Is marriage a kind of punishment?

[dataispower]

Marriage is not a punishment, husband and wife their role to be played in the family  Marriage involve planning from the couples for things to be easy for the family. That is why couples need to have good agreement concerning the responsibility of the family  to keep moving easily.

This question needs a cognitive thinking, slow down thinking before responding, because from the looks of things punishment when you not possessed all the requirements of house management before getting into marriage life, marriages is some thing that needs adequate plans before two couples will go into it, some one who don't have shelter enter into marriage were will the born and unborn children will rest and in which way will they put food to their table for feeding with planing well before marriage, we are just looking at marriage in one way

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[Bamjos]

Marriage is not meant to be a punishment in any way, in fact it's meant to be a blessing. As a Christian, it's true that scripture states that women should respect their husband, in fact I'm Genesis 3:14, God told Eve that she would be subjected to her husband (Adam) as the consequence for disobeying God, but this does note mean that wives should become a victim of domestic violence or maltreatment.
The scripture also say in Colossians 3:19 that Husbands should love their wives and not be bitter against them, another part of the scripture says Husbands should love their wives as they love their body. Therefore, Love is the principal thing, marriage is a blessing, not a curse!

[Gosgosking]

The way couples are taking marriage this days it looks as if marriage is a punishment. The character one of the partner maybe exhibiting it can be a problem to the partner in the marriage by not having peace of mind. Some problems that a faced in marriage caused untimely death sometimes,  marriage is not supposed to be a punishment but rather a blessing.

[Lordhermes]

Marriage is not a punishment,rather it is a blessing,because the purpose of marriage is for recreation  and bearing children,that is why when a marriage fails to produce children,it used to cause misunderstanding and breakups between the couple.
Marriage can therefore seem to be a punishment when the partners do not understand each other,and are unable to tolerate the ill behaviours of their partners.
It is known that tolerance,forgiveness,the ability to say sorry when wrong,and faithfulness are the rudiment of a marriage.Those are the only factors that can keep or sustain marriage.And when those qualities are not in the partners,they have problems which leads to breakup and seperation.

[dataispower]

The way couples are taking marriage this days it looks as if marriage is a punishment. The character one of the partner maybe exhibiting it can be a problem to the partner in the marriage by not having peace of mind. Some problems that a faced in marriage caused untimely death sometimes,  marriage is not supposed to be a punishment but rather a blessing.

not every one knows the principles of marriage mostly amateur marriage live, people who is government or big industrial farm don't see marriage as punishment because what they needed to make them happy always there in the family. In my way of founding what can difficulty in the marriage is when the understanding of the wife is not enough to understand the husband for moment it will look marriage live is punishment, and anything that can make marriage look like punishment is lack of ability to provide food for the family

[kaka_Shipai]

Well, it depends on a lot of factors. If the girl is not having enough abilities to make herself worth then yes, she can struggle. But if she holds her worth by any means, like beauty, attitude, money, profession or anything else then no, no one can make her slave or make her a servant. Same goes for guys. If a person is useless in life, no body is going to take care of him, he'll be a walking stealth person. And would matter nothing to anyone. One has to have its value. Be handsome, work on your physique, make money, or learn how to use the stuff that is between your teeth. And everyone is going to respect you.

[onecall123]

Married people are defined as being legally or formally united as partners. When a marriage begins to suffer, it is quite confusing when so many people are making love. It's a result of short time spent together, but in married it's a long-term affair. Do not be confused about who you love. You are in love with the right person when you have some similarities in your character, respect for your partner, and interests and habits. Nothing will go wrong but you will be happy. We have different stories, but we don't get confused by what marriage really means.

[D-law]

Ending up with the wrong person's oftentimes leads to punishment, insults, beating and the rest which is not assigned to the man and the Woman when they exchanged vows at the alter or before a priest.
Should not be a punishment but in some part of the world both women and men have gotten what they did not venture all of this is as a result if bad courtship and getting to know whoever you are into very.
It is bad to see that most women are big victims of this punishment.

[Masplanc]

Ending up with the wrong person's oftentimes leads to punishment, insults, beating and the rest which is not assigned to the man and the Woman when they exchanged vows at the alter or before a priest.
Should not be a punishment but in some part of the world both women and men have gotten what they did not venture all of this is as a result if bad courtship and getting to know whoever you are into very.
It is bad to see that most women are big victims of this punishment.

I agree with you some how. When mistakes are made like this in marriage we can't go back what is supposed to be done is for partners to learn how to tolerate themselves, nobody is perfect but if we learn how to be tolerate and love each other every marriage will be in peace.

[Sacrod]

If marriage is a kind of punishment, then the question should be, a punishment for which crime? Love!!!! Marriage should be a mutual agreement between two partners who love each other and are ready to spend the rest of their lives together. One of the reasons for frequent divorce cases is the fact that people do not know why they are getting married.

Some persons are concerned about the wedding ceremony which will only last for few days and thereafter they begin to notice each other's flaws and complaints starts. The moment you do not marry your friend and you plan to start studying your partner after wedding, then you have gotten it twisted. Many divorce cases wouldn't occur and no gender will be maltreated if both parties love each other genuinely regardless of their imperfections.

[Findingnemo]

Well, it depends on a lot of factors. If the girl is not having enough abilities to make herself worth then yes, she can struggle. But if she holds her worth by any means, like beauty, attitude, money, profession or anything else then no, no one can make her slave or make her a servant. Same goes for guys. If a person is useless in life, no body is going to take care of him, he'll be a walking stealth person. And would matter nothing to anyone. One has to have its value. Be handsome, work on your physique, make money, or learn how to use the stuff that is between your teeth. And everyone is going to respect you.

