Why do people hate?

[neoneros]

This is a wellknown story:

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, "My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all"

"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego." He continued, "The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"

The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed".

http://www.psychologymatters.asia/article/65/the-story-of-the-two-wolves-managing-your-thoughts-feelings-and-actions.html


But why do we so easily succumb to feed the evil wolf? Why do we hate and feed it and react hatefull towards others?

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[Muhammed Zakir]

Better thread than those two threads out there. Thank you!

It is simple: When you feed bad, you will have tendency to feed more. However, when you feed good, this question will hound you: "Why not feed a bit to bad?". If you answer it yes, you will feed it more and hence, you will be bad.

 However, one day you will "pity yourself".

* By "you", it is not to OP or someone else. In general.


I will give you an example.

You got a lion cub and you feed it. When it grow and matures, it will eat you in most cases. Sometimes you will live and sometimes not. Be cautious what you are feeding. It is very hard to resist feeding bad but if you start feeding good, resisting power will increase and as a result, you won't go bad easily.


Don't get yourself eaten by bad.

[Amph]

most hating come from nervousness, and nervousness come from problem related to the brain health, many understimate that, the brain need continuos vitamin and mineral, good food to stay well

you noticed that someone is more restless(and in the end it will result in hating many more thing and hating much easy)when he is  tired and fatigued?

good food and good rest are essential

[NUFCrichard]

Jealousy and selfishness would be my answers.
People hate others that do well for themselves, or are doing better than they are , the stronger, fasters, smarter etc are usually disliked.

Selfishness because most of the traits and things that people do that we hate, we do ourselves!  Look in a traffic jam, if someone switched lane in front of you, you hate them, but then we you switch lanes you hate the person who won't let you in!

[qiwoman2]

Fear and Insecurity are triggers fro hate. When you are told you are losing something or have lost something then finding a scapegoat and blaming others is an easy way to deal with it. Not that I agree that this should be the way to respond to a crisis. Brainwashing and greedy politicians with Agendas also help to create the herd mentality which increases hate to the nth degree as a collective. Look at what hatred totalitarian dictators create and spew.

[waterpile]

But why do we so easily succumb to feed the evil wolf? Why do we hate and feed it and react hatefull towards others?

because its easier to hate than to love, the idea of having a peacful and loving environment is just a fairy tale.

[dothebeats]

This is a wellknown story:

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, "My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all"

"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego." He continued, "The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"

The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed".

http://www.psychologymatters.asia/article/65/the-story-of-the-two-wolves-managing-your-thoughts-feelings-and-actions.html


But why do we so easily succumb to feed the evil wolf? Why do we hate and feed it and react hatefull towards others?

We easily give in to the emotions of hate and anger to other people because it is in the nature of the people. Genetics? Can be a probable cause of it, but we cannot deny the fact that it is already imprinted within our genes. Also put into consideration that the actions of other people also triggers hate. If one person looks "good" to you, sure enough you won't feel any hate towards him/her. But if he/she doesn't, you might start feeling some hatred towards him/her. Sometimes, it's also a matter of how you put things into perspective; the more you incline in one side, the less you will feel towards the other.

[lophie]

Because we cannot accept the fact that we all don't know shit and we are all in a journey to understand one another. Some of us get stuck on the idea that they know better. And when they meet similar minded people it makes them think that they cannot be wrong because there are more people like them. then things gets ugly.

p.s. also it greatly make things worse when you delude yourself that god is so approving of the way you think.

[freeyourmind]

Because we cannot accept the fact that we all don't know shit and we are all in a journey to understand one another. Some of us get stuck on the idea that they know better. And when they meet similar minded people it makes them think that they cannot be wrong because there are more people like them. then things gets ugly.

p.s. also it greatly make things worse when you delude yourself that god is so approving of the way you think.

I find that people that are genuinely loved and accepted as children, become more experienced with emotional expression and development.  Not having that love and acceptance can be overcome to grow into being relatively emotionally free, but more often than not, it results in emotional instability, insecurity, fear, and low self-awareness.

Think about someone that you've come across with unnecessary aggression.  Someone that wanted to have a verbal or physical altercation for something petty or maybe for no rational reason at all.  What do you think the relationship is like with their father?  What is their emotional development like if they go from calm to pissed in 1 second?  What is the source of insecurity that causes someone to need to belittle or hurt another to feel good?

I am most impressed by people that have had a rough childhood, but still had the guts to address their own personal issues and be empathetic to others.

Anyways, regarding the wolf story in the OP, I heard this story first from a guy that was contracted to build wooden fences in the backyards of a few houses where I used to live.  He seemed like he was getting into philosophy and changing his ways after being an alcoholic.  The guy ended up taking the deposits and never finished the fences.  The evil wolf was well fed that day lol.

[Cryptowatch.com]

Great thread.

First off, I think jealousy is a poor personal trait to have. If anyone really has that, better remove it as it has no positive effects in your life. Some people have less than you, some have more. That's life and something that just needs to be dealt with. Some people even was born with a silver spoon in their mouth, nothing to be done with it. Some are also born to parents with no resources, perhaps creating an abusive environment. It's all a lottery.

Personally I think the environment is very important for a child and the upbringing. If it is a positive and loving environment, the child will be more emotionally stable when it grows up. If the negative aspects, fear, greed, jealousy, envy, hatred is ingraved in that child, it's more likely to become like that when it grows up.

I'm not saying there's no exceptions to this rule, but I believe environment is a deciding factor.

