What's more, if they can manage the money they spend. plus, hide the activities they do from their children. If that's the scenario, I think everything is fine and we definitely have the same rights. but it turns out that if the conditions are the opposite, if that is possible, these two people must stop their gambling activities, this is done for the good and integrity of a household. the impact is not a financial problem, but other effects on children. things like this should not be ignored.

That's why, understanding gambling is important. If it is difficult to do it instantly, due to active gambling, addiction factors, or so on, someone must be aware of it first so they can move on to the next stage. One simple example, as you said, is that they can start playing with the smallest bankroll according to the limit they allocate each month. slowly reduced, then until the stage stops completely. yeah, the points you say can be said to be a simple way to try to eliminate habits which, if left unchecked, can destroy harmony. It's not just separation that awaits, but the child's future could be at stake.
Unfortunately, it's not as easy as we say. However, with strong determination and intention, every process that is carried out correctly will produce good results. ideally, gamble for fun and don't involve money that is not for gambling. If your husband and wife really like to gamble, bet wisely so as not to interfere with things you don't want. The point is, everything must be conceptualized and rules must be created so that gambling activities will not disturb or even cause problems in the future.

True, and one of the things that is a concern is when they have started to feel problems in the family's financial situation which is usually when in a family there are economic problems due to lack of income or for any reason that makes it difficult for them to make ends meet then usually various other problems will arise such as losing harmony in family relationships and also as you said that they might neglect their children, or there is also a possibility for them to vent all their anger on their children.

If this problem is not stopped immediately or if a solution is not found then there is obviously a high possibility for them to end up in divorce. On the other hand as we know that gambling is an activity that requires all gamblers to allocate money and if both couples are involved in gambling then I think there will definitely be financial problems that they experience due to budget allocation on gambling regardless of whether they are responsible gamblers or not, but yes I think there is no better decision than to stop both of them to save their family relationship and also the future of their children.