Is marriage a kind of punishment?

[Bl_385]

I think that marriage is not a punishment, but that every person should strive for it and find their soul mate.
The problem is in society in general and more and more young people have a very negative view of marriage.
Various factors affect this, because financial instability, all these events in the world in recent years have led to people getting more and more divorced, unhappy in marriages, many getting married out of some interest and it is unlikely that such a marriage will last. fig.
Young people are certainly aware of this, because it happens not only around them but also in their families.
I am a child of divorced parents and from experience i can say that i have a certain extra fear of marriage and that i will not meet all expectations and that everything will end as with my parents.
I think that some fears do not only affect me, but a lot of children of divorced parents, and that as the years go by, it will get worse.

[BADecker]

Is marriage a kind of punishment?


Only if your spouse had Covid-19 before you were married, but didn't tell you.


 

[ryap12]

Is marriage a kind of punishment?


Only if your spouse had Covid-19 before you were married, but didn't tell you.


 

Wow this topic is almost 2 years old. Anyway, if your SPOUSE got COVID19 before you got married then there is a high chance of you getting the same virus already. Who would not bang his girlfriend when both of you were alone? For sure before you went ahead and decide to get married, there are so many chances of make outs.

[Kong Hey Pakboy]

People only hates marriage when both partners can't handle their relationship in a long term that they get sicked off with each others and have regrets, that is why they ended up getting a divorce and find a new partner in life. Just like Rick Sanchez have said in Rick n Morty that "Love is fake weddings are basically funerals with cake", meaning if you get married with the wrong person its like a punishment.

[BADecker]

Couples need to date for a full year - or longer - without sex or any other intimate relations... and not even living in the same house together. Only then if they find that they are compatible should they get married.

[iyamoxjhian]

Marriage for me is sacred... you exchange vows and promised to love each other in sickness and in health ..for richer or for poorer till death do you part..and you promised that in front of Our Almighty God... I've been married for 6 years now going 7.. Before I got married I was a responsible daughter to my parents (well actually until now I am still helping them especially this Pandemic started) and a very supporting sister to my two older brothers..my husband was my first and last boyfriend/bestfriend..believe it or not, we got married after 6 months of relationship then we decided we want to be together..I never dreamed of him for being my husband but I prayed for somewhat like him who's not so perfect..before I met him I was a easy go lucky girl.. working in a well known company of BPO in my country as Customer Service..enjoying life of working at night and enjoying leisures and outdoor activities during morning..spend times with friends for Beer time during weekends and being so fragile and religious during Sundays.. Now, I am happily married with one kid..living with my lobing husband.. I work during daytime and work with my bitcoin during nighttime...and being a responsible mother and caring wife during weekends..my husband was a freelancer and not so active with his bitcoin right now because he enjoys much playing online games (which for me is a bit annoying...because bitcoin gives him a good profit while playing games makes him addictive and earn nothing) But were still happy and contented with each other..why? because we have huge trust and respect..if we encounter problems .. we talk about it before the day ends and make sure we fix it for the sake of our love for each other..

[Bezobraznike]

Couples need to date for a full year - or longer - without sex or any other intimate relations... and not even living in the same house together. Only then if they find that they are compatible should they get married.

   It's like the old way! I am +40 and I know how my parents and grandparents used to date. It was similar like
you explained, first dating for a long time, after almost two years they got married. For me it was different,
I got married after 4 years of dating, but practically we started living together after 6 months. And it's not
like we needed to marry to show our love to each other, it was for papers, so everything can be legal. Now
when we have kids its easier when you are a married couple.
   I don't think my marriage is a punishment in any meaning of that word. But later I will ask my wife what
she feels about our marriage directly, because I think that she is happy with us, but maybe she will surprise
me with an answer.

[BADecker]

Is marriage a kind of punishment?


Correction: Marriage is a kind of punishment!

