Is marriage a kind of punishment?

[rahmad2nd]

I am working on an article on relationships and marriages. In my part of the world marriage feels like punishment on the female gender. In the days of old as I learnt, it was the responsibility of the man to provide and protect the family but in today’s society, men relax and have the women do almost everything. I observed this most in Nigeria or African. women grow old faster once married. I take instances from my neighbours, family and the society. The man on any day wakes up, take his bath, dress up, eat and off to work if he has one. The woman is the cook, launder, housekeeper, nanny, hand lady, errand girl, cleaner, and she must be working etc. just name it and she must not complain, she must not be tired. For real this is happening don’t think am just assuming. I see it live. Why is it so? I once asked a man in this case, why he maltreats his wife like a slave and he said no reasonable man is allowed to do house chores or assist in anything. The work of the man is to bring money that’s all. Can this be true?  Will you like your sisters, daughters, neighbours, friend  be treated badly in the name of marriage? Let’s talk. No abuses or insult please. I need soul lifting contribution.

Marriage is an eternal partnership, so how can you say that marriage is a kind of punishment. if marriage is a punishment for you, then you have the right not to marry. are we here talking about equality, inequality, or do you mean that women are more tormented than husbands. what if we picture the situation upside down, women work hard to earn a living, and men take care of the household. is it fair, of course not at all and the result will always be the same.

The marriage, the consequences for the husband because the woman will no longer work, although this is not always the case.  women are very dependent on their husbands financially if women choose to stay at home, women will stay at home to perform domestic and child-care roles, as appropriate.

note: it's a big mistake when a husband imposes his will, even though it doesn't match his wife's type. gender partnerships are the only way to manage things as agreed.

Entering into a marriage there will automatically be a change in the status of women and men. single woman status, can work professionally. the role of wife, companion and lover of husband and household manager. role of mother, caregiver, protector, and child education. the status of a single man, can be a professional worker and have an appropriate position. the role of the husband, leader and protector of the wife. role of father, caregiver, protector, and educator of children.

For this partnership to be closely intertwined, values ​​such as mutual trust, respect, understanding, and most importantly having equal rights are needed.

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[Lordhermes]

If getting married is a punishment, how did you get out? Marriage is an advantage, not a disadvantage. Only when the partners are no longer in love with one another does it become poisonous. Marriage opens doors and delivers blessings.

[len01]

in my country men and women marry because it is mandatory and both of them have agreed to have a relationship together to have a family. so there is no coercion or anything like that.
on average in my country a husband will definitely work hard outside the house to earn money and give it to his wife.
and the wife at home acts as a housewife who takes care of everything at home such as sweeping, washing, cooking for her husband when he comes home from work.

so no one punishes women when they are married because it's like working together to build a family.

[Alisha-k]

I am not going to agree on Op on a few point listed. In the past African men did virtually everything has regard provision, shelter, love and protection for his family and in return the woman expressed support to the husband through running home chores, building the home, errand has op mentioned but on rare case. In today's Society women has almost equal rights with men but the fact that men still have to pay heavily to marry their to be wives still find a way to balance up for their loans after the extravagant wedding still find a way to run the house. The African men are trying yet we women still fail to recognise this.

[Sayakaaja]

if marriage was a punishment, then everyone would definitely not want to marry. how could marriage be a punishment.

it's just that, when you have a family, everything needs patience. marriage is where we love and protect each other, where we fight for each other and make the family the most comfortable place.

if there is a divorce in the family, then in my opinion, one of the parties is very selfish and only comfortable, without knowing the other party's troubles. so, if there is such a problem, the other party will be uncomfortable and feel unsuitable, and eventually lead to divorce.

[ZoeSamantha]

Now the society subconsciously believes that women do housework and take care of children at home, men go out to work to earn money, and all the expenses of women have to be borne by men, which makes women have no money to work at home. In fact, women should break through the original limitations, and men should also share the responsibility.

[MIldic1c]

Find the right person and have a wonderful marriage. Now with the changes of the times, it has become much better than hundreds of years ago. Marriage is for two people, and they should bear the burden together and help each other. I love my partner and I will not let her bear the trivialities of life alone.

[mvdheuvel1983]

Only get married if you have the confidence to do so and are aware of the advantages and disadvantages. Knowing about your own and your partner's male and female biology and psychology will also be helpful. One of the biggest issues I notice is that most people continue to view the world as completely artificial and like a Disney film. All of them either don't recognize their own conduct or overpromise and underdeliver, or they wait for their spouse to change. You are aware of how challenging change may be? Consider forming a brand-new habit or quitting a bad one. Now acknowledge that the companion you are with almost definitely also faces the same difficulty.

[BADecker]

Spend a year going with a person before you make the marriage commitment.

Getting married shows that you are humble enough to admit that somebody else (your spouse) knows something that you might not... has a valid point of view even if it is different than yours.

Spending a year dating before committing helps you determine if your potential mate has this kind of humble thinking, as well.

[Marykeller]

Lack of enlightenment has a lot to do with the marriage problem. Some people are countries are excessively traditionalized, and certain norms that only demonstrate cooperation and teamwork are viewed as absurd by both parties and the wider community.