Also I think all individuals react to their environment. If a person lives in a great environment, let's say a peaceful island in Thailand, it's easy to be all smiles and giggles, but if that person moves to a bad neighbourhood in Detroit, chance is that he will grow fearful and suspicious, and that the smile will be wiped off his face.

I think a good question for anyone hating is to ask themselves: "How would I feel is somebody acted this towards myself?"

If the person is able to see the situation from the other persons point of view, then the person might stop hating.

Hating is also a strong word,  I think there's a state between love and hate, and that is indifference. You do not hate that person, but neither do you love that person. So by large you just ignore that person and could not care less no matter what happened to that person.

As for anyone that feeds of hate and spends a lot of time hating, that will most likely only make your own life miserable. I think however that there's a huge difference between criticism anad hate. What might be interpreted as hate by some, might in fact not be hate at all.

[Muhammed Zakir]

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First off, I think jealousy is a poor personal trait to have. If anyone really has that, better remove it as it has no positive effects in your life.
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Hard part. Positive things can be removed or destroyed easily but removing or destorying bad things are hard. It is like the ring in "Lord of the rings". Once you posses it, you will need great will power to remove which most lack.

[jehst]

I'd rather feed that wolf in case I need it to rip the shit out of somebody or something.

Things are good now, but I want to be ready for the zombies. Have you guys ever watched the original Alien? One chick on the crew is sweet and loving. When the alien approaches her, she doesn't have any anger or hate. She's reduced to a soft, crying lump on the floor.

Ripley is a maternal, loving woman. But when it comes time for her to survive against the alien, you can see that her hate-wolf is very well fed. Oh can she hate.

[Cryptowatch.com]

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First off, I think jealousy is a poor personal trait to have. If anyone really has that, better remove it as it has no positive effects in your life.
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Hard part. Positive things can be removed or destroyed easily but removing or destorying bad things are hard. It is like the ring in "Lord of the rings". Once you posses it, you will need great will power to remove which most lack.

No, I disagree. It's a matter of logic and discipline.

Example: A man walks by you with a very beautiful female, that you find attractive. You look at her, and wouldn't have hesitated to say yes to a date if the opportunity presented itself. You could chose to look at her, enjoy the sight, and realize the attraction is due to you being a man, and she being an attractive female, and be done with it. If you envy that man, you create a negative emotion in your own head that has no useful purpose but to make yourself feel bad and useless.

Same thing with anything else, be it money, a nice house, a nice car or perhaps even some personal trait, that dude is so charming and popular, everyone likes him. Every time you as an individual cave into the feeling of inferiority because of envy or jealousy, you only create a worse situation for yourself.

This is wasted emotions and wasted energy. If you are not satisfied with your current situation, you must decide to change it. Looking at what others have, and realize you do not have it yourself, if you spend time and energy on that, you're wasting energy that could be put to productive use for the betterment of your own situation.

But it's not a black and white situation, you might have a look at someone and briefly ponder what life might've been like if you were with that woman, had that house, or whatever, but if you obsess over it, or let it consume a large part of yourself, it's pure waste and idiocy.

It's a sickness in society of today, and you can for example look at the Kardashians and how many watch it. I would think many if not most of the viewers are jealous of their lifestyle.

Lack of envy and jealousy comes with age and maturity, you grow wiser as you become older and realize that materialism is a false God.

[Rmcdermott927]

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[rokkyroad]

We hate. We love.

We are over-the-top emotional creatures. Unless we evolve into Vulcans, emotions will rule.

[Undermood]

I think this negative emotion is normal that every one could possible have in mind. But the most important part is that how we react to that, understanding, angry, kind etc. The mutual relationship should base on the mutual interests and understanding. Otherwise there are finghting, resentment arising. 

[Daniel91]

In my opinion, people hate because of ignorance.
We hate something we don't understand, because it is different from our worldview or culture.
Very good example is Islam and Muslim people.
Some people hate them because they think, based on incomplete or false information, that the Qur'an is a bad book that hate other religions and faith, and that all Muslims are necessarily bad and intolerant people.

[Cryptowatch.com]

In my opinion, people hate because of ignorance.
We hate something we don't understand, because it is different from our worldview or culture.
Very good example is Islam and Muslim people.
Some people hate them because they think, based on incomplete or false information, that the Qur'an is a bad book that hate other religions and faith, and that all Muslims are necessarily bad and intolerant people.

Fear is a very important factor. However, if you experience that you become a minority in your own town because of immigration, I understand tolerance is tested in a very hard way.

[s1ng]

An inspirational story for me today.

Usually people hate each other because each person has a different ego. When someone can't control his/her ego , they will start hate each other.

Example on my real life :
I have a little brother, but why my mom always give anything that my little brother want ?
When I played some kid's play, and my little bro steal it from me. And I'm fight again to grab it back. But at the end my mother always give me to my little brother.

On that time, I was hate my little brother very much ( because I still can't control my ego and I still not understand "the situation")

[rokkyroad]

An inspirational story for me today.

Usually people hate each other because each person has a different ego. When someone can't control his/her ego , they will start hate each other.

Example on my real life :
I have a little brother, but why my mom always give anything that my little brother want ?
When I played some kid's play, and my little bro steal it from me. And I'm fight again to grab it back. But at the end my mother always give me to my little brother.

On that time, I was hate my little brother very much ( because I still can't control my ego and I still not understand "the situation")

There is nothing more hurtful than parents' favoritism. It is hard for a child to understand that parents can love another sibling more. It happens and eventually we need to realize our parents are not perfect but flawed just like everyone else.