[aiguy]

the word "punish" is no right here, then marriage is very good for man and woman both because it will support each other. if we don't marriage at adult then boys and girls don't do focus on their work. If they married then we can easily secure and success on future.because everyone has an aim in future, if we don't do marriage then our focus always goes on lust or other things.

[aiguy]

how you can say it a punishment, its a need of both man and women. If it is punishment then it's for both, not just female

[Lordhermes]

Marriage is not a kind of punishment,it just depends on the type of person you meet as either your husband or your wife.When you meet the right person,there is every tendency that you will love and enjoy the marriage,but when the person that's by your side is somebody that doesn't like or love you,it is then that you see marriage as a hell.

So many marriages seems to be like punishment and bundage indeed,because of the way they are been treated in the relationship.

[Rruchi man]

Marriage is not a kind of punishment,it just depends on the type of person you meet as either your husband or your wife.

Unfortunately we still have some old and very traditional thinkers who still see marriage as a rigid detail of responsibility, where a man works to get money and a woman handles all home responsibility. That is an old model of marriage. For me, in this dispensation, marriage is not so important, unless you really just want to. The primary purpose of marriage is for procreation and human companionship, not for any form of hard labour disguised as a responsibility. A modern marriage is one with an understanding amongst the pair. Before marriage ensure that you are getting married to someone who is not anchored to the old ways of thinking and not too rigid to change, that way marriage can be a smooth and good experience for both parties.

[Masplanc]

It' is not a punishment,  some African couples see it as a way of life which the woman do most of the house works while the man goes out for his daily activities.  In Africa most women don't prefer having a maid  expecially when the marriage is tender.

[Lordhermes]

It seems to be like a punishment when there is no understanding between the couple.It is more like a purnishment when one person is dictatorial in nature and is not able to tolerate the behavior of his partner.As they say,that tolerance is a key to successful marriage or a the bed rock to every successful marriage.

Many marriages have failed because they lack these elements.There are so many reasons why marriage will seem like a purnishment to many,here are some of the reasons;
Lack of trust.
Dictatorship
Inferiority complex
Lack of understanding
Lack of child bearing
Poverty.etc.

[realcrypto]

So pathetic to hear this, inequality towards females in African societies worth looking into and going to their rescue. Civilization  should have taken care of this, but some societies still stick to their evil culture.

[blackened515]

Marriage will only be a big punishment if you get married to someone who doesn't loves you. Many women are forced into married and they end up suffering. I don't think house chore are meant for the wives only. A man who truly loves his wife, will probably help her out. Is so sad, how many men thinks house chores are basically meant for the wives only, especially in most part of Africa. I agree with you, many women grow old faster in marriages, because they over work themselves. They don't have time for rest. However, In marriage, the husband and the wife are supposed to help, love and cherish each other.

[syedzakir]

Marriage can be a punishment for those who take it as a punishment and it can be joyful for those who enjoys it.
It depends on us what are we taking it for.
It's a kind of agreement between two to help each other in the time of need and be with each other in difficult times.
To love each other unconditionally and to hold hands forever

[BADecker]

Here's one of major reasons for marriage. God made marriage to give glory to average people.

Moses, St. Paul, many of the prophets of the Old Testament and New brought people to faith. For them there is special glory for helping to save some.

But what about the average Christians? Usually they are not in positions where they can get hundreds or thousands of people saved. So, how do they get some of the glory that God shares for saving people? God gives them children who they save.

Marriage done right is a way to save people and get some of the glory of God for doing so.

[Ultegra134]

As an atheist myself, I'm against marriage, I find the whole ordeal pointless, from all perspectives. First of all, it's a giant waste of money, but first and foremost, it's against my beliefs. If you're together with someone and love eachother, it should be enough, I don't find it a punishment, however, it complicates things in case of a divorce.

[im posible]

I think women who live in such households deserve better men. It's a shame to accept the fact that there are indeed many husbands out there who assume they are super power and dominant in everything in the household. But the purpose of the household is not to create the dominant and the recessive, but to create cooperation and synergies that grow them together in facing life.