Let me utilize this platform to encourage married couples, especially males, to study books and attend seminars without drawing attention to the actual problem. The only activity that can aid in repositioning uneducated brains seduced by conventional lies is this exercise. A guy can be as useful as a woman in more intelligent and better thought-out ways, and vice versa.
In terms of marriage, I think we are working in ignorance and need more understanding.

[xSkylarx]

Find the right person and have a wonderful marriage. Now with the changes of the times, it has become much better than hundreds of years ago. Marriage is for two people, and they should bear the burden together and help each other. I love my partner and I will not let her bear the trivialities of life alone.

Divorce is also very easy to do for those who have enough money. There was no divorce before, and only a few people planned to leave their spouses or wives, but now there are plenty, and they will decide to split up, with their children bearing the brunt of the consequences. There are other people who still respected the wedding sacredness they made and adjusted themselves if necessary for the sake of the children. Back to the topic, it isn't punishment if both of you have an understanding of each other because one will adjust every time there is a misunderstanding.

[Spi_lay]

No! Marriage as an institution that is ordained by God is not a punishment, but rather it's a blessing to the married. However, oftentimes people get married to wrong partners and regretted why they ventured into marriage.

[BADecker]

^^^ Right!

God made people by breathing life into Adam, so that people would be made in the image of God, Himself.

Because of the way He set things working, He put His force into it. It isn't easy even for Him to change it.

So, why did God make it so that people have such an urge to get married and do the thing that brings about children? One major reason. So that He has an excuse to reward parents for bringing about the thing that He wants most... more people... especially godly people.

God is Almighty. He wants to reward all people for something. And He rewards parents for having children.

[Tallupooh]

No! Marriage as an institution that is ordained by God is not a punishment, but rather it's a blessing to the married. However, oftentimes people get married to wrong partners and regretted why they ventured into marriage.

I agree. marriage is not a punishment. it's just that, if a family's economy is bad, sometimes some people think marriage is not easy, become stressed, and eventually lead to anger that blames the marriage itself.

in that marriage we must be full of patience, because marriage is not only accompanied by people we love, but all have tests.

[Cyber_Alien]

I am working on an article on relationships and marriages. In my part of the world marriage feels like punishment on the female gender. In the days of old as I learnt, it was the responsibility of the man to provide and protect the family but in today’s society, men relax and have the women do almost everything. I observed this most in Nigeria or African. women grow old faster once married. I take instances from my neighbours, family and the society. The man on any day wakes up, take his bath, dress up, eat and off to work if he has one. The woman is the cook, launder, housekeeper, nanny, hand lady, errand girl, cleaner, and she must be working etc. just name it and she must not complain, she must not be tired. For real this is happening don’t think am just assuming. I see it live. Why is it so? I once asked a man in this case, why he maltreats his wife like a slave and he said no reasonable man is allowed to do house chores or assist in anything. The work of the man is to bring money that’s all. Can this be true?  Will you like your sisters, daughters, neighbours, friend  be treated badly in the name of marriage? Let’s talk. No abuses or insult please. I need soul lifting contribution.

I concur with what you said. Of one state in my nation, women have transformed into men. Man no longer assumes exclusive responsibility for their wives; instead, it is the woman who goes out to farm and fish and gathers food for the family. The guys get up in the morning, take a shower, and then sit beneath the three to play a game of draft. The only thing they excel at is getting their wife pregnant, and once the baby is born, they don't care about it. They don't give them a good education, good food, or even decent clothing.
 I believe that the goal of marriage is to support one another, just as God made Eve to support Adam and vice versa. Both men and women have responsibilities to fulfill. The requirements of the family must be met by the male, and the woman must take care of the home and take care of the chores, but we should not viewed them as our slaves.

[WhatDoIKnow]

No, marriage is not a punishment. Marriage is a voluntary commitment between two people who love each other and want to share their lives together. It is a legal and social institution that provides support and protection for couples and their families. While marriage can sometimes be challenging and require compromise and hard work, it is not a punishment.

[HajiBagi]

You are correct about the difficulties women face when they get married, but I can assure you that marriage is not a punishment. Instead, it is an equal partnership between two people that allows them to experience the joy of God through their shared cooperation, trust, respect, and faith. And for a man who understands the challenges that women face, joining in and helping his wife with household chores is crucial and necessary. However, some men are unable to assist due to their line of work, so a good man who understands the strengths of women can hire a housekeeper to assist his wife.

[Sexylizzy2813]

Marriage is never a punishment in any way in this life, we that are engaged in it makes it look like a punishment or like a prison that ones you're in there's no going back.
We men need to gain control over things that happen in the family same as the woman (having a mutual understanding) if not you start looking for who to issue out blames when things start going wrong.
Either the man might be making it hard for the woman to coup with the marriage or vise versa as the case may be and it will give others who ain't married a bad impression about marriage.

[Maximeppler4]

This phenomenon was quite common in the old society, and it has been relatively reduced with the changes of the times. However, some countries are indeed a bit unfair to women. They think that men and women are divided into high and low. Every family has a different way of getting along. But I hope it will get better in the future.

[Bernard74]

Marriage is not a punishment for women, it is about choosing the right person to marry. If your husband doesn't respect you, it's because he has no morals. Therefore, women must learn to protect themselves, know how to be independent, and choose the right person to spend their lives with.