You're talking about the reality which is kind of true as well but this is how the marriage was supposed to be, kind of mutual trade agreement you give money then I give my body either boy or girl? This isn't same few centuries before so the modern world changed the context of everything even the marriage so called love?

[Abbee]

Marriage can be a punishment but not to everyone. While some people enjoy their marriages,some regret their decision to get married due to the mistake they made. Also it depends on both parties to decide if their marriage would be 'hell' or 'heaven' for them.
 For instance, couple who ignore their flaws and refused or choose not to sort it out, might see their marriage as a punishment. E.g, A guy physically abuse his partner during courtship on slightest issue and the lady in question decide to legally settle with such man without trying to resolve his character or seek attention to it, might eventually regret her action of marrying the man, thereby such marriage would be nothing but a form of punishment to her.

[Tallupooh]

Marriage is one woman and one man who love each other. I think if we want to get married we have to see and see the person first. meaning is it true that people love us with the shortcomings and strengths that we have, or is it just lust?

there are many people who marry people who are not right and end in divorce. so I think that marriage is not a punishment. However, you must be able to choose your life partner correctly, so that you are always happy with him.

people who only follow their passions will fall into something wrong. You have to really love someone and accept their flaws and strengths. and mutually correct and complement those deficiencies. and choose roughly people who will always be patient with us.

women in general, especially nowadays, are always the ones who work the most. but know that not everyone is like that. there are many men out there working to meet the needs of their families. but there are also people who work for each other, their mother and father work, but their professions are different. that is, his father works in an office or a company, while his mother sells things at home to help her husband. so, it is impossible for all men in this world to rely solely on their wives to survive.

[xSkylarx]

I am working on an article on relationships and marriages. In my part of the world marriage feels like punishment on the female gender. In the days of old as I learnt, it was the responsibility of the man to provide and protect the family but in today’s society, men relax and have the women do almost everything.

This is how trashy that kind of person is. I also noticed this today, but they were getting bashed and also left by their wife. I also noticed that they were also physically and verbally abusing their wife. Women are now stronger than I can see, because they will fight in these situations, unlike a few years ago, but sadly, I saw some families or individuals where the men are just relaxing while the women do their work. I'm hoping that the women who are going through this will leave their husbands and bring their children with them because that type of person is useless. 

[Majestic-milf]

Marriage has always been a dreaded issue for some people, some going as far as viewing it as an anachronistic institution with no value, but for some, it's fun and fulfilling and even rewarding only if you meet the right person and how you relate with your spouse.
 I think one can avoid the case of divorce and the many issues surrounding marriage if there's a bit of understanding between the couples, that's why most people observe a period of courtship to better understand who they're getting married to.

 
 

[paxmao]

I am working on an article on relationships and marriages. In my part of the world marriage feels like punishment on the female gender. In the days of old as I learnt, it was the responsibility of the man to provide and protect the family but in today’s society, men relax and have the women do almost everything. I observed this most in Nigeria or African. women grow old faster once married. I take instances from my neighbours, family and the society. The man on any day wakes up, take his bath, dress up, eat and off to work if he has one. The woman is the cook, launder, housekeeper, nanny, hand lady, errand girl, cleaner, and she must be working etc. just name it and she must not complain, she must not be tired. For real this is happening don’t think am just assuming. I see it live. Why is it so? I once asked a man in this case, why he maltreats his wife like a slave and he said no reasonable man is allowed to do house chores or assist in anything. The work of the man is to bring money that’s all. Can this be true?  Will you like your sisters, daughters, neighbours, friend  be treated badly in the name of marriage? Let’s talk. No abuses or insult please. I need soul lifting contribution.

What you are describing is sad, but true in an unbelievably large part of the world. Men are educated in considering women cattle or even less. Some muslin clerics instruct the men on how to best beat their women, in many bits of Africa there is FGM (female genital mutilation) and there is a great difficulty in educating in general, so educating in gender equality and respect is out of reach completely.

Marriage feels like a punishment to many yes.

[HughMunro]

It is said that marriage is the grave of love. Before the two people lived together, there was still a magical feeling. After living together, they will gradually become less cherished. I always feel that the flowers and plants outside are very fresh, especially men are visual animals. , Once you get it, you will no longer cherish it. His wife does housework at home, and he feasts and feasts outside.

[JordanMychal]

This has something to do with character and morality. Some men are weak outside and will only bully their loving wives at home. Marriage is not necessarily a grave. Marriage is the joint responsibility of two people when they meet the right person.

[Llhxsdr]

Responsible men feel guilty when they make mistakes, but like you said, they beat and dump their wives because they don't love their wives at all. What is the point of such a marriage? The right people can be mutually beneficial.

[Frankolala]

Marriage is a lifetime mission, which should not be rushed into based on anxiety,poverty or frustration. So many marriages are passing through this challenge because there was no courtship before marriage. Courtship enables both parties to know each other more and see if they can tolerate one another in life.

 I pity for women who are passing through this maltreatment from their husband,it is time Africa men see that their wives should be loved,respected and cared for by helping them in house chores.There is a tradition in Africa that if a man has paid the bride price of his wife,she becomes his property and he can treat her the way he likes,this custom should be abolish in other to help women from being slaves in their matrimonial homes. Love should be put first since the Bible says 'a man and a woman will be joined together to become one' whatever you do to your wife,you are doing it to yourself unknowingly because she is now part